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Do you feel that
Posted by WarAngel
Ummm, how about:
E: Ignore their ass?
but it hurts tbh and just shameless 🥺🥺
do these people even know how they come off? and it sounded so desperate too. it wasn't just one message. it followed with another plea. i read quora and reddit just to see how other people are dealing with this same crap. i didn't even really reply but man that's embarrassing.
Posted by SoundAndFury
Yeah. I can be really chill and passive before anyone gives me a reason not to be. And people take that as a sign they can walk all over you and you'll do nothing about it. Which is why I don't even care if people do end up acting shitty towards me because of that. It just shows me quicker that the person isn't worth being around anyways. Better to find out sooner rather than later and move on
Just noticed this is in the Virgo forum lol
i don't immediately squash behaviors like this coz i tend to think that i've done nothing so far to warrant it in the first place (no raison d'être whatsoever) and i trust people have some shame and will naturally revert to acting decently. but i'm soooo wrong omg.
you invite a friend out you end up going to the same uni and jazz club with. you generously buy drinks coz not like y'all go out every day then next thing you know it turns into: "sponsor me." or an acquaintance reaches out to you and it turns into meaningful glances in your direction saying: "or we can upgrade our lodgings." or every year on your birthday, one of your uni friends you ghosted on pops up and messages you "happy birthday. i've been a terrible friend. i meant to really pay you back." well, she took a year from your ghosting to realize it but she got there eventually. you gave it a chance for 4 years but the freeloading never stopped. her penance every year on your birthday. and other relatives with a history of treating you like crap plainly saying about your emotional circumstances: "i don't really care but you promised to send that to me." or "i really wanted to borrow that bag." but i accept that coz family's non-refundable. and not even like one person to tell you completely unprompted "i lost my wallet." or someone who tells you "a driver costs too much, maybe learn to handle your finances better and get rid of him." months later, has the nerve to try to borrow money from you.
i give up.
or if it's not that then it's about favors or access to your phone, to your place, to an account, to your emails, to your search history or should you be avoiding them, feels entitled to your time and seems never to let go of the fact that you place them on read but never reply coz of their aggro dialogue.
Posted by poppyflowerPosted by HypnotoadPosted by poppyflowerPosted by Hypnotoad
I do wish I was a big scary werewolf
No you don’t. You’re better than this werewolf.
Don't tell me what I do and don't wish. 🤨
No you’re right. My bad.
But my second sentence still stand. I don’t get what’s good about being a scary werewolf.click to expand
interestingly, i think i do contribute to turning people into beasts. my cap ex had better boundaries until he realized that he can do literally anything and i just treat it as some kind of phase.
this why it's better if people don't know each other too well.
Posted by Wizardz_
Sounds like you're the common denominator VirgoOPPP . People have you pegged as an easy touch/ sucker 😅
Also, maybe the type of people you attract is a factor, although that doesn't explain family doing it too
People have weaknesses and perhaps you allow these type of weaknesses to take hold of them by the way you respond? Like maybe there's a little thing at first and you respond in a certain way and that leads to bigger things until it becomes normal for the person to start asking for too much with little regard for you?
I did read that if you give someone something three times, they then are no longer grateful but expect it
Also, is this you at work?
yeah i notice this. around the 4th time, something seems to change. something really terrible for me.
cringe
Virgos got money—!!! Say wahhhhhh!!!!
All the Virgos I know are broke and be bumming me for some change to buy beer.
I react by trying to avoid them in the first place. I try to hurry and walk as fast as I can to avoid getting catch. In fact everybody be bumming me for money. People must think I'm made of money or perhaps it's my somewhat distinguished look. I ain't no Virgo but that's my reaction.
All the Virgos I know are broke and be bumming me for some change to buy beer.
I react by trying to avoid them in the first place. I try to hurry and walk as fast as I can to avoid getting catch. In fact everybody be bumming me for money. People must think I'm made of money or perhaps it's my somewhat distinguished look. I ain't no Virgo but that's my reaction.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by poppyflowerPosted by HypnotoadPosted by poppyflowerPosted by Hypnotoad
I do wish I was a big scary werewolf
No you don’t. You’re better than this werewolf.
