What’s more important health or career/financial security?

This is my dilemma right now.

Seems a no-brainer why am I struggling with it?

I keep running into my ex & seems like health.. looking at him..

What do you guys think & what’s your sun, moon, mars? Mine is sag sun, aqua moon, cap mars.

Career/Financial security. Simply cause I need money to afford my health insurance, to keep my health okay. lol

Posted by nikkistar

Career/Financial security. Simply cause I need money to afford my health insurance, to keep my health okay. lol

Yep that and preparing for retirement is part of the issue, but also job could be affecting health. So maybe it’s level of career.

Financial security. Rich people problems are problems I want. Sign me up.

Health of course

Health is wealth

Do you perhaps mean quality of life instead of health?

No health .. more stress, no time to do the things I was doing for my health.. which created weight gain and not sure in the long term it’s a good idea.

Another job with more time, less stress may be a better choice. Even though I have an opportunity to make career level up. Question is where should my effort go?

I look at my ex and health is everything.. cuz when you don’t have it, it just doesn’t matter..

And here I am still working in the stressful job that is creating issues for me taking care of myself as I’ve been doing in the last few years.

I guess that’s kinda quality of life, but at some point that leads to health issues or risk of it at least.

Posted by Black-Mamba

i guess ya'll haven't been truly ill

you guys are all a joke, nothing is more important than your health, when you lose your health, you lose everythign else even your will to live sometimes

Yes my ex is ill... so staring him in the face not being able to talk to me for 15 minutes without being so exhausted he has to sit down.. looking like hell.. and severely compromised life. It seems to be slapping me in my face ... like wtf are you doing?

Posted by Black-Mamba

i guess ya'll haven't been truly ill

you guys are all a joke, nothing is more important than your health, when you lose your health, you lose everythign else even your will to live sometimes

The reality is, is in the US, health care costs a pretty penny. Therefore, in order to maintain your health, and make sure you stay healthy, you have to be able to pay for it. That's the shit part of living in a for profit health care system that puts the bottom line above the citizens that live in it.

I was diagnosed with Chronic Congestive Heart Failure (Diastolic to be exact), and while I agree that health comes first, that is just not viable in the US itself. I cannot maintain the medication, the constant monitoring my heart, nor the impending increased frequency of all the doctor's visits or hospitalizations I will endure over the course of my lifetime. I go to the doctors or have testing done damn near every 2 weeks, and with those come the expenses my insurance does not cover. Without maintaining employment I wouldn't be able to afford all those costs. It sucks, but I have to make sure I can afford the best health care, by working, in order to look out for my health.

So in the US, health and income is tied together. Unfortunately. Because it shouldn't be that way for us.

I'm not sure what you mean by health.

I need to be financially secure at all times, so I choose finance, but I also get enough sleep and take care of myself, so that I can work. I don't over extend myself. I thing with all things, it's about balancing and knowing whats right for you. But then again I don't stress much as long as I'm making enough money to support whats necessary for my well being. It's a catch 22 I guess!

Posted by nikkistar

Career/Financial security. Simply cause I need money to afford my health insurance, to keep my health okay. lol

I'm dead. You're playing with that elder filter thing too?! 😂 Out of topic but I can't help it

I wasn’t talking about no career. But level of career.. try to be the best you can be? Or throw the opportunity out the window.

Sometimes health dictates it regardless. That’s the situation my ex is now. But he did something stupid to cause it & now he’s paying the price. “He’s trying to work” not really able to.

Health > career growth!!

None of these things are secure in our lives.

I'd rather have health, so I can be in shape to steal from the rich.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Financial security. Rich people problems are problems I want. Sign me up.

That’s dumb! You wishing for something you have no clue about...

Posted by Impulsv

Nah. Once your health goes nothing matters

This ^^^

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

I wasn’t talking about no career. But level of career.. try to be the best you can be? Or throw the opportunity out the window.

Sometimes health dictates it regardless. That’s the situation my ex is now. But he did something stupid to cause it & now he’s paying the price. “He’s trying to work” not really able to.

Let the promotion go and focus on physical health would be my suggestion in this situation.

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I’m already in the job and it’s killing me. Feeling like not studying for the exams and getting another job that I won’t have to kill myself for. This one is challenging but I’m feeling too old for this shit!

