@nikkistar
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God damnit Ands...
A man should pay for dinner. But if the woman insists on going Dutch that is also fine but still depends on the man. But complete payment is a no no for me.
I don't date much, never did, but I don't think I could take a guy seriously that didn't court me properly.
I guess I'm super traditional, in mind...maybe not always in actions lol, but yes...I think a guy should pay. If I wanted to hang out with the girls, and pay for my own stuff, I would. I just don't see how I cab wrap my mind around taking a guy seriously that wants to do the 50/50 thing, or have me pay for my own meals. Not saying a guy is just there to pay or provide, but I won't know how to draw the line between a guy and my friends if he doesn't have a desire to provide for me...which will make me wonder if he would ever have the desire to provide for our family if we really got serious. Idk.
Again, I don't date much, but yes...I'd like the guy to pay.
In my experience, I have always walked into a date with the mindset that whatever it is that I order, I would be able to pay my share of it.
However, every man that have ever taken me out for dinner, have always insisted that they settle the bill. Even when and after I have always ensured them that I was able to pay my share of it. They were always taken aback by my suggestion, most completely ignored what I had said and proceeded to settle the bill.
In such instances, I have never resisted.
What I do not understand is for one to walk in, as if they are entitled to a free meal. 😐
Guys like to pay to show chivalry and like they are taking care of their lady... I always am appreciative and pay here and there when I can(they let me) I don't want to immasculate a man by insisting to pay. That's kinda old school I suppose but the guy I'm seeing also insist opening my car door sooo I think it's sweet 🙂
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.
For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to emasculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
The guy said that he treats his girlfriend as a best friend and acts accordingly...
That's great and all but I see relationships as investments and a good business deal, some cultures thrive on that ideal......you start off as lovers/partners and then the friendship develops over time, I like that idea..
Should the man pay? Of course, if he offers to pay I'm not going to stop him and he's not going to stop me from paying....
If he chooses the restaurant then he is treating me and the fucker pays for my food, if there is an awesome Japanese restaurant that I want us to try then I'm more than happy to pay for us both.
The truth is I feel uncomfortable being in debt to someone, my mum always taught me to stay debt free, she has a bad credit history lol
Do I expect it? No. I always go in expecting to pay for myself. If he insists, I let him. I'll protest, but eventually let him have his way because he wants to do it and it makes him feel all masculine or whatever, then fine.
I dislike women who expect guys to do it. It's rude. I also dislike that guys have expected strings attached when paying for dinner. They essentially turn you into their personal prostitute in that sense.
"Well I paid for you, so I'm entitled to your vagina."
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to immaculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
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I have had similar experiences as well, therefore I agree with what you have shared. 🙂
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Do I expect it? No. I always go in expecting to pay for myself. If he insists, I let him. I'll protest, but eventually let him have his way because he wants to do it and it makes him feel all masculine or whatever, then fine.I dislike women who expect guys to do it. It's rude. I also dislike that guys have expected strings attached when paying for dinner. They essentially turn you into their personal prostitute in that sense.
"Well I paid for you, so I'm entitled to your vagina."
Exactly! I like treating my man out too it makes me feel more like a partner then a financial liability?
PSA-
It's, "emasculate," ladies.
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to emasculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
My situation is just the opposite. My husband makes much more than I. However, I often insist that I pay. Sometimes, he accepts just to make me feel like I am "contributing." This is partly the reason I am in debt.
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Yea, my Cancer is in debt, and I often offer to pay for some of his debt, but that's a no go. I leave it at that. I don't ever push the subject more than once.
I find that men and women both feel like they are contributing. But I find that men need to feel they are the provider in a relationship. Once they feel emasculated, a ton of bad shit can come about.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
PSA-It's, "emasculate," ladies.
I edited already once I saw it, but I was quoted too late. lol
At the beginning I want to be wined and dined, I want to be pursued. But once in a relationship its pretty 50/50 with me.
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Do I expect it? No. I always go in expecting to pay for myself. If he insists, I let him. I'll protest, but eventually let him have his way because he wants to do it and it makes him feel all masculine or whatever, then fine.I dislike women who expect guys to do it. It's rude. I also dislike that guys have expected strings attached when paying for dinner. They essentially turn you into their personal prostitute in that sense.
