Side chicks

If you’ve ever been a side chick, or are currently a side chick and proud, I want to hear from you

This chick called into the radio this morning admitting she was a side chick and knew from the start of the “strictly sexual” relationship she has with this man that he is in a long distance relationship and was clear he had no plans of breaking up with his girl - just wanted his physical needs met. Now this chick is asking if she should give him an ultimatum and break up with his girl for her. 😒 She was worried he’d just replace her with another side chick once she gave her ultimatum (yup)

I have questions...

First off how does this not damage your self esteem ??

What do you gain from being someone’s side chick?

Do you actually prefer this over being a main chick? Why?

I've been the side dick.

....yeah...I have a story.

I'll tell you later...

LOL @ that story. She's worried he would replace her with another side chick?

Someone should tell her she assumes alot to think she's the ONLY side chick

When I was 19 years old I met this very charasmatic and charming Scorpio.

The first night we met he told me of his sex capades and how he was juggling 5 chicks at one time.

I was young and had only been with one guy at this point in my life and there was something about him. I decided to be #6.

I felt "special" because I was the only one who knew about all 6 girls. All the others thought they were the only ones. Also I lived closest so I soon grew to be the favorite.

According to him (who knows now looking back on it) he ended up dumping all the others except for his actual gf and I.

Oh me being so dumb and naieve fell in love and fell hard. On Valentine's day 2008 I gave him an ultimatum (6 months of side chicking).

Guess what? He picked his gf .. shocker.

I got myself some side dick and cried.

Fast forward 6 years to 2013. We dated legit for 5 years...guess what he did?

Left me for one of the OG side chicks...🙄

Am I proud? No.

Did it effect my self esteem? Yes...it gave me sexual confidence for having none, but it also made me realize I deserve better. Did I learn from it? Obviously not since I went back to him.

Did I prefer it? No.



Moral of the story: I'm a terrible side chick.

I was side chick once and never again. Met this couple and instantly clicked with this girl's bf. Only about a week later did i decide to tell him how i feel (i never normally do that. I REALLY liked this guy). I did not expect him to ask for a kiss which i agreed to but then things went downhill very fast and he sexually assaulted me until i finally said yes to having sex with him. it was easily the worst mistake i had ever made in my life. I don't even really care about the gf much. she was always bitchy with me and when i confessed to the mistake she said it was all my fault that it had even happened and continued to date this guy. I guess they deserve each other.

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Posted by _Dazed

I've been the side dick.

How did/do you feel about that? Proud? Ashamed? No particular emotion attached? Were you ever worried about an angry husband showing up at your house?

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Let me preface this by saying.. I do not sleep with married men or women, unless the opposing spouse is aware and consenting. I do not hold the same standard for those that aren't married.

Am I proud? No.

Am I ashamed? No.

I am aware of the roll I am playing, be it physical.. or emotional connection, that is missing from the partnership. I am content with playing that roll without the expectation of anything more coming from it.

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Posted by _Dazed

I've been the side dick.

How did/do you feel about that? Proud? Ashamed? No particular emotion attached? Were you ever worried about an angry husband showing up at your house?

Let me preface this by saying.. I do not sleep with married men or women, unless the opposing spouse is aware and consenting. I do not hold the same standard for those that aren't married.

Am I proud? No.

Am I ashamed? No.

I am aware of the roll I am playing, be it physical.. or emotional connection, that is missing from the partnership. I am content with playing that roll without the expectation of anything more coming from it.

Then you're not a side chick/dick IMO. We need a different word for that. If the spouse is aware and consenting there should be no shame. I think you actually can take a little pride in being chosen for something like that. It's kind of an honor.

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I would and have been side dick for women in relationships with men (not married), and were unaware of the fact.

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

I was one once, but I knew my role and had no desire or hope to steal him away from her. I knew what a jerk he was, after all.

It didn’t bother you that you were sucking his dick while he loved and cared for her... paid her bills... took care of her... etc?

