@SassyKiwi
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Don't want a friend near my husband
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What has been your reaction when she did that to others?
Posted by jazzykid
What has been your reaction when she did that to others?
I call her out on it and end up blocking her from doing it (by being the third wheel in their conversation chaperoning) if it happens in front of me to my knowledge so she stopped doing it in front of me or letting me know but you can always tell.. especially if she also ends up sleeping with all her male friends 🙃 When I was unmarried I figured I wouldn't judge her and just keep our friendship around for the sake of knowing each other for so long. But she is not a friend you'd want to bring around your significant other. The irony of it all is so mind-blowing because we met when she was going through her religious phase. We've always wanted to see each other get married and have our husbands and kids be besties and shit but her trajectory changed when she started following a complete opposite life style . I still did not judge. It's hard for me to face our friendship might be coming to an absolute expiration, especially since I also adore her parents and siblings and they adore me. It's like she's clinging onto me by trying to hang out with both my husband and I whereas I'm only okay with keeping her around if it's just us two and not my husband being dragged in.
She sounds awful 😬
Posted by thatlibralife
Tell her your husband doesn’t like socializing much. Blame it on him. Trust your gut. She may be up to something. Continue to offer to come by yourself and stop feeling guilty about it…
That is a good idea. I just feel guilty because I don't like feeling this way about any of this. I wish she would realize how she comes off to others, according to her she's already ruined her "reputation" among her communities. So how does she not for a second consider I feel uncomfortable bringing my husband around her...? Honestly she gains more out of our friendship than me since she literally feels she has no one else close left in her life to trust. It's like she's willing to throw our friendship away if I continue to keep my husband away because it makes her feel insulted? I'm trying to figure out her thought processes..
Posted by SassyKiwi
Posted by jazzykid
What has been your reaction when she did that to others?
I call her out on it and end up blocking her from doing it (by being the third wheel in their conversation chaperoning) if it happens in front of me to my knowledge so she stopped doing it in front of me or letting me know but you can always tell.. especially if she also ends up sleeping with all her male friends 🙃 When I was unmarried I figured I wouldn't judge her and just keep our friendship around for the sake of knowing each other for so long. But she is not a friend you'd want to bring around your significant other. The irony of it all is so mind-blowing because we met when she was going through her religious phase. We've always wanted to see each other get married and have our husbands and kids be besties and shit but her trajectory changed when she started following a complete opposite life style . I still did not judge. It's hard for me to face our friendship might be coming to an absolute expiration, especially since I also adore her parents and siblings and they adore me. It's like she's clinging onto me by trying to hang out with both my husband and I whereas I'm only okay with keeping her around if it's just us two and not my husband being dragged in.
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Sounds like your friendship has been over for awhile.
No need to guilt yourself over nostalgia.
Posted by Tsunamy
Idk man, karmas real. Sleep with a married man, a taurus slut will sleep with your husband.
What are you trying to imply? I saved myself for marriage.
Posted by ImperfectStorm
Why are you even still fake friends with her? You basically view her as a hidden enemy so why even keep someone like that in your life?
My cancer sister does this and I don’t understand it.
I've viewed our bond as sisters before, we'd be so close to the hips that people thought we were sisters instead of her and her real sister 😞 It's hard to process people can jeopardize something close simply for the other male species?! It sounds so pathetic to actually be able to process? Why can't women just support each other instead of tear each other down...
Posted by Tsunamy
Posted by SassyKiwi
Posted by Tsunamy
Idk man, karmas real. Sleep with a married man, a taurus slut will sleep with your husband.
What are you trying to imply? I saved myself for marriage.
You must atone.
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I have my fair share of other sins but I sure as hell wouldn't wanna repay them this way lol. Thank you wise one from above for the clarity.
