What is it like having aqua mom or dad

Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good



Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

My mom is an Aqua Sun, Moon and Merc.

She is the worst and best person in my life all at once. Shes not a very good person, but she doesnt mean to be. I love her. She's so damaged and never took the time to evaluate herself, work on her self....love herself. It saddens me.

Two of the coldest women who were mothers I know have

Gem sun, Aqua moon

Scorp Sun, Aqua moon,

That Aqua moon can be deadly cold

One of them was my dad's mother...she treated him very badly, cruel and distant

The other was my ex mother in law....that double air ... wow 😳

Posted by Fallen2Pisces
My Aqua dad was a kind, charismatic, hard working, stubborn, abusive, alcoholic son of a bitch, that cared more about fixing his friends cars and getting drunk on his days off than with his wife and kid. He didn't want my mom to get a job or drive. He would cheat and was CHEAP with money, bought old shitty cars , shitty apts, when he had a good paying job. He would always pay his dues and showed up whenever i needed him, but he was quick to find HIS happiness in a new wife and family leaving us behind like 1 2 step...i'll be seeing his widow'd ass eventually and let him know whats up thou.

☹️

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Posted by Fallen2Pisces
My Aqua dad was a kind, charismatic, hard working, stubborn, abusive, alcoholic son of a cookiemonster, that cared more about fixing his friends cars and getting drunk on his days off than with his wife and kid. He didn't want my mom to get a job or drive. He would cheat and was CHEAP with money, bought old butterty cars , butterty apts, when he had a good paying job. He would always pay his dues and showed up whenever i needed him, but he was quick to find HIS happiness in a new wife and family leaving us behind like 1 2 step...i'll be seeing his widow'd ass eventually and let him know whats up thou.

My aqua dad was very similar minus the drinking. Best day of my life was when I got to knock his ass out cold for assaulting my mother. He was a lot better person after that. All my life up to that point he was a selfish piece of garbage. After, he tried like hell to make amends, and he was good in my book afterwards. click to expand

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Good for you for defending your mum.....i bet she is very proud of you ❤️

Any man that assaults a woman is, as you say, a piece of garbage

My aqua dad was also controlling and abusive . I wonder if it’s a common trend

Oh no I have a strong aqua moon , I need to be cautious of that

My aqua father loved his cult more than his kids and wife. Which is why she left him once we were grown.

Yeah, I wont get into details but my mom was very selfish and submitted me to lots of terrible things revolving around her and men that left me deeply wounded. She would steal money from me, shes stolen numerous peoples identities. Has a loyalty to NO ONE. All kinds of crazy shit that would take me an hour to write out.

Shes calmed down in her 50's.... but she at her core is capable of extremely selfish behavior, and lying so intensely that it can be frightening.

I never felt like I had a "mother".... I had a roommate. Even her "love" comes from a self gratifying place. No one knows her.....except probably, me.

The reason I ask is . I have and aqua friend dating an aqua guy . This aqua guy ( 21 years old ) just gave up how biological child with his ex away like it was nothing . Even before he gave up his rights, he just saw his son as a burden to pay child support . He never tried to befriend or be in the child life though his parents are really active as grandparents. He has zero connections with his own son nor feels a lost according to my friend .

It’s none of my business but having an aqua dad myself it makes me wonder .

Supposedly he said he would love the kid if he had the child with my friend though

Why does who he have a baby with determine how much you would love a child

So what he said bothered me a little but I didn’t say anything , none of my business . I asked my aqua friend how she felt about that statement and I think she actually didn’t see anything wrong with it . As if it was good that he must love her a lot saying that

So now I’m just interested to see how the future turns out . For the future kid sake , if they have one , I hope it’s good

Posted by heliumfiasco
Yeah, I wont get into details but my mom was very selfish and submitted me to lots of terrible things revolving around her and men that left me deeply wounded. She would steal money from me, shes stolen numerous peoples identities. Has a loyalty to NO ONE. All kinds of crazy butter that would take me an hour to write out.

Shes calmed down in her 50's.... but she at her core is capable of extremely selfish behavior, and lying so intensely that it can be frightening.

I never felt like I had a "mother".... I had a roommate. Even her "love" comes from a self gratifying place. No one knows her.....except probably, me.

It scares me a little that my friend feels the kind of relationship she wants with her kids is to be their best friend so they would tell her everything. Especially after hearing experience like you from the child perspective one too many times

Posted by LadyNeptune
My aqua father loved his cult more than his kids and wife. Which is why she left him once we were grown.

