Confused and How

I am a Librian and met this Scorpio guy on an online dating site. We have chatted for over a month now and then finally we decided to meet up. I would not initiate a conversation. He was the one who would text each day and then we would chat up. If he was busy during the day he would msg before he went to bed.

We chatted over the phone and text for weeks now. He made plans for us to catch up twice. First time around he cancelled the date in the morning itself saying he has a and hangover and doesn't feel like meeting up . The second time we were to meet for lunch but in the morning he wanted me make changes to the plan that pissed me off. I said lets meet another day to which he agreed. As he showed little respect for my time i said let not meet at all. I was very annoyed.

After awhile i got settled down and texted him told him that his attitude annoyed me and i dont like my time to be disrespected. he apologised. but since then he has been distant.

He hasn't messaged me. When i initiated contact he wasn't as responsive. I really do like this guy. i think we had something special. Now i am not sure of i should keep my distance with him and let him cool down or start a conversation or ask him upfront if he is still interested Any suggestion are welcomed

Have you ever met in person?

I honestly wanna know what changes in the plan for lunch he suggested.

Posted by Ellygant
Best shot is to send one final message saying you want a redo and feel like it got off on the wrong foot. That would take swallowing some pride tho and being secure in letting it go.

Honestly it just sounds like you two don't vibe since it's only the beginning and it's already this confusing. Drop him and allow something easier with someone who is excited to make plans with you.

Maybe it’s different for Scorpio males, but if someone asks me for a redo because “we got off on the wrong foot” I take them less seriously and it gives me more of a reason to give them the boot.

Posted by Neno2
Wrong move

Where? By whom?

@Meg123

You need to chill and understand that Scorpio do what they want and whenever they want it.

You basically killed it when he offered to change time and you refused.

If you are going to be throwing fits before he is head over heals with you - better stop it now. It's not going to work.

Here is very useful link. And it's all true!

http://ashlleylove.tumblr.com/post/333536846/silly-scorpio-bastard

And remember:

Scorpios-Gods gift to God!

...and should be treated as such! Lol

Lol he’s not that serious.

Posted by Meg123
I am a Librian and met this Scorpio guy on an online dating site. We have chatted for over a month now and then finally we decided to meet up. I would not initiate a conversation. He was the one who would text each day and then we would chat up. If he was busy during the day he would msg before he went to bed.

We chatted over the phone and text for weeks now. He made plans for us to catch up twice. First time around he cancelled the date in the morning itself saying he has a and hangover and doesn't feel like meeting up . The second time we were to meet for lunch but in the morning he wanted me make changes to the plan that pissed me off. I said lets meet another day to which he agreed. As he showed little respect for my time i said let not meet at all. I was very annoyed.

After awhile i got settled down and texted him told him that his attitude annoyed me and i dont like my time to be disrespected. he apologised. but since then he has been distant.

He hasn't messaged me. When i initiated contact he wasn't as responsive. I really do like this guy. i think we had something special. Now i am not sure of i should keep my distance with him and let him cool down or start a conversation or ask him upfront if he is still interested Any suggestion are welcomed

Girl, the old saying is, "One shame on you, second time shame on me" Do you want a third time's a charm? I'd be EMBARRASSED and/or pissed if a guy did this to me. When I made an on-line date, we were to meet at a Sports bar; but fist, he was to come pick me up at my home (I live across the street from the police station 😉 He never showed up! I texted him, "It's almost 12:00; when the Cowboys start. Are you coming?" He never responded and I saw he was on line!! Jerk! I blocked him on my phone AND POF! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: I drove like a bat outta hell to buy lunch AND a six pack of Lone Star light; mind you, here in town we have to wait until 12:00 to buy alcohol. I was PISSED #2 😡

I think it’s over. I think you screwed up the most when you told him his attitude annoyed you. If that were me, I’d say screw you

Posted by Ellygant
Best shot is to send one final message saying you want a redo and feel like it got off on the wrong foot. That would take swallowing some pride tho and being secure in letting it go.

Honestly it just sounds like you two don't vibe since it's only the beginning and it's already this confusing. Drop him and allow something easier with someone who is excited to make plans with you.

