The shit test? Please explain.

Why do girls give guys ( or girls if that's what they are into ) shit as a test during the initial stages of getting to know one another?



Also do all girls do this?/

And should I consider this a red flag?

so it is a red flag?

damn, how disappointing.

Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzul

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

so it is a red flag?

damn, how disappointing.

Do women shit-test women? 🤔

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YES, THEY DO....

especially bisexuals....

there have been a lot of bisexual and pansexual people in my past that have conveyed interest, unfortunately .....

but besides them, I have recently encountered a lesbian who has done this to me in several different ways...and

the lesbian is the worst.. by far... and is the most disappointing as she is in her 30s.

Posted by Jan12girl

Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzul

Isn't it basically to see if a guy is a spineless pussy who lets people walk all over them or not

Not true but then again depends on girl to girl, guy to guy.

There are two kinds of shit . One is giving some one as a result of finding something irritating about them. The other kind is a whole different story. Rather a long story .

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oh this is a hot take.

please elaborate......

What is a shit test? Someone asking for a stool sample 🚩

What is the test like

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Jan12girl

Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzul

Isn't it basically to see if a guy is a spineless pussy who lets people walk all over them or not

Not true but then again depends on girl to girl, guy to guy.

There are two kinds of shit . One is giving some one as a result of finding something irritating about them. The other kind is a whole different story. Rather a long story .

oh this is a hot take.

please elaborate......

Expectations not met or unrealistic expectations. The difficult situation could also be a result of just new people trying to adjust with each other or figure each other out beyond the romantic mask . Immaturity along with high hopes . And then there is an illusion that someone can be into you enough to understand your shit or demons .

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Interesting opinion...

what is your sun moon and venus?

Posted by Midnite_Riser

I get shit tested ALL the time by these young girls that are like 21,22,23. It's always the same protocol usually. But if a girl tests you, that means that you are a sexual threat and they want to see if you are the real deal before considering ''having fun'' It is a GOOD thing. They do it in the name of survival. This is to ward off guys who THEY consider ''unattractive'' aka ''beta cucks'' I had a girl who was 22 literally shit test me and I failed it on purpose. I was very calm about it too. She came with the ''I have a boyfriend BS'' shit test that these girls typically come with. I made a serious face and was like ''That's too bad, I was really looking for some fun'' her reaction is priceless. Then later on she starts opening up about her family,etc. She's twirling her hair like crazy, she even mirrors my movements. I don't react to her at all. At the end before she got out of my car, she was holding off like she was waiting for something. I told her to have a nice day, she looked SO disappointed. In my head I was like ''joke's on you''. That was just me being an asshole tho lol.

yeah 99.99 percent of the women who have shit-tested me I was never interested in the first place...especially if they already had a boyfriend.

I hung out last weekend this 25 yr old pisces sun aqua venus and leo moon who started giving me shit....mostly after I had curved her after she shooted her shot...two nights in a row.

I always looked at her like a little sister and just cared about her mental health because we have similar issues with anxiety.

she started being a major dick though ...especially after she got butt hurt.

I still don't get it she as she currently has a boyfriend for like 3 years who she is clearly in love with.

Just greedy and immature IMHO.

And I still don't get why the hurt. I did tell her that I'm basically ace and that right now there is only one other chick that might have a shot ( not her) and she is the only third woman I have considered having a sexual relationship with and I'm 34.

I feel like that probably made me even more desirable in her eyes though * shakes head*.

I think you should test as much as possible before committing to something that may affect your general and financial wellbeing for years/decades to come! Testing as in creating genuine situations that may help you learn something new.... For example, going on holidays together to see their organising skills, how they act when you are 24/7 together, how patient and helpful they are, how they deal with novelty, stress, irritations, misunderstandings, etc...

Most "testing" is actually done without planning...for example you put on some weight while away and your "date" reacts with losing their attraction to you... Even if you lose the extra pounds, this tells you that their attraction is only superficial and will not survive the ups and downs and the natural progression through life. A valuable lesson!

There is NO point in testing something that has little to do with how you really are! Behaving all of a sudden petty, entitled, demanding, controlling, impatient, rude, grumpy, disorganised, etc. means they were showing (deliberately or not) how they really are....and you should definitely listen!