Cult? 😳

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
The reason I ask is . I have and aqua friend dating an aqua guy . This aqua guy ( 21 years old ) just gave up how biological child with his ex away like it was nothing . Even before he gave up his rights, he just saw his son as a burden to pay child support . He never tried to befriend or be in the child life though his parents are really active as grandparents. He has zero connections with his own son nor feels a lost according to my friend .

It’s none of my business but having an aqua dad myself it makes me wonder .
Supposedly he said he would love the kid if he had the child with my friend though

Why does who he have a baby with determine how much you would love a child

So what he said bothered me a little but I didn’t say anything , none of my business . I asked my aqua friend how she felt about that statement and I think she actually didn’t see anything wrong with it . As if it was good that he must love her a lot saying that

So now I’m just interested to see how the future turns out . For the future kid sake , if they have one , I hope it’s good

Cold uncaring bastard

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by LadyNeptune
My aqua father loved his cult more than his kids and wife. Which is why she left him once we were grown.

Cult? 😳 click to expand

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I’ll dm you. But yeah 😬

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My aqua father loved his cult more than his kids and wife. Which is why she left him once we were grown.

Cult? 😳 click to expand

I’ll dm you. But yeah 😬 click to expand

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How very Aquarian...cultlife

lol

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
The reason I ask is . I have and aqua friend dating an aqua guy . This aqua guy ( 21 years old ) just gave up how biological child with his ex away like it was nothing . Even before he gave up his rights, he just saw his son as a burden to pay child support . He never tried to befriend or be in the child life though his parents are really active as grandparents. He has zero connections with his own son nor feels a lost according to my friend .

It’s none of my business but having an aqua dad myself it makes me wonder .
Supposedly he said he would love the kid if he had the child with my friend though

Why does who he have a baby with determine how much you would love a child

So what he said bothered me a little but I didn’t say anything , none of my business . I asked my aqua friend how she felt about that statement and I think she actually didn’t see anything wrong with it . As if it was good that he must love her a lot saying that

So now I’m just interested to see how the future turns out . For the future kid sake , if they have one , I hope it’s good

My mom is very crazy with money. I could see her possibly doing something like that to not pay. I mean it. THE CRAZIEST ABOUT MONEY. Will run over anyone to get it. I think she'd have immense guilt within, maybe she wouldnt.... I shouldnt say for sure. But honestly.... idk.

Jesus, guys, your stories are really scary to read

😥

Also, your friend is gross for even entertaining a man that is capable of that. Just saying....

Posted by heliumfiasco
Also, your friend is gross for even entertaining a man that is capable of that. Just saying....

They both believe that since the kid is so young , if the ex marry a new guy , that guy would feel like the father to the child and the child wouldn’t really be affected because to him , that would feel like his dad and not his birth dad



Yea , I don’t think it works like that

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Posted by heliumfiasco
Also, your friend is gross for even entertaining a man that is capable of that. Just saying....

They both believe that since the kid is so young , if the ex marry a new guy , that guy would feel like the father to the child and the child wouldn’t really be affected because to him , that would feel like his dad and not his birth dad


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What in the actual hell? So, basically... hopefully someone else comes along and does what he should be doing. That is the craziest rationalization for being a deadbeat i've ever heard. She sounds selfish for going along with this, its easier for her if he has more money, no baby drama etc. Get yourself a new friend. Her loyalty will be zero towards you, if this is any example. Trust that.

My Aqua mom is selfish...only cares about herself. She never really grew up and so I'm basically the parent in our relationship which is really non existent. I can only spend a short amount of time with her because she is just too much with all her fake bs.

Some people should never have kids...and she is one of them. Thank God I'm her only child.

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Also, your friend is gross for even entertaining a man that is capable of that. Just saying....

They both believe that since the kid is so young , if the ex marry a new guy , that guy would feel like the father to the child and the child wouldn’t really be affected because to him , that would feel like his dad and not his birth dad


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What in the actual hell? So, basically... hopefully someone else comes along and does what he should be doing. That is the craziest rationality for being a deadbeat i've ever heard. She sounds selfish for going along with this, its easier for her if he has more money, no baby drama etc. Get yourself a new friend. Her loyalty will be zero towards you, if this is any example. Trust that. click to expand

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We’re not as close anymore since her relationship with this guy . He gets irritated if she doesn’t spend one day with him to go out with her friend instead . I think they have some form of codependency going on . I’m completely open to making new friend these days and been trying to expose myself to new people in order to make friends .