Unless he didn’t do any of that for anyone and he just had a big 🐓

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken men all day - jus sayin

Posted by LadyNeptune

LOL @ that story. She's worried he would replace her with another side chick?

Someone should tell her she assumes alot to think she's the ONLY side chick

WHO fucking hurt you? Let it go...🤦‍♀️

Posted by Prince_Pisces

I find it to be kind of an ego boost LOL! You're giving him (or her) something they clearly aren't getting at home/their partner is lacking.

So it’s competitive ?? Like you’re one-upping their partner?

Cause I really don’t see it that way.

That’s who he goes home to and takes care of

You’re just essentially a cum dumpster. I don’t see how that’s satisfying.

You deserve more than that gurl

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Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken men all day - jus sayin

Is this something that is actually happening to you? Aaggghh! I thought this was hypothetical.

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No lol 😆 I was literally listening to the radio. (Steve Harvey morning show)

I’m just saying...when I tried to put myself in that situation ...imagining my dude has a side chick...I feel more sad than angry

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken men all day - jus sayin

I mean.. Vin got that big D so, she'd at least be getting that?

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken me

n all day - jus sayin

You smarter than that!

Men don’t tell side chicks that they love wives.

They tell an opposite.

And they support side chicks.

And they do shitload of things with them while their wives slaving tasing kids and working butts off. And sometimes wives don’t know they footing his bills to afford side chicks...

Not in my past but that’s how smart side chicks have it. Dumbs are different story...still men tell them they love them!

This chick on the radio literally says “he says she is the love of his life and has no plans to leave her...but she can’t meet his physical needs living in another state” she engages in a sexual relationship with him anyway and then gets bent when she sees him out with his girl when she comes to visit

Why not just find someone who can meet all your needs and let him find a new side piece?

I don’t get what she’s gaining

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken men all day - jus sayin

At the end of the day it hurts the signifant other more than the side chick.

I got over being dumped as the side chick

When I was the gf I went into a depression..what wasn't I giving him? Could I have done more?

Am I not desirable that he has to find it elsewhere?

I think it's completely opposite of what your writing. I think it's much more sad for the wife.

I laughed as the side chick that the gf didn't know. 😂😂

Obviously it's the one cheating that has the issues and not the side chick or the wife.

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken men all day - jus sayin

I mean.. Vin got that big D so, she'd at least be getting that?

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Best 3 minutes of her life 😂





I mean, I love my husband

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken me

n all day - jus sayin

You smarter than that!

Men don’t tell side chicks that they love wives.

They tell an opposite.

And they support side chicks.

And they do shitload of things with them while their wives slaving tasing kids and working butts off. And sometimes wives don’t know they footing his bills to afford side chicks...

Not in my past but that’s how smart side chicks have it. Dumbs are different story...still men tell them they love them!

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Yup

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken me

n all day - jus sayin

You smarter than that!

Men don’t tell side chicks that they love wives.

They tell an opposite.

And they support side chicks.

And they do shitload of things with them while their wives slaving tasing kids and working butts off. And sometimes wives don’t know they footing his bills to afford side chicks...

Not in my past but that’s how smart side chicks have it. Dumbs are different story...still men tell them they love them!

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That’s not how this particular chick calling into the radio made it sound

But I guess if he’s taking care of you while she takes care of him I can see why you’d think it’s worth it

So it’s possible this particular case is more about the chick lying to herself than being a side chick?

I guess that’s pretty typical 😂

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Posted by _Dazed

I've been the side dick.

How did/do you feel about that? Proud? Ashamed? No particular emotion attached? Were you ever worried about an angry husband showing up at your house?

Let me preface this by saying.. I do not sleep with married men or women, unless the opposing spouse is aware and consenting. I do not hold the same standard for those that aren't married.

Am I proud? No.

Am I ashamed? No.

I am aware of the roll I am playing, be it physical.. or emotional connection, that is missing from the partnership. I am content with playing that roll without the expectation of anything more coming from it.