Testing does NOT necessarily mean "giving shit" to someone, only if the person "testing" is already shit, and it starts stinking 😄

Posted by LadyNeptune

What is a shit test? Someone asking for a stool sample 🚩

pretty much...it's just as gross.

Good to see you my pisces sun taurus venus aries moon friend!!

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Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzul

Isn't it basically to see if a guy is a spineless pussy who lets people walk all over them or not

Not true but then again depends on girl to girl, guy to guy.

There are two kinds of shit . One is giving some one as a result of finding something irritating about them. The other kind is a whole different story. Rather a long story .

oh this is a hot take.

please elaborate......

Expectations not met or unrealistic expectations. The difficult situation could also be a result of just new people trying to adjust with each other or figure each other out beyond the romantic mask . Immaturity along with high hopes . And then there is an illusion that someone can be into you enough to understand your shit or demons .

Interesting opinion...

what is your sun moon and venus?

Sun Capricorn

Moon Sagittarius

Venus Aquarius

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Interesting ....

I feel like this is a venus in aqua , fire moon perspective.

Also super helpful as I do think this is true of the pisces sun ,aqua venus leo moon chick.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

What is a shit test? Someone asking for a stool sample 🚩

pretty much...it's just as gross.

Good to see you my pisces sun taurus venus aries moon friend!!

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Likewise 🤗

my gem aunt (i think she was triple gem with a double leo and a strong 2nd house) once pretended to be another woman over text so she can test her bf.

my scorpio sun/taurus moon aunt did the same to my uncle.

in this regard, i gotta say the apple does not fall so far but i'm mostly big on facial expressions more than anything else. i've got a very good intuition about that.

Posted by Lionheart917

To see if you are man enough.

But I have a vagine and she has a vagine...lol

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after they felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

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Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

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Sure you aren’t just overthinking?

Roasting/shit talking is a form of flirtation.

Drunk girl trusts you and doesn’t want to lose her purse.

Some peoples communication comes off as flirty.

It really could be that simple.

I was thinking test as an elaborate ploy/plot. But the examples you gave are very normie interactions.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Sure you aren’t just overthinking?

Roasting/shit talking is a form of flirtation.

Drunk girl trusts you and doesn’t want to lose her purse.

Some peoples communication comes off as flirty.

It really could be that simple.

I was thinking test as an elaborate ploy/plot. But the examples you gave are very normie interactions.

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Drunk girl repeatedly asked me to hold her purse when it wasn't that heavy.. after I would comply...she would take it back and then ask me again to see if I would say yes again...which I would...(she did this like 4 times)...to see if I'd be her bitch basically...she thought she was funny.

In regards to other interactions with the drunk girl ( in which I thought she was flirting) :

she pouted when I indicated I was trying to hang with her and other people ( not exclusively her ) in the current city she lives in when I visit at the end of the month

and when I elaborated on how fun I thought it would be to hang with her and a mutual friend..

she rolled her eyes and said "sure"...whatever you want......"

She also pouted when I told her she'd get the couch if she came to visit...

when I told her that "maybe we could negotiate " after witnessing her pout ....

she perked up and then lowered her voice and said "I'm a good negotiator...I usually get what I want....."

Amongst other things she's given me eyes... called me darling and has been excessively touchy-feely at times.

Flash forward

at Dinah shore about two weeks ago

we rented this sick house in palm springs and there was a pool party.....

as soon as I arrived there was some more flirting ..and then talk about dating expectations like as in who should pay ( hint hint) (she also brought this up letting me know she was single I presume ) ..

then she started flirting with other people.

She was then begging me to join her in the pool and even chased me around the back yard ... she seemed a bit annoyed I didn't let her catch up to me ) I regret not letting her tackle me...hindsight..I was hesitant because I was wearing $ 500 pants though at the time) .

Anywho she then she starts flirting with this other person for a lot of the time I am there in the house

however...the minute I would go chat with others should then come and be possessive by trying to hold my arm or something when I was talking to another girl or hanging /being cuddly with someone else.

So that is why I interpret the purse thing and then this flirting with other people as shit tests.....