But watching people and seeing how their relationship plays out help me see what I want and not want for myself . Their dynamic is an odd one and I spot a troubling future .

Posted by LostinmyMind11
My Aqua mom is selfish...only cares about herself. She never really grew up and so I'm basically the parent in our relationship which is really non existent. I can only spend a short amount of time with her because she is just too much with all her fake bs.

Some people should never have kids...and she is one of them. Thank God I'm her only child.

No they should not 👎🏻

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Posted by heliumfiasco
Also, your friend is gross for even entertaining a man that is capable of that. Just saying....

They both believe that since the kid is so young , if the ex marry a new guy , that guy would feel like the father to the child and the child wouldn’t really be affected because to him , that would feel like his dad and not his birth dad


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It doesn't work like that. You only get one mum and dad

Your friend sounds extremely naive

Posted by heliumfiasco
Also, your friend is gross for even entertaining a man that is capable of that. Just saying....

Yes, she is...

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

i dont think it is the same with all of them..

i mean christie brinkley is a 5 stellium aqua, with sun and moon and venus juptier merc ect



and she has been divorced a couple times and not married anyone...single for a long time and she's a mother.

it does not seem she is interested in a partner and she had problems with one before.

it sounds too that your mother chose ur father more than u and the rest of the children, thats what i get from this post and it made u hurt alot.

Posted by Lioness18881
My Aqua grandma lived with us in a separate section of our house and she was more like a mum for me. She died when i was 18 but she was always cooking me food and we would play cards everyday and watch tv together and she'd share her blanket with me when it was cold and stuff. She was never mean and always patient so i was really close with her. Her kids and all the grandkids all loved her. She used to throw her chanclas at us and had really good aim 😂 but she was really cute.

grandma's are sweet. 😛

u got a lovely one with good memories.

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
My aqua dad was also controlling and abusive . I wonder if it’s a common trend

Oh no I have a strong aqua moon , I need to be cautious of that

i'm more like a freedom loving mother lol (Also CARE FREE) lmao 😛

my husband thinks i'm too "Lax" ...and he's the more controlling one. more DISCIPLINED...

i'm more of a ... happy =go lucky sweet mother. which my son really loves. sometimes he emulates who i am....

which i think is a "admiration" on his part subconsciously.



i dont know what to say about ur parents, but u can't blame ur family for ur own hurts now...

just live ur life and let them be...they had probably really bad hurts and pains and could never free themselves from it and become happier in life...so they took it out on u guys. Just a speculation.

life is also hard for them too i imagined...just remember they are still ur parents and look at their psychology and why they were like that...

u will be FREE from the chains of blame.....





i remember one of my cousins broght over some of his friends and we went out with them, and some of them commented, "u are such a happy type of mother...i wish my mother was happier... like u"



i think it is personally in their psychology ladies,

have some compassion for them.

My biological father has a cap moon + aqua venus - cold as ice when things don‘t go his way.

Left my mum, my younger brothers and me when I was 13. my brothers were 4 and 5 when he left. He cheated on my mom multiple times, lied whenever he could and would do anything to not pay the child support he was supposed to pay. None of is have contact - it was our choice and we cut him off for good.

Pisces sun

Cap moon

Aqua venus/merc

Taurus sun

When he decided to leave us his heart turned into stone. Cap moon + aqua venus?! Holy shit I can see where his recklessness comes from

My mum is an aqua moon and she is a great mother, strict but very loving! She wasn‘t the best to discuss feelings with nor did she apologize very often even when she was wrong. But overall she always put us kids first and raised us with a strict but loving hand. I‘m very thankful for her. Before my father left we often clashed, but after that we grew into a strong mother/daugther union who tried their hardest to get through the shit my father put us through.

Did I wish my mother was more compassionate and a little less strict? Yes. But now as an adult I understand why she said or did certain things and I‘m GLAD that she raised us to be good people with common sense.

pisces sun

Aqua moon/merc

Cap venus

Leo mars

Emotional support and empathy are two of the most important things in a child's life

It was lacking in my home and cost me a lot in therapy bills

Kids need to be emotionally heard and nurtured 💙

Just to clarify, my mom had me at 18. She has grown a lot. Shes in her 50's and has stopped a lot of the behaviors I experienced as a child. She is actually wonderful with my daughter. Not soft, but loves to joke with her, buy her things and take her on trips (money= emotions) She is a good grand mother. My daughter thinks she is the funniest woman on the planet. She is actually hysterical... if youre into extremely DRY humor/ sarcasm.

