Scorpio girl flirting with my boyfriend

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Nataliaaa
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So I'm with this Cap since April. One of his best friends is an Scorpio.

I get along with most of his friends, but I have never trust this girl completely.

Last week I was at my Cap's apartment and this girl arrived, she was all crying because she had a fight with her family and she had nowhere to go. After an hour we were chatting about random stuff and she seemed ok. I went to the kitchen for a minute and when I came out they were hugging in a very weird way.

I was surprised to see them but said nothing. Like when you totally know when a girl likes your BF.

Without me wanting it, he and I had this conversation months ago, he clarified me that he had no interest on her whatsoever, but he didn't know if she had any romantic interest on him. So I wasn't worried at all until now. Continuously this girl carries drama, and she lies a lot. So I have reasons to think she made up all that story so she could stay in his apartment for at least a month. And I also do know how territorial we are when we love, lol.

I really want to avoid any more drama, I'm happy with my relationship, and I also trust him, but it's pretty annoying to see someone flirting with your BF in your face and you can't say anything because he sees her as his friend. So how can I approach him without being super dramatic about it? Or should I do nothing maybe?
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Posted by Nataliaaa
Without me wanting it, he and I had this conversation months ago, he clarified me that he had no interest on her whatsoever, but he didn't know if she had any romantic interest on him.

So I have reasons to think she made up all that story so she could stay in his apartment for at least a month.
You've already talked about how this ho is giving you red flags and threatening the security of your relationship. If he moves her in after that conversation he is basically prioritizing a 'friend' over his relationship.

That should tell you everything you need to know.
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Nataliaaa
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Posted by ellesbelles
Ouch.

I've got nothing.

A Cap and TWO Scorps?

It could go either way.

You are in a catch 22....you have to trust him....or that will make him run to her.

So....you have to trust him.

Voice that though, say it out loud and clear as day. "I trust you.".....

So when she's running around in her panties and bra after a shower....it echoes in his head...lol
I know..it's difficult

Thank you! That seems like a clever move. I always prefer to trust and expect the best in people. And I really want o believe on what he previously said

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Nataliaaa
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I'm shocked by this answer from you. I thought you were old school this never would fly.

I'm new school and this never would fly lmao

Relationships mean nothing now a days... I love yous happen a dime a dozen. I'd rather have someone I can trust.

pfft. nobody wants to be single, but like to pretend to be.
My partner is a Cap and I know how important his friends are.

Personally, if we didn't live together.....I don't feel it's my place to tell him which friend he can help by giving them temporary shelter and which he can't based on gender.

I would simply have to trust him.

I would hope that if she did have a hidden agenda he would be gentlemen enough to turn her down while putting a foot in her ass on her way out the door.

At the end of the day, it's his choice.

Just like if I were in the same position, it would be my choice.

If they lived together it would be a mutual decision....but they don't.
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Totally, that sound very like the voice of maturity !! Thank you
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Ahhh she's a double water sign... that might explain it... I don't really put too much emphasis on astrology.. but she might be so emotionally attached to him that its tough for her to see the situation clearly.

@nataliaaa I'm really not bitter, its not my life. I just don't want to see you driving off a cliff if I see you on your way to doing it. If anything I am angry that the guy put you in the situation to make you test your own fortitude, He should know he's wrong.

A man that loves you wouldn't jeopardize you over her. one thing he could have done is let her use his place and stay with you or something.
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Posted by ellesbelles
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If you had a flirty touchy feely guy friend you moved into your place would your bf have something to say?
My cap boyfriend would make fun of him behind his back. lol

Pretty much because he knows he has nothing to worry about and would like to see him die trying. 😛
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But what about 5 months into your new relationship...he would still be cool with it?

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If you had a flirty touchy feely guy friend you moved into your place would your bf have something to say?
My cap boyfriend would make fun of him behind his back. lol

Pretty much because he knows he has nothing to worry about and would like to see him die trying. 😛
But what about 5 months into your new relationship...he would still be cool with it?


5 months or 5 years.....does it matter? Whatever happens is going to happen. If a person is unfaithful they will be unfaithful.

Trying to control every situation is just going to be exhausting.
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My point is 5 months isn't long enough to truly know the other person, their intentions, or long enough to trust them.

