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Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
Posted by pinkbird03The question really is why are you dating them? Why are you settling? It's always more about you than the other person. People are going to be who they are regardless of the reasons why. Maybe it's because sex is so easy to get now. Maybe they're broken or have a fear of commitment. Maybe it's all of the above. At the end of the day, you shouldn't get romantically involved with someone who is not ready to commit and be exclusive. Dating them and giving them the best parts of you when they can't even be exclusive is not going to give them an incentive to be. You'll only end up wasting years of your life and miss out on men that are ready.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
Posted by MoonshineLeoThis is true. I should know betterPosted by pinkbird03The aqua moon doesn't like to be rushed and is a rebel at nature...Posted by lovinglioness1115Nope, just another cap sun aqua moon. I don't know how I could get so lucky to have that twice almost back to back
If he's a Gemini or has strong Gemini placements I would personally stay away from him lolclick to expand
Posted by pinkbird03This is fairly simple.Posted by MoonshineLeoThis is true. I should know betterPosted by pinkbird03The aqua moon doesn't like to be rushed and is a rebel at nature...Posted by lovinglioness1115Nope, just another cap sun aqua moon. I don't know how I could get so lucky to have that twice almost back to back
If he's a Gemini or has strong Gemini placements I would personally stay away from him lolclick to expand
He's telling you about the open relationship idea
to see if you'll buy it.
He KNOWS it's too much to ask of anyone,
unless they're truly looking for the same.
It's a crap offer, and it needs to be shot down,
immediately... he knows that too.
Do the right thing-- keep your dignity.
It's far more attractive than a woman who will
go along with an offer like that, which reeks of
desperation.
Trust me.
Posted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.click to expand
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.click to expand
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
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What is their response??
Posted by eighty_8Posted by pinkbird03No need to question yourself, you're not crazy for questioning this - appears to me you have self-respect rather than going with the flow.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
This dude is using his friend's relationship as a baseline for himself and trying to apply it in his dating life and in particular, your situation.click to expand
Yes, it does seem that way. I don't know how to change it
Posted by LadyNeptuneWell this guy told me he was looking for something serious. He doesn't do flings anymore like he used to when he was younger. I do believe him, but he's just a horny guy and wants it all. Nothing I can do about it.Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
What is their response??
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Posted by MontgomeryYep it will only hurt me more if I don't do the right thingPosted by pinkbird03This is fairly simple.Posted by MoonshineLeoThis is true. I should know betterPosted by pinkbird03The aqua moon doesn't like to be rushed and is a rebel at nature...Posted by lovinglioness1115Nope, just another cap sun aqua moon. I don't know how I could get so lucky to have that twice almost back to back
If he's a Gemini or has strong Gemini placements I would personally stay away from him lol
He's telling you about the open relationship idea
to see if you'll buy it.
He KNOWS it's too much to ask of anyone,
unless they're truly looking for the same.
It's a crap offer, and it needs to be shot down,
immediately... he knows that too.
Do the right thing-- keep your dignity.
It's far more attractive than a woman who will
go along with an offer like that, which reeks of
desperation.
Trust me.
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Posted by pinkbird03So he lied basically. Or at the very least misled you. He said he doesn't do flings. What he meant was he doesn't do one night stands but wants a steady fwb situation. He wants to add you to the rotation.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell this guy told me he was looking for something serious. He doesn't do flings anymore like he used to when he was younger. I do believe him, but he's just a horny guy and wants it all. Nothing I can do about it.Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
What is their response??
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Always clarify. Cause his version of 'serious' doesn't match yours.
How old are you guys?
Posted by LadyNeptuneYep. Agreed! I asked him again yesterday what he wanted. If he wanted a relationship. Basically... no, well yessss. He wanted time to think about it. But basically he doesn't know what he wants.Posted by pinkbird03So he lied basically. Or at the very least misled you. He said he doesn't do flings. What he meant was he doesn't do one night stands but wants a steady fwb situation. He wants to add you to the rotation.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell this guy told me he was looking for something serious. He doesn't do flings anymore like he used to when he was younger. I do believe him, but he's just a horny guy and wants it all. Nothing I can do about it.Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
What is their response??
Always clarify. Cause his version of 'serious' doesn't match yours.click to expand
Posted by eighty_8Posted by pinkbird03Posted by eighty_8Posted by pinkbird03No need to question yourself, you're not crazy for questioning this - appears to me you have self-respect rather than going with the flow.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
This dude is using his friend's relationship as a baseline for himself and trying to apply it in his dating life and in particular, your situation.
Yes, it does seem that way. I don't know how to change it
Fact is in the dating game, not everyone is as transparent as they seem so during the initial stages, its a feel out process and that takes however much time is necessary.
Most men (not all) aren't men of their word either sadly and it seems to be the case that its decaying in society. More of the dudes with old school values know this.
Don't bother spending your energy changing others. Your time could be spent on more construtive things.
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The problem is my initial dating selection process is very picky! I do have requirements that a guy needs to meet first before I even will go on a date with them let alone talk to them. So when I find a guy I like, I do invest my energy
Posted by MoonbutterI'm 27. He is 34
How old are you guys?
Posted by KoniuchaaBest advice todayPosted by pinkbird03Maybe wait until they show you with actions instead of just wordsPosted by LadyNeptuneWell this guy told me he was looking for something serious. He doesn't do flings anymore like he used to when he was younger. I do believe him, but he's just a horny guy and wants it all. Nothing I can do about it.Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
What is their response??
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Posted by LillyPetalthis is VERY true, there's lots of really nice guys out there that treat women with respect. Stay away from the losers
That's just a type of a group of guys. There are also guys out there who would fit your style and would prefer to be exclusive and not engage in sexual activity with anyone outside your relationship. You just haven't found him yet and he hasn't found you.