Don't tell me what I do and don't wish. 🤨
No you’re right. My bad.
But my second sentence still stand. I don’t get what’s good about being a scary werewolf.
interestingly, i think i do contribute to turning people into beasts. my cap ex had better boundaries until he realized that he can do literally anything and i just treat it as some kind of phase.
this why it's better if people don't know each other too well.click to expand
Just another lesson—don’t be fooled by the honeymoon phase. Not everyone is the same person from the time you meet them to the time you part, for whatever reason. You just keep being you, setting a good example, and fuck what other people do! Sure it def sucks in relationships to feel used, omg it sucks…. But you just gotta be more choosy and listen to your gut. Your gut says, this person is using me (whether inadvertently or not) and needs to go, YOU LISTEN! It’s great to hope other people act right lol but it can’t be expected. Let it be a nice surprise when they do haha. You can’t control how other people act, but you can control yourself. Lead by example, and let the small shit roll off. Learning to not take things personally is one of the best lessons in life I’ve ever embraced.
Posted by Wizardz_
Sounds like you're the common denominator VirgoOPPP . People have you pegged as an easy touch/ sucker 😅
Also, maybe the type of people you attract is a factor, although that doesn't explain family doing it too
People have weaknesses and perhaps you allow these type of weaknesses to take hold of them by the way you respond? Like maybe there's a little thing at first and you respond in a certain way and that leads to bigger things until it becomes normal for the person to start asking for too much with little regard for you?
I did read that if you give someone something three times, they then are no longer grateful but expect it
Also, is this you at work?
This happens to nice, decent people unfortunately. We get targeted. Best offense is a good defense though, or something like that 😝
Posted by MaxianPosted by virgoOPPP
or if it's not that then it's about favors or access to your phone, to your place, to an account, to your emails, to your search history or should you be avoiding them, feels entitled to your time and seems never to let go of the fact that you place them on read but never reply coz of their aggro dialogue.
*cough cough* sociopath! *cough cough*click to expand
Privacy makes one a sociopath then I’m one paranoid biotch!
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Virgos got money—!!! Say wahhhhhh!!!!
All the Virgos I know are broke and be bumming me for some change to buy beer.
I react by trying to avoid them in the first place. I try to hurry and walk as fast as I can to avoid getting catch. In fact everybody be bumming me for money. People must think I'm made of money or perhaps it's my somewhat distinguished look. I ain't no Virgo but that's my reaction.
this is the origin story of how we become homeless
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by Hypnotoad
I do wish I was a big scary werewolf
I’ll be your red riding hood 😶🌫️click to expand
one time, my mind was so messed up that i started writing a kind of poem. this was the time when i started noticing patterns, how people tend to end up around me. it was a different version of 'Little Red' and it started out with her mother warning her about a wolf. but on her way to grandma's, she encountered different 'sweet' storybook characters asking her for all kinds of favors. i fell asleep when i started writing the body horrors part- but i probably would've ended it with her missing a lot of parts and not even seeing one wolf on the way there.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by AbbyNormalPosted by Hypnotoad
I do wish I was a big scary werewolf
I’ll be your red riding hood 😶🌫️
one time, my mind was so messed up that i started writing a kind of poem. this was the time when i started noticing patterns, how people tend to end up around me. it was a different version of 'Little Red' and it started out with her mother warning her about a wolf. but on her way to grandma's, she encountered different 'sweet' storybook characters asking her all kinds of favors. i fell asleep when i started writing the body horrors part- but i probably would've ended it with her missing a lot of parts and not even seeing one wolf on the way there.click to expand
I hope you finish that! It sounds good!! Neat assignment to get some of that angst out. Creation is good for that release.
No. I have an energy to have people on high alert whenever I choose to. It works for me.
Posted by Krabss
You are such a weirdo 😄.
this guy disrespects me and all i can really do is troll him. life is not fair. you ever felt like you wanna molotov someone? this is that guy.
Posted by KrabssPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by Krabss
You are such a weirdo 😄.
this guy disrespects me and all i can really do is troll him. life is not fair. you ever felt like you wanna molotov someone? this is that guy.
Oh i did.