Posted by thatlibralife
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Posted by thatlibralife
Tell her your husband doesn’t like socializing much. Blame it on him. Trust your gut. She may be up to something. Continue to offer to come by yourself and stop feeling guilty about it…
That is a good idea. I just feel guilty because I don't like feeling this way about any of this. I wish she would realize how she comes off to others, according to her she's already ruined her "reputation" among her communities. So how does she not for a second consider I feel uncomfortable bringing my husband around her...? Honestly she gains more out of our friendship than me since she literally feels she has no one else close left in her life to trust. It's like she's willing to throw our friendship away if I continue to keep my husband away because it makes her feel insulted? I'm trying to figure out her thought processes..
Yeah but she’s brought this upon herself. Her insecurities driving her need to conquer other women’s men. Who knows what else causes her to do that. Don’t waste your time trying to figure it out at this point. She’s shown you who she is so believe it.
I’m very territorial with my relationship. I know how scandalous some women can be.
Thus my motto: My man, my dick. I will whip a nucca’s ass trying to take it….
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Recently she reached out to me about starting antidepressants because her head wasn't in the right place... I thought that was huge since she loves putting up facades that everything is okay. It made me want to protect her even more but then this happens and so it makes me feel so many mixed things.
Why is it so hard finding women who aren't like this... Sometimes I just want female friends to chill with who don't have wandering eyes and motives.
I’ve met a lot of Taurus females who like to steal men.
Posted by ImperfectStorm
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Posted by ImperfectStorm
Why are you even still fake friends with her? You basically view her as a hidden enemy so why even keep someone like that in your life?
My cancer sister does this and I don’t understand it.
I've viewed our bond as sisters before, we'd be so close to the hips that people thought we were sisters instead of her and her real sister 😞 It's hard to process people can jeopardize something close simply for the other male species?! It sounds so pathetic to actually be able to process? Why can't women just support each other instead of tear each other down...
In that case you need to just have a sit down with her and be transparent with her. Your actions are not exactly coming across as “friendly” either.. you’re being secretive and mistrusting about why you are keeping her at arms length. The innocence or sincerity of the friendship is long gone at this point, so to get that back, you need to be honest and transparent with her about how you feel. Let her know about your insecurity and reasons for your trust issues with her. It’s possible that by doing that, you will help her to GROW and change her ways, instead of hiding behind the word “friend” and enabling her shitty behavior while hiding your husband from her.
This is exactly why i don’t feel that I need female “friends”. Lol it’s often fake on both sides.
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I don't think it should be my burden to constantly help her grow. I think I've tried enough. I wouldn't say it was that fake from my side as I just wanted to keep a female friend around to chill with and didn't mind giving support and whatever else was necessary to maintain the friendship. No one is entitled to absolute transparency. The role I had for her in my life is being conflicted with whatever new role she has for me in her life that includes also dragging in my husband. I guess at this point I think the only nonshady female friends I'm fated to make are in future mommy and me classes?
Posted by Truemara
I’ve met a lot of Taurus females who like to steal men.
I guess they're not too different from their male counterparts and their harems... @Reincarnation2 is in for lots of treats!
Posted by ImperfectStorm
Posted by SassyKiwi
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Posted by ImperfectStorm
Why are you even still fake friends with her? You basically view her as a hidden enemy so why even keep someone like that in your life?
My cancer sister does this and I don’t understand it.
I've viewed our bond as sisters before, we'd be so close to the hips that people thought we were sisters instead of her and her real sister 😞 It's hard to process people can jeopardize something close simply for the other male species?! It sounds so pathetic to actually be able to process? Why can't women just support each other instead of tear each other down...
In that case you need to just have a sit down with her and be transparent with her. Your actions are not exactly coming across as “friendly” either.. you’re being secretive and mistrusting about why you are keeping her at arms length. The innocence or sincerity of the friendship is long gone at this point, so to get that back, you need to be honest and transparent with her about how you feel. Let her know about your insecurity and reasons for your trust issues with her. It’s possible that by doing that, you will help her to GROW and change her ways, instead of hiding behind the word “friend” and enabling her shitty behavior while hiding your husband from her.