Then you're not a side chick/dick IMO. We need a different word for that. If the spouse is aware and consenting there should be no shame. I think you actually can take a little pride in being chosen for something like that. It's kind of an honor.

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Dick Honor?

Posted by Sailor_Mars

Posted by _Dazed

I've been the side dick.

for a Pisces Woman cheating on her Capricorn Man?

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Yes, actually.

it's only a problem if there is a "center chick"

Posted by hydorah

it's only a problem if there is a "center chick"

Sounds complicated

Posted by brianafay

This chick on the radio literally says “he says she is the love of his life and has no plans to leave her...but she can’t meet his physical needs living in another state” she engages in a sexual relationship with him anyway and then gets bent when she sees him out with his girl when she comes to visit

Why not just find someone who can meet all your needs and let him find a new side piece?

I don’t get what she’s gaining

She thinks she can fuck him into loving her is my guess, she thinks her pussy is gold.

Lol. Sometimes women are idiots. I don’t know why they think things will change just cause they caught feelings. Smh.

All of them deserve to try the ultimatum in this situation and then get dumped for it! 😂🤣

No ones going to have an honest discussion about this besides maybe Boots.

Everyone else is going to virtue signal...

The reality is everyone would side hoe for the right person and connection. We’re not a monogamous mammal but it’s inherently taught we should be predominantly by mass religion but how that religion is losing its hold you’re seeing a huge influx of people living as they please with no repercussions.

This side hoe and main hoe culture is a good example of how we’re returning to primal desires and eagerly looking for the validation that the idea of love and marriage once gave us .... we’re all capable of this as this is our current natural culture.

Thank you for coming to my TedTalks.

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by LadyNeptune

LOL @ that story. She's worried he would replace her with another side chick?

Someone should tell her she assumes alot to think she's the ONLY side chick

WHO fucking hurt you? Let it go...🤦‍♀️

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No one. Just stating the obvious. If he will cheat on his main girl he’s not gonna stay loyal to the side chick. That’s a no duh logic

Like Dwayne from "What's Happening," "uh-uuuuh."

I did a music thread for love triangles and have posted this link many times:

https://www.astro.com/astrology/in_triangle_e.htm

I do not wish to participate in a psychological thriller... no matter the role. I'm out.

It's like a drama triangle... Uh-huh

Every side chick or side dick story that stuck in my mind had violence invovled. My husband had a co worker whose side chick hid in the garage, assualted his pregnant wife, and she miscarried.

My daughter had a lil girlfriend whose mother was killed when trying to leave husband for side dick.

My brother's wife was stalked and threatened by the wife of the man she was cheating with.

My brother said the wife said, "tell your wife to leave my husband alone." I said, "well gah damn." That was the qoute of the decade for me.

I do believe that "side chick" does not apply to dating. It applies to people living together and/or married. Cause, some people can get awfully delusional about all kinds of things like the inflated importance of their relationship.

Fuck it...I'll tell my story.

After my ex died.. I wasn't in the right state of mind but I engaged with a guy from his work. He used to flirt with me all the time. Anyway.. I don't even remember how things went the way they did...but he told me he was in a open marriage. His wife had a boyfriend and he was allowed to find a girlfriend...and he wanted me. I said fuck it ok. She knew about me met me and the whole nine. I knew my place and knew he'd never leave her and I didn't want him to but he talked about it because he was falling hard for me. It became too much drama when the wife started to get mad that he wanted to spend more time with me and the fact I was younger...bothered her a lot. I eventually ended it. We didn't talk but he got accused of still fucking with me all the time (he told me later on). They ended up getting divorced years later because of the constant fighting about me and other reasons.

Sometimes we get into situations with people for all kinds of reasons, sometimes you can't help who you connect with or fall for . Yes, everyone has will power but how do we not know thats how the universe wanted shit to play out...we are all here to learn lesson..no? And unless you have been in that situation...you can say all you want youd never do this or that. I also said I'd never be with a cheater till I was in that situation. Shit happens...is it right, probably not but maybe it is...whose to really say. Yeah my situation was a little different with her knowing about me but doesn't make me any less a side chick.

