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Pisces hostility
Ive never been in a relationship where I was the one in the position to leave. It's all foreign to me and I strive to see the good in people.
Also, I try to sneak on here because I've found him looking at my phone and I don't want him to find out the website to look at my posts. I told him that I have a private blog but I think it just makes him more curious to pry. Can I put my profile on private?
Also, I try to sneak on here because I've found him looking at my phone and I don't want him to find out the website to look at my posts. I told him that I have a private blog but I think it just makes him more curious to pry. Can I put my profile on private?
Posted by GetMistedNot really. I've moved a lot of stuff out of my new apartment because of a water issue. It's not habitable and a lot of my friends wouldn't be willing to take in my pets in the meantime.
This shouldn't even be a question
Of course, I should end things but my own insecurities make me feel otherwise /:
You need to get away from him. Following you from room to room and going through your phone? He has problems and there's no good excuse for you to put self-preservation second to anything.
Posted by GetMistedPosted by libralotusWhat's there to be insecure about?Posted by GetMistedNot really. I've moved a lot of stuff out of my new apartment because of a water issue. It's not habitable and a lot of my friends wouldn't be willing to take in my pets in the meantime.
This shouldn't even be a question
Of course, I should end things but my own insecurities make me feel otherwise /:click to expand
My own worth? I assume that would be the only reason to make me want to stay and "fix" it. I'm not an idiot but I'm a huge pushover and forgive too easily. I'm aware of everything going on but I guess the living situation and being persuaded to stay kind of makes things harder.
Posted by ChrisIsKodakNo, I'm not blind. I did see red flags from the beginning but I put a lot of faith into people and tried to be patient. It's a flaw of mine. I got myself into this and I need to get out of it. I guess it's not really a question but looking for validation to leave.Posted by libralotusDidn't you make a thread about this dude like 2 months ago or so saying you saw red flags?
So I've been dating a Pisces for a month now. I have a lot of things going on in my new apartment so he's voluntarily offered his place to stay at for now.
He's acting very possessive and it scares me. Not letting me do errands/following me room to room/ looking over my shoulder/ etc. He starts arguments over petty things and his reactions are explosive. To the point that he's almost physical. If I accidentally hurt him he will get angry and do a nudge. Things like that....
When I bring up leaving or communicating it's just an endless cycle. He begs me not to leave but then goes on to excuse his behavior.
He's compassionate, sweet, generous but I feel like it's just a cover up. Should I continue to be patient with him until my place is fixed or immediately leave? I'm not sure how long I should continue to forgive him and be patient.
Are you just blind or?click to expand
Posted by GetMisted
This shouldn't even be a question
Right ☺
Posted by libralotusPosted by GetMistedNot really. I've moved a lot of stuff out of my new apartment because of a water issue. It's not habitable and a lot of my friends wouldn't be willing to take in my pets in the meantime.
This shouldn't even be a question
Of course, I should end things but my own insecurities make me feel otherwise /:click to expand
Well stay.
I was the same way with my Taurus ex. I sought to see the good in him as there were many good traits and even though I knew there were red flags, I stayed.
Don't. That kind of possessive, explosive anger, and unnecessary behavior gets worse. Find someone who you are more compatible with and who trusts you and whom you can trust. Or stay single and take care of yourself.
It feels amazing now that I am with someone who is not like that.
Don't. That kind of possessive, explosive anger, and unnecessary behavior gets worse. Find someone who you are more compatible with and who trusts you and whom you can trust. Or stay single and take care of yourself.
It feels amazing now that I am with someone who is not like that.
Posted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by libralotusDidn't you make a thread about this dude like 2 months ago or so saying you saw red flags?
So I've been dating a Pisces for a month now. I have a lot of things going on in my new apartment so he's voluntarily offered his place to stay at for now.
He's acting very possessive and it scares me. Not letting me do errands/following me room to room/ looking over my shoulder/ etc. He starts arguments over petty things and his reactions are explosive. To the point that he's almost physical. If I accidentally hurt him he will get angry and do a nudge. Things like that....
When I bring up leaving or communicating it's just an endless cycle. He begs me not to leave but then goes on to excuse his behavior.
