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Posted by RooSagicornI have to fully agree. I never had a problem dating any man until I started dating men in their 30's. EVER. I started dating my last long term relationship partner when he was 31 and me 26. That was a shit show from jump. Since that 4 year relationship ended I've been dating men in the 32-39 range. It's like the worst Peter Pan syndrome ive seen! I thought that was a young mans game.
I always dated men the same age until I was older around 50. I never had a problem with relationships, from guys 18 to 26. Then i was off the market for twenty years. Idk maybe it’s just what I attracted?
Guys who wanted love and relationships - were 3 major ones from age19-27. Well last one started at 27 & he was the 20 year guy. I’d say the first two were two young to really be thinking about marriage even though they were.
Anyway, they are saying now that males brains don’t fully develop until age 25. I have had SO many guys tell me that they didn’t get their act together until mid-to late 20’s. So that falls into that 26-30 timeframe. They are getting their act together & ready to settle down. I have to wonder about those who never married by 40 though.
Here is the article.
"This is so weird," my friend Nicole -– a successful 33 year-old entertainment executive — tells me. "Ever since I started dating, I went for older guys, sometimes much older. But now I'm head over heels for a 29 year-old. It's crazy, but right now, it just makes sense."
While the "cougar" (the older woman who pursues significantly younger men) is at least partly an overhyped media creation, there's some evidence that for one age group in particular, this is a real emerging trend. More than a few women in their late 20s to mid 30s who generally dated older men are now switching to going out with younger guys. While the stereotypical cougar is a woman in her 40s with a boyfriend little more than half her age, these women are still in their 30s going out with guys just a few short years younger than themselves. And this doesn't necessarily adhere to the idea of "cheetahs" (the "younger sister" of the cougar, as helpfully invented by the Observer). What I'm talking about here is a bit more specific.
I recently interviewed 49 women, solicited via Facebook, ranging in age from 26 to 40, with a median age of 31. Some women I interviewed in person, some over email. All had a history of dating older guys; all were either currently dating men younger than themselves, or were keenly interested in doing so. For most of them, this was a fairly new shift in their lives, one that had taken many by surprise.
Megan, a 35 year-old yoga instructor, wrote "You know how they always say that the good ones are taken or gay? I never believed that, until I started dating guys on the cusp of 40." She explained that she's generally dated men 3-5 years older than herself. (Megan was adamant that she never had "a daddy thing" for substantially older dudes.) "It seems something starts to happen to men who are still single as they hit 40. It's not that they slow down so much as they seem paralyzed by uncertainty about their lives."
Many of the 20 and 30-something women I talked to noted that it was guys their own age or even younger who seemed more mature and emotionally stable. While the pool of straight, single males age 38-45 is smaller than that of dudes who are a decade younger, it isn't just scarcity that seems to be turning some women away from dating older men. It's a combination of social and sexual factors.
My grandfather often remarked that "30 is the age when a young man stops being promising." Since American society now turns middle-class male adolescence into a quarter-century project, grandpa's axiom needs an update. Today, we give men an extra decade to "launch" themselves professionally. But in this prolonged recession, more men than ever are hitting mid-life single – and with the keen awareness that they've fallen short both of their own dreams and of other's expectations.
As many of the women in my informal study reported, many men on the cusp of 40 become preoccupied with their own ageing. Dating a younger woman is charged with meaning for them; it's one obvious way of continuing to feel youthful. But these older fellas are also more likely than younger men to be nonplussed by their girlfriends' success, which they compare grimly to their own real or perceived shortcomings.
Nicole points out that when she first started dating older men, she was a poor college student. But as she grew into her own career, she soon found that those same older men no longer were necessarily more successful than she was. "Most men who are into younger women like being able to dazzle and wow them", she says. "But now that I'm in my 30s, I've seen the show. Men a few years older than me can't impress me with their money or their experience, because I've got as much of both as they do. And that seems to throw a lot of them off."
As Megan, Nicole, and others remarked, men in their 20s and early 30s seem both less stressed and less intimidated by women's success than their slightly older counterparts. These younger guys are not only less likely to feel that they're running out of time, they're not nearly as troubled by women who are often better educated and better paid than they are. My friend Ariadne, who works in marketing and studies demographics, notes that men from the Millenial generation (those born in 1981 and after) are much more likely to be comfortable with equality than the older Gen Xers (guys born in the 1960s and early ‘70s). "Older guys may talk the language of equality, but younger men live it out better", Ariadne claims. Many other women I heard from seem to agree.