11 years later...the guy is still crazy about me. Yep...it's the Aries and oddly enough...he's possessive as shit of me back then and now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm ready for my dxp judgement beating now....

Edit: it's was 8-9 yrs ago not 11. No idea where I got 11 from.

Edit #2: I also got permission to tell this story so he is well aware and doesn't care that people know

Potential willing Side chicks aren't the problem, it's your man.

Never understood women who rage at the other woman.

Posted by Basorexia

Potential willing Side chicks aren't the problem, it's your man.

Never understood women who rage at the other woman.

I agree... she didn't promise shit. The only way I could possibly share a lil blame is if it's a family member or bestfriend.

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Posted by Basorexia

Potential willing Side chicks aren't the problem, it's your man.

Never understood women who rage at the other woman.

It is both of their faults! If you are the side chick and are aware of the other woman.. you are at much of fault as the man. We women need to do better at protecting other women.

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My idea of "protecting" other women is not holding another woman responsible for your relationship...

Besides, some women go through this over and over again... how many sidechicks is it gonna take for you to see the common denominator?

Posted by LostinmyMind11

Fuck it...I'll tell my story.

After my ex died.. I wasn't in the right state of mind but I engaged with a guy from his work. He used to flirt with me all the time. Anyway.. I don't even remember how things went the way they did...but he told me he was in a open marriage. His wife had a boyfriend and he was allowed to find a girlfriend...and he wanted me. I said fuck it ok. She knew about me met me and the whole nine. I knew my place and knew he'd never leave her and I didn't want him to but he talked about it because he was falling hard for me. It became too much drama when the wife started to get mad that he wanted to spend more time with me and the fact I was younger...bothered her a lot. I eventually ended it. We didn't talk but he got accused of still fucking with me all the time (he told me later on). They ended up getting divorced years later because of the constant fighting about me and other reasons.

Sometimes we get into situations with people for all kinds of reasons, sometimes you can't help who you connect with or fall for . Yes, everyone has will power but how do we not know thats how the universe wanted shit to play out...we are all here to learn lesson..no? And unless you have been in that situation...you can say all you want youd never do this or that. I also said I'd never be with a cheater till I was in that situation. Shit happens...is it right, probably not but maybe it is...whose to really say. Yeah my situation was a little different with her knowing about me but doesn't make me any less a side chick.

11 years later...the guy is still crazy about me. Yep...it's the Aries and oddly enough...he's possessive as shit of me back then and now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm ready for my dxp judgement beating now....

Imma be honest with you... that was hot.

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Basorexia

Potential willing Side chicks aren't the problem, it's your man.

Never understood women who rage at the other woman.

Because women expect more from other women.

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Nah.

I can almost understand that but that's way too easy.

The cheater (in my scenario) is the one calling the shots here. He's the one that's attached and deceiving his partner.

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Posted by Basorexia

Potential willing Side chicks aren't the problem, it's your man.

Never understood women who rage at the other woman.

It is both of their faults! If you are the side chick and are aware of the other woman.. you are at much of fault as the man. We women need to do better at protecting other women.

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Nope when you're the other woman, you're just disgusting. You're not cheating on anyone. when you're the side chick..... Well perhaps little regards for "yourself " (the side chick) but that's digging a little too deep for this thread /dxpnet.

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Posted by Romz-

No ones going to have an honest discussion about this besides maybe Boots.

Everyone else is going to virtue signal...

The reality is everyone would side hoe for the right person and connection. We’re not a monogamous mammal but it’s inherently taught we should be predominantly by mass religion but how that religion is losing its hold you’re seeing a huge influx of people living as they please with no repercussions.

This side hoe and main hoe culture is a good example of how we’re returning to primal desires and eagerly looking for the validation that the idea of love and marriage once gave us .... we’re all capable of this as this is our current natural culture.