He's compassionate, sweet, generous but I feel like it's just a cover up. Should I continue to be patient with him until my place is fixed or immediately leave? I'm not sure how long I should continue to forgive him and be patient.
Are you just blind or?click to expand
Usually Libras aren't weak like this one.
Posted by libralotusPosted by GetMistedPosted by libralotusWhat's there to be insecure about?Posted by GetMistedNot really. I've moved a lot of stuff out of my new apartment because of a water issue. It's not habitable and a lot of my friends wouldn't be willing to take in my pets in the meantime.
This shouldn't even be a question
Of course, I should end things but my own insecurities make me feel otherwise /:
My own worth? I assume that would be the only reason to make me want to stay and "fix" it. I'm not an idiot but I'm a huge pushover and forgive too easily. I'm aware of everything going on but I guess the living situation and being persuaded to stay kind of makes things harder.
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You ARE an idiot!
You are not a pushover you are WEAK and give Libras a bad name.
So stay dummy and and stop wasting our time. Smh! Pathetic
OP, you can see the good in people from a safe distance.
Okay I'll just go F off thanks people :-) :-)
Posted by libralotuswell. what did you expect people to say? you knew there was red flags when you first meet, okay i get it, i think we all over look shit at the start of stuff. i think people are baffled why you are defending him =/
Okay I'll just go F off thanks people :-) :-)
But now the guy is showing even more abusive behaviors. Why would you even consider staying? You need to get yourself away from this unsafe situation. Go to your landlords if its an apartment, they shoudl have relocated you while renovations are being compeleted... at least check into that if you have no family/friends to help you other than this dude.
His compassion and sweetness should not be the reason why you stay.
Compassionate and sweet people don't try to control their partners.
Don't let his good side overshadow his bad and how it makes you feel. If you keep on forgiving him, you're just enabling him to repeat his bad behavior. Later on he'll justify to himself that it's okay if he runs hot and cold, because he knows you're not going to leave, and if he just puts on a nice face, you're going to feel bad for him and stay.
Don't let someone have that type of control over you.
Plus you've only been dating for a month. That's not that long.
Compassionate and sweet people don't try to control their partners.
Don't let his good side overshadow his bad and how it makes you feel. If you keep on forgiving him, you're just enabling him to repeat his bad behavior. Later on he'll justify to himself that it's okay if he runs hot and cold, because he knows you're not going to leave, and if he just puts on a nice face, you're going to feel bad for him and stay.
Don't let someone have that type of control over you.
Plus you've only been dating for a month. That's not that long.
Ask Taurus about possessiveness. Jeez we are tired listen all of this. That's not Pisces problem get it
train wreck to come...
basically op is ignoring all the advices people already gave her about this guy
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/pisces-demanding-a-relationship--8329203/?checkpg=1
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/pisces-demanding-a-relationship--8329203/?checkpg=1
Posted by libralotus
a lot of my friends wouldn't be willing to take in my pets in the meantime.
If he is taking in your pets, then I think you could get over yourself long enough to wait it out until your apartment is ready.
But, this seems to just be all about you and your little issues ...
Posted by libralotusYeah the signs were there, but no point in beating a dead horse. Definitely GET OUT of this situation and next time be more mindful of those red flags. Since it's only a month in, you can jet without any real attachment. Also know that his actions will only get worse from here. If he's already getting physical with you that's a BAD sign.
Okay I'll just go F off thanks people :-) :-)
Whatever happened to the other guy though, the one who had the same sense of humor as you? He had my vote. I think he was either a Scorpio or a Libra as well? Unless he also messed up (or is messed up) go ahead and give him a call once you break it off with the Pisces guy. He sounded chill, but a little shy if I remember correctly. Some girl may be looking to scoop him up too (if she hasn't already) so you'll probably need to act quickly.
@libralotus
previous threads indicated your concerns, and as I am a Pisces myself I had kind of encouraged you to try and see if you could make him see his faults were harming your new relationship.
It doesn't sound as if any of it has worked, and the best apology can only be changed behaviour. If he hasn't changed his behaviour, and it sounds as if it has got worse now he has you living with him, well then really....... you need to get out don't you?
previous threads indicated your concerns, and as I am a Pisces myself I had kind of encouraged you to try and see if you could make him see his faults were harming your new relationship.