Most women who see their man move in another woman into his house as a red flag.



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If you had a flirty touchy feely guy friend you moved into your place would your bf have something to say?
My cap boyfriend would make fun of him behind his back. lol

Pretty much because he knows he has nothing to worry about and would like to see him die trying. 😛
But what about 5 months into your new relationship...he would still be cool with it?


5 months or 5 years.....does it matter? Whatever happens is going to happen. If a person is unfaithful they will be unfaithful.

Trying to control every situation is just going to be exhausting.
My point is 5 months isn't long enough to truly know the other person, their intentions, or long enough to trust them.

Most women who see their man move in another woman into his house as a red flag.




I just asked the cap and he read the thread. He thinks its ridiculous that everyone's mind goes straight to mistrust...and that it's kind of sad too.

He said he'd have no problem either way and wouldn't expect me to have one either.

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Well more power to you both then.

Personally I would have something to say about this situation.
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Nataliaaa
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Posted by hellosaggy
Ahhh she's a double water sign... that might explain it... I don't really put too much emphasis on astrology.. but she might be so emotionally attached to him that its tough for her to see the situation clearly.

@nataliaaa I'm really not bitter, its not my life. I just don't want to see you driving off a cliff if I see you on your way to doing it. If anything I am angry that the guy put you in the situation to make you test your own fortitude, He should know he's wrong.

A man that loves you wouldn't jeopardize you over her. one thing he could have done is let her use his place and stay with you or something.
You are so right! he must have already seen what he's doing, he's not stupid, at all...

I'm just disappointed now that he has put me in this situation. 😢

Thank you @hellosaggy I utterly appreciate your words, allowed me to see the whole situation in a new and more clear perspective.

You def have that older brother vibe. :·)
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Nataliaaa
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Posted by Ellygant
OP, didn't you have a somewhat complicated liaison with a Scorp dude who had a girlfriend for a short time? I think that experience might be playing into this one. You're previous experience might be influencing your concerns here.

Maybe this girl really is gunning for the cap your with. Maybe they're truly just buddy buddy friends. Either way, you need to explore this situation with the cap precisely and directly.

Just remember, if he's made commitments to you, a majority of the responsibility falls on him rather than her. Should it be a real threat to his monogamy, her presence is just a reflection of his current priorities. Focus less on her and more on his handling of the relationship and you.
Thank you! that's very accurate, impartial. I like your style .

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soundsunscene
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well a scorpio I know let a Taurus stay with him manipulated the whole situation as she had been in love with him for years pretending she was helping him out when he needed a break from his marriage - she was married asked her husband to go stay at another house they owned for some bs reason and went into the Taurus' room and just jumped on him didnt care he was married. she was good friends with the wife for 20 years and even had stayed in their home etc - still pretended to friend the wife of the taurus on facebook wishing her happy bday how she missed her etc - snake behaviour in the first degree

my Scorpio bestie also pushed her way onto her Taurus ex and just boned him when he was too weak to say no like manipulated the setup whist he had no idea what was going on. She even knew I liked him and he like dme but i needed to move interstate for a few months

sorry but Scorpio is the one sign that that is a no go - they are extremely manipulative and use actions to get what they want as opposed to words - and if there is a bed in that situation you have a huge problem on your hands as they use sex as power and for some reason men just cant say no
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Posted by shaymaci
All sounds shady as fuck.

He isn't that damn stupid.

She's basically a hoebag and he's disrespecting your relationship.

Sis, if he letting that happen, find you a new one.

I doubt he'd sit quiet if the situation was reversed.

She sounds like a manipulative, lying little skank.


i agree with you.



the story is scary and i have total trust issues, so if a man isn't gonna give me security, i'm not a happy camper. i'm first and only first.
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All sounds shady as fuck.

He isn't that damn stupid.

She's basically a hoebag and he's disrespecting your relationship.

Sis, if he letting that happen, find you a new one.

I doubt he'd sit quiet if the situation was reversed.

She sounds like a manipulative, lying little skank.


i agree with you.



the story is scary and i have total trust issues, so if a man isn't gonna give me security, i'm not a happy camper. i'm first and only first.
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Exactly!

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