Thank you for coming to my TedTalks.

What is so wrong with religious values? What is so wrong with values in general? If all of us followed our primal desires, we would have many more unjustified killings. Laws and regulations need to be set in place to keep people from following their urges. If we all followed our desires, we would have mass chaos on our hands as a society. Sure, be the side hoe; however, remember, there are natural consequences. You may be splitting up homes where the children are deeply involved. You may have a jealous killing wife on your hands. You may be the one who kills due to your internal jealousy. I am not being holier than thou! I've made MANY mistakes in my life. Religion actually teaches one to forgive and love those you may not want to. However, I will say this, religion or not, values are essential for our growth as a human species. Our frontal cortex are there for a reason

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K 🧐

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Fuck it...I'll tell my story.

After my ex died.. I wasn't in the right state of mind but I engaged with a guy from his work. He used to flirt with me all the time. Anyway.. I don't even remember how things went the way they did...but he told me he was in a open marriage. His wife had a boyfriend and he was allowed to find a girlfriend...and he wanted me. I said fuck it ok. She knew about me met me and the whole nine. I knew my place and knew he'd never leave her and I didn't want him to but he talked about it because he was falling hard for me. It became too much drama when the wife started to get mad that he wanted to spend more time with me and the fact I was younger...bothered her a lot. I eventually ended it. We didn't talk but he got accused of still fucking with me all the time (he told me later on). They ended up getting divorced years later because of the constant fighting about me and other reasons.

Sometimes we get into situations with people for all kinds of reasons, sometimes you can't help who you connect with or fall for . Yes, everyone has will power but how do we not know thats how the universe wanted shit to play out...we are all here to learn lesson..no? And unless you have been in that situation...you can say all you want youd never do this or that. I also said I'd never be with a cheater till I was in that situation. Shit happens...is it right, probably not but maybe it is...whose to really say. Yeah my situation was a little different with her knowing about me but doesn't make me any less a side chick.

11 years later...the guy is still crazy about me. Yep...it's the Aries and oddly enough...he's possessive as shit of me back then and now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm ready for my dxp judgement beating now....

No one is judging you! Thank you for your story! Yes, we all learn lessons! I cheated on four men all at the same time when I was 18! However, I saw the impact of my choices. I hurt so many people and I told myself I would never again hurt another soul in that way shape or form. We're all here for a lesson; however, natural consequences will always follow us. It's how we turn into better and more loving, forgiving, and selfless individuals. I'm sorry your ex passed by the way *hugs*

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Lol...I was just joking about the judgment thing because tbh...I don't care what other people think about me. Oh yeah...every thing we do has consequences and we all live and learn... hopefully. My thing is unless you actually been in the situation...you honestly have no idea what you'd do.

Thank you ❤️🤗

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Fuck it...I'll tell my story.

After my ex died.. I wasn't in the right state of mind but I engaged with a guy from his work. He used to flirt with me all the time. Anyway.. I don't even remember how things went the way they did...but he told me he was in a open marriage. His wife had a boyfriend and he was allowed to find a girlfriend...and he wanted me. I said fuck it ok. She knew about me met me and the whole nine. I knew my place and knew he'd never leave her and I didn't want him to but he talked about it because he was falling hard for me. It became too much drama when the wife started to get mad that he wanted to spend more time with me and the fact I was younger...bothered her a lot. I eventually ended it. We didn't talk but he got accused of still fucking with me all the time (he told me later on). They ended up getting divorced years later because of the constant fighting about me and other reasons.

Sometimes we get into situations with people for all kinds of reasons, sometimes you can't help who you connect with or fall for . Yes, everyone has will power but how do we not know thats how the universe wanted shit to play out...we are all here to learn lesson..no? And unless you have been in that situation...you can say all you want youd never do this or that. I also said I'd never be with a cheater till I was in that situation. Shit happens...is it right, probably not but maybe it is...whose to really say. Yeah my situation was a little different with her knowing about me but doesn't make me any less a side chick.