Though to be fair..she's kind of a fuckboi...as in she told me that her flirting with others and even giving out numbers to other girls was a common issue ex-girlfriends had with her....

which is the biggest fucking red flag of the century....that I am ignoring because I am an idiot....

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Sure you aren’t just overthinking?

Roasting/shit talking is a form of flirtation.

Drunk girl trusts you and doesn’t want to lose her purse.

Some peoples communication comes off as flirty.

It really could be that simple.

I was thinking test as an elaborate ploy/plot. But the examples you gave are very normie interactions.

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The thing I think is the most compelling evidence that she is at least sexually interested in me though is the insta stalking.

She has indirectly indicated she's been checking my page a lot via repeating something I had word for word temporarily in my about me section to another friend ...making sure that I heard what she said as i was close by.

....so yeah

I always attract the crazies.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Lionheart917

To see if you are man enough.

But I have a vagine and she has a vagine...lol

Lol who’s the dominant one in the relationship.

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''

I appear more masculine but I am still a Pisces at the end of the day.

She's a Leo FYI.

It's kind of a recent discovery but I kind of like bossy women in the bedroom or rather being "topped" from a bottom as they say.

Posted by Antiphates

Power dynamics are a substantial part of love and eroticism. Simplified: you can't fall in love with what you can fully dominate whenever you want. Or at least if you think this to be the case.

Wome might be more concious in its application due to their social role, but ultimately the same mechanism can work for men too.

Interesting....

I think there is definitely a bit of truth to this.

Posted by nanobotz

Honestly I live for reactions. I like to observe people to learn how they operate. What makes them happy, what makes them sad or angry. So maybe to invoke a genuine response from someone during a specific situation

You can really expedite the dating process/find incompatibilities this way

I think all people do this in general though 🤷🏼‍♀️

I feel like I don't

... IMHO.

I "test" but not shit test.

I've tested her even just to gauge her interest.

( e.g telling her she would get the couch instead of the bed when she came to visit me etc).

I love women who give the shit test. My shit test is the fact I could make you go missing, then avidly lead the search party that goes searching for you.

I love the mind games. I mean the shit game.

They do it to test who you are and see how interested you are. The tests are faulty though because someone experienced can easily bypass them as seen by all the sob stories of dxp. Not all women do this. The best women for relationships are usually up front with what they want and who they want to be with. I would consider it a red flag. Usually it’s to show they have options, but then hello so do you. Passing the tests might not be a good thing, and be careful what you wish for, because sometimes you might actually get it. It’s not actually a prize, in most cases it usually isn’t.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Obviously I wasn't there and my methods are probably different to most people and not necessarily always effective. I try to be always moving forward with stuff like that, it sounds like you are somewhere in the middle.

With the hold my bag: I would have said "no I'll look like RuPaul". If she asked again "you're persistent aren't you? Do people usually say no to you?"

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That was a good retort.

Posted by Raminheartz

They do it to test who you are and see how interested you are. The tests are faulty though because someone experienced can easily bypass them as seen by all the sob stories of dxp. Not all women do this. The best women for relationships are usually up front with what they want and who they want to be with. I would consider it a red flag. Usually it’s to show they have options, but then hello so do you. Passing the tests might not be a good thing, and be careful what you wish for, because sometimes you might actually get it. It’s not actually a prize, in most cases it usually isn’t.

So many red flags with this one.

Thanks Ramin for your post.

It really grounded me.

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Posted by TXCowboy

All women shit test, it's in their DNA. They are looking at your reactions, adjustments, and a glimpse into your deeper psychology.

There is only PASS or FAIL, no in-between.

Ahh, there's the cynical scorp thinking.

All humans test/gauge others reactions to situations in some way when they meet new humans to assess compatibility. However, not all of them, male or female, consciously carry out specific, planned, childish tests of loyalty, assertiveness, etc. I've seen reference to specific "tests" that have names recently, but damned if I can recall one. That's just dumb.

However, taking time to learn about someone through actual questions, watching their body language or other reactions in situations, that's just basic self preservation.

So imo, yeah, actually shit testing is a red flag. Might signal immaturity or something else like issues from past relationships and they're scared, but it's definitely a 🚩

I see it as a barrier to entry.