"Well I paid for you, so I'm entitled to your vagina."
Exactly! I like treating my man out too it makes me feel more like a partner then a financial liability?
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Yeeep.
I've even made that known if I am asked out if I'm strapped for cash and can't afford the specified place. Probably wins me brownie points haha. It's just not automatic of me to think "LOL YEAH LET'S GO!!" with the assumption he pays, because what if you end up in the spot that the bill comes and he's all about going dutch? You're fucked.
I dunno, maybe that's just the mindset I've developed because I didn't grow up with a lot of money. *shrugs*
However, if I have the chance to return the favor, I jump all over it. I was in a situation like that once where the guy insisted on paying for everything all the time and while I appreciated it and he felt uber provider, I still wanted to pay for something once in awhile. We had a situation where the place in question didn't accept cards and I jumped all over that haha. Always having cash on me ftw!
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by rockyroadicecream
PSA-It's, "emasculate," ladies.
I edited already once I saw it, but I was quoted too late. lol
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haha, you're fine. When I saw it a second time in another post, I thought I'd just throw that out there.
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to emasculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
My situation is just the opposite. My husband makes much more than I. However, I often insist that I pay. Sometimes, he accepts just to make me feel like I am "contributing." This is partly the reason I am in debt.
awww stop it please. lmao
I might be making a mistake, but you are a school teacher, right? I am too. So you know what we make. This of course depends on the "step." I could be mistaken??
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No, he works as my top escort. Dude inspires poems from my clientele.
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to emasculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
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We are in similar positions nikki. I also make more than my younger gem and he was very adamant about paying when we were first dating. Sometimes when he went to the bathroom I would sneak over and pay the check.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to emasculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
We are in similar positions nikki. I also make more than my younger gem and he was very adamant about paying when we were first dating. Sometimes when he went to the bathroom I would sneak over and pay the check.
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I tried that with John, he gave me the silent treatment the rest of the night. Tried it again when we ordered pizza one time, he grabbed the phone from me when I was giving my debit card, and gave them his.
He drives me nuts. But the dude just makes me so feminine, its not funny. I don't cuss in front of him. lol
I am just going to wait for @ChrisisKodak to see my comment about him to turn red.
NVM he found it
Posted by Hare
What if it's two guys? Does the bottom or the top pay?Also...What if it's two women? Do they just run out of the restaurant and ride away real fast on their Harley without paying?
Queso?
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Hare
What if it's two guys? Does the bottom or the top pay?Also...What if it's two women? Do they just run out of the restaurant and ride away real fast on their Harley without paying?
Queso?
No dairy I'm starting my looksmaxing regimine.
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That's gonna take a few years. Good luck.
Posted by Neno2
Posted by nikkistar
I just watched a video last night, of a guy asking if men should always pay for dinner. I found it fascinating the amount of "yeas" I heard when he asked if men should always pay for dinner. I have never been one to think a man should pay, but it got me thinking. How many women actually think it is the man's responsibility to pay for everything regardless of the length of the relationship?For me, I sided with the speaker. But that is me.
Here is the video in case some of you want to watch it.
ofc a man should always pay,thats a must here,i could not go somewhere and let the woman pay
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Why?
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Posted by Infinite8
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I think @Tiziani and LadyScorp said it best.
It's a mix of how you were brought up and manners. It's NOT about entitlement.
I do have manners but why should a guy pay for dinner?
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It's not about should. Neither LS's, Tiziani, or even my comment says a man SHOULD pay. It is often that a man does because men have an innate sense of wanting to be the provider and protector.
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Posted by Infinite8
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I think @Tiziani and LadyScorp said it best.
It's a mix of how you were brought up and manners. It's NOT about entitlement.
I do have manners but why should a guy pay for dinner?
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Don't!
Posted by ChrisIsKodak
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Posted by ChrisIsKodak
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Posted by ChrisIsKodak
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Posted by Infinite8
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I think @Tiziani and LadyScorp said it best.
It's a mix of how you were brought up and manners. It's NOT about entitlement.
I do have manners but why should a guy pay for dinner?
Men by nature - Providers and protectors.
