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Dating your mirror...
Yes and no. In a lot of ways, he’s boy me and I’m girl him. Kinda like Gary Oldman in Bram Stoker’s Dracula, I don’t always know if I wanna fuck him or be him. 😄
That said, most self aware people mirror, do they not? I know there have been times where I felt something was lacking, so I pulled back too. Before you know it, there’s a problem. It’s the times I felt something lacking and gave more that have really paid off.
That said, most self aware people mirror, do they not? I know there have been times where I felt something was lacking, so I pulled back too. Before you know it, there’s a problem. It’s the times I felt something lacking and gave more that have really paid off.
Posted by hippiecriteThat's an interesting point. I'm not sure I know what you mean by most self aware people mirror.
Yes and no. In a lot of ways, he’s boy me and I’m girl him. Kinda like Gary Oldman in Bram Stoker’s Dracula, I don’t always know if I wanna fuck him or be him. 😄
That said, most self aware people mirror, do they not? I know there have been times where I felt something was lacking, so I pulled back too. Before you know it, there’s a problem. It’s the times I felt something lacking and gave more that have really paid off.
Do you mind elaborating on that?
Yes, definitely! It's like a fertilizer for a relationship, when there's something lacking I need to add what I think is missing by giving more of it, and it helps in grow.
Had to search up Gary Oldman in Dracula. It's now added to my "to watch" list.
Posted by sierra_That's an interesting point.
yes
we have those mirror placements (aries-libra, virgo-pisces)
it surprises and annoys me coz this weird reversal thing happens
years ago, i was the one who'd insist we stick to scheds
but now, he nags me about sticking to timelines and shit
it's like we've rubbed off on each other too much
My bf and I have mirror sun signs (Virgo - Aries), and we have a few opposites in our charts, I can definitely relate to the rubbing off on each other.
What you guys have with the reversal thing sounds fun.
Do you find agreeing on certain perspectives, but have different approaches to get to that perspective?
Posted by sierra_Posted by m3hi'm virgo sun-pisces moon-libra mars-virgo rising-virgo mercury,Posted by sierra_That's an interesting point.
yes
we have those mirror placements (aries-libra, virgo-pisces)
it surprises and annoys me coz this weird reversal thing happens
years ago, i was the one who'd insist we stick to scheds
but now, he nags me about sticking to timelines and shit
it's like we've rubbed off on each other too much
My bf and I have mirror sun signs (Virgo - Aries), and we have a few opposites in our charts, I can definitely relate to the rubbing off on each other.
What you guys have with the reversal thing sounds fun.
Do you find agreeing on certain perspectives, but have different approaches to get to that perspective?
my bf is pisces sun-aries moon-aries venus-pisces mars..
sometimes i look at him thinking: "why are you turning into me?"
and yes even when we want the same thing, i realize we still manage to fight about it
i feel like it's coz we assume that the other knows exactly what the other means
when in fact, we really don't.. which becomes a source of misunderstandings and hurt feelings
we do care about each other a lot i know that.. but we're also too sensitive asf sometimes
and there are times when we refrain from stating exactly what we think and feel
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It's incredible how a person you love can influence you.
He's probably turning into you and doing things like you would, because he found qualities in you that he admires.
Aha. Do you guys happen to have opposite Mercury as well?
Everything you explained is very relatable.
Posted by m3hPeople that aren’t self aware or lack self respect will give to the wrong people, almost unconditionally. People that are self aware and have a healthy respect for themselves are more apt to realize when giving becomes giving too much. It’s easier for them to spot the red flags.Posted by hippiecriteThat's an interesting point. I'm not sure I know what you mean by most self aware people mirror.
Yes and no. In a lot of ways, he’s boy me and I’m girl him. Kinda like Gary Oldman in Bram Stoker’s Dracula, I don’t always know if I wanna fuck him or be him. 😄
That said, most self aware people mirror, do they not? I know there have been times where I felt something was lacking, so I pulled back too. Before you know it, there’s a problem. It’s the times I felt something lacking and gave more that have really paid off.
Do you mind elaborating on that?