I didnt ask him for a redo but i did mention that i dont act pricey and haven't been rude or anything to him. As much as i respect his time i want mine to be respected as well, and i do believe in it. I like this guy but i like my self respect more. If he cant show any respect now i don expect it to change later on. He said he apologies for it and he truly means its.

i let a day pass and then asked him if he was still upset over the argument and would he not like to keep in touch to which he replied that he has been busy at work. I replied with and ok and since then havent been in touch.

Posted by Neno2
Wrong move

Why ? i respect his time and i expect the same in return.

Posted by EvatheDiva

Posted by Meg123
I am a Librian and met this Scorpio guy on an online dating site. We have chatted for over a month now and then finally we decided to meet up. I would not initiate a conversation. He was the one who would text each day and then we would chat up. If he was busy during the day he would msg before he went to bed.

We chatted over the phone and text for weeks now. He made plans for us to catch up twice. First time around he cancelled the date in the morning itself saying he has a and hangover and doesn't feel like meeting up . The second time we were to meet for lunch but in the morning he wanted me make changes to the plan that pissed me off. I said lets meet another day to which he agreed. As he showed little respect for my time i said let not meet at all. I was very annoyed.

After awhile i got settled down and texted him told him that his attitude annoyed me and i dont like my time to be disrespected. he apologised. but since then he has been distant.

He hasn't messaged me. When i initiated contact he wasn't as responsive. I really do like this guy. i think we had something special. Now i am not sure of i should keep my distance with him and let him cool down or start a conversation or ask him upfront if he is still interested Any suggestion are welcomed

Girl, the old saying is, "One shame on you, second time shame on me" Do you want a third time's a charm? I'd be EMBARRASSED and/or pissed if a guy did this to me. When I made an on-line date, we were to meet at a Sports bar; but fist, he was to come pick me up at my home (I live across the street from the police station 😉 He never showed up! I texted him, "It's almost 12:00; when the Cowboys start. Are you coming?" He never responded and I saw he was on line!! Jerk! I blocked him on my phone AND POF! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: I drove like a bat outta hell to buy lunch AND a six pack of Lone Star light; mind you, here in town we have to wait until 12:00 to buy alcohol. I was PISSED #2 😡

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you see i am a Libran and being one i weigh it on both scales. like to give ppl a second chance as i think there could have been a genuine reason.

I have written this to a reply to another post.

I didnt ask him for a redo but i did mention that i dont act pricey and haven't been rude or anything to him. As much as i respect his time i want mine to be respected as well, and i do believe in it. I like this guy but i like my self respect more. If he cant show any respect now i don expect it to change later on. He said he apologies for it and he truly means its.

i let a day pass and then asked him if he was still upset over the argument and would he not like to keep in touch to which he replied that he has been busy at work. I replied with and ok and since then havent been in touch.

now i wont make another move and wait and see if he is genuinely interested or not

Posted by pinkbird03
I think it’s over. I think you screwed up the most when you told him his attitude annoyed you. If that were me, I’d say screw you

If that were me, I’d say screw you -

Why would you say so dear. Forget this guy in question. its a relationship people are looking at creating be it friendship or more and dont u think that both ppl involved deserve respect.

i respect other ppls emotions, time and i expect the same in return. Was it so bad to voice it out. Why cant a Scorpio understand that. They surely have high self respect why shouldn't the other

Thank you everyone for the comments, i truly appreciate the responses.

To be honest ..now that i re -reading the comments and am replying to this post i am no longer interested in the guy. But i am genuinely intrigued and want to know if i was anyways wrong in voicing my opinion —

We both made plans, i am a single mother i had to make arrangement for my kid to be looked after while i was out. Not once but twice. he wanted to make changes to the plan a few hours before the date. That is also another reason for me being annoyed. Why are people insensitive to other peoples situations ?

I even had a reply above saying - If that were me, I’d say screw you - WHY ? i dint say anything rude or insulting. I only mentioned that i dont appreciate it and as much as i respect his time i expect the same in return.

