
Nataliaaa
@Nataliaaa
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Posted by NataliaaaYou've already talked about how this ho is giving you red flags and threatening the security of your relationship. If he moves her in after that conversation he is basically prioritizing a 'friend' over his relationship.
Without me wanting it, he and I had this conversation months ago, he clarified me that he had no interest on her whatsoever, but he didn't know if she had any romantic interest on him.
So I have reasons to think she made up all that story so she could stay in his apartment for at least a month.



Posted by ellesbellesI know..it's difficult
Ouch.
I've got nothing.
A Cap and TWO Scorps?
It could go either way.
You are in a catch 22....you have to trust him....or that will make him run to her.
So....you have to trust him.
Voice that though, say it out loud and clear as day. "I trust you.".....
So when she's running around in her panties and bra after a shower....it echoes in his head...lol


Posted by hellosaggyBeing naive and innocent is a compliment, thanks!
Have your bff/therapist on stand by.... smh
Somebody show me where the naive girl section is... I want 3 of them.
@saggurl88 come help me pick a few out!







Posted by hellosaggyAww Thank you for giving this much attention to my topic. I truly appreciate it :·)
@saggurl88
No.... the girl is living with him in his apartment.... OP doesn't live there.

Posted by ellesbellesTotally, that sound very like the voice of maturity !! Thank youPosted by hellosaggyMy partner is a Cap and I know how important his friends are.
@Ellesbelles
I'm shocked by this answer from you. I thought you were old school this never would fly.
I'm new school and this never would fly lmao
Relationships mean nothing now a days... I love yous happen a dime a dozen. I'd rather have someone I can trust.
pfft. nobody wants to be single, but like to pretend to be.
Personally, if we didn't live together.....I don't feel it's my place to tell him which friend he can help by giving them temporary shelter and which he can't based on gender.
I would simply have to trust him.
I would hope that if she did have a hidden agenda he would be gentlemen enough to turn her down while putting a foot in her ass on her way out the door.
At the end of the day, it's his choice.
Just like if I were in the same position, it would be my choice.
If they lived together it would be a mutual decision....but they don't.click to expand





Posted by Gemitati
Was I not loud enough?
YOU LOST GIRL!

Posted by NataliaaaHahaha what?Posted by Gemitati
Was I not loud enough?
YOU LOST GIRL!
I haven't lost anything because there's nothing to lose.
And btw you haven't even read the post do you think I will listen to someone like you? please...hahaha
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Posted by hellosaggyI got that. That's why I said she'd be living with me and not him!!! I can be just as supportive to my man by accepting his female friend at my house for a few weeks ??
@saggurl88
No.... the girl is living with him in his apartment.... OP doesn't live there.

Posted by NataliaaaSome posts don't have to be read! It's in a title! HahahaPosted by Gemitati
Was I not loud enough?
YOU LOST GIRL!
I haven't lost anything because there's nothing to lose.
And btw you haven't even read the post do you think I will listen to someone like you? please...hahaha
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Posted by ellesbellesThat's more like it!!! 😆
Gheezuz, I would want to see what happens.
He will either gain an enormous amount of respect from me or I will need a shovel, gloves and a place to bury his body 😛

Posted by hellosaggyHaha you are so bitter, that I like you. Thanks for commenting
Plus ya'll only been together 5 months, that's right around the first break up point. Just FYI.
6 months is first one...honey moon stage is over
1.5 years is the second one.. usually life choices start to arise that split you up.

Posted by ellesbellesIt adds to the drama!! —Posted by HarukkaNow she's in love with him?Posted by ellesbellesLol
Why so insecure?
You're not gonna be ok, if your man/woman have someone who is in love with them/live with them
Women are notorious for letting their imagination get the best of them.click to expand

Posted by ellesbellesYou guys aren't at all.
I find it so ironic that scorps are the ones called controlling.





