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Long Distance Relationships?
I was in one. We met online and I was in that city for work. She messaged me and we clicked...that's the good news. Bad news, she was basically looking to get out of that town and "start over."
It didn't work. She figured the distance was enough to keep doing what she was doing and keeping me in the dark.
It didn't work. She figured the distance was enough to keep doing what she was doing and keeping me in the dark.
Posted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
I met my Capricorn online..
We clicked the first moment we wrote on the dating site... (I was actually going to give up on the site because all the guys seemed questionable that we're matched to me).. He reached out first.. he was so different than the other men who wrote shit like "You're beautiful.. I wanna take you out etc.." he wrote me "Good morning!" lol! To this day I found that so warm and genuine.. It makes me smile.. thinking back.. We vibed so well. Joking, laughing, talking about our work.. etc. We exchanged numbers that same day and he called me right away.. It was as if we knew each other for years and were catching up on lost times.. Yep, it's true.. That Cap man & scorp woman vibe is the REAL deal..
On our first date (a month after meeting online) we were talking and he told me that he wanted me to be his "lady.."
My first reaction... (shocked look)... seemed to throw him off.. He goes.. "well we don't have to.. I just really like you and I miss having a woman's "touch"..you just so caring and I feel like we just get each other.."
He was single for 3 years before meeting me and dated but said that he never committed to those women.. He said that he felt things with us would be intense and fast.. I wasn't expecting to become "his" on the first date.. BUT something seemed right, this man is everything I want and more and I didn't mind being his right away.. SO we agreed..
We're in month 9 of knowing each other.. 8 months of being together.. There have been bumps in the road... due to distance etc, but we're hanging in there.. I can't see myself with anyone else.
We clicked the first moment we wrote on the dating site... (I was actually going to give up on the site because all the guys seemed questionable that we're matched to me).. He reached out first.. he was so different than the other men who wrote shit like "You're beautiful.. I wanna take you out etc.." he wrote me "Good morning!" lol! To this day I found that so warm and genuine.. It makes me smile.. thinking back.. We vibed so well. Joking, laughing, talking about our work.. etc. We exchanged numbers that same day and he called me right away.. It was as if we knew each other for years and were catching up on lost times.. Yep, it's true.. That Cap man & scorp woman vibe is the REAL deal..
On our first date (a month after meeting online) we were talking and he told me that he wanted me to be his "lady.."
My first reaction... (shocked look)... seemed to throw him off.. He goes.. "well we don't have to.. I just really like you and I miss having a woman's "touch"..you just so caring and I feel like we just get each other.."
He was single for 3 years before meeting me and dated but said that he never committed to those women.. He said that he felt things with us would be intense and fast.. I wasn't expecting to become "his" on the first date.. BUT something seemed right, this man is everything I want and more and I didn't mind being his right away.. SO we agreed..
We're in month 9 of knowing each other.. 8 months of being together.. There have been bumps in the road... due to distance etc, but we're hanging in there.. I can't see myself with anyone else.
I am not exactly in a LDR but..
A friend of mine moved out of state. I was thinking of moving to her state with her. I planned to visit and see what happens from there. Prior to my visit she told me there was a guy that she works with that she wanted to introduce me to. So she gave him my number and we text and called about a month prior to me coming to visit in which I met him.
We ended up spending the whole week together, the 2nd day of meeting him he asked what I wanted as in relationship and we decided to be together... The day I left he told me he wants to just stay friends and talk see what happens (because I have not moved yet)
Anyways long story short I never ended up moving down there but we still talk to this day 2 years later..
I still am crazy about him.
He always backs out when I try to come visit and recently I confronted him and he told me he thinks about being with me but he is scared of a relationship and also does not want to mess up what we have as friends.
He has told me he really cares bout me and loves me before.
A friend of mine moved out of state. I was thinking of moving to her state with her. I planned to visit and see what happens from there. Prior to my visit she told me there was a guy that she works with that she wanted to introduce me to. So she gave him my number and we text and called about a month prior to me coming to visit in which I met him.
We ended up spending the whole week together, the 2nd day of meeting him he asked what I wanted as in relationship and we decided to be together... The day I left he told me he wants to just stay friends and talk see what happens (because I have not moved yet)
Anyways long story short I never ended up moving down there but we still talk to this day 2 years later..
I still am crazy about him.
He always backs out when I try to come visit and recently I confronted him and he told me he thinks about being with me but he is scared of a relationship and also does not want to mess up what we have as friends.
