Deedee86
@Deedee86
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My Libra ex tried to make it better
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Wow... Didya at least tell him wtf happened?
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Please talk to him if you want this relationship.
Please. If that's fairy tale it has to happen and it sounds like a one. We barely know each other but I would
be so happy for you.
Please. If that's fairy tale it has to happen and it sounds like a one. We barely know each other but I would
be so happy for you.
Oooo, bad girl. That would piss me off enough to not want to speak to you for a really long time.
I'd probably cry into my pillow a little, too.
I'd probably cry into my pillow a little, too.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wow... Didya at least tell him wtf happened?
I did send him a message about an hour before but he didn't check until he got back. He posted some sappy message about waiting an hour but I didn't show. That's how I knew that he left flowers.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
Posted by sultrykitty
Oooo, bad girl. That would piss me off enough to not want to speak to you for a really long time.
I'd probably cry into my pillow a little, too.
For the record though, he has not been very good this past year. He has went months without speaking to me and changed his number almost a year ago and has been only communicating with me by infrequent emails and fb posts. Not even messenger.....he posts things! I'm his only friend so I know they are for me. He doesn't use fb, he made the account years ago to communicate with me when I was out of the country.
But I always knew that he still loved me. He always said it, even when that was all he said. I was looking forward to that moment when he finally made a gesture and things got back to normal. That was it, and I missed it.
Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
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Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
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There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
I am a Libra too. I don't get attached so easily. Males may be worse. Moody at times, yet afraid of showing vulnerability. But they do want to have full contact with whom they care about. Depression included. I have my support from my Aquarius man. Keep all my lines open for him only. Replenish my energy from his presence and the reverse. When you are into someone, you don't hide. Not accepting help is because he makes him feel vulnerable and because he want him to be a man in your eyes. There may be something that keeps him guarded. I don't know, you have a long history with him, so you should know better.
Posted by LibracookieI told him that I would be there today. He didn't respond or show up.
Oh no that's so sad. 😢
Hope you guys can make it work.
I guess that all I can do is wait. That's what I've been doing for a year now.
It makes me feel better knowing that he tried. Even though I wasn't there to receive it, the gesture means a lot.
Posted by Deedee86Why didn't you text him and tell him you couldn't show up. Your story doesn't seem believable. I think you are making this up. Someone would have found the flowers and took them. This story sounds like bul shyt.
But I didn't show.
We were supposed to meet at 10am, at our park. When we were together we used to meet there all the time. It was a convenient spot between work and our houses. We would go for a walk or just talk for a few minutes during the day.
Two weeks ago, we agreed to meet today. I hadn't heard from him since.
I was planning on showing up but my grandpa called me from the emergency room at 7am so I went there instead. I honestly didn't even think that my Libra would show up today.
But he did. With a dozen roses. He left them on a picnic table. I found them at 1pm.
I was dreaming of that moment and I ruined it by not showing up.
Hopefully he will forgive me.
Posted by GoodtimesYeah yeah yeahPosted by Deedee86Why didn't you text him and tell him you couldn't show up. Your story doesn't seem believable. I think you are making this up. Someone would have found the flowers and took them. This story sounds like bul shyt.
But I didn't show.
We were supposed to meet at 10am, at our park. When we were together we used to meet there all the time. It was a convenient spot between work and our houses. We would go for a walk or just talk for a few minutes during the day.
Two weeks ago, we agreed to meet today. I hadn't heard from him since.
I was planning on showing up but my grandpa called me from the emergency room at 7am so I went there instead. I honestly didn't even think that my Libra would show up today.
But he did. With a dozen roses. He left them on a picnic table. I found them at 1pm.
I was dreaming of that moment and I ruined it by not showing up.
Hopefully he will forgive me.
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I have nothing better to do than post made up stories to message boards.
Seriously though, I have been crying about this guy on here forever especially when he changed his number last summer. I would love to text him. All I have is his email and his fb that he uses just for me. I did message him that way.
And nobody took the flowers. It is off season and a desolate park. With the exception of weekends and summer, the place is empty.
I knew they were there because he left a fb post telling me that he waited over an hour and then left them there. He even told me what picnic area he left them in. I drove there after I dropped my grandfather off and found them.
If I were going to bullshit, I would make it much more exciting and make myself sound much less pathetic.
I am admitting that the man I love will not give me his phone number. That's pretty damn pathetic.