Posted by pinkbird03Loves ya body? This is so clear right here. He wants sex. why are you confused?Posted by infiresIt's risky. I'm not sure if I want to take that risk. I am considering it though. But I don't know.
ye never know sometimes the commitment comes after the sex :3
I honestly do think he likes me. He always tells me how much he loves my body. But last night on the phone, he opened up a lot. He actually said what he thinks about me, which was nice to hear.click to expand
The advice on here has all been very good, but varied.
My plan is to keep my distance. To not initiate conversation with him and to focus on my other options. It will be tough if he messages me though.
My plan is to keep my distance. To not initiate conversation with him and to focus on my other options. It will be tough if he messages me though.
Posted by bkbella86Sexual intimacy is important to me and attraction as well. This isn't the only thing he liked about me.Posted by pinkbird03Loves ya body? This is so clear right here. He wants sex. why are you confused?Posted by infiresIt's risky. I'm not sure if I want to take that risk. I am considering it though. But I don't know.
ye never know sometimes the commitment comes after the sex :3
I honestly do think he likes me. He always tells me how much he loves my body. But last night on the phone, he opened up a lot. He actually said what he thinks about me, which was nice to hear.click to expand
Posted by pinkbird03But don't you want someone who is excited to exclusive with you?Posted by RindarooI don't know I'm very used to guys not wanting to be exclusive!! But this guy led me to believe it would happen and we talked so much. I felt like he was trying. Boo ?
It's pretty simple. There is a way too much trying to get him to be exclusive. If a Cap wants you, he will want to be exclusive. He will not want to share you.
Move on.click to expand
Posted by ShrewdsharpI want to hear more about this. I also love your advice btw, it's always on point.
Well there may be something you need to improve with your selection strategy.
For some reason you consciously or subconsciously choose unavailable men. There's this book called "Receiving Love" from Amazon and the doctor talks about receiving the kind of partner that you want in your heart systematically as opposed to looking for it outside of yourself.
For some reason the signals that you're putting out there is bringing back a wavelength -opposite of what you want.
It's like you're trying to get to 92.3F.M. but you keep ending up at 98.1F.m
This can be easily resolved with sone tweaking
Why you are selecting noncommittal people?
For some reason you're not on the same wavelength as men who want to commit. Why?
You wrote it keeps on happening... so you've been on the same wavelength as men who don't want to commit as opposed to being on the same wavelength of people who do want to commit. That's the Law of Attraction and I study it through the Science of Mind.
Posted by pinkbird03You've already given him a month. Did you ask him how much more time he needs?Posted by LadyNeptuneYep. Agreed! I asked him again yesterday what he wanted. If he wanted a relationship. Basically... no, well yessss. He wanted time to think about it. But basically he doesn't know what he wants.Posted by pinkbird03So he lied basically. Or at the very least misled you. He said he doesn't do flings. What he meant was he doesn't do one night stands but wants a steady fwb situation. He wants to add you to the rotation.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell this guy told me he was looking for something serious. He doesn't do flings anymore like he used to when he was younger. I do believe him, but he's just a horny guy and wants it all. Nothing I can do about it.Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
What is their response??
Always clarify. Cause his version of 'serious' doesn't match yours.click to expand
If you want to continue dating him you need to have a clear timeline for how long your gonna stay in this weird limbo.
And if you sleep with him do it without expectations of it getting him to give you a relationship.
Posted by pinkbird03Can you tell us what the other things were? I'm curious if they are shallow external traits or something deeper.Posted by bkbella86Sexual intimacy is important to me and attraction as well. This isn't the only thing he liked about me.Posted by pinkbird03Loves ya body? This is so clear right here. He wants sex. why are you confused?Posted by infiresIt's risky. I'm not sure if I want to take that risk. I am considering it though. But I don't know.
ye never know sometimes the commitment comes after the sex :3
I honestly do think he likes me. He always tells me how much he loves my body. But last night on the phone, he opened up a lot. He actually said what he thinks about me, which was nice to hear.
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If the only thing holding his interest is your body/looks there isn't enough there. There's always gonna be someone hotter and younger and fitter...sad truth.
If a dude tells me after dating me for one month he doesn't want anything serious or a relationship I take that as an easy let down. He tried it out for a month and decided all it could be is sex.
If his dream woman came along right now he would be ready, trust.
If his dream woman came along right now he would be ready, trust.
Posted by LadyNeptuneHe's full of it. A month in dating is like a nanosecond. And if he liked more of her why didn't he make it exclusive. I'm inclined to believe he's just blowing smoke to get what he wants.Posted by pinkbird03Can you tell us what the other things were? I'm curious if they are shallow external traits or something deeper.Posted by bkbella86Sexual intimacy is important to me and attraction as well. This isn't the only thing he liked about me.Posted by pinkbird03Loves ya body? This is so clear right here. He wants sex. why are you confused?Posted by infiresIt's risky. I'm not sure if I want to take that risk. I am considering it though. But I don't know.
ye never know sometimes the commitment comes after the sex :3
I honestly do think he likes me. He always tells me how much he loves my body. But last night on the phone, he opened up a lot. He actually said what he thinks about me, which was nice to hear.
If the only thing holding his interest is your body/looks there isn't enough there. There's always gonna be someone hotter and younger and fitter...sad truth.click to expand
Posted by bkbella86I agree.Posted by LadyNeptuneHe's full of it. A month in dating is like a nanosecond. And if he liked more of her why didn't he make it exclusive. I'm inclined to believe he's just blowing smoke to get what he wants.Posted by pinkbird03Can you tell us what the other things were? I'm curious if they are shallow external traits or something deeper.Posted by bkbella86Sexual intimacy is important to me and attraction as well. This isn't the only thing he liked about me.Posted by pinkbird03Loves ya body? This is so clear right here. He wants sex. why are you confused?Posted by infiresIt's risky. I'm not sure if I want to take that risk. I am considering it though. But I don't know.
ye never know sometimes the commitment comes after the sex :3
I honestly do think he likes me. He always tells me how much he loves my body. But last night on the phone, he opened up a lot. He actually said what he thinks about me, which was nice to hear.