Usually shit testing specifically not compatibility testing happens for a reason, unless ofc for want of a better phrase the woman is just a prick tease. I do agree sometimes it can be a fear of loyalty, abandonment or intimacy.

I also agree usually shit tests don't happen if you are honest about what you want and not hiding things. Like I've said really common for a guy to big up his experience and then fall down when he gets tested and gets needy.

I think the other factor is assuming we are talking about very attractive, sexually active women they probably get 10 guys a day telling them they are beautiful and that they want to take them out to dinner so how do they choose the guy to lick their clits. The guy not kissing their ass, surely?

I guess I'm looking at it assuming the situation progressed past the initial phase of determining if someone was worth going out with and is now at the next level. There's some sort of relationship established, whether it's exclusive or not, they're beyond the pickup line phase.

I still feel like it's faulty psychology because the tester is assuming that there's only x or y reasons for a reaction. I like to think I'm decent at reading people, but even then, it's dangerous to assume you understand anyone else, because you never know what they're truly thinking or how they reason. The most stupid and innocent reason for reacting one way can be misinterpreted as something completely different by someone with a different thought pattern.

I'm not saying it's a run away from them red flag, rather it's definitely something to take note of. And like I said, if I was truly invested and interested, I'd call them on it if it became a pattern. I can make note and move on without mentioning something that happens once or twice, humans are, well, human and not everything needs a reaction. But if it was habitual, it needs addressed, carefully, for things to stay healthy. Unfortunately not everyone can handle open honesty, but that's just indictive of either the way it's presented or their level of growth, or sometimes a bit of both.

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so wise.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Sure you aren’t just overthinking?

Roasting/shit talking is a form of flirtation.

Drunk girl trusts you and doesn’t want to lose her purse.

Some peoples communication comes off as flirty.

It really could be that simple.

I was thinking test as an elaborate ploy/plot. But the examples you gave are very normie interactions.

Drunk girl repeatedly asked me to hold her purse when it wasn't that heavy.. after I would comply...she would take it back and then ask me again to see if I would say yes again...which I would...(she did this like 4 times)...to see if I'd be her bitch basically...she thought she was funny.

In regards to other interactions with the drunk girl ( in which I thought she was flirting) :

she pouted when I indicated I was trying to hang with her and other people ( not exclusively her ) in the current city she lives in when I visit at the end of the month

and when I elaborated on how fun I thought it would be to hang with her and a mutual friend..

she rolled her eyes and said "sure"...whatever you want......"

She also pouted when I told her she'd get the couch if she came to visit...

when I told her that "maybe we could negotiate " after witnessing her pout ....

she perked up and then lowered her voice and said "I'm a good negotiator...I usually get what I want....."

Amongst other things she's given me eyes... called me darling and has been excessively touchy-feely at times.

Flash forward

at Dinah shore about two weeks ago

we rented this sick house in palm springs and there was a pool party.....

as soon as I arrived there was some more flirting ..and then talk about dating expectations like as in who should pay ( hint hint) (she also brought this up letting me know she was single I presume ) ..

then she started flirting with other people.

She was then begging me to join her in the pool and even chased me around the back yard ... she seemed a bit annoyed I didn't let her catch up to me ) I regret not letting her tackle me...hindsight..I was hesitant because I was wearing $ 500 pants though at the time) .

Anywho she then she starts flirting with this other person for a lot of the time I am there in the house

however...the minute I would go chat with others should then come and be possessive by trying to hold my arm or something when I was talking to another girl or hanging /being cuddly with someone else.

So that is why I interpret the purse thing and then this flirting with other people as shit tests.....

Though to be fair..she's kind of a fuckboi...as in she told me that her flirting with others and even giving out numbers to other girls was a common issue ex-girlfriends had with her....

which is the biggest fucking red flag of the century....that I am ignoring because I am an idiot....

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Well you would know cause you was there. But as a rule don’t read too much into drunk actions cause drunk.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Sure you aren’t just overthinking?

Roasting/shit talking is a form of flirtation.

Drunk girl trusts you and doesn’t want to lose her purse.

Some peoples communication comes off as flirty.

It really could be that simple.

I was thinking test as an elaborate ploy/plot. But the examples you gave are very normie interactions.