You have NOTHING to feel bad about. You did what you could. You've been heartbroken over this guy for months/years because he refuses to get the help he obviously needs. You can't force him to do this either. I understand you care about him, but there's really nothing you can do for this guy. He needs professional help. He also needs to realize this and start taking some responsible action toward his own well being.
If you were THAT important to him, he wouldn't communicate with you solely through Facebook posts (seriously not even FB messenger or texts?). This isn't The Notebook, this is real life. What does he expect to happen when he doesn't give you an efficient way to contact him?
Life happens after all. I'm still trying to figure out why he HE didn't call YOU once he got your message. I'm assuming he still has your number right? I'm just having a hard time feeling bad for a guy (depressed or not) who has made it THAT difficult to communicate with him. What if YOU were in the emergency room? This guy just sounds way too self absorbed.
You had a family emergency that you needed to handle. Period. No on can fault you for that. This whole situation just seems unhealthy and oddly codependent. He needs to seek professional medical help and you need to bolster your esteem and find a guy who will thoroughly appreciate you.
If you were THAT important to him, he wouldn't communicate with you solely through Facebook posts (seriously not even FB messenger or texts?). This isn't The Notebook, this is real life. What does he expect to happen when he doesn't give you an efficient way to contact him?
Life happens after all. I'm still trying to figure out why he HE didn't call YOU once he got your message. I'm assuming he still has your number right? I'm just having a hard time feeling bad for a guy (depressed or not) who has made it THAT difficult to communicate with him. What if YOU were in the emergency room? This guy just sounds way too self absorbed.
You had a family emergency that you needed to handle. Period. No on can fault you for that. This whole situation just seems unhealthy and oddly codependent. He needs to seek professional medical help and you need to bolster your esteem and find a guy who will thoroughly appreciate you.
Posted by Chuckcem
You have NOTHING to feel bad about. You did what you could. You've been heartbroken over this guy for months/years because he refuses to get the help he obviously needs. You can't force him to do this either. I understand you care about him, but there's really nothing you can do for this guy. He needs professional help. He also needs to realize this and start taking some responsible action toward his own well being.
If you were THAT important to him, he wouldn't communicate with you solely through Facebook posts (seriously not even FB messenger or texts?). This isn't The Notebook, this is real life. What does he expect to happen when he doesn't give you an efficient way to contact him?
Life happens after all. I'm still trying to figure out why he HE didn't call YOU once he got your message. I'm assuming he still has your number right? I'm just having a hard time feeling bad for a guy (depressed or not) who has made it THAT difficult to communicate with him. What if YOU were in the emergency room? This guy just sounds way too self absorbed.
You had a family emergency that you needed to handle. Period. No on can fault you for that. This whole situation just seems unhealthy and oddly codependent. He needs to seek professional medical help and you need to bolster your esteem and find a guy who will thoroughly appreciate you.
Thank you. I do appreciate your words. My brain knows all of this but my heart is just still so heavy.
We were so good for so long and then it just all went to hell. I'm having a hard time accepting it. Part of me wishes that he just told me that it was over or to leave him alone so I could let it go but he won't do that. He still tells me that he loves me and that he is trying to get better so we can get back to how it was. So I still have faith in him and still hold on. Everytime I take a step away he gives me just enough hope to bring me back.
Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)click to expand
Posted by Chuckcem
You have NOTHING to feel bad about. You did what you could. You've been heartbroken over this guy for months/years because he refuses to get the help he obviously needs. You can't force him to do this either. I understand you care about him, but there's really nothing you can do for this guy. He needs professional help. He also needs to realize this and start taking some responsible action toward his own well being.
If you were THAT important to him, he wouldn't communicate with you solely through Facebook posts (seriously not even FB messenger or texts?). This isn't The Notebook, this is real life. What does he expect to happen when he doesn't give you an efficient way to contact him?
Life happens after all. I'm still trying to figure out why he HE didn't call YOU once he got your message. I'm assuming he still has your number right? I'm just having a hard time feeling bad for a guy (depressed or not) who has made it THAT difficult to communicate with him. What if YOU were in the emergency room? This guy just sounds way too self absorbed.
You had a family emergency that you needed to handle. Period. No on can fault you for that. This whole situation just seems unhealthy and oddly codependent. He needs to seek professional medical help and you need to bolster your esteem and find a guy who will thoroughly appreciate you.
My sentiments exactly.
Posted by 2MoonPosted by compyI guess that its easier for Libra women / women in general.