If the only thing holding his interest is your body/looks there isn't enough there. There's always gonna be someone hotter and younger and fitter...sad truth.
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The real problem here is that op can't see that. And she keeps wasting her time entertaining dudes that are not in it for her. How does she break the pattern?
Posted by SsupermanMe three lolPosted by Gob_ShiteMe too bro
Jesus, I'm too old for all this shit...
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Posted by AdreamuponwakingIt's an understatement how this tactic is used and not often discussed. There's nothing deeper than a mother's love for her children. Why do I say that? Because guys who do this know that all they have to do is cater to a woman's nurturing side. No matter how much she screams and vents about him, she'll always put up with it because he's essentially flipped the responsibility on her not to be seen as a failure and giving up on what a "woman's role" is...to love unconditionally. That's sad and it works because too many women often fail to realize that unconditional love starts with self.
He is not worth the risk.
Sounds like he's really attracted to you and just wants to have sex with you that's all.
A lot of guys try to show their sensitive side as a strategic tactic to get girls in bed.Sometimes they even make stuff up about their childhood or other areas in their life to appear more vulnerable when they aren't
Posted by Arielle83Lol I could show him what he's missing out on! Then say get the fuck out
Fuck him good and let him eat ice cream out if your ass and then he'll ask to be exclusive.
Posted by DiamondAceSame...Posted by pinkbird03I don't understand this either. I guess I'll be single for a long time.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—click to expand
Posted by beautifulsoul74I woke up this morning with a clearer understanding of how hurt and I am why. I really believed in this relationship more than the others. And as a cancer, I do love everything unconditionally. So it's not going to be a super quick get over him. I need time. Talking helps.Posted by AdreamuponwakingIt's an understatement how this tactic is used and not often discussed. There's nothing deeper than a mother's love for her children. Why do I say that? Because guys who do this know that all they have to do is cater to a woman's nurturing side. No matter how much she screams and vents about him, she'll always put up with it because he's essentially flipped the responsibility on her not to be seen as a failure and giving up on what a "woman's role" is...to love unconditionally. That's sad and it works because too many women often fail to realize that unconditional love starts with self.
He is not worth the risk.
Sounds like he's really attracted to you and just wants to have sex with you that's all.
A lot of guys try to show their sensitive side as a strategic tactic to get girls in bed.Sometimes they even make stuff up about their childhood or other areas in their life to appear more vulnerable when they aren't
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Posted by Arielle83Yea. He was chasing me a lot the first two months before we met. And I wasn't paying much attention to him. That continued awhile after we met but then I didn't want to play games.Posted by pinkbird03yep.Posted by Arielle83Lol I could show him what he's missing out on! Then say get the fuck out
Fuck him good and let him eat ice cream out if your ass and then he'll ask to be exclusive.
I've found that if you don't act like you want to be exclusive...he will bring it up...
cuz he'll be wondering where u stand.
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Anyways I don't know where we stand at all right now. I was trying to talk to him to ask him what he wants or what he's thinking but he's distant. He only responded to an unrelated comment. Damn cap... Saturday night, he wanted time to think about it. I personally don't want to be exclusive. Id just like him to drop this other girl. I'm back on match.com. I hope he sees it lol I am going to plan at least one date or maybe just dinner. I want to see my other cap friend from before. Good ego boost! Much needed right now.
Posted by bkbella86Yep. I told him if he ever wants more commitment and if I'm single then we could try it again.Posted by pinkbird03But don't you want someone who is excited to exclusive with you?Posted by RindarooI don't know I'm very used to guys not wanting to be exclusive!! But this guy led me to believe it would happen and we talked so much. I felt like he was trying. Boo ?
It's pretty simple. There is a way too much trying to get him to be exclusive. If a Cap wants you, he will want to be exclusive. He will not want to share you.
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Posted by MaxPowerTrue. Stick to my guns.Posted by pinkbird03I'm sure it's not the only thing he liked about you. You've probably given him pause. The problem is he's not in relationship mode, for whatever reason. He's in date-multiple-girls mode. Might be his character; probably just his age. Either way, if it's not what you want, you can't make it into what you want by agreeing to something different.Posted by bkbella86Sexual intimacy is important to me and attraction as well. This isn't the only thing he liked about me.Posted by pinkbird03Loves ya body? This is so clear right here. He wants sex. why are you confused?Posted by infiresIt's risky. I'm not sure if I want to take that risk. I am considering it though. But I don't know.
ye never know sometimes the commitment comes after the sex :3
I honestly do think he likes me. He always tells me how much he loves my body. But last night on the phone, he opened up a lot. He actually said what he thinks about me, which was nice to hear.
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Posted by pinkbird03Cap Sun with Aqua moon?? Let me roll up my sleeves, I've dealt (still dealing) with mine for over 3.5 years now. Mine is more nearer to the Aqua cusp than this guy.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
- I think this is wrong for you if you don't want that arrangement.
- You're not too traditional for modern dating. STDs are no one's friend. I've never met a guy who's tried to float that open relationship idea with me. Fuck that noise.
- I personally don't think a Cap wants to share, or any guy who serious about the girl. Be the only one he wants!
- Is he ok with YOU sleeping with other guys too?
My advice is, don't do it! He might forever see you as an easy girl who's willing to settle for an arrangement like that. Notice that he said over the years when he's single he hooks up with her. So, why is he telling you that? If he's with you, he wouldn't be single right? Unless it's his way of saying he is still going to behave like he is single!