This is exactly why i don’t feel that I need female “friends”. Lol it’s often fake on both sides.
I don't think it should be my burden to constantly help her grow. I think I've tried enough. I wouldn't say it was that fake from my side as I just wanted to keep a female friend around to chill with and didn't mind giving support and whatever else was necessary to maintain the friendship. No one is entitled to absolute transparency. The role I had for her in my life is being conflicted with whatever new role she has for me in her life that includes also dragging in my husband. I guess at this point I think the only nonshady female friends I'm fated to make are in future mommy and me classes?
Oh so you’ve already talked to her about her lack of integrity and she still persists? We grow apart from friends, sometimes we cling to people just because of years invested. And there are some shady batches in those mommy and me cliques too, just a heads up lol
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I didn't use those phrases but yes I would try to consistently guide her into seeing how the life style she was going for is not healthy for her. It worked somewhat and she went into a serious relationship with a older guy (which I also warned her about)... but then that hasn't been working out lately and now here we are. Shady bitches be everywhere 😭 Do I have to find lesbian friends now?? What if they end up crushing on me and trying to ruin my marriage?? Is it SO HARD to ask to have female friends who strictly meet up to have a girls out kind of time?! Do they not exist anymore?! Do other women not also desire having such friends?? Are they so glued to the male species?? WTF?? Sorry I am still young and trying to make sense of the absurd realities of life..
Posted by cake
On the bright side, you'll know if your husband's loyal or not.
I think there are some things where you just don't want to tempt fate. Way too many stories about husbands going for their wife's close friend, etc. It's so stupid and cliche that one should rather not mess with it if it's avoidable. There are plenty of other ways to find out if my husband's loyal, I just rather not for a second imagine a childhood friend in it.
I’d distance myself then If questions asked say priorities changed not into same things anymore. I have no qualms because protecting my family is first.
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Posted by SassyKiwi
Posted by cake
On the bright side, you'll know if your husband's loyal or not.
I think there are some things where you just don't want to tempt fate. Way too many stories about husbands going for their wife's close friend, etc. It's so stupid and cliche that one should rather not mess with it if it's avoidable. There are plenty of other ways to find out if my husband's loyal, I just rather not for a second imagine a childhood friend in it.
It was a joke.
Why are you still friends with her though?
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I'm very introverted so it's difficult for me to make friends, when I do, I keep them around for the sake of enjoying socializing here and there and catching up with each other's lives, etc. And when you have a friend who's family is also so warm to you, why would you throw all that away unnecessarily? It's only becoming an issue after I got married and my husband is being dragged into it.
Posted by Antiphates
Tell her the truth about how you feel.
Everything else will backfire in some way.
While it's very cringe to imagine the conversation and how heart-wrenching it'll be. Is it worth it? I don't know, I feel confused. This is so ridiculously awkward.
I feel so angry at women! WHY WOULD YOU CARE SO MUCH ABOUT PENIS? Why? What the fuck is the wrong with you all!! Do you all not have anything else meaningful to chase after in your life?!
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Posted by cake
On the bright side, you'll know if your husband's loyal or not.
I think there are some things where you just don't want to tempt fate. Way too many stories about husbands going for their wife's close friend, etc. It's so stupid and cliche that one should rather not mess with it if it's avoidable. There are plenty of other ways to find out if my husband's loyal, I just rather not for a second imagine a childhood friend in it.
It was a joke.
Why are you still friends with her though?
I'm very introverted so it's difficult for me to make friends, when I do, I keep them around for the sake of enjoying socializing here and there and catching up with each other's lives, etc. And when you have a friend who's family is also so warm to you, why would you throw all that away unnecessarily? It's only becoming an issue after I got married and my husband is being dragged into it.
How is your husband getting dragged into it?