Thanks for reading and looking forward to your insight on this

Meg

Posted by Meg123

Posted by pinkbird03
I think it’s over. I think you screwed up the most when you told him his attitude annoyed you. If that were me, I’d say screw you

If that were me, I’d say screw you -

Why would you say so dear. Forget this guy in question. its a relationship people are looking at creating be it friendship or more and dont u think that both ppl involved deserve respect.

i respect other ppls emotions, time and i expect the same in return. Was it so bad to voice it out. Why cant a Scorpio understand that. They surely have high self respect why shouldn't the other

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Your choice of words wasn’t respectful. You get what you give.

LOL at this thread.

I really want to add my 2c but I will refrain.

Best of luck to you both

Posted by Meg123

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by Meg123

Posted by pinkbird03
I think it’s over. I think you screwed up the most when you told him his attitude annoyed you. If that were me, I’d say screw you

If that were me, I’d say screw you -

Why would you say so dear. Forget this guy in question. its a relationship people are looking at creating be it friendship or more and dont u think that both ppl involved deserve respect.

i respect other ppls emotions, time and i expect the same in return. Was it so bad to voice it out. Why cant a Scorpio understand that. They surely have high self respect why shouldn't the other

Your choice of words wasn’t respectful. You get what you give.

Ok..what would you have said ?

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Let’s talk when we’ve both calmed down a little.

That implies you don’t like the way he’s talking to you without telling him anything negative. And it’s more respectful.

For starters I wouldn't listen to a single thing that Gemitati retard has to say about these matters. She's a willing doormat for a cuckolding old fart, ignore her completely if you have even an ounce of self-respect lol. Self-respect is a foreign concept to her.

Second, you came across as too standoffish. It's early days so you should take the attitude down a notch. What was so earth-shattering about changed lunch plans? Yeah I get you were looking forward to meeting him face to face finally, but that's life sometimes. Things come up and plans change.

Yes, you did have cause for annoyance but your reaction was a bit over the top. I don't disagree with your message, I just take issue with your delivery.

Hey Guys ,.....need your help understanding Scorpios.,....so after we discussed my earlier post i put him completely out of my mind ..deleted his number and moved on. A few days ago he messaged and i told him that i am no longer interested cause i was put off by his behaviour, since then he has been pursuing me every day. He messages and has asked me out many times over. I wished him on his bday and he seemed very pleased about it. I am still not interested but i am def intrigued by this behaviour. Please help me understand what is he after ?

Hi Meg..i am a scorpio girl and i was married to a scorpio for like 10 years, we divorced 5 years ago and remain friends from far..for the sake of our kid and respect we gain for us.

Please always keep in mind to be direct and straight with your needs/believes. He will appreciate it as we dont like weak people.

You feel to go meet him? just do it! and be yourself! He will tell you what he wants.not by text but in person..believe me. Just keep strong and be you..always be you. If you have questions, just ask him direct ..in person..look in his eyes, they never lie.

Posted by misha77
Hi Meg..i am a scorpio girl and i was married to a scorpio for like 10 years, we divorced 5 years ago and remain friends from far..for the sake of our kid and respect we gain for us.

Please always keep in mind to be direct and straight with your needs/believes. He will appreciate it as we dont like weak people.

You feel to go meet him? just do it! and be yourself! He will tell you what he wants.not by text but in person..believe me. Just keep strong and be you..always be you. If you have questions, just ask him direct ..in person..look in his eyes, they never lie.

Thanks Misha, I really appreciate your advice.

Although i had told him at the very start i was looking for a relationship. He too said that he wasn't looking for anything casual and would see where it leads to. Later on he said he isnt looking at anything serious for sure. I told him that i had made myself very clear from the start. I see no point in meeting him anymore. Plus like you said what kind of a relation would it be if there wasn't any respect for each other.

EVERYONE. She is a librarian. Re direct her to miscellaneous.

Posted by Meg123
Hey Guys ,.....need your help understanding Scorpios.,....so after we discussed my earlier post i put him completely out of my mind ..deleted his number and moved on. A few days ago he messaged and i told him that i am no longer interested cause i was put off by his behaviour, since then he has been pursuing me every day. He messages and has asked me out many times over. I wished him on his bday and he seemed very pleased about it. I am still not interested but i am def intrigued by this behaviour. Please help me understand what is he after ?

You ARE interested and stop denying the obvious!

Posted by Meg123

Posted by misha77
Hi Meg..i am a scorpio girl and i was married to a scorpio for like 10 years, we divorced 5 years ago and remain friends from far..for the sake of our kid and respect we gain for us.