11 years later...the guy is still crazy about me. Yep...it's the Aries and oddly enough...he's possessive as shit of me back then and now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm ready for my dxp judgement beating now....

No one is judging you! Thank you for your story! Yes, we all learn lessons! I cheated on four men all at the same time when I was 18! However, I saw the impact of my choices. I hurt so many people and I told myself I would never again hurt another soul in that way shape or form. We're all here for a lesson; however, natural consequences will always follow us. It's how we turn into better and more loving, forgiving, and selfless individuals. I'm sorry your ex passed by the way *hugs*

Lol...I was just joking about the judgment thing because tbh...I don't care what other people think about me. Oh yeah...every thing we do has consequences and we all live and learn... hopefully. My thing is unless you actually been in the situation...you honestly have no idea what you'd do.

Thank you ❤️🤗

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I've read, heard, it soo much over years, I know what I would. That's why I stay in shape and make my money. I dan told him too. Please do not expect a discussion.

Furthermore, I care about my safety. I got enough known enemies.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Fuck it...I'll tell my story.

After my ex died.. I wasn't in the right state of mind but I engaged with a guy from his work. He used to flirt with me all the time. Anyway.. I don't even remember how things went the way they did...but he told me he was in a open marriage. His wife had a boyfriend and he was allowed to find a girlfriend...and he wanted me. I said fuck it ok. She knew about me met me and the whole nine. I knew my place and knew he'd never leave her and I didn't want him to but he talked about it because he was falling hard for me. It became too much drama when the wife started to get mad that he wanted to spend more time with me and the fact I was younger...bothered her a lot. I eventually ended it. We didn't talk but he got accused of still fucking with me all the time (he told me later on). They ended up getting divorced years later because of the constant fighting about me and other reasons.

Sometimes we get into situations with people for all kinds of reasons, sometimes you can't help who you connect with or fall for . Yes, everyone has will power but how do we not know thats how the universe wanted shit to play out...we are all here to learn lesson..no? And unless you have been in that situation...you can say all you want youd never do this or that. I also said I'd never be with a cheater till I was in that situation. Shit happens...is it right, probably not but maybe it is...whose to really say. Yeah my situation was a little different with her knowing about me but doesn't make me any less a side chick.

11 years later...the guy is still crazy about me. Yep...it's the Aries and oddly enough...he's possessive as shit of me back then and now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm ready for my dxp judgement beating now....

Imma be honest with you... that was hot.

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Lol...then I better not tell you about the time I was invited to dinner by the wife, the boyfriend and the husband 😬🤐

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Fuck it...I'll tell my story.

After my ex died.. I wasn't in the right state of mind but I engaged with a guy from his work. He used to flirt with me all the time. Anyway.. I don't even remember how things went the way they did...but he told me he was in a open marriage. His wife had a boyfriend and he was allowed to find a girlfriend...and he wanted me. I said fuck it ok. She knew about me met me and the whole nine. I knew my place and knew he'd never leave her and I didn't want him to but he talked about it because he was falling hard for me. It became too much drama when the wife started to get mad that he wanted to spend more time with me and the fact I was younger...bothered her a lot. I eventually ended it. We didn't talk but he got accused of still fucking with me all the time (he told me later on). They ended up getting divorced years later because of the constant fighting about me and other reasons.

Sometimes we get into situations with people for all kinds of reasons, sometimes you can't help who you connect with or fall for . Yes, everyone has will power but how do we not know thats how the universe wanted shit to play out...we are all here to learn lesson..no? And unless you have been in that situation...you can say all you want youd never do this or that. I also said I'd never be with a cheater till I was in that situation. Shit happens...is it right, probably not but maybe it is...whose to really say. Yeah my situation was a little different with her knowing about me but doesn't make me any less a side chick.

11 years later...the guy is still crazy about me. Yep...it's the Aries and oddly enough...he's possessive as shit of me back then and now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm ready for my dxp judgement beating now....

Imma be honest with you... that was hot.