I am a Libra too. I don't get attached so easily. Males may be worse. Moody at times, yet afraid of showing vulnerability. But they do want to have full contact with whom they care about. Depression included. I have my support from my Aquarius man. Keep all my lines open for him only. Replenish my energy from his presence and the reverse. When you are into someone, you don't hide. Not accepting help is because he makes him feel vulnerable and because he want him to be a man in your eyes. There may be something that keeps him guarded. I don't know, you have a long history with him, so you should know better.
"When you are into someone, you don't hide."
Its hard for a man to show that he is vulnerable and weak. ( even harder for Libra men )
We were taught to be strong and a man. To don't cry, to be respected and admired. Like a superhero..
As I said it, its even harder for a Libra man because he is a perfectionist and hates to display his emotions..
Edit: a man can't be seen as a weak person. We have double standards, pressure from our peers and society.
You have to be the sh*t!! But you can't be a sh*t.click to expand
But you wouldn't say this guy's behavior is typical for a dude, would you? I wouldn't. This goes beyond guarding his feelings a little bit so he doesn't seem weak.
Posted by Bricks195Posted by 2MoonPosted by compyI guess that its easier for Libra women / women in general.
I am a Libra too. I don't get attached so easily. Males may be worse. Moody at times, yet afraid of showing vulnerability. But they do want to have full contact with whom they care about. Depression included. I have my support from my Aquarius man. Keep all my lines open for him only. Replenish my energy from his presence and the reverse. When you are into someone, you don't hide. Not accepting help is because he makes him feel vulnerable and because he want him to be a man in your eyes. There may be something that keeps him guarded. I don't know, you have a long history with him, so you should know better.
"When you are into someone, you don't hide."
Its hard for a man to show that he is vulnerable and weak. ( even harder for Libra men )
We were taught to be strong and a man. To don't cry, to be respected and admired. Like a superhero..
As I said it, its even harder for a Libra man because he is a perfectionist and hates to display his emotions..
Edit: a man can't be seen as a weak person. We have double standards, pressure from our peers and society.
You have to be the sh*t!! But you can't be a sh*t.
But you wouldn't say this guy's behavior is typical for a dude, would you? I wouldn't. This goes beyond guarding his feelings a little bit so he doesn't seem weak.
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He is sick. I understand that and I cut him a lot slack. But it's also because I love him.
Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
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Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Sounds like me..
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
It's really devastating for the one you leave behind.
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
you too ? my other Libra was like this ... then he wants to come back after almost a year ? wow - I couldn't deal with that but you said you didn't go that long ... and I hope you at least let your partner know where your head is at - that part I could deal with because I don't have to have someone up my kazoo all day long every day - if I know you need space and that I'll see you soon when you feel better - it's yours - if I can help at all please let me help even if it's just to listen which I do well - I can always provide point of views, options, etc. but the Libra has to be the one that turns his own wheel ... it can't be forced ... IMHO
Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.click to expand
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
I wouldn't like to be in your place.
Are you gonna do something about it?
You should kick his ass and tell him how you feel about your situation.
Its (very) needed to be firm and real with some Libras. (including me.)
A good kick in the ass to Wake up and be a man.
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Right now, I'm just going to take baby steps. The flowers was a huge gesture. I'm sorry that I missed it.
Once he gets his head better, I will address it. I don't want to put pressure on him and hurt his progress.
Posted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
I wouldn't like to be in your place.
Are you gonna do something about it?
You should kick his ass and tell him how you feel about your situation.
Its (very) needed to be firm and real with some Libras. (including me.)
A good kick in the ass to Wake up and be a man.
Right now, I'm just going to take baby steps. The flowers was a huge gesture. I'm sorry that I missed it.
Once he gets his head better, I will address it. I don't want to put pressure on him and hurt his progress.
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I really don't want to be a dick, but something about this situation that seems to be getting overlooked is that, even if this guy has problems-whatever that entails-he is making conscious decisions to put you through some crap. Only the most screwed up among us have no control over their actions. Is it possible that he could do you better than this, but he just isn't trying that hard?
I don't have first-hand knowledge of this guy or your history with him, but from my vantage point, it looks like-professional help or no professional help-he could make this easier on you. And if he truly can't, if he really is so troubled that he can't handle a relationship, what's the best outcome you could reasonably expect?
Posted by Bricks195Posted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
I wouldn't like to be in your place.
Are you gonna do something about it?
You should kick his ass and tell him how you feel about your situation.
Its (very) needed to be firm and real with some Libras. (including me.)
A good kick in the ass to Wake up and be a man.
