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She died when I was 4. It was great up until then 🙂
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rlyclick to expand
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Posted by saggurl88
She died when I was 4. It was great up until then 🙂
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
You poor child....4 is so young to lose your mum 😔
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rly
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Yeh it messed me up for a long time but now I am a balanced and well-adjusted adult 🤨😁click to expand
My chart says there was supposed to be damage by my mother, but since she died so young, I wonder if I avoided it or if it would've been fine.
Birth Charts and what actually happens in life is odd.
Resilience really does save some kids. 💕
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
She died when I was 4. It was great up until then 🙂
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
You poor child....4 is so young to lose your mum 😔click to expand
I have a twin, so we were in it together. I don't know what it's like to have a parent, so I don't know what I was missing lol
Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
So awful
Being a mum myself, i can’t begin to imagine how anyone can treat their kids this way
Sorry for you and your Cancer Moon for having to go through this 😔
Posted by roti
I’m an only child and we’re trauma survivors. I love her dearly and couldn’t imagine a world without her
We used to clash a lot when I was younger because we are so similar. Now that I’m older I understand her struggles and I’m better at helping her understand mine.
Moving forward I don’t want her to live with any guilt for what happened in the past. I just want her to acknowledge the hurt and pain caused and to learn from it. This applies to me too, it goes both ways.
Aries moon 6th house
She’s a Scorpio moon 6th house
We’re both Taurus suns, she’s an Aries/Taurus cusp
I’m a Scorpio rising
Thanks for sharing this...i hope you continue to work things out with your Mum
You sound very strong
🙏
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
She died when I was 4. It was great up until then 🙂
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
You poor child....4 is so young to lose your mum 😔
I have a twin, so we were in it together. I don't know what it's like to have a parent, so I don't know what I was missing lolclick to expand
I’m glad you have a twin ... are ye very close now?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
She died when I was 4. It was great up until then 🙂
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
You poor child....4 is so young to lose your mum 😔
I have a twin, so we were in it together. I don't know what it's like to have a parent, so I don't know what I was missing lol
I’m glad you have a twin ... are ye very close now?click to expand
We were as kids, but he lives across the states and we aren't good at communicating lol 😄
I talk to him every so often and holidays. He has a wife and small kids, so typical family stuff.
We grew up in a detached way all of our lives, but we are both fine with how things are since, it's just a part of who we are.
So we are as close as siblings can be I guess. There aren't any problems between us.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
She died when I was 4. It was great up until then 🙂
Cancer Moon at home in the 10th
You poor child....4 is so young to lose your mum 😔
I have a twin, so we were in it together. I don't know what it's like to have a parent, so I don't know what I was missing lol
I’m glad you have a twin ... are ye very close now?
We were as kids, but he lives across the states and we aren't good at communicating lol 😄
I talk to him every so often and holidays. He has a wife and small kids, so typical family stuff.
We grew up in a detached way all of our lives, but we are both fine with how things are since, it's just a part of who we are.
So we are as close as siblings can be I guess. There aren't any problems between us.click to expand
❤️
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
So awful
Being a mum myself, i can’t begin to imagine how anyone can treat their kids this way
Sorry for you and your Cancer Moon for having to go through this 😔
The cold spread everywhere so I became cold too but I've worked to reverse thatclick to expand
Not easy i’d say
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
So awful
Being a mum myself, i can’t begin to imagine how anyone can treat their kids this way
Sorry for you and your Cancer Moon for having to go through this 😔
The cold spread everywhere so I became cold too but I've worked to reverse thatclick to expand
I love this line! I think I will steal it. I've been called an ice queen by love interests. This is great to say.
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rly
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Yeh it messed me up for a long time but now I am a balanced and well-adjusted adult 🤨😁
My chart says there was supposed to be damage by my mother, but since she died so young, I wonder if I avoided it or if it would've been fine.
Birth Charts and what actually happens in life is odd.
Resilience really does save some kids. 💕
Most damage is done when you are an infant, I believe. You learn to not look for affection or become ambivalent towards itclick to expand
I'm like that now 🙂 I want it, but don't care much if I don't get it. I grew up like that so not having affection was normal for me. It can be uncomfortable when I get it from someone and I don't expect it.