Trust me, Caps don't really like to share imo. This time around is the longest that we haven't seen each other (almost 2 months). He swears up and down "on his mom's grave" that he hasn't been with anyone else, and said if I had then he's not cool with it.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03You've already given him a month. Did you ask him how much more time he needs?Posted by LadyNeptuneYep. Agreed! I asked him again yesterday what he wanted. If he wanted a relationship. Basically... no, well yessss. He wanted time to think about it. But basically he doesn't know what he wants.Posted by pinkbird03So he lied basically. Or at the very least misled you. He said he doesn't do flings. What he meant was he doesn't do one night stands but wants a steady fwb situation. He wants to add you to the rotation.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell this guy told me he was looking for something serious. He doesn't do flings anymore like he used to when he was younger. I do believe him, but he's just a horny guy and wants it all. Nothing I can do about it.Posted by pinkbird03Is this after you have said what your looking for?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03It may be a good idea to signal to the men your seeing that your not a casual sex type of girl and are looking for a relationship. That way your weeding out the ones who aren't on the same page.Posted by tizianiI do like him. I was content with everything going the way it was. I didnt verbalize my feelings to him until yesterday because I was taking things slow.
I don't know if you're invested in the guy or not. You havent mentioned anything about liking him, just that you want a relationship. There are people out there wanting to give you that, just do your thing.
And you aren't getting emotionally attached to someone who won't give you what you need.
The first thing I ask them is what are they looking for.
What is their response??
Always clarify. Cause his version of 'serious' doesn't match yours.
If you want to continue dating him you need to have a clear timeline for how long your gonna stay in this weird limbo.
And if you sleep with him do it without expectations of it getting him to give you a relationship.click to expand
No I didn't ask him that. Maybe I will if he messages me. I don't think he will for a few days at least. Remember caps disappear when shit gets difficult. And I don't plan on messaging him first. But it's a good idea to figure out his time line.
I don't plan on sleeping with him right now. I'm definitely too emotional at this point.
We both haven't discussed feelings very much, but I asked him on the phone recently... do u even care about me— He he said, yes of course I do. And I don't want to hurt you. You're the nicest girl I've ever met and the coolest. I told him that I can't put up with what he's asking. Either be exclusive or in out. And that's when he asked for time to think about it.
Posted by SunMoonStarsI don't think I am going to do it. I don't feel comfortable with any of this and it's really taking a toll on me. But what are the chances of anything changing now or in the future? I'm just curious. I wish I knew what he was thinking right now.Posted by pinkbird03Cap Sun with Aqua moon?? Let me roll up my sleeves, I've dealt (still dealing) with mine for over 3.5 years now. Mine is more nearer to the Aqua cusp than this guy.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
- I think this is wrong for you if you don't want that arrangement.
- You're not too traditional for modern dating. STDs are no one's friend. I've never met a guy who's tried to float that open relationship idea with me. Fuck that noise.
- I personally don't think a Cap wants to share, or any guy who serious about the girl. Be the only one he wants!
- Is he ok with YOU sleeping with other guys too?
My advice is, don't do it! He might forever see you as an easy girl who's willing to settle for an arrangement like that. Notice that he said over the years when he's single he hooks up with her. So, why is he telling you that? If he's with you, he wouldn't be single right? Unless it's his way of saying he is still going to behave like he is single!
Trust me, Caps don't really like to share imo. This time around is the longest that we haven't seen each other (almost 2 months). He swears up and down "on his mom's grave" that he hasn't been with anyone else, and said if I had then he's not cool with it.
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ShrewdsharpI don't know how to change any vibrations. Maybe I'll make a new rule and stick to it. 3 dates and we're exclusive or it's goodbye. That's my standard and I'm not following there expectations anymore. I don't know though lol
Just like the law of gravity is real the law of attraction is real. If there's something that I want that I haven't gotten yet then I haven't done enough work to get aligned with my new desire.
Just because I say that I want something doesn't mean I'm ready to receive it. Abraham Hicks cause it allowing I remember graduating from college I put this pretty high figure that I wanted to make out of college and it took five years but I aligned myself with that amount of money; I begin to budget as if I had it I begin to act like I already had it I begin to let it and it took five years but I got that salary plus 5000 more.
Abraham Hicks the metaphysical Guru who was really the author of The Secret said that poor people focus more on the lack of money and the Law of Attraction brings that to them or as rich people focus more on the having of money and multiplying that money so the Law of Attraction brings that to them it is a law that is ambivalent androgynous and indifferent just like gravity.
So every time someone sits in the hot seat and as Abraham about attracting things in their life Abraham repeats the same thing if you don't have what it is that you say that you want then that means that there is a stronger vibration of what it is that you do not want that is active in your signals than the vibration of what you DO WANT.
Also belong to the science of mine which is the law of attraction Mega movement church and the pastor is constantly tell us to spend time in our vision regarding the kind of relationship that we won't talk about it focus on it right about it get a vision board get it into your body because right now your vibration is sending out a signal to men who do not want an exclusive relationship with you and if you want something different than you going to have to send out a different vibe.
But in your defense there are a lot of people online that are just looking for something that is casual but every now and again you can find that diamond in the rough. I really don't think that online however is a place to meet somebody who truly wants to be serious and have something a substance because a lot of those men are already taken are already married and it's just too easy to go someone and it's just too easy that has something casual but then where else are you going to meet guys you know?click to expand
Cancers are very sweet and very nice but cancers are "know-it-alls!" An attribute that men find really unattractive!!
I doubt very seriously somebody is going to give you an exclusive relationship within three dates but hey you can't tell a cancer NOTHING!!!
The worst attribute in a Libra is their indecisiveness, scorpio their proclivity for revenge and Cancers they are "know-it-alls"
You can't tell a cancer nothing it's like talking to a brick wall. The only thing that you can really do with the cancer is give them sympathy but as far as them taking anything that you say in....it ain't Happening! They're worse than a Taurus.
A real leader doesn't block out everything that people say! Cancers are Cardinals - leaders. And I don't see how that's the case... every major CEO that I've ever recruited mastered the art of listening and they take in what their subjects say. A real leader is teachable !