He has told me he really cares bout me and loves me before.
What's the point? all set with that.
I was in a ldr with a army boy. Never again. My Taurus Venus/cap mars NEEDS physical contact and intimacy to be consistent. Not being able to see my lover for 6months plus isn't for me.
I'm in one, didn't think it would ever happen as I'm big on needing to feel the chemistry with someone in person but I came across him on Instagram and we started chatting and ironically I actually felt chemistry through out exchanges. After a month he face timed with his family so I could meet his mom/dad/siblings and his friends know about me.
He recently moved to the state I'm from and I was always planning to move back so the distance won't be an issue as I'm moving back soon.
He recently moved to the state I'm from and I was always planning to move back so the distance won't be an issue as I'm moving back soon.
Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
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Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
Posted by LadyNeptune
I was in a ldr with a army boy. Never again. My Taurus Venus/cap mars NEEDS physical contact and intimacy to be consistent. Not being able to see my lover for 6months plus isn't for me.
I was in one.......never again for me. Apart from the huge financial drain, i agree with Lady, having to wait long period of times to be together sucks
Posted by poison_ivyAww, good luck hun xx
I met my Capricorn online..
We clicked the first moment we wrote on the dating site... (I was actually going to give up on the site because all the guys seemed questionable that we're matched to me).. He reached out first.. he was so different than the other men who wrote shit like "You're beautiful.. I wanna take you out etc.." he wrote me "Good morning!" lol! To this day I found that so warm and genuine.. It makes me smile.. thinking back.. We vibed so well. Joking, laughing, talking about our work.. etc. We exchanged numbers that same day and he called me right away.. It was as if we knew each other for years and were catching up on lost times.. Yep, it's true.. That Cap man & scorp woman vibe is the REAL deal..
On our first date (a month after meeting online) we were talking and he told me that he wanted me to be his "lady.."
My first reaction... (shocked look)... seemed to throw him off.. He goes.. "well we don't have to.. I just really like you and I miss having a woman's "touch"..you just so caring and I feel like we just get each other.."
He was single for 3 years before meeting me and dated but said that he never committed to those women.. He said that he felt things with us would be intense and fast.. I wasn't expecting to become "his" on the first date.. BUT something seemed right, this man is everything I want and more and I didn't mind being his right away.. SO we agreed..
We're in month 9 of knowing each other.. 8 months of being together.. There have been bumps in the road... due to distance etc, but we're hanging in there.. I can't see myself with anyone else.
Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
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That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.click to expand
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
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Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
I think the other thing that can be an issue is the illusion that can be created by seeing someone rarely. You never really get to know the person as you would seeing them regularly
The one I was in fed in beautifully to my Sun-Neptune conjunction...I was able to both yearn during separation and set up a clouded perception of that person
The one I was in fed in beautifully to my Sun-Neptune conjunction...I was able to both yearn during separation and set up a clouded perception of that person
Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—click to expand
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
Posted by CopperDoveDid you ever try online dating tho?? The ones which start as online LDRs I mean. I infer these people have been your friends before the dating phase. How do you think the ones that start online work for you? The risk of not knowing the person personally and the risk of distance...how do you think you can deal with it?Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
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I'm in a LDR for 2 years now and we're doing great
Never thought about it before, it happened naturally online through a forum talking about photography.
Went to see each other 4 months after and haven't stopped since.
Admittedly it's not always easy, like when I had my stroke last august and he couldn't be here instantly or now that he is ill and has to have surgery, but we try to stay in touch and stay updated.
We're both not big talkers and go mostly by what feels good..we figure as long as we have the same goal and keep each others feelings in consideration we can make anything work.
I'm a leo and he is virgo
Never thought about it before, it happened naturally online through a forum talking about photography.
Went to see each other 4 months after and haven't stopped since.
Admittedly it's not always easy, like when I had my stroke last august and he couldn't be here instantly or now that he is ill and has to have surgery, but we try to stay in touch and stay updated.
We're both not big talkers and go mostly by what feels good..we figure as long as we have the same goal and keep each others feelings in consideration we can make anything work.
I'm a leo and he is virgo
Posted by piscespoppyThanks love! 🙂Posted by poison_ivyAww, good luck hun xx
I met my Capricorn online..
