Gemgyal
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Sagittarius suddenly breaks up with me. (Page 2)
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Yeah totally get that my Gem is the same she absolutely hates it if I ask again about the same thing she will say to me oh not this again lol talk to me about something different bring back the excitement etc, it's probably why she has felt the way she has lately but I wanted commitment from her to much and I should of been going with the flow but in my defence she did promise me that she wanted us to live together and have a future that is what messed us up.
Trouble I had was I came out of a long failing relationship I had with my ex of 8 years and we had children together are own place and security.
That is why I have found it so hard with the lack of commitment.
I get what you mean your on the fence of what to do because you kind of don't want to upset the whole contact but on the flip side you also want to know where you stand.
If you don't mind me asking when you are in contact what sort of things are being said between you guys.
Omg! I hate that too, because usually when we have spoken about stuff and I have let it go in my mind I don’t think it’s necessary to talk about it again because it has been solved. Haha.
I think Gemini’s just say what feels right in the moment. At that moment she made the promise I really think that’s what she meant. The problem is our emotions change 24/7. Something about a person could turn us off completely out of the blue. Just give her space and go with the flow that would be the best thing. But also state on time that is eventually what you would like and want. So she knows.
Our conversations are quite casual. Just about daily stuff and work etc. It’s just the same as when we were in a relationship only now he is not really as affectionate. I can see and feel that he is really focused on not being too invested because it makes it harder for him to move on. And yes this is true I am really on the fence cause we are actually cool now but i can’t shake the feeling that it’s just for the mean time and I might get too invested and really believe we are building a friendship and end up really hurt. I just don’t want to get hurt anymore he has really hurt me with this out of the blue break up.
Yes, I believe your right and I have had to learn this about my partner.
I think I turnt her off to be honest not just me but things that have happened out of our control this is why I am now going with the flow and not putting emotional behaviour into the situations what ever she wants to do I will go with it and respect it.
I have learnt to wait for her to approach me on the emotional side.
We are still planning and booking things together and we do go out different places when we are free everyother weekend we run together alot as well.
It's making me think he isn't as affectionate towards you as he was before I would question why because is there somewhere he is getting advice from could be.
Maybe something that was said I can kind of see how he is feeling but not exactly explain it I think it is a front he's putting on. Just got a feeling.
Yes. With me being a gemini if someone gets too emotional too fast it scares me off. Because i like to be free and not tied down. This happened exactly with me and my ex. He was so emotional and all lovey dovey in the beginning it was too much for me. With gemini's we need time to warm up to you and see if you are really in it for the long haul. Then slowely we will start opening up to you..
Hmm I did think about that he is talking and taking advice from other people maybe like his mom or friends. I know it's a front the last two times I saw the way he looks at me it hasn't changed. he still has feelings for me i know it and he has said it multiple times. He struggles with himself internally and I can't help him with that. The only thing i can do is remove myself from the situation.
Yeah tell him your removing your self for good and that he has made his decision on you guys and you hear him and that is final as you cannot afford to be messed around with and you won't put up with it set your boundaries I duno why but I'm 85% sure he will come running. I hate to admit it but it's true 🤣.
Thing is I have shown my gem that I am here for the long haul I bond with her children I have them for her when she goes kickboxing I take them up to bed get them to sleep etc I do all of this and more its just somethings she really struggles with she cannot get her head around somethings she hates my ex so she told me she struggles to bond with my children as she feels like she is doing my ex a favour by having the kids etc but it's not it's for me. I kind of understand but it's stupid really because I had abuse for her ex for 3-4 months at the start and I don't feel that way about her children I love them.
I don't come across emotional to her anymore just act normal not needy just got with the flow Gem has to come to you and I duno if she will or not but she's still here so that says something.
Yeah, i will be sending him a message in a min. Hahaha Why do you think that he will come back running? He is so set on that we will never get back together. So yeah it is what it is. I dont think it's necessary for me to delete or block him tho. What do you think?
Hmm and i think hearing your story there is more going on with your gemini. I myself love children and if i love my partner i will love his children as my own. I do think this is something you need to talk about. Do you know her other placements?
Well she told me the other day she doesn't want to be with me but still went out with me all day Saturday and Sunday for food and drinks and then had it with me on the Sunday night and after told me she still doesn't know what she wants and after that I didn't say a word about it just went with the flow and she has since been slightly cuddling and we have had it the past two days and I asked her Tuesday night what isit you want and she said for us to rebuild but go slowly.
I think what she wants is the nagging and neediness to stop on my side and for us to just have fun and go with the flow again so we can be happy we have been joking around etc today so thats good.
I feel like its a front from your Sag and I think once you call it quit he'll come running apologising and wanting to take you out.
Hmm honestly i hate people that nag and constantly need confirmation. I do think its weird she said she doensnt want to be with you. Maybe she does that to see how you would react?
Also she has told u she wants to rebuild but slowly. If i were you i would fall back a bit and let her come to you she might feel a bit suffocated. Happy today was a good day!
Yeah i know its a front but i dont have time for that.click to expand
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If I am honest I am still completely terrified deep down🤣 however, I think you need to be happy inside once one person is happy the other can also, be happy.
I take every day as it comes now with the attitude of if she is going to go she will go or if she wants something else she will have it because at the end of the day she wanted me and got me not going to lie and say I didn't also, want her but she made the moves and told me that every time I would walk past her in work something was telling her I am the one and that she is not going to get me.
We have had terrible arguments between us and falling outs where we have not seen eachother for days here and there but we have had to figure eachother out.
I have learnt not to take somethings she says seriously because one minuet she can say something and feel completely different the next depending on how the week had gone between us.
I was constantly sacred to loose her that I nagged at her over and over about my emotions and asked her if she wants me still over and over and it only dragged the whole relationship down.
We are just rebuilding us now with me acting normal like it was at the start when I didn't know what I had to loose so you go into it open minded and she has since said she feels more close to me already and stuff is starting to get back on track and that was after a few days. We needed fun again and not just family life.
I would say shift your energy away from him if you have kids concentrate on them or if not on yourself and friends post up pics of you having fun going out show people what they are missing.
Take it from me If he wants you for good he will pursue you for sure, probably try joking with you and trying to make you laugh at first etc, its what I would do.
Aww yes. That’s really how Gemini’s are. we could say something so serious in the moment en feel totally different a day later. With me it usually has to do with my emotions. My emotions get the best of me sometimes. I’m glad you figured things out with your gemini.
I don’t have kids but I will try focusing on myself more I’m very busy with work anyways.
Only thing I’m struggling with now is if I should still keep in contact with him. Or just pull away my energy. We have been talking consistently now. Would it be weird if I just stopped replying now? I really don’t feel like having a third conversation about the same thing lol. I love him but he needs to work on himself I don’t feel like it benefits us at this moment to still be in contact.
Yeah totally get that my Gem is the same she absolutely hates it if I ask again about the same thing she will say to me oh not this again lol talk to me about something different bring back the excitement etc, it's probably why she has felt the way she has lately but I wanted commitment from her to much and I should of been going with the flow but in my defence she did promise me that she wanted us to live together and have a future that is what messed us up.
Trouble I had was I came out of a long failing relationship I had with my ex of 8 years and we had children together are own place and security.
That is why I have found it so hard with the lack of commitment.
I get what you mean your on the fence of what to do because you kind of don't want to upset the whole contact but on the flip side you also want to know where you stand.
If you don't mind me asking when you are in contact what sort of things are being said between you guys.
Omg! I hate that too, because usually when we have spoken about stuff and I have let it go in my mind I don’t think it’s necessary to talk about it again because it has been solved. Haha.
I think Gemini’s just say what feels right in the moment. At that moment she made the promise I really think that’s what she meant. The problem is our emotions change 24/7. Something about a person could turn us off completely out of the blue. Just give her space and go with the flow that would be the best thing. But also state on time that is eventually what you would like and want. So she knows.