But cancers.... they know everything!!! You can't tell them anything!! ?☺?
Posted by ShrewdsharpI find that in every sign.... maybe you just don't understand Cancers and why they think the way they do. We are on a whole other level that most will never fathom because they lack the capacity to.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ShrewdsharpI don't know how to change any vibrations. Maybe I'll make a new rule and stick to it. 3 dates and we're exclusive or it's goodbye. That's my standard and I'm not following there expectations anymore. I don't know though lol
Just like the law of gravity is real the law of attraction is real. If there's something that I want that I haven't gotten yet then I haven't done enough work to get aligned with my new desire.
Just because I say that I want something doesn't mean I'm ready to receive it. Abraham Hicks cause it allowing I remember graduating from college I put this pretty high figure that I wanted to make out of college and it took five years but I aligned myself with that amount of money; I begin to budget as if I had it I begin to act like I already had it I begin to let it and it took five years but I got that salary plus 5000 more.
Abraham Hicks the metaphysical Guru who was really the author of The Secret said that poor people focus more on the lack of money and the Law of Attraction brings that to them or as rich people focus more on the having of money and multiplying that money so the Law of Attraction brings that to them it is a law that is ambivalent androgynous and indifferent just like gravity.
So every time someone sits in the hot seat and as Abraham about attracting things in their life Abraham repeats the same thing if you don't have what it is that you say that you want then that means that there is a stronger vibration of what it is that you do not want that is active in your signals than the vibration of what you DO WANT.
Also belong to the science of mine which is the law of attraction Mega movement church and the pastor is constantly tell us to spend time in our vision regarding the kind of relationship that we won't talk about it focus on it right about it get a vision board get it into your body because right now your vibration is sending out a signal to men who do not want an exclusive relationship with you and if you want something different than you going to have to send out a different vibe.
But in your defense there are a lot of people online that are just looking for something that is casual but every now and again you can find that diamond in the rough. I really don't think that online however is a place to meet somebody who truly wants to be serious and have something a substance because a lot of those men are already taken are already married and it's just too easy to go someone and it's just too easy that has something casual but then where else are you going to meet guys you know?
Cancers are very sweet and very nice but cancers are "know-it-alls!" An attribute that men find really unattractive!!
I doubt very seriously somebody is going to give you an exclusive relationship within three dates but hey you can't tell a cancer NOTHING!!!
The worst attribute in a Libra is their indecisiveness, scorpio their proclivity for revenge and Cancers they are "know-it-alls"
You can't tell a cancer nothing it's like talking to a brick wall. The only thing that you can really do with the cancer is give them sympathy but as far as them taking anything that you say in....it ain't Happening! They're worse than a Taurus.
A real leader doesn't block out everything that people say! Cancers are Cardinals - leaders. And I don't see how that's the case... every major CEO that I've ever recruited mastered the art of listening and they take in what their subjects say. A real leader is teachable !
But cancers.... they know everything!!! You can't tell them anything!! ?☺?
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Posted by pinkbird03You said he went off to "think" right? Let me guess, he didn't say how long it would take?Posted by SunMoonStarsI don't think I am going to do it. I don't feel comfortable with any of this and it's really taking a toll on me. But what are the chances of anything changing now or in the future? I'm just curious. I wish I knew what he was thinking right now.Posted by pinkbird03Cap Sun with Aqua moon?? Let me roll up my sleeves, I've dealt (still dealing) with mine for over 3.5 years now. Mine is more nearer to the Aqua cusp than this guy.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
- I think this is wrong for you if you don't want that arrangement.
- You're not too traditional for modern dating. STDs are no one's friend. I've never met a guy who's tried to float that open relationship idea with me. Fuck that noise.
- I personally don't think a Cap wants to share, or any guy who serious about the girl. Be the only one he wants!
- Is he ok with YOU sleeping with other guys too?
My advice is, don't do it! He might forever see you as an easy girl who's willing to settle for an arrangement like that. Notice that he said over the years when he's single he hooks up with her. So, why is he telling you that? If he's with you, he wouldn't be single right? Unless it's his way of saying he is still going to behave like he is single!
Trust me, Caps don't really like to share imo. This time around is the longest that we haven't seen each other (almost 2 months). He swears up and down "on his mom's grave" that he hasn't been with anyone else, and said if I had then he's not cool with it.
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Fuck, I got to page 8 before I had enough.
First off, you're a classic chick who's desperate to get into a relationship. That much is obvious. You're 27 and dun dun dun, omg not married yet, no kids, blah blah other societal norm, so you're panicking because not being paired off is terrible!!!11one As someone pointed out, you haven't said much about what you like about him, just that you're trying to force a relationship to happen because of gross desperation.
Second, this loser is THIRTY FOUR years old and fucking around like he's in his early 20s. Prior to you disclosing his age, I assumed he was in his early to mid 20s. But he's a freaking DECADE older and hasn't changed? Honey, what the fuck is wrong with your perception and gut feeling?
I don't know why you refuse to see the obvious other than you're being a typical sad bitch in trying to force something to happen because he's here right now and for some lame ass reason, you think he's the only guy you're ever going to have a chance with in a relationship. All your reasons are insanely robotic and stupid, sorry to say. "Oh, we have chemistry." Great. Sounds pretty generic and some really stupid reasoning. I had great chemistry with fwbs but that didn't make them relationship material.
You also say you're too nice and dudes prey on that. THAT is why you keep having this issue with guys. Not solely because this is how dating is. Yes, dating has a lot of fuckboys- what this incredible loser is, but you're not innocent either as you totally entertain this bullshit behavior because of your desperation to NOT be single.
Get out of the dating pool. You cannot properly swim in it if you continue to use floaties.