Please always keep in mind to be direct and straight with your needs/believes. He will appreciate it as we dont like weak people.

You feel to go meet him? just do it! and be yourself! He will tell you what he wants.not by text but in person..believe me. Just keep strong and be you..always be you. If you have questions, just ask him direct ..in person..look in his eyes, they never lie.

Thanks Misha, I really appreciate your advice.

Although i had told him at the very start i was looking for a relationship. He too said that he wasn't looking for anything casual and would see where it leads to. Later on he said he isnt looking at anything serious for sure. I told him that i had made myself very clear from the start. I see no point in meeting him anymore. Plus like you said what kind of a relation would it be if there wasn't any respect for each other.

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The fact that you made yourself clear from the start doesn't make him a prisoner of yours. He thought he wanted. Then you didn't meet his expectations (ever thought of that?) and he changed his mind!!!

People get divorces for god sake and you want to keep man on a grounds that he said something that didn't happen?

Common!

Gemitati you in general see the big picture..i read many of your post answers..but i dont get it here? I feel you are angry!

You answer to who right now? I just dont get it, sorry.

I got it!! I read it aggain and made sense. sorry.

Posted by Meg123

Posted by misha77
Hi Meg..i am a scorpio girl and i was married to a scorpio for like 10 years, we divorced 5 years ago and remain friends from far..for the sake of our kid and respect we gain for us.

Please always keep in mind to be direct and straight with your needs/believes. He will appreciate it as we dont like weak people.

You feel to go meet him? just do it! and be yourself! He will tell you what he wants.not by text but in person..believe me. Just keep strong and be you..always be you. If you have questions, just ask him direct ..in person..look in his eyes, they never lie.

Thanks Misha, I really appreciate your advice.

Although i had told him at the very start i was looking for a relationship. He too said that he wasn't looking for anything casual and would see where it leads to. Later on he said he isnt looking at anything serious for sure. I told him that i had made myself very clear from the start. I see no point in meeting him anymore. Plus like you said what kind of a relation would it be if there wasn't any respect for each other.

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Meg,

I’m joining this thread late but I read it all and I agree with your view point. I think you have your attitude spot on with this.

1. You have never met this man.

2. You stated your intentions up front which were that you were on looking for someone with a view to a serious relationship. That means you’re not looking for anything casual.

3. He stated the same as you do at that time it was a match. You both continued to communicate with each other with a view to meeting on a date.

4. He asked you out but bailed with short notice. Ok, shit happens, so a second date was arranged.

5. He bailed on the second date and you quite rightly told him you’re not going to accept his crap behaviour. Your only alternative would have been to forget him, block him, move on etc. Either way, it no longer matters.

6. At some point, he stated he wasn’t looking for anything too serious. I don’t know when this was in the time line but frankly, his behaviour of arranging then flaming on both dates SHOWS you what he’s looking for. At this point, it was HIS intentions which had changed. Not yours. Therefore it was no longer a match. He probably wasn’t looking for anything serious in the first place. Most people when dating aren’t clear or honest with what they’re looking for.

7. This guy is at luke warm stage. He’s not likely to be taking dating seriously or his life is a bit messed up that he is unable to keep to arrangements. Both points do not suit what you are looking for. You are not a match regardless of how much time you both spent texting each other or how amazing he is on paper. It hasn’t been able to reach the date stage which is the next logical step. Why? Because he’s not serious.

8. You CLEARLY stated your terms and intentions to him. You stood your ground and showed him you’re not interested in him or his behaviour. There is nothing wrong with this.

9. He is ‘chasing’ you now because he either wants to get you to change your mind (because you gave him some rules/boundaries), he likes to chase, doesn’t actually want you kind of scenario (nothing personal about you, some people are just like that) or because he is genuinely interested and has decided he’d like to date you with a view to having a serious, committed relationship either with you or someone out there. I don’t know what would have changed in his world for him to change his intentions. Possibly nothing because they haven’t changed at all.