Our conversations are quite casual. Just about daily stuff and work etc. It’s just the same as when we were in a relationship only now he is not really as affectionate. I can see and feel that he is really focused on not being too invested because it makes it harder for him to move on. And yes this is true I am really on the fence cause we are actually cool now but i can’t shake the feeling that it’s just for the mean time and I might get too invested and really believe we are building a friendship and end up really hurt. I just don’t want to get hurt anymore he has really hurt me with this out of the blue break up.
Yes, I believe your right and I have had to learn this about my partner.
I think I turnt her off to be honest not just me but things that have happened out of our control this is why I am now going with the flow and not putting emotional behaviour into the situations what ever she wants to do I will go with it and respect it.
I have learnt to wait for her to approach me on the emotional side.
We are still planning and booking things together and we do go out different places when we are free everyother weekend we run together alot as well.
It's making me think he isn't as affectionate towards you as he was before I would question why because is there somewhere he is getting advice from could be.
Maybe something that was said I can kind of see how he is feeling but not exactly explain it I think it is a front he's putting on. Just got a feeling.
Yes. With me being a gemini if someone gets too emotional too fast it scares me off. Because i like to be free and not tied down. This happened exactly with me and my ex. He was so emotional and all lovey dovey in the beginning it was too much for me. With gemini's we need time to warm up to you and see if you are really in it for the long haul. Then slowely we will start opening up to you..
Hmm I did think about that he is talking and taking advice from other people maybe like his mom or friends. I know it's a front the last two times I saw the way he looks at me it hasn't changed. he still has feelings for me i know it and he has said it multiple times. He struggles with himself internally and I can't help him with that. The only thing i can do is remove myself from the situation.
Yeah tell him your removing your self for good and that he has made his decision on you guys and you hear him and that is final as you cannot afford to be messed around with and you won't put up with it set your boundaries I duno why but I'm 85% sure he will come running. I hate to admit it but it's true 🤣.
Thing is I have shown my gem that I am here for the long haul I bond with her children I have them for her when she goes kickboxing I take them up to bed get them to sleep etc I do all of this and more its just somethings she really struggles with she cannot get her head around somethings she hates my ex so she told me she struggles to bond with my children as she feels like she is doing my ex a favour by having the kids etc but it's not it's for me. I kind of understand but it's stupid really because I had abuse for her ex for 3-4 months at the start and I don't feel that way about her children I love them.
I don't come across emotional to her anymore just act normal not needy just got with the flow Gem has to come to you and I duno if she will or not but she's still here so that says something.
Yeah, i will be sending him a message in a min. Hahaha Why do you think that he will come back running? He is so set on that we will never get back together. So yeah it is what it is. I dont think it's necessary for me to delete or block him tho. What do you think?
Hmm and i think hearing your story there is more going on with your gemini. I myself love children and if i love my partner i will love his children as my own. I do think this is something you need to talk about. Do you know her other placements?
Why would she go out with me and continue this and book things for August if she did not want to be with me. This is why I don't take what she says personally anymore.click to expand
Idk only thing I know is sometimes I may feel like i'm done with someone and after some thought i'm not. We are confusing like that but I do still think you two should have an honest conversation about this.
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Yeah totally get that my Gem is the same she absolutely hates it if I ask again about the same thing she will say to me oh not this again lol talk to me about something different bring back the excitement etc, it's probably why she has felt the way she has lately but I wanted commitment from her to much and I should of been going with the flow but in my defence she did promise me that she wanted us to live together and have a future that is what messed us up.
Trouble I had was I came out of a long failing relationship I had with my ex of 8 years and we had children together are own place and security.
That is why I have found it so hard with the lack of commitment.
I get what you mean your on the fence of what to do because you kind of don't want to upset the whole contact but on the flip side you also want to know where you stand.
If you don't mind me asking when you are in contact what sort of things are being said between you guys.
Omg! I hate that too, because usually when we have spoken about stuff and I have let it go in my mind I don’t think it’s necessary to talk about it again because it has been solved. Haha.
I think Gemini’s just say what feels right in the moment. At that moment she made the promise I really think that’s what she meant. The problem is our emotions change 24/7. Something about a person could turn us off completely out of the blue. Just give her space and go with the flow that would be the best thing. But also state on time that is eventually what you would like and want. So she knows.
Our conversations are quite casual. Just about daily stuff and work etc. It’s just the same as when we were in a relationship only now he is not really as affectionate. I can see and feel that he is really focused on not being too invested because it makes it harder for him to move on. And yes this is true I am really on the fence cause we are actually cool now but i can’t shake the feeling that it’s just for the mean time and I might get too invested and really believe we are building a friendship and end up really hurt. I just don’t want to get hurt anymore he has really hurt me with this out of the blue break up.
Yes, I believe your right and I have had to learn this about my partner.
I think I turnt her off to be honest not just me but things that have happened out of our control this is why I am now going with the flow and not putting emotional behaviour into the situations what ever she wants to do I will go with it and respect it.
I have learnt to wait for her to approach me on the emotional side.
We are still planning and booking things together and we do go out different places when we are free everyother weekend we run together alot as well.
It's making me think he isn't as affectionate towards you as he was before I would question why because is there somewhere he is getting advice from could be.
Maybe something that was said I can kind of see how he is feeling but not exactly explain it I think it is a front he's putting on. Just got a feeling.
Yes. With me being a gemini if someone gets too emotional too fast it scares me off. Because i like to be free and not tied down. This happened exactly with me and my ex. He was so emotional and all lovey dovey in the beginning it was too much for me. With gemini's we need time to warm up to you and see if you are really in it for the long haul. Then slowely we will start opening up to you..
Hmm I did think about that he is talking and taking advice from other people maybe like his mom or friends. I know it's a front the last two times I saw the way he looks at me it hasn't changed. he still has feelings for me i know it and he has said it multiple times. He struggles with himself internally and I can't help him with that. The only thing i can do is remove myself from the situation.
Yeah tell him your removing your self for good and that he has made his decision on you guys and you hear him and that is final as you cannot afford to be messed around with and you won't put up with it set your boundaries I duno why but I'm 85% sure he will come running. I hate to admit it but it's true 🤣.
Thing is I have shown my gem that I am here for the long haul I bond with her children I have them for her when she goes kickboxing I take them up to bed get them to sleep etc I do all of this and more its just somethings she really struggles with she cannot get her head around somethings she hates my ex so she told me she struggles to bond with my children as she feels like she is doing my ex a favour by having the kids etc but it's not it's for me. I kind of understand but it's stupid really because I had abuse for her ex for 3-4 months at the start and I don't feel that way about her children I love them.
I don't come across emotional to her anymore just act normal not needy just got with the flow Gem has to come to you and I duno if she will or not but she's still here so that says something.
Yeah, i will be sending him a message in a min. Hahaha Why do you think that he will come back running? He is so set on that we will never get back together. So yeah it is what it is. I dont think it's necessary for me to delete or block him tho. What do you think?
Hmm and i think hearing your story there is more going on with your gemini. I myself love children and if i love my partner i will love his children as my own. I do think this is something you need to talk about. Do you know her other placements?
Well she told me the other day she doesn't want to be with me but still went out with me all day Saturday and Sunday for food and drinks and then had it with me on the Sunday night and after told me she still doesn't know what she wants and after that I didn't say a word about it just went with the flow and she has since been slightly cuddling and we have had it the past two days and I asked her Tuesday night what isit you want and she said for us to rebuild but go slowly.
I think what she wants is the nagging and neediness to stop on my side and for us to just have fun and go with the flow again so we can be happy we have been joking around etc today so thats good.
I feel like its a front from your Sag and I think once you call it quit he'll come running apologising and wanting to take you out.
Hmm honestly i hate people that nag and constantly need confirmation. I do think its weird she said she doensnt want to be with you. Maybe she does that to see how you would react?
