Controlling man or am I being unreasonable

Posted by virgo29

So I’ve been dating this guy for about a 5 months now and we’ve faught over rules of a relationship so many times I can’t count.

He tells me he wants to get married and move in and expects me to follow certain rules like:

-12am curfew if I go out

-No guy friends at all even though my best friend is a guy

-I’m never allowed to go on trips without him

I tell him I don’t believe in rules being placed on your partner and we just need trust, honesty, loyalty and commitment.

He’s always checking my phone and telling me he’s a dominant man but I feel being dominant is one thing and this is more controlling behaviour.

I mean even if I’m Ready to get married and have kids why am I subject to rules??

It is me here or him—

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1. the word is correctly spelled FOUGHT 😡

fought.

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DEFINITION

past and past participle of fight.



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Posted by ErenSwoleager

Lmao, a grown ass adult with a curfew? Guy friend thing, I can understand. Let's be real here, there's no such thing as "guy friend" unless the guy is a total bitch made/friendzoned loser. Otherwise 90% of all "guy friends" are really just on the down low trying to find the opportunity to bang you. That is, a 100% indisputable fact. Don't act like it's not, you're allowed to have been oblivious before this point of me telling you. But you have now been informed, my bud.

Knowing this, is it really THAT insane when a guy's intuition tells him he should probably date a chick who never has any guy friends? Knowing that factually speaking, a chick with guys around is automatically surrounded by what is undeniably /competition/? It's either that, or date a chick who nobody wants anyways.

It's cool tho cause. I do understand how restricting that really is. You're cutting off 50% of the entire world's population and this is assuming you're exclusively Heterosexual lol. So I do y'all a favor: I don't date, as simple as that. I know how impossiburu my standards seems to the vast majority of humans. Unlike this guy, I don't come barging in giving orders that seem insane to everybody else. But likewise, he's probably a total hypocrite. Most controlling assholes are perfectly fine with having loads of female friends. Just like most cheaters tend to expect the other person to be loyal, herpity derp.

Personally, I just state it this way: My heart can't take the risk. So if someone really needed to be with /me/ that bad... then, it's a sacrifice you'd have to make. But it's a 2 way street, if I have a lover I will become an extremely private person. Hell that's easy enough, considering I already am. I'm already keeping bitches at the next solar system over's length. So if you want to penetrate that depth of walls, you're making some huge demands yourself in the first place.

I'm seeking something that I full well know, is beyond the unfathomable vast majority. I'm seeking a bond that is invincible. Otherwise, I don't really have time. I'd rather just suffer from loneliness, contrary to popular belief. Loneliness doesn't rip my soul apart, yet cheating does. So cheating is infinitely more painful. We all, already, live independent lives. That is healthy and normal... cheating is not.

nah i'm sure there are guys

who'd totally friendzone a girl

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Posted by Arielle83

Do you not see anything wrong with this situation?