But there's more to the appeal of younger guys than greater egalitarianism alone. Many of the women I interviewed noted that at this point in their lives, they found slightly younger dudes to be far more sexually attractive. As my interviewees made clear, the enduring myths that women aren't particularly visual — and that most women find grey hair and wrinkles to be turn-ons -– are just that, myths. While there are a few younger women who really are strongly attracted to older guys, the sexiness of the ageing male body is more than a little oversold in popular culture. Not a lot of 30 year-olds are as hot as Ryan Gosling- – but far fewer 40-something men look anything like Brad Pitt.
Sexier. Less likely to be controlling. More secure and self-confident. More comfortable with powerful women. Better listeners. These were the main reasons the women I heard from shared as to why they've "made the switch" to dating younger men. Many whom I spoke to were just a little bit uncomfortable going public with their relationships, even as they were frank about their newfound preference for younger guys. "I just don't like the sound of the phrase ‘older woman,'" Megan said; "it makes me sound like a middle-aged Mrs. Robinson." But whatever small degree of uncertainty remains about what to call these 30-something women who date slightly younger guys, the phenomenon is real and growing.
The older man/younger woman dynamic remains our culture's most common model for age-disparate relationships. But evidence and anecdote seem to suggest that for women in their 30s, there's a new template emerging. Whatever you do, however, please don't call them cheetahs or cougars.
"This is so weird," my friend Nicole -– a successful 33 year-old entertainment executive — tells me. "Ever since I started dating, I went for older guys, sometimes much older. But now I'm head over heels for a 29 year-old. It's crazy, but right now, it just makes sense."
While the "cougar" (the older woman who pursues significantly younger men) is at least partly an overhyped media creation, there's some evidence that for one age group in particular, this is a real emerging trend. More than a few women in their late 20s to mid 30s who generally dated older men are now switching to going out with younger guys. While the stereotypical cougar is a woman in her 40s with a boyfriend little more than half her age, these women are still in their 30s going out with guys just a few short years younger than themselves. And this doesn't necessarily adhere to the idea of "cheetahs" (the "younger sister" of the cougar, as helpfully invented by the Observer). What I'm talking about here is a bit more specific.
I recently interviewed 49 women, solicited via Facebook, ranging in age from 26 to 40, with a median age of 31. Some women I interviewed in person, some over email. All had a history of dating older guys; all were either currently dating men younger than themselves, or were keenly interested in doing so. For most of them, this was a fairly new shift in their lives, one that had taken many by surprise.
Megan, a 35 year-old yoga instructor, wrote "You know how they always say that the good ones are taken or gay? I never believed that, until I started dating guys on the cusp of 40." She explained that she's generally dated men 3-5 years older than herself. (Megan was adamant that she never had "a daddy thing" for substantially older dudes.) "It seems something starts to happen to men who are still single as they hit 40. It's not that they slow down so much as they seem paralyzed by uncertainty about their lives."
Many of the 20 and 30-something women I talked to noted that it was guys their own age or even younger who seemed more mature and emotionally stable. While the pool of straight, single males age 38-45 is smaller than that of dudes who are a decade younger, it isn't just scarcity that seems to be turning some women away from dating older men. It's a combination of social and sexual factors.
My grandfather often remarked that "30 is the age when a young man stops being promising." Since American society now turns middle-class male adolescence into a quarter-century project, grandpa's axiom needs an update. Today, we give men an extra decade to "launch" themselves professionally. But in this prolonged recession, more men than ever are hitting mid-life single – and with the keen awareness that they've fallen short both of their own dreams and of other's expectations.
As many of the women in my informal study reported, many men on the cusp of 40 become preoccupied with their own ageing. Dating a younger woman is charged with meaning for them; it's one obvious way of continuing to feel youthful. But these older fellas are also more likely than younger men to be nonplussed by their girlfriends' success, which they compare grimly to their own real or perceived shortcomings.
Nicole points out that when she first started dating older men, she was a poor college student. But as she grew into her own career, she soon found that those same older men no longer were necessarily more successful than she was. "Most men who are into younger women like being able to dazzle and wow them", she says. "But now that I'm in my 30s, I've seen the show. Men a few years older than me can't impress me with their money or their experience, because I've got as much of both as they do. And that seems to throw a lot of them off."
As Megan, Nicole, and others remarked, men in their 20s and early 30s seem both less stressed and less intimidated by women's success than their slightly older counterparts. These younger guys are not only less likely to feel that they're running out of time, they're not nearly as troubled by women who are often better educated and better paid than they are. My friend Ariadne, who works in marketing and studies demographics, notes that men from the Millenial generation (those born in 1981 and after) are much more likely to be comfortable with equality than the older Gen Xers (guys born in the 1960s and early ‘70s). "Older guys may talk the language of equality, but younger men live it out better", Ariadne claims. Many other women I heard from seem to agree.