We clicked the first moment we wrote on the dating site... (I was actually going to give up on the site because all the guys seemed questionable that we're matched to me).. He reached out first.. he was so different than the other men who wrote shit like "You're beautiful.. I wanna take you out etc.." he wrote me "Good morning!" lol! To this day I found that so warm and genuine.. It makes me smile.. thinking back.. We vibed so well. Joking, laughing, talking about our work.. etc. We exchanged numbers that same day and he called me right away.. It was as if we knew each other for years and were catching up on lost times.. Yep, it's true.. That Cap man & scorp woman vibe is the REAL deal..
On our first date (a month after meeting online) we were talking and he told me that he wanted me to be his "lady.."
My first reaction... (shocked look)... seemed to throw him off.. He goes.. "well we don't have to.. I just really like you and I miss having a woman's "touch"..you just so caring and I feel like we just get each other.."
He was single for 3 years before meeting me and dated but said that he never committed to those women.. He said that he felt things with us would be intense and fast.. I wasn't expecting to become "his" on the first date.. BUT something seemed right, this man is everything I want and more and I didn't mind being his right away.. SO we agreed..
We're in month 9 of knowing each other.. 8 months of being together.. There have been bumps in the road... due to distance etc, but we're hanging in there.. I can't see myself with anyone else.click to expand
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Posted by TeenaYes. It was via online dating that I met the two people I had LDRs with. We got to know each other via e-mail and phone long before we met. We established a friendship, nothing more, during that time. We were cautious and realistic about that.Posted by CopperDoveDid you ever try online dating tho?? The ones which start as online LDRs I mean. I infer these people have been your friends before the dating phase. How do you think the ones that start online work for you? The risk of not knowing the person personally and the risk of distance...how do you think you can deal with it?Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
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I did quite well with online dating compared to what some people experience. I was careful about which sites I joined, and how I went about it. Out of 9 people I agreed to meet in person, I dated 3 for several months, and I became friends with 2. I'm still in touch with one of those friends. I was in touch with one of the LDR men as friends for many years too, after we broke up I mean.
If you ever want to try online dating, let me know and I'll share some tips that helped me and some of my friends who did it. 🙂
Posted by CopperDoveOh wow! So it started off online?? Awesome!! How​ long did you continue it on phones n emails before you guys actually met? When was the point you decided to commit to eachother? Before or after meeting in person?Posted by TeenaYes. It was via online dating that I met the two people I had LDRs with. We got to know each other via e-mail and phone long before we met. We established a friendship, nothing more, during that time. We were cautious and realistic about that.Posted by CopperDoveDid you ever try online dating tho?? The ones which start as online LDRs I mean. I infer these people have been your friends before the dating phase. How do you think the ones that start online work for you? The risk of not knowing the person personally and the risk of distance...how do you think you can deal with it?Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
I did quite well with online dating compared to what some people experience. I was careful about which sites I joined, and how I went about it. Out of 9 people I agreed to meet in person, I dated 3 for several months, and I became friends with 2. I'm still in touch with one of those friends. I was in touch with one of the LDR men as friends for many years too, after we broke up I mean.
If you ever want to try online dating, let me know and I'll share some tips that helped me and some of my friends who did it. 🙂
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That's cool that you're friends with one of the guys still.
Haha. Sure. But I don't know. Online LDRs seem scarier than LDRs in general. Let's say a whole different continent. Who knows what we're setting ourselves up for? Huge risk...there should be a lottt of love n willingness to work against all the odds from both the sides.
Posted by TeenaYes, it started online. I arranged a phone call with both of them not long into corresponding via e-mail because I learned not to e-mail for too long with people before doing that. Hearing a person's voice and having a conversation can be quite different from e-mailing, and then meeting in person can be different too. Both of them were honest straight forward people and how they came across on the phone, and in person, wasn't much different from how they were in e-mail.Posted by CopperDoveOh wow! So it started off online?? Awesome!! How​ long did you continue it on phones n emails before you guys actually met? When was the point you decided to commit to eachother? Before or after meeting in person?Posted by TeenaYes. It was via online dating that I met the two people I had LDRs with. We got to know each other via e-mail and phone long before we met. We established a friendship, nothing more, during that time. We were cautious and realistic about that.Posted by CopperDoveDid you ever try online dating tho?? The ones which start as online LDRs I mean. I infer these people have been your friends before the dating phase. How do you think the ones that start online work for you? The risk of not knowing the person personally and the risk of distance...how do you think you can deal with it?Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
I did quite well with online dating compared to what some people experience. I was careful about which sites I joined, and how I went about it. Out of 9 people I agreed to meet in person, I dated 3 for several months, and I became friends with 2. I'm still in touch with one of those friends. I was in touch with one of the LDR men as friends for many years too, after we broke up I mean.
