I could never do a FWB.. I’m blaming it on my Cap Venus/Cap Mars.
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Posted by _DazedPosted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I see men who do degrade women as nothing but a piece of ass when they enter into these arrangements.
My question is why would a woman allow herself to be seen as such?
My question is why are you friends with men like that?click to expand
Hmmm... good question.
I just know a lot of people and have heard men talk when they didn't think anyone was listening.
Posted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
Word.
Posted by _DazedPosted by truecapPosted by _DazedPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
*Looks into crystal ball once more*
Yep.. the vision is clear.
Dazed? Can you take care of this situation?
What situation?click to expand
*eyeroll*
Nevermind.
Posted by truecap
I'm just curious... why would any women degrade herself to settle for a FWB arrangement?
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the man only sees an easy lay. Why would one want to be viewed upon like that?
What happens when the oxytocin kicks in and you develop feelings for someone who only sees you as a vessel to jack off in? Where are you now? Pining away for someone who doesn't give one iota about you.
Please don't take this as I'm judging anyone, but I'm curious.
• I have love affairs.
• I'm lazy in love.
• I get resistance fatigue.
• Romance comes easy.
• I don't masturbate.
If I were to masturbate, I would need a full human replica. And, them shit's expensive.
• I'm detached.
• I love human interaction - I'm an extrovert.
• I love being loved on.
• Men don't come in onsies - so not missing out. Dated three men with the same name once.
• My first serious relationship was a 3 year open relationship that ended in a proposal.
• I got fuck pride. I'm really good.
• I don't care about boundaries - to the victor be the spoils.
• I never experienced heartbreak.
I fantasize about heartbreak. Even thought my husband would be.
• I love all things amore. Pretend to love me, I'll pretend to believe you.
• My pussy is not the way to my heart. Shit's not even close to each other. I almost married an impotent man, I dated for a year.
• I have only have four placements not in Air. Of those four, two are in Fire, and one water is air/water cuspy.
• I'm Venus dominate with Venus in the 1st.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅
I respect you for being truthful.
This new situation I’m in, I’m gonna fall in love with the guy. So this will be an interesting scenario and I’m just waiting to see how it plays out.
But as a women, I don’t tell a man that I love him, outside of a relationship, when sex is involved.
If a guy starts questioning me about it, I let the guy know that, and he will make that decision, if he wants to hear those words.
I have no clue why people put so much weight on those words lol.click to expand
Gonna? Guuurrl Virgo has his hooks in you, you just don't know it yet... don't run now 🙃😙😋
Posted by truecapPosted by _DazedPosted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I see men who do degrade women as nothing but a piece of ass when they enter into these arrangements.
My question is why would a woman allow herself to be seen as such?
My question is why are you friends with men like that?
Hmmm... good question.
I just know a lot of people and have heard men talk when they didn't think anyone was listening.click to expand
You specifically said you are FRIENDS with these men that are judgmental of women.
Why are you friends with them?
Posted by truecapPosted by _DazedPosted by truecapPosted by _DazedPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
*Looks into crystal ball once more*
Yep.. the vision is clear.
Dazed? Can you take care of this situation?
What situation?
*eyeroll*
Nevermind.click to expand
*eyeroll*
I'm a Scorpio Venus and Aqua Mars like you. Humor me..
Posted by dilettante
jesus take the wheel
Trust me.. pretty sure Jesus' "teachings" are the root of this thread.
Posted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettante
jesus take the wheel
Trust me.. pretty sure Jesus' "teachings" are the root of this thread.
werent jesus & mary magdalene FWBs? 🤔🤔🤔click to expand
Pretty sure Jesus caught feelings which is why he was crucified.
Posted by justagirlPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅
I respect you for being truthful.
This new situation I’m in, I’m gonna fall in love with the guy. So this will be an interesting scenario and I’m just waiting to see how it plays out.
But as a women, I don’t tell a man that I love him, outside of a relationship, when sex is involved.
If a guy starts questioning me about it, I let the guy know that, and he will make that decision, if he wants to hear those words.
I have no clue why people put so much weight on those words lol.
Gonna? Guuurrl Virgo has his hooks in you, you just don't know it yet... don't run now 🙃😙😋click to expand
Lol. I’m not going to. I’m looking forward to it. I love being in love. 🥰😍 I miss it.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by justagirlPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅
I respect you for being truthful.
This new situation I’m in, I’m gonna fall in love with the guy. So this will be an interesting scenario and I’m just waiting to see how it plays out.
But as a women, I don’t tell a man that I love him, outside of a relationship, when sex is involved.
If a guy starts questioning me about it, I let the guy know that, and he will make that decision, if he wants to hear those words.
