Update: Well.. He Came Back

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ScorpKitty21
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I really don't know how I feel about this. He called me saying he's sorry and all that butter. He sounded really sorry and sincere. BUT then, he starts telling me how in that day that we first met, his ex fiancee contacted him and how he's been talking to her all this time. Like wooow. Really?. So then he goes on to tell me he really is sorry and how special I am to him. Yeah ok... After they had a fight. He tells me he has a deal for me. And I was like what is it?. He says that he's gonna go visit her Friday and be with her 5 days and if I'd wait for him. He wants to see me tomorrow as well. Wtf? I'm not some backup.. Seems messed up to me.
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ScorpKitty21
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Yeah I know right? He's like "I'm gonna go for 5 days and most likely things aren't gonna work out between me and her. And then I'll be all yours, 120% ."... Um. You said that a couple weeks ago, when apparently you were talking to your ex fiancee. I feel bad because it sounded like he was going to cry. He kept stuttering and waiting for me to say something. I was dead silent. I just think that's too much to ask from me. The nerve.
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Nameless Nemean
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That's messed up. He wants to have his cake and eat it too and is entirely unashamed about it. Put him in his place. Tell him he can do whatever he wants, but you're not waiting on him because you're not his backup. Let him know you're only interested in decisive men who clearly value you. Then tell him good luck on finding what he's looking for, but it's clearly not you and you're not sticking around.
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Posted by ScorpKitty21
I really don't know how I feel about this. He called me saying he's sorry and all that butter. He sounded really sorry and sincere. BUT then, he starts telling me how in that day that we first met, his ex fiancee contacted him and how he's been talking to her all this time. Like wooow. Really?. So then he goes on to tell me he really is sorry and how special I am to him. Yeah ok... After they had a fight. He tells me he has a deal for me. And I was like what is it?. He says that he's gonna go visit her Friday and be with her 5 days and if I'd wait for him. He wants to see me tomorrow as well. Wtf? I'm not some backup.. Seems messed up to me.
No, the phrase is, "I'm NO man's 2nd choice!" 😔 Sorry, I am Piscean, I do see this "triangle" where you're on top, the dude is on the left and she is on the right. I am NO man's 2nd choice, nor do I accept "left overs". I GIVE left overs. But then again, y'all tend to do whatever y'all want to do...not me!

šŸ¤— cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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Firefly
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What a loser this guy is lol i would if laughed and hung up
hahahahahaha exactly right?!

would have returned the favour and blocked his ass from my whole life

not even a response

the moment he talked about his ex FIANCEE back in...would have hung up....

like.........GTFOH

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He wants op to beg for him, probably likes girls fighting for him. I blame his Pisces mars. That’s one messy fuckboi
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Posted by ScorpKitty21
I really don't know how I feel about this. He called me saying he's sorry and all that butter. He sounded really sorry and sincere. BUT then, he starts telling me how in that day that we first met, his ex fiancee contacted him and how he's been talking to her all this time. Like wooow. Really?. So then he goes on to tell me he really is sorry and how special I am to him. Yeah ok... After they had a fight. He tells me he has a deal for me. And I was like what is it?. He says that he's gonna go visit her Friday and be with her 5 days and if I'd wait for him. He wants to see me tomorrow as well. Wtf? I'm not some backup.. Seems messed up to me.

Lol! Well, one can never say a Sag is dishonest. To a point.



Don't let the ego get out of hand and simply move on with an offer of friendship and leave it there.
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Posted by ScorpKitty21
Yeah I know right? He's like "I'm gonna go for 5 days and most likely things aren't gonna work out between me and her. And then I'll be all yours, 120% ."... Um. You said that a couple weeks ago, when apparently you were talking to your ex fiancee. I feel bad because it sounded like he was going to cry. He kept stuttering and waiting for me to say something. I was dead silent. I just think that's too much to ask from me. The nerve.
Ewwww! Just ewwww...

You are a Scorpio, girl! You don’t do crying boys who tell you he is going to see IF he chooses you!!!