On the other hand, I'm fine with it if I know the person.
It ends up being about whether I feel safe around the person or not.
Too many personal boundaries were crossed for me as a kid. So I'd rather be cautious, then affectionate.
😢 sad to read these stories.
Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
Dang sounds like she was sociopath
Unfortunately some people like ur therapist can’t believe a mother would be this way cuz of being sheltered or whatever but there are horrible mothers out there
And those who abuse and
Kill their children.
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rly
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Yeh it messed me up for a long time but now I am a balanced and well-adjusted adult 🤨😁
My chart says there was supposed to be damage by my mother, but since she died so young, I wonder if I avoided it or if it would've been fine.
Birth Charts and what actually happens in life is odd.
Resilience really does save some kids. 💕
Most damage is done when you are an infant, I believe. You learn to not look for affection or become ambivalent towards it
I'm like that now 🙂 I want it, but don't care much if I don't get it. I grew up like that so not having affection was normal for me. It can be uncomfortable when I get it from someone and I don't expect it.
On the other hand, I'm fine with it if I know the person.
It ends up being about whether I feel safe around the person or not.
Too many personal boundaries were crossed for me as a kid. So I'd rather be cautious, then affectionate.
That makes sense
I feel uncomfortable when you say "sorry you went through that". For similar reasons. I don't naturally trust people in that way because no one gave a fuck about how I felt and when I did tell someone out of desperation I got laughed at or w/e.click to expand
Same, I learned at an early age that emotions were supposed to kept on the inside cause no one gave a shit. lol
Cancer Moons indeed!
Posted by WarAngel
Now you need to make a thread called: *Father*.
I'll definitely be taking notes then!
Not a good Dad?
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rly
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Yeh it messed me up for a long time but now I am a balanced and well-adjusted adult 🤨😁
My chart says there was supposed to be damage by my mother, but since she died so young, I wonder if I avoided it or if it would've been fine.
Birth Charts and what actually happens in life is odd.
Resilience really does save some kids. 💕
Most damage is done when you are an infant, I believe. You learn to not look for affection or become ambivalent towards it
I'm like that now 🙂 I want it, but don't care much if I don't get it. I grew up like that so not having affection was normal for me. It can be uncomfortable when I get it from someone and I don't expect it.
On the other hand, I'm fine with it if I know the person.
It ends up being about whether I feel safe around the person or not.
Too many personal boundaries were crossed for me as a kid. So I'd rather be cautious, then affectionate.
That makes sense
I feel uncomfortable when you say "sorry you went through that". For similar reasons. I don't naturally trust people in that way because no one gave a fuck about how I felt and when I did tell someone out of desperation I got laughed at or w/e.
Same, I learned at an early age that emotions were supposed to kept on the inside cause no one gave a shit. lol
Cancer Moons indeed!
Yeh, even in this thread I feel guilty and stressed now because any time I had bad feelings they were dismissed or laughed at and that made me so insecure and unsure of myself. It's from a complete lack of validation
Validation - "recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile."click to expand
But everyone is being supportive? Right?
Hmmmm, hopefully that feeling is fleeting. I wasn't trying to bring up old wounds.
Don't stress! It's in the past, and like you say, you're in a better head space and more balanced 🙂
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rly
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Yeh it messed me up for a long time but now I am a balanced and well-adjusted adult 🤨😁
My chart says there was supposed to be damage by my mother, but since she died so young, I wonder if I avoided it or if it would've been fine.
Birth Charts and what actually happens in life is odd.
Resilience really does save some kids. 💕
Most damage is done when you are an infant, I believe. You learn to not look for affection or become ambivalent towards it
I'm like that now 🙂 I want it, but don't care much if I don't get it. I grew up like that so not having affection was normal for me. It can be uncomfortable when I get it from someone and I don't expect it.
On the other hand, I'm fine with it if I know the person.
It ends up being about whether I feel safe around the person or not.
Too many personal boundaries were crossed for me as a kid. So I'd rather be cautious, then affectionate.