But there's more to the appeal of younger guys than greater egalitarianism alone. Many of the women I interviewed noted that at this point in their lives, they found slightly younger dudes to be far more sexually attractive. As my interviewees made clear, the enduring myths that women aren't particularly visual — and that most women find grey hair and wrinkles to be turn-ons -– are just that, myths. While there are a few younger women who really are strongly attracted to older guys, the sexiness of the ageing male body is more than a little oversold in popular culture. Not a lot of 30 year-olds are as hot as Ryan Gosling- – but far fewer 40-something men look anything like Brad Pitt.
Sexier. Less likely to be controlling. More secure and self-confident. More comfortable with powerful women. Better listeners. These were the main reasons the women I heard from shared as to why they've "made the switch" to dating younger men. Many whom I spoke to were just a little bit uncomfortable going public with their relationships, even as they were frank about their newfound preference for younger guys. "I just don't like the sound of the phrase ‘older woman,'" Megan said; "it makes me sound like a middle-aged Mrs. Robinson." But whatever small degree of uncertainty remains about what to call these 30-something women who date slightly younger guys, the phenomenon is real and growing.
The older man/younger woman dynamic remains our culture's most common model for age-disparate relationships. But evidence and anecdote seem to suggest that for women in their 30s, there's a new template emerging. Whatever you do, however, please don't call them cheetahs or cougars.
Yes, I think that may have some truth there.
In my experience 23-30 is mostly the age of the men that has approach me wanting to settle down. But I believe that you can find someone at anytime. Age has nothing to do with it. So I don’t know 😂
In my experience 23-30 is mostly the age of the men that has approach me wanting to settle down. But I believe that you can find someone at anytime. Age has nothing to do with it. So I don’t know 😂
I've dated two men that were both 7 years younger, one for 2 1/2 years (Taurus) and the other for 10 months (Scorpio). They were both good and could keep up with me physically if you know what I mean! Also "dated" a twenty two year old that was 14 years younger (Pisces), he was more mature than some of the men I've gone out with. Unfortunately he moved to another state...
Would totally date younger again, but the person I've just met is 7 years older. What is it with me and the seven year difference? Is there a significance to that?
Would totally date younger again, but the person I've just met is 7 years older. What is it with me and the seven year difference? Is there a significance to that?
Posted by tiziani@tiziani
my bad I didn't realise it was for women.
Did you ever have a much older lady?
You seem like an old soul
Posted by RooSagicorn@RooSagicorn
I always dated men the same age until I was older around 50. I never had a problem with relationships, from guys 18 to 26. Then i was off the market for twenty years. Idk maybe it’s just what I attracted?
Guys who wanted love and relationships - were 3 major ones from age19-27. Well last one started at 27 & he was the 20 year guy. I’d say the first two were two young to really be thinking about marriage even though they were.
Anyway, they are saying now that males brains don’t fully develop until age 25. I have had SO many guys tell me that they didn’t get their act together until mid-to late 20’s. So that falls into that 26-30 timeframe. They are getting their act together & ready to settle down. I have to wonder about those who never married by 40 though.
What was the biggest age gap you had with a guy ?
Posted by RooSagicornyep - I used to date older then reached a point where they started getting youngerPosted by MyStarsShine10 years older but that was in my early 50’s. Everyone b4 I left my ex at 47 graduated from high school the same year as me. So within a year lol. Right now bf is 6 years younger.Posted by RooSagicorn@RooSagicorn
I always dated men the same age until I was older around 50. I never had a problem with relationships, from guys 18 to 26. Then i was off the market for twenty years. Idk maybe it’s just what I attracted?
Guys who wanted love and relationships - were 3 major ones from age19-27. Well last one started at 27 & he was the 20 year guy. I’d say the first two were two young to really be thinking about marriage even though they were.
Anyway, they are saying now that males brains don’t fully develop until age 25. I have had SO many guys tell me that they didn’t get their act together until mid-to late 20’s. So that falls into that 26-30 timeframe. They are getting their act together & ready to settle down. I have to wonder about those who never married by 40 though.
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Posted by Smidge12 in guy years 😛
I'm havin this issue atm
He's 5 years younger than me, which would be fine if we were both older but he's only 21...