Yes, definitely! It's like a fertilizer for a relationship, when there's something lacking I need to add what I think is missing by giving more of it, and it helps in grow.
Had to search up Gary Oldman in Dracula. It's now added to my "to watch" list.
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I did
The annoyIng thing is he mirrored most of my negative traits and not many of the positive ones
Lol
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The annoyIng thing is he mirrored most of my negative traits and not many of the positive ones
Lol
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Posted by MyStarsShineLol! That must've been an eye-opener.
I did
The annoyIng thing is he mirrored most of my negative traits and not many of the positive ones
Lol
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How did it turn out?
Posted by m3hHahaPosted by MyStarsShineLol! That must've been an eye-opener.
I did
The annoyIng thing is he mirrored most of my negative traits and not many of the positive ones
Lol
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How did it turn out?click to expand
It was an excruciatingly valuable experience lol
Glad it's over
Lesson learned
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Posted by WittyGem88I'd love a gf like you even though I'm straight
My bf is my mirror wahahaha in a good way. My moon in Leo is opposite his Aqua sun. There is an air of fixed-ness in us. But the good thing is that for us, its more about our goals. So if we say we were gonna do something like work on getting something done, we do get it done. We both cant cook, we are both clumsy. We are both very touchy. So in a way it works out well.
We also compliment each other on certain things. Example he is very focused and im a scatter-brain. He is very patient and i am impatient. He is serious and often does the same things day in day out and i tend to be very spontaneous. There is room for us to actually improve each other’s lives.
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Posted by WittyGem88I'd do the cooking 😂Posted by MyStarsShineWould you like to try my burnt rice? He got hooked with how much I burnt it. He made an omelette version the other day. Burnt omelette and burnt rice everyday. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Posted by WittyGem88I'd love a gf like you even though I'm straight
My bf is my mirror wahahaha in a good way. My moon in Leo is opposite his Aqua sun. There is an air of fixed-ness in us. But the good thing is that for us, its more about our goals. So if we say we were gonna do something like work on getting something done, we do get it done. We both cant cook, we are both clumsy. We are both very touchy. So in a way it works out well.
We also compliment each other on certain things. Example he is very focused and im a scatter-brain. He is very patient and i am impatient. He is serious and often does the same things day in day out and i tend to be very spontaneous. There is room for us to actually improve each other’s lives.
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Posted by MyStarsShineOh boy. That must've been some adventure.Posted by m3hHahaPosted by MyStarsShineLol! That must've been an eye-opener.
I did
The annoyIng thing is he mirrored most of my negative traits and not many of the positive ones
Lol
✖️
How did it turn out?
It was an excruciatingly valuable experience lol
Glad it's over
Lesson learned
💥🙃click to expand
Posted by WittyGem88That's very admirable. It sounds like you both have great teamwork.
My bf is my mirror wahahaha in a good way. My moon in Leo is opposite his Aqua sun. There is an air of fixed-ness in us. But the good thing is that for us, its more about our goals. So if we say we were gonna do something like work on getting something done, we do get it done. We both cant cook, we are both clumsy. We are both very touchy. So in a way it works out well.
We also compliment each other on certain things. Example he is very focused and im a scatter-brain. He is very patient and i am impatient. He is serious and often does the same things day in day out and i tend to be very spontaneous. There is room for us to actually improve each other’s lives.
It's important to have that balance in the relationship, and to have the ability to grow and learn through each other. Who knows maybe one day he'll learn how to cook for you 😆
Posted by ufoIf you don't mind me asking, why don't you like relationships where you start to blend?
that's why I dont like relationships you start to blend
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowThere was an article that I read somewhere about the importance of sharing similar values to the longevity of relationships.
I'm not sure but I want to date someone who shares similar values rather than personality traits.
Although for me a mirror doesn't necessarily mean sharing personality traits.
For me, my boyfriend and I have different personality traits, and through the differences he acts like my mirror, because through him I can see where I want to improve and how I can grow.
Posted by ufoPosted by m3hfeel like I lose part of my personality and gain a part of someoneelse's, doesnt make me feel like an individual anymore but an extent of someone elsePosted by ufoIf you don't mind me asking, why don't you like relationships where you start to blend?
that's why I dont like relationships you start to blend
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I see. That's a really good point.