Right now, I'm just going to take baby steps. The flowers was a huge gesture. I'm sorry that I missed it.
Once he gets his head better, I will address it. I don't want to put pressure on him and hurt his progress.
I really don't want to be a dick, but something about this situation that seems to be getting overlooked is that, even if this guy has problems-whatever that entails-he is making conscious decisions to put you through some crap. Only the most screwed up among us have no control over their actions. Is it possible that he could do you better than this, but he just isn't trying that hard?
I don't have first-hand knowledge of this guy or your history with him, but from my vantage point, it looks like-professional help or no professional help-he could make this easier on you. And if he truly can't, if he really is so troubled that he can't handle a relationship, what's the best outcome you could reasonably expect?
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I understand what you are saying. I have told myself the same thing many times.
He's the type that feels pressure and falls apart. He doesn't see options.
We've been through these episodes before. In 2012 he disappeared and returned a few months later like we were never apart. He couldn't understand why I was so hurt.
There have been smaller episodes where he shut down from the rest of the world but stayed close to me.
His father passing away was the catalyst of this current episode which is the worst I have ever seen. There were other things concerning finances and his child's mother but his father really hit him hard.
Posted by 2Moonreally ? I didn't think Libra would take it like that - a demanding woman ? hmmmmmPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
I wouldn't like to be in your place.
Are you gonna do something about it?
You should kick his ass and tell him how you feel about your situation.
Its (very) needed to be firm and real with some Libras. (including me.)
A good kick in the ass to Wake up and be a man.
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Posted by Deedee86wow - so very sensitive to life and yet not sensitive enough to understand how you could feel - does he have a touch of aspergers or something perhaps ? what are his other placements ?Posted by Bricks195Posted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
I wouldn't like to be in your place.
Are you gonna do something about it?
You should kick his ass and tell him how you feel about your situation.
Its (very) needed to be firm and real with some Libras. (including me.)
A good kick in the ass to Wake up and be a man.
Right now, I'm just going to take baby steps. The flowers was a huge gesture. I'm sorry that I missed it.
Once he gets his head better, I will address it. I don't want to put pressure on him and hurt his progress.
I really don't want to be a dick, but something about this situation that seems to be getting overlooked is that, even if this guy has problems-whatever that entails-he is making conscious decisions to put you through some crap. Only the most screwed up among us have no control over their actions. Is it possible that he could do you better than this, but he just isn't trying that hard?
I don't have first-hand knowledge of this guy or your history with him, but from my vantage point, it looks like-professional help or no professional help-he could make this easier on you. And if he truly can't, if he really is so troubled that he can't handle a relationship, what's the best outcome you could reasonably expect?
I understand what you are saying. I have told myself the same thing many times.
He's the type that feels pressure and falls apart. He doesn't see options.
We've been through these episodes before. In 2012 he disappeared and returned a few months later like we were never apart. He couldn't understand why I was so hurt.
There have been smaller episodes where he shut down from the rest of the world but stayed close to me.
His father passing away was the catalyst of this current episode which is the worst I have ever seen. There were other things concerning finances and his child's mother but his father really hit him hard.
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Posted by tctaNo but he had a bad accident 25 years ago and has severe PTSD. He's been through a lot.Posted by Deedee86wow - so very sensitive to life and yet not sensitive enough to understand how you could feel - does he have a touch of aspergers or something perhaps ? what are his other placements ?Posted by Bricks195Posted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86(Is this ex the Libra or another person?)Posted by 2MoonPosted by Deedee86Posted by 2MoonIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by Deedee86Sounds like me..Posted by compyThere is 6+ years of history there. I've bored DXP with the details many many times. We were great for awhile, he got depressed and ran away, came back and we had a few really good years and then he fell back into depression.Posted by Deedee86Why not? Ask for it. Especially after this incident, reach for him and state that it is important to be able to communicate unpredicted events. It is a matter of trust and interest, a matter of respect. It removes overthinking. Dating should be open, like a friendship, not to be hidden against shyness. Dating is not a game. Dating is to build up a future together. There is no future without openness.Posted by compyThat would've been easy. Last year, a few months after we broke up, he changed his number and I still don't have the new one.
Omg! You have phones, damn it! You should have called him to cancel it. Why is it so difficult to communicate?
There is no dating or shyness. He gets sick and runs away from the world. He doesn't accept help. He just runs further away. I tried to move on, I tried to forget him. I can't. We have this attachment, even when we don't have any contact for months.
I will have his number again. He changed it on me a few years ago too. When his head clears, things will get back to normal.