Also she has told u she wants to rebuild but slowly. If i were you i would fall back a bit and let her come to you she might feel a bit suffocated. Happy today was a good day!
Yeah i know its a front but i dont have time for that.click to expand
Hope your side went well for you?
My side however my partner wants to know everything she is in a mood with me as I didn't say I text my ex to ask if the kids have their swimming costumes but I was working all day long she even told me to text her to ask before it's too late when I got off the phone to her in the morning so I text her to ask for them and because I didn't say to my partner I text my ex she said you don't communicate with me but she does not take into account what I have been doing in the day working all day then I drop my daughter home from school as I work there then I had to turn my car around to go back to work to get my drill so I could take down the Wendy house/ play house in the garden then I had to go to the shop to get something for tea for us all then back to my partners house to take down the play house I was flat out yet because it slipped my mind and I don't think it is very important she went mental at me . Yet I caught her out lying to me about her texting her exs sister.
But that's okay no I don't think so.
This is where its so unfair oh and also, I said to my partner about going swimming a few day ago and she said yeah okay I will be happy to do that etc yet because of this she now said to me this morning I don't want to come swimming it's the only day I get off from the kids so I was going to see my friend and you can spend sometime with your kids then.
And then I said why as you said you wanted to the other day are you just acting like this for revenge or something and she said know I am finding it hard to bond with your kids because I think I am doing there mother a favour after the year she put me through and all the things I have had to put up with and I said well I have also had to put up with contact abuse from your ex for 4months at the start you don't see me not bonding with your kids or not wantingto hang out
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It's obvious he's being selfish, isnt he?
He already checked out, in his head he knows he doesnt want a relationship anymore.
He's just dragging you along until he finds something to fully focus on. Like a new life or a new person.
I used to do this ages ago.
Like gemini, sags are usually wishy washy in a decision making process. But once we decides, it's usually final. He already decided not wanting a relationship with you. He just hasnt got his new life lined up yet, hence this behaviour.
Remove yourself from the situation and see what happens. Dont need to give ultimatum just remove yourself. Being friends with him will just hurt you.
You’re so right. He said he wants to be friends but it’s hard for him to see me too often because he will be thinking back about the old times and because he still has strong feelings for me he’s afraid he will want to go back to the relationship.
Couple of days after we broke up I just felt the decision he had made was an emotional one so we agreed to talk again and we did. During that talk it was like he regretted his decision and wanted to come back. He was saying stuff to see my reaction I guess? So i just said it’s all right better this way. Cant be with someone who keeps wanting me and then don’t
Just doesn’t make sense to me. After that conversation we were cool and decided to be friends. I noticed suddenly there were only slow replies like 5-6 hrs later. So I stopped talking altogether for like 4 days. Then suddenly he texted me: that he wanted to “ define our friendship”
So we had a conversation in person and I told him I can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort as I do. Cause when I see you as my friend you are really my friend there is not inbetween.
For him it was like yeah i have different kind of friends blabla and I all treat them differently.
Then he said if I would invite him to my birthday he would come? Which I obviously won’t but still why?
After that conversation where I told him i thinks he doesn’t put effort and he can’t expect me to talk with him if the replies in a conversation take 5-6 hrs everytime. Whiles when we were in a relationship he was always texting me within 10 mins.
Since that conversation we had I’ve seen a whole 360 in his behaviour he replies fast and really talk to me. But I’m guarded. I really don’t understand him.
What do you think I should do best? Should I just stop the contact all completely or should I tell him that we need to stop all the contact? I just feel that when invest too much in “our friendship” he will really hurt me once he finds someone else to focus on.
Sorry for my long reply wanted to give you some more insight.
So he has changed and now you're uncertain? 😝
I cant make up my mind. The part where he said he treats his friend differently etc could mean 2 things: he has compartementalized you into a friends with romance and wants no relationship or he's just playing games wanting some worship through drama. (Leo moon lol)
I think you need to have a conversation with him again and this time say it from the start it will be final.. what the hell does he wants and tell him you cant be friends with him. So he wants you in or out?
Being friends with him will just hurt you. He doesnt know what he wants and will keep on dragging you until he does. And it probably could take weeks, months or years lol. Even if he dates around im certain he wont tell you.
I do also, believe he is being wishy washy I have also done this. You could be strung along for the ride until he finds something better in his eyes.
Gem and Sag are quite similar even though we are opposites.
I could be being strung along for a ride myself right now with my Gem she tells me she doesn't want to be with me when he have had bad arguments and then when asked the other night what she wants after bot saying a word she replies I want to rebuild with you and take it slowly but I can their is something still missing there she isn't happy I know it doesnt just happen over night but when you know you know this is why I have the attitude I do now.
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There you go.. now you know 😆
Sag and gem are pretty much the same. The only differences is they think a lot while acting.. while we act now think later 🤣
Hahaha 🤣🤣 this is so true I will think so much before I do something and he would always just do it and think or regret it afterwards hmmm
Basically how our brain works
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After it's done - Why didn't I think this through first oh dam 😅
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Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.click to expand
It's cool 😢😭😭 only joking least it makes you laugh right 🤣 that's the main thing happiness 😊
Posted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by ozzzy
Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.click to expand
How is your relationship with your brother I only ask as I have a gem sister and are relationship no matter if we have not seen eachother for months when we do we are instantly joking around having a laugh being stupid. I cherish the relationship I have with my sister and she always looks out for me.
Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by ozzzy
Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.
How is your relationship with your brother I only ask as I have a gem sister and are relationship no matter if we have not seen eachother for months when we do we are instantly joking around having a laugh being stupid. I cherish the relationship I have with my sister and she always looks out for me.
Your relationship sounds a lot like mine with my brother. We get along really well and like to joke around. We always got each others backs, I'm like a fierce mama bear with my little brothers, don't let no one fuck with them. It's nice to hear you think so highly of your sister 🙂click to expand
Yeah I really do 😁.
Brilliant I am glad to hear that about you and your siblings.
@blackphvse can I ask you an honest question please?
Why would my Gem be playing games like this what is she getting out of it ?
Is she trying to make me change into a person she wants.
Is she getting a kick out of playing games.
Is she testing me to see my reactions.
If you read my posts on here.
She has since rang me this morning to say she was thinking about going swimming now with me and and kids after telling me doesn't want to.
I know you don't know the full answer to this but why would she be or a gem be doing these things what is it going to achieve because I have blatantly told her this is not us rebuilding the relationship. And that's what she told me she wants to do yet because I didn't mention about asking my ex for the kids swimming costumes to her right away she wants to be difficult and play games why.
Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by ozzzy
Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.
How is your relationship with your brother I only ask as I have a gem sister and are relationship no matter if we have not seen eachother for months when we do we are instantly joking around having a laugh being stupid. I cherish the relationship I have with my sister and she always looks out for me.
Your relationship sounds a lot like mine with my brother. We get along really well and like to joke around. We always got each others backs, I'm like a fierce mama bear with my little brothers, don't let no one fuck with them. It's nice to hear you think so highly of your sister 🙂
Yeah I really do 😁.
Brilliant I am glad to hear that about you and your siblings.
@blackphvse can I ask you an honest question please?
Why would my Gem be playing games like this what is she getting out of it ?
Is she trying to make me change into a person she wants.
Is she getting a kick out of playing games.
Is she testing me to see my reactions.
If you read my posts on here.
She has since rang me this morning to say she was thinking about going swimming now with me and and kids after telling me doesn't want to.
I know you don't know the full answer to this but why would she be or a gem be doing these things what is it going to achieve because I have blatantly told her this is not us rebuilding the relationship. And that's what she told me she wants to do yet because I didn't mention about asking my ex for the kids swimming costumes to her right away she wants to be difficult and play games why.
