Taurus Guy Asked Me If I Love Him....What does this all mean—

After seeing a taurus guy for the past few weeks, last night we were laying in bed together and in the middle of our conversation he said, "You're not in love with me, are you??" I told him no but that I like him a lot. Then he asked if I could see myself falling in love with him. I told him I do really like you, so I believe I could potentially fall in love with him. Then he said almost under his breathe, "well, that [falling in love] happened really fast" So I clarified what I meant to him, that I'm not in love with him but like a lot of things about him so its possible to happen in the future.

Tonight he texted me asking if I miss him. I said yes, then he said me too. Then he asked me do I love him. I told him I like you. So he says "You do, I could see it in your eyes last night...In love baby?!?" So I text back, "idk...maybe you could just see that I was happy" So he says" You are...U love me". I say, "Idk what to say... I like you a lot, but don't think I love you." He replies "Good! that fucks everything up"

Wth does he mean by all of this? I know I like him a lot...Love? Maybe a stretch, don't think I've known him long enough for that. PLUS, I have NO clue how he feels about me...

Any opinions on his angle or motive with this convo? Is he trying to make sure I don't fall in love, or was he genuinely trying to feel me out? MY friend thinks he is maybe falling in love with me, but was trying to feel me out first. What do you all think?

Posted by andstill
needy bulls should not go for love avoidant women

Not necessarily avoiding love... but don't want to rush into it...

Posted by dolluxe
Sounds like he needs a lot of ego-stroking

Do you think he just wanted to hear that for his ego's sake?? Me telling him that I really like him and find him super intriguing and kind couldn't be enough? I thought Taurus men don't like game playing...

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Posted by LolaRed

Posted by dolluxe
Sounds like he needs a lot of ego-stroking

Do you think he just wanted to hear that for his ego's sake?? Me telling him that I really like him and find him super intriguing and kind couldn't be enough? I thought Taurus men don't like game playing...

Taurus men don't. Taurus BOYS do.

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That would be shocking at his age... he's over 20 years older than me...

Blah! A taturus I used to date would do things like that. Do you think we will get back together? Do you think we would have been married now?

Why? Why do you want to bloodyknow geez!!

I have asked him back and it I don't know, I guess, maybe...

Posted by Garnet
Blah! A taturus I used to date would do things like that. Do you think we will get back together? Do you think we would have been married now?

Why? Why do you want to bloodyknow geez!!

I have asked him back and it I don't know, I guess, maybe...

Sounds like a pain in the butt 😐

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Any person, male or female, who does this is trying to "manipulate" you...

Stick to what you feel and tell it straight... DO NOT fall for their manipulation. Taurus males are one of the most manipulative men out there.

I definitely told him what I feel... that I like him, a lot. But I don't believe I'm ready to throw the L word out.

A few of my friends think that he's doing this because he's the one falling in love with me and is feeling vulnerable about it, so wants to know where I stand... That's possible-- but why would he end it with "good! That (meaning love), just fucks everything up"—?

I'm sooo confused. I DO know that he's showing all of the signs that a man (specifically taurus man) does when he's really into someone. Wanting to see me all the time, calling/texting regularly, going out of his comfort zone to do things I want to do, super super affectionate, staring at me and into my eyes all the time, cooking for me, and he introduced me to his kids last weekend. He's always talking about things we can do together in the future. Wants to book a trip for us for my Xmas gift. And most recently he told me he's considering moving to Costa Rica and if I would be willing to live in Costa Rica.

Could it be possible that HE is the one that's in love with ME? And so is trying to find out if I'm falling in love with him so he doesn't feel vulnerable?

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Posted by dolluxe
Sounds like he needs a lot of ego-stroking

Do you think he just wanted to hear that for his ego's sake?? Me telling him that I really like him and find him super intriguing and kind couldn't be enough? I thought Taurus men don't like game playing...

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They don't. So, if he said you're being in love with him would "mess things up", it sounds like he wants to keep the relationship more casual while still having sex.

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Posted by LolaRed
A few of my friends think that he's doing this because he's the one falling in love with me and is feeling vulnerable about it, so wants to know where I stand... That's possible-- but why would he end it with "good! That (meaning love), just fucks everything up"—?

I'm sooo confused. I DO know that he's showing all of the signs that a man (specifically taurus man) does when he's really into someone. Wanting to see me all the time, calling/texting regularly, going out of his comfort zone to do things I want to do, super super affectionate, staring at me and into my eyes all the time, cooking for me, and he introduced me to his kids last weekend. He's always talking about things we can do together in the future. Wants to book a trip for us for my Xmas gift. And most recently he told me he's considering moving to Costa Rica and if I would be willing to live in Costa Rica.

Could it be possible that HE is the one that's in love with ME? And so is trying to find out if I'm falling in love with him so he doesn't feel vulnerable?

I would agree. Start asking him what he means by what he says.

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So what happened?... Taurus men are so secretive. TBH noone would never know what's on taurus' 'Indus. Theyre especially good at keeping things to themselves and letting people only see or feel a bit of it and just exactly what they want you to see and feel. Even to family and best friends. But it sounds like he really liked you a lot to do all those things (and he wants reassurance). But then again maybe it could be that he's just being very caring- it's in his nature and enjoys your company. The longer this goes on- he could fall.

I think he's in love. After OP refused to say she was in love, he copped out and acted like that was fine ("it would mess things up"). Probably doesn't want to commit if it will only lead to getting crushed, so he's prodding the OP and hoping she admits to the same feelings he has. If she doesn't, he'll eventually get the hint and look elsewhere, unless he's nuts.

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Posted by LolaRed
A few of my friends think that he's doing this because he's the one falling in love with me and is feeling vulnerable about it, so wants to know where I stand... That's possible-- but why would he end it with "good! That (meaning love), just fucks everything up"—?

I'm sooo confused. I DO know that he's showing all of the signs that a man (specifically taurus man) does when he's really into someone. Wanting to see me all the time, calling/texting regularly, going out of his comfort zone to do things I want to do, super super affectionate, staring at me and into my eyes all the time, cooking for me, and he introduced me to his kids last weekend. He's always talking about things we can do together in the future. Wants to book a trip for us for my Xmas gift. And most recently he told me he's considering moving to Costa Rica and if I would be willing to live in Costa Rica.

Could it be possible that HE is the one that's in love with ME? And so is trying to find out if I'm falling in love with him so he doesn't feel vulnerable?

I would agree. Start asking him what he means by what he says.

So what happened?... Taurus men are so secretive. TBH noone would never know what's on taurus' 'Indus. Theyre especially good at keeping things to themselves and letting people only see or feel a bit of it and just exactly what they want you to see and feel. Even to family and best friends. But it sounds like he really liked you a lot to do all those things (and he wants reassurance). But then again maybe it could be that he's just being very caring- it's in his nature and enjoys your company. The longer this goes on- he could fall.

