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Posted by Gobbie
Just put down your treetrunking smartphone and use it for what a mobile phone was originally intended for - for calling and texting people.
#endofthread
I personally don't like calling or texting people. I just use my smartphone to take pictures, surf the web, online shop, join online communities to understand the mentalities of other humans.
We are living in a world of instant gratification. Do you want food right now? UberEats. Do you want a taxi right now? Uber. Do you want to love right now? Dating app. Do you want social information on someone right now? Social media. Do you want that new toy? Online shopping. Don't have the money to afford it right now? Afterpay it.
We want things now and not later. Real relationships take time to develop. Our generation has been told 'don't ever settle' because of FOBO (fear of better options) when there is often the next best thing around the corner. Let's look at phones, for example, a new phone is being released every three months. Let's look at dating apps, there is always someone better looking, smarter and richer - one swipe away.
BUT one thing that we cannot make instantly, is the connection of a human relationship. That is why so many people in our generation keep on changing jobs every 3/6 months to look for something better. The same goes for relationships. Girls keep on flaking on guys or via verse because of the abundance of instant selection.
Studies conducted by Iyengar and Lepper (1999, 2000) found that those provided with fewer options in a decision-making task derived greater satisfaction from their decision outcomes.
*According to research, the “fear of better options”, a phenomenon also called “*maximization” is the relentless pursuit of all possible options for fear that you’ll miss out on the “best” one, leading to indecision, frustration, stress, regret, and unhappiness.
We want things now and not later. Real relationships take time to develop. Our generation has been told 'don't ever settle' because of FOBO (fear of better options) when there is often the next best thing around the corner. Let's look at phones, for example, a new phone is being released every three months. Let's look at dating apps, there is always someone better looking, smarter and richer - one swipe away.
BUT one thing that we cannot make instantly, is the connection of a human relationship. That is why so many people in our generation keep on changing jobs every 3/6 months to look for something better. The same goes for relationships. Girls keep on flaking on guys or via verse because of the abundance of instant selection.
Studies conducted by Iyengar and Lepper (1999, 2000) found that those provided with fewer options in a decision-making task derived greater satisfaction from their decision outcomes.
*According to research, the “fear of better options”, a phenomenon also called “*maximization” is the relentless pursuit of all possible options for fear that you’ll miss out on the “best” one, leading to indecision, frustration, stress, regret, and unhappiness.
Posted by peachy06
" making some people feel like they deserve the best of the best" that's my motto.
Do you have any specific criteria of what that would contain?
Posted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Did you want them to last longer? Did you and your partners have similar long term goals?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by GobbiePosted by alexscariesPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Same problem here. I've got a theory it's due to hypersexualisation.
The seven year itch is a myth. More like the four year itch.
That's just the pubic lice.click to expand
A man goes to a prostitute and later he finds out he has crabs. When he goes back to complain, the prostitute says "It was only five dollars, what did you expect, lobster?"
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by GobbiePosted by alexscariesPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Same problem here. I've got a theory it's due to hypersexualisation.
The seven year itch is a myth. More like the four year itch.
That's just the pubic lice.
A man goes to a prostitute and later he finds out he has crabs. When he goes back to complain, the prostitute says "It was only five dollars, what did you expect, lobster?"
Good one.
What did the leper say to the prostitute?
Keep the tip.click to expand
😂
Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by alexscariesPosted by Reincarnation2
Marriage rates at an all time low. Birth rates at an all time low.
Not amongst Muslim men. They got it right 8 wives to cook and clean.
Yeah Islam is kicking our ass.
Their women are super happy. 5+ kids. They laugh at feminism.
Meanwhile Western women fornicate. Sterile sex.click to expand
Doubt it .... being treated like a second class citizen isnt everyones idea of happiness
Posted by Reincarnation2
Marriage rates at an all time low. Birth rates at an all time low.
Didn't Bill Gates say we need to reduce the population?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Reincarnation2
Marriage rates at an all time low. Birth rates at an all time low.
Didn't Bill Gates say we need to reduce the population?
Loads of people did. Even the UN.click to expand
Do you think it’ll end up like China where only one or two children are allowed....wouldn’t surprise me
Or, alternatively...
"Illusion of too many options making some people feel like they deserve the best of the best so they keep swiping left whilst complaining no one is good enough?" AKA high standards
Constantly looking for that surreal spark right from the beginning only to find out it means jackshit down the road? Valuing chemistry despite past disappointments
People getting bored of their existing relationships without working on ways to improve/spice it up so they rather put forth external effort and cheat?lol can't really defend this one but I'll give it a go. Wanting to know there grass is greener so you can get the courage to leave
People trying to win over men/women in existing relationships to feel good about themselves being a huge catch?this one is a tough sell. Perhaps were lied to and told person was single and now feelings are involved and its hard to detach
Why can't people be normal and healthy?
