Do Sags get taken for granted?

I give so much in a relationship. I make an effort every day. I want them to feel special & loved, but once they stop making an effort, I feel taken for granted.

If they push me & get nasty, I loose feelings.

Is this a Sag thing or could it be my Cancer moon?

Posted by Erinelda

Posted by alexscaries

Probably Cancer Moon they are a lot more emotionally invested, some would say clingy.

I have a dilemma here, I want to reply to your post and tell you that those people can go screw themselves. But I already replied to a few of your posts already and I wouldn't want to come across as 'Clingy' lol.

Op. I used to feel taken advantage of a lot. And then someone said to me: "Well who asked you to do all that?" and instantly it all clicked. No one asked me to do all that. So I stopped giving more than I was willing to lose.

And as far as you leaving when someone gets nasty, good that is self respect.

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You're right. I do too much. It's hard to stop. I have stopped myself occasionally & it feels unnatural & I feel guilty. Lol. It's Crazy!

I will have to train myself to do less for others & care less about it.

Posted by Araujo97

Best moon for a sag, really, i love it

Really? That's an interesting reply. I'd love to know more

Posted by Sagifloss

I give so much in a relationship. I make an effort every day. I want them to feel special & loved, but once they stop making an effort, I feel taken for granted.

If they push me & get nasty, I loose feelings.

Is this a Sag thing or could it be my Cancer moon?

Yes they do. Most mutables feel that way when in relationships with cardinal and fixed signs.

You've bent over backwards so much and for so long, the fixed and cardinal sign is used to getting their way.

Once mutables actually discover the imbalance and try to use their voice to create balance, it's too late. Resentment for the sag and confusion for the fixed and cardinal sign.

Mutables need to draw boundaries and speak up for themselves.

I know I feel taken for granted after relationships.. I do not have a cancer moon! 😉

Most of my life it’s been relationships with cardinals. I have to say the one with the Virgo & Pisces that was not the case. Perhaps I should go back to dating mutables!

Of course Pisces was not a good relationship, but Virgo was.. so what’s that mean? Gemini, Sag, Virgo or Pisces. Hmmm Virgo please lol

Posted by DMV

Posted by Sagifloss

I give so much in a relationship. I make an effort every day. I want them to feel special & loved, but once they stop making an effort, I feel taken for granted.

If they push me & get nasty, I loose feelings.

Is this a Sag thing or could it be my Cancer moon?

Yes they do. Most mutables feel that way when in relationships with cardinal and fixed signs.

You've bent over backwards so much and for so long, the fixed and cardinal sign is used to getting their way.

Once mutables actually discover the imbalance and try to use their voice to create balance, it's too late. Resentment for the sag and confusion for the fixed and cardinal sign.

Mutables need to draw boundaries and speak up for themselves.

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Omg exactly. I do better with fixed than cardinals though. Or Leo’s cuz that’s the only fixed I’ve dated.

Posted by Sagifloss

I give so much in a relationship. I make an effort every day. I want them to feel special & loved, but once they stop making an effort, I feel taken for granted.

If they push me & get nasty, I loose feelings.

Is this a Sag thing or could it be my Cancer moon?

I think it’s your sun/moon combo. I have the same combo and I treat people how they treat me. If they’re nice, I’m nice. If they are mean, I’m mean.

I don’t get taken for granted though cause I need attention and will get it from someone else if the person of interest isn’t paying attention to me. I will also let them know that. 😬

Posted by Sagifloss

Posted by Erinelda

Posted by alexscaries

Probably Cancer Moon they are a lot more emotionally invested, some would say clingy.

I have a dilemma here, I want to reply to your post and tell you that those people can go screw themselves. But I already replied to a few of your posts already and I wouldn't want to come across as 'Clingy' lol.

Op. I used to feel taken advantage of a lot. And then someone said to me: "Well who asked you to do all that?" and instantly it all clicked. No one asked me to do all that. So I stopped giving more than I was willing to lose.

And as far as you leaving when someone gets nasty, good that is self respect.

You're right. I do too much. It's hard to stop. I have stopped myself occasionally & it feels unnatural & I feel guilty. Lol. It's Crazy!

I will have to train myself to do less for others & care less about it.

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I think it is a good rule not to do more than they do. Although I hate it because I show my love through doing. But otherwise I end up feeling walked on/taking advantage of in the end.