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Sorry I haven't updated. So since then, I've kind of stepped back a bit... This comment left me unsure if he's looking for something serious or casual. We hung out at his house a couple of times since then- he has a beautiful home and would order in fine dining the first time, and cooked for me the second time. He'd light the fireplace and put on romantic music...so even though we were at his house he'd make it romantic. But I am kind of wanting him to start taking me out again. Other than the first 2 dates, all the others have been at his house, the way I just described. I know that I'm not interested in anything casual right now so I've remained in contact, but just not as frequently as I was. I figured if he was truly interested he would step forward when he noticed me stepping back. But that didn't happen... I began to notice if I don't text first he doesn't contact me. So after letting some time passed, I sent him a good morning text, and as always he replies fairly quickly. So I reply "Question... I'm feeling like I might be annoying you...is everything alright?" He replies- "Not really sweetie, but it has nothing to do with you" So I tell him I'm sorry to hear that...etc The next day I ask him if he wants to come with me to this jazz show the next evening at a really good restaurant here is town. He replies "Hi sweetie, idk I have been in such a foul mood this week, I don't want to be bad company. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow 😢 " So I tell him, "It's ok, I understand. I just want you to know that I'm here for you...just let me know if you're feeling up to it tomorrow" So he replies "Ur an incredible woman, especially at such a young age." Since then we've messaged a few times each day, but no plans... I haven't seen him in 12 days... He seems to be super depressed and lonely, but it's almost starting to feel like he's trying to push me away...

I'm finding myself really starting to fall for him and don't know if I should tell him. Especially after his comment about how that fucks everything up 😢 But if I do, it's something I want to do in person. But who knows when that'll be...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused

Posted by LolaRed
So he says "You do, I could see it in your eyes last night...In love baby?!?" So I text back, "idk...maybe you could just see that I was happy"

I would've replied, "That's just your own reflection you see in my eyes. Do you have some feelings to admit too?" *cheeky grin*



Flip the script on him.

Sorry I haven't updated. So since then, I've kind of stepped back a bit... This comment left me unsure if he's looking for something serious or casual. We hung out at his house a couple of times since then- he has a beautiful home and would order in fine dining the first time, and cooked for me the second time. He'd light the fireplace and put on romantic music...so even though we were at his house he'd make it romantic. But I am kind of wanting him to start taking me out again. Other than the first 2 dates, all the others have been at his house, the way I just described. I know that I'm not interested in anything casual right now so I've remained in contact, but just not as frequently as I was. I figured if he was truly interested he would step forward when he noticed me stepping back. But that didn't happen... I began to notice if I don't text first he doesn't contact me. So after letting some time passed, I sent him a good morning text, and as always he replies fairly quickly. So I reply "Question... I'm feeling like I might be annoying you...is everything alright?" He replies- "Not really sweetie, but it has nothing to do with you" So I tell him I'm sorry to hear that...etc The next day I ask him if he wants to come with me to this jazz show the next evening at a really good restaurant here is town. He replies "Hi sweetie, idk I have been in such a foul mood this week, I don't want to be bad company. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow 😢 " So I tell him, "It's ok, I understand. I just want you to know that I'm here for you...just let me know if you're feeling up to it tomorrow" So he replies "Ur an incredible woman, especially at such a young age." Since then we've messaged a few times each day, but no plans... I haven't seen him in 12 days... He seems to be super depressed and lonely, but it's almost starting to feel like he's trying to push me away...

I'm finding myself really starting to fall for him and don't know if I should tell him. Especially after his comment about how that fucks everything up 😢 But if I do, it's something I want to do in person. But who knows when that'll be...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused



when you can make sure he's home, take the gift over to his house and tell him exactly how you feel and ask if there is anything you can do to cheer him up ...

Posted by Gem_from_Venus
I think now he is worried you don't feel as strongly as him, so he's thinking and reevaluating. Does he often mention your age? That makes me think he's wondering if age is part of the problem.

Yes, of few times he's said he has reservations about the age difference...

Posted by tcta
Sorry I haven't updated. So since then, I've kind of stepped back a bit... This comment left me unsure if he's looking for something serious or casual. We hung out at his house a couple of times since then- he has a beautiful home and would order in fine dining the first time, and cooked for me the second time. He'd light the fireplace and put on romantic music...so even though we were at his house he'd make it romantic. But I am kind of wanting him to start taking me out again. Other than the first 2 dates, all the others have been at his house, the way I just described. I know that I'm not interested in anything casual right now so I've remained in contact, but just not as frequently as I was. I figured if he was truly interested he would step forward when he noticed me stepping back. But that didn't happen... I began to notice if I don't text first he doesn't contact me. So after letting some time passed, I sent him a good morning text, and as always he replies fairly quickly. So I reply "Question... I'm feeling like I might be annoying you...is everything alright?" He replies- "Not really sweetie, but it has nothing to do with you" So I tell him I'm sorry to hear that...etc The next day I ask him if he wants to come with me to this jazz show the next evening at a really good restaurant here is town. He replies "Hi sweetie, idk I have been in such a foul mood this week, I don't want to be bad company. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow 😢 " So I tell him, "It's ok, I understand. I just want you to know that I'm here for you...just let me know if you're feeling up to it tomorrow" So he replies "Ur an incredible woman, especially at such a young age." Since then we've messaged a few times each day, but no plans... I haven't seen him in 12 days... He seems to be super depressed and lonely, but it's almost starting to feel like he's trying to push me away...

I'm finding myself really starting to fall for him and don't know if I should tell him. Especially after his comment about how that fucks everything up 😢 But if I do, it's something I want to do in person. But who knows when that'll be...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused

when you can make sure he's home, take the gift over to his house and tell him exactly how you feel and ask if there is anything you can do to cheer him up ...



Ok, awesome... but that's so much bolder than I've ever been... Shouldn't I call ahead of time?? Or give him a heads up that I'm coming there? I just am nervous to come across as intrusive...

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Posted by LolaRed
So he says "You do, I could see it in your eyes last night...In love baby?!?" So I text back, "idk...maybe you could just see that I was happy"

I would've replied, "That's just your own reflection you see in my eyes. Do you have some feeling to admit too?" *cheeky grin*



Flip the script on him.

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Lol!! This is awesome!! I think I should try this on the Taurus guy who asked me the same question ?

