A whole entire newborn at home

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I have a strict policy of no dating men with children!

I’ve done both and tbh men with kids are just scattered and juggling plates. The plates happen to be kids. Kids should come first and rightfully/unfortunately I won’t come first.

It’s the reciprocity that is an issue for me
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Just too many issues I can think of to list. Thanks, but no thanks. There are still men with no children out there.
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What if she died during childbirth

And he’s just a my husband trying to get through life

Hmm, so if baby mama ain’t in the picture in any way? You would say yes?

Me? I’m not in the dating mindset right now but hypothetically if he was chad + rich enough I suppose I would say yes
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Wait! Are you dating men now? 🤔
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What if she died during childbirth

And he’s just a my husband trying to get through life

Hmm, so if baby mama ain’t in the picture in any way? You would say yes?

Me? I’m not in the dating mindset right now but hypothetically if he was chad + rich enough I suppose I would say yes

Wait! Are you dating men now? 🤔

😂

Key word: hypothetically
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Jesus Christ

I almost had a heart attack 😳
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

Are you back into dating game?
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No

But this guy with a newborn keeps giving me the 👁

He’s an obnoxious Aquarius who keeps using the kindergarten approach of picking on someone you obviously like.
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Sure I'd enjoy helping him take care of a little baby.

You do have a ton of Libra in your chart but you Scorpio Venus wouldn’t be secretly jealous
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Not really. I'm too old to have kids anymore. I never wanted them but I still think they're adorable. Maybe I am jealous though, I wouldn't mind having a son or a daughter, maybe both. Too late now; but I do have 2 nephews who I adore.
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What if she died during childbirth

And he’s just a my husband trying to get through life

Hmm, so if baby mama ain’t in the picture in any way? You would say yes?
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Recently had a baby with woman who is far far away with baby? The only difference with other men is that this one KNOWS he had a baby when others just don’t…plus your dating habit - you won’t stay with him long enough for the baby to become a nuisance.
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Nah that baby needs his daddy more than I do. Like someone else mentioned, I don’t mind dating a single dad but a newborn—? Go bond with your baby. Lol dating a new woman should be the last thing on his mind at that point.


Yeah that’s how I feel. Focus on your kid and creating a successful coparenting relationship with your baby mama.
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers
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In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

P.S. in this situation. Ya newborns are demanding. Doesn't stop you from getting to know each other. It's a matter of priorities. You will not be his number 1 priority.
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol
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Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody
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That's true. Well then the question is,

in this situation. Ya newborns are demanding. Doesn't stop you from getting to know each other. It's a matter of priorities. You will not be his number 1 priority.

Are you ok with that?
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody

That's true. Well then the question is,

in this situation. Ya newborns are demanding. Doesn't stop you from getting to know each other. It's a matter of priorities. You will not be his number 1 priority.

Are you ok with that?
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Not sure about what’s going on but who said that baby is ANY priority for the father?

Man is about to date so he isn’t really all about to be a dad! Honestly I don’t blame all men for all kids women decide to give birth to when men have NO idea! Then man told ‘you are a father’ and he is shocked! He wasn’t getting ready for the moment.

Another situation when mother is out of picture and father IS going to raise the baby…and he is about to date…maybe he is scared and need woman to help him to raise that baby.

Who knows?
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody
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Totally understandable. I am calling it ‘my rights to not to love’ and they should be respected as ‘rights to love’. If not mutual - no hurt feelings whatever reason presented.
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Posted by Lostthoughts
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody

That's true. Well then the question is,

in this situation. Ya newborns are demanding. Doesn't stop you from getting to know each other. It's a matter of priorities. You will not be his number 1 priority.

Are you ok with that?

Not sure about what’s going on but who said that baby is ANY priority for the father?

Man is about to date so he isn’t really all about to be a dad! Honestly I don’t blame all men for all kids women decide to give birth to when men have NO idea! Then man told ‘you are a father’ and he is shocked! He wasn’t getting ready for the moment.

Another situation when mother is out of picture and father IS going to raise the baby…and he is about to date…maybe he is scared and need woman to help him to raise that baby.

Who knows?
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True, don't know if the newborn will be his #1 priority.

Will be a challenge to invest the time "traditional dating" requires.

And being a single parent is no joke.

To be fair, gender doesn't really matter for a partner. Just has to have the skill sets necessary for development. Primarily emotional support and the role of structure🙃
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Hell naw.

Single dads are cool but a new born? Sounds sus to me. I'd be on the lookout for "missing" posters of the baby mama.

I’ve had a guy tell me after he slept with me, his real number of kids and one included a newborn.

He didn’t think me worthy of knowing his truth
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There's not a lot of women that would let him clap their cheeks if he tells them he's got a newborn.
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers
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yo that's fucked up that a grown man is going around saying that to women...:/ like wtf...

anyway, as far as dating dudes with kids go, if they're being responsible dads and playing an active role in their kids' lives, i think there's something positive there but you should stay away from dudes that have numerous kids with numerous different women all out of wedlock....that seems like a red flag to me....
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When I was a teenager my older sister told me never to marry a man with kids(she did, it was a warning).

I pretty much stuck to that rule...mainly because I didn't even know if I wanted kids let alone have to deal with someone else's kids. There was one guy I dated that had a kid but that lasted like 2 months and the kid was never around but just from being with him I realized my sister was right lmao.