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

No health .. more stress, no time to do the things I was doing for my health.. which created weight gain and not sure in the long term it’s a good idea.

Another job with more time, less stress may be a better choice. Even though I have an opportunity to make career level up. Question is where should my effort go?

I look at my ex and health is everything.. cuz when you don’t have it, it just doesn’t matter..

And here I am still working in the stressful job that is creating issues for me taking care of myself as I’ve been doing in the last few years.

I guess that’s kinda quality of life, but at some point that leads to health issues or risk of it at least.

How close are you to retirement? If more than 5 years then start job searching. If not take aa many vacations as you can until you can retire. Mental health is important but don't sacrifice your financial security

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I’m 55.

Financial security. Without sufficient wealth you can't get quality health care, and yes, I have been ill. It's just the sad reality of the way life is now. No money = no one cares about the state of your health except you. There's nothing worse than that feeling.

I just want enough money so I can retire one day. I’d rather not work so hard anymore..

I’m not sure I’ll have enough if I don’t do this.

I want to have time to work out, write, and not be in pain.

I can’t do both itseems right now. Either I have to figure out the balance or give up on this part of the career I missed out on due to raising kids & choosing family.

When I’m not challenged enough I’m bored & distracted.

And I don’t want to find up like my ex because I ignored it & pushed myself too hard.

Ahhh decisions. 🤦‍♀️

Posted by 7s

I notice a lot of sag women deal with weight issues through out their lives.

My finances are fine for living, but questionable for retirement. Really due to my ex not pulling his part. But I’ve done well since I got divorced. And kids are more self sufficient now.

As far as weight, it’s all perspective. I’m not happy with my weight but am told all the time by guys that I’m fine. I’m just heavy for me. Struggle after pregnancies and car accident and various injuries And well time of life when you can’t run anymore do to injuries/and normal stuff for women this age.. well & men. So I have to stay active or it’s a problem, and it’s hard to with these hours, stress etc. much easier to work the crazy hours when you’re young.

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Posted by nikkistar

Career/Financial security. Simply cause I need money to afford my health insurance, to keep my health okay. lol

I'm dead. You're playing with that elder filter thing too?! 😂 Out of topic but I can't help it

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Just call me grand mamamamammama lol

I am on my feet btw I do well especially for the mostly rural area I live in. It is a question really is of it’s worth it at this point. To try to do all those things I didn’t do careerwise. I had an opportunity 8 months ago & I took it. One I won’t get again, so it’s just do I throw it away it not? It isn’t a matter of no career but a higher level of one. When I’m so tired I’m pushing myself. Not being able to be active which creates more pain.

But perhaps, choosing quality of life was the right thing all along. Perhaps it’s just things aren’t quite what you expected & that’s ok.

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No health .. more stress, no time to do the things I was doing for my health.. which created weight gain and not sure in the long term it’s a good idea.

Another job with more time, less stress may be a better choice. Even though I have an opportunity to make career level up. Question is where should my effort go?

I look at my ex and health is everything.. cuz when you don’t have it, it just doesn’t matter..

And here I am still working in the stressful job that is creating issues for me taking care of myself as I’ve been doing in the last few years.

I guess that’s kinda quality of life, but at some point that leads to health issues or risk of it at least.

How close are you to retirement? If more than 5 years then start job searching. If not take aa many vacations as you can until you can retire. Mental health is important but don't sacrifice your financial security

I’m 55.

so about 10 years. Maybe continue to job search and if something better comes along take it.

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That’s what I’ve been thinking. It may require a move though. So not sure of the answers yet.

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Posted by 7s

I notice a lot of sag women deal with weight issues through out their lives.

My finances are fine for living, but questionable for retirement. Really due to my ex not pulling his part. But I’ve done well since I got divorced. And kids are more self sufficient now.

As far as weight, it’s all perspective. I’m not happy with my weight but am told all the time by guys that I’m fine. I’m just heavy for me. Struggle after pregnancies and car accident and various injuries And well time of life when you can’t run anymore do to injuries/and normal stuff for women this age.. well & men. So I have to stay active or it’s a problem, and it’s hard to with these hours, stress etc. much easier to work the crazy hours when you’re young.

retirement age is 65, right? You'll be ok. Do what's best for you.