I have no clue why people put so much weight on those words lol.
Gonna? Guuurrl Virgo has his hooks in you, you just don't know it yet... don't run now 🙃😙😋
Lol. I’m not going to. I’m looking forward to it. I love being in love. 🥰😍 I miss it.click to expand
I send you good vibes and blessings! You got this 😘
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by truecap
I'm just curious... why would any women degrade herself to settle for a FWB arrangement?
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the man only sees an easy lay. Why would one want to be viewed upon like that?
What happens when the oxytocin kicks in and you develop feelings for someone who only sees you as a vessel to jack off in? Where are you now? Pining away for someone who doesn't give one iota about you.
Please don't take this as I'm judging anyone, but I'm curious.
• I have love affairs.
• I'm lazy in love.
• I get resistance fatigue.
• Romance comes easy.
• I don't masturbate.
If I were to masturbate, I would need a full human replica. And, them shit's expensive.
• I'm detached.
• I love human interaction - I'm an extrovert.
• I love being loved on.
• Men don't come in onsies - so not missing out. Dated three men with the same name once.
• My first serious relationship was a 3 year open relationship that ended in a proposal.
• I got fuck pride. I'm really good.
• I don't care about boundaries - to the victor be the spoils.
• I never experienced heartbreak.
I fantasize about heartbreak. Even thought my husband would be.
• I love all things amore. Pretend to love me, I'll pretend to believe you.
• My pussy is not the way to my heart. Shit's not even close to each other. I almost married an impotent man, I dated for a year.
• I have only have four placements not in Air. Of those four, two are in Fire, and one water is air/water cuspy.
• I'm Venus dominate with Venus in the 1st.click to expand
I could write a film script based off this list.
All credit will go to you.
Posted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettante
jesus take the wheel
Trust me.. pretty sure Jesus' "teachings" are the root of this thread.
werent jesus & mary magdalene FWBs? 🤔🤔🤔click to expand
Rumour has it that it was actually Jesus and Judas, but Judas caught feels, which is why he betrayed him.
(OK stopping here because right now I feel like hell is going to be my next home lmao)
Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecap
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
I actually know a Cap sun/moon with Scorpio Venus but Aries mars. Emotional connections are not a top priority for her in relationships. And yes, she does FwB.
But, what you can't speak for is why does she do it.click to expand
That wasn't actually the point of my post that you quoted above. But...Dazed has already answered for me, so I think you would know by now.
Posted by Black-Mamba
Sometimes heartbreak is worth a night of passion where you’re just a mans garbage receptacle
Spoken like a true ho.. congrats. You played yourself.
Posted by Ram416Posted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettante
jesus take the wheel
Trust me.. pretty sure Jesus' "teachings" are the root of this thread.
werent jesus & mary magdalene FWBs? 🤔🤔🤔
Rumour has it that it was actually Jesus and Judas, but Judas caught feels, which is why he betrayed him.
(OK stopping here because right now I feel like hell is going to be my next home lmao)click to expand
Omg.. plot twist I didn't see cumming.
But I bet Jesus did 😈
I have rarely ever seen a women enter a FWB situation where suddenly oxytocin kicks in after all the sex, and they suddenly found they had developed feelings for the FWB.
Let's be real, most girls don't end up having feelings out of nowhere. They don't wake up one day and are suddenly dickmatized by the dude after he shows up wasted at her door at 4 am to get his dick wet. More than likely, they already liked the FWB, and agreed with ulterior motives. They lie and say they can do it, but they aren't emotionally capable of it on any level. They just agree to it, thinking they can persuade the dude into an actual relationship. And those are the ones usually pining over the FWB, because they expected a different goal at the end.
But then you got the women that the act does not necessitate emotions and is animalistic. That one does not need the other to be done. Emotions can be removed all together from the act itself. And have zero issues agreeing to it, because they simply like sex and orgasms.
So because women are capable of exhibiting both traits, blanket statements cannot be made about women being "weak" for agreeing to be FWB. Just like you can't make them for men in saying they degrade women that agree. It is asinine.
Let's be real, most girls don't end up having feelings out of nowhere. They don't wake up one day and are suddenly dickmatized by the dude after he shows up wasted at her door at 4 am to get his dick wet. More than likely, they already liked the FWB, and agreed with ulterior motives. They lie and say they can do it, but they aren't emotionally capable of it on any level. They just agree to it, thinking they can persuade the dude into an actual relationship. And those are the ones usually pining over the FWB, because they expected a different goal at the end.