Can you avoid him, block him? Or it's never that simple...click to expand
it's pretty easy to just keep getting new numbers here
The appropriate response is no response. Block that energy from your life.
People may disrespect me. But once they show me who they are I will remove them from my life. If I don't its because their disrespect amounts to little more then an amusing disturbance. Or I do value the relationship but need a break from the cyclical nature of things until they can get their head out of their ass.
Boundaries are vital.
For example I felt really wronged by a friend awhile back. But to be fair I was partially to blame for having such high expectations and giving far too much of myself in the friendship. So I took a step back. It took them a few months to realize and reach out. I was very clear in communicating where I stood and why I was choosing to refocus my attention and time on myself and those around me more deserving. Friendship is a two way street. They didn't respond which made my choice all the more easier. Then after a month they texted back super apologetic for "missing" my last text... but also didn't acknowledge or address any of the issues I laid out in that same text. While also inviting me for lunch. I politely declined.
This is not a person I will cut off completely. But with the way things went, unless they acknowledge their part... I will not be playing fake at brunch to sweep this under the rug. And in the meantime my energy serves me better elsewhere.
For your harassing dead beat ex tho you should definitely block completely. That's a dead end situation all around.
People may disrespect me. But once they show me who they are I will remove them from my life. If I don't its because their disrespect amounts to little more then an amusing disturbance. Or I do value the relationship but need a break from the cyclical nature of things until they can get their head out of their ass.
Boundaries are vital.
For example I felt really wronged by a friend awhile back. But to be fair I was partially to blame for having such high expectations and giving far too much of myself in the friendship. So I took a step back. It took them a few months to realize and reach out. I was very clear in communicating where I stood and why I was choosing to refocus my attention and time on myself and those around me more deserving. Friendship is a two way street. They didn't respond which made my choice all the more easier. Then after a month they texted back super apologetic for "missing" my last text... but also didn't acknowledge or address any of the issues I laid out in that same text. While also inviting me for lunch. I politely declined.
This is not a person I will cut off completely. But with the way things went, unless they acknowledge their part... I will not be playing fake at brunch to sweep this under the rug. And in the meantime my energy serves me better elsewhere.
For your harassing dead beat ex tho you should definitely block completely. That's a dead end situation all around.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREALPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by KrabssPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by Krabss
You are such a weirdo 😄.
this guy disrespects me and all i can really do is troll him. life is not fair. you ever felt like you wanna molotov someone? this is that guy.
Oh i did.
Can you avoid him, block him? Or it's never that simple...
it's pretty easy to just keep getting new numbers here
lol I know exactly what this cap doing but I won’t tell you except if u pass me 50 dollarsclick to expand
🙄🙄
Posted by MaxianPosted by AbbyNormalPosted by MaxianPosted by virgoOPPP
or if it's not that then it's about favors or access to your phone, to your place, to an account, to your emails, to your search history or should you be avoiding them, feels entitled to your time and seems never to let go of the fact that you place them on read but never reply coz of their aggro dialogue.
*cough cough* sociopath! *cough cough*
Privacy makes one a sociopath then I’m one paranoid biotch!
So you go through their search history for no reason? 🧐click to expand
What?!?! I thought this was saying people want me to hand over mine! I believe in personal privacy is all I was trying to agree with here.
just today and already 2 people tried to borrow money off me. i wouldn't mind so much if it didn't constantly happen. but 90% of the time, the only reason they reach out is to ask me for something. my gemini aunt and some sag co-worker who got fired a few months ago (we're acquaintances, barely friends). my aunt ofc never needs an excuse to try to get money off people but a freakin co-worker i barely know? just makes me feel bad about myself.
why do i get disrespected so much? am i ugly? do i have a vibe that tells them i'm stupid or a pushover? wtf is it i hate it 😒
it hurts and i don't wanna try anymore.
why do i get disrespected so much? am i ugly? do i have a vibe that tells them i'm stupid or a pushover? wtf is it i hate it 😒
it hurts and i don't wanna try anymore.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by virgoOPPP
just today and already 2 people tried to borrow money off me. i wouldn't mind so much if it didn't constantly happen. but 90% of the time, the only reason they reach out is to ask me for something. my gemini aunt and some sag co-worker who got fired a few months ago (we're acquaintances, barely friends). my aunt ofc never needs an excuse to try to get money off people but a freakin co-worker i barely know? just makes me feel bad about myself.
why do i get disrespected so much? am i ugly? do i have a vibe that tells them i'm stupid or a pushover? wtf is it i hate it 😒
it hurts and i don't wanna try anymore.