That's like 18 in guy years
I mean, I don't wanna date him but.. y'know
I prefer younger men for sexy fun time but in other ways.........no
Posted by tizianiHow was the dynamic?Posted by MyStarsShineThe biggest age gap I lived was her being 30 and me 23 at the time, together for 2 years or so.Posted by tiziani@tiziani
my bad I didn't realise it was for women.
Did you ever have a much older lady?
You seem like an old soulclick to expand
Posted by RooSagicornyeah I look 45 - the young guys hit on me all the time but my son is 37 so it gets gross if they are younger than 50 - nah - those old guys can't kick it anymorePosted by tctaoPosted by RooSagicornyep - I used to date older then reached a point where they started getting youngerPosted by MyStarsShine10 years older but that was in my early 50’s. Everyone b4 I left my ex at 47 graduated from high school the same year as me. So within a year lol. Right now bf is 6 years younger.Posted by RooSagicorn@RooSagicorn
I always dated men the same age until I was older around 50. I never had a problem with relationships, from guys 18 to 26. Then i was off the market for twenty years. Idk maybe it’s just what I attracted?
Guys who wanted love and relationships - were 3 major ones from age19-27. Well last one started at 27 & he was the 20 year guy. I’d say the first two were two young to really be thinking about marriage even though they were.
Anyway, they are saying now that males brains don’t fully develop until age 25. I have had SO many guys tell me that they didn’t get their act together until mid-to late 20’s. So that falls into that 26-30 timeframe. They are getting their act together & ready to settle down. I have to wonder about those who never married by 40 though.
What was the biggest age gap you had with a guy ?
Lol!! Yeah those older guys are too old & thinking about retirement while I still have a kid in high school lol. Younger ones are much closer too my life stage and seems like more the same generation to me. Music, movies, tv shows etc, plus I act younger & look younger anyway.
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Posted by heliumfiascoDon't worry about what articles or statistics or peoples opinions. Judge him by his actions.
But I have found with this man, he is very direct, not jaded, enthusiastic and very much into seriously committing time and energy into knowing me. It's a totally different vibe. It could just be his personality, but I wondered if this article and my current experience have any actual substance.
Do any of you have any experience dating younger men?
I'm dating a younger man and actually chose him over another dude I was dating at the time who on paper should have been more mature (older, more established in his career, etc. etc.)...however wasn't.
Posted by SmidgeI'm just waiting for some distraught 21 year old guy to make a dxp account and bitch in a thread about some chick trying to make him go vegan before sex.
I'm havin this issue atm
He's 5 years younger than me, which would be fine if we were both older but he's only 21...
That's like 18 in guy years
I mean, I don't wanna date him but.. y'know
"she held out the whole night, man! idk what to do"
and you just show up like "go vegan"
Pfft, my guy is a decade younger than me. I give no fucks. As a partner, he listens, and makes a choice to change to keep me happy. He accepts my crazy, when I am being crazy. Probably the healthiest relationship I have had to date.
Posted by SmidgeLots of grown men are actually stuck in this age mentalityPosted by MyStarsShineOh no... Gross.Posted by Smidge12 in guy years 😛
I'm havin this issue atm
He's 5 years younger than me, which would be fine if we were both older but he's only 21...
That's like 18 in guy years
I mean, I don't wanna date him but.. y'know
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Lol
I love younger men, always have for some reason. I just think men older then me are pervy. I think childhood crap had to do with this, so I usually can only trust men younger then me.
I'm dating a Gem man 7 years younger than me. His wisdom speaks volumes over the older guys I've dated who acted like they had their shit together but ended up failing in the end (Aries). Granted it's only been months, however it's been peaceful, no drama, no bs so far and we both think a like. It's like where ever I go, he goes. As if we're each others shadow. We both seem to click based on the many things we've gone through in life, our past, etc. Gross I know 😂
A lot of these responses are great. I am totally down to date a younger man. Ive just never done it before. Reading the article made me curious if anyone else has found the match (in this specific age group mostly) to be as rewarding as ive been experiencing and that this article suggests.
I was under the impression the ideal man for me would be in his mid 30's but ive found it a rough group. So this switch was great, then I stumbled upon the article and went "hmmmm...."
I was under the impression the ideal man for me would be in his mid 30's but ive found it a rough group. So this switch was great, then I stumbled upon the article and went "hmmmm...."
I usually end up dating younger, I have dated both, older and younger ( 15 year difference at one point) but most guys that approach me are anywhere from 5 to 10 years younger, but I also do not look my age. When I have dated older, I would get funny looks because they assumed sugar daddy or dad or some shit.
Age imo is relative as long as all parties are legal. I have meet some mature 20ish year olds and some super immature 40 year olds. if those involved get along and it works for them great.