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Thanks 🙂 yeah trying to get there. cap dom vs sag sun struggle lol I think the right answer is a different job & throw away the possibilities that were so tempting to go after. Damn cap bits.

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Posted by nikkistar

Career/Financial security. Simply cause I need money to afford my health insurance, to keep my health okay. lol

I'm dead. You're playing with that elder filter thing too?! 😂 Out of topic but I can't help it

Just call me grand mamamamammama lol

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Okay grand mamamamammama 😂😂

I'm a Cap Ascendant. Da Fam is e'rythang.

Prosperity

Posterity

Everybody got the same intials. I named our daughter after me and our son after him.

Posted by VenusAquarius

I'm a Cap Ascendant. Da Fam is e'rythang.

Prosperity

Posterity

Everybody got the same intials. I named our daughter after me and our son after him.

I’m cap asc, merc, Venus, Mars. I chose a reduced career so that I could be there for family. Now they are 23 & 18. I didn’t have the option to not work so who knows if I would’ve worked i didn’t have to. But no it’s empty nest time so decisions.

Lol we didn’t give them initials but my daughter has my middle name & my son my ex’s middle name. My ex is a cap moon. So we were in line on that one.

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Posted by VenusAquarius

I'm a Cap Ascendant. Da Fam is e'rythang.

Prosperity

Posterity

Everybody got the same intials. I named our daughter after me and our son after him.

I’m cap asc, merc, Venus, Mars. I chose a reduced career so that I could be there for family. Now they are 23 & 18. I didn’t have the option to not work so who knows if I would’ve worked i didn’t have to. But no it’s empty nest time so decisions.

Lol we didn’t give them initials but my daughter has my middle name & my son my ex’s middle name. My ex is a cap moon. So we were in line on that one.

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Mine are 24 and 17. Sometimes I feel like they wanna crawl back in. Can't picture the empty nest yet. Enjoy.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Financial security. Rich people problems are problems I want. Sign me up.

You can buy anything--including better health via medical care, supplements, trainer, etc.--with money.

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Yeah and what good will health do you if your working 3 jobs exhausted trying to make ends meet.

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Posted by VenusAquarius

I'm a Cap Ascendant. Da Fam is e'rythang.

Prosperity

Posterity

Everybody got the same intials. I named our daughter after me and our son after him.

I’m cap asc, merc, Venus, Mars. I chose a reduced career so that I could be there for family. Now they are 23 & 18. I didn’t have the option to not work so who knows if I would’ve worked i didn’t have to. But no it’s empty nest time so decisions.

Lol we didn’t give them initials but my daughter has my middle name & my son my ex’s middle name. My ex is a cap moon. So we were in line on that one.

Mine are 24 and 17. Sometimes I feel like they wanna crawl back in. Can't picture the empty nest yet. Enjoy.

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Yeah i don’t think empty nest is quite here. That’s why I don’t want to move. Although the older one is moving out. The younger one is here but very independent & doesn’t need anyone’s help until she does lol both want me to do me now though. They are the sweetest kids.

I suppose being single makes it different than if I was still married. I’m in prepare for future mode I guess. Part of that is natural at my age, so we shall see what happens.

Posted by Impulsv

Don’t you get half your ex half retirement? After all those years giving up security to be with family more you get nothing??

Haha you’re funny! My ex has no retirement except mom & dad’s inheritance. And that isn’t going to matter for him cuz he’s going to die way before them. I walked away and at least got my retirement. He had a business .. but basically it failed and never had retirement. Good times. That’s why I’m doing better afterwards by myself. I’m just worried what I have isn’t going to be enough.

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Posted by Impulsv

Don’t you get half your ex half retirement? After all those years giving up security to be with family more you get nothing??

Haha you’re funny! My ex has no retirement except mom & dad’s inheritance. And that isn’t going to matter for him cuz he’s going to die way before them. I walked away and at least got my retirement. He had a business .. but basically it failed and never had retirement. Good times. That’s why I’m doing better afterwards by myself. I’m just worried what I have isn’t going to be enough.

Well you go after that social security of his

Other than your children sounds like he was a set back

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It was a fun life, but financially it was only good in the long term if I stayed once he got the inheritance. But there are more important things than money, so I walked away from it all. I’m just take care of me & kids mode.