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Posted by tcta
Sorry I haven't updated. So since then, I've kind of stepped back a bit... This comment left me unsure if he's looking for something serious or casual. We hung out at his house a couple of times since then- he has a beautiful home and would order in fine dining the first time, and cooked for me the second time. He'd light the fireplace and put on romantic music...so even though we were at his house he'd make it romantic. But I am kind of wanting him to start taking me out again. Other than the first 2 dates, all the others have been at his house, the way I just described. I know that I'm not interested in anything casual right now so I've remained in contact, but just not as frequently as I was. I figured if he was truly interested he would step forward when he noticed me stepping back. But that didn't happen... I began to notice if I don't text first he doesn't contact me. So after letting some time passed, I sent him a good morning text, and as always he replies fairly quickly. So I reply "Question... I'm feeling like I might be annoying you...is everything alright?" He replies- "Not really sweetie, but it has nothing to do with you" So I tell him I'm sorry to hear that...etc The next day I ask him if he wants to come with me to this jazz show the next evening at a really good restaurant here is town. He replies "Hi sweetie, idk I have been in such a foul mood this week, I don't want to be bad company. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow 😢 " So I tell him, "It's ok, I understand. I just want you to know that I'm here for you...just let me know if you're feeling up to it tomorrow" So he replies "Ur an incredible woman, especially at such a young age." Since then we've messaged a few times each day, but no plans... I haven't seen him in 12 days... He seems to be super depressed and lonely, but it's almost starting to feel like he's trying to push me away...

I'm finding myself really starting to fall for him and don't know if I should tell him. Especially after his comment about how that fucks everything up 😢 But if I do, it's something I want to do in person. But who knows when that'll be...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused

when you can make sure he's home, take the gift over to his house and tell him exactly how you feel and ask if there is anything you can do to cheer him up ...

Ok, awesome... but that's so much bolder than I've ever been... Shouldn't I call ahead of time?? Or give him a heads up that I'm coming there? I just am nervous to come across as intrusive...





yes it's sort of bold and that might be outside of your norm - however - whatever you feel now, you will NOT feel better until this is cleared up one way or another ... give him heads up that you need to stop by for a moment or don't if you feel he will say no, don't do that ... or surprise him when you know he's home

- whatever way - this all needs clarified for your sanities sake - intrusive ? you two have slept together so it isn't intrusive - it needs ironed out so you can move forward in whichever direction this takes you and stop playing games with each other

or make the decision to drop it and move on ...

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Posted by LolaRed
So he says "You do, I could see it in your eyes last night...In love baby?!?" So I text back, "idk...maybe you could just see that I was happy"

I would've replied, "That's just your own reflection you see in my eyes. Do you have some feeling to admit too?" *cheeky grin*



Flip the script on him.

Lol!! This is awesome!! I think I should try this on the Taurus guy who asked me the same question ?

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yeah yeah, it always works ... and then I just look at them and bat my big brown cow eyes and wait while they figure out and studder around trying to say something ...

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Posted by LolaRed

Posted by tcta
Sorry I haven't updated. So since then, I've kind of stepped back a bit... This comment left me unsure if he's looking for something serious or casual. We hung out at his house a couple of times since then- he has a beautiful home and would order in fine dining the first time, and cooked for me the second time. He'd light the fireplace and put on romantic music...so even though we were at his house he'd make it romantic. But I am kind of wanting him to start taking me out again. Other than the first 2 dates, all the others have been at his house, the way I just described. I know that I'm not interested in anything casual right now so I've remained in contact, but just not as frequently as I was. I figured if he was truly interested he would step forward when he noticed me stepping back. But that didn't happen... I began to notice if I don't text first he doesn't contact me. So after letting some time passed, I sent him a good morning text, and as always he replies fairly quickly. So I reply "Question... I'm feeling like I might be annoying you...is everything alright?" He replies- "Not really sweetie, but it has nothing to do with you" So I tell him I'm sorry to hear that...etc The next day I ask him if he wants to come with me to this jazz show the next evening at a really good restaurant here is town. He replies "Hi sweetie, idk I have been in such a foul mood this week, I don't want to be bad company. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow 😢 " So I tell him, "It's ok, I understand. I just want you to know that I'm here for you...just let me know if you're feeling up to it tomorrow" So he replies "Ur an incredible woman, especially at such a young age." Since then we've messaged a few times each day, but no plans... I haven't seen him in 12 days... He seems to be super depressed and lonely, but it's almost starting to feel like he's trying to push me away...

I'm finding myself really starting to fall for him and don't know if I should tell him. Especially after his comment about how that fucks everything up 😢 But if I do, it's something I want to do in person. But who knows when that'll be...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused

when you can make sure he's home, take the gift over to his house and tell him exactly how you feel and ask if there is anything you can do to cheer him up ...

Ok, awesome... but that's so much bolder than I've ever been... Shouldn't I call ahead of time?? Or give him a heads up that I'm coming there? I just am nervous to come across as intrusive...

yes it's sort of bold and that might be outside of your norm - however - whatever you feel now, you will NOT feel better until this is cleared up one way or another ... give him heads up that you need to stop by for a moment or don't if you feel he will say no, don't do that ... or surprise him when you know he's home

- whatever way - this all needs clarified for your sanities sake - intrusive ? you two have slept together so it isn't intrusive - it needs ironed out so you can move forward in whichever direction this takes you and stop playing games with each other

or make the decision to drop it and move on ...







Omg, you're so right though. Ok, I'm gonna try it tonight. I'll update yoo all-- if I have the balls to go through with it...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused



when you can make sure he's home, take the gift over to his house and tell him exactly how you feel and ask if there is anything you can do to cheer him up ...



Ok, awesome... but that's so much bolder than I've ever been... Shouldn't I call ahead of time?? Or give him a heads up that I'm coming there? I just am nervous to come across as intrusive...



yes it's sort of bold and that might be outside of your norm - however - whatever you feel now, you will NOT feel better until this is cleared up one way or another ... give him heads up that you need to stop by for a moment or don't if you feel he will say no, don't do that ... or surprise him when you know he's home

- whatever way - this all needs clarified for your sanities sake - intrusive ? you two have slept together so it isn't intrusive - it needs ironed out so you can move forward in whichever direction this takes you and stop playing games with each other

or make the decision to drop it and move on ...







Omg, you're so right though. Ok, I'm gonna try it tonight. I'll update yoo all-- if I have the balls to go through with it...



don't think about it, just do it - it's an errand, a chore, something you must do - after all you have the gifts ... and once you get there you can tell him immediately how you feel - write a few key notes down so you make sure you have covered it all - straightforward - and then stop and wait to see what he has to say about how he feels and what is going on - good communication is the key in EVERY good relationship

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Posted by LolaRed
A few of my friends think that he's doing this because he's the one falling in love with me and is feeling vulnerable about it, so wants to know where I stand... That's possible-- but why would he end it with "good! That (meaning love), just fucks everything up"—?