I have been a little out of the loop as to what has been going on with you guys as of lately. From what I remember, you guys were having a bit of a power struggle and I know she was having issues with your ex and seemingly punishing you for that. What has been going on recently? You can DM me if you want, as to not take over this girls thread. Lolclick to expand
Okay I DM you I wouldn't want to take up her thread thats not fair.
Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by ozzzy
Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.
How is your relationship with your brother I only ask as I have a gem sister and are relationship no matter if we have not seen eachother for months when we do we are instantly joking around having a laugh being stupid. I cherish the relationship I have with my sister and she always looks out for me.
Your relationship sounds a lot like mine with my brother. We get along really well and like to joke around. We always got each others backs, I'm like a fierce mama bear with my little brothers, don't let no one fuck with them. It's nice to hear you think so highly of your sister 🙂
Yeah I really do 😁.
Brilliant I am glad to hear that about you and your siblings.
@blackphvse can I ask you an honest question please?
Why would my Gem be playing games like this what is she getting out of it ?
Is she trying to make me change into a person she wants.
Is she getting a kick out of playing games.
Is she testing me to see my reactions.
If you read my posts on here.
She has since rang me this morning to say she was thinking about going swimming now with me and and kids after telling me doesn't want to.
I know you don't know the full answer to this but why would she be or a gem be doing these things what is it going to achieve because I have blatantly told her this is not us rebuilding the relationship. And that's what she told me she wants to do yet because I didn't mention about asking my ex for the kids swimming costumes to her right away she wants to be difficult and play games why.
I have been a little out of the loop as to what has been going on with you guys as of lately. From what I remember, you guys were having a bit of a power struggle and I know she was having issues with your ex and seemingly punishing you for that. What has been going on recently? You can DM me if you want, as to not take over this girls thread. Lol
Okay I DM you I wouldn't want to take up her thread thats not fair.
I tried replying to your msg, it says it sent but doesn't show up in my outbox. I'm not sure if you got it?click to expand
No I never got it sorry 😔 .
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by ozzzy
Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.
How is your relationship with your brother I only ask as I have a gem sister and are relationship no matter if we have not seen eachother for months when we do we are instantly joking around having a laugh being stupid. I cherish the relationship I have with my sister and she always looks out for me.
Your relationship sounds a lot like mine with my brother. We get along really well and like to joke around. We always got each others backs, I'm like a fierce mama bear with my little brothers, don't let no one fuck with them. It's nice to hear you think so highly of your sister 🙂
Yeah I really do 😁.
Brilliant I am glad to hear that about you and your siblings.
@blackphvse can I ask you an honest question please?
Why would my Gem be playing games like this what is she getting out of it ?
Is she trying to make me change into a person she wants.
Is she getting a kick out of playing games.
Is she testing me to see my reactions.
If you read my posts on here.
She has since rang me this morning to say she was thinking about going swimming now with me and and kids after telling me doesn't want to.
I know you don't know the full answer to this but why would she be or a gem be doing these things what is it going to achieve because I have blatantly told her this is not us rebuilding the relationship. And that's what she told me she wants to do yet because I didn't mention about asking my ex for the kids swimming costumes to her right away she wants to be difficult and play games why.
I have been a little out of the loop as to what has been going on with you guys as of lately. From what I remember, you guys were having a bit of a power struggle and I know she was having issues with your ex and seemingly punishing you for that. What has been going on recently? You can DM me if you want, as to not take over this girls thread. Lol
Okay I DM you I wouldn't want to take up her thread thats not fair.
I tried replying to your msg, it says it sent but doesn't show up in my outbox. I'm not sure if you got it?
No I never got it sorry 😔 .
Do you have dxp messages set to receive from everyone?click to expand
No idea 😅🤣
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Centaur12Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by Centaur12Posted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by SagoxaPosted by blackphvsePosted by ozzzy
Ok, I'm a Sag with Leo moon...and yeah, usually I also seek for an escape if it is getting too serious, cause I don't want to be caged or limited, or whatsoever, especially now when I am focused on my purpose aka career and don't have time for something serious...because it is expected that you must devote a lot of your time for that girl. I cannot do that now...then, I would usually use verbal fight situations as an excuse to exit unless it bothers me for a longer time, and it's draining. If you are still doing the same thing or arguing over the same thing from time to time, then I would disappear also, or if you disrespect me and things like that. So if I notice the same patterns all over, without an issue being resolved on your part (if it was up to you), then it's just enough for me, and usually, I never go back when I go cold, just no desire if I'm already fed enough by that point.
If that's how you felt then I would assume you are likely upfront with women about not wanting anything serious, therefor you don't end up in relationships? That would only make sense to me of that's how you really feel about wanting your freedom. So if OP's dude is the same, he should have been upfront instead of roping her into a relationship knowing he can't hack that life style .
That's one of our weakness tbh. I only realised this recently lol. We like to insert ourselves into things without thinking the consequences or how it would make the other person feel.
Just.. "i feel like this.." so im gonna do it. I like you now, i want you now, i'll think later.. we'll see what happened etc.. not realizing that there's another person with feelings and emotions on the other end.
Will be defensive if we're called out of leading people on, eventhough it's true that it is leading people on.. lol
Been so guilty of this, now I know better 😆
I didn't realize this was a thing for you guys :/ I love Saggies, never dated one though. If this is common of ya'll, I'ma protect my little heart and maybe file Sag away with the Libras, haha.
Oh nooo dont you dare put us in the same category as libra 😆
The differences is intention. We have no intention of hurting you, we just act without thinking the consequences. Then afterwards we'll be like "holy shit.. i didnt think this through"
Libra knows the consequences from the very beginning, they think it through and still do it anyway 🤪🤣
We are OK being alone. The unevolved libra cant be alone, they need other people's attention to make them feel special 😆
Shit, I'm sorry. The way it sounded was not how I intended it to. I don't think you guys are at all like Libra's, I love you Saggies, I just meant maybe I should file Sag away as a sign I shouldn't date if you guys are prone to do that. I'm to sensitive and clingy. haha
LOVE LOVE LOVE your last sentence. There is no truer statement than that!! And attention seeking or the need for constant attention is such an unattractive quality to me. Fuck Libra! (except all the cool Libra's I've come across here, you guys rule!)
Welp.. sorry.. by the way you reply, it looks like I wrote it not in the way i intended to be too 😆
I was just joking 🤣🤣
There are some clingy and sensitive sags lol.. I mean @centaur12 is the perfect example 😆
(Sorry dude, but you are clingy lol no offense 🤣)
Libras are cool to be friends with.. i am close with many of them. But relationship wise, not my cup of tea 😆
I've seen for 15 years, both men and women, how they are and how they operate lol lol
Hahahahahaha. Sorry Centaur12 , but that was really funny. 😆
And yes, my Sag brother is super sensitive as well. He is the most sensitive of me and my brothers, even when we were kids, he cried A LOT and got his feelings hurt super easily. Such a softy.
How is your relationship with your brother I only ask as I have a gem sister and are relationship no matter if we have not seen eachother for months when we do we are instantly joking around having a laugh being stupid. I cherish the relationship I have with my sister and she always looks out for me.
Your relationship sounds a lot like mine with my brother. We get along really well and like to joke around. We always got each others backs, I'm like a fierce mama bear with my little brothers, don't let no one fuck with them. It's nice to hear you think so highly of your sister 🙂
Yeah I really do 😁.
Brilliant I am glad to hear that about you and your siblings.
@blackphvse can I ask you an honest question please?
Why would my Gem be playing games like this what is she getting out of it ?
Is she trying to make me change into a person she wants.
Is she getting a kick out of playing games.
Is she testing me to see my reactions.
If you read my posts on here.
She has since rang me this morning to say she was thinking about going swimming now with me and and kids after telling me doesn't want to.
I know you don't know the full answer to this but why would she be or a gem be doing these things what is it going to achieve because I have blatantly told her this is not us rebuilding the relationship. And that's what she told me she wants to do yet because I didn't mention about asking my ex for the kids swimming costumes to her right away she wants to be difficult and play games why.