Does it not exhaust people to frequently date and be in new relationships so often?
Do people really see others that easily disposable from their lives?
Is the idea of desiring stability and building on it becoming more unpopular?your idea of normal and healthy is not a one size fits all. Some don't mind constantly starting over because they don't need a relationship, its something they want. Its an enhancement to their life, not a necessity. If you know its not right pretty pointless to stay and build on something you will ultimately only become more unhappy with.
Its easy to judge others from where we sit but the reality is no two people have the same journey or perspective. And thats ok too.
I heard something pretty hilarious the other day. Older dude, never been married, says something along the lines of "I've waited a long time to get married and now I will be more successful at it because I have less time left to f it up"
"Illusion of too many options making some people feel like they deserve the best of the best so they keep swiping left whilst complaining no one is good enough?" AKA high standards
Constantly looking for that surreal spark right from the beginning only to find out it means jackshit down the road? Valuing chemistry despite past disappointments
People getting bored of their existing relationships without working on ways to improve/spice it up so they rather put forth external effort and cheat?lol can't really defend this one but I'll give it a go. Wanting to know there grass is greener so you can get the courage to leave
People trying to win over men/women in existing relationships to feel good about themselves being a huge catch?this one is a tough sell. Perhaps were lied to and told person was single and now feelings are involved and its hard to detach
Why can't people be normal and healthy?
Does it not exhaust people to frequently date and be in new relationships so often?
Do people really see others that easily disposable from their lives?
Is the idea of desiring stability and building on it becoming more unpopular?your idea of normal and healthy is not a one size fits all. Some don't mind constantly starting over because they don't need a relationship, its something they want. Its an enhancement to their life, not a necessity. If you know its not right pretty pointless to stay and build on something you will ultimately only become more unhappy with.
Its easy to judge others from where we sit but the reality is no two people have the same journey or perspective. And thats ok too.
I heard something pretty hilarious the other day. Older dude, never been married, says something along the lines of "I've waited a long time to get married and now I will be more successful at it because I have less time left to f it up"
I'm past the whole perfect relationship thing. My my 20s that was 100% me though. Tbh the idea of a relationship in general is kind of off putting to me. Like there isn't much I would even get out of one. I don't need someone to help me pay bills, or cook, or clean. I do all that myself. I don't really have the want to procreate, which I won't go on one of my long rants about that one. I don't even need sex, though it is really enjoyable and use to really matter to me. Sex isn't everything, and I can pleasure myself for much less effort. I realize human connection is important whether I can see or feel that.
I hate learning trivial info about someone but then you break up and now you have all these info that you don't quite know what to do with
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
Posted by SassyKiwi
Illusion of too many options making some people feel like they deserve the best of the best so they keep swiping left whilst complaining no one is good enough?
Constantly looking for that surreal spark right from the beginning only to find out it means jackshit down the road?
People getting bored of their existing relationships without working on ways to improve/spice it up so they rather put forth external effort and cheat?
People trying to win over men/women in existing relationships to feel good about themselves being a huge catch?
Why can't people be normal and healthy?
Does it not exhaust people to frequently date and be in new relationships so often?
Do people really see others that easily disposable from their lives?
Is the idea of desiring stability and building on it becoming more unpopular?
You are married, so you say. You should be concerned with keeping that together.
As for your questions:
There is no illusion of too many options. There are too many options for some.
Your second question is silly so I’m skipping that.
“Put forth external effort”? Huh? Cheating has been a thing for centuries. It’s not going away anytime soon.
Normalcy is subjective. People don’t have to live up to your idea of normalcy. What is considered a norm can change over time. Kind of like how women could be beaten by their husbands without any consequences.
Obviously it doesn’t if they keep doing it.
Most are easily disposable if they do not provide any substance.
Posted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
Posted by CookieMonster123Posted by virgoOPPP
I hate learning trivial info about someone but then you break up and now you have all these info that you don't quite know what to do with
What?click to expand
idk but I just wanna live in a world where I don't thirst for Capricorn men
don't even care about their bad hair growth astro genetics
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by CookieMonster123Posted by virgoOPPP
I hate learning trivial info about someone but then you break up and now you have all these info that you don't quite know what to do with
What?
idk but I just wanna live in a world where I don't thirst for Capricorn men
don't even care about their bad hair growth astro geneticsclick to expand
Your safe unless your Pisces female
Posted by TruemaraPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by CookieMonster123Posted by virgoOPPP
I hate learning trivial info about someone but then you break up and now you have all these info that you don't quite know what to do with
What?
idk but I just wanna live in a world where I don't thirst for Capricorn men
don't even care about their bad hair growth astro genetics
Your safe unless your Pisces femaleclick to expand
What d'you mean?
Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
Wow.