Did i see in the other thread you are a cap Venus? I’m a cap Venus/cap mars and that could be part of the problem too.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

I know I feel taken for granted after relationships.. I do not have a cancer moon! 😉

Most of my life it’s been relationships with cardinals. I have to say the one with the Virgo & Pisces that was not the case. Perhaps I should go back to dating mutables!

Of course Pisces was not a good relationship, but Virgo was.. so what’s that mean? Gemini, Sag, Virgo or Pisces. Hmmm Virgo please lol

Mutable on mutable is the best relationship for mutables.

Let the fixed and cardinal signs have each other.

Posted by DMV

Posted by PuzzlePieces

I know I feel taken for granted after relationships.. I do not have a cancer moon! 😉

Most of my life it’s been relationships with cardinals. I have to say the one with the Virgo & Pisces that was not the case. Perhaps I should go back to dating mutables!

Of course Pisces was not a good relationship, but Virgo was.. so what’s that mean? Gemini, Sag, Virgo or Pisces. Hmmm Virgo please lol

Mutable on mutable is the best relationship for mutables.

Let the fixed and cardinal signs have each other.

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Looks more & more like I need to do that. The last few cardinals I’ve met are too freaking controlling! Like dudes no!

I always get taken advantage of. I address it. I will still deal with being taken advantage of, and I will pursue other situations outside of the person taking advantage of me.

Then when confronted about said outside activities, I tell the truth, yes I am dealing with other people, I wasn't but I gave you numerous opportunities to correct your behavior and you didn't.

it maybe passive aggressive but, I addressed it with no resolution on their behalf, so I find other outlets.

@saggurl88 Some say I'm the bad guy.... I'm just trying to survive 😄

Posted by Impulsv

Well the thing is I see they “ACT” non chalant about things when they really have an issue with it. Not sure why if it’s not to rock the boat or —

I act nonchalant until I've had enough, then I address it, if its not fixed, I will continue to deal with it and find other avenues to not rock the boat.

Posted by hellosaggy

I always get taken advantage of. I address it. I will still deal with being taken advantage of, and I will pursue other situations outside of the person taking advantage of me.

Then when confronted about said outside activities, I tell the truth, yes I am dealing with other people, I wasn't but I gave you numerous opportunities to correct your behavior and you didn't.

it maybe passive aggressive but, I addressed it with no resolution on their behalf, so I find other outlets.

@saggurl88 Some say I'm the bad guy.... I'm just trying to survive 😄

Hahahaha Why you tag me? I didn't create this thread.

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by Impulsv

Well the thing is I see they “ACT” non chalant about things when they really have an issue with it. Not sure why if it’s not to rock the boat or —

I act nonchalant until I've had enough, then I address it, if its not fixed, I will continue to deal with it and find other avenues to not rock the boat.

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Damn!!! I'm the same!!! 😆

"Oh, but you thought I was playing when I said then huh?" #HOEWELL

Cut, cut- good bye lol

Posted by Kittens

Whats taken? Sag woman are not sexy nor beautiful, not so bright either. But maybe they brings good lucks, so yeah it could be.

You're full of shit. Why do you always throw shade when you know we aren't like that and you can't even keep someone from cheating on you?

Up you sex skills and keep your sex game up and they wont cheat.

Quit ignoring women to go work, Kitty Kap

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by Impulsv

Well the thing is I see they “ACT” non chalant about things when they really have an issue with it. Not sure why if it’s not to rock the boat or —

I act nonchalant until I've had enough, then I address it, if its not fixed, I will continue to deal with it and find other avenues to not rock the boat.

Damn!!! I'm the same!!! 😆

"Oh, but you thought I was playing when I said then huh?" #HOEWELL

Cut, cut- good bye lol

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yup! I don't be playing with these people

Posted by Impulsv

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by Impulsv

Well the thing is I see they “ACT” non chalant about things when they really have an issue with it. Not sure why if it’s not to rock the boat or —

I act nonchalant until I've had enough, then I address it, if its not fixed, I will continue to deal with it and find other avenues to not rock the boat.

But you see how can you be taken seriously if you act like no big deal

That’s not fair to other person because they see it’s ok

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I think we have a sense of ... you are an adult, you have common sense as to what is ok and what's not. I try to give people the opportunity to correct themselves by asking open ended questions instead of getting pissed. Then I address it and I try to move on, you know I've told you. like if I tell you I like x, and you keep giving me y, then I tell you no please i perfer you do X, and you keep giving me y, then why would I get mad about it. I'll just get x from someone else. and tolerate your y

Anybody can, if they allow it.