10. As you have stated, you are no longer interested in this guy. I’d forget him, delete him, block him etc, and multi date others so you always have options. There are PLENTY of other people available who WILL date you and who WANT to date you. My advice, if you manage to build a rapport with a guy over a few days via text/email/calls AND they seem to match what you want AND they have asked you out then I’d go out sooner than later. This weeds out the shit and means you won’t invest one month of your time on a luke warm prospect. The result means you’ll have one month of your time to invest in red hot prospects instead. Red hot ones will more likely bring you a suitable match.

As for why he’s acting this way, hopefully the above will offer some insight.

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Posted by Meg123

Posted by misha77
Hi Meg..i am a scorpio girl and i was married to a scorpio for like 10 years, we divorced 5 years ago and remain friends from far..for the sake of our kid and respect we gain for us.

Please always keep in mind to be direct and straight with your needs/believes. He will appreciate it as we dont like weak people.

You feel to go meet him? just do it! and be yourself! He will tell you what he wants.not by text but in person..believe me. Just keep strong and be you..always be you. If you have questions, just ask him direct ..in person..look in his eyes, they never lie.

Thanks Misha, I really appreciate your advice.

Although i had told him at the very start i was looking for a relationship. He too said that he wasn't looking for anything casual and would see where it leads to. Later on he said he isnt looking at anything serious for sure. I told him that i had made myself very clear from the start. I see no point in meeting him anymore. Plus like you said what kind of a relation would it be if there wasn't any respect for each other.

Meg,

I’m joining this thread late but I read it all and I agree with your view point. I think you have your attitude spot on with this.

1. You have never met this man.

2. You stated your intentions up front which were that you were on looking for someone with a view to a serious relationship. That means you’re not looking for anything casual.

3. He stated the same as you do at that time it was a match. You both continued to communicate with each other with a view to meeting on a date.

4. He asked you out but bailed with short notice. Ok, shit happens, so a second date was arranged.

5. He bailed on the second date and you quite rightly told him you’re not going to accept his crap behaviour. Your only alternative would have been to forget him, block him, move on etc. Either way, it no longer matters.

6. At some point, he stated he wasn’t looking for anything too serious. I don’t know when this was in the time line but frankly, his behaviour of arranging then flaming on both dates SHOWS you what he’s looking for. At this point, it was HIS intentions which had changed. Not yours. Therefore it was no longer a match. He probably wasn’t looking for anything serious in the first place. Most people when dating aren’t clear or honest with what they’re looking for.

7. This guy is at luke warm stage. He’s not likely to be taking dating seriously or his life is a bit messed up that he is unable to keep to arrangements. Both points do not suit what you are looking for. You are not a match regardless of how much time you both spent texting each other or how amazing he is on paper. It hasn’t been able to reach the date stage which is the next logical step. Why? Because he’s not serious.

8. You CLEARLY stated your terms and intentions to him. You stood your ground and showed him you’re not interested in him or his behaviour. There is nothing wrong with this.

9. He is ‘chasing’ you now because he either wants to get you to change your mind (because you gave him some rules/boundaries), he likes to chase, doesn’t actually want you kind of scenario (nothing personal about you, some people are just like that) or because he is genuinely interested and has decided he’d like to date you with a view to having a serious, committed relationship either with you or someone out there. I don’t know what would have changed in his world for him to change his intentions. Possibly nothing because they haven’t changed at all.

10. As you have stated, you are no longer interested in this guy. I’d forget him, delete him, block him etc, and multi date others so you always have options. There are PLENTY of other people available who WILL date you and who WANT to date you. My advice, if you manage to build a rapport with a guy over a few days via text/email/calls AND they seem to match what you want AND they have asked you out then I’d go out sooner than later. This weeds out the shit and means you won’t invest one month of your time on a luke warm prospect. The result means you’ll have one month of your time to invest in red hot prospects instead. Red hot ones will more likely bring you a suitable match.

As for why he’s acting this way, hopefully the above will offer some insight.

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Thank you so much dear for taking the time to write it down for me. I truly appreciate it.

You have read a few of the msgs above and to be honest i find yours very helpful and straightforward.

I have def moved on and not looking to meet up this guy, he msg quite a lot, but i have told him i am no longer interested. I think your right he just likes the chase. Although its quite annoying as to how ppl are willing to waste both their time and mine.

thanks you once again.

take care and have a good day