But then you got the women that the act does not necessitate emotions and is animalistic. That one does not need the other to be done. Emotions can be removed all together from the act itself. And have zero issues agreeing to it, because they simply like sex and orgasms.
So because women are capable of exhibiting both traits, blanket statements cannot be made about women being "weak" for agreeing to be FWB. Just like you can't make them for men in saying they degrade women that agree. It is asinine.
Posted by truecapPosted by -Damous
What about when they don’t develop feelings too and then no one cares
It just never works out like that. someone always develops feelings.click to expand
....if they're human yes lol
I'd hate to be in that kind of arrangement
Posted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
TMI...
You’re so right 🤦🏼♀️ I’m gonna take a break from dxp until my filter grows back lol
Nah, you’re a Scorpio, so it comes as no surprise.
It was just something I wasn’t expecting to read, while eating my breakfast… 😆
My Libra rising usually keeps it in check. I’ll get it together lol
God, you’re not one of those, are you? LOL!
Sorry but, for the last few weeks, I’ve been musing over a new personal theory regarding rising signs…click to expand
Make a thread! Curious minds would like to know 🤷🏼♀️
FWB can be a double edge sword. Both can go into it and agree to things but shit happens. Then some go into it with ulterior motives on both sides.
I notice a lot of guys tend to not put boundaries on these situations and give out mix signals...where they treat the person more like a gf but then again...some women read more into the situation than what it actually is. The only way FWB will work is if clear boundaries are made from jump but then again...shit happens lol. You just honestly never know.
Like someone mentioned...this sounds more like booty calls and one night stands than a continuous sexual only relationship with someone you have established a strong trusting connection with. Plus majority of guys shit talk (they do this even with having a significant other...is it right?...not always but what are ya gonna do?!)...wonder what they actually say to these women tho.
I have mixed feelings on the subject. For me it's hard to separate "love" and sex...they tend to go hand and hand but then again I'm kinda emotionally unavailable so it's also easy to detach myself...damn, I'm a double edge sword my own damn self 😂. I've never felt degraded tho once I have decided to get into this type of situation....you can't make someone feel something that they don't ...no matter what anyone else says.
I notice a lot of guys tend to not put boundaries on these situations and give out mix signals...where they treat the person more like a gf but then again...some women read more into the situation than what it actually is. The only way FWB will work is if clear boundaries are made from jump but then again...shit happens lol. You just honestly never know.
Like someone mentioned...this sounds more like booty calls and one night stands than a continuous sexual only relationship with someone you have established a strong trusting connection with. Plus majority of guys shit talk (they do this even with having a significant other...is it right?...not always but what are ya gonna do?!)...wonder what they actually say to these women tho.
I have mixed feelings on the subject. For me it's hard to separate "love" and sex...they tend to go hand and hand but then again I'm kinda emotionally unavailable so it's also easy to detach myself...damn, I'm a double edge sword my own damn self 😂. I've never felt degraded tho once I have decided to get into this type of situation....you can't make someone feel something that they don't ...no matter what anyone else says.
Posted by GobbyPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
TMI...
You’re so right 🤦🏼♀️ I’m gonna take a break from dxp until my filter grows back lol
Nah, you’re a Scorpio, so it comes as no surprise.
It was just something I wasn’t expecting to read, while eating my breakfast… 😆
My Libra rising usually keeps it in check. I’ll get it together lol
God, you’re not one of those, are you? LOL!
Sorry but, for the last few weeks, I’ve been musing over a new personal theory regarding rising signs…
Make a thread! Curious minds would like to know 🤷🏼♀️
Maybe this weekend. I haven’t even tested my theory against the natal charts of everyone I know/knew...click to expand
Well...hop to it sir! 😜
I'm just curious... why would any man degrade himself to settle for a FWB arrangement?
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the woman only sees an easy lay. Why would a man want to be viewed upon like that?
What happens when the oxytocin kicks in and you develop feelings for someone who only sees you as a good replacement for a warm cucumber? Where are you now? Pining away for someone who doesn't give one iota about you.
Please don't take this as I'm judging anyone, but I'm curious.
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the woman only sees an easy lay. Why would a man want to be viewed upon like that?
What happens when the oxytocin kicks in and you develop feelings for someone who only sees you as a good replacement for a warm cucumber? Where are you now? Pining away for someone who doesn't give one iota about you.
Please don't take this as I'm judging anyone, but I'm curious.
Posted by truecap
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the man only sees an easy lay. Why would one want to be viewed upon like that?
So you wouldn't mind doing it as long as society approves of that behaviour? LOL how cap 😛
Posted by justagirlPosted by saggurl88Posted by justagirlPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅
I respect you for being truthful.