There must be a balance where a person can maintain their individuality, but at the same time be able to grow with their partner (while not losing themselves). Guess in blending cases, it can be tough to balance.
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by m3hI didn't know that! But yes I don't think I would be attracted or find a guy desirable otherwise. I would say sharing similar values is as important as chemistry.Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowThere was an article that I read somewhere about the importance of sharing similar values to the longevity of relationships.
I'm not sure but I want to date someone who shares similar values rather than personality traits.
Although for me a mirror doesn't necessarily mean sharing personality traits.
For me, my boyfriend and I have different personality traits, and through the differences he acts like my mirror, because through him I can see where I want to improve and how I can grow.
Okies so it means having complimentary traits? Hmm yeah I can see how that could work. Idk if this is what you mean. I have erratic energy and I express it through dance or I would sit and sketch like a crazy girl or I need some mental stimulation so this energy won't affect my relationship... I think I won't do well with someone who is too talkative or feels the need to talk without finding a different avenue to express themself. Or I'm a great cook and would love to cook for the guy I love so yeah they must love to eat 😂
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Yeah. From what I recall, sharing similar core values is important because it shows alignment with what is important for the individuals, and what is important to one won't clash with what the other believes is important.
The way I interpreted the mirror is like a source of reflection or introspection. The things we can't really see about ourselves clearly until someone can show us through our interacting with them. (Just like I can see the spinach in my teeth through my mirror, I can see my weaknesses and strengths through the interaction I have with my partner.)
Aha complementary is a way to see a partner like a mirror. If the guy doesn't love to eat and can't express himself other than talking, how is he going to enjoy the love you give him through the food you cooked?
(Is acts of service by any chance one of your love languages? 😛)
I for one have always favored diversity in just about all facets of life, including relationships. I would not want to date mirror-me, but I would do mirror-me, if that makes sense. If someone wants to keep my interest, I need to be challenged, and in order to be challenged, she has to be in opposition. Not all the time obviously, but there are times to be teammates, and times for a friendly duel of wits! I have tons of Gem energy so bring your chessboard.
However, that's not to say that we don't 'pick up' traits from our partners. It's one way to tell you have a profound fondness for this person. The same can be said for friendships, or any kind of pairing where the two are really close.
However, that's not to say that we don't 'pick up' traits from our partners. It's one way to tell you have a profound fondness for this person. The same can be said for friendships, or any kind of pairing where the two are really close.
Posted by CrabraThrough the responses I'm beginning to realise that "mirror" can be translated in different ways.
I for one have always favored diversity in just about all facets of life, including relationships. I would not want to date mirror-me, but I would do mirror-me, if that makes sense. If someone wants to keep my interest, I need to be challenged, and in order to be challenged, she has to be in opposition. Not all the time obviously, but there are times to be teammates, and times for a friendly duel of wits! I have tons of Gem energy so bring your chessboard.
However, that's not to say that we don't 'pick up' traits from our partners. It's one way to tell you have a profound fondness for this person. The same can be said for friendships, or any kind of pairing where the two are really close.
From my understanding do you mean you would not want to date your clone? Idk what you mean by "I would do mirror-me" though...
In a way you can view the mirror as your opposite...the reflection that is staring back at you. Like the other side of you. It's not your identical. It shows you traits about yourself you didn't see before. (Don't know if this is making sense, sleep deprivation is kicking in.)
Posted by WittyGem88HahaPosted by MyStarsShineGood! Coz eating burnt rice and burnt omelette is like eating charcoal everyday for breakfast. Before work. Imagine that kind of life with me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 seriously, this bad cooking’s gotta go 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Posted by WittyGem88I'd do the cooking 😂Posted by MyStarsShineWould you like to try my burnt rice? He got hooked with how much I burnt it. He made an omelette version the other day. Burnt omelette and burnt rice everyday. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Posted by WittyGem88I'd love a gf like you even though I'm straight
My bf is my mirror wahahaha in a good way. My moon in Leo is opposite his Aqua sun. There is an air of fixed-ness in us. But the good thing is that for us, its more about our goals. So if we say we were gonna do something like work on getting something done, we do get it done. We both cant cook, we are both clumsy. We are both very touchy. So in a way it works out well.