It's a valued ideal for men.
lol I agree with being the provider and the protector that's if you two are official but on a first date?
sets an impression and standard.
lol that's the old fashion way but not gonna disagree with your opinion.
Not my opinion its just a cultural/societal norm. I honestly had women take me out and pay for the dinner, it didn't faze or emasculate me. Nor do I talke about it because it sounds douchey to me. *shrugs*
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What a coincidence, women pay me to take you out too.
Posted by nikkistar
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I 100% agree with this.
My cancer is by far less financially secure. I gross just under 6 digits a year, and my Cancer makes 1/3 of what I do. However, I never try to emasculate him, because I know to do so, would be terrible for our relationship.
He often takes me out, and 9/10 times, he pays. I ask every time if he wants me to, but he won't let me pay. However, I also tailor what type of date we are having to be more respectful of his financial circumstances.
It's one of the main reasons why I adored him so much.
We are in similar positions nikki. I also make more than my younger gem and he was very adamant about paying when we were first dating. Sometimes when he went to the bathroom I would sneak over and pay the check.
I tried that with Johm, he gave me the silent treatment the rest of the night. Tried it again when we ordered pizza one time, he grabbed the phone from me when I was giving my debit card, and gave them his.
He drives me nuts. But the dude just makes me so feminine, its not funny. I don't cuss in front of him. lol
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Lol that's cute
You bitches want 'Equal Rights'.... right—
Well, that comes with equal lefts too.
FUCK NO. A man should not be paying for dinner unless he is GUARANTEED entry into the vagina. Why am I paying for a woman to eat, just for her to turn around have some other guy pay for her meal tomorrow while she calls it "Dating Around".
Don't give me that "it's tradition" bullshit either. If you want tradition then fine, stay in the kitchen, don't speak unless asked to, and do laundry for the rest of your life. It's either ALL or NOTHING when it comes to dating norms and traditions with me.
I like paying for my things, I find it fair. So if sb pays my meal other day I'll pay his/hers, what usually becomes an endless circle.
Is fine if a man pays because he's being friendly, but if he argues sexist shit I pull out my wallet to show him what I think about his crap. However, I've never encountered a guy wanting to pay because "he's a man", maybe is because I run from sexist ppl. I like equality.
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You bitches want 'Equal Rights'.... right—Well, that comes with equal lefts too.
FUCK NO. A man should not be paying for dinner unless he is GUARANTEED entry into the vagina. Why am I paying for a woman to eat, just for her to turn around have some other guy pay for her meal tomorrow while she calls it "Dating Around".
Don't give me that "it's tradition" bullshit either. If you want tradition then fine, stay in the kitchen, don't speak unless asked to, and do laundry for the rest of your life. It's either ALL or NOTHING when it comes to dating norms and traditions with me.
you mad bro?
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No, just retarded
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Posted by Infinite8
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I think @Tiziani and LadyScorp said it best.
It's a mix of how you were brought up and manners. It's NOT about entitlement.
I do have manners but why should a guy pay for dinner?
Don't!
Lol ?♂️ I've gone out on dates always been 50 I can afford to pay on an expensive resto I love dining out but if we're not official ?No
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Lol!! I dunno how the dating thing works anyway ?..so whatever works for you 😄
Posted by MiZLeo
Also, it tells me if he is cheap or a loser with no money.
This says a lot about you honey, and it's not flattering.
You're just as much of a loser as he is with this mindset. Stay away from dating you loser.
I don't expect a man to pay for everything... However... when I pull my wallet out he gives me a look like... "I got this.." Every single TIME! I think a man respects a woman that doesn't rely on him for everything... but a good man is okay with spending on his lady.
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Posted by EnochtheWise
If I take a girl out, its usually something I initiated, planned out, etc., and I definitely think the man should always pay in instances like that. Its very odd to ask someone to pay for a meal, or anything, that was your idea.
you're a dude?
Yeah, Enoch is a dude's name. What made you think otherwise?
I had no idea. Idk to be honest, it's not even like you post girly stuff.
avi is also a dude...clues everywhere...lol.
Im sorry I fucked up. My bad.
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I can't even with you right now
It was so obvious @EnochtheWise is a dude.
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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I think @Tiziani and LadyScorp said it best.