ARE YOU NUTS— Tell him to go fk himself!!!
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Posted by ScorpKitty21
That's exactly what I was thinking. He's so shameless. After he blocks me off of everything, now he wants to come back since he's not sure if things are gonna work out between them. Nah. He doesn't even know what he wants. He needs to grow up already and realize that's not how things work.
How big his dick really is?

Or what else if it’s not that? Why are you even listening to his crap?

Jee....I would love to hear someone saying it to me!!! āš”ļøāš”ļøāš”ļøāš”ļøāš”ļøšŸ”„
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You need to tell him he can go kick rocks!! This is the dumbest shit I've ever heard! If you let him get away with this shit, he's gonna always do this as well as cheat and mess around. What does he need to see his ex for??

Why don't you counter offer and tell him you both can go on a double date and bring your exes and have one last get together before you two actually get back together. lol Let him know if not then you will be at your exes house too but you may not be available after the 5 days cause he wants much more time with you! Guys are dumb. But at least he tried. lol
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Bahahhahaha! OP here! I just read all the replies. I love you guys, you kill me. I was actually talking to him this morning. He said to just forget about him bc he's a f*cking wreck. I was like Okayyy. Don't need to tell me that lol. He said he's the worst and he's sorry. (I guess he had time to think about how stupid his deal was).

He goes "I hope you know you were never a hook up and that my feelings for you were real." Saying that his ex fiancee f*d him up and damaged him and that was his choice.

I replied saying "but in the end, I was just your second choice.. and you knew exactly what you were getting yourself into"

Him: "you weren't the 2nd choice.." " you were my attempt to make the right choice, and I failed"

Then he asked if we could stay in touch bc he loves me as a person and doesn't want to lose me.

So yeah. I left it at that. Friends I guess..

Then he says stupid butter like "this is why I love you".. Like boyyy shut up!

NEXT!
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Posted by ScorpKitty21
Bahahhahaha! OP here! I just read all the replies. I love you guys, you kill me. I was actually talking to him this morning. He said to just forget about him bc he's a f*cking wreck. I was like Okayyy. Don't need to tell me that lol. He said he's the worst and he's sorry. (I guess he had time to think about how stupid his deal was).

He goes "I hope you know you were never a hook up and that my feelings for you were real." Saying that his ex fiancee f*d him up and damaged him and that was his choice.

I replied saying "but in the end, I was just your second choice.. and you knew exactly what you were getting yourself into"

Him: "you weren't the 2nd choice.." " you were my attempt to make the right choice, and I failed"

Then he asked if we could stay in touch bc he loves me as a person and doesn't want to lose me.

So yeah. I left it at that. Friends I guess..

Then he says stupid butter like "this is why I love you".. Like boyyy shut up!

NEXT!
Now it’s clearer!

YOU let him treat you like that!

ā€˜Let’s stay in touch and be friends’ = ā€˜I’ll be waiting for you to return to me’...

You made your bed. Don’t complain it’s not made properly!

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Posted by ScorpKitty21
Bahahhahaha! OP here! I just read all the replies. I love you guys, you kill me. I was actually talking to him this morning. He said to just forget about him bc he's a f*cking wreck. I was like Okayyy. Don't need to tell me that lol. He said he's the worst and he's sorry. (I guess he had time to think about how stupid his deal was).

He goes "I hope you know you were never a hook up and that my feelings for you were real." Saying that his ex fiancee f*d him up and damaged him and that was his choice.

I replied saying "but in the end, I was just your second choice.. and you knew exactly what you were getting yourself into"

Him: "you weren't the 2nd choice.." " you were my attempt to make the right choice, and I failed"

Then he asked if we could stay in touch bc he loves me as a person and doesn't want to lose me.

So yeah. I left it at that. Friends I guess..

Then he says stupid butter like "this is why I love you".. Like boyyy shut up!

NEXT!
Now it’s clearer!

YOU let him treat you like that!

ā€˜Let’s stay in touch and be friends’ = ā€˜I’ll be waiting for you to return to me’...