That makes sense
I feel uncomfortable when you say "sorry you went through that". For similar reasons. I don't naturally trust people in that way because no one gave a fuck about how I felt and when I did tell someone out of desperation I got laughed at or w/e.
Same, I learned at an early age that emotions were supposed to kept on the inside cause no one gave a shit. lol
Cancer Moons indeed!
Yeh, even in this thread I feel guilty and stressed now because any time I had bad feelings they were dismissed or laughed at and that made me so insecure and unsure of myself. It's from a complete lack of validation
Validation - "recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile."
But everyone is being supportive? Right?
Hmmmm, hopefully that feeling is fleeting. I wasn't trying to bring up old wounds.
Don't stress! It's in the past, and like you say, you're in a better head space and more balanced 🙂
Yeh it's because I can be anxious-ambivalent so I tend to not seek any sympathy and that kind of thing as I don't trust it so now I'm stressed lolclick to expand
LOL It's like a catch 22
How about I just flip you the bird and say have a great day! 😆
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
What Sun sign is your mom?
I don't know 🤔 I don't know when her bday is. I think it was autumn but I can't think of any sign that fits her rly
Oh wow. Sometimes I wonder why women choose to be mothers when they end up treating their kids like this. So sad.
They really don't realize the damage they are doing in forming a human.
Sorry you went through this 🤗
Yeh it messed me up for a long time but now I am a balanced and well-adjusted adult 🤨😁
My chart says there was supposed to be damage by my mother, but since she died so young, I wonder if I avoided it or if it would've been fine.
Birth Charts and what actually happens in life is odd.
Resilience really does save some kids. 💕
Most damage is done when you are an infant, I believe. You learn to not look for affection or become ambivalent towards it
I'm like that now 🙂 I want it, but don't care much if I don't get it. I grew up like that so not having affection was normal for me. It can be uncomfortable when I get it from someone and I don't expect it.
On the other hand, I'm fine with it if I know the person.
It ends up being about whether I feel safe around the person or not.
Too many personal boundaries were crossed for me as a kid. So I'd rather be cautious, then affectionate.
That makes sense
I feel uncomfortable when you say "sorry you went through that". For similar reasons. I don't naturally trust people in that way because no one gave a fuck about how I felt and when I did tell someone out of desperation I got laughed at or w/e.
Same, I learned at an early age that emotions were supposed to kept on the inside cause no one gave a shit. lol
Cancer Moons indeed!
Yeh, even in this thread I feel guilty and stressed now because any time I had bad feelings they were dismissed or laughed at and that made me so insecure and unsure of myself. It's from a complete lack of validation
Validation - "recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile."
But everyone is being supportive? Right?
Hmmmm, hopefully that feeling is fleeting. I wasn't trying to bring up old wounds.
Don't stress! It's in the past, and like you say, you're in a better head space and more balanced 🙂
Yeh it's because I can be anxious-ambivalent so I tend to not seek any sympathy and that kind of thing as I don't trust it so now I'm stressed lol
LOL It's like a catch 22
How about I just flip you the bird and say have a great day! 😆
That is how it is. Catch 22. That's what makes it so destructive on a personal level (not here)click to expand
I get it and completely understand. 🙂
My mom's a gemini with a virgo moon, very independent woman, but ironically very clingy to me as a kid. I was also very independent as an aries in the third house, with a cap moon in the first house. At times, she would be overbearing, but we always worked it out. Our relationship was/is good.
Posted by Hypnotoad
50/50 she was always working hard to feed us and putting us kids first, always wanted the best for us. We get along well and she's caring, we have a good sense of humour.
On the other hand she always seemed kind of bothered by my existence and always thought my sister was better than me lol. Especially as a kid, but I was a little shit with ADHD so I'm not super surprised. She has a knack for saying the wrong thing. Just yesterday we talked on the phone and I mentioned my receding hairline and how dad had told me I'd probably go bald in my 30s. She couldn't help but say " yes _____ was never really good with fatherly thing" which I just about hung up on her because she's completely wrong and just being a bitch. She really loves to knock him down a peg and does the same to me. But I just put that down to women being women and it was a good lesson to learn from my mother because you're all like that lmao.