If you ever want to try online dating, let me know and I'll share some tips that helped me and some of my friends who did it. 🙂
That's cool that you're friends with one of the guys still.
Haha. Sure. But I don't know. Online LDRs seem scarier than LDRs in general. Let's say a whole different continent. Who knows what we're setting ourselves up for? Huge risk...there should be a lottt of love n willingness to work against all the odds from both the sides.click to expand
It was about 1-2 months of writing and calls before meeting in person. Then, after meeting in person for the second time, we decided to be exclusive with dating each other and we took our online dating profiles down. No way would I commit to anyone if I didn't know them in person, and they were the same. Also, our e-mails had been more like letters, the old fashioned way - not short things, they were long. Phone calls were long. We did a LOT of talking, lol.
Yes, with vast distance it's different. The men I dated could visit me regularly. We were in the same region in the world, roughly.
Posted by CopperDoveThat's nice that they've been transparent right from the beginning. It's a good sign they haven't been much different on phone n in person.Posted by TeenaYes, it started online. I arranged a phone call with both of them not long into corresponding via e-mail because I learned not to e-mail for too long with people before doing that. Hearing a person's voice and having a conversation can be quite different from e-mailing, and then meeting in person can be different too. Both of them were honest straight forward people and how they came across on the phone, and in person, wasn't much different from how they were in e-mail.Posted by CopperDoveOh wow! So it started off online?? Awesome!! How​ long did you continue it on phones n emails before you guys actually met? When was the point you decided to commit to eachother? Before or after meeting in person?Posted by TeenaYes. It was via online dating that I met the two people I had LDRs with. We got to know each other via e-mail and phone long before we met. We established a friendship, nothing more, during that time. We were cautious and realistic about that.Posted by CopperDoveDid you ever try online dating tho?? The ones which start as online LDRs I mean. I infer these people have been your friends before the dating phase. How do you think the ones that start online work for you? The risk of not knowing the person personally and the risk of distance...how do you think you can deal with it?Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
I did quite well with online dating compared to what some people experience. I was careful about which sites I joined, and how I went about it. Out of 9 people I agreed to meet in person, I dated 3 for several months, and I became friends with 2. I'm still in touch with one of those friends. I was in touch with one of the LDR men as friends for many years too, after we broke up I mean.
If you ever want to try online dating, let me know and I'll share some tips that helped me and some of my friends who did it. 🙂
That's cool that you're friends with one of the guys still.
Haha. Sure. But I don't know. Online LDRs seem scarier than LDRs in general. Let's say a whole different continent. Who knows what we're setting ourselves up for? Huge risk...there should be a lottt of love n willingness to work against all the odds from both the sides.
It was about 1-2 months of writing and calls before meeting in person. Then, after meeting in person for the second time, we decided to be exclusive with dating each other and we took our online dating profiles down. No way would I commit to anyone if I didn't know them in person, and they were the same. Also, our e-mails had been more like letters, the old fashioned way - not short things, they were long. Phone calls were long. We did a LOT of talking, lol.
Yes, with vast distance it's different. The men I dated could visit me regularly. We were in the same region in the world, roughly.click to expand
2months of writing n calls doesn't sound bad. Some may take years to meet coz of distance n uncertainty. There was such story on dxp n after the girl finally went to meet the guy, he treated her like sh*t. She was in a complete different place n didn't see it coming at all. Very heartbreaking.
I can imagine how the emails and the talking went 😉
Yeah distance does change a lot of things.
I was in one. Lasted about 9 months, and we had known each other 10 years ago. He made it work more than me and I walked away. Even if we saw each other once a month I needed the daily. I want to do the little things together. Not the grandiose once a month weekends. It didn't feel real enough.
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I was in one. Lasted about 9 months, and we had known each other 10 years ago. He made it work more than me and I walked away. Even if we saw each other once a month I needed the daily. I want to do the little things together. Not the grandiose once a month weekends. It didn't feel real enough.