I'm sooo confused. I DO know that he's showing all of the signs that a man (specifically taurus man) does when he's really into someone. Wanting to see me all the time, calling/texting regularly, going out of his comfort zone to do things I want to do, super super affectionate, staring at me and into my eyes all the time, cooking for me, and he introduced me to his kids last weekend. He's always talking about things we can do together in the future. Wants to book a trip for us for my Xmas gift. And most recently he told me he's considering moving to Costa Rica and if I would be willing to live in Costa Rica.

Could it be possible that HE is the one that's in love with ME? And so is trying to find out if I'm falling in love with him so he doesn't feel vulnerable?

I would agree. Start asking him what he means by what he says.

So what happened?... Taurus men are so secretive. TBH noone would never know what's on taurus' 'Indus. Theyre especially good at keeping things to themselves and letting people only see or feel a bit of it and just exactly what they want you to see and feel. Even to family and best friends. But it sounds like he really liked you a lot to do all those things (and he wants reassurance). But then again maybe it could be that he's just being very caring- it's in his nature and enjoys your company. The longer this goes on- he could fall.

Sorry I haven't updated. So since then, I've kind of stepped back a bit... This comment left me unsure if he's looking for something serious or casual. We hung out at his house a couple of times since then- he has a beautiful home and would order in fine dining the first time, and cooked for me the second time. He'd light the fireplace and put on romantic music...so even though we were at his house he'd make it romantic. But I am kind of wanting him to start taking me out again. Other than the first 2 dates, all the others have been at his house, the way I just described. I know that I'm not interested in anything casual right now so I've remained in contact, but just not as frequently as I was. I figured if he was truly interested he would step forward when he noticed me stepping back. But that didn't happen... I began to notice if I don't text first he doesn't contact me. So after letting some time passed, I sent him a good morning text, and as always he replies fairly quickly. So I reply "Question... I'm feeling like I might be annoying you...is everything alright?" He replies- "Not really sweetie, but it has nothing to do with you" So I tell him I'm sorry to hear that...etc The next day I ask him if he wants to come with me to this jazz show the next evening at a really good restaurant here is town. He replies "Hi sweetie, idk I have been in such a foul mood this week, I don't want to be bad company. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow 😢 " So I tell him, "It's ok, I understand. I just want you to know that I'm here for you...just let me know if you're feeling up to it tomorrow" So he replies "Ur an incredible woman, especially at such a young age." Since then we've messaged a few times each day, but no plans... I haven't seen him in 12 days... He seems to be super depressed and lonely, but it's almost starting to feel like he's trying to push me away...

I'm finding myself really starting to fall for him and don't know if I should tell him. Especially after his comment about how that fucks everything up 😢 But if I do, it's something I want to do in person. But who knows when that'll be...

I have a Xmas gift for him and his kids that I want to give to him before the Holidays, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to force him to see me by delivering this gift. Idk... so confused

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hard to deal with a depressed taurus. just have to be patient and supportive unfortunately until he pulls himself out of it. if you have gifts for him and his kids, be direct and say so in a caring way. tell him you can drop them off to him a certain day and be pushy nicely lol. we are stubborn and moody so bless you for trying to work with it. the frequency depends on the taurus but you did the right thing letting him know you are there for him if he needs it. you could always try to coax a good mood out of him... if he lets you drop off the gifts off, you could try including a "thinking about you/feel better soon" surprise package for him with, say, your fav feel good movie and/or book, a lavender smelling eyepillow, maybe a smell good candle, some yummy hot tea, snacks, etc..... and see how it goes from there. basically go with the flow and trust your gut but be proactive and direct with your actions and communication.

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Posted by LolaRed
So he says "You do, I could see it in your eyes last night...In love baby?!?" So I text back, "idk...maybe you could just see that I was happy"

I would've replied, "That's just your own reflection you see in my eyes. Do you have some feeling to admit too?" *cheeky grin*



Flip the script on him.

Lol!! This is awesome!! I think I should try this on the Taurus guy who asked me the same question ?

yeah yeah, it always works ... and then I just look at them and bat my big brown cow eyes and wait while they figure out and studder around trying to say something ...

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??

He has a Cap moon too btw.But he also a gf. He's just going cray now

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Posted by Teena

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Posted by LolaRed
So he says "You do, I could see it in your eyes last night...In love baby?!?" So I text back, "idk...maybe you could just see that I was happy"

I would've replied, "That's just your own reflection you see in my eyes. Do you have some feeling to admit too?" *cheeky grin*



Flip the script on him.

Lol!! This is awesome!! I think I should try this on the Taurus guy who asked me the same question ?

yeah yeah, it always works ... and then I just look at them and bat my big brown cow eyes and wait while they figure out and studder around trying to say something ...

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When you do that is it just a game you're playing? Or do you only do that if you are actually falling in love with them?

I would've replied, "That's just your own reflection you see in my eyes. Do you have some feeling to admit too?" *cheeky grin*



Flip the script on him.



Lol!! This is awesome!! I think I should try this on the Taurus guy who asked me the same question ?



yeah yeah, it always works ... and then I just look at them and bat my big brown cow eyes and wait while they figure out and studder around trying to say something ...





When you do that is it just a game you're playing? Or do you only do that if you are actually falling in love with them?





it's not a game and it doesn't have anything to do with how I feel ... I (you) know how you feel and you were trying to tell him that yet he wanted to keep trying to get you to admit to what he wanted you to say ("I can see it in your eyes - so you do love me") ... it yanks my chain when people indirectly try to get me to admit something "they" think they know about me ... when in fact, they don't know sh it and it's about them not me

I will ask a question in return to a question or statement

it's with the other person trying to get me to admit to something they think is correct when in fact, they are not paying attention to me and what I am saying - it is not about what they want their indirect as in not directly coming out and asking me a black and white question

It will be interesting to see what happens. My advice would be to give him his space at this stage which is contrary to everyone else. If he says he is a bad mood, why force yourself on him? When they are dealing with something, just give them the time and space to sort it out. When it's right, they return. But that's just me. You know him, you're best placed to judge how he will respond.

Welll.... it completely backfired 😢. He called me before I got a chance to go... He starts telling me how depressed he was the last couple of weeks and how he was able to pull himself out of it. But one thing that he couldn't settle his mind on was how much younger I am than him. As much as he enjoys my company he sees it as pointless if its not going to work in the longrun.. He tells me we shouldn't be having this convo over the phone. Then I ask him why it can't work and he says because he's getting older and feels his body changing, and that I'm too young to understand what he means. I tried to reassure him that people make relationships work with an age difference all the time.