It's a mix of how you were brought up and manners. It's NOT about entitlement.
I do have manners but why should a guy pay for dinner?
Don't!
Lol ?♂️ I've gone out on dates always been 50 I can afford to pay on an expensive resto I love dining out but if we're not official ?No
Lol!! I dunno how the dating thing works anyway ?..so whatever works for you 😄
I don't know how it works either.... it was never really my thing. I'd rather have things flow organically. All of my relationships stemmed that way, none came from a dating process.
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I don't think I'll ever start something that way either.
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I don't expect a man to pay for everything... However... when I pull my wallet out he gives me a look like... "I got this.." Every single TIM! I think a man respects a woman that doesn't rely on him for everything... but a good man is okay with spending on his lady.
Lol this is what I'm trying to say.
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You have a terrible way of saying it though. lol
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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
When a woman walks into a date, feeling entitled to a free meal, at times those same women feel entitled to things beyond a mere free meal as well.For a man, it could be a red flag. Granted, it is most certainly nice of a man to treat you to a date / dinner, but be a lady. Thank him and be appreciative but do not be a female dog about it.
Entitlement, is always an ugly trait.
From my experience, men feel much more at ease to treat you well, and to shower you with nice things /experiences when you ask little of them. Let them step up and do the courting, and they usually will. You may be surprised at what they are willing to do as well.
I think @Tiziani and LadyScorp said it best.
It's a mix of how you were brought up and manners. It's NOT about entitlement.
I do have manners but why should a guy pay for dinner?
Don't!
Lol ?♂️ I've gone out on dates always been 50 I can afford to pay on an expensive resto I love dining out but if we're not official ?No
Lol!! I dunno how the dating thing works anyway ?..so whatever works for you 😄
I don't know how it works either.... it was never really my thing. I'd rather have things flow organically. All of my relationships stemmed that way, none came from a dating process.
I don't think I'll ever start something that way either.
You should try it, just to experience it...lol.
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Lol!! Will never resist if I want to try 😄
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Posted by MiZLeo
I expect a guy to pay for the first date. Not for a free meal, but I'm old fashioned and want to be courted. Also, it tells me if he is cheap or a loser with no money.That being said. I always bring enough for myself because one time in college I went on a date and the guy tried to pay with a check.... mmmm.. so I ended up having to pay. I've also had guys bitch at me about having to pay after we were done eating..... I still made him pay but dude was looking for a sugar mamma.
I will pay for a movie or something after we have gone on a few dates. However last time I did that the guy insisted on getting the popcorn and drinks. He basicly told me if he didn't he'd feel emasculated.
It's funny how much Leos and Aquas are alike. It's almost like we're each others halves..... 😄
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It is. You both come across as gold diggers.
"He's cheap."
Yeah, so are you if this is your mindset with dating. Cheapskates insist on others paying for them out of entitlement.
Posted by TeddyBearMD
You bitches want 'Equal Rights'.... right—Well, that comes with equal lefts too.
FUCK NO. A man should not be paying for dinner unless he is GUARANTEED entry into the vagina. Why am I paying for a woman to eat, just for her to turn around have some other guy pay for her meal tomorrow while she calls it "Dating Around".
Don't give me that "it's tradition" bullshit either. If you want tradition then fine, stay in the kitchen, don't speak unless asked to, and do laundry for the rest of your life. It's either ALL or NOTHING when it comes to dating norms and traditions with me.
Who let your ratchet ass out?
Go back into your cave, troll.
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I just watched a video last night, of a guy asking if men should always pay for dinner. I found it fascinating the amount of "yeas" I heard when he asked if men should always pay for dinner. I have never been one to think a man should pay, but it got me thinking. How many women actually think it is the man's responsibility to pay for everything regardless of the length of the relationship?For me, I sided with the speaker. But that is me.
Here is the video in case some of you want to watch it.
ofc a man should always pay,thats a must here,i could not go somewhere and let the woman pay
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Why?
here its unthinkable for a woman to pay for the date?its a cultural thing,a unwritten rule
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Here?
I think equality must be in everything: salaries, oportunities, rights. I appreciate kindness but I think this is rooted on sexism so I prefer to pay 50/50, is just money after all! I prefer to focus on having a good time.