Posted by ellesbellesBut what about 5 months into your new relationship...he would still be cool with it?Posted by LadyNeptuneMy cap boyfriend would make fun of him behind his back. lol
If you had a flirty touchy feely guy friend you moved into your place would your bf have something to say?
Pretty much because he knows he has nothing to worry about and would like to see him die trying. 😛click to expand

Posted by ellesbellesMy point is 5 months isn't long enough to truly know the other person, their intentions, or long enough to trust them.Posted by LadyNeptune5 months or 5 years.....does it matter? Whatever happens is going to happen. If a person is unfaithful they will be unfaithful.Posted by ellesbellesBut what about 5 months into your new relationship...he would still be cool with it?Posted by LadyNeptuneMy cap boyfriend would make fun of him behind his back. lol
If you had a flirty touchy feely guy friend you moved into your place would your bf have something to say?
Pretty much because he knows he has nothing to worry about and would like to see him die trying. 😛
Trying to control every situation is just going to be exhausting.click to expand

Posted by ellesbellesWell more power to you both then.Posted by LadyNeptuneI just asked the cap and he read the thread. He thinks its ridiculous that everyone's mind goes straight to mistrust...and that it's kind of sad too.Posted by ellesbellesMy point is 5 months isn't long enough to truly know the other person, their intentions, or long enough to trust them.Posted by LadyNeptune5 months or 5 years.....does it matter? Whatever happens is going to happen. If a person is unfaithful they will be unfaithful.Posted by ellesbellesBut what about 5 months into your new relationship...he would still be cool with it?Posted by LadyNeptuneMy cap boyfriend would make fun of him behind his back. lol
If you had a flirty touchy feely guy friend you moved into your place would your bf have something to say?
Pretty much because he knows he has nothing to worry about and would like to see him die trying. 😛
Trying to control every situation is just going to be exhausting.
Most women who see their man move in another woman into his house as a red flag.
He said he'd have no problem either way and wouldn't expect me to have one either.
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Posted by ellesbellesMoon in Pisces
@Nataliaaa
Where are both of your moon, venus, mars?
I'm just curious.

Posted by hellosaggyYou are so right! he must have already seen what he's doing, he's not stupid, at all...
Ahhh she's a double water sign... that might explain it... I don't really put too much emphasis on astrology.. but she might be so emotionally attached to him that its tough for her to see the situation clearly.
@nataliaaa I'm really not bitter, its not my life. I just don't want to see you driving off a cliff if I see you on your way to doing it. If anything I am angry that the guy put you in the situation to make you test your own fortitude, He should know he's wrong.
A man that loves you wouldn't jeopardize you over her. one thing he could have done is let her use his place and stay with you or something.

Posted by EllygantThank you! that's very accurate, impartial. I like your style .
OP, didn't you have a somewhat complicated liaison with a Scorp dude who had a girlfriend for a short time? I think that experience might be playing into this one. You're previous experience might be influencing your concerns here.
Maybe this girl really is gunning for the cap your with. Maybe they're truly just buddy buddy friends. Either way, you need to explore this situation with the cap precisely and directly.
Just remember, if he's made commitments to you, a majority of the responsibility falls on him rather than her. Should it be a real threat to his monogamy, her presence is just a reflection of his current priorities. Focus less on her and more on his handling of the relationship and you.


Posted by shaymacii agree with you.
All sounds shady as fuck.
He isn't that damn stupid.
She's basically a hoebag and he's disrespecting your relationship.
Sis, if he letting that happen, find you a new one.
I doubt he'd sit quiet if the situation was reversed.
She sounds like a manipulative, lying little skank.

Posted by lisabethur8Exactly!Posted by shaymacii agree with you.
All sounds shady as fuck.
He isn't that damn stupid.
She's basically a hoebag and he's disrespecting your relationship.
Sis, if he letting that happen, find you a new one.
I doubt he'd sit quiet if the situation was reversed.
She sounds like a manipulative, lying little skank.
the story is scary and i have total trust issues, so if a man isn't gonna give me security, i'm not a happy camper. i'm first and only first.click to expand
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I get along with most of his friends, but I have never trust this girl completely.
Last week I was at my Cap's apartment and this girl arrived, she was all crying because she had a fight with her family and she had nowhere to go. After an hour we were chatting about random stuff and she seemed ok. I went to the kitchen for a minute and when I came out they were hugging in a very weird way.
I was surprised to see them but said nothing. Like when you totally know when a girl likes your BF.
Without me wanting it, he and I had this conversation months ago, he clarified me that he had no interest on her whatsoever, but he didn't know if she had any romantic interest on him. So I wasn't worried at all until now. Continuously this girl carries drama, and she lies a lot. So I have reasons to think she made up all that story so she could stay in his apartment for at least a month. And I also do know how territorial we are when we love, lol.
I really want to avoid any more drama, I'm happy with my relationship, and I also trust him, but it's pretty annoying to see someone flirting with your BF in your face and you can't say anything because he sees her as his friend. So how can I approach him without being super dramatic about it? Or should I do nothing maybe?