You're right it isn't real....there is a fantasy element involved in an LDR
Posted by TeenaYes, it's the WYSIWYG trait I go for that really helps in situations like that. The time to determine whether the relationship had potential to work longer term with those men was similar, or faster, than how long it took me with people I could meet in person more often.Posted by CopperDoveThat's nice that they've been transparent right from the beginning. It's a good sign they haven't been much different on phone n in person.Posted by TeenaYes, it started online. I arranged a phone call with both of them not long into corresponding via e-mail because I learned not to e-mail for too long with people before doing that. Hearing a person's voice and having a conversation can be quite different from e-mailing, and then meeting in person can be different too. Both of them were honest straight forward people and how they came across on the phone, and in person, wasn't much different from how they were in e-mail.Posted by CopperDoveOh wow! So it started off online?? Awesome!! How​ long did you continue it on phones n emails before you guys actually met? When was the point you decided to commit to eachother? Before or after meeting in person?Posted by TeenaYes. It was via online dating that I met the two people I had LDRs with. We got to know each other via e-mail and phone long before we met. We established a friendship, nothing more, during that time. We were cautious and realistic about that.Posted by CopperDoveDid you ever try online dating tho?? The ones which start as online LDRs I mean. I infer these people have been your friends before the dating phase. How do you think the ones that start online work for you? The risk of not knowing the person personally and the risk of distance...how do you think you can deal with it?Posted by TeenaFor one of them it was about a 4 hour drive. He loved to drive so he didn't mind. Less expensive than a plane, definitely.Posted by CopperDoveIf they could travel by car, it's not too far I guess. Less expensive too. Yeah, there should be a certain definite point where one is willing to move. I dunno if I can work with the uncertainty.Posted by TeenaYes, same. The traveling in LDRs can be a big problem if the distance is vast.Posted by CopperDoveYes. I like the space concept in LDRs sure. I know I can make them work too. I don't need constant personal contact to keep it going. But I need to know the guy personally for a while before rather than just the online exchanges to seriously commit.Posted by TeenaPosted by SecretLOL!! Lot of work! Me n @Copperdove are fans tho. But one doesn't know the point where it can actually be called a *relationship* or how seriously it can be taken if we don't know eachother in person n never met before or don't know when we're gonna meet.. Talking about the ones which start online.
@Teena
Yes, exactly. 🙂
Long distance friendships can work very well for me. Romantic relationships are trickier because in-person contact is so important to truly get to know the person. Sexual chemistry isn't something that can, for me, be determined without physical contact.
I've been in 2 LDRs that started out as friendships. Both men could travel to meet me in person fairly regularly. We kept in touch in between visits almost every day with e-mails and phone calls. The phone calls were often long (3 hrs). Video wasn't an option at the time. I'm sure that video helps a lot with people who are in LDRs now -- it's good to see a person's expressions and movements when talking, to get a sense of who they really are.
I can't say that distance was a big factor for it not working out with the 2 LDRs I was in. It was other differences that are part of the natural discovery process when dating people. Men I date tend to be very up front -- honest to the point of being tactless at times, lol. I guess you could say that I like men who are fairly WYSIWYG in that way, and that's very helpful with LDRs when you can't see a person to observe them regularly, IMO.
That's the tricky part. Traveling to see eachother.It can be suchha pain. I'd rather just move tbh. I don't wanna feel like some holiday treat to him or something if it started off online ? Video calls is an advantage now yes.
Lol! How were they tactless? And I agree. WYSIWYG is very important.
In my 2 LDRs, the men often traveled to the area I lived in, by car, anyway (one for business, the other because he had friends in the area). Eventually, if it seemed that things could work out long term, the plan was that one or both of us would move.
haha, yes, many men I've dated have unintentionally offended some people by being tactless. They weren't mean spirited, they just revealed their thoughts in a blunt way. For the most part it didn't happen when I knew them because they had learned to curb it.
One of the biggest mistakes one of them made was to tell a woman he was friends with that another woman he knew was more attractive than her. She didn't ask for his opinion, it just came out of his mouth based on the context of whatever they were talking about. He didn't think anything of it in the moment. From his point of view, he was just stating a fact. He didn't think of the emotional impact. He felt bad about it later.
Haha. I'm not a fan of too blunt ppl tbh. I'm​ all about "If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Woahhh!! I feel bad for him!!! Lol!! Saying some woman is attractive is one thing.. But saying she's more attractive than her is a whole different one. We don't compare, do we—
Yes, the blunt people I've known have learned, over time, to think a bit more before speaking. They for the most part wouldn't make remarks that hurt people, but with the comparison comment that one guy made, definitely it upset the person.