Then he asks me again if I love him. I tell him yes and he asks why. I give him the reasons why. Then he tells me I'm too young. Then he tries to get off the phone by saying he needs to respond to a text from his kids. But I interject and ask him how he feels about me. He says "You're too young" I was heartbroken. He ten adds, "If you were 10 years older, it would be a done deal. Then he says he has to go. So I guess there's my answer 😢 Too sad to really even let things register right now. It's been a whole year of heartbreak for me and having my heart broken one more time before 2016 is up is a little bit too much for me. I'm devastated

Sorry lola, that's a shitty thing to do just before Christmas.

It may have been all about ego for him or he may have a hard look at the situation and decided it wasn't worth the risk of the inevitable emotional turmoil the relationship would bring to both you and him.

Either way, new year, new start. This very well may be a blessing in disguise.

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Welll.... it completely backfired 😢. He called me before I got a chance to go... He starts telling me how depressed he was the last couple of weeks and how he was able to pull himself out of it. But one thing that he couldn't settle his mind on was how much younger I am than him. As much as he enjoys my company he sees it as pointless if its not going to work in the longrun.. He tells me we shouldn't be having this convo over the phone. Then I ask him why it can't work and he says because he's getting older and feels his body changing, and that I'm too young to understand what he means. I tried to reassure him that people make relationships work with an age difference all the time.

Then he asks me again if I love him. I tell him yes and he asks why. I give him the reasons why. Then he tells me I'm too young. Then he tries to get off the phone by saying he needs to respond to a text from his kids. But I interject and ask him how he feels about me. He says "You're too young" I was heartbroken. He ten adds, "If you were 10 years older, it would be a done deal. Then he says he has to go. So I guess there's my answer 😢 Too sad to really even let things register right now. It's been a whole year of heartbreak for me and having my heart broken one more time before 2016 is up is a little bit too much for me. I'm devastated

Aww I'm sorry 😢. Cyberhug ?

Try to think of 2016 as your learning year. Hopefully these heartbreaks brought enough joy that you don't regret any of them and can just grow from them. Find out what you do and don't like and will and won't settle for. You can get what you want - you just have to know what that is so you can recognize it.

good luck 🙂

Thanks everyone for your cyber support. Last night he rushed me off the phone, never followed up with a call or a text. This morning at 6am I get a call from him- it rings twice but then hangs up. A butt dial I'm guessing because I haven't heard from him all day. So I've concluded that he's shown himself to be a huge dick or a huge coward... I don't want to be with either of those. He's shown himself for who he is and guess is really not the man that I thought he was. Oh well, glad to have learned that now rather than 6-12 months down the road. Men like this are ridiculous...I'm too young to have his heart, but not to young for him to have my body. Dude, fuck you.

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Thanks everyone for your cyber support. Last night he rushed me off the phone, never followed up with a call or a text. This morning at 6am I get a call from him- it rings twice but then hangs up. A butt dial I'm guessing because I haven't heard from him all day. So I've concluded that he's shown himself to be a huge dick or a huge coward... I don't want to be with either of those. He's shown himself for who he is and guess is really not the man that I thought he was. Oh well, glad to have learned that now rather than 6-12 months down the road. Men like this are ridiculous...I'm too young to have his heart, but not to young for him to have my body. Dude, fuck you.

Just read the latest post. He butt dialed at 6am that makes him a coward?

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Thanks everyone for your cyber support. Last night he rushed me off the phone, never followed up with a call or a text. This morning at 6am I get a call from him- it rings twice but then hangs up. A butt dial I'm guessing because I haven't heard from him all day. So I've concluded that he's shown himself to be a huge dick or a huge coward... I don't want to be with either of those. He's shown himself for who he is and guess is really not the man that I thought he was. Oh well, glad to have learned that now rather than 6-12 months down the road. Men like this are ridiculous...I'm too young to have his heart, but not to young for him to have my body. Dude, fuck you.

Just read the latest post. He butt dialed at 6am that makes him a coward?

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No, the fact that he skirted following up with me after him briefly telling me his concerns and then rushing off the phone. I would have the decency to give someone a little closure after they revealed their raw feeling towards me. A simple "yes, I'm feeling it" or a "no, I'm not feeling this" would've been nice- especially since he could hear how hurt I was over the phone. If you "care" about someone I'd think you'd care enough to even just send a text within 12-24 hours to make sure they're doing alright. But hey, that's just me...

But it turns out it was a butt dial. He texted me late the following night saying, "Sorry I butt dialed you so early in the morning. But I will call. I said "Ok, do you want your gift?". And he tells me "it's up to you sweetie. Spent the day celebrating Xmas eve with the kids. It was nice" So I arrange when I can drop them off. I figured I might as well give him the gifts (I got a small one for him and a small one for both of his kids since I had just recently met them). I'm thinking I will literally just drop the gifts off and go since it seems like his feelings are pretty clear. I get there and he invites me in we end up chatting like usual, he wants a kiss- which I hesistated to give bc I had already begun rewiring myself to "unlike" him in my mind. He's acting like everything is normal so I bring up the phone call and ask him if that was his way of telling me he doesn't think we should see each other anymore. He says he doesn't think it's fair to me if because he is aging so much faster than me and is already dealing with some health issues. He underwent major surgery a couple of years ago and brought that up as an example. He tells me he doesn't want to be a burden to me and thinks that because I'm so young, I'm not looking at the full picture. I then tell him again people make age differences work all the time. And tell him about my uncle whose gf is younger than me. They have a 35 year age difference, but it works for them... So then he asks me if he's allowed to change his mind about the age difference in the future. I tell him sure. Shortly after I left bc I refuse to allow this to be a purely sexual relationship and until things get cleared up I will not sleep with him. He asked me if it was because I was afraid I'd fall harder for him if I slept with him. And I said yes, just bc it was the easier way to provide a simpler explaination. When I left he gave me a kiss.

I must say, all of this has helped me to step back and remove the rose-tinted glasses. I've seen a handful of things that have caused me to question if he is really the man I thought he was. For instance, he claims to be a very caring, humanitarian man-- teaches his children to be charitable, blah, blah, blah. But I've learned to judge a person's actions more than their words. How can this "caring" man, treat me with such indifference, After seeing how hurt I was, he showed no care or concern for the feeling of someone he supposedly cares about and who obviously cares for him. Red flag. We also discussed exchanging Xmas gifts a couple of weeks back. We had a whole convo about what he thinks I want him to get me for a gift and I told him I want him to surprise me bc I want to see what he thinks I'd like. He suggested a weekend trip, jewelry, etc. Guess what I got. Ab.So.Lut.Ly NOTHING. When I dropped off the gifts he says "Had I known you were getting me something, I would have gotten one for you 😢 Bullshit- We had a whole conversation about this and then I told him when I got the gifts in the mail. And then I spoke to him about the gifts for the kids and if he thinks they'd like them. So that's 3 ENTIRE conversations we've had about the gifts I was getting. Another Red Flag. So I decided I'm going to disengage and step back, I'm going to actively date more and essentially move on. If he steps back up to the plate and corrects things then I'll see what happens- but will keep my guard up.