I've got Libra friends who get taken advantage of I don't think it is just a Virgo thing.click to expand
i have libra mars
"do i have a vibe ..."
certainly something along those lines .....that are being misread.
however, it´s up to you to install firm boundaries. which for some reason, you can´t/don´t.
certainly something along those lines .....that are being misread.
however, it´s up to you to install firm boundaries. which for some reason, you can´t/don´t.
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPP
just today and already 2 people tried to borrow money off me. i wouldn't mind so much if it didn't constantly happen. but 90% of the time, the only reason they reach out is to ask me for something. my gemini aunt and some sag co-worker who got fired a few months ago (we're acquaintances, barely friends). my aunt ofc never needs an excuse to try to get money off people but a freakin co-worker i barely know? just makes me feel bad about myself.
why do i get disrespected so much? am i ugly? do i have a vibe that tells them i'm stupid or a pushover? wtf is it i hate it 😒
it hurts and i don't wanna try anymore.
It's kind of funny though 🤣click to expand
geminis always making people cry in the shower
Posted by Wizardz_
Hey VirgoOppp,
Hi babe! Long time no see! Was thinking about you earlier today and wondered how the hell are you?! You remember me right? We should catch up sometime, go out for a drink or something! Maybe after christmas? It would be great to see you again 😊
Actually, come to think of it, we should arrange it right now! I don't suppose you could lend me $ 100, could you? I wouldn't ask but I had this problem and .. ugh long story, I won't bore you with it... but hey if you could do that for me and then I'll give it back to you when I see you! That would be great, thanks!
Looking forward to it!
It's funny you asked that cus I swear I was gonna ask her for a loan of a couple hundreds on my first post...hahahahaha
Posted by Wizardz_
Hey VirgoOppp,
Hi babe! Long time no see! Was thinking about you earlier today and wondered how the hell are you?! You remember me right? We should catch up sometime, go out for a drink or something! Maybe after christmas? It would be great to see you again 😊
Actually, come to think of it, we should arrange it right now! I don't suppose you could lend me $ 100, could you? I wouldn't ask but I had this problem and .. ugh long story, I won't bore you with it... but hey if you could do that for me and then I'll give it back to you when I see you! That would be great, thanks!
Looking forward to it!
dude my former sag co-worker talking about having trouble paying for his rent and has to raise like an extra of something around $ 150 like why these people always making their problem as my problem
Posted by virgoOPPP
just today and already 2 people tried to borrow money off me. i wouldn't mind so much if it didn't constantly happen. but 90% of the time, the only reason they reach out is to ask me for something. my gemini aunt and some sag co-worker who got fired a few months ago (we're acquaintances, barely friends). my aunt ofc never needs an excuse to try to get money off people but a freakin co-worker i barely know? just makes me feel bad about myself.
why do i get disrespected so much? am i ugly? do i have a vibe that tells them i'm stupid or a pushover? wtf is it i hate it 😒
it hurts and i don't wanna try anymore.
I stopped lending money to people a looooooonnng time ago. It never ends well. I don’t got the time to chase after you for it either. Payment plans and twisting someone’s arm is just not worth the energy.
Now I will gift an amount I am comfortable with. No loans. No payback. Just take it and your welcome.
A few people surprised me by paying it back which was so not expected. But in general I feel good about helping within my means without the fucking trauma associated with feeling like a bank lender.
Also learn to say no.
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Sophia Loren
so much so that they can disrespect you then try to borrow money from you a few months later? how do you react to these people?
what is the appropriate response?
a.) "My name is Giovanni Giorgio. But everybody calls me Giorgio."
b.) "I wish you well in all your future endeavours. God bless you."
c.) "THEN PAY WITH YOUR BLOOD!"
d.) "Patrolling the Mojave almost makes you wish for a nuclear winter."