Lol...then I better not tell you about the time I was invited to dinner by the wife, the boyfriend and the husband 😬🤐

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Mercy

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken me

n all day - jus sayin

You smarter than that!

Men don’t tell side chicks that they love wives.

They tell an opposite.

And they support side chicks.

And they do shitload of things with them while their wives slaving tasing kids and working butts off. And sometimes wives don’t know they footing his bills to afford side chicks...

Not in my past but that’s how smart side chicks have it. Dumbs are different story...still men tell them they love them!

That’s not how this particular chick calling into the radio made it sound

But I guess if he’s taking care of you while she takes care of him I can see why you’d think it’s worth it

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Hon,

Those who had been taken care of don’t call radio. Are you stupid or what? Lol

They are enjoying freedom, sex and life in general. They might have more than one side dicks...why not? The more the wealthier!

And I said it but you’ve missed it...it’s not my case. But I’ve seen it. I see it and I will continue seeing it! As everybody else.

I am however surprised that you...I thought one with brains...thought that men tell side chicks WHILE they sucking their dick...that they love their wives!

Have to admit it...that WAS stupid!!!

I am troubled thinking that you suspecting your husband of wring doing.

Happy women don’t post shit like this.

What’s up baby?

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LOL @ that story. She's worried he would replace her with another side chick?

Someone should tell her she assumes alot to think she's the ONLY side chick

WHO fucking hurt you? Let it go...🤦‍♀️

No one. Just stating the obvious. If he will cheat on his main girl he’s not gonna stay loyal to the side chick. That’s a no duh logic

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I just looove when women who had not ever being able to have men to marry them speak up their mind!

YOU! Who never been married, never had kids and family of your own - KNOW?

You know SHIT! And your opinion worth exactly that! SHIT!

However you fascinated by affairs...

Dark dreams locked up in a cage?

You can’t fool me unless I want to be fooled...

So...please shut ta fuck up!

Oops...I never answered the questions

First off how does this not damage your self esteem ??

Leo moon...I am my self esteem 😂 but seriously...it actually kinda boosted it especially because I was already at a very low point in life.

What do you gain from being someone’s side chick?

Experience? Life lessons? I don't really know tbh

Do you actually prefer this over being a main chick?

Maybe? At the time I didn't give a fuck about anything or anyone.

Why?

Freedom?..I wasn't tied down and could do what I wanted and didn't have to deal with bs...except some drama and when that got outta hand.. I left.

Posted by brianafay

Posted by Prince_Pisces

I find it to be kind of an ego boost LOL! You're giving him (or her) something they clearly aren't getting at home/their partner is lacking.

So it’s competitive ?? Like you’re one-upping their partner?

Cause I really don’t see it that way.

That’s who he goes home to and takes care of

You’re just essentially a cum dumpster. I don’t see how that’s satisfying.

You deserve more than that gurl

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the story the side chick hears from the cheater is: my wife/girlfriend doesnt understand me, I have been suffering taking care of her for a long time, she doesnt even want to sleep with me, but she was never into it anyway, bc she is frigid.... I am unhappy, the only happy moments I have is with you, when I am with you I am escaping her and my dire relationship, you are smart and you wouldnt believe how dumb my wife/gf is...........but I cant leave her yet, because

a) she is crazy and unbalanced, going throu a big depression now and she would harm herself or

b) I am staying for the kids or

c) we have a business together and she is vindictive and would do revenge or

d) we have some property together and I cant leave her until I hide my assets otherwise she would take me to the cleaners..... or

e) I have to stay with her, she has connections I need her for my carreer prospects

f) insert any other reasons

the side chick feels she is the only one who understands and makes that man happy and eventually he would leave that crazy frigid non-understanding dumb byatch wife/gf

lol

I never been a side-chick, but observed around me a lot of this going on

the cheater also tells the side-chick how unreasonable jelaous the wife/gf is (!) and this paradox ensures that the side-chick (to not be like the bad wife/gf) would act like they are not jelaous and cool