I have been a little out of the loop as to what has been going on with you guys as of lately. From what I remember, you guys were having a bit of a power struggle and I know she was having issues with your ex and seemingly punishing you for that. What has been going on recently? You can DM me if you want, as to not take over this girls thread. Lol
Okay I DM you I wouldn't want to take up her thread thats not fair.
I tried replying to your msg, it says it sent but doesn't show up in my outbox. I'm not sure if you got it?
No I never got it sorry 😔 .
Do you have dxp messages set to receive from everyone?
No idea 😅🤣
Go to your DXP messages and click on Settings. You should get:
Select "Receive From All" and click "Update"click to expand
Okay thanks for your help 🙂
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Omg! I hate that too, because usually when we have spoken about stuff and I have let it go in my mind I don’t think it’s necessary to talk about it again because it has been solved. Haha.
I think Gemini’s just say what feels right in the moment. At that moment she made the promise I really think that’s what she meant. The problem is our emotions change 24/7. Something about a person could turn us off completely out of the blue. Just give her space and go with the flow that would be the best thing. But also state on time that is eventually what you would like and want. So she knows.
Our conversations are quite casual. Just about daily stuff and work etc. It’s just the same as when we were in a relationship only now he is not really as affectionate. I can see and feel that he is really focused on not being too invested because it makes it harder for him to move on. And yes this is true I am really on the fence cause we are actually cool now but i can’t shake the feeling that it’s just for the mean time and I might get too invested and really believe we are building a friendship and end up really hurt. I just don’t want to get hurt anymore he has really hurt me with this out of the blue break up.
Yes, I believe your right and I have had to learn this about my partner.
I think I turnt her off to be honest not just me but things that have happened out of our control this is why I am now going with the flow and not putting emotional behaviour into the situations what ever she wants to do I will go with it and respect it.
I have learnt to wait for her to approach me on the emotional side.
We are still planning and booking things together and we do go out different places when we are free everyother weekend we run together alot as well.
It's making me think he isn't as affectionate towards you as he was before I would question why because is there somewhere he is getting advice from could be.
Maybe something that was said I can kind of see how he is feeling but not exactly explain it I think it is a front he's putting on. Just got a feeling.
Yes. With me being a gemini if someone gets too emotional too fast it scares me off. Because i like to be free and not tied down. This happened exactly with me and my ex. He was so emotional and all lovey dovey in the beginning it was too much for me. With gemini's we need time to warm up to you and see if you are really in it for the long haul. Then slowely we will start opening up to you..
Hmm I did think about that he is talking and taking advice from other people maybe like his mom or friends. I know it's a front the last two times I saw the way he looks at me it hasn't changed. he still has feelings for me i know it and he has said it multiple times. He struggles with himself internally and I can't help him with that. The only thing i can do is remove myself from the situation.
Yeah tell him your removing your self for good and that he has made his decision on you guys and you hear him and that is final as you cannot afford to be messed around with and you won't put up with it set your boundaries I duno why but I'm 85% sure he will come running. I hate to admit it but it's true 🤣.
Thing is I have shown my gem that I am here for the long haul I bond with her children I have them for her when she goes kickboxing I take them up to bed get them to sleep etc I do all of this and more its just somethings she really struggles with she cannot get her head around somethings she hates my ex so she told me she struggles to bond with my children as she feels like she is doing my ex a favour by having the kids etc but it's not it's for me. I kind of understand but it's stupid really because I had abuse for her ex for 3-4 months at the start and I don't feel that way about her children I love them.
I don't come across emotional to her anymore just act normal not needy just got with the flow Gem has to come to you and I duno if she will or not but she's still here so that says something.
Yeah, i will be sending him a message in a min. Hahaha Why do you think that he will come back running? He is so set on that we will never get back together. So yeah it is what it is. I dont think it's necessary for me to delete or block him tho. What do you think?
Hmm and i think hearing your story there is more going on with your gemini. I myself love children and if i love my partner i will love his children as my own. I do think this is something you need to talk about. Do you know her other placements?
Well she told me the other day she doesn't want to be with me but still went out with me all day Saturday and Sunday for food and drinks and then had it with me on the Sunday night and after told me she still doesn't know what she wants and after that I didn't say a word about it just went with the flow and she has since been slightly cuddling and we have had it the past two days and I asked her Tuesday night what isit you want and she said for us to rebuild but go slowly.
I think what she wants is the nagging and neediness to stop on my side and for us to just have fun and go with the flow again so we can be happy we have been joking around etc today so thats good.
I feel like its a front from your Sag and I think once you call it quit he'll come running apologising and wanting to take you out.
Hmm honestly i hate people that nag and constantly need confirmation. I do think its weird she said she doensnt want to be with you. Maybe she does that to see how you would react?
Also she has told u she wants to rebuild but slowly. If i were you i would fall back a bit and let her come to you she might feel a bit suffocated. Happy today was a good day!
Yeah i know its a front but i dont have time for that.
Hope your side went well for you?
My side however my partner wants to know everything she is in a mood with me as I didn't say I text my ex to ask if the kids have their swimming costumes but I was working all day long she even told me to text her to ask before it's too late when I got off the phone to her in the morning so I text her to ask for them and because I didn't say to my partner I text my ex she said you don't communicate with me but she does not take into account what I have been doing in the day working all day then I drop my daughter home from school as I work there then I had to turn my car around to go back to work to get my drill so I could take down the Wendy house/ play house in the garden then I had to go to the shop to get something for tea for us all then back to my partners house to take down the play house I was flat out yet because it slipped my mind and I don't think it is very important she went mental at me . Yet I caught her out lying to me about her texting her exs sister.
But that's okay no I don't think so.
This is where its so unfair oh and also, I said to my partner about going swimming a few day ago and she said yeah okay I will be happy to do that etc yet because of this she now said to me this morning I don't want to come swimming it's the only day I get off from the kids so I was going to see my friend and you can spend sometime with your kids then.
And then I said why as you said you wanted to the other day are you just acting like this for revenge or something and she said know I am finding it hard to bond with your kids because I think I am doing there mother a favour after the year she put me through and all the things I have had to put up with and I said well I have also had to put up with contact abuse from your ex for 4months at the start you don't see me not bonding with your kids or not wantingto hang outclick to expand
I eventually didn’t send the text in the initial moment I waited 48 hrs and still haven’t sent him the text about being friends. I casually replied after a whole day of not replying and he replied instantly. I’m trying to slowly pull my energy and not reply as much or as often I have a feeling he feels it coming? Lol ? Because he has been consistently replying.
About your situation: you can send me a DM then I when can talk about it😬
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It's obvious he's being selfish, isnt he?
He already checked out, in his head he knows he doesnt want a relationship anymore.
He's just dragging you along until he finds something to fully focus on. Like a new life or a new person.
I used to do this ages ago.
Like gemini, sags are usually wishy washy in a decision making process. But once we decides, it's usually final. He already decided not wanting a relationship with you. He just hasnt got his new life lined up yet, hence this behaviour.
Remove yourself from the situation and see what happens. Dont need to give ultimatum just remove yourself. Being friends with him will just hurt you.
You’re so right. He said he wants to be friends but it’s hard for him to see me too often because he will be thinking back about the old times and because he still has strong feelings for me he’s afraid he will want to go back to the relationship.
Couple of days after we broke up I just felt the decision he had made was an emotional one so we agreed to talk again and we did. During that talk it was like he regretted his decision and wanted to come back. He was saying stuff to see my reaction I guess? So i just said it’s all right better this way. Cant be with someone who keeps wanting me and then don’t
Just doesn’t make sense to me. After that conversation we were cool and decided to be friends. I noticed suddenly there were only slow replies like 5-6 hrs later. So I stopped talking altogether for like 4 days. Then suddenly he texted me: that he wanted to “ define our friendship”
So we had a conversation in person and I told him I can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort as I do. Cause when I see you as my friend you are really my friend there is not inbetween.