Dang! not really but I get why you think that.
Been up and down and I dont wanna go into detail but man we had a rocky relationship. I never hated her nor disrespected her but we did argue. Some things, my sister hates her for but my mother has more than redeemed herself. On top of that, she's using a scapegoat to gloss over her mistakes but she is an even worse mother. I mean real bad.
We still grt along. I love her and her and my sister havent spoken in going on 4 years. But I have come to accept that although she means well and does well now, and in the past, she is pretty damn toxic. Details would only show just how much lol but its best left unsaid.
So our relationship is rocky yet loving. Does that make sense?? She is has an Aries moon, I have a Leo moon. Whats odd is my father has a Sagg moon and my son has a Leo moon in the same degree as me and my fathers moon(0 Deg.). Just thought Id point that out lol
We still grt along. I love her and her and my sister havent spoken in going on 4 years. But I have come to accept that although she means well and does well now, and in the past, she is pretty damn toxic. Details would only show just how much lol but its best left unsaid.
So our relationship is rocky yet loving. Does that make sense?? She is has an Aries moon, I have a Leo moon. Whats odd is my father has a Sagg moon and my son has a Leo moon in the same degree as me and my fathers moon(0 Deg.). Just thought Id point that out lol
Posted by Antiphates
Somewhere between pretty fucked up and pretty good. Over the last years it has been mostly leaning towards the better side of it, but there are still times when she slips into the older patterns. What has changed is that she is able to recognize some of them, apologise and work on them now.
Sag Moon
3rd House
conjunct Mars, Uranus, IC
opposite rxJupiter, MC
square ASC
“conjunct Mars, Uranus, IC”
Yikes
Mars always trying to draw lines in the sand while Uranus pisses on them. That’s really tough in the nadir axis too.
I don't really know how to describe my relationship with my mom. It's not the best and its not all bad. I used to think its because my mom is a Virgo is why she is the way she is but now I've come to the realization that she's elderly. And all elderly folks are set in their ways.
That's it for now I don't have time to post the moon placement Im trying to type as fast as I can cus I'm at my dentist
That's it for now I don't have time to post the moon placement Im trying to type as fast as I can cus I'm at my dentist
Posted by Hypnotoad
50/50 she was always working hard to feed us and putting us kids first, always wanted the best for us. We get along well and she's caring, we have a good sense of humour.
On the other hand she always seemed kind of bothered by my existence and always thought my sister was better than me lol. Especially as a kid, but I was a little shit with ADHD so I'm not super surprised. She has a knack for saying the wrong thing. Just yesterday we talked on the phone and I mentioned my receding hairline and how dad had told me I'd probably go bald in my 30s. She couldn't help but say " yes _____ was never really good with fatherly thing" which I just about hung up on her because she's completely wrong and just being a bitch. She really loves to knock him down a peg and does the same to me. But I just put that down to women being women and it was a good lesson to learn from my mother because you're all like that lmao.
Where is your mum’s sun?
Posted by MyStarsShine
This is for the men of Dxp
What was/is your relationship like with your mother? Good, bad, indifferent?
What is your moon placement ~ sign and house and any aspects to it?
Thanks
🌟
I never knew here, so I guess indifferent?