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My supposed close friend doesn't want to hang out with me alone anymore unless my husband also joins. She goes out of her way unnecessarily to try to accommodate us both as I mentioned in OP.
Posted by ATGR
Posted by SassyKiwi
I feel so angry at women! WHY WOULD YOU CARE SO MUCH ABOUT PENIS? Why? What the fuck is the wrong with you all!! Do you all not have anything else meaningful to chase after in your life?!
It’s not about the D, it’s about proving how much more desirable they are.
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True.....validation due to insecurity and low self esteem.
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Posted by SassyKiwi
I feel so angry at women! WHY WOULD YOU CARE SO MUCH ABOUT PENIS? Why? What the fuck is the wrong with you all!! Do you all not have anything else meaningful to chase after in your life?!
It’s not about the D, it’s about proving how much more desirable they are.
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That's right... I am very aware of her deep insecurity issues and the root cause of them. But of course it is her battle to address and fix..
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Posted by Antiphates
Tell her the truth about how you feel.
Everything else will backfire in some way.
While it's very cringe to imagine the conversation and how heart-wrenching it'll be. Is it worth it? I don't know, I feel confused. This is so ridiculously awkward.
The conversation isn’t worth it, just ghost her ass.
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Lol I love this! Funny you say this because she's ghosted me via text when we've attempted to make plans to both meet at times but oo if she's inviting my husband and I, her response times to my texts are ridiculously fast... sigh
I FEEL SO SAD AND HEARTBROKEN
I JUST WANT IT TO STILL BE LIKE OLD TIMES WHEN WE WERE 13 AND HANGING OUT ON THE SWINGS NOT CARING ABOUT ANYONE ELSE
She's the only childhood friend I have left...
It makes me cry why do people have to be in this way
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On the bright side, you'll know if your husband's loyal or not.
I think there are some things where you just don't want to tempt fate. Way too many stories about husbands going for their wife's close friend, etc. It's so stupid and cliche that one should rather not mess with it if it's avoidable. There are plenty of other ways to find out if my husband's loyal, I just rather not for a second imagine a childhood friend in it.
It was a joke.
Why are you still friends with her though?
I'm very introverted so it's difficult for me to make friends, when I do, I keep them around for the sake of enjoying socializing here and there and catching up with each other's lives, etc. And when you have a friend who's family is also so warm to you, why would you throw all that away unnecessarily? It's only becoming an issue after I got married and my husband is being dragged into it.
How is your husband getting dragged into it?
My supposed close friend doesn't want to hang out with me alone anymore unless my husband also joins. She goes out of her way unnecessarily to try to accommodate us both as I mentioned in OP.
If she's after your husband, why are you still friends with her?
Don't tell her your husband is not gonna make it, just leave it to very last minute and show up alone, see her reaction, if she's upset about your husband's absence throw a hint there or just confront her, and be done with her ass.
Why feeling sorry for someone who wants to steal your husband?
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I wouldn't say she's after my husband, I don't know if she is, I can only say I find her recent actions very odd in wanting to only hang out with me if my husband also comes. It's all very frustrating, confusing and disturbing for me because I genuinely believed she cares for me... I was just thinking about how much her and her family have been so wonderful to me just only few years ago. The day her parents found out I was getting married, I was hanging out with her and her sisters at their house and they made me stay late for dinner. That's when her father came home from work with a nice gift for me. He literally looked like he wanted to cry since he saw me grow up alongside his daughters. My Taurus friend planned a really nice, intimate bridal shower for me when I didn't care for one and even did a choreographed dance performance with her sisters at my wedding which I loved so much even when I told her they didn't have to.
when a man is taken is when he's the most desireable to other women. It's like they can sense if you are single or engaged or married. I can confirm
You could make plans to go to her get together and then show up without your husband saying "Oh girl, I got tired of begging him to come over here so I just let him stay home and chill." If you get pushback say, "Well we're the ones who are friends aren't we; I'm here so what's the problem?"