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
Communication is key. Instead of keeping thing bottled up and facing them alone try trusting someone else to face them with you.
When my ex did open up and tell me what was bothering him, he always felt better afterwards. When he was having financial problems he started pulling away and I kept questioning him. He finally confessed that he had been avoiding me because he was stressed and ashamed. Just getting that weight off his chest and telling someone made him feel 100 times lighter.
Even now, I know that I have no cure for ptsd and depression, but I think that if he just talked to me and let it all out he would feel a bit better. At least not so alone.
Did you support him all the time when he talked to you?! If that's the case, he is lucky to have you.
But not everyone is lucky...
You just can't trust everyone.
Can't just open your heart like that to everyone.
That's too dangerous and scary in 2017!
Sometimes we are ashamed, sometimes stressed and sometimes scared of rejection.
Communicating and opening means 2 things: Support or Rejection.
Some people are so scared of rejection that they don't even try... Or reject themselves before someone else rejects them..
I don't want to defend him. I know what he is doing is bad and that he is hurting you.
I'm just trying to show you and explain why we do this...
What works for me is that I became very selective when I am looking for someone / in relationships..
And I share some little things here and there before I get too invested-attached emotionally in that relationship..
I test them and our bond before to share something much more intimate.
It makes it easier after that to open up and be real with my partner when I know that I can trust her.
Yes, this is my ex and I've always supported him.
It's strange because even with all of this nonsense like silence and changing his number, I always know that he loves me. He pops up from time to time just to say that and nothing else.
I also have never doubted his faithfulness. I'm confident that he only wants me.
I tell myself that I will move on but I never can and doubt that I ever will. I get mad and fed up and the silence and then he swoops in and gives me just enough to keep me around.
I wouldn't like to be in your place.
Are you gonna do something about it?
You should kick his ass and tell him how you feel about your situation.
Its (very) needed to be firm and real with some Libras. (including me.)
A good kick in the ass to Wake up and be a man.
Right now, I'm just going to take baby steps. The flowers was a huge gesture. I'm sorry that I missed it.
Once he gets his head better, I will address it. I don't want to put pressure on him and hurt his progress.
I really don't want to be a dick, but something about this situation that seems to be getting overlooked is that, even if this guy has problems-whatever that entails-he is making conscious decisions to put you through some crap. Only the most screwed up among us have no control over their actions. Is it possible that he could do you better than this, but he just isn't trying that hard?
I don't have first-hand knowledge of this guy or your history with him, but from my vantage point, it looks like-professional help or no professional help-he could make this easier on you. And if he truly can't, if he really is so troubled that he can't handle a relationship, what's the best outcome you could reasonably expect?
I understand what you are saying. I have told myself the same thing many times.
He's the type that feels pressure and falls apart. He doesn't see options.
We've been through these episodes before. In 2012 he disappeared and returned a few months later like we were never apart. He couldn't understand why I was so hurt.
There have been smaller episodes where he shut down from the rest of the world but stayed close to me.
His father passing away was the catalyst of this current episode which is the worst I have ever seen. There were other things concerning finances and his child's mother but his father really hit him hard.
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This last year he's been talking about voices in his head and insisting that someone put a curse on him.
He's very Libra dominant.
Sun, Mars, Uranus and Pluto are Libra
Moon and Jupiter in Cap
Venus in Virgo
Not 100% sure but think Scorpio rising
Posted by Deedee86Well if he means it, he needs to go seek professional help. Depression is no small thing. It's not something a person can run from or shrug off. It's a serious condition. Running away like he's been doing shows no real sign of progress. If he were an alcoholic or a drug addict, he'd undoubtedly need to seek help.Posted by Chuckcem
You have NOTHING to feel bad about. You did what you could. You've been heartbroken over this guy for months/years because he refuses to get the help he obviously needs. You can't force him to do this either. I understand you care about him, but there's really nothing you can do for this guy. He needs professional help. He also needs to realize this and start taking some responsible action toward his own well being.
If you were THAT important to him, he wouldn't communicate with you solely through Facebook posts (seriously not even FB messenger or texts?). This isn't The Notebook, this is real life. What does he expect to happen when he doesn't give you an efficient way to contact him?
Life happens after all. I'm still trying to figure out why he HE didn't call YOU once he got your message. I'm assuming he still has your number right? I'm just having a hard time feeling bad for a guy (depressed or not) who has made it THAT difficult to communicate with him. What if YOU were in the emergency room? This guy just sounds way too self absorbed.