Age imo is relative as long as all parties are legal. I have meet some mature 20ish year olds and some super immature 40 year olds. if those involved get along and it works for them great.
Posted by justagirlOh,I agree. Totally relative. I was just curious if in general any women could relate to this.
I usually end up dating younger, I have dated both, older and younger ( 15 year difference at one point) but most guys that approach me are anywhere from 5 to 10 years younger. but I also do not look my age. When I have dated older, I would get funny looks because they assumed sugar daddy or dad or some shit.
Age imo is relative as long as all parties are legal. I have meet some mature 20ish year olds and some super immature 40 year olds. if those involved get along and it works form them great.
Posted by RooSagicornAs someone who dated a couple of dudes under 25 at the time, I agree.
I always dated men the same age until I was older around 50. I never had a problem with relationships, from guys 18 to 26. Then i was off the market for twenty years. Idk maybe it’s just what I attracted?
Guys who wanted love and relationships - were 3 major ones from age19-27. Well last one started at 27 & he was the 20 year guy. I’d say the first two were two young to really be thinking about marriage even though they were.
Anyway, they are saying now that males brains don’t fully develop until age 25. I have had SO many guys tell me that they didn’t get their act together until mid-to late 20’s. So that falls into that 26-30 timeframe. They are getting their act together & ready to settle down. I have to wonder about those who never married by 40 though.
It's also why I avoid that group like the plague. I wouldn't be interested anyway because that age range is way too young at this point haha.
I just got really turned off to younger after those experiences because it ended up being such a pain in the ass because they were just fucking idiots.
You know it's bad when the other day, I over heard a guy mention he was 30 and my ears perked up because I have a small crush on the dude and it's like OMG SOMEONE NOT UNDER 30 FOR ONCE haha.
Never fails- "Hmm, he seems.. Wait, how old? Pfft nope. NEXT!" haha
But he's moving far, far away so another "NEXT!"
Posted by heliumfiascoMy parents were 5 years apart with my mom being older and it seemed to work well or them.
A lot of these responses are great. I am totally down to date a younger man. Ive just never done it before. Reading the article made me curious if anyone else has found the match (in this specific age group mostly) to be as rewarding as ive been experiencing and that this article suggests.
I was under the impression the ideal man for me would be in his mid 30's but ive found it a rough group. So this switch was great, then I stumbled upon the article and went "hmmmm...."
I'm not all that opposed to a few years in either direction. But some of these who are like OH HAY 10 YEARS, lol. Nope. Big ol' nope. People can go on about how "age is just a number" but people have gotten really freaking weird and immature, so in some cases, no, age isn't just a number. With such large gaps, sometimes it makes it hard to relate or be in the same place in life when it comes to wants/needs and age milestones.
Posted by tizianiDo you ever...realize?
my bad I didn't realise it was for women.
When I first started going on dates a year after my divorce, it was with guys who were older than me (33-37 range). They all seemed to have Peter Pan syndrome like you said....played games etc. (They were Sag, Gem, Aqua, and Virgo). One day they wanted to be with me long term, the next they needed their freedom, then the next they couldn't be without me. I was so over dating and stopped...
Then I met my Sag though a friend. He was 3 years younger than me. Never played any games, easy to talk to, responsible, great career, mature etc. He wasn't jaded by past relationships either because he was more focused on school and his career before me.
I was the type that said I'd never go younger...turns out it's been the best relationship for me. You never know! (He is in that "settling down" range you mentioned OP, so maybe that's why....)
Then I met my Sag though a friend. He was 3 years younger than me. Never played any games, easy to talk to, responsible, great career, mature etc. He wasn't jaded by past relationships either because he was more focused on school and his career before me.
I was the type that said I'd never go younger...turns out it's been the best relationship for me. You never know! (He is in that "settling down" range you mentioned OP, so maybe that's why....)
Posted by tizianiYou can’t even post 3 words that would make sense...Posted by GemitatiDon't be upset.Posted by tizianiDo you ever...realize?
my bad I didn't realise it was for women.click to expand
Posted by heliumfiascoThey're going through a quarter life crisis. They can't accept the fact that they're a full blown adult and they no longer fall into the partying 20s and are in mega denial. Peter Pan syndrome is EXACTLY what a lot of these guys suffer from.Posted by RooSagicornI have to fully agree. I never had a problem dating any man until I started dating men in their 30's. EVER. I started dating my last long term relationship partner when he was 31 and me 26. That was a shit show from jump. Since that 4 year relationship ended I've been dating men in the 32-39 range. It's like the worst Peter Pan syndrome ive seen! I thought that was a young mans game.
