How do Saggs react to ultimatums? (Page 3)

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by MissM
My ex sag use to pull that crap. Contacting me to try tell me how great he had been doing without me. I think its almost them trying to convince themselves that they are fine without you and look at all the great stuff they are doing.

I disagrre. I contact people cause I have thought of them too man times and suppressed to contact them. then all of a suddon I say to myself, "spreeding love is much better".

that is no lie. no show-off. nothing. this is how I do it. venus in sag. I think a lot about my loved people even if I keep distance to them.

this guy was about to move away, got feelings and wrote her. (of course men have one more reason to be sentimental if you know what I mean)

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Yeah but he doesn't just come out and say he's missing her. Instead he says look how great I'm doing I've gotten a new job and am going travelling and thats why its crap. If you miss someone just say hey i've been thinking about you a lot how are you doing, you don't need to be like look how great I am doing and not say anything about the actual feelings which is why it annoys me. Like its obvious he's contacting her cause he misses her but he doesn't say that so why should she acknowledge it.

Posted by MissM

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by MissM
My ex sag ... them ... themselves that they ... they are doing.

I disagree. I contact ... I ... I say to myself...

Yeah but he doesn't just come out and say he's missing her. Instead he says look how great I'm doing I've gotten a new job and am going travelling and thats why its crap. If you miss someone just say hey i've been thinking about you a lot how are you doing, you don't need to be like look how great I am doing and not say anything about the actual feelings which is why it annoys me. Like its obvious he's contacting her cause he misses her but he doesn't say that so why should she acknowledge it.

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well, I wrote my story only because I saw they, themselves and them. your story: I have no rights on changing it. it's yours.

also "o tell me he is moving to the other side of the planet!" is a short story. it does not contain the words, "look how great I'm doing".

travelling can also be sad. at least the feeling to be separated from home. and what if you never come back from that journey. there's recommendation to say goodbye (or even I love you or you mean a lot to me) before a journey. maybe that's a cultural stuff.

I'm more inclined to agree with MissM. That "I don't know...whats new on your side" answer sounded a bit disconnected with me. It didnt seem he wanted to really be honest about the reason he was contacting me. Hence me being slightly cold with my answers.

Got the feeling he wants my support on this, to tell him all would be fine, etc and my attention so he is ready to move. Seems to be more about him than any feelings he might still have for me.

He didn't answer me back anyway.

Posted by IamAries
I'm more inclined to agree with MissM. That "I don't know...whats new on your side" answer sounded a bit disconnected with me. It didnt seem he wanted to really be honest about the reason he was contacting me. Hence me being slightly cold with my answers.

Got the feeling he wants my support on this, to tell him all would be fine, etc and my attention so he is ready to move. Seems to be more about him than any feelings he might still have for me.

He didn't answer me back anyway.

Yeah its about wanting someone to support him. My sag ex always contacts me when he's going through something hard even 5yrs later... to be its a selfish thing to do tbh.

Posted by IamAries
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Got the feeling he wants my support on this, to tell him all would be fine, etc and my attention so he is ready to move. Seems to be more about him than any feelings he might still have for me.

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the feeling he might have had (if he were like me) : that he realized your special place in his life. He felt an urge to contact you. A little of the famous story, "you know what you had when you miss it".

also what would confessions bring? burdon you with a request for LDR? such things need fundament. it is not done in a short contact.

Cutting a few emails short he asked if he could have my number again. I gave it to him.

He texted me the other day asking how I was / random stuff. I answered, still a bit cold, not asking much about him, just when he was suppose to move. He gave me the full plan (when he is going to see his parents, when flying there). Turns out he is leaving end of the month. :/

He texted me again today...more random questions. At some point I asked why he deleted my number. He said something about reseting his phone which I didn't really believe. He didn't want to speak much about what happened, just said "you told me never to contact you again".

Now I have this question on my phone: "do you think it is a bad idea to meet?"

Im a bit lost... I want to see him. But It might be a very bad idea. It will feed even more the feelings I have for him and I don't know his intentions. If I ask him directly he wont answer objectively. At the same time if I say No, I might regret it. If I say yes I might regret it too.

Is there a subtle way to say I agree to meet but I wont be sleeping with him, or something of that sort will happen? Im feeling a bit clueless here.

