How does one exude confidence

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Truemara on Tuesday, June 15, 2021 and has 26 replies.

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@Truemara
5 Years1,000+ Posts

You know I caught a few of these men selfdepricate even if joking which was a turn off. however one faked it till he made it and that worked for him to regain the interest and sustain it. . I guess maybe stop with the negative self talk out loud and internally.

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@saggurl88
13 Years25,000+ Posts

Stop believing the worst about things

Love yourself more then you love others

Be more logical and less emotional

Treat people good, so karma doesn’t rear it’s head

Lose the fear of failing and gain the power of trying again for success.

Failure usually happens with the unknown until you figure out how to make it work.

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@xxAjuxx
5 Years1,000+ Posts

me. the death of my mother in my 20s

after that. every thing else just ...

it doesn't matter as far as what

people think of me anymore or embarrassing moments...

I may look like a fool or may fail at what ever. well guess what. the number one

person who was actually there for me is gone.

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@FadedAri
5 Years

My only advice is to learn any craft that you can excel in. Practice practice practice the craft and wait for the accolades to flow your way. The ROI will without a doubt boost your confidence levels.

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@VenusAquarius
14 Years10,000+ Posts

I got it from my family. There was alot of attention paid to me...even while in my mom's stomach. There were alot of eyes attemtion, and analysis given to me. My family is quite large and I was the first of my generation...as was my mom...as was her mom. I later took the place of mini matriarch... of a this motley crew.

Can't tell you how much the fam was like "do your thing [Venus]!"

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@Lostthoughts
6 Years1,000+ Posts

I like to think confidence is the way in which you express yourself.

Get to know and understand yourself. Accept and like those parts and sides of you you do like. Remake and approve that which you don't.

Other then acknowledging "the good bad and ugly" of who you are "now", the most important thing is to understand you always have a choice and every choice has consequences, cause and effect. A huge part of confidence is accepting this fact and being willing to deal with what comes next.

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@DopeFly
6 Years500+ Posts

Stop caring about what others think of you, mind your own business, focus on what really matters and be more "you"-oriented.

By the way, making sure your nails are always done and you're wearing the latest Louis to go to the convenience store down the street is actually "them"-oriented. Real a55 ni66as aren't about that schitt.

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@PuzzlePieces
7 Years1,000+ Posts

Believe in yourself. Know your worth. Walk in a room full of strangers knowing your good, and people will feel the vibe. Maybe take a deep breath first, and tell yourself positive thoughts.

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@Nightcap-
8 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by FadedAri

My only advice is to learn any craft that you can excel in. Practice practice practice the craft and wait for the accolades to flow your way. The ROI will without a doubt boost your confidence levels.


Yep, confidence is demonstrated ability. There's no fake it til you make it because anyone with discernment will be able to see through it. Once you've shown to yourself that you can chart a course and accomplish anything you can conceptualize then tackling a new goal or task is just a formality. You can then be truly internally powered and know that you can rely on your own resolve and resourcefulness regardless of the situation or obstacle.