I always dated men the same age until I was older around 50. I never had a problem with relationships, from guys 18 to 26. Then i was off the market for twenty years. Idk maybe it’s just what I attracted?
Guys who wanted love and relationships - were 3 major ones from age19-27. Well last one started at 27 & he was the 20 year guy. I’d say the first two were two young to really be thinking about marriage even though they were.
Anyway, they are saying now that males brains don’t fully develop until age 25. I have had SO many guys tell me that they didn’t get their act together until mid-to late 20’s. So that falls into that 26-30 timeframe. They are getting their act together & ready to settle down. I have to wonder about those who never married by 40 though.click to expand
There was a Leo dude I was semi interested in at one point, and I believe he was with me too. But as I got to know him a little more, he was SO mister Peter Pan syndrome. I got turned off because with that Leo shit, it would be a headache of a relationship in the long haul. Nice dude, but manchildren are not attractive whatsoever, especially at that age.
Posted by aquarius_manWhy do you have to be mean, and try to make her feel like she doesn't look as good as she feels? What do you get out of that?Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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Posted by SmidgeYeeah, you may want to avoid that if you don't want to deal with the headache. I was with someone with the same age gap (well, 4 years), but I was 26 and he was 21, about to turn 22. Seemed okay but that immaturity was ridiculous.Posted by RooSagicornHe's quite immature tbhPosted by SmidgeI say go for it! The one I regret the most that I didn’t date was 21 when I was 27. It made no sense but there was this connection.. turns out he was pretty mature for his age emotionally but didn’t have it together yet. He came after me 25 years later and we had a relationship for a year. Not the right time again. Oh if I had only taken the chance 25 years earlier!!! He says no he would have married me in our 20’s. Oh my he was such a baby then, but he sure grew up well...
I'm havin this issue atm
He's 5 years younger than me, which would be fine if we were both older but he's only 21...
That's like 18 in guy years
I mean, I don't wanna date him but.. y'know
But he's adorable.
When he's older he's gonna be irresistible.
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Give it a go if you want, but don't be surprised when the immaturity drags things down.
Posted by aquarius_manThat's okay. Women her age usually don't give a shit what you have to say anyway.Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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You're also full of shit because you can look at her and NOT guess 53, sorry.
Posted by RooSagicornIt's just a talking head account anyways. Pay it no mind.Posted by heliumfiascoAh it’s okay. I really don’t care. But it is valid to ask why he thinks that’s necessary to insert his opinion & not thinking of others. But he’s an Aquarius, we need to be educated ya know lolPosted by aquarius_manWhy do you have to be mean, and try to make her feel like she doesn't look as good as she feels? What do you get out of that?Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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Posted by RooSagicornPosted by heliumfiascoAh it’s okay. I really don’t care. But it is valid to ask why he thinks that’s necessary to insert his opinion & not thinking of others. But he’s an Aquarius, we need to be educated ya know lolPosted by aquarius_manWhy do you have to be mean, and try to make her feel like she doesn't look as good as she feels? What do you get out of that?Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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He's a she according to some on here, so take it with a grain of salt. You look awesome lady! I turned 50 this year, so right behind you...
Posted by RooSagicornI come from a family where the women don't look their age. I always get that I look like I'm in my mid to late 20s. Hell, I still use my college ID to get student ticket prices haha. My aunt is in her mid 70s and doesn't look it, my mom was in her 60s and looked maybe late 40s early 50s, and my grandma always looked great, even in her 90s. My cousin is almost 40 and she looks maybe late 20s, early 30s.Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by aquarius_manThat's okay. Women her age usually don't give a shit what you have to say anyway.Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
You're also full of shit because you can look at her and NOT guess 53, sorry.
Lol. You’re so right! And thanks 🙂 it’s always nice to hear compliments regardless.
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They're nice, fortunate genes to have, tbh.
Posted by tizianiPosted by heliumfiascoIt was a godsend at that time. She was very clear on what she wanted. A big change from what I was used to.Posted by tizianiHow was the dynamic?Posted by MyStarsShineThe biggest age gap I lived was her being 30 and me 23 at the time, together for 2 years or so.Posted by tiziani@tiziani
my bad I didn't realise it was for women.
Did you ever have a much older lady?
You seem like an old soul
or - to quote Nikki - for me it was cookies and gas money.
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Posted by nikkistarPosted by RooSagicornIt's just a talking head account anyways. Pay it no mind.Posted by heliumfiascoAh it’s okay. I really don’t care. But it is valid to ask why he thinks that’s necessary to insert his opinion & not thinking of others. But he’s an Aquarius, we need to be educated ya know lolPosted by aquarius_manWhy do you have to be mean, and try to make her feel like she doesn't look as good as she feels? What do you get out of that?Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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LOL, jinx.