She is still nasty and stingy with money.... but that will never change.

I love her regardless and I forgive her....I can only now say that at 32.

Posted by heliumfiasco
Just to clarify, my mom had me at 18. She has grown a lot. Shes in her 50's and has stopped a lot of the behaviors I experienced as a child. She is actually wonderful with my daughter. Not soft, but loves to joke with her, buy her things and take her on trips (money= emotions) She is a good grand mother. My daughter thinks she is the funniest woman on the planet. She is actually hysterical... if youre into extremely DRY humor/ sarcasm.

She is still nasty and stingy with money.... but that will never change.

I love her regardless and I forgive her....I can only now say that at 32.

aw that's really sweet.

you all are so open with what you say about your mothers.

my mother is a good mother, but well...... my moon in 12th/pisces,

you can see how it is....



either...

-absent mother

- mother who worked alot

- mother who was not emoitonally available,

- sick/ mentally ill mother...

all those suggestions. Maybe look to your moon and house to see where your issues lie and why your mother was like that, and go back to your grandmother.



weirdly my grandmother is very emotionally supportive, but the behaviour did not extend to my mother as much. she is a very very good mother though and i thank god she is there for me and never gave up.

for myself i am super soft with my child, that's why i'm not controllling or too disciplined;

andi joke alot with my husband. that's more best friends to me.

my child, not so much. i dont think its really appropriate to joke too much with your child. but we laugh at stuff together, like when we watch cartoons or read books together.

money = emotions...

alot of people are like this..

it's just how it is.

at least you never starved and had a good roof over your head. 🙂



speaking of nasty and stingy with money, my husband's grandmother is like this, the double virgo's mother, NOT my mother in law's mother....

the stories my husband tells me. Cold, grandmother...

poor double virgo father in law was kind of crippled for life with that kind of mother.

but he has done well in life and is happy.

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
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My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

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I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

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to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

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I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

i love being my husband's best friend, however my child is my child and he does come first..... even though my husband provides and is the breadwinner and we'd be lost without him...

but when my child is an adult, he no longer needs me and my relationship with my husband is going to last till old age....

i hope my son also finds a companion for himself that they will be best friends till old age...

lover and husband/best friend...

it's very very RARE to be honest...



many parents end up divorcing cause they can't stand eachother after the child is adult and living with a wife and their own family...

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

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my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach click to expand

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I bet he does 🙄

How do you handle him?

Sorry what you went through.....people can be so bloody stupid at times....makes me very angry😡

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach click to expand

I bet he does 🙄

How do you handle him?

Sorry what you went through.....people can be so bloody stupid at times....makes me very angry😡

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When it first sort of happened, it was so weird I actually got emotional and didn't know why until later when I realized it was anger. I was able to let it go by distancing myself emotionally HA just the way he did - should I say he taught me well. But I do have a Cap Moon so it wasn't that hard. And my mother was a certified psycho and she and I had a horrible relationship. I didn't blame him for leaving but he left us with her and he knew she was cray cray - bad cray cray. Anywho most of this scenario happened years ago and I did talk to him more often then but now, only about every few months, actually his memory isn't that great anymore so he never calls me, I call him. It's a short conversation and I did my duty. As with my mother, by the time I grew up, I really didn't have feelings toward either of these people - I was just used to taking care of myself. I guess that is what I learned.

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
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My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

i dont think it is the same with all of them..

i mean christie brinkley is a 5 stellium aqua, with sun and moon and venus juptier merc ect


and she has been divorced a couple times and not married anyone...single for a long time and she's a mother.

it does not seem she is interested in a partner and she had problems with one before.

it sounds too that your mother chose ur father more than u and the rest of the children, thats what i get from this post and it made u hurt alot.


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My father was not in my life . Mom never married . And im an only child .

Childhood affected me tho . You got that part right

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach click to expand

I bet he does 🙄

How do you handle him?