You had a family emergency that you needed to handle. Period. No on can fault you for that. This whole situation just seems unhealthy and oddly codependent. He needs to seek professional medical help and you need to bolster your esteem and find a guy who will thoroughly appreciate you.
Thank you. I do appreciate your words. My brain knows all of this but my heart is just still so heavy.
We were so good for so long and then it just all went to hell. I'm having a hard time accepting it. Part of me wishes that he just told me that it was over or to leave him alone so I could let it go but he won't do that. He still tells me that he loves me and that he is trying to get better so we can get back to how it was. So I still have faith in him and still hold on. Everytime I take a step away he gives me just enough hope to bring me back.
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Until he starts taking serious steps to getting better, you'll need to let him know that you can't put your life on hold anymore. This will be his "intervention" of sorts. He needs to start making an effort and stop running away if we wants to continue being the man in your life.
Meanwhile you need to get back to rebuilding yourself. This guy clearly has done a number on your psyche and your emotions. This simply isn't fair to you. You deserve better.
wow - so very sensitive to life and yet not sensitive enough to understand how you could feel - does he have a touch of aspergers or something perhaps ? what are his other placements ?
No but he had a bad accident 25 years ago and has severe PTSD. He's been through a lot.
This last year he's been talking about voices in his head and insisting that someone put a curse on him.
He's very Libra dominant.
Sun, Mars, Uranus and Pluto are Libra
Moon and Jupiter in Cap
Venus in Virgo
Not 100% sure but think Scorpio rising
wow, he's got some mental imbalance problems and it gets worse the longer it goes untreated ... good luck with all of that - more power to you both
really ? I didn't think Libra would take it like that - a demanding woman ? hmmmmm
Noo! Hell no! No demanding woman...
This is not demanding. This is different.
What I'm trying to say is more like a check up.
its you, checking his priorities. like if you were reminding him of his behavior
A Libra could hurt people, but its because he is not aware of what he is doing.
He could do bad things but can't be bad.
Its just not in his dna. He just don't want to be that bad guy. He wants to be liked and accepted..
Unless he is an edgy modafacka... 😆
Soo yah, you have to kick his ass if you see that he is acting weird. To Remind him that he is acting like a retard and that its not FAIR.
Libra are the scales / justice after all.
We are not always fair and balanced to be honest, but this is our goal. our aim
I got you lol - I didn't think so on the demanding part - I know Libra doesn't fly that way lol ...
Posted by Deedee86Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wow... Didya at least tell him wtf happened?
I did send him a message about an hour before but he didn't check until he got back. He posted some sappy message about waiting an hour but I didn't show. That's how I knew that he left flowers.
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This thread doesn't make any sense. There are just too many inconsistencies with this story. So you were supposed to meet at 10: 00 a.m., and you texted him at 9: 00 a.m., but he didn't check his texts until 11: 00 a.m.? He was supposed to meet somebody in a public place and he has flowers in his hands and he didn't check his texts? That sounds well a little well....?
So he sent you a sappy message about waiting an hour because he didn't read the text that you sent an hour before?
Girl, we love you DeeDee but this just doesn't add up. How about that? I'll be nice today.
Girl, we love you DeeDee but this just doesn't add up. How about that? I'll be nice today.
Posted by tctaSounds like me..
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
It's really devastating for the one you leave behind.
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
you too ? my other Libra was like this ... then he wants to come back after almost a year ? wow - I couldn't deal with that but you said you didn't go that long ... and I hope you at least let your partner know where your head is at - that part I could deal with because I don't have to have someone up my kazoo all day long every day - if I know you need space and that I'll see you soon when you feel better - it's yours - if I can help at all please let me help even if it's just to listen which I do well - I can always provide point of views, options, etc. but the Libra has to be the one that turns his own wheel ... it can't be forced ... IMHO
Libras will always return to their Taurus.
Posted by ShrewdsharpPosted by Deedee86Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wow... Didya at least tell him wtf happened?
I did send him a message about an hour before but he didn't check until he got back. He posted some sappy message about waiting an hour but I didn't show. That's how I knew that he left flowers.
This thread doesn't make any sense. There are just too many inconsistencies with this story. So you were supposed to meet at 10: 00 a.m., and you texted him at 9: 00 a.m., but he didn't check his texts until 11: 00 a.m.? He was supposed to meet somebody in a public place and he has flowers in his hands and he didn't check his texts? That sounds well a little well....?
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You can get all CSI on my story but it is what it is.