For him it was like yeah i have different kind of friends blabla and I all treat them differently.
Then he said if I would invite him to my birthday he would come? Which I obviously won’t but still why?
After that conversation where I told him i thinks he doesn’t put effort and he can’t expect me to talk with him if the replies in a conversation take 5-6 hrs everytime. Whiles when we were in a relationship he was always texting me within 10 mins.
Since that conversation we had I’ve seen a whole 360 in his behaviour he replies fast and really talk to me. But I’m guarded. I really don’t understand him.
What do you think I should do best? Should I just stop the contact all completely or should I tell him that we need to stop all the contact? I just feel that when invest too much in “our friendship” he will really hurt me once he finds someone else to focus on.
Sorry for my long reply wanted to give you some more insight.
So he has changed and now you're uncertain? 😝
I cant make up my mind. The part where he said he treats his friend differently etc could mean 2 things: he has compartementalized you into a friends with romance and wants no relationship or he's just playing games wanting some worship through drama. (Leo moon lol)
I think you need to have a conversation with him again and this time say it from the start it will be final.. what the hell does he wants and tell him you cant be friends with him. So he wants you in or out?
Being friends with him will just hurt you. He doesnt know what he wants and will keep on dragging you until he does. And it probably could take weeks, months or years lol. Even if he dates around im certain he wont tell you.
Yeah that’s really true! I’m really an overthinker.? I really don’t feel like having a third conversation about the same thing lol. I love him but he needs to work on himself I don’t feel like it benefits us at this moment to still be in contact.
We did speak last night about just casual stuff but today I woke up and thought about the way we are now is not working for both of us he says he needs to work on himself and move on and I want to focus on moving on I can’t do that when still in contact.
First i thought i wanted to stay in contact but now the more I think about it and the insight i get from you all I think it’s best we don’t have any contact for now. And I’m really sure that if he decides to date around he won’t tell me. So I’d rather remove myself from the situation than to get more hurt than I am.
I don’t really feel like having another conversation with him about it. I already told him how i am in my friendships and there is not inbetween. He said he had different types of friends. But that don’t mean it is the same for me. He also said he doesn’t believen that the connection we had and the relationship we had can ever go from that to just friends. He says so much stuff. It’s really confusing lol.
Before you do anything, wait for 48 hours. If you still want to do it then do it.
Sag and gem are pretty much the same. Keep changing their minds lol 😆
Hahaha okay! But I still haven’t replied to what he said last night isn’t that weird to wait 48 hrs and then suddenly say something like this?
Ulgh I hate myself sometimes I’m OVERTHINKING all the time 😂
Hahahaha 🤣🤣 just keep it casual until 48 hours. Just observe observe and observe
So I should reply? Omg I can’t stand myself 😭 but I still think I will say it
What was the last message was all about? I think i missed it.
If it is just casual, just reply casually. If it's about your relationship then yeah better say it now instead of 48 hrs lol.. you'll be the one who is wishy washy if you say different thing in 2 days from now 😆click to expand
I’m glad I did wait the 48 hrs. 🙄
I eventually didn’t send the text in the initial moment I waited 48 hrs and still haven’t sent him the text about not being friends. I casually replied after a whole day of not replying and he replied instantly. I’m trying to slowly pull my energy and not reply as much or as often I have a feeling he feels it coming? Lol ? Because he has been consistently replying and talking about different fun stuff. Hmmm
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It's obvious he's being selfish, isnt he?
He already checked out, in his head he knows he doesnt want a relationship anymore.
He's just dragging you along until he finds something to fully focus on. Like a new life or a new person.
I used to do this ages ago.
Like gemini, sags are usually wishy washy in a decision making process. But once we decides, it's usually final. He already decided not wanting a relationship with you. He just hasnt got his new life lined up yet, hence this behaviour.
Remove yourself from the situation and see what happens. Dont need to give ultimatum just remove yourself. Being friends with him will just hurt you.
You’re so right. He said he wants to be friends but it’s hard for him to see me too often because he will be thinking back about the old times and because he still has strong feelings for me he’s afraid he will want to go back to the relationship.
Couple of days after we broke up I just felt the decision he had made was an emotional one so we agreed to talk again and we did. During that talk it was like he regretted his decision and wanted to come back. He was saying stuff to see my reaction I guess? So i just said it’s all right better this way. Cant be with someone who keeps wanting me and then don’t
Just doesn’t make sense to me. After that conversation we were cool and decided to be friends. I noticed suddenly there were only slow replies like 5-6 hrs later. So I stopped talking altogether for like 4 days. Then suddenly he texted me: that he wanted to “ define our friendship”
So we had a conversation in person and I told him I can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort as I do. Cause when I see you as my friend you are really my friend there is not inbetween.
For him it was like yeah i have different kind of friends blabla and I all treat them differently.
Then he said if I would invite him to my birthday he would come? Which I obviously won’t but still why?
After that conversation where I told him i thinks he doesn’t put effort and he can’t expect me to talk with him if the replies in a conversation take 5-6 hrs everytime. Whiles when we were in a relationship he was always texting me within 10 mins.
Since that conversation we had I’ve seen a whole 360 in his behaviour he replies fast and really talk to me. But I’m guarded. I really don’t understand him.
What do you think I should do best? Should I just stop the contact all completely or should I tell him that we need to stop all the contact? I just feel that when invest too much in “our friendship” he will really hurt me once he finds someone else to focus on.
Sorry for my long reply wanted to give you some more insight.
So he has changed and now you're uncertain? 😝
I cant make up my mind. The part where he said he treats his friend differently etc could mean 2 things: he has compartementalized you into a friends with romance and wants no relationship or he's just playing games wanting some worship through drama. (Leo moon lol)
I think you need to have a conversation with him again and this time say it from the start it will be final.. what the hell does he wants and tell him you cant be friends with him. So he wants you in or out?
Being friends with him will just hurt you. He doesnt know what he wants and will keep on dragging you until he does. And it probably could take weeks, months or years lol. Even if he dates around im certain he wont tell you.
Yeah that’s really true! I’m really an overthinker.? I really don’t feel like having a third conversation about the same thing lol. I love him but he needs to work on himself I don’t feel like it benefits us at this moment to still be in contact.
We did speak last night about just casual stuff but today I woke up and thought about the way we are now is not working for both of us he says he needs to work on himself and move on and I want to focus on moving on I can’t do that when still in contact.
First i thought i wanted to stay in contact but now the more I think about it and the insight i get from you all I think it’s best we don’t have any contact for now. And I’m really sure that if he decides to date around he won’t tell me. So I’d rather remove myself from the situation than to get more hurt than I am.
I don’t really feel like having another conversation with him about it. I already told him how i am in my friendships and there is not inbetween. He said he had different types of friends. But that don’t mean it is the same for me. He also said he doesn’t believen that the connection we had and the relationship we had can ever go from that to just friends. He says so much stuff. It’s really confusing lol.
Before you do anything, wait for 48 hours. If you still want to do it then do it.
Sag and gem are pretty much the same. Keep changing their minds lol 😆
Hahaha okay! But I still haven’t replied to what he said last night isn’t that weird to wait 48 hrs and then suddenly say something like this?
Ulgh I hate myself sometimes I’m OVERTHINKING all the time 😂
Hahahaha 🤣🤣 just keep it casual until 48 hours. Just observe observe and observe
So I should reply? Omg I can’t stand myself 😭 but I still think I will say it
What was the last message was all about? I think i missed it.