Posted by SassyKiwi
I FEEL SO SAD AND HEARTBROKEN
I JUST WANT IT TO STILL BE LIKE OLD TIMES WHEN WE WERE 13 AND HANGING OUT ON THE SWINGS NOT CARING ABOUT ANYONE ELSE
She's the only childhood friend I have left...
I have no more childhood friends n I’m ok with that
I m surviving and got adult friends more my same values. You can do it too
See if she makes a move and then get her blackout drunk in front of your husband. Film it and send it to her work email.
Don't know where this has gone, the thread, etc..
OP, the fact that you said you haven't been able to find excuses should tell you..
Yeah, this friend may feel closer than most a lot of the time, but YOU have been actively (aka 'finding excuses') finding perceived faults should confirm what you already know deep inside.
Relationships, be it platonic or sexual or whatever, aren't concrete - they change, they grow, they digress, backpedal, ARE HUMAN. If you can't see that then re-evaluate the friendship.. not the HUMAN.
Just tellher straight up that you dont want her to be near your husband and the reason. If she doesnt like it, so be it.
At the end of the day you are the one capable of murder and disposing of the evidence properly. That's how I look at it at least. Your friends are supposed to be respectful and loyal, and in your case, a trusting man should be just that. Don't feel the need to act until the time comes. Right now you are simply dealing with a respectful trusting friend, and a wholesome man 😊
Posted by Tsunamy
Idk man, karmas real. Sleep with a married man, a taurus slut will sleep with your husband.
Are there some details that she isn't revealing?
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Posted by Tsunamy
Idk man, karmas real. Sleep with a married man, a taurus slut will sleep with your husband.
Are there some details that she isn't revealing?
🧐
Posted by DonnaLibra
You could make plans to go to her get together and then show up without your husband saying "Oh girl, I got tired of begging him to come over here so I just let him stay home and chill." If you get pushback say, "Well we're the ones who are friends aren't we; I'm here so what's the problem?"
I might actually do this lol
Posted by Truemara
Posted by SassyKiwi
I FEEL SO SAD AND HEARTBROKEN
I JUST WANT IT TO STILL BE LIKE OLD TIMES WHEN WE WERE 13 AND HANGING OUT ON THE SWINGS NOT CARING ABOUT ANYONE ELSE
She's the only childhood friend I have left...
I have no more childhood friends n I’m ok with that
I m surviving and got adult friends more my same values. You can do it too
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Yes I'm definitely working on making new friends but adults are harder to crack and take more time.
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On the bright side, you'll know if your husband's loyal or not.
I think there are some things where you just don't want to tempt fate. Way too many stories about husbands going for their wife's close friend, etc. It's so stupid and cliche that one should rather not mess with it if it's avoidable. There are plenty of other ways to find out if my husband's loyal, I just rather not for a second imagine a childhood friend in it.
It was a joke.
Why are you still friends with her though?
I'm very introverted so it's difficult for me to make friends, when I do, I keep them around for the sake of enjoying socializing here and there and catching up with each other's lives, etc. And when you have a friend who's family is also so warm to you, why would you throw all that away unnecessarily? It's only becoming an issue after I got married and my husband is being dragged into it.
How is your husband getting dragged into it?
My supposed close friend doesn't want to hang out with me alone anymore unless my husband also joins. She goes out of her way unnecessarily to try to accommodate us both as I mentioned in OP.
If she's after your husband, why are you still friends with her?
Don't tell her your husband is not gonna make it, just leave it to very last minute and show up alone, see her reaction, if she's upset about your husband's absence throw a hint there or just confront her, and be done with her ass.
Why feeling sorry for someone who wants to steal your husband?
