"SHOULD I CONFESS TO THIS VIRGO MAN OR NOT?"

I am a Leo woman who talked to this Virgo guy from another country accidentally on a club call with him sharing his childhood. We have been talking for 5 months and I developed my feelings 4 months already. This is killing me, because I do need to know if he is interested or not but at the same time, I don't want to lose our friendship.

I am there to support him always, to care, to listen and give him opinions about something. And he pretty listens.

What I only notice about him:

He makes sure he give something on special occasions. He listens everytime I need his help, he replies instantly, he share almost everything about his work, family and friends, (even the girls who like him which makes me jealous somehow) and cares for my family.

Downsides:

He stops talking for 1-3 days. He talks about himself most of the time. He rarely initiates contact (although he asks me "how are you doing?").

I tried to suppress these feelings and kept myself busy but this is driving me nuts. I am so inlove with him.

All I want to know is that, is it worth the wait and not tell my feelings or confess already so I wouldn't be hurt?

The last time I mentioned about sending him a gift, he said "it's not the right time yet. And I want to receive a gift from you personally."

What does this mean?

I know he is just kind to everyone and has a big heart but I tried to not like him. But I cannot.

I need your opinions.

Thank you. 🙏

And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

He only talks about himself. That’s not a good sign IMO

If he was interested in you, even as just a good friend... I’m not saying romantically, he would ask you questions about yourself and get to know you on a deeper level.

Will you be trying to get into a long distance relationship? Are you just looking for a boyfriend title? Or will there be actual meet ups in person? Are you planning on moving into his are soon, to see each other in person?

Admitting your feelings could be flattering for him, but what are you going to be happy with, living in 2 different countries?

Just rip the bandaid off and tell him.

Write the message

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Hit send

Ancient alien theorist say yes.

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And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

We are talking in WhatsApp.

He said he will visit next year.

Although I didn't think he will do it, he had plans. Just waiting for our country to accept tourists.

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He only talks about himself. That’s not a good sign IMO

If he was interested in you, even as just a good friend... I’m not saying romantically, he would ask you questions about yourself and get to know you on a deeper level.

Yes dear. That's what I'm feeling strongly about. I'm testing him these days if he's noticing that I'm not messaging. Before yes, he asks a lot of things but now I noticed he always talk. He asks but makes the conversation going and I can only interrupt for some minutes. Next time, will make sure I talk more.

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Just rip the bandaid off and tell him.

Write the message

Count to 3

Hit send

Would that not break the friendship?

He said last time: "If someone is trying to talk to you, give them a chance especially if they like you."

What does this mean?

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Will you be trying to get into a long distance relationship? Are you just looking for a boyfriend title? Or will there be actual meet ups in person? Are you planning on moving into his are soon, to see each other in person?

Admitting your feelings could be flattering for him, but what are you going to be happy with, living in 2 different countries?

You have a point. That's true. Especially since he's a practical guy. Long distance relationship is fine, I've been there before, for almost 5 years. He is the person who wants commitment, so I can say, there should be real meetups. Although I'm not rushing, I just want to know if he likes me too.

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Ancient alien theorist say yes.

Oh gosh. 🤧

Posted by DMV

Just rip the bandaid off and tell him.

Write the message

Count to 3

Hit send

Best advice?

Consequences?

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And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

We are talking in WhatsApp.

He said he will visit next year.

Although I didn't think he will do it, he had plans. Just waiting for our country to accept tourists.

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Form my experience, Virgos do not like to engage in long distance relationship. Also, I see you answered below: He said last time: "If someone is trying to talk to you, give them a chance especially if they like you.", - it sounds like a soft hint to see other people. My advice - do not confess your feelings, if you really really want to, say something like "I like talking to you". Neutrally-friendly. Oh! And see other people 🙂

Wait for him, since he likes talking about himself.

You might be in love with the fantasy you created.

Keep busy and don’t make him your world.

It’s easy to create an ideal when there might not be one.

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And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

We are talking in WhatsApp.

He said he will visit next year.

Although I didn't think he will do it, he had plans. Just waiting for our country to accept tourists.

Form my experience, Virgos do not like to engage in long distance relationship. Also, I see you answered below: He said last time: "If someone is trying to talk to you, give them a chance especially if they like you.", - it sounds like a soft hint to see other people. My advice - do not confess your feelings, if you really really want to, say something like "I like talking to you". Neutrally-friendly. Oh! And see other people 🙂

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I am planning to confess to him today to get this off my chest. I needed to be honest to move on, because I don't like being in this situation. This is driving me nuts although I am being busy.

My main purpose is to get this off my chest, and although I know this means I am sure this will also give me freedom.

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Wait for him, since he likes talking about himself.

You might be in love with the fantasy you created.

Keep busy and don’t make him your world.

It’s easy to create an ideal when there might not be one.

This is right. But wanted to be so sure and so I carefully assessed myself, now I needed to get this off my chest and confess. I want to move on.

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And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

We are talking in WhatsApp.

He said he will visit next year.

Although I didn't think he will do it, he had plans. Just waiting for our country to accept tourists.