You made your bed. Don’t complain it’s not made properly!

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Who actually stays friends with their exes or enemies?

I never have.

It was just simpler that way.
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by ScorpKitty21
Bahahhahaha! OP here! I just read all the replies. I love you guys, you kill me. I was actually talking to him this morning. He said to just forget about him bc he's a f*cking wreck. I was like Okayyy. Don't need to tell me that lol. He said he's the worst and he's sorry. (I guess he had time to think about how stupid his deal was).

He goes "I hope you know you were never a hook up and that my feelings for you were real." Saying that his ex fiancee f*d him up and damaged him and that was his choice.

I replied saying "but in the end, I was just your second choice.. and you knew exactly what you were getting yourself into"

Him: "you weren't the 2nd choice.." " you were my attempt to make the right choice, and I failed"

Then he asked if we could stay in touch bc he loves me as a person and doesn't want to lose me.

So yeah. I left it at that. Friends I guess..

Then he says stupid butter like "this is why I love you".. Like boyyy shut up!

NEXT!
Now it’s clearer!

YOU let him treat you like that!

ā€˜Let’s stay in touch and be friends’ = ā€˜I’ll be waiting for you to return to me’...

You made your bed. Don’t complain it’s not made properly!


Who actually stays friends with their exes or enemies?

I never have.

It was just simpler that way.
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You keep trying to justify something but only fooling yourself. I don’t believe a second you wouldn’t be waiting for him!

He dates you having you as a rebound and still talking to his ex! You ate it.

When he is confessing - you offering to be friends instead of telling him to fk off and forget your number!

I understand what love and suffering is!

However you here with...’wtf’...and ā€˜NEXT’ and all these bravery when in fact all you going to do is just kiss his ass IF he returns. So get real. Don’t try to put on a show. You aren’t a good actress honey.
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Posted by MyStarsShine
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Insanity. I would tell him go have fun with her cuz he no longer has access to me!
Me too

Stick with your lovely cat.....more loyal and most likely more interesting
Hahaha!. I actually just posted another pic of my kitty saying something like that. Read my mind.
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Great Scorpio minds think alike hey? ā¤ļø
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Wow he’s manipulative.

He was never confused about what he wanted. He just knew what he wanted wouldn’t work out. He kept you out of selfishness. You were his safety. His ex fiancĆ©e clearly isn’t healthy for him and he’s aware of this. But he’s tied to her.

He jumped off the cliff and chose her. That’s what that phone call was really about this morning. The conversation he had with you was him manipulatively trying to secure his parachute.

This is a pivotal moment. He lives in Florida so he has to come back home...

If you ever allow him back into your life as a lover, friend, acquaintance or anything else, it will solidify in his mind that he can do whatever with you.

Sometimes you have to cut off your finger to save your hand.

Don’t be goofy out here and play yourself.

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Posted by ScorpKitty21

I really don't know how I feel about this. He called me saying he's sorry and all that butter. He sounded really sorry and sincere. BUT then, he starts telling me how in that day that we first met, his ex fiancee contacted him and how he's been talking to her all this time. Like wooow. Really?. So then he goes on to tell me he really is sorry and how special I am to him. Yeah ok... After they had a fight. He tells me he has a deal for me. And I was like what is it?. He says that he's gonna go visit her Friday and be with her 5 days and if I'd wait for him. He wants to see me tomorrow as well. Wtf? I'm not some backup.. Seems messed up to me.


I wouldn't let him be so cheeky, also do you want a POS like him in your life??

He will do to you what he did to her, tell him to go pleasure himself in a northerly direction. What's with guys these days—? LOL
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Posted by Chuckcem

That's messed up. He wants to have his cake and eat it too and is entirely unashamed about it. Put him in his place. Tell him he can do whatever he wants, but you're not waiting on him because you're not his backup. Let him know you're only interested in decisive men who clearly value you. Then tell him good luck on finding what he's looking for, but it's clearly not you and you're not sticking around.


I wouldn't either bother with that, change your number and move on, and let him wonder why you just vanished.