And a good detective would notice that there were no texts involved.
Posted by ShrewdsharpIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by tctaSounds like me..
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
you too ? my other Libra was like this ... then he wants to come back after almost a year ? wow - I couldn't deal with that but you said you didn't go that long ... and I hope you at least let your partner know where your head is at - that part I could deal with because I don't have to have someone up my kazoo all day long every day - if I know you need space and that I'll see you soon when you feel better - it's yours - if I can help at all please let me help even if it's just to listen which I do well - I can always provide point of views, options, etc. but the Libra has to be the one that turns his own wheel ... it can't be forced ... IMHO
Libras will always return to their Taurus.
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awwwww
I have always been pretty open on here about who I am and where I'm coming from. Maybe too open. I definitely share more on DXP than I do in real life. I realize that a few people are doubting my story. That's fine. But if I were to make up stories, I would make myself come off a lot better than this.
There's a reason why I don't discuss personal issues in real life. Its embarrassing.
There's a reason why I don't discuss personal issues in real life. Its embarrassing.
I'm gonna (sort of) take back what I said back on the first page. Was not aware of your history and his erratic behavior.
You weren't being bad, if in fact you contacted him prior to the meeting. If he didn't see it until after, too bad for him.
Sounds like he isn't coping well, maybe it's understandable but it's not healthy. Do you really want or need that in your life?
If you really want to be a helper, you're going to have to leave out any thoughts of rekindling a relationship and really just try to be a friend.
You weren't being bad, if in fact you contacted him prior to the meeting. If he didn't see it until after, too bad for him.
Sounds like he isn't coping well, maybe it's understandable but it's not healthy. Do you really want or need that in your life?
If you really want to be a helper, you're going to have to leave out any thoughts of rekindling a relationship and really just try to be a friend.
Posted by Deedee86Posted by ShrewdsharpPosted by Deedee86Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wow... Didya at least tell him wtf happened?
I did send him a message about an hour before but he didn't check until he got back. He posted some sappy message about waiting an hour but I didn't show. That's how I knew that he left flowers.
This thread doesn't make any sense. There are just too many inconsistencies with this story. So you were supposed to meet at 10: 00 a.m., and you texted him at 9: 00 a.m., but he didn't check his texts until 11: 00 a.m.? He was supposed to meet somebody in a public place and he has flowers in his hands and he didn't check his texts? That sounds well a little well....?
You can get all CSI on my story but it is what it is.
And a good detective would notice that there were no texts involved.
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Yeah okay....I will be nice. Don't push it.
Posted by tctaPosted by ShrewdsharpIt's really devastating for the one you leave behind.Posted by tctaSounds like me..
Its something that I tend to do too...
I disappear and distance myself when I am depressed / have some issues in my life
(I'm working on this problem)
😢
my hands are tied...
Do you have solutions? 🙂
Please share with me / the other Libros and also your Libra.
A Libra is always ready to change and evolve for the best. We are pleasers, we will try anything to make you happy.
you too ? my other Libra was like this ... then he wants to come back after almost a year ? wow - I couldn't deal with that but you said you didn't go that long ... and I hope you at least let your partner know where your head is at - that part I could deal with because I don't have to have someone up my kazoo all day long every day - if I know you need space and that I'll see you soon when you feel better - it's yours - if I can help at all please let me help even if it's just to listen which I do well - I can always provide point of views, options, etc. but the Libra has to be the one that turns his own wheel ... it can't be forced ... IMHO
Libras will always return to their Taurus.
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It's true. ☺
We met today. It's the first time that I have seen his face in 11 months. The spark is still there.
He is definitely not right though. I can tell by looking at him. He's unshaven and unkempt and was wearing fleece pajama bottoms. I never thought I would ever witness him wearing pajamas in public.
He was a bit disoriented and forgot things but I still saw the old him in his eyes. They still shined at me.
He is definitely not right though. I can tell by looking at him. He's unshaven and unkempt and was wearing fleece pajama bottoms. I never thought I would ever witness him wearing pajamas in public.
He was a bit disoriented and forgot things but I still saw the old him in his eyes. They still shined at me.
Posted by 2MoonWe are back together and doing well. I've been a little busy lately so we've only seen each other a few times since but it's good.Posted by Deedee86update? 🙂
We met today. It's the first time that I have seen his face in 11 months. The spark is still there.
He is definitely not right though. I can tell by looking at him. He's unshaven and unkempt and was wearing fleece pajama bottoms. I never thought I would ever witness him wearing pajamas in public.