Sorry what you went through.....people can be so bloody stupid at times....makes me very angry😡

When it first sort of happened, it was so weird I actually got emotional and didn't know why until later when I realized it was anger. I was able to let it go by distancing myself emotionally HA just the way he did - should I say he taught me well. But I do have a Cap Moon so it wasn't that hard. And my mother was a certified psycho and she and I had a horrible relationship. I didn't blame him for leaving but he left us with her and he knew she was cray cray - bad cray cray. Anywho most of this scenario happened years ago and I did talk to him more often then but now, only about every few months, actually his memory isn't that great anymore so he never calls me, I call him. It's a short conversation and I did my duty. As with my mother, by the time I grew up, I really didn't have feelings toward either of these people - I was just used to taking care of myself. I guess that is what I learned. click to expand

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Although it has made you very strong, it's very sad to read 😥

When my grandmother passed over, I remember my dad saying "what a waste".....it broke my heart to hear and see that. She didn't know how to love him, her only son and it broke him for life

💔

God bless all of you that didn't receive the love you deserved....I want to give you all a big (((hug)))

😪

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My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

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to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach click to expand

I bet he does 🙄

How do you handle him?

Sorry what you went through.....people can be so bloody stupid at times....makes me very angry😡

When it first sort of happened, it was so weird I actually got emotional and didn't know why until later when I realized it was anger. I was able to let it go by distancing myself emotionally HA just the way he did - should I say he taught me well. But I do have a Cap Moon so it wasn't that hard. And my mother was a certified psycho and she and I had a horrible relationship. I didn't blame him for leaving but he left us with her and he knew she was cray cray - bad cray cray. Anywho most of this scenario happened years ago and I did talk to him more often then but now, only about every few months, actually his memory isn't that great anymore so he never calls me, I call him. It's a short conversation and I did my duty. As with my mother, by the time I grew up, I really didn't have feelings toward either of these people - I was just used to taking care of myself. I guess that is what I learned. click to expand

Although it has made you very strong, it's very sad to read 😥

When my grandmother passed over, I remember my dad saying "what a waste".....it broke my heart to hear and see that. She didn't know how to love him, her only son and it broke him for life

💔

God bless all of you that didn't receive the love you deserved....I want to give you all a big (((hug)))

😪

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It is interesting and I appreciate your feelings thank you - and yes, I have always envied those who have had good relationships with their parents. We were sheltered and fed well enough and that is something in these days and times. We had toys. It was the lack of interest, support, encouragement, etc. that I missed. It was the verbal, emotional and physical abuse from my cray cray mother that I never missed. It was the coldness and strangeness from my father that I never missed. But I made it ok and I was able to turn that around and love and raise my son into a great man. My son is a strong Leo Sun, Venus, Mercury and Rising - an Aqua Moon and Mars in Gemini – he is super smart but super chilled at the same time – everyone loves him so much because he has such a good spirit. I raised one son on my own in life and now have 3 beautiful grandsons that look like their father - so now I have 4 boys. And for all of that I am still thankful.

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach click to expand

I bet he does 🙄

How do you handle him?

Sorry what you went through.....people can be so bloody stupid at times....makes me very angry😡

When it first sort of happened, it was so weird I actually got emotional and didn't know why until later when I realized it was anger. I was able to let it go by distancing myself emotionally HA just the way he did - should I say he taught me well. But I do have a Cap Moon so it wasn't that hard. And my mother was a certified psycho and she and I had a horrible relationship. I didn't blame him for leaving but he left us with her and he knew she was cray cray - bad cray cray. Anywho most of this scenario happened years ago and I did talk to him more often then but now, only about every few months, actually his memory isn't that great anymore so he never calls me, I call him. It's a short conversation and I did my duty. As with my mother, by the time I grew up, I really didn't have feelings toward either of these people - I was just used to taking care of myself. I guess that is what I learned. click to expand

Although it has made you very strong, it's very sad to read 😥

When my grandmother passed over, I remember my dad saying "what a waste".....it broke my heart to hear and see that. She didn't know how to love him, her only son and it broke him for life

💔

God bless all of you that didn't receive the love you deserved....I want to give you all a big (((hug)))

😪

It is interesting and I appreciate your feelings thank you - and yes, I have always envied those who have had good relationships with their parents. We were sheltered and fed well enough and that is something in these days and times. We had toys. It was the lack of interest, support, encouragement, etc. that I missed. It was the verbal, emotional and physical abuse from my cray cray mother that I never missed. It was the coldness and strangeness from my father that I never missed. But I made it ok and I was able to turn that around and love and raise my son into a great man. My son is a strong Leo Sun, Venus, Mercury and Rising - an Aqua Moon and Mars in Gemini – he is super smart but super chilled at the same time – everyone loves him so much because he has such a good spirit. I raised one son on my own in life and now have 3 beautiful grandsons that look like their father - so now I have 4 boys. And for all of that I am still thankful.