I haven't spoken to him since Sat. We normally contact each other every day. I got a phone call from his kids on Monday thanking me for the gifts. But no word from him. I haven't called or texted him and don't plan to either. If he wants to make this work, he knows where to find me. But I won't be nearly so trusting IF he comes back around...

I've decided in 2017 I will no longer have any fucks to give. I'm done with the bullshit and will not prioritize a man or relationship unless they've put in the work to really earn that shit.

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Thanks everyone for your cyber support. Last night he rushed me off the phone, never followed up with a call or a text. This morning at 6am I get a call from him- it rings twice but then hangs up. A butt dial I'm guessing because I haven't heard from him all day. So I've concluded that he's shown himself to be a huge dick or a huge coward... I don't want to be with either of those. He's shown himself for who he is and guess is really not the man that I thought he was. Oh well, glad to have learned that now rather than 6-12 months down the road. Men like this are ridiculous...I'm too young to have his heart, but not to young for him to have my body. Dude, fuck you.

Just read the latest post. He butt dialed at 6am that makes him a coward?

No, the fact that he skirted following up with me after him briefly telling me his concerns and then rushing off the phone. I would have the decency to give someone a little closure after they revealed their raw feeling towards me. A simple "yes, I'm feeling it" or a "no, I'm not feeling this" would've been nice- especially since he could hear how hurt I was over the phone. If you "care" about someone I'd think you'd care enough to even just send a text within 12-24 hours to make sure they're doing alright. But hey, that's just me...

But it turns out it was a butt dial. He texted me late the following night saying, "Sorry I butt dialed you so early in the morning. But I will call. I said "Ok, do you want your gift?". And he tells me "it's up to you sweetie. Spent the day celebrating Xmas eve with the kids. It was nice" So I arrange when I can drop them off. I figured I might as well give him the gifts (I got a small one for him and a small one for both of his kids since I had just recently met them). I'm thinking I will literally just drop the gifts off and go since it seems like his feelings are pretty clear. I get there and he invites me in we end up chatting like usual, he wants a kiss- which I hesistated to give bc I had already begun rewiring myself to "unlike" him in my mind. He's acting like everything is normal so I bring up the phone call and ask him if that was his way of telling me he doesn't think we should see each other anymore. He says he doesn't think it's fair to me if because he is aging so much faster than me and is already dealing with some health issues. He underwent major surgery a couple of years ago and brought that up as an example. He tells me he doesn't want to be a burden to me and thinks that because I'm so young, I'm not looking at the full picture. I then tell him again people make age differences work all the time. And tell him about my uncle whose gf is younger than me. They have a 35 year age difference, but it works for them... So then he asks me if he's allowed to change his mind about the age difference in the future. I tell him sure. Shortly after I left bc I refuse to allow this to be a purely sexual relationship and until things get cleared up I will not sleep with him. He asked me if it was because I was afraid I'd fall harder for him if I slept with him. And I said yes, just bc it was the easier way to provide a simpler explaination. When I left he gave me a kiss.

I must say, all of this has helped me to step back and remove the rose-tinted glasses. I've seen a handful of things that have caused me to question if he is really the man I thought he was. For instance, he claims to be a very caring, humanitarian man-- teaches his children to be charitable, blah, blah, blah. But I've learned to judge a person's actions more than their words. How can this "caring" man, treat me with such indifference, After seeing how hurt I was, he showed no care or concern for the feeling of someone he supposedly cares about and who obviously cares for him. Red flag. We also discussed exchanging Xmas gifts a couple of weeks back. We had a whole convo about what he thinks I want him to get me for a gift and I told him I want him to surprise me bc I want to see what he thinks I'd like. He suggested a weekend trip, jewelry, etc. Guess what I got. Ab.So.Lut.Ly NOTHING. When I dropped off the gifts he says "Had I known you were getting me something, I would have gotten one for you 😢 Bullshit- We had a whole conversation about this and then I told him when I got the gifts in the mail. And then I spoke to him about the gifts for the kids and if he thinks they'd like them. So that's 3 ENTIRE conversations we've had about the gifts I was getting. Another Red Flag. So I decided I'm going to disengage and step back, I'm going to actively date more and essentially move on. If he steps back up to the plate and corrects things then I'll see what happens- but will keep my guard up.

I haven't spoken to him since Sat. We normally contact each other every day. I got a phone call from his kids on Monday thanking me for the gifts. But no word from him. I haven't called or texted him and don't plan to either. If he wants to make this work, he knows where to find me. But I won't be nearly so trusting IF he comes back around...

I've decided in 2017 I will no longer have any fucks to give. I'm done with the bullshit and will not prioritize a man or relationship unless they've put in the work to really earn that shit.

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I want to be like you when I grow up.

Really sorry to hear that you are going through this, but I'm so glad that you are noticing red flags, paying attention, and stepping back. Really, he is showing you who he really is. Glad you are standing your ground and not looking back for now. That's strong and smart.

Good luck in 2017. I hope it will be a much better year for you and us all.

Who knows?

He could feel insecure...maybe not enough love as a child....needs to feel good about himself etc?

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Jaded 2017.

Did you move yet @tiziani ? 🙂

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Thanks everyone for your cyber support. Last night he rushed me off the phone, never followed up with a call or a text. This morning at 6am I get a call from him- it rings twice but then hangs up. A butt dial I'm guessing because I haven't heard from him all day. So I've concluded that he's shown himself to be a huge dick or a huge coward... I don't want to be with either of those. He's shown himself for who he is and guess is really not the man that I thought he was. Oh well, glad to have learned that now rather than 6-12 months down the road. Men like this are ridiculous...I'm too young to have his heart, but not to young for him to have my body. Dude, fuck you.

Just read the latest post. He butt dialed at 6am that makes him a coward?

No, the fact that he skirted following up with me after him briefly telling me his concerns and then rushing off the phone. I would have the decency to give someone a little closure after they revealed their raw feeling towards me. A simple "yes, I'm feeling it" or a "no, I'm not feeling this" would've been nice- especially since he could hear how hurt I was over the phone. If you "care" about someone I'd think you'd care enough to even just send a text within 12-24 hours to make sure they're doing alright. But hey, that's just me...