I did quite well with online dating compared to what some people experience. I was careful about which sites I joined, and how I went about it. Out of 9 people I agreed to meet in person, I dated 3 for several months, and I became friends with 2. I'm still in touch with one of those friends. I was in touch with one of the LDR men as friends for many years too, after we broke up I mean.
If you ever want to try online dating, let me know and I'll share some tips that helped me and some of my friends who did it. 🙂
That's cool that you're friends with one of the guys still.
Haha. Sure. But I don't know. Online LDRs seem scarier than LDRs in general. Let's say a whole different continent. Who knows what we're setting ourselves up for? Huge risk...there should be a lottt of love n willingness to work against all the odds from both the sides.
It was about 1-2 months of writing and calls before meeting in person. Then, after meeting in person for the second time, we decided to be exclusive with dating each other and we took our online dating profiles down. No way would I commit to anyone if I didn't know them in person, and they were the same. Also, our e-mails had been more like letters, the old fashioned way - not short things, they were long. Phone calls were long. We did a LOT of talking, lol.
Yes, with vast distance it's different. The men I dated could visit me regularly. We were in the same region in the world, roughly.
2months of writing n calls doesn't sound bad. Some may take years to meet coz of distance n uncertainty. There was such story on dxp n after the girl finally went to meet the guy, he treated her like sh*t. She was in a complete different place n didn't see it coming at all. Very heartbreaking.
I can imagine how the emails and the talking went 😉
Yeah distance does change a lot of things.click to expand
One fun thing that I did with one of the men was to trade "endorsements" written by our best friends. Sure, if our friends were liars that wouldn't work, but they weren't. It was fun to read about each other through the eyes of the best friend. I think the guy's best friend did a good job of describing him and he thought the same of what my best friend at the time wrote about me.
Yes, there are some sad situations for sure. My LDRs weren't very long distance. I could meet the people fairly often compared to what you usually read about LDRs. I wouldn't have a LDR if the distance was farther from me than what I dealt with, unless the man was wealthy enough to fly to me regularly. Or, if by some miracle Star Trek beaming technology was possible and safe. lol
@CopperDove
Woah! Now that's new.. they taking lesser time I mean.l think it's because you guys already know what you want n where you are heading. While, when you meet someone randomly outside, you'll go through more phases before you reach there. I dunno if that made sense.
Wow lol!! I absolutely loved the endorsements concept. Sounds very vintage. I think ppl back then used that kinda communication. Must have been fun 😄
LOL @Star trek beaming technology. They sure are risky yes.
Woah! Now that's new.. they taking lesser time I mean.l think it's because you guys already know what you want n where you are heading. While, when you meet someone randomly outside, you'll go through more phases before you reach there. I dunno if that made sense.
Wow lol!! I absolutely loved the endorsements concept. Sounds very vintage. I think ppl back then used that kinda communication. Must have been fun 😄
LOL @Star trek beaming technology. They sure are risky yes.
Posted by TeenaYes, I think that's the case with why it can take less time - what you wrote makes sense.
@CopperDove
Woah! Now that's new.. they taking lesser time I mean.l think it's because you guys already know what you want n where you are heading. While, when you meet someone randomly outside, you'll go through more phases before you reach there. I dunno if that made sense.
Wow lol!! I absolutely loved the endorsements concept. Sounds very vintage. I think ppl back then used that kinda communication. Must have been fun 😄
LOL @Star trek beaming technology. They sure are risky yes.
True, it was kind of vintage with the endorsements - fun for sure. 🙂
haha, yes, even if Star Trek beaming became possible it would take me a while to be able to trust I'd make it through intact -- I wouldn't do it until it was long established that it was safe.
Posted by CopperDoveHaha!I think with all our trust issues , you still had great LDR experiences. I don't think I can pull 'em off?Posted by TeenaYes, I think that's the case with why it can take less time - what you wrote makes sense.
@CopperDove
Woah! Now that's new.. they taking lesser time I mean.l think it's because you guys already know what you want n where you are heading. While, when you meet someone randomly outside, you'll go through more phases before you reach there. I dunno if that made sense.
Wow lol!! I absolutely loved the endorsements concept. Sounds very vintage. I think ppl back then used that kinda communication. Must have been fun 😄
LOL @Star trek beaming technology. They sure are risky yes.
True, it was kind of vintage with the endorsements - fun for sure. 🙂
haha, yes, even if Star Trek beaming became possible it would take me a while to be able to trust I'd make it through intact -- I wouldn't do it until it was long established that it was safe.
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