I think the worst part of being the side chick is not that they are a cum-dumpster (because they get sex and possibly sexual satisfaction, so thats good and fair, like equal, sex is a mutual act, for the benefit of both), but that they are an emotion-dumpsters, doing a free therapy for that man and listening to the moaning of that douchebag cheater endlessly about how unhappy he is, consoling him, being an emotional support, giving advice for work (and feeling important - only I can console and understand what he is going throu - many side-chicks give this free service even without the sex-part!), etc...... that is not for the benefit of both, that is not fair and equal

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Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Posted by Basorexia

Potential willing Side chicks aren't the problem, it's your man.

Never understood women who rage at the other woman.

It is both of their faults! If you are the side chick and are aware of the other woman.. you are at much of fault as the man. We women need to do better at protecting other women.

Nope when you're the other woman, you're just disgusting. You're not cheating on anyone. when you're the side chick..... Well perhaps little regards for "yourself " (the side chick) but that's digging a little too deep for this thread /dxpnet.

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That was actually exactly my point

When I heard this chick on the radio I wasn’t mad or disappointed in her being a willing side chick I just couldn’t understand why when she admits she wants more now and wants to give him an ultimatum. I think she’s just all around dishonest with herself and can’t have much self esteem if she feels it’s fine to settle for this kind of man

This thread wasn’t about the douchebag with the side chick in question. I have no respect for him.

Why would I make a thread about him/why people cheat on their significant others? That’s not something I feel warrants a discussion. It’s distasteful to me.

This also wasn’t about hating on women or talking shit on side pieces.

I just wanted to hear another side to the story because like I said, it’s not something I understand or could see myself standing for. I demand to be the center of someone’s universe, I’m a Leo moon 😂

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Posted by brianafay

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by brianafay

I guess I’m curious to hear the other side to this because when I think of my husband having side chick I mostly feel bad for her

She’s over here eagerly sucking his dick while he tells her he loves me and will never leave me...takes care of me and our family...pays for my house, my Lexus, etc...

What’s she gaining? She feels sexually desired by him?

Cause I can jump on Tinder and feel sexually desired by random taken me

n all day - jus sayin

You smarter than that!

Men don’t tell side chicks that they love wives.

They tell an opposite.

And they support side chicks.

And they do shitload of things with them while their wives slaving tasing kids and working butts off. And sometimes wives don’t know they footing his bills to afford side chicks...

Not in my past but that’s how smart side chicks have it. Dumbs are different story...still men tell them they love them!

That’s not how this particular chick calling into the radio made it sound

But I guess if he’s taking care of you while she takes care of him I can see why you’d think it’s worth it

Hon,

Those who had been taken care of don’t call radio. Are you stupid or what? Lol

They are enjoying freedom, sex and life in general. They might have more than one side dicks...why not? The more the wealthier!

And I said it but you’ve missed it...it’s not my case. But I’ve seen it. I see it and I will continue seeing it! As everybody else.

I am however surprised that you...I thought one with brains...thought that men tell side chicks WHILE they sucking their dick...that they love their wives!

Have to admit it...that WAS stupid!!!

I am troubled thinking that you suspecting your husband of wring doing.

Happy women don’t post shit like this.

What’s up baby?

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No, I don’t think that’s always the case. I’ve heard before on here and also had a friend who was a side chick to the same guy for years...they knew they were just side chicks and that these men “loved” their wives and had zero plans to leave them...they just wanted their physical needs met...and that was fine for them.

I’m sure they tell them their wives don’t fuck them right etc and that gives the side chick some type of satisfaction, but me personally, I’m just not ever gonna be cool with physically satisfying some man that’s committed to and takes care of another woman and her family. If I’m physically satisfying him...he better be paying my bills too 😂 I’m just saying. Is that Venus in Cap talking? Or simple self worth?

And no, it’s not that deep. I know everyone who got their feathers ruffled over this post would love for it to be about me, but it’s not. No problems over here.