First off, you're a classic chick who's desperate to get into a relationship. That much is obvious. You're 27 and dun dun dun, omg not married yet, no kids, blah blah other societal norm, so you're panicking because not being paired off is terrible!!!11one As someone pointed out, you haven't said much about what you like about him, just that you're trying to force a relationship to happen because of gross desperation.
Second, this loser is THIRTY FOUR years old and fucking around like he's in his early 20s. Prior to you disclosing his age, I assumed he was in his early to mid 20s. But he's a freaking DECADE older and hasn't changed? Honey, what the fuck is wrong with your perception and gut feeling?
I don't know why you refuse to see the obvious other than you're being a typical sad bitch in trying to force something to happen because he's here right now and for some lame ass reason, you think he's the only guy you're ever going to have a chance with in a relationship. All your reasons are insanely robotic and stupid, sorry to say. "Oh, we have chemistry." Great. Sounds pretty generic and some really stupid reasoning. I had great chemistry with fwbs but that didn't make them relationship material.
You also say you're too nice and dudes prey on that. THAT is why you keep having this issue with guys. Not solely because this is how dating is. Yes, dating has a lot of fuckboys- what this incredible loser is, but you're not innocent either as you totally entertain this bullshit behavior because of your desperation to NOT be single.
Get out of the dating pool. You cannot properly swim in it if you continue to use floaties.
Also, Cap guys can be known as users. I've dealt with a couple who both tried some bs to get easy, no strings attached sex with silly bullshit like this.
You're 27 years old and seem to have the mental maturity of a 18 year old girl because you can't even see or grasp when you're being fucked around with in order to gain access to your vagina.
You're 27 years old and seem to have the mental maturity of a 18 year old girl because you can't even see or grasp when you're being fucked around with in order to gain access to your vagina.
Posted by SunMoonStarsPosted by pinkbird03You said he went off to "think" right? Let me guess, he didn't say how long it would take?Posted by SunMoonStarsI don't think I am going to do it. I don't feel comfortable with any of this and it's really taking a toll on me. But what are the chances of anything changing now or in the future? I'm just curious. I wish I knew what he was thinking right now.Posted by pinkbird03Cap Sun with Aqua moon?? Let me roll up my sleeves, I've dealt (still dealing) with mine for over 3.5 years now. Mine is more nearer to the Aqua cusp than this guy.
I need to understand this. Because it keeps happening with the guys I date now and I don't get it at all!!
They don't want to be exclusive, but they want to have sex.... with more than 1 person!! The guy I'm dating right now says he's not ready to be exclusive, but he said he cares about me and doesn't want to stop talking! He also wants to have sex with me but apparently he has a friend who is in an open relationship with her bf and over the years when he's single, he hooks up with her.... he says he doesn't have feelings for her. Do you believe that?
Please explain this. Is it just me for thinking this is wrong?? Am I just too traditional for modern dating—
- I think this is wrong for you if you don't want that arrangement.
- You're not too traditional for modern dating. STDs are no one's friend. I've never met a guy who's tried to float that open relationship idea with me. Fuck that noise.
- I personally don't think a Cap wants to share, or any guy who serious about the girl. Be the only one he wants!
- Is he ok with YOU sleeping with other guys too?
My advice is, don't do it! He might forever see you as an easy girl who's willing to settle for an arrangement like that. Notice that he said over the years when he's single he hooks up with her. So, why is he telling you that? If he's with you, he wouldn't be single right? Unless it's his way of saying he is still going to behave like he is single!
Trust me, Caps don't really like to share imo. This time around is the longest that we haven't seen each other (almost 2 months). He swears up and down "on his mom's grave" that he hasn't been with anyone else, and said if I had then he's not cool with it.
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I didn't ask him. It doesn't really matter. If I don't hear from him, it's a no. I'm going to try to schedule a date with someone else... just to get out there
Posted by EllygantThank. I appreciate your nice words. I will definitely remain at a friendly distance. I really don't like this drama. I don't want it.Posted by pinkbird03Talking is good! I think it helps expel the strong emotions more quickly.Posted by beautifulsoul74I woke up this morning with a clearer understanding of how hurt and I am why. I really believed in this relationship more than the others. And as a cancer, I do love everything unconditionally. So it's not going to be a super quick get over him. I need time. Talking helps.Posted by AdreamuponwakingIt's an understatement how this tactic is used and not often discussed. There's nothing deeper than a mother's love for her children. Why do I say that? Because guys who do this know that all they have to do is cater to a woman's nurturing side. No matter how much she screams and vents about him, she'll always put up with it because he's essentially flipped the responsibility on her not to be seen as a failure and giving up on what a "woman's role" is...to love unconditionally. That's sad and it works because too many women often fail to realize that unconditional love starts with self.
He is not worth the risk.
Sounds like he's really attracted to you and just wants to have sex with you that's all.
A lot of guys try to show their sensitive side as a strategic tactic to get girls in bed.Sometimes they even make stuff up about their childhood or other areas in their life to appear more vulnerable when they aren't
It's hard to not get caught up in the early talking stages, the excitement of being pursued and desired. Especially cause a lot of men are great the first few months at it, when they can pace the relationship. Once things start to become more substantial and less surface after a few months, some have a harder time maintaining whatever image the want to portray.
I'd think cap would be a strong contender to do that well, they are good at projecting a certain image and they sometimes struggle with showing their more comfortable side. Especially if they've been burned once, that's all it takes.
He very well could genuinely liked you, but now that things have progressed past the early stage, reality is setting in about actually committing and he's backpeddeling and trying to push you away.
How you react to that is important. Chilling out and remaining at a friendly distance will be the most beneficial. If he's truly into you he'll come back around, if not you'll put enough emotional distance between you two to make it easier for you to move on.