If you meet him do something during the day where you would be unlikely to sleep with each other. Brunch maybe.

Have sex if u wanna bang. Be open to whatever.

Posted by IamAries
Cutting a few emails short he asked if he could have my number again. I gave it to him.

He texted me the other day asking how I was / random stuff. I answered, still a bit cold, not asking much about him, just when he was suppose to move. He gave me the full plan (when he is going to see his parents, when flying there). Turns out he is leaving end of the month. :/

He texted me again today...more random questions. At some point I asked why he deleted my number. He said something about reseting his phone which I didn't really believe. He didn't want to speak much about what happened, just said "you told me never to contact you again".

Now I have this question on my phone: "do you think it is a bad idea to meet?"

Im a bit lost... I want to see him. But It might be a very bad idea. It will feed even more the feelings I have for him and I don't know his intentions. If I ask him directly he wont answer objectively. At the same time if I say No, I might regret it. If I say yes I might regret it too.

Is there a subtle way to say I agree to meet but I wont be sleeping with him, or something of that sort will happen? Im feeling a bit clueless here.

You're setting yourself up. You know this man doesn't want anything from you, so stop the contact. Who cares what he wants. Move on. It's the best thing you can do for yourself.

I told my ex sag either you commit to only working on things with me and not talk to other girls or I will 100% cut you off for good because I need to move on with my life and you and i being back and forth is just slowing down my self-growth and he said that yes he will commit. It took him 4 months to say yes but once i said that he said okay after thinking for a day about it. asked me to be his gf again after a week

He's on his way to meet me now and I'm already regreting this ??‍♀️??‍♀️

Edit: it was actually quite a nice couple of hours ?

light conversation, we laughed a lot, he brought up funny memories from when we traveled and we didnt speak "us" or feelings which I prefered.

He had this spark in his eyes like he used to have in the begining and when he brought me home he was getting very close to me. When we said godbye there was this awkward silence, we just stared into each other not knowing what to do / say and I think he wanted to kiss me because his eyes were moving to my mouth.. I said godbye and kissed him on the cheek.

It was actually very good to see him, we had some good laughs!

I have no expectations. He is moving for 2 years so this is it. And it is ok. ? I don't regret it.

Sent him a quick message this morning.

He answered his dad passed away tonight. He has been driving for the last 5hours on his way to his parents.

I'm trying to be on the phone as much as possible so he is not alone on his journey...but Im running out of words. My heart is just broken for him and his family. No one should have to go through this kind of pain 😢

Comon, Aries are often decisive people. When we want, we want. Same when we dont want.

Doesnt mean we have all the answers to our own questions though.

I understand.

I'm sad too.

Not for me...I tried. He didnt want a relationship I cut it and never contacted him again. He came back. I thought I was going to regret meeting him but I didn't. I accept it is not going anywhere but I wont hold a grudge. Life goes on.

I'm sad for what happened to him though.

He just now texted this:

XXX, I know you will probably not understand, but I will cut the contact for now.

Me: stay well!

Him: Thank you. Thanks for your words and your support during this difficult time.

Me: Nothing to thank for. You'll be OK, not today, not tomorrow, but even if now you don't believe it, one day it wll get better.

Him: Yes, I know. Thank you.

Maybe one day he will reach out.

He has a lot to face now.

And if he doesnt, well...he doesnt. 🙂

I think he is.

I dont know at what time he was born and it might not even be that he is a Scorpio moon and is a Libra...

I dont know what happened this last weeks...I had 4 people from the past contacting me:

Ex bf from 10 years ago. We were together for 2 years (Leo) - Got no reply

Ex bf from 2 years ago. we were together for almost 6 years (Leo) - Got no reply

A fling from last year (Gemini) - Got no reply

The Sag - Got a reply.

Hummm...maybe. Non transparent about his life and how much le lets me know, I disagree. He answers everything I ask regarding his life. (thats when it is about feelings that it gets tricky). And used to tell me about it. Non committal, well yes. At least to me 🙂 Mighty inconsistent...with this coming back stunt, It could be. With him cutitng contact now...not so sure. His dad just died. I read some people need space and distance to grief and he is informing me of that.