Gem moon and idk what house or aspects
Posted by Wizardz_
Ha this is my thread 😂
She hated me. I was left alone all the time or if I was with her she would be constantly demeaning to me, humiliating me etc
My dad loved me in his sociopathic kind of way but he was very weak so when she was around he would join her in her abusive nature towards me, which hurt a lot because it was a deep betrayal
She was ice cold. I remember that fairytale about the ice queen, that terrified me when I was young because it was symbolic of how she was
My sister got it better from her but I don't think they had any kind of relationship but at least my sister didn't have the constant negative energy directed at her, only the distance and indifference
I told a therapist that if my mum had seen me drowning in a lake, she would check around to see if anyone was watching and if there wasn't she would have let me drown and the therapist said "I'm sure that's not true" but that's exactly how it was
🙄
She was crazy when I was in my early 20s, there was something missing behind her eyes. At that point she was a stranger to me anyway. I didn't see her again after I was 25
As you know, I'm Cancer moon so maybe I was particularly sensitive. She always used to tell me I was anyway
Even though you don't like hearing this - I am so sorry because it left a permanent scar. Sometimes people just get too caught up in their own darkness and are unable to feel and show love. If you can accept her limitations as a human you will free yourself. Maybe she gave you all of the love she had in her in the only way possible for her. I have had a very complicated relationship with my mother for 30 years but I broke myself and I broke her. Now we are pleasantly good because we accepted ourselves as very different individuals. But it's all love. I don't get frustrated with her snarky comments and am too tired to have anything in me except acceptance and love
Posted by MyStarsShine
*** This is for the men of Dxp ****
What was/is your relationship like with your mother? Good, bad, indifferent?
What is your moon placement ~ sign and house and any aspects to it?
Thanks
🌟
JUST LIKE ME TO NOT READ THE MOST IMPORTANT THING 😆
Sorry lol
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShine*** This is for the men of Dxp ****
What was/is your relationship like with your mother? Good, bad, indifferent?
What is your moon placement ~ sign and house and any aspects to it?
Thanks
🌟
JUST LIKE ME TO NOT READ THE MOST IMPORTANT THING 😆
Sorry lolclick to expand
It’s okay Sag, no need to be sorry
🥰
Mom …. All the other women are answering 😂🙃
Mine was distant, not loving but not horrible. Looked the other way when she married a guy who treated us poorly. I don’t think she got it, she wanted marriage #2 to work. Avoiding the truth she was good at. Lots more to the story but hell it eventually led to awakening, therapy, the hard work & mom finally getting it and apologizing for it all. I didn’t ask she just saw what I had to unravel. I know it wasn’t her intention to put us in the situation, she was just too weak to do what was right.
Mine was distant, not loving but not horrible. Looked the other way when she married a guy who treated us poorly. I don’t think she got it, she wanted marriage #2 to work. Avoiding the truth she was good at. Lots more to the story but hell it eventually led to awakening, therapy, the hard work & mom finally getting it and apologizing for it all. I didn’t ask she just saw what I had to unravel. I know it wasn’t her intention to put us in the situation, she was just too weak to do what was right.
Cancer Moon 8th house
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Posted by black773
Cancer Moon 8th house
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Seems quite a few Cancer moons are distant from their mums
What do you disagree on?
Does she call you very often?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by black773
Cancer Moon 8th house
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Seems quite a few Cancer moons are distant from their mums
What do you disagree on?
Does she call you very often?click to expand
Nothing special. Just not a close bond. We could disagree on nearly anything, I won’t go into specifics on that. No, she doesn’t call often.
Posted by black773Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by black773
Cancer Moon 8th house
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Seems quite a few Cancer moons are distant from their mums
What do you disagree on?
Does she call you very often?
Nothing special. Just not a close bond. We could disagree on nearly anything, I won’t go into specifics on that. No, she doesn’t call often.click to expand
I think some people don’t know how to parent and i’m sorry she’s not there for you.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by black773Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by black773
Cancer Moon 8th house
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Seems quite a few Cancer moons are distant from their mums
What do you disagree on?
Does she call you very often?
Nothing special. Just not a close bond. We could disagree on nearly anything, I won’t go into specifics on that. No, she doesn’t call often.
I think some people don’t know how to parent and i’m sorry she’s not there for you.click to expand
No need to be sorry lol. I never said I wanted her there.
Posted by black773Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by black773Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by black773
Cancer Moon 8th house
Square Sun
Square Mercury
Opposite Uranus… there’s more aspects I can’t think of right now.
My relationship with my mother is a distant one. I’d go months without talking to her if she didn’t call. Just not much to talk about with her. We disagree on a lot of things.
Seems quite a few Cancer moons are distant from their mums
What do you disagree on?
Does she call you very often?
Nothing special. Just not a close bond. We could disagree on nearly anything, I won’t go into specifics on that. No, she doesn’t call often.