Don't be so hard on yourself. A lot of people come with their own weird baggage. And Capricorn is a sign better than most at managing theirs from partners for a long time.click to expand
Posted by MoonbutterI don't believe I know it all. I'm just trying to understand his perspective and mine.Posted by ShrewdsharpI find that in every sign.... maybe you just don't understand Cancers and why they think the way they do. We are on a whole other level that most will never fathom because they lack the capacity to.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ShrewdsharpI don't know how to change any vibrations. Maybe I'll make a new rule and stick to it. 3 dates and we're exclusive or it's goodbye. That's my standard and I'm not following there expectations anymore. I don't know though lol
Just like the law of gravity is real the law of attraction is real. If there's something that I want that I haven't gotten yet then I haven't done enough work to get aligned with my new desire.
Just because I say that I want something doesn't mean I'm ready to receive it. Abraham Hicks cause it allowing I remember graduating from college I put this pretty high figure that I wanted to make out of college and it took five years but I aligned myself with that amount of money; I begin to budget as if I had it I begin to act like I already had it I begin to let it and it took five years but I got that salary plus 5000 more.
Abraham Hicks the metaphysical Guru who was really the author of The Secret said that poor people focus more on the lack of money and the Law of Attraction brings that to them or as rich people focus more on the having of money and multiplying that money so the Law of Attraction brings that to them it is a law that is ambivalent androgynous and indifferent just like gravity.
So every time someone sits in the hot seat and as Abraham about attracting things in their life Abraham repeats the same thing if you don't have what it is that you say that you want then that means that there is a stronger vibration of what it is that you do not want that is active in your signals than the vibration of what you DO WANT.
Also belong to the science of mine which is the law of attraction Mega movement church and the pastor is constantly tell us to spend time in our vision regarding the kind of relationship that we won't talk about it focus on it right about it get a vision board get it into your body because right now your vibration is sending out a signal to men who do not want an exclusive relationship with you and if you want something different than you going to have to send out a different vibe.
But in your defense there are a lot of people online that are just looking for something that is casual but every now and again you can find that diamond in the rough. I really don't think that online however is a place to meet somebody who truly wants to be serious and have something a substance because a lot of those men are already taken are already married and it's just too easy to go someone and it's just too easy that has something casual but then where else are you going to meet guys you know?
Cancers are very sweet and very nice but cancers are "know-it-alls!" An attribute that men find really unattractive!!
I doubt very seriously somebody is going to give you an exclusive relationship within three dates but hey you can't tell a cancer NOTHING!!!
The worst attribute in a Libra is their indecisiveness, scorpio their proclivity for revenge and Cancers they are "know-it-alls"
You can't tell a cancer nothing it's like talking to a brick wall. The only thing that you can really do with the cancer is give them sympathy but as far as them taking anything that you say in....it ain't Happening! They're worse than a Taurus.
A real leader doesn't block out everything that people say! Cancers are Cardinals - leaders. And I don't see how that's the case... every major CEO that I've ever recruited mastered the art of listening and they take in what their subjects say. A real leader is teachable !
But cancers.... they know everything!!! You can't tell them anything!! ?☺?
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Posted by rockyroadicecreamI did not know this about him. I just found out. I had asked all these questions and he lied. Was I stupid to believe him?? Apparently. But I didn't know he was a liar. Now I do.
Fuck, I got to page 8 before I had enough.
First off, you're a classic chick who's desperate to get into a relationship. That much is obvious. You're 27 and dun dun dun, omg not married yet, no kids, blah blah other societal norm, so you're panicking because not being paired off is terrible!!!11one As someone pointed out, you haven't said much about what you like about him, just that you're trying to force a relationship to happen because of gross desperation.
Second, this loser is THIRTY FOUR years old and fucking around like he's in his early 20s. Prior to you disclosing his age, I assumed he was in his early to mid 20s. But he's a freaking DECADE older and hasn't changed? Honey, what the fuck is wrong with your perception and gut feeling?
I don't know why you refuse to see the obvious other than you're being a typical sad bitch in trying to force something to happen because he's here right now and for some lame ass reason, you think he's the only guy you're ever going to have a chance with in a relationship. All your reasons are insanely robotic and stupid, sorry to say. "Oh, we have chemistry." Great. Sounds pretty generic and some really stupid reasoning. I had great chemistry with fwbs but that didn't make them relationship material.
You also say you're too nice and dudes prey on that. THAT is why you keep having this issue with guys. Not solely because this is how dating is. Yes, dating has a lot of fuckboys- what this incredible loser is, but you're not innocent either as you totally entertain this bullshit behavior because of your desperation to NOT be single.
Get out of the dating pool. You cannot properly swim in it if you continue to use floaties.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by rockyroadicecreamI did not know this about him. I just found out. I had asked all these questions and he lied. Was I stupid to believe him?? Apparently. But I didn't know he was a liar. Now I do.
Fuck, I got to page 8 before I had enough.
First off, you're a classic chick who's desperate to get into a relationship. That much is obvious. You're 27 and dun dun dun, omg not married yet, no kids, blah blah other societal norm, so you're panicking because not being paired off is terrible!!!11one As someone pointed out, you haven't said much about what you like about him, just that you're trying to force a relationship to happen because of gross desperation.
Second, this loser is THIRTY FOUR years old and fucking around like he's in his early 20s. Prior to you disclosing his age, I assumed he was in his early to mid 20s. But he's a freaking DECADE older and hasn't changed? Honey, what the fuck is wrong with your perception and gut feeling?
I don't know why you refuse to see the obvious other than you're being a typical sad bitch in trying to force something to happen because he's here right now and for some lame ass reason, you think he's the only guy you're ever going to have a chance with in a relationship. All your reasons are insanely robotic and stupid, sorry to say. "Oh, we have chemistry." Great. Sounds pretty generic and some really stupid reasoning. I had great chemistry with fwbs but that didn't make them relationship material.