And these are the very ladies who always laughed at my advice. Forever alone. Unmarried.click to expand
You are also forever alone and unmarried. Perhaps that's why people laugh at you giving advice. Its like getting marriage counselling from someone divorced 3xs.
I guess even a broken clock is right 2xs a day
Posted by MaxianPosted by Reincarnation2Posted by MaxianPosted by alexscariesPosted by GobbiePosted by alexscariesPosted by Reincarnation2
Marriage rates at an all time low. Birth rates at an all time low.
Not amongst Muslim men. They got it right 8 wives to cook and clean.
LOL! I can imagine all the female dxpers foaming at the mouth, whilst reading that. 😆
Why? Because they can't cook? ☺️
Leave Cancers out of this 😛
Post pics or it didn't happen.
Whatever!click to expand
Rein is looking for a Cancer wife to father his 10 children
It could be Yoo-hoo 😂
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Reincarnation2Posted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
Wow.
And these are the very ladies who always laughed at my advice. Forever alone. Unmarried.
You are also forever alone and unmarried. Perhaps that's why people laugh at you giving advice. Its like getting marriage counselling from someone divorced 3xs.click to expand
....or who has never been married 🥴
Marriage doesn’t make all women happy and fulfilled ... in some(+) cases it is tantamount to
hell
😬
hell
😬
IDK but some women might not wanna ruin their figures. Or maybe they fear the concept of no longer being able to live their lives with so many kids involved. Pretty convenient if you're having fertility issues too. Maybe their sense of self-worth and accomplishment's connected to their profession. And maybe some other women just want to be with taken men, like they don't wanna be married at all. You'll always be romanticized/pedestaled in the affair fog- always the more interesting and desirable. You're never seen as the mundane, limiting every day of bills and groceries. And if he pisses you off, you can always send him home. You're not responsible nor stuck with this man when he stops being what you want. And what's there to carry against your conscience? He's the one who made that choice over HIS commitment and you just happen to be there.
I'm never really bored with one person. The idea of meeting someone new all the time, is what gives me anxiety, so instead I just take long to get to know one person.
But that didn't give me good dating history, I don't know if that is an issue or not.
I can't tell if I'm missing out on someone better by being with the guy I decided to stick with. But I hate looking and dealing with people's shit.
I think dating a lot of people really messes with your head.
I don't want to be used to being single. I like having a partner.
But that didn't give me good dating history, I don't know if that is an issue or not.
I can't tell if I'm missing out on someone better by being with the guy I decided to stick with. But I hate looking and dealing with people's shit.
I think dating a lot of people really messes with your head.
I don't want to be used to being single. I like having a partner.
Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
Wow.
And these are the very ladies who always laughed at my advice. Forever alone. Unmarried.click to expand
Your “advice “ is rooted in hurt and bitterness
Commitment is a choice. It takes two people to choose each other AND commitment at the same time.
Difficult, but not impossible. Plenty of committed couples out there.
Difficult, but not impossible. Plenty of committed couples out there.
Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?click to expand
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
Posted by alexscaries
Is the problem self esteem or big egos? I know the two can be related, but they're not the same thing.
Both
Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 centsclick to expand
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"click to expand
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.click to expand
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".
Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".click to expand
It’s definitely that logical Aqua Venus that places importance on care than sex.
I don’t really want kids either though but my reasons are different.
Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".click to expand
I agree....family is the most important and precious thing there is in life ❤️
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".
I agree....family is the most important and precious thing there is in life ❤️click to expand
Family isn’t always the most precious thing in life. Some people have toxic families/children and friends end up being their precious thing in life.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".
I agree....family is the most important and precious thing there is in life ❤️
Family isn’t always the most precious thing in life. Some people have toxic families/children and friends end up being their precious thing in life.click to expand
Very true
But i meant for me .....
Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".
It’s definitely that logical Aqua Venus that places importance on care than sex.
I don’t really want kids either though but my reasons are different.click to expand
It has always been difficult as an Aqua venus for me to get into flings. Like I've NEVER liked any form of relationship even friendships for that matter which are fake and shallow and of no real meaning.
As far as kids, well I'm in my 20s and still have some time for marrying and settling down, but I'm definitely up for it.
Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".
It’s definitely that logical Aqua Venus that places importance on care than sex.
I don’t really want kids either though but my reasons are different.
It has always been difficult as an Aqua venus for me to get into flings. Like I've NEVER liked any form of relationship even friendships for that matter which are fake and shallow and of no real meaning.
As far as kids, well I'm in my 20s and still have some time for marrying and settling down, but I'm definitely up for it.click to expand
You are speaking to my soul in the first paragraph. I’m the same way!! I can’t fake people who are overly concerned with appearing good as opposed to actually being good.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
Idk i feel like new woman are scams
They are, but they paid good money for it!
Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09Posted by SitusInversus27Posted by aquarius09
The problem is low self-esteem in people. Fix that in people and problem solved. That can only be solved with proper parenting/nurturing and that’s what’s missing.
But the problem is these days people seem to want a "finished product" when they don't understand that no one is ever perfect, everyone is always improving and making mistakes, and if there ever was someone "perfect" why the hell would they be with you?
While there is truth to what you’re saying, I think people have destroyed their psyche themselves by serial dating or sleeping around. The more you bounce around, the more distrustful you become of people and the more that becomes your habit. People are broken from the inside and that innate part of every human being that wants a savior looks to their new dates/sex buddy to save them. No one wants to work on their demons and then join dating. That’s just my 2 cents
That's my 2 cents as well, so it probably makes it 4 cents. xD
Nonetheless, yeah what you're saying makes sense. People want to fuck but don't want the emotional baggage that comes around behind that 'fuck' like really?
If you want something seriously intimate with a human being then be willing to share their burden and if you want something with no burden at all then don't whine and cry "Oh I'm all alone, Where are all the good men/women at?"
People have forgotten their death. One day you will get sick or be dying and you need someone you have built something with to take care of you. Ain’t no fuck buddy or temporary partner going to stick around to take care of you. Maybe if people thought this way, they would start investing rather than just focus on the itch down there.
Maybe it’s all that Aqua in me that makes me too cerebral and not enough emotional to say that people behave like sex is everything when there is far more to life than that.
You and I both share an Aqua venus so maybe that's the reason for our similar views, or maybe it's just the experiences we've had in life that have shaped this thought process.
I feel nothing but petty for people as young as 18 or 20 who say "To hell with kids, I'm never gonna have kids" Well..good luck with that when you're 40 or 50 and have no one who gives a fuck about you, someone you can call "family".click to expand
As revolutionary as it might seem you don’t need to give birth to someone to have them give a fuck about you. And sharing dna is not a guarantee for a relationship.
Plenty of parents and children who don’t have anything to do with each other.
Chosen family > blood relatives, always.
And as far as belittling your peers for not wanting to have children like you. You should be grateful to them. Less kids means more resources for your spawn to fight over in the impending water wars.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREALPosted by saggurl88Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
Idk i feel like new woman are scams
They are, but they paid good money for it!
i want to feel realclick to expand
Close your eyes and use your imagination 💭 🥴
If it doesn’t work, keep trying
Fake it till you make it, Pinocchio! 🤥 🧵🪡
Posted by nanobotzPosted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
I feel like the more BS you’ve tolerated, the less you’re willing to tolerate going forth. My patience is so low generally 🤏🏼 Because my peace means too much to me. But tbh the threshold goes up a lot for me if I’m super into someone. Even if it invites chaos into my life 😑😑click to expand
Yep. Same
A pretty face ain’t gonna cut it with me.
I listen to how someone treats people. If they talk
About people. If they talk about themselves. If they’re supportive or flighty. Consistency. Manners
You can’t fake a good heart.
Most men think love is handbags and paying the mortgage.
It’s not.
Usual bigots and passive aggressive snots
Y’all aren’t getting laid.
Get out of the thread. Your advice is worthless
Y’all aren’t getting laid.
Get out of the thread. Your advice is worthless
Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
Wow.
And these are the very ladies who always laughed at my advice. Forever alone. Unmarried.click to expand
A lot of women feel alone in a marriage.
What’s your point?
You seem really needy for a straight dude.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Reincarnation2Posted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
Wow.
And these are the very ladies who always laughed at my advice. Forever alone. Unmarried.
You are also forever alone and unmarried. Perhaps that's why people laugh at you giving advice. Its like getting marriage counselling from someone divorced 3xs.
....or who has never been married 🥴click to expand
He needs a virgin.
Doesn’t want them leaving the crib.
This guy is R. Kelly
I can't believe how many married people cheat.
Age of the Aquarius I guess
Age of the Aquarius I guess
Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by DMVPosted by nanobotzPosted by DMVPosted by nanobotz
Idk my relationships can’t seem to last beyond the 5 year mark
Try 5 days.
I can barely make it a week with any guy
I feel like the more BS you’ve tolerated, the less you’re willing to tolerate going forth. My patience is so low generally 🤏🏼 Because my peace means too much to me. But tbh the threshold goes up a lot for me if I’m super into someone. Even if it invites chaos into my life 😑😑
Yep. Same
A pretty face ain’t gonna cut it with me.
I listen to how someone treats people. If they talk
About people. If they talk about themselves. If they’re supportive or flighty. Consistency. Manners
You can’t fake a good heart.
Most men think love is handbags and paying the mortgage.
It’s not.
Let's be honest though.
Someone is buying you bags and offering to pay your mortgage?click to expand
And much much more
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