I wouldn't say she's after my husband, I don't know if she is, I can only say I find her recent actions very odd in wanting to only hang out with me if my husband also comes. It's all very frustrating, confusing and disturbing for me because I genuinely believed she cares for me... I was just thinking about how much her and her family have been so wonderful to me just only few years ago. The day her parents found out I was getting married, I was hanging out with her and her sisters at their house and they made me stay late for dinner. That's when her father came home from work with a nice gift for me. He literally looked like he wanted to cry since he saw me grow up alongside his daughters. My Taurus friend planned a really nice, intimate bridal shower for me when I didn't care for one and even did a choreographed dance performance with her sisters at my wedding which I loved so much even when I told her they didn't have to.
Oh now she sounds like a wonderful friend, just hand your husband on a golden platter already.
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That's exactly why I been compartmentalizing my friendship with her. A person with not the best of morals can still be a really good friend.... that is until those questionable morals start interfering.
Posted by Subliminals
Just tellher straight up that you dont want her to be near your husband and the reason. If she doesnt like it, so be it.
Has anyone here ever done this? Said this to their friend over their SO? Please let me know the reactions lol
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Posted by Tsunamy
Idk man, karmas real. Sleep with a married man, a taurus slut will sleep with your husband.
Are there some details that she isn't revealing?
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Yes an online poster knows more about my real life than me.
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Just tellher straight up that you dont want her to be near your husband and the reason. If she doesnt like it, so be it.
Has anyone here ever done this? Said this to their friend over their SO? Please let me know the reactions lol
I don't know if you should say that...maybe more like ask her why your husband needs to be there when you and her hang out.
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Yes, yes... does she not recall how uninterested I've been of all her 'serious' boyfriends? Why can she not reciprocate that when I need her to?
I don’t know why you keep calling her your friend??
Friends are people you trust and have your back through everything… not people lurking in your life waiting to drop you at any chance they get!!
And before making anymore excuses, you are the one that is suspicious of her!
Sounds like you know it’s time to move on from this relationship. She’s no friend you want to have rn. So just be real and tell her that you’re moving on from the friendship and wish her well.
Unpopular opinion here:
She is rescheduling to include both you and your husband because she believes that's what you want. Unless you say otherwise like, I would just like to spend the time with you one on one, how would she "take a hint".
You've know her for the majority of her life and have seen her go through 'phases' during this time which means she is capable of change.
She's told you she has ruined her reputation (by going after others bf's in the past) this indicates she is remorseful of those past actions and is acknowledging her part in it.
Bemoaning that there are no decent females willing to put friendship ahead of d ick when ironically you are kinda doing exactly that. If you at any point valued this friendship be upfront and honest with her. She deserves that from you.
Tell her you prefer to spend the time together without your husband around. Once face to face be frank and share with her your fears that her past actions have created. Not just fears about losing your husband to infidelity but the immense hurt you would feel if a friend was to be involved.
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Posted by Subliminals
Just tellher straight up that you dont want her to be near your husband and the reason. If she doesnt like it, so be it.
Has anyone here ever done this? Said this to their friend over their SO? Please let me know the reactions lol
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I can't comment on what your friend is thinking, but I can comment on how I would be prepared to say goodbye to a friend that seems to threaten my happiness and/or well being... but that's just me, and i strongly believe the King himself said it best when he said : "A little less conversation, a little more action, please. All of this aggravation ain't satisfactioning me. A little more bite and a little less bark. A little less fight and a little more spark." and some other shit after that
I suppose if you care to preserve the friendship though, you could always ask "Hey, what's up with your hoe-ass always trying to be a third wheel in my marriage?? I'm not a fucking bear and this isn't a fucking circus and we're not making balloon animals while riding tricycles here. This isn't desperate housewives either you need to get your own fucking man you filthy hoe"
You should trust me, I'm known for my tack. When shit needs to be said sometimes you just gotta say it and not powder coat it.
maybe you can find someone as sensitive and tactful as i am to bring it up to her gently and ask her what's going on in her head. maybe she's jealous of him, who knows.
or maybe you could subtly suggest that it might be a little unusual to be so interested in him, have a girls night or something? I don't know, and i'm not gonna tell you to find out either because who knows she might actually be trying to steal your man, and you're right about unnecessary drama.
honestly though, people suck in general, i tell people to fuck off all the time and look how happy i am.
people used to stop by my shop with bullshit work and i used to tell them "honestly, i don't give a fuck about that. you'll get it when i get to it." and now they don't stop by nearly as much with the same lame ass bullshit they used to.
i think they caught on that i wasn't ever going to get to it.... see what i mean? tact.