If it is just casual, just reply casually. If it's about your relationship then yeah better say it now instead of 48 hrs lol.. you'll be the one who is wishy washy if you say different thing in 2 days from now 😆
I’m glad I did wait the 48 hrs. 🙄
I eventually didn’t send the text in the initial moment I waited 48 hrs and still haven’t sent him the text about not being friends. I casually replied after a whole day of not replying and he replied instantly. I’m trying to slowly pull my energy and not reply as much or as often I have a feeling he feels it coming? Lol ? Because he has been consistently replying and talking about different fun stuff. Hmmm
Lol 😆
I actually got that 48 hrs advise from my gemini mom.. to curb my shopping addiction 😆 but ive been applying it to every aspect of my life ever since lol..
Yeah, i think he's still in.. we'll see..click to expand
Haha that’s some great advice. So here’s a little update:
We were just talking and laughing like old times? I really don’t understand him. But I’m still very guarded and I don’t want to get hurt. So I just made the decision to do what’s best for me. So I was very busy and I just didn’t feel the need to keep this going so I pulled my energy and didn’t reply anymore since Saturday.
We still have each other on social media so I saw he was constantly checking me out. I just can’t shake the feeling if I keep on talking to him he will end up hurting me even more. So I owe it to myself to remove myself from the situation. I didn’t feel the need to have another conversation about it we already did that three times. Just going to focus on myself.
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It's obvious he's being selfish, isnt he?
He already checked out, in his head he knows he doesnt want a relationship anymore.
He's just dragging you along until he finds something to fully focus on. Like a new life or a new person.
I used to do this ages ago.
Like gemini, sags are usually wishy washy in a decision making process. But once we decides, it's usually final. He already decided not wanting a relationship with you. He just hasnt got his new life lined up yet, hence this behaviour.
Remove yourself from the situation and see what happens. Dont need to give ultimatum just remove yourself. Being friends with him will just hurt you.
You’re so right. He said he wants to be friends but it’s hard for him to see me too often because he will be thinking back about the old times and because he still has strong feelings for me he’s afraid he will want to go back to the relationship.
Couple of days after we broke up I just felt the decision he had made was an emotional one so we agreed to talk again and we did. During that talk it was like he regretted his decision and wanted to come back. He was saying stuff to see my reaction I guess? So i just said it’s all right better this way. Cant be with someone who keeps wanting me and then don’t
Just doesn’t make sense to me. After that conversation we were cool and decided to be friends. I noticed suddenly there were only slow replies like 5-6 hrs later. So I stopped talking altogether for like 4 days. Then suddenly he texted me: that he wanted to “ define our friendship”
So we had a conversation in person and I told him I can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort as I do. Cause when I see you as my friend you are really my friend there is not inbetween.
For him it was like yeah i have different kind of friends blabla and I all treat them differently.
Then he said if I would invite him to my birthday he would come? Which I obviously won’t but still why?
After that conversation where I told him i thinks he doesn’t put effort and he can’t expect me to talk with him if the replies in a conversation take 5-6 hrs everytime. Whiles when we were in a relationship he was always texting me within 10 mins.
Since that conversation we had I’ve seen a whole 360 in his behaviour he replies fast and really talk to me. But I’m guarded. I really don’t understand him.
What do you think I should do best? Should I just stop the contact all completely or should I tell him that we need to stop all the contact? I just feel that when invest too much in “our friendship” he will really hurt me once he finds someone else to focus on.
Sorry for my long reply wanted to give you some more insight.
So he has changed and now you're uncertain? 😝
I cant make up my mind. The part where he said he treats his friend differently etc could mean 2 things: he has compartementalized you into a friends with romance and wants no relationship or he's just playing games wanting some worship through drama. (Leo moon lol)
I think you need to have a conversation with him again and this time say it from the start it will be final.. what the hell does he wants and tell him you cant be friends with him. So he wants you in or out?
Being friends with him will just hurt you. He doesnt know what he wants and will keep on dragging you until he does. And it probably could take weeks, months or years lol. Even if he dates around im certain he wont tell you.
Yeah that’s really true! I’m really an overthinker.? I really don’t feel like having a third conversation about the same thing lol. I love him but he needs to work on himself I don’t feel like it benefits us at this moment to still be in contact.
We did speak last night about just casual stuff but today I woke up and thought about the way we are now is not working for both of us he says he needs to work on himself and move on and I want to focus on moving on I can’t do that when still in contact.
First i thought i wanted to stay in contact but now the more I think about it and the insight i get from you all I think it’s best we don’t have any contact for now. And I’m really sure that if he decides to date around he won’t tell me. So I’d rather remove myself from the situation than to get more hurt than I am.
I don’t really feel like having another conversation with him about it. I already told him how i am in my friendships and there is not inbetween. He said he had different types of friends. But that don’t mean it is the same for me. He also said he doesn’t believen that the connection we had and the relationship we had can ever go from that to just friends. He says so much stuff. It’s really confusing lol.
Before you do anything, wait for 48 hours. If you still want to do it then do it.
Sag and gem are pretty much the same. Keep changing their minds lol 😆
Hahaha okay! But I still haven’t replied to what he said last night isn’t that weird to wait 48 hrs and then suddenly say something like this?
Ulgh I hate myself sometimes I’m OVERTHINKING all the time 😂
Hahahaha 🤣🤣 just keep it casual until 48 hours. Just observe observe and observe
So I should reply? Omg I can’t stand myself 😭 but I still think I will say it
What was the last message was all about? I think i missed it.
If it is just casual, just reply casually. If it's about your relationship then yeah better say it now instead of 48 hrs lol.. you'll be the one who is wishy washy if you say different thing in 2 days from now 😆
I’m glad I did wait the 48 hrs. 🙄
I eventually didn’t send the text in the initial moment I waited 48 hrs and still haven’t sent him the text about not being friends. I casually replied after a whole day of not replying and he replied instantly. I’m trying to slowly pull my energy and not reply as much or as often I have a feeling he feels it coming? Lol ? Because he has been consistently replying and talking about different fun stuff. Hmmm
Lol 😆
I actually got that 48 hrs advise from my gemini mom.. to curb my shopping addiction 😆 but ive been applying it to every aspect of my life ever since lol..
Yeah, i think he's still in.. we'll see..
Haha that’s some great advice. So here’s a little update:
We were just talking and laughing like old times? I really don’t understand him. But I’m still very guarded and I don’t want to get hurt. So I just made the decision to do what’s best for me. So I was very busy and I just didn’t feel the need to keep this going so I pulled my energy and didn’t reply anymore since Saturday.
We still have each other on social media so I saw he was constantly checking me out. I just can’t shake the feeling if I keep on talking to him he will end up hurting me even more. So I owe it to myself to remove myself from the situation. I didn’t feel the need to have another conversation about it we already did that three times. Just going to focus on myself.
Has there been any improvement from his side? Idk i kinda still feel he still wants you and regretted the fact that you guys broke up, and his ego is just too big to admit he was in the wrong 😆
But I could be wrong. 🤪click to expand
Nope, he just keeps on watching my social media 24/7 🤣. But we don’t talk. I actually think you’re right. He really has a big ego.. but I also think he expected me to be very sad about the break up and chase him and I don’t 😂
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It's obvious he's being selfish, isnt he?
He already checked out, in his head he knows he doesnt want a relationship anymore.
He's just dragging you along until he finds something to fully focus on. Like a new life or a new person.
I used to do this ages ago.
Like gemini, sags are usually wishy washy in a decision making process. But once we decides, it's usually final. He already decided not wanting a relationship with you. He just hasnt got his new life lined up yet, hence this behaviour.
Remove yourself from the situation and see what happens. Dont need to give ultimatum just remove yourself. Being friends with him will just hurt you.
You’re so right. He said he wants to be friends but it’s hard for him to see me too often because he will be thinking back about the old times and because he still has strong feelings for me he’s afraid he will want to go back to the relationship.