We also compliment each other on certain things. Example he is very focused and im a scatter-brain. He is very patient and i am impatient. He is serious and often does the same things day in day out and i tend to be very spontaneous. There is room for us to actually improve each other’s lives.
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When ye live together, let him cook and you can wash the dishes
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Posted by m3hPosted by CrabraThrough the responses I'm beginning to realise that "mirror" can be translated in different ways.
I for one have always favored diversity in just about all facets of life, including relationships. I would not want to date mirror-me, but I would do mirror-me, if that makes sense. If someone wants to keep my interest, I need to be challenged, and in order to be challenged, she has to be in opposition. Not all the time obviously, but there are times to be teammates, and times for a friendly duel of wits! I have tons of Gem energy so bring your chessboard.
However, that's not to say that we don't 'pick up' traits from our partners. It's one way to tell you have a profound fondness for this person. The same can be said for friendships, or any kind of pairing where the two are really close.
From my understanding do you mean you would not want to date your clone? Idk what you mean by "I would do mirror-me" though...
In a way you can view the mirror as your opposite...the reflection that is staring back at you. Like the other side of you. It's not your identical. It shows you traits about yourself you didn't see before. (Don't know if this is making sense, sleep deprivation is kicking in.)click to expand
I wouldn't want to date my opposite either. You go from someone who never opposes me, to someone who always does. The commonalities and diversities in a relationship need balance. That balance just wouldn't be possible dating an exact copy, or opposite. Someone showing me something I never realized before without making me feel like schite about it, or over hyping it comes from that balance.
But yes, mirror analogies can always be interpreted multiple ways. Everyone sees something different when they look into a mirror.
I have a female friend who is an astrological mirror to me. I am Sag sun, Cap rising and moon she is Leo sun, Cancer rising, Virgo moon. Well not really a mirror exactly but we had a very unique bond.
Posted by OCJackPosted by m3h
It's incredible how a person you love can influence you.
He's probably turning into you and doing things like you would, because he found qualities in you that he admires.
Aha. Do you guys happen to have opposite Mercury as well?
Everything you explained is very relatable.
Lolno, you are flagrantly seeing what I said in my own topic, at work here. I aint supposed to be responding to other peoples topics but I will make an exception just once. It is obvious that Sierra and her man were complete opposites starting out, they became like each other because opposites do that.
White and Black move towards each other making Grey, the more Grey either side gets... the more they just flat out become the other. If white keeps going through Grey it will become full on Black eventually, and vice versa.
It basically disproves your theory. All these people say "yes", but then go on to describe the process I am talking about. Meaning when they orignally fell in love, they were 2 completely different people. Eventually they become a mirror, but not because of Love. It instead has to do with /influence/.
We think only children are impressionable, but really the impressionability has just slowed down. The more we are around something, the more it becomes a part of us.click to expand
"My theory" is based on my experiences, not a universal truth. No where in this topic is trying to state my interpretations as fact.
The topic was created as an open discussion about seeing a significant other as a mirror. (It was an idea that was inspired from Justin Timberlake's song "Mirrors".)
For me, I can see a reflection of myself through others: my weaknesses and strengths, my values, characteristics, etc. through our interaction (and how they interact with me). Other people can interpret their experiences with others differently: in the case you chose, someone is explaining how she sees their interaction as influencing each other. It may not be the same explanation as my experiences (what you call "my theory"), but that doesn't mean there's a theory being proven or disprove.
Not sure which of your topics you're talking about that is at work. Also don't know on what grounds you state "We think only children are impressionable, but really the impressionability has just slowed down." Who is this "we" you're talking of, you don't know my perspective of that topic.
You're coming across here as a very opinionated person though, and I suppose whatever you think is right is the only thing that's right. Feel free not to respond to this and refrain from making a second exception. We can just agree to disagree.
Yakkes, why should u date ure self.................
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