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You did an amazing job mum and now gran!

You have four people in your life that love you very much ❤️

This is your good and well deserved karma 👍🙂👍

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Or both

My personal opinion from experience = not good


Aqua mom or dad I’ve seen seems to love significant other or the opposite sex , more than their kids ,

As if those relationship are more fulfilling to them than raising children

But that’s just my experience, what was yours

yeah, my Dad was an Aqua and I can say same click to expand

I really don't get parents that do this. On some level they are running away from a part of themselves. We are reflected in our children,

💙

to a degree yes but a lot of children decide they are not going to be like their parents and swing too far the other way which can in itself be damaging as well ... it's a conundrum - we were never given a manual on how to raise children - for the most part we were still trying to raise ourselves ... I think there's an entire section devoted to this at the Library click to expand

I was talking about parents running away from their kids and giving their love and attention to other people ....

my Dad divorced my mother, married again shortly after and that woman had kids, and then years later they got divorced and he married #3 who also had kids, meanwhile ignoring his own biological children and then #3 wife died, then #2, and then #1 so he's 88 and all alone and now wants to be chummy with us kids - that was a bit more than I could stomach click to expand

I bet he does 🙄

How do you handle him?

Sorry what you went through.....people can be so bloody stupid at times....makes me very angry😡

When it first sort of happened, it was so weird I actually got emotional and didn't know why until later when I realized it was anger. I was able to let it go by distancing myself emotionally HA just the way he did - should I say he taught me well. But I do have a Cap Moon so it wasn't that hard. And my mother was a certified psycho and she and I had a horrible relationship. I didn't blame him for leaving but he left us with her and he knew she was cray cray - bad cray cray. Anywho most of this scenario happened years ago and I did talk to him more often then but now, only about every few months, actually his memory isn't that great anymore so he never calls me, I call him. It's a short conversation and I did my duty. As with my mother, by the time I grew up, I really didn't have feelings toward either of these people - I was just used to taking care of myself. I guess that is what I learned. click to expand

Although it has made you very strong, it's very sad to read 😥

When my grandmother passed over, I remember my dad saying "what a waste".....it broke my heart to hear and see that. She didn't know how to love him, her only son and it broke him for life

💔

God bless all of you that didn't receive the love you deserved....I want to give you all a big (((hug)))

😪

It is interesting and I appreciate your feelings thank you - and yes, I have always envied those who have had good relationships with their parents. We were sheltered and fed well enough and that is something in these days and times. We had toys. It was the lack of interest, support, encouragement, etc. that I missed. It was the verbal, emotional and physical abuse from my cray cray mother that I never missed. It was the coldness and strangeness from my father that I never missed. But I made it ok and I was able to turn that around and love and raise my son into a great man. My son is a strong Leo Sun, Venus, Mercury and Rising - an Aqua Moon and Mars in Gemini – he is super smart but super chilled at the same time – everyone loves him so much because he has such a good spirit. I raised one son on my own in life and now have 3 beautiful grandsons that look like their father - so now I have 4 boys. And for all of that I am still thankful.

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You did an amazing job mum and now gran!

You have four people in your life that love you very much ❤️

This is your good and well deserved karma 👍🙂👍

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yeah! thanks!!!

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I don’t want to get into the reasons but it’s been a little bit difficult. Very involved yet very distant and doesn’t seem to care. Like will show others and brag about our acheievements but can’t just say, I’m proud of you directly. My sisters and I all feel the same. It’s weird, but she’s my Mom and I take care of her. Her health is not good so I feel bad even saying anything negative about her. She does her best. And actually, I can still always talk to her and she’ll listen and give me good advice. Will she ever admit she’s wrong? No. I don’t think I’ve ever heard a genuine apology out of her mouth. But I know she feels sorry sometimes. She’s very distant, but t I know family is everything to her.

It's one of the most humble things a parent can do to admit they're in the wrong. My mother never did....so I get where you're coming from. Imagine not being able to admit you aren't perfect....Jfc

My dad could always say "Sorry" and as a kid and teen that meant the world to me...luckily I followed his example

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Omg. And here I am dating aqua men. I dow onder about that as I got an aqua aunt who loves her hubby more than her kids. Another aqua aunt didnt have kids at all coz she didnt want to have her time split between her leo hubby and her.