Posted by aquarius_manreally? guess my age then 😛Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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Posted by justagirlThat would be 123212^2/12+41523.1x1/932812 Right?Posted by aquarius_manreally? guess my age then 😛Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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Posted by nikkistarPosted by justagirlThat would be 123212^2/12+41523.1x1/932812 Right?Posted by aquarius_manreally? guess my age then 😛Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
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YES! OMG how did you know? 😛
Posted by justagirlAsian level math skills, bruh. lolPosted by nikkistarPosted by justagirlThat would be 123212^2/12+41523.1x1/932812 Right?Posted by aquarius_manreally? guess my age then 😛Posted by RooSagicornwell, it depends. if you have a trained eye. you can guess a woman's age pretty easy. you just have to look for tell telling signs - the neck area, the hands, the eyesPosted by aquarius_manLol. Whatever I don’t care. I’m 53, 54 next month it’s all good. People have different opinions. I don’t even know what certain ages are supposed to look like lol. I think I look a LOT older than I used to. But some women in their early 40’s look old, it’s all relative.Posted by RooSagicorn Actually I don’t go below 45. Some think I’m in my 30’s to early 40’s. Whatever. Lol.you look 47-50; not 53; definitely not early 40's.
YES! OMG how did you know? 😛
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That doesn't suprize me at all. The way I see it the older a woman gets, especially when past 30, the more she likes to date the stable mature guy. Now there are many so called mature guys in their 20s but guess what? There were already a lot of mature guys in their 20s around when you ladies were in your 20s as well but you probably didn't want to date them back then, instead you probably went for the adventurous yet "immature guys" you actually complain about now. Now in your 30s and 40s you date the younger mature guys you used to reject back then. However, those male singles over 30 and 40 still don't want to settle down.
I have always believed that the majority of women between 20 and 30 like to date the same type of men who aren't easy to tie down because rumor has it that women in their 20s aren't into committmend either but once they get older they settle for stability. The only difference is that many men probably still don't like to settle down, no matter their age.
I have always believed that the majority of women between 20 and 30 like to date the same type of men who aren't easy to tie down because rumor has it that women in their 20s aren't into committmend either but once they get older they settle for stability. The only difference is that many men probably still don't like to settle down, no matter their age.
Posted by aquarius_man46 lmaoooPosted by justagirlcant see a clear picture but id say real age: late 20's - early 30's , but looking like 32
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Posted by RooSagicornPosted by aquarius_manPosted by RooSagicornYou got offended for what exactly? Coz you don t look 40?Posted by aquarius_manPosted by rockyroadicecreamBut you do give a shit, hence your reply. A trained eye can guess a woman's age. You know, for instance, when taking photos, what angles to avoid in order to avoid showing signs of old age and stuff. Its inevitable. It's biology. And it's also make believe. I never cared about her real b-day, I said she's not in her early 40's, coz that would be insulting for women in their early 40s.
That's okay. Women her age usually don't give a shit what you have to say anyway.
You're also full of shit because you can look at her and NOT guess 53, sorry.
And this is my opinion. And anyway, wtf am I doing in this thread. Sorry ladies
Insult women in their early 40’s wow.another slam you are just so much fun. Not that I give a shit but this Aquarius bullshit of feeling the need to protect all the women in their early 40’s is quite hysterical.
No! I don’t think I look 40. I just don’t get why you keep feeling the need to make it a point that you think I look old and need the world to know that you don’t agree. I did not even bring this up, but yet you can’t allow other women to give compliments? Wth is your problem?
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Well from the male point of view, this makes a lot of sense. As a guy who dates women both older and younger than myself, there are clear advantages and disadvantages to dating older women. This article seems to only be looking at one side of things though. It doesn't account for why younger men appear to be more open to relationships with older women.
From my own experiences older woman (hopefully) know what they want and have more drive to accomplish their goals. Likewise older woman tend to be (hopefully) more emotionally mature and are less prone to playing manipulative games. As a result an older woman may (hopefully) also have a mindset better suited for building a solid relationship in addition to being more sexually confident.
The downside is that this logic only goes so far and doesn't take the longterm into account. When men are looking to settle down, other issues emerge. For example a man who is older may seek out a younger partner to start a family. At this point, continuing a relationship with an older woman may seem ill advised. I've known guys who were completely open to dating older women (for the examples given in the article), only to switch to a younger woman a few years later in order to start a family.