He was a bit disoriented and forgot things but I still saw the old him in his eyes. They still shined at me.click to expand
He's not 100% but he's working on getting better.
Posted by Deedee86He will forgive you
But I didn't show.
We were supposed to meet at 10am, at our park. When we were together we used to meet there all the time. It was a convenient spot between work and our houses. We would go for a walk or just talk for a few minutes during the day.
Two weeks ago, we agreed to meet today. I hadn't heard from him since.
I was planning on showing up but my grandpa called me from the emergency room at 7am so I went there instead. I honestly didn't even think that my Libra would show up today.
But he did. With a dozen roses. He left them on a picnic table. I found them at 1pm.
I was dreaming of that moment and I ruined it by not showing up.
Hopefully he will forgive me.
They always do
They love the rejection part
Believe it or not an apology and time works wonders
Posted by Deedee86You have a serious pattern with men, dude. Break that shit. I wouldn't even feel sorry about missing it if I were you. Yeah, it's sucky and yeah you're going to feel a bit guilty, but given the history, I wouldn't feel TOO terrible. Your grandpa > some dick who treated you like shit.Posted by sultrykitty
Oooo, bad girl. That would piss me off enough to not want to speak to you for a really long time.
I'd probably cry into my pillow a little, too.
For the record though, he has not been very good this past year. He has went months without speaking to me and changed his number almost a year ago and has been only communicating with me by infrequent emails and fb posts. Not even messenger.....he posts things! I'm his only friend so I know they are for me. He doesn't use fb, he made the account years ago to communicate with me when I was out of the country.
But I always knew that he still loved me. He always said it, even when that was all he said. I was looking forward to that moment when he finally made a gesture and things got back to normal. That was it, and I missed it.
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The gesture is nice, but it's clearly meant to manipulate you back into letting him off the hook. These guys know how to manipulate you and you fall for it. If he truly meant it without any strings, why was he whining about waiting an hour? The second he knew you were at the ER for your grandpa, all whining goes out the window. You had a legit reason.
"Wah poor me, I waited."
Eff off, you POS. Jesus. Who does that?
Edit-Dammit, I just realized how old this thread was. Nvm. You're still doing your save a loser thing.
Hope you don't get bit in the ass again with this douche. You need to remember you are not a qualified therapist. You need some serious therapy yourself because you love keeping people like this in your life. "Oh I can SAVE them!!"
No.
Posted by Deedee86It's not your heart doing the thinking, it's your vagina. You get off on being Mistress Save a Loser.Posted by Chuckcem
You have NOTHING to feel bad about. You did what you could. You've been heartbroken over this guy for months/years because he refuses to get the help he obviously needs. You can't force him to do this either. I understand you care about him, but there's really nothing you can do for this guy. He needs professional help. He also needs to realize this and start taking some responsible action toward his own well being.
If you were THAT important to him, he wouldn't communicate with you solely through Facebook posts (seriously not even FB messenger or texts?). This isn't The Notebook, this is real life. What does he expect to happen when he doesn't give you an efficient way to contact him?
Life happens after all. I'm still trying to figure out why he HE didn't call YOU once he got your message. I'm assuming he still has your number right? I'm just having a hard time feeling bad for a guy (depressed or not) who has made it THAT difficult to communicate with him. What if YOU were in the emergency room? This guy just sounds way too self absorbed.
You had a family emergency that you needed to handle. Period. No on can fault you for that. This whole situation just seems unhealthy and oddly codependent. He needs to seek professional medical help and you need to bolster your esteem and find a guy who will thoroughly appreciate you.
Thank you. I do appreciate your words. My brain knows all of this but my heart is just still so heavy.
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So roses ? sat at a park for 3 hours and nobody took them?? I find that hard to believe.
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So roses ? sat at a park for 3 hours and nobody took them?? I find that hard to believe.
If you saw the park you wouldn't.
It's empty except on weekends and in the summer.
I live in a rural area.
And like I said weeks ago when I made this post, if I was going to make things up I would make myself look less pathetic.
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We were supposed to meet at 10am, at our park. When we were together we used to meet there all the time. It was a convenient spot between work and our houses. We would go for a walk or just talk for a few minutes during the day.
Two weeks ago, we agreed to meet today. I hadn't heard from him since.
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But he did. With a dozen roses. He left them on a picnic table. I found them at 1pm.
I was dreaming of that moment and I ruined it by not showing up.
Hopefully he will forgive me.