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I don't expect a man to pay for everything... However... when I pull my wallet out he gives me a look like... "I got this.." Every single TIM! I think a man respects a woman that doesn't rely on him for everything... but a good man is okay with spending on his lady.
Lol this is what I'm trying to say.
You have a terrible way of saying it though. lol
He just don't want to pay for the extra drink she ordered. Over here doing the math in his head and trying to figure out the sales tax.
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He's Asian, those formulas are a piece of cake for him.
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Posted by poison_ivy
I don't expect a man to pay for everything... However... when I pull my wallet out he gives me a look like... "I got this.." Every single TIM! I think a man respects a woman that doesn't rely on him for everything... but a good man is okay with spending on his lady.
Lol this is what I'm trying to say.
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That's why you're my bro... great minds think alike. 🙂
if he invites you, he pays
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Posted by TeddyBearMD
You bitches want 'Equal Rights'.... right—Well, that comes with equal lefts too.
FUCK NO. A man should not be paying for dinner unless he is GUARANTEED entry into the vagina. Why am I paying for a woman to eat, just for her to turn around have some other guy pay for her meal tomorrow while she calls it "Dating Around".
Don't give me that "it's tradition" bullshit either. If you want tradition then fine, stay in the kitchen, don't speak unless asked to, and do laundry for the rest of your life. It's either ALL or NOTHING when it comes to dating norms and traditions with me.
you mad bro?
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He proved my point beautifully. Yet a good reason why women shouldn't always expect men to pay. Strings attached with some of these fuckboys.
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Posted by poison_ivy
I don't expect a man to pay for everything... However... when I pull my wallet out he gives me a look like... "I got this.." Every single TIM! I think a man respects a woman that doesn't rely on him for everything... but a good man is okay with spending on his lady.
Lol this is what I'm trying to say.
You have a terrible way of saying it though. lol
He just don't want to pay for the extra drink she ordered. Over here doing the math in his head and trying to figure out the sales tax.
He's Asian, those formulas are a piece of cake for him.
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bwahahahah!! 😆
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What if it's two guys? Does the bottom or the top pay?Also...What if it's two women? Do they just run out of the restaurant and ride away real fast on their Harley without paying?
My gay bestie is dating this guy he's really serious about. They switch off on planing/paying for each date.
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Also, it tells me if he is cheap or a loser with no money.This says a lot about you honey, and it's not flattering.
You're just as much of a loser as he is with this mindset. Stay away from dating you loser.
She doesnt date she has FWBs.
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I know. This is why I loled when I read this.
Bitches who go on about how "cheap" a dude is are just hypocritical whores, tbh. Which is what they are- whores. They're putting a price tag on their self worth and time. If he isn't spending x amount of money on her, she won't entertain him.
The sad thing is these lame bitches have no idea they're prostituting themselves out like this. There are people who treat dating like dating, and then there are those who treat it as an escort service. Two silly bitches have already proved this point as well as fuckboy bitching about paying for women and expecting sex in return. They need to be chlorinated from the dating pool pronto.
Posted by TeddyBearMD
You bitches want 'Equal Rights'.... right—Well, that comes with equal lefts too.
FUCK NO. A man should not be paying for dinner unless he is GUARANTEED entry into the vagina. Why am I paying for a woman to eat, just for her to turn around have some other guy pay for her meal tomorrow while she calls it "Dating Around".
Don't give me that "it's tradition" bullshit either. If you want tradition then fine, stay in the kitchen, don't speak unless asked to, and do laundry for the rest of your life. It's either ALL or NOTHING when it comes to dating norms and traditions with me.
Your paying for dinner and the pleasure of her company, during that dinner only. If you are expecting pussy go to a strip club and pay for a vip dance or go to backpage (although I think they got shut down).
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I just watched a video last night, of a guy asking if men should always pay for dinner. I found it fascinating the amount of "yeas" I heard when he asked if men should always pay for dinner. I have never been one to think a man should pay, but it got me thinking. How many women actually think it is the man's responsibility to pay for everything regardless of the length of the relationship?
For me, I sided with the speaker. But that is me.
Here is the video in case some of you want to watch it.