I knew i was never going to do it... but i made it appear like i actually gave a sliver of a fuck
Just tell her your husband doesn't like hanging around a bunch of women and that the only way he will come if it's a double date so he can have someone to talk to.
I think you can avoid the honesty of telling your friend, she knows how she is. Women don't change. Trust your husband, not other women. You have the right idea. Some single women have too much time on their hands, as your friend has shown you over and over again.
I have a friend that's the same way, and when she needed a place to stay, she was only allowed to stay in my house when I was there, she had to leave when I went to work. She didn't stay long or get comfortable.
Come to find out after me and my ex broke up, she went ahead and texted him. We are still friends though. He's my ex for a reason and I think it's hilarious and very sad for women who dig at the bottom of the barrel for leftovers. But to each it's own.
He passed and sent the message to me saying "your friend is a hoe" lol
Posted by dontgiveup
Tell her you want girl time, that you spend alot of time with your husband already and its healthy to have time away.
And if she still cannot respect that, then just distance yourself or cut her off.
Perfect timing, just the other day I decided I’m going to do exactly this. I’m so ready to cut her off if she gives me shit for it cause I really do enjoy just chilling and having our girl hangouts and they’re obviously different when you have your man around.
Posted by saggurl88
Just tell her your husband doesn't like hanging around a bunch of women and that the only way he will come if it's a double date so he can have someone to talk to.
I think you can avoid the honesty of telling your friend, she knows how she is. Women don't change. Trust your husband, not other women. You have the right idea. Some single women have too much time on their hands, as your friend has shown you over and over again.
I have a friend that's the same way, and when she needed a place to stay, she was only allowed to stay in my house when I was there, she had to leave when I went to work. She didn't stay long or get comfortable.
Come to find out after me and my ex broke up, she went ahead and texted him. We are still friends though. He's my ex for a reason and I think it's hilarious and very sad for women who dig at the bottom of the barrel for leftovers. But to each it's own.
He passed and sent the message to me saying "your friend is a hoe" lol
Omg we so need every guy doing this 🤣 Imagine how smoother life would be. He gets so much brownie/life points.
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Ugh. So there's this close Taurus friend of mine since middle school... we've grown up together and have a lot of memories... I even love her entire family. However my friend particularly... as time passed, I've seen every phases to her. Especially the dark ones. Like the ones where she loves challenging herself into stealing others' boyfriends... I don't mind our friendship but I prefer to compartmentalize it after I got married. I've been more interested in befriending other married couples. Then you have my Taurus friend who's suddenly very bent on having both my husband and I over to her place for very small gatherings. I'd make up excuses for my husband but say I'd be able to come to which she'd want to reschedule to fit both our times. Etc. It started to seem she doesn't care to hang out with me alone and I don't like that. Outside the wedding we've all hung out once at her birthday party and I didn't like the vibes she was giving. It's not that I don't trust my husband, it's just I don't trust my friend to not bring unnecessary drama or stress into my life because she is a drama magnet. So she's once again invited us over to her home for a small gathering. I'm not sure how to approach it. I feel like I'm running out of excuses and just end up canceling being able to go altogether... which is also hard when she shows flexibility of changing her schedule for us 🙄 Why does she not get the obvious hint that I don't want her around my husband? Is it not clear enough for her how with every passing year she keeps losing female friends not wanting to be around her? Like how do you say that to someone's face?