The other thing to know is that guys from their mid 20s to early 30s are still trying to figure out their own lives. The reason they seem more available is because emotionally they are. They simply don't have the same hang ups or experiences older man may have. They don't care about the woman's professional accomplishments or earning potential because at that age, guys generally aren't picky. As a result dating an older woman makes a lot of sense, since for a younger guy this type of relationship almost seems easier to maintain.
That's not to say that an older woman can't get a younger guy to commit to a longterm relationship. It happens. That's also not to discredit the article's thesis that younger generations of men are accustomed to stronger women. That definitely seems to be the case as well. However it seems appropriate to point out out that for younger guys dating older women nowadays seems to still fall in line with the current paradigm of dating.
From my own experiences older woman (hopefully) know what they want and have more drive to accomplish their goals. Likewise older woman tend to be (hopefully) more emotionally mature and are less prone to playing manipulative games. As a result an older woman may (hopefully) also have a mindset better suited for building a solid relationship in addition to being more sexually confident.
The downside is that this logic only goes so far and doesn't take the longterm into account. When men are looking to settle down, other issues emerge. For example a man who is older may seek out a younger partner to start a family. At this point, continuing a relationship with an older woman may seem ill advised. I've known guys who were completely open to dating older women (for the examples given in the article), only to switch to a younger woman a few years later in order to start a family.
The other thing to know is that guys from their mid 20s to early 30s are still trying to figure out their own lives. The reason they seem more available is because emotionally they are. They simply don't have the same hang ups or experiences older man may have. They don't care about the woman's professional accomplishments or earning potential because at that age, guys generally aren't picky. As a result dating an older woman makes a lot of sense, since for a younger guy this type of relationship almost seems easier to maintain.
That's not to say that an older woman can't get a younger guy to commit to a longterm relationship. It happens. That's also not to discredit the article's thesis that younger generations of men are accustomed to stronger women. That definitely seems to be the case as well. However it seems appropriate to point out out that for younger guys dating older women nowadays seems to still fall in line with the current paradigm of dating.
Posted by Sodapopi'd say it was a commitment problem if i see a guy over 30 never was with a woman long term.
following.
So if a man is between 35-40 and never been married, is it because they didn't find what they want, or is it a commitment problem?
i know that's not really popular for me to say, but it's just how i feel. most men i know want to commit fast and ready and be long term with one woman.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeid feel gross too. i dont like it to be honest. i also get grossed out by old farts looking.
I don't like it
Being approached by much younger men. Like a decade younger. It makes me feel gross
I get insecure like do they think I'm immature or something but it's my face I look young
On the other hand men die faster then women so women should actually date younger
Posted by aquarius_manlol women no matter the signs, even if they are sag dominant (wants truth and spouts truth) want to hear good things. it hurts too much otherwise. you should know this. smhPosted by rockyroadicecreamBut you do give a shit, hence your reply. A trained eye can guess a woman's age. You know, for instance, when taking photos, what angles to avoid in order to avoid showing signs of old age and stuff. Its inevitable. It's biology. And it's also make believe. I never cared about her real b-day, I said she's not in her early 40's, coz that would be insulting for women in their early 40s.
That's okay. Women her age usually don't give a shit what you have to say anyway.
You're also full of shit because you can look at her and NOT guess 53, sorry.
And this is my opinion. And anyway, wtf am I doing in this thread. Sorry ladies
Posted by tizianismh. lolPosted by aquarius_manoh very smooth, aquarius man. Very smooth indeed.Posted by justagirlcant see a clear picture but id say real age: late 20's - early 30's , but looking like 32
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Posted by lisabethur8Pics or nobody has eva been lookinPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeid feel gross too. i dont like it to be honest. i also get grossed out by old farts looking.
I don't like it
Being approached by much younger men. Like a decade younger. It makes me feel gross
I get insecure like do they think I'm immature or something but it's my face I look young
On the other hand men die faster then women so women should actually date younger
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Posted by Ellygantoh i agree!! watery men/water domiannt men looooveeee commitment.
Most young 20-24 year old guys I know are relationship hungry tho. I get a lot that pursue me but I can never take any serious.
25 and up that I meet are pretty evasive and not terribly open. I do tend toward water sign men tho lol
i dont usually see many go past 30, or even 25 with someone in tow /in a relationsihp.
The two guys I "liked" were younger to me. Don't remember feeling anything special for the guys of my exact same age. The older ones did show a lotta interest n I did kinda like them...but idk. I always wanted older guys n probably that's what I'd actually go for too but I haven't been ready for them before.
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