I think some people don’t know how to parent and i’m sorry she’s not there for you.
No need to be sorry lol. I never said I wanted her there.click to expand
That’s fair enough...
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
idk i might be a mommy boi
dont talk bad about my mom ... 😡
i wont hesitate to kill you
❤️
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
moon conjuct mars,
moon in capricorn, mars in sag;
moon and mars in 3rd house,
3rd house is in sag.
im basically sag stelliuming
Ive Moon Mars conj too. Was told by an astrologer that the aspect makes good politicians! Will we create a revolutionary political party? 🤘🏻💪😀
Posted by IMNOTEVENREALPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by IMNOTEVENREAL
moon conjuct mars,
moon in capricorn, mars in sag;
moon and mars in 3rd house,
3rd house is in sag.
im basically sag stelliuming
Ive Moon Mars conj too. Was told by an astrologer that the aspect makes good politicians! Will we create a revolutionary political party? 🤘🏻💪😀
i might be, but idk which one to joinclick to expand
M
Invent one 😀
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
moon conjuct mars,
moon in capricorn, mars in sag;
moon and mars in 3rd house,
3rd house is in sag.
im basically sag stelliuming
I think somebody need to make a *father* thread for the ladies and let's see how they stack up with their dads.
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think somebody need to make a *father* thread for the ladies and let's see how they stack up with their dads.
Yes good idea....go ahead and make one JJ 👍
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think somebody need to make a *father* thread for the ladies and let's see how they stack up with their dads.
Yes good idea....go ahead and make one JJ 👍click to expand
Na I think I'll pass up on that one. I rather someone else make the thread anyway. If I make the thread now there's a good chance I won't be involve in it or bother looking cus I'm busy with family shit right now. My gal birthday was yesterday and my daughter's birthday today. I need to start getting my introverted tail involve with my fam.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I think somebody need to make a *father* thread for the ladies and let's see how they stack up with their dads.
Yes good idea....go ahead and make one JJ 👍
Na I think I'll pass up on that one. I rather someone else make the thread anyway. If I make the thread now there's a good chance I won't be involve in it or bother looking cus I'm busy with family shit right now. My gal birthday was yesterday and my daughter's birthday today. I need to start getting my introverted tail involve with my fam.click to expand
Enjoy!
Kids and family first ❤️
Posted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Hypnotoad
50/50 she was always working hard to feed us and putting us kids first, always wanted the best for us. We get along well and she's caring, we have a good sense of humour.
On the other hand she always seemed kind of bothered by my existence and always thought my sister was better than me lol. Especially as a kid, but I was a little shit with ADHD so I'm not super surprised. She has a knack for saying the wrong thing. Just yesterday we talked on the phone and I mentioned my receding hairline and how dad had told me I'd probably go bald in my 30s. She couldn't help but say " yes _____ was never really good with fatherly thing" which I just about hung up on her because she's completely wrong and just being a bitch. She really loves to knock him down a peg and does the same to me. But I just put that down to women being women and it was a good lesson to learn from my mother because you're all like that lmao.
Where is your mum’s sun?
Libraclick to expand
Libra with Virgo Moon?
Posted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HypnotoadPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Hypnotoad
50/50 she was always working hard to feed us and putting us kids first, always wanted the best for us. We get along well and she's caring, we have a good sense of humour.
On the other hand she always seemed kind of bothered by my existence and always thought my sister was better than me lol. Especially as a kid, but I was a little shit with ADHD so I'm not super surprised. She has a knack for saying the wrong thing. Just yesterday we talked on the phone and I mentioned my receding hairline and how dad had told me I'd probably go bald in my 30s. She couldn't help but say " yes _____ was never really good with fatherly thing" which I just about hung up on her because she's completely wrong and just being a bitch. She really loves to knock him down a peg and does the same to me. But I just put that down to women being women and it was a good lesson to learn from my mother because you're all like that lmao.
Where is your mum’s sun?
Libra
Libra with Virgo Moon?
Yeah cracking comboclick to expand
Not the warmest 😬
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