Form my experience, Virgos do not like to engage in long distance relationship. Also, I see you answered below: He said last time: "If someone is trying to talk to you, give them a chance especially if they like you.", - it sounds like a soft hint to see other people. My advice - do not confess your feelings, if you really really want to, say something like "I like talking to you". Neutrally-friendly. Oh! And see other people 🙂

I am planning to confess to him today to get this off my chest. I needed to be honest to move on, because I don't like being in this situation. This is driving me nuts although I am being busy.

My main purpose is to get this off my chest, and although I know this means I am sure this will also give me freedom.

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Well, if you do not mind, post update here! and good luck 🙂

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And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

We are talking in WhatsApp.

He said he will visit next year.

Although I didn't think he will do it, he had plans. Just waiting for our country to accept tourists.

Form my experience, Virgos do not like to engage in long distance relationship. Also, I see you answered below: He said last time: "If someone is trying to talk to you, give them a chance especially if they like you.", - it sounds like a soft hint to see other people. My advice - do not confess your feelings, if you really really want to, say something like "I like talking to you". Neutrally-friendly. Oh! And see other people 🙂

I am planning to confess to him today to get this off my chest. I needed to be honest to move on, because I don't like being in this situation. This is driving me nuts although I am being busy.

My main purpose is to get this off my chest, and although I know this means I am sure this will also give me freedom.

Well, if you do not mind, post update here! and good luck 🙂

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I confessed to him today. And I could not be more grateful that now I am free. I finally voiced out my feelings and I can sleep soundly. He said he likes me too and he only have trust issues. But I'm not thinking about it anymore because finally I voiced out my part. And that's it already. I'm happy even though it will sound like a rejection but I'm contented that our friendship is fine.

Thank you everyone for helping. I followed my gut and stood up for myself. I did tell him that I like him and how I admire him, that I'm not expecting anything in return which is true. And I couldn't be more happy that I'm finally free from my thoughts and feelings. Now I can smile and not be affected because I finally cleared things out from my brain.

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And what is the situation with visiting? Can he come to visit you or it is prohibited due to Covid? Also, you say you are talking, talking by whatsapp, facetime?

We are talking in WhatsApp.

He said he will visit next year.

Although I didn't think he will do it, he had plans. Just waiting for our country to accept tourists.

Form my experience, Virgos do not like to engage in long distance relationship. Also, I see you answered below: He said last time: "If someone is trying to talk to you, give them a chance especially if they like you.", - it sounds like a soft hint to see other people. My advice - do not confess your feelings, if you really really want to, say something like "I like talking to you". Neutrally-friendly. Oh! And see other people 🙂

I am planning to confess to him today to get this off my chest. I needed to be honest to move on, because I don't like being in this situation. This is driving me nuts although I am being busy.

My main purpose is to get this off my chest, and although I know this means I am sure this will also give me freedom.

Well, if you do not mind, post update here! and good luck 🙂

I confessed to him today. And I could not be more grateful that now I am free. I finally voiced out my feelings and I can sleep soundly. He said he likes me too and he only have trust issues. But I'm not thinking about it anymore because finally I voiced out my part. And that's it already. I'm happy even though it will sound like a rejection but I'm contented that our friendship is fine.

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Glad you feel relieved )

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I am a Leo woman who talked to this Virgo guy from another country accidentally on a club call with him sharing his childhood. We have been talking for 5 months and I developed my feelings 4 months already. This is killing me, because I do need to know if he is interested or not but at the same time, I don't want to lose our friendship.

I am there to support him always, to care, to listen and give him opinions about something. And he pretty listens.

What I only notice about him:

He makes sure he give something on special occasions. He listens everytime I need his help, he replies instantly, he share almost everything about his work, family and friends, (even the girls who like him which makes me jealous somehow) and cares for my family.

Downsides:

He stops talking for 1-3 days. He talks about himself most of the time. He rarely initiates contact (although he asks me "how are you doing?").

I tried to suppress these feelings and kept myself busy but this is driving me nuts. I am so inlove with him.

All I want to know is that, is it worth the wait and not tell my feelings or confess already so I wouldn't be hurt?

The last time I mentioned about sending him a gift, he said "it's not the right time yet. And I want to receive a gift from you personally."

What does this mean?

I know he is just kind to everyone and has a big heart but I tried to not like him. But I cannot.

I need your opinions.

Thank you. 🙏

From what you say he's not into you. I wouldn't waste my time. Take the energy and put it into something that excites you. Meet someone who wants to hear about you and values your time and attention.

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I wished I read this before taking decisions but it is too late. I did buy him a customized gift already from an artist and will give that on his birthday. I clearly know he isn't interested but I decided to do my part also because I liked the person and this is me -warm and positive. Although he is not the right person for me, I still have no other choice but to give my part.

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Downsides:

He stops talking for 1-3 days. He talks about himself most of the time. He rarely initiates contact (although he asks me "how are you doing?").

🙏

Ah, I had this with a Virgo guy I was seeing. He talked about himself . . all. the. time! I got fed up of it! This, IMO was an indication that he was not interested in me, as a person, was more focused on having his own needs / wants met (I should add I did not have sex with him, however that was his goal).

Personally, I would stop putting in so much emotional energy into it, and focus on yourself. Virgo man take their time, and the ponder on things - he is thinking whether you are the woman for him, or not.

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You literally answered everything! Where are you these times? 😥 Yes indeed, I'm working on myself and not thinking about it. It's great tho that when we talk, it feels like nothing.