But it turns out it was a butt dial. He texted me late the following night saying, "Sorry I butt dialed you so early in the morning. But I will call. I said "Ok, do you want your gift?". And he tells me "it's up to you sweetie. Spent the day celebrating Xmas eve with the kids. It was nice" So I arrange when I can drop them off. I figured I might as well give him the gifts (I got a small one for him and a small one for both of his kids since I had just recently met them). I'm thinking I will literally just drop the gifts off and go since it seems like his feelings are pretty clear. I get there and he invites me in we end up chatting like usual, he wants a kiss- which I hesistated to give bc I had already begun rewiring myself to "unlike" him in my mind. He's acting like everything is normal so I bring up the phone call and ask him if that was his way of telling me he doesn't think we should see each other anymore. He says he doesn't think it's fair to me if because he is aging so much faster than me and is already dealing with some health issues. He underwent major surgery a couple of years ago and brought that up as an example. He tells me he doesn't want to be a burden to me and thinks that because I'm so young, I'm not looking at the full picture. I then tell him again people make age differences work all the time. And tell him about my uncle whose gf is younger than me. They have a 35 year age difference, but it works for them... So then he asks me if he's allowed to change his mind about the age difference in the future. I tell him sure. Shortly after I left bc I refuse to allow this to be a purely sexual relationship and until things get cleared up I will not sleep with him. He asked me if it was because I was afraid I'd fall harder for him if I slept with him. And I said yes, just bc it was the easier way to provide a simpler explaination. When I left he gave me a kiss.

I must say, all of this has helped me to step back and remove the rose-tinted glasses. I've seen a handful of things that have caused me to question if he is really the man I thought he was. For instance, he claims to be a very caring, humanitarian man-- teaches his children to be charitable, blah, blah, blah. But I've learned to judge a person's actions more than their words. How can this "caring" man, treat me with such indifference, After seeing how hurt I was, he showed no care or concern for the feeling of someone he supposedly cares about and who obviously cares for him. Red flag. We also discussed exchanging Xmas gifts a couple of weeks back. We had a whole convo about what he thinks I want him to get me for a gift and I told him I want him to surprise me bc I want to see what he thinks I'd like. He suggested a weekend trip, jewelry, etc. Guess what I got. Ab.So.Lut.Ly NOTHING. When I dropped off the gifts he says "Had I known you were getting me something, I would have gotten one for you 😢 Bullshit- We had a whole conversation about this and then I told him when I got the gifts in the mail. And then I spoke to him about the gifts for the kids and if he thinks they'd like them. So that's 3 ENTIRE conversations we've had about the gifts I was getting. Another Red Flag. So I decided I'm going to disengage and step back, I'm going to actively date more and essentially move on. If he steps back up to the plate and corrects things then I'll see what happens- but will keep my guard up.

I haven't spoken to him since Sat. We normally contact each other every day. I got a phone call from his kids on Monday thanking me for the gifts. But no word from him. I haven't called or texted him and don't plan to either. If he wants to make this work, he knows where to find me. But I won't be nearly so trusting IF he comes back around...

I've decided in 2017 I will no longer have any fucks to give. I'm done with the bullshit and will not prioritize a man or relationship unless they've put in the work to really earn that shit.

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I'm really sorry to hear you had to go through this, maybe it's a blessing in disguise. Good for you for not having sex with him. He sounds like a user. I guess the best thing for you to do in the future, is to meet someone you can have children and a life with, he is an old dog. Honestly he did you a favor. Because you deserve better. He probably isn't interested in having children or even getting married again. You should have your own life not be on the sideline to his. Meaning marriage and kids.

Now that you have your new mindset of:

"I'm done with the bullshit and will not prioritize a man or relationship unless they've put in the work to really earn that shit."

Take that into your next relationship in the beginning rather then at the end. It's all about lessons learned. Rumi has a great quote about we learn lessons from other souls not textbooks.

Welcome to your next level. Just make sure that asshole doesn't come creeping back when he gets horny. Those Taurus men are so damn charming. But you know what....you are too good for him. And he knows it he did you a favor..

Best,

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Sounds like he needs a lot of ego-stroking

Do you think he just wanted to hear that for his ego's sake?? Me telling him that I really like him and find him super intriguing and kind couldn't be enough? I thought Taurus men don't like game playing...

Taurus men don't. Taurus BOYS do.

That would be shocking at his age... he's over 20 years older than me...

He can be 50 yet have the emotional maturity of a 12 year old.

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MASSIVE, generalization!

To the OP. How interesting to read this and watch how your mind was seduced by being in love and a relationship more than the man himself.

This was not love at any stage on any level. If he "loved" you, he would say "I love you" not "Do you love me?"

Then he pulled away, this always makes the other person the move forward, which is what you did. Then you gave him what he wanted, then he pulled back again. Love is not a game and he treated it like a game.

If he "loved" you, he would have brought you a gift regardless if you got him one or not, love is selfless.

Age is no barrier to true love, in fact NOTHING is a barrier, what would be a deal breaker in any other situation, is NEVER a deal breaker with a true soulmate. You work through these things. He has chosen not do to this.

There are NO red flags with a soulmate, when you know you just know.

You said you re-wired your brain not to like him, love is infinity, where you spend past lifetimes together, you cant re-wire your soul. You both came from the head and the logical mind is just that.

But so interesting to see how you felt one way, then did a complete 180 in a matter of days to move on so quickly, both of you, was never love in the first place.

@LolaRed,

His statements and actions may appear conflicting, but it's actually quite the contrary.

Your Taurus man is pensive, emotionally disciplined, detests drama and complications, and requires absolute certainty before moving forward.

He needs to be sure about you, your emotions, your intentions.

However he also needs to protect himself...

You may not be what he's looking for in a potential partner.

But if your Taurus male makes a decision that you're not the woman he's seeking in regards to a future mate...

He wants to be able to make a graceful, non-dramatic exit without any negative repercussions.

That's EXACTLY what it is!

Bulls are many things....

But we're NEVER indecisive. We know our minds.

To put it mildly...

He's interested.

He knows for a fact you're VERY interested.

You're being considered.

Considered enough to engage in pep talks....

But not definite enought to move forward.

Time for another update...

So after me dropping off the gifts on Xmas eve, I receive a text from him at 4am wishing me a Merry Christmas. I tell him thanks and left it at that. I usually was the one who would initiate texting with a good morning text. But since I'm taking a step back I no longer did that. I figured I'll let him do the chasing...if he steps up that mean he wants to make something work with me, but if he doesn't-- I can stop wasting my time. Either way, I'll start dating other people. I was very serious about making changes in 2017, which includes not giving energy to people who aren't giving their energy to me. This includes wasting time with, sleeping with, or doing thoughtful things for people who haven't worked to earn it. So this is my plan with him. I'll be open to a relationship with him if it is a relationship that fits my raised standards that meet my needs, otherwise, I won't budge an inch or sacrifice anything on my behalf.