BUT, my aqua ex is a good dad but not a good husband which is why he got separated. He was also always drunk. But i think he is a good person. The drinking was either because he is a stressed aqua or because he is British. I cant tell. And another Aqua aunt who is a single mum, she loves her son more than anything. Worked hard to give her son a good life. She wasnt always around tho because she had to work.

i wonder if it's because of the fixedity..they are either very good or very bad,

and the can only handle being a good parent or good wife/husband?

unless highly mutable...lol

highly cardinal....controlling. lmao

i'm highly mutable...and i think sometimes i'm chaotic and all over the place.

my husband really likes that though. and my son enjoys my company alot.

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Omg. And here I am dating aqua men. I dow onder about that as I got an aqua aunt who loves her hubby more than her kids. Another aqua aunt didnt have kids at all coz she didnt want to have her time split between her leo hubby and her.

BUT, my aqua ex is a good dad but not a good husband which is why he got separated. He was also always drunk. But i think he is a good person. The drinking was either because he is a stressed aqua or because he is British. I cant tell. And another Aqua aunt who is a single mum, she loves her son more than anything. Worked hard to give her son a good life. She wasnt always around tho because she had to work.

i wonder if it's because of the fixedity..they are either very good or very bad,

and the can only handle being a good parent or good wife/husband?

unless highly mutable...lol

highly cardinal....controlling. lmao

i'm highly mutable...and i think sometimes i'm chaotic and all over the place.

my husband really likes that though. and my son enjoys my company alot. click to expand

I dunno. I kinda dont want to blame it on the sign. But then i am biased because aquas around me didnt show signs or extreme signs of negative traits. I havent met an abusive one yet and i dont wish to meet any. It will make me sad.... click to expand

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trust me there are some out there..... scary.

but there are many of every sign/birthday. just like serial killers and shooters who go cray.

My father was an Aquarius and he was great. Very loving and caring.

All the aquarius fathers I know, they are amazing fathers. Playful, caring, loving. Super devoted parents.

The aqua mothers I know they are very caring too.

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Omg. And here I am dating aqua men. I dow onder about that as I got an aqua aunt who loves her hubby more than her kids. Another aqua aunt didnt have kids at all coz she didnt want to have her time split between her leo hubby and her.

BUT, my aqua ex is a good dad but not a good husband which is why he got separated. He was also always drunk. But i think he is a good person. The drinking was either because he is a stressed aqua or because he is British. I cant tell. And another Aqua aunt who is a single mum, she loves her son more than anything. Worked hard to give her son a good life. She wasnt always around tho because she had to work.

i wonder if it's because of the fixedity..they are either very good or very bad,

and the can only handle being a good parent or good wife/husband?

unless highly mutable...lol

highly cardinal....controlling. lmao

i'm highly mutable...and i think sometimes i'm chaotic and all over the place.

my husband really likes that though. and my son enjoys my company alot. click to expand

I dunno. I kinda dont want to blame it on the sign. But then i am biased because aquas around me didnt show signs or extreme signs of negative traits. I havent met an abusive one yet and i dont wish to meet any. It will make me sad.... click to expand

trust me there are some out there..... scary.

but there are many of every sign/birthday. just like serial killers and shooters who go cray. click to expand

Im curious about gemini parents because well, geminis are mutable and we cant be tied down so i wonder how we provide stability to our kids or if we actually can. Do we stay in one city for too long? Do we travel a lot as a family? Are we chaotic in the home? Are our bills paid on time? Lol its been lurking in my head for a while. My scorp mum was very good at keeping us grounded despite moving from one city to another coz she controlled everything and made sure we are ok (thats even if we dont see eye to eye all the time. We fight a lot believe me lol). Shes very hard to match. click to expand

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i'm earthy too though, so i'm grounded as well. but i think it comes out more that i am scheduled and have responsibility. and i can easily commit. if i say i'm gonna do something i do it. i dont like to say i'm gonna do something and then dont follow through. that's something i cant and won't do. If i know i wont do it and have doubts i wont even commit to it.

my husband is also like that, very very reliable. I love that. everyone can count on him in the family and close friends.

as for gemini ...i think u guys do well in life, many of u have great relationships i've seen. i think too it depends on chart and upbringing. i like that u guys are very very co-operative and really love kindness in people.