This new situation I’m in, I’m gonna fall in love with the guy. So this will be an interesting scenario and I’m just waiting to see how it plays out.
But as a women, I don’t tell a man that I love him, outside of a relationship, when sex is involved.
If a guy starts questioning me about it, I let the guy know that, and he will make that decision, if he wants to hear those words.
I have no clue why people put so much weight on those words lol.
Gonna? Guuurrl Virgo has his hooks in you, you just don't know it yet... don't run now 🙃😙😋
Lol. I’m not going to. I’m looking forward to it. I love being in love. 🥰😍 I miss it.
I send you good vibes and blessings! You got this 😘click to expand
Awww thanks so much! This is so sweet. I love 💕 it! 🤗
I don't believe sex only is what women really want. They give sex to get love and 'hope' that they find love this way. I've never known a women yet to just give sex with nothing behind it. Men yes. Women not really....ultimately the women is looking for a man, support and security.
Posted by Sunmoonrising
I don't believe sex only is what women really want. They give sex to get love and 'hope' that they find love this way. I've never known a women yet to just give sex with nothing behind it. Men yes. Women not really....ultimately the women is looking for a man, support and security.
I wanted drama, love affairs, like the movies and I got it.
Also, think about rich girls, Lol....security and support don't really come into play that much.
Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GobbyPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
TMI...
You’re so right 🤦🏼♀️ I’m gonna take a break from dxp until my filter grows back lol
Nah, you’re a Scorpio, so it comes as no surprise.
It was just something I wasn’t expecting to read, while eating my breakfast… 😆
My Libra rising usually keeps it in check. I’ll get it together lol
God, you’re not one of those, are you? LOL!
Sorry but, for the last few weeks, I’ve been musing over a new personal theory regarding rising signs…
I guess that would depend on your theory. Lol
Truthfully I’m not sure it’s my rising or maybe it’s my moon? I’m still learning about astrology and myself.
But sometimes I will blurt something out not caring about what anyone thinks of it, then here comes my alter ego wanting to hide or delete or clean up the mess my impulsive side makes. lolclick to expand
Sorry, I didn't read the posts........Moon Sag?
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I'm just curious... why would any man degrade himself to settle for a FWB arrangement?
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the woman only sees an easy lay. Why would a man want to be viewed upon like that?
What happens when the oxytocin kicks in and you develop feelings for someone who only sees you as a good replacement for a warm cucumber? Where are you now? Pining away for someone who doesn't give one iota about you.
Please don't take this as I'm judging anyone, but I'm curious.
They don't believe it is why. Delusion. Just like the females who post here. But, the guys are so far gone into it and because women say over and over again sex, love, and relationship go hand in hand. They say it on DXP ad nauseum...
In my experience, it's the ego. Men will not allow themselves to believe that they fucked a girl and she didn't fall in love. And, guy's egos are confirmed by this that sex makes women fall in love... and, this is the case even when he's not in love himself... ego. "She calling my phone, won't leave me alone" is a point of pride.
Tell a guy you're having sex with that you're not in love, he does not believe you...
And, as far as the "iota," it's difficult to see a woman does not care... we visually, auditorially, and tactilely scream care.
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by Sunmoonrising
I don't believe sex only is what women really want. They give sex to get love and 'hope' that they find love this way. I've never known a women yet to just give sex with nothing behind it. Men yes. Women not really....ultimately the women is looking for a man, support and security.
I wanted drama, love affairs, like the movies and I got it.
Also, think about rich girls, Lol....security and support don't really come into play that much.click to expand
Yes but it's short lived
Yes, it was short lived....however it may have lasted longer than the average dating activity on Tinder 😄
I was horny, very horny for about 4 years of my life. I could have given myself as many orgasms as I could, and bought the most expensive toys. That was not enough at that time. Uranus was on my Mars, trining my Venus. I wanted novelty, attraction, seduction, as well as a real man behind the dick.
Yep, both of us wanted more after a while, just not with the same person.
Looking back, it was the strangest time of my life. No regrets whatsoever.
I was horny, very horny for about 4 years of my life. I could have given myself as many orgasms as I could, and bought the most expensive toys. That was not enough at that time. Uranus was on my Mars, trining my Venus. I wanted novelty, attraction, seduction, as well as a real man behind the dick.
Yep, both of us wanted more after a while, just not with the same person.
Looking back, it was the strangest time of my life. No regrets whatsoever.
Posted by peachy06Posted by truecapPosted by -Damous
What about when they don’t develop feelings too and then no one cares
It just never works out like that. someone always develops feelings.
One cannot generalize like that.click to expand
Irony from the queen of generalizing sun signs lol
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