Couple of days after we broke up I just felt the decision he had made was an emotional one so we agreed to talk again and we did. During that talk it was like he regretted his decision and wanted to come back. He was saying stuff to see my reaction I guess? So i just said it’s all right better this way. Cant be with someone who keeps wanting me and then don’t
Just doesn’t make sense to me. After that conversation we were cool and decided to be friends. I noticed suddenly there were only slow replies like 5-6 hrs later. So I stopped talking altogether for like 4 days. Then suddenly he texted me: that he wanted to “ define our friendship”
So we had a conversation in person and I told him I can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort as I do. Cause when I see you as my friend you are really my friend there is not inbetween.
For him it was like yeah i have different kind of friends blabla and I all treat them differently.
Then he said if I would invite him to my birthday he would come? Which I obviously won’t but still why?
After that conversation where I told him i thinks he doesn’t put effort and he can’t expect me to talk with him if the replies in a conversation take 5-6 hrs everytime. Whiles when we were in a relationship he was always texting me within 10 mins.
Since that conversation we had I’ve seen a whole 360 in his behaviour he replies fast and really talk to me. But I’m guarded. I really don’t understand him.
What do you think I should do best? Should I just stop the contact all completely or should I tell him that we need to stop all the contact? I just feel that when invest too much in “our friendship” he will really hurt me once he finds someone else to focus on.
Sorry for my long reply wanted to give you some more insight.
So he has changed and now you're uncertain? 😝
I cant make up my mind. The part where he said he treats his friend differently etc could mean 2 things: he has compartementalized you into a friends with romance and wants no relationship or he's just playing games wanting some worship through drama. (Leo moon lol)
I think you need to have a conversation with him again and this time say it from the start it will be final.. what the hell does he wants and tell him you cant be friends with him. So he wants you in or out?
Being friends with him will just hurt you. He doesnt know what he wants and will keep on dragging you until he does. And it probably could take weeks, months or years lol. Even if he dates around im certain he wont tell you.
Yeah that’s really true! I’m really an overthinker.? I really don’t feel like having a third conversation about the same thing lol. I love him but he needs to work on himself I don’t feel like it benefits us at this moment to still be in contact.
We did speak last night about just casual stuff but today I woke up and thought about the way we are now is not working for both of us he says he needs to work on himself and move on and I want to focus on moving on I can’t do that when still in contact.
First i thought i wanted to stay in contact but now the more I think about it and the insight i get from you all I think it’s best we don’t have any contact for now. And I’m really sure that if he decides to date around he won’t tell me. So I’d rather remove myself from the situation than to get more hurt than I am.
I don’t really feel like having another conversation with him about it. I already told him how i am in my friendships and there is not inbetween. He said he had different types of friends. But that don’t mean it is the same for me. He also said he doesn’t believen that the connection we had and the relationship we had can ever go from that to just friends. He says so much stuff. It’s really confusing lol.
Before you do anything, wait for 48 hours. If you still want to do it then do it.
Sag and gem are pretty much the same. Keep changing their minds lol 😆
Hahaha okay! But I still haven’t replied to what he said last night isn’t that weird to wait 48 hrs and then suddenly say something like this?
Ulgh I hate myself sometimes I’m OVERTHINKING all the time 😂
Hahahaha 🤣🤣 just keep it casual until 48 hours. Just observe observe and observe
So I should reply? Omg I can’t stand myself 😭 but I still think I will say it
What was the last message was all about? I think i missed it.
If it is just casual, just reply casually. If it's about your relationship then yeah better say it now instead of 48 hrs lol.. you'll be the one who is wishy washy if you say different thing in 2 days from now 😆
I’m glad I did wait the 48 hrs. 🙄
I eventually didn’t send the text in the initial moment I waited 48 hrs and still haven’t sent him the text about not being friends. I casually replied after a whole day of not replying and he replied instantly. I’m trying to slowly pull my energy and not reply as much or as often I have a feeling he feels it coming? Lol ? Because he has been consistently replying and talking about different fun stuff. Hmmm
Lol 😆
I actually got that 48 hrs advise from my gemini mom.. to curb my shopping addiction 😆 but ive been applying it to every aspect of my life ever since lol..
Yeah, i think he's still in.. we'll see..
Haha that’s some great advice. So here’s a little update:
We were just talking and laughing like old times? I really don’t understand him. But I’m still very guarded and I don’t want to get hurt. So I just made the decision to do what’s best for me. So I was very busy and I just didn’t feel the need to keep this going so I pulled my energy and didn’t reply anymore since Saturday.
We still have each other on social media so I saw he was constantly checking me out. I just can’t shake the feeling if I keep on talking to him he will end up hurting me even more. So I owe it to myself to remove myself from the situation. I didn’t feel the need to have another conversation about it we already did that three times. Just going to focus on myself.
Has there been any improvement from his side? Idk i kinda still feel he still wants you and regretted the fact that you guys broke up, and his ego is just too big to admit he was in the wrong 😆
But I could be wrong. 🤪click to expand
Nope, he just keeps on watching my social media 24/7 🤣. But we don’t talk. I actually think you’re right. He really has a big ego.. but I also think he expected me to be very sad about the break up and chase him and I don’t 😂
Update:
Yesterday was my sister’s birthday and he texted me to congratulate me and I just said thank you❤️
And he continued with sending a lot of heart emoji’s and we kinda had a brief conversation. But I’m like why does he still do all of this I mean it’s sweet and all but why would you do that if you broke up with me lol. He was the one that said we can’t talk a lot and see each other and as soon as I distance myself he keeps on watching me .. 🙄
Update:
Yesterday was my sister’s birthday and he texted me to congratulate me and I just said thank you❤️
And he continued with sending a lot of heart emoji’s and we kinda had a brief conversation. But I’m like why does he still do all of this I mean it’s sweet and all but why would you do that if you broke up with me lol. He was the one that said we can’t talk a lot and see each other and as soon as I distance myself he keeps on watching me .. 🙄
He’s trying to be a friend. Friendly
Sagittarius borders on the grey area between lovers and friends.
Sometimes tho, we don’t understand the hurt we may cause to others when we try to hang on as friends. It’s truly selfish.
But on the bright side, he feels like he may be missing out on something and texted you
Sagittarius borders on the grey area between lovers and friends.
Sometimes tho, we don’t understand the hurt we may cause to others when we try to hang on as friends. It’s truly selfish.
But on the bright side, he feels like he may be missing out on something and texted you
Posted by DMV
He’s trying to be a friend. Friendly
Sagittarius borders on the grey area between lovers and friends.
Sometimes tho, we don’t understand the hurt we may cause to others when we try to hang on as friends. It’s truly selfish.
But on the bright side, he feels like he may be missing out on something and texted you
Yeah that’s the weird thing. When I wanted to stay friends he was saying stuff like it’s impossible for us to go to that because of the bond we shared. As soon as I pull my energy from him now he wants to be friends? I do think it’s very selfish and kinda annoying as well. He keeps confusing me lol.
I’ve just been enjoying my life guess he thought i would chase him and I don’t
Posted by GemgyalPosted by DMV
He’s trying to be a friend. Friendly
Sagittarius borders on the grey area between lovers and friends.
Sometimes tho, we don’t understand the hurt we may cause to others when we try to hang on as friends. It’s truly selfish.
But on the bright side, he feels like he may be missing out on something and texted you
Yeah that’s the weird thing. When I wanted to stay friends he was saying stuff like it’s impossible for us to go to that because of the bond we shared. As soon as I pull my energy from him now he wants to be friends? I do think it’s very selfish and kinda annoying as well. He keeps confusing me lol.
I’ve just been enjoying my life guess he thought i would chase him and I don’tclick to expand
Think your right he's gonna luck out on you and chances are you could meet someone else then boom 💥 his loss. 👋 I don't understand all this rubbish man if you like a person tell that person if you love them tell them if you cant live without them then don't why cause more pain for everyone involved skip the rubbish and bring love and peace.
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