It doesn't sound as if any of it has worked, and the best apology can only be changed behaviour. If he hasn't changed his behaviour, and it sounds as if it has got worse now he has you living with him, well then really....... you need to get out don't you?
Posted by P-AngelPosted by libralotus
a lot of my friends wouldn't be willing to take in my pets in the meantime.
If he is taking in your pets, then I think you could get over yourself long enough to wait it out until your apartment is ready.
But, this seems to just be all about you and your little issues ...
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Posted by libralotus
So I've been dating a Pisces for a month now. I have a lot of things going on in my new apartment so he's voluntarily offered his place to stay at for now.
He's acting very possessive and it scares me. Not letting me do errands/following me room to room/ looking over my shoulder/ etc. He starts arguments over petty things and his reactions are explosive. To the point that he's almost physical. If I accidentally hurt him he will get angry and do a nudge. Things like that....
When I bring up leaving or communicating it's just an endless cycle. He begs me not to leave but then goes on to excuse his behavior.
He's compassionate, sweet, generous but I feel like it's just a cover up. Should I continue to be patient with him until my place is fixed or immediately leave? I'm not sure how long I should continue to forgive him and be patient.
You need to leave that guy alone... he hasn't sorted out his personal issues. I think hes mentally unhealthy, isnt being accountable for his emotions and just outright disrespectful with it. I was talking to a Pisces guy like that once and nope!. I had to shut that down before it took a wrong turn. ?
Usually people don't show their crazy until a year/year and a half into the relationship. That he's already acting psycho is a huge red flag. I'm cringing over here imagining what else he's gonna do next...
I'd like to personally address everyone who was insightful because it does mean a lot and has weight. I just know I would get lost in the replies somewhere and I haven't figured out the HTML deal yet.
So thank you, to those who were gentle and understanding. I have a lot of stress right now. My apartment flooded while I was signing my lease and they neglected to inform me and they haven't tried to rectify the mildew/mold issue. I think I've been willing to overlook his alarming behavior because it's been nice having someone help me move and sort things out. That hasn't made me oblivious to reality. I can see the relationship objectively but I guess I was just fragile and looking for some extra push.
I think I mentioned that I've never had to break up with anyone so I really was just looking for people to validate my decision.
While most comments were helpful, I don't understand the need to patronize other users on here. This site is an outlet for me and I know for others as well. No matter how dimwitted a post may appear to be, I think people are desensitized and don't consider their approach due to the anonymity of DXP. I'm not expecting anyone to spare feelings for the truth but there's always a softer way to respond regardless if you see yourself just bein' reaaaaal.
I thought I'd bring awareness because I've witnessed it in posts where people are clearly distressed and you don't know how your words could influence people on here.
Thanks again everyone 🙂
So thank you, to those who were gentle and understanding. I have a lot of stress right now. My apartment flooded while I was signing my lease and they neglected to inform me and they haven't tried to rectify the mildew/mold issue. I think I've been willing to overlook his alarming behavior because it's been nice having someone help me move and sort things out. That hasn't made me oblivious to reality. I can see the relationship objectively but I guess I was just fragile and looking for some extra push.
I think I mentioned that I've never had to break up with anyone so I really was just looking for people to validate my decision.
While most comments were helpful, I don't understand the need to patronize other users on here. This site is an outlet for me and I know for others as well. No matter how dimwitted a post may appear to be, I think people are desensitized and don't consider their approach due to the anonymity of DXP. I'm not expecting anyone to spare feelings for the truth but there's always a softer way to respond regardless if you see yourself just bein' reaaaaal.
I thought I'd bring awareness because I've witnessed it in posts where people are clearly distressed and you don't know how your words could influence people on here.
Thanks again everyone 🙂
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He's acting very possessive and it scares me. Not letting me do errands/following me room to room/ looking over my shoulder/ etc. He starts arguments over petty things and his reactions are explosive. To the point that he's almost physical. If I accidentally hurt him he will get angry and do a nudge. Things like that....
When I bring up leaving or communicating it's just an endless cycle. He begs me not to leave but then goes on to excuse his behavior.
He's compassionate, sweet, generous but I feel like it's just a cover up. Should I continue to be patient with him until my place is fixed or immediately leave? I'm not sure how long I should continue to forgive him and be patient.