Drunk girl repeatedly asked me to hold her purse when it wasn't that heavy.. after I would comply...she would take it back and then ask me again to see if I would say yes again...which I would...(she did this like 4 times)...to see if I'd be her bitch basically...she thought she was funny.

In regards to other interactions with the drunk girl ( in which I thought she was flirting) :

she pouted when I indicated I was trying to hang with her and other people ( not exclusively her ) in the current city she lives in when I visit at the end of the month

and when I elaborated on how fun I thought it would be to hang with her and a mutual friend..

she rolled her eyes and said "sure"...whatever you want......"

She also pouted when I told her she'd get the couch if she came to visit...

when I told her that "maybe we could negotiate " after witnessing her pout ....

she perked up and then lowered her voice and said "I'm a good negotiator...I usually get what I want....."

Amongst other things she's given me eyes... called me darling and has been excessively touchy-feely at times.

Flash forward

at Dinah shore about two weeks ago

we rented this sick house in palm springs and there was a pool party.....

as soon as I arrived there was some more flirting ..and then talk about dating expectations like as in who should pay ( hint hint) (she also brought this up letting me know she was single I presume ) ..

then she started flirting with other people.

She was then begging me to join her in the pool and even chased me around the back yard ... she seemed a bit annoyed I didn't let her catch up to me ) I regret not letting her tackle me...hindsight..I was hesitant because I was wearing $ 500 pants though at the time) .

Anywho she then she starts flirting with this other person for a lot of the time I am there in the house

however...the minute I would go chat with others should then come and be possessive by trying to hold my arm or something when I was talking to another girl or hanging /being cuddly with someone else.

So that is why I interpret the purse thing and then this flirting with other people as shit tests.....

Though to be fair..she's kind of a fuckboi...as in she told me that her flirting with others and even giving out numbers to other girls was a common issue ex-girlfriends had with her....

which is the biggest fucking red flag of the century....that I am ignoring because I am an idiot....

Well you would know cause you was there. But as a rule don’t read too much into drunk actions cause drunk.

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yeah I mean the pouting and the dating talk she was completely sober.

she was completely sober for the majority of these interactions excluding the purse.

but thanks for the advice!

As the song lyrics go by Rufus wainwright I will try to " watch my head about it.....oh no no no kidding"

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@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Obviously I wasn't there and my methods are probably different to most people and not necessarily always effective. I try to be always moving forward with stuff like that, it sounds like you are somewhere in the middle.

With the hold my bag: I would have said "no I'll look like RuPaul". If she asked again "you're persistent aren't you? Do people usually say no to you?"

That was a good retort.

It sounds like you're in a frustrating situation. Idk but it sounds like the long game.

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yeah man and I'm tired and horny damn.lol

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Posted by alexscaries

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by alexscaries

@Adreamuponwaking

What was the question/shit test so I can gauge it?

The bisexuals pretty much just tried to roast me every chance they got ( e.g - a lot of senseless teasing about being a nerd or like the way I park a car ...really just stupid stuff) this happened mostly I think after felt rejected.



As for the lesbian she first did the

"hold my purse/bag request " shit test multiple times when she was drunk after about a day or two of heavy flirting with her.

This however was then followed up a few weeks later by" a nuclear shit test" of flirting with other people in front of me.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/#:~:text=Nuclear% 20Shit% 20Tests% 3A,see% 20how% 20you% 20will% 20react.

Obviously I wasn't there and my methods are probably different to most people and not necessarily always effective. I try to be always moving forward with stuff like that, it sounds like you are somewhere in the middle.

With the hold my bag: I would have said "no I'll look like RuPaul". If she asked again "you're persistent aren't you? Do people usually say no to you?"

That was a good retort.

It sounds like you're in a frustrating situation. Idk but it sounds like the long game.

yeah man and I'm tired and horny damn.lol

See other people in the meantime, come back stronger. 😉

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I'm demi so unfortunately sexual attraction to other people is rare.

I have been having lots of platonic hangouts though with friends.

( at least platonic on my end..especially regarding the bisexual friend)

Shit test dating—? sounds exhausting. i would think that the petty games would still continue throughout the duration of the relationship, who has time for that bs. date someone that is confident enough in themselves that you don't have to "prove yourself" to them all the time.