You also say you're too nice and dudes prey on that. THAT is why you keep having this issue with guys. Not solely because this is how dating is. Yes, dating has a lot of fuckboys- what this incredible loser is, but you're not innocent either as you totally entertain this bullshit behavior because of your desperation to NOT be single.
Get out of the dating pool. You cannot properly swim in it if you continue to use floaties.
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And then you created this thread, wanting feedback and still caught up on STAYING with the guy out of desperation.
Work through the mental fuckery that this asshat has bestowed upon you and move along.
Posted by MaxPowerTypical you would assume that is what I meant ??♀️Posted by MoonbutterLOLPosted by ShrewdsharpI find that in every sign.... maybe you just don't understand Cancers and why they think the way they do. We are on a whole other level that most will never fathom because they lack the capacity to.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ShrewdsharpI don't know how to change any vibrations. Maybe I'll make a new rule and stick to it. 3 dates and we're exclusive or it's goodbye. That's my standard and I'm not following there expectations anymore. I don't know though lol
Just like the law of gravity is real the law of attraction is real. If there's something that I want that I haven't gotten yet then I haven't done enough work to get aligned with my new desire.
Just because I say that I want something doesn't mean I'm ready to receive it. Abraham Hicks cause it allowing I remember graduating from college I put this pretty high figure that I wanted to make out of college and it took five years but I aligned myself with that amount of money; I begin to budget as if I had it I begin to act like I already had it I begin to let it and it took five years but I got that salary plus 5000 more.
Abraham Hicks the metaphysical Guru who was really the author of The Secret said that poor people focus more on the lack of money and the Law of Attraction brings that to them or as rich people focus more on the having of money and multiplying that money so the Law of Attraction brings that to them it is a law that is ambivalent androgynous and indifferent just like gravity.
So every time someone sits in the hot seat and as Abraham about attracting things in their life Abraham repeats the same thing if you don't have what it is that you say that you want then that means that there is a stronger vibration of what it is that you do not want that is active in your signals than the vibration of what you DO WANT.
Also belong to the science of mine which is the law of attraction Mega movement church and the pastor is constantly tell us to spend time in our vision regarding the kind of relationship that we won't talk about it focus on it right about it get a vision board get it into your body because right now your vibration is sending out a signal to men who do not want an exclusive relationship with you and if you want something different than you going to have to send out a different vibe.
But in your defense there are a lot of people online that are just looking for something that is casual but every now and again you can find that diamond in the rough. I really don't think that online however is a place to meet somebody who truly wants to be serious and have something a substance because a lot of those men are already taken are already married and it's just too easy to go someone and it's just too easy that has something casual but then where else are you going to meet guys you know?
Cancers are very sweet and very nice but cancers are "know-it-alls!" An attribute that men find really unattractive!!
I doubt very seriously somebody is going to give you an exclusive relationship within three dates but hey you can't tell a cancer NOTHING!!!
The worst attribute in a Libra is their indecisiveness, scorpio their proclivity for revenge and Cancers they are "know-it-alls"
You can't tell a cancer nothing it's like talking to a brick wall. The only thing that you can really do with the cancer is give them sympathy but as far as them taking anything that you say in....it ain't Happening! They're worse than a Taurus.
A real leader doesn't block out everything that people say! Cancers are Cardinals - leaders. And I don't see how that's the case... every major CEO that I've ever recruited mastered the art of listening and they take in what their subjects say. A real leader is teachable !
But cancers.... they know everything!!! You can't tell them anything!! ?☺?
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Ok my darlings. All of you who followed me knows where I am coming from...
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Most were telling me 'men never leave their wifes so you have no chance' and I said out of 50% divorces there is no way that's all done by
Can attraction develope over time?
This guy i have met only once, asked for my facebook and messaged me a few times and asked me out for coffee. I am not attracted to him nor do i see him as anything more than a friend. I also though going to get coffee
I'm a Cancer woman that has been in a relationship with a Libra man, the last 5 months. We had been friends for over 3 years, in and out of each other lives. The last time around we had build a very strong foundation and built a relationship from it. Thin
okay so from the talking (casual dating) how long did it take you to get into that relationship? & how long did it last? can you really put a time limit on relationships/marriage?
Not talking about dating, just meeting someone at work place or friend of friend etc. All your friends, colleagues are married, have kids, and then you meet someone new, really like them, and boom they are married too. So unfair that few of us didn't meet
Have you or have you ever known someone who has dyed a cult survivor? What was your experience and how did it effect your relationship?
And I liked it...
When I found out he was 29... something just didn't feel right... so I asked when his last relationship was.. he said like 8-9 months ago. We kissed and it was great. Wasn't long enough. He came to my school during his work break. We
When do some men emotionally withdrawal when falling in love
Virgo man is killing me
Please help me with this guy he is working with me and I like him alot sometimes I can see from his actions that he likes me too even he asked me for my number and he was calling me everyday scary hour and asking about he told m
It just hit me!
When women talking about why men go to men caves and trying to make sense of it...could that be that man has 3 women.
He spends week 1 with one.
Then goes to spend week 2 with second one (thanks pharmaceuticals for condoms)...
Then spe
What the signs crave
Aries: Captivation. Someone who not only captures but holds their flickering flames of interest, someone they can’t look away from if they tried, who melts their hearts with slow burning lava.
Taurus: Fluidity. In the midst of their
No words just this
http://i233.photobucket.com/albums/ee159/lintpicker/WW/bfp-pregnancy-test.jpg
For a partner to hold hands and watch documentaries with. Copious amounts of cheese, cheese based products and alcohol included.
Because that's where I'm at in life.
Any takers?
So, there was the topic the other day about talking to exes. This got me thinking, why would someone not shut that down if they're in a serious relationship?
Is it for the ego boost or just not wanting to hurt them?
Worry about your and following generations!
Women sticking her boobs into your gave, flipping her hair and locking her lips and you are asking what to do?
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Oh guys! This world is doomed! Because of you!