So tho when I got older and tried to have kids on my own but was not able to I did change my perspective a little...thinking maybe I should have gotten with a man who already had kids cause maybe then I'd atleast have his kids to help raise and one day have grandchildren together (fully aware that I'd still be the step mom and not biogicaly the grandma) but I'd atleast have those experiences.

Then I did date men with kids and even tho they kept me away from their kids and I didn't date them long enough to meet their kids...I again realized that I do not want to raise someone else's kids and that I would always come second. I got tired of hearing "I can't do this and that cause I have to do this with my kids".

Only reason I'd get with a man with kids now is if his kids were grown and out of the house.

A new born? Fuck that. Man isn't going to have any time for me or our relationship.

I think it is great that there are people out there willing to do it tho both men and women....it just isn't for me.
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When I was a teenager my older sister told me never to marry a man with kids(she did, it was a warning).

I pretty much stuck to that rule...mainly because I didn't even know if I wanted kids let alone have to deal with someone else's kids. There was one guy I dated that had a kid but that lasted like 2 months and the kid was never around but just from being with him I realized my sister was right lmao.

So tho when I got older and tried to have kids on my own but was not able to I did change my perspective a little...thinking maybe I should have gotten with a man who already had kids cause maybe then I'd atleast have his kids to help raise and one day have grandchildren together (fully aware that I'd still be the step mom and not biogicaly the grandma) but I'd atleast have those experiences.

Then I did date men with kids and even tho they kept me away from their kids and I didn't date them long enough to meet their kids...I again realized that I do not want to raise someone else's kids and that I would always come second. I got tired of hearing "I can't do this and that cause I have to do this with my kids".

Only reason I'd get with a man with kids now is if his kids were grown and out of the house.

A new born? Fuck that. Man isn't going to have any time for me or our relationship.

I think it is great that there are people out there willing to do it tho both men and women....it just isn't for me.


My mom always told me:

Strictly, no men with children. Under no circumstances.

My dad told me:

No tattoos in my house. Don’t date a cop or a military guy.
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When I was a teenager my older sister told me never to marry a man with kids(she did, it was a warning).

I pretty much stuck to that rule...mainly because I didn't even know if I wanted kids let alone have to deal with someone else's kids. There was one guy I dated that had a kid but that lasted like 2 months and the kid was never around but just from being with him I realized my sister was right lmao.

So tho when I got older and tried to have kids on my own but was not able to I did change my perspective a little...thinking maybe I should have gotten with a man who already had kids cause maybe then I'd atleast have his kids to help raise and one day have grandchildren together (fully aware that I'd still be the step mom and not biogicaly the grandma) but I'd atleast have those experiences.

Then I did date men with kids and even tho they kept me away from their kids and I didn't date them long enough to meet their kids...I again realized that I do not want to raise someone else's kids and that I would always come second. I got tired of hearing "I can't do this and that cause I have to do this with my kids".

Only reason I'd get with a man with kids now is if his kids were grown and out of the house.

A new born? Fuck that. Man isn't going to have any time for me or our relationship.

I think it is great that there are people out there willing to do it tho both men and women....it just isn't for me.

My mom always told me:

Strictly, no men with children. Under no circumstances.

My dad told me:

No tattoos in my house. Don’t date a cop or a military guy.
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I agree with the military guys. I've dated a few.
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody

That's true. Well then the question is,

in this situation. Ya newborns are demanding. Doesn't stop you from getting to know each other. It's a matter of priorities. You will not be his number 1 priority.

Are you ok with that?
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Ok but in that same vein, what does it say about a man who is so focused on dating someone new when he has a whole newborn to take care of. His priorities are not right. Meaning his judgment is suss.
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If he has someone to help with his baby I don't think I'd mind. I will certainly have my suspicions initially (being used to take care of the baby) because my culture is absolute trash when it comes to women so I'm just wired to avoid it like the plague. I love taking care of children and plan on adopting a few, however, I will be in complete control of when that's happening. I don't know how to describe it, but someone expecting me to take care of his child/children because I'm a woman he happens to date gives me the ick.
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Lmao!

All I got to say is, don't be butt hurt if you all are judged by the same stick you use for others.

Men have told me they wouldn’t date me because my skin color. And kids are something people CAN control.

I’m sure we all have disqualifiers

In this day and age, why would skin color have anything to do with the person as a individual and possible partner?. Those men aren't worth your time. Which I believe you know. If anything pitty them. They missed out right?

As for baby at home, shit happens. People make mistakes and not everything and not anyone is in your control.

I can understand if someone doesn't want children or ready for them. It a serious responsibility, has it's perks tho.

Beyond the child thing, are all you saying you would pass YOUR PERFECT match because of life circumstances or situation...especially if they are handling it?

You would not invest in a relationship with them?

If the roles where reversed for whatever reason and circumstances, would you be ok with being passed up or straight rejected?



Like I said, people are judged by the same stick they use. So better be sure lol

Yeah I would be okay with being passed up on and rejected. I HAVE been okay with being rejected.

Everybody ain’t for everybody

That's true. Well then the question is,

in this situation. Ya newborns are demanding. Doesn't stop you from getting to know each other. It's a matter of priorities. You will not be his number 1 priority.

Are you ok with that?

Ok but in that same vein, what does it say about a man who is so focused on dating someone new when he has a whole newborn to take care of. His priorities are not right. Meaning his judgment is suss.
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True. Wouldn't be surprised if he looking for a partner.

When your a parent relationships take on a more serious flavor. Donno. Hopefully we get a update to see what's what.