I decided to take a short 3 day trip to Mexico at the last minute. The day I got back He asked to get together. I told him I just got back into town (I never told him that I had plans to go out of town), and that after unpacking I had plans to go out to lunch and then for a hike early that evening. He replies, " good for you!!" So I hear absolutely nothing from him for 4 days. After reading TaurusBull1977's comments, I decided that maybe I should throw something out there so he knows I haven't completely walked away. So yesterday, I sent a good morning text. He replied with a kiss. I didn't respond after that (yes, I'm definitely playing games at this point". Then later that evening he asks me if he can call. 15 mins later, I respond "Hey 🙂 yeah I'm free to talk" He doesn't reply or call. SO, I don't reply or call either. Then tonight he sends me a text saying, "well that didn't work out" (I guess he's referring to our planned phone call and I eventually say "lol, no it didn't". Then an hour later he texts "U miss me?" and I say "lol yes" --because that's the truth. Then he replies "I love you" My son had my phone so I did not see his text right away so then after a couple of minutes he says "Which is why I know I'm too old" then after a couple more minutes he says "That's true (with a heart emoji)" 5 mins later I see the texts and reply "wow, I wasn't expecting that..." and so he says "Love you in the right way". Then I say "I love you too...in the right way" then I hear nothing from him...

What the hell is going on? At first, I felt happy about it but after a few minutes, I began to wonder why he would say something like that over text? and if he loved me, why have his actions been so distant and uncharacteristic of love?? Is this an attempt for him to try to manipulate me? Or play head games with me since he sees me newfound level of not giving a fuck and that I've been very distant. I just don't know what to make of this...Does he really love me? If he does love me, is he saying he doesn't want to love me? Or is he just playing more mind games?

If he loves you like he says he does, you would know.

You wouldn't be on here asking us if he loves you. How do we know? If he loved you, the first time he should be saying it, is while looking into your eyes. Eyes never lie, text message on the other hand.. well... we all know how electronic communication gets so misconstrued.

Actions speak louder than words ANY day!

But if it helps you, then NO he doesn't love you at all, EVER!

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If he loves you like he says he does, you would know.

You wouldn't be on here asking us if he loves you. How do we know? If he loved you, the first time he should be saying it, is while looking into your eyes. Eyes never lie, text message on the other hand.. well... we all know how electronic communication gets so misconstrued.

Actions speak louder than words ANY day!

But if it helps you, then NO he doesn't love you at all, EVER!

Actions DO speak louder than words. And he's actions aren't showing that he loves me- at least as far as I'm concerned...

Well, here's another update for anyone interested.

The next morning after his "I love you" texts at 6am he messages me "good morning hotstuff". Later that night he calls me. He's talking about random things and then begins talking about how amazing he thinks I am. He tells me his kids think I'm fantastic. That he thinks I'm going to do incredible things in my lifetime and have so much going for myself.So then I say well, there's one thing I don't have going for myself. He asks what that is. And I say I'm in love with a man that wants to push me away. He says "well that was heavy" and then tells me that he loves me so much that he doesn't want to be selfish for once and wants to do what may be best for me. So the night day I send him a looong text telling him that it was great hearing from him last night. Then I spell everything out for him. I tell him, "you know that I'm a smart girl. I think everything through before jumping into or moving forward with anything. It may not seem like it to you, but I've thoroughly considered your age and all that could possibly entail long before you brought it up; yet it has not deterred me. It's not every day that you fall in love and its a shame not to explore it bc of something that may happen in the future. And if it does happen- as love does, you deal with it and get through it together when its time to cross that bridge or any other things that may arise. You deserve love and happiness. And so do I. What I'm trying to say is be selfish." He responded with "Beautiful sweetie, God your so smart and sweet. Later in the convo he makes a joke about how I'm always in control. Then he adds, I respect that. My equal. I miss you". He asks to get together the next day, but it didn't work out for me so we made plans for the following day. He calls me the day before we get together to find out what I'd like to do. The last few times we saw each other it was at his house so I was really excited about going out again since I was beginning to feel like he was ashamed to take me in public at this point haha. So I suggest going to get lunch. He says it needs to be more special than that. I so I suggest that we go check out some of the local art galleries since we have some really nice ones in the area and we are both art lovers. He says he'll see what he can come up with.

After getting off of the phone, later that night I accidently called him. He texts asking if I just called and I tell him it was an accident. He says " freud didn't belive in accidents" then starts chatting me up. I ask how his night's going and he says "alone and fine. I'm used to it" I tell him "wish I could come keep you company". He says "you're so sweet. few men deserve you" I tell him I'm very picky and he says not picky enough. then asks, "so you think you know what you want" and I tell him I always know what I want. Then he says "ok, Ifart a lot. my joints hurt and it makes me grumpy". I say "lol. ok, anthing worse?" He says" I love women" and I say "don't all men?". He says "no, not like me. I LOVE them. I'm part italian remember?" So I ask does he love looking at women or experiencing women. He says both honestly. I know him and his ex experimented a little bit with swinging and asked if that's what got him into swinging. He says "a bit" then he says "U in?" It takes me a couple of minutes to formulate a reply. Before I hit send he says "Good" Then my response sends and says" Idk, I've never tried it, but I knod of prefer only sleeping with one man. I maybe would consider going as an observer..." He says "Nope. One man. It was a test" So I say " You were testing me?" He says "of course" So I tell him that's a relief.

So morning of the day we're getting together he calls to find out what time works for me and then tells me to come over. I get to his house, afraid that it may turn into another house date 😢. He bought a new car and wanted to show it to me and then drive to the restaurant together. He took me to a really nice restaurant. We had a great lunch together. Then we walked to the art galleries, passing his office along the way which he pointed out to me. We looked into a few galleries, he also took me to his favorite jewelry store and I got to try on a $ 87,000 ring. He tried to stop in to get our palms read, but they were closed. But we had a great day. We drive back to his house. Begin making out. And once things start to get hot and heavy I let him know I have to get going. (Refusing to back pedal on my new years relationship resolutions. ) So we're making a little small talk before I get ready to go. So then I say to him. I don't need you to reply to this, but I just wanted to tell you that I haven't been intimate with anyone else since I started seeing you. He tells me he assumed that bc of my nature. Then he says, "I haven't been intimate with anyone else either". I make my way to the door and went home. Don't know if anyone is interested in these updates, but thought I'd share in case anyone is in a similar situation and what to know what type of results my action plan ended up with. I will say that I definitely think me stepping back a little bit caused a little bit of fear in him and he hopped to.

We haven't had that whole "our we exclusive" talk yet. But do you feel like it's unnecessary for the near future after saying that we're both not intimate with anyone else?

It sounds promising that he's intertwining both of your lives together. I'm not sure why he keep suggesting different things, it sounds confusing. Maybe he's trying to get a reaction out of you?