Boyfriends mom still friendly with his EX's...

I dont know if this is something i should bring up to my bf or not. I want to give the benefit of the doubt that its all innocent, but i noticed his mom (whom is very friendly eh, fake friendly) comments on his ex's facebook and instagrams. Things as small as "you look beautiful ", but then things that kind of bother me like "I MISS YOU". Maybe im thinking too much into it, but that seems almost undermining. Unfair to me, unfair to the exes and unfair to my bf.

Again, i feel as though she doesnt accept me in her sons life yet.

maybe she is just being friendly and she isnt good with Boundries ?

Should i mention it to my bf and i feel its disrespectful all around? or just let her do what she does and it has no baring on his and I's relationship?

Also i know one ex recently tried to contact my bf.

He told her he was happily in a relationship and hoped she was well.

This is the same one she just said "i miss you" to 5 days ago...I feel as though that's confusing for someone whom may not be completely over the relationship.

Nothing you can do about a relationship with mom & an ex. Or what an ex chooses to do. If you & your boyfriend are good than there is no problem. Concentrate on what matters.

It's none of your business. Maybe the mom and ex had a good relationship. I know some of my sisters exs still called my mom "mom" for years after they broke up because they really liked my mom. My dad apparently still talks about my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago and how much he liked him even tho he tore my heart out. They dont speak tho.

If anything I'd probably ask my bf causually "do you think it's weird your mom still talks to your ex?"

Btw, how do you know she comments on her pics? Are you stalking the ex?

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Posted by Boots1313

I dont know if this is something i should bring up to my bf or not. I want to give the benefit of the doubt that its all innocent, but i noticed his mom (whom is very friendly eh, fake friendly) comments on his ex's facebook and instagrams. Things as small as "you look beautiful ", but then things that kind of bother me like "I MISS YOU". Maybe im thinking too much into it, but that seems almost undermining. Unfair to me, unfair to the exes and unfair to my bf.

Again, i feel as though she doesnt accept me in her sons life yet.

maybe she is just being friendly and she isnt good with Boundries ?

Should i mention it to my bf and i feel its disrespectful all around? or just let her do what she does and it has no baring on his and I's relationship?

How do you know his mom is commenting on his exes stuff?

Are you looking at his exes pages like a crazy stalker?

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Lol yes... no but in all seriousness his One X popped up on my "friends you may know" becuz we have a few mutual friends.

So I just clicked on the page oit of curiousity.

(She has an interesting profile pic) to take a look at it,and the first comment was her. So i scrolled through and noticed that she's been commenting on a lot of the timeline in the pictures. I actually haven't looked at any of his ex's Pages. Most of them are private anyway.

I know she's social media friends with all of them and that I could care less about.

My boyfriend is im sure un- aware that she is commenting.

He would say something like "that's

Just my mom. Shes too friendly, and actually doesnt mean it"

Or he would be seriously annoyed. Since when he's done with an ex he's done 1000% .

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It's none of your business. Maybe the mom and ex had a good relationship. I know some of my sisters exs still called my mom "mom" for years after they broke up because they really liked my mom. My dad apparently still talks about my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago and how much he liked him even tho he tore my heart out. They dont speak tho.

If anything I'd probably ask my bf causually "do you think it's weird your mom still talks to your ex?"

Btw, how do you know she comments on her pics? Are you stalking the ex?

Yup totally stalking. Becasue social media isnt at all transparent? and random people dony pop up when there are several mutual friends involved.

I can literally see her comments all over my timeline. To the most random people

One of the reasons I'm not Facebook friends with my Libra haha

Moms do that stuff. I called out my mom on it once when she was still messaging my ex from 7 years ago and giving me all kinds of updates on her (?). I told her I didn't appreciate it and thought it was kinda disrespectful to my current gf. She didn't understand what the problem was but eventually stopped doing it.

Also from that same ex....her mom actually kept on messaging me years after we had broken up. One time I met up with her and her aunt cause they were in town, I only did it though cause my ex was single, I was single and back then I wasn't that great with boundaries lol. These days though I have absolutely no contact with any of my exes moms or dads.

I think you can discuss your frustration about it with your bf and if it really really starts bothering you so much, then I would ask him to try and do something about it.

I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

I have zero interest in getting back with my ex.

Ex = NExt

it's weird and unnecessary stress. don't need a mum being a bitch

Why is that any of your business?

What concerns you is the relationship YOU have with her and if you want a good one , focus on creating that rather than focusing on her relationship with the exs. Even if the mom is being petty or doing it intentionally causing drama will only create more dislike towards you.

The goal is not for her to not talk to his exs...wtf... she's a grown woman and can have relationship with whoever she wants.. your goal should be to improve your relationship with her so you don't feel so insecure about it.

I still love some of my ex's mom and she'll hit me up like "i miss you" but that's because her and I had an amazing relationship. Her son,my ex, is happily in a relationship and it has nothing to do with me and the mom.

There's a lot of issue with the way you're thinking about it... hope I gave you something to think about.

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It's none of your business. Maybe the mom and ex had a good relationship. I know some of my sisters exs still called my mom "mom" for years after they broke up because they really liked my mom. My dad apparently still talks about my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago and how much he liked him even tho he tore my heart out. They dont speak tho.

If anything I'd probably ask my bf causually "do you think it's weird your mom still talks to your ex?"

Btw, how do you know she comments on her pics? Are you stalking the ex?

Yup totally stalking. Becasue social media isnt at all transparent? and random people dony pop up when there are several mutual friends involved.

I can literally see her comments all over my timeline. To the most random people

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I never see people's comments on other people's pages unless I am friends with that other person. Are you friends with the ex on social media?

It's okay if you're stalking. I do it too! 😂

Listen love, you're dating your boyfriend. Not his mom.

Keep that in mind, you cant change the friendship she has with past exes. That's their situation between them.

Focus on your relationship.

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I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

True, i have def had good relationships with exes families.

But I cut ties when it ends 100% . I just dont see a reason in continuning?

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It's none of your business. Maybe the mom and ex had a good relationship. I know some of my sisters exs still called my mom "mom" for years after they broke up because they really liked my mom. My dad apparently still talks about my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago and how much he liked him even tho he tore my heart out. They dont speak tho.

If anything I'd probably ask my bf causually "do you think it's weird your mom still talks to your ex?"

Btw, how do you know she comments on her pics? Are you stalking the ex?

Yup totally stalking. Becasue social media isnt at all transparent? and random people dony pop up when there are several mutual friends involved.

I can literally see her comments all over my timeline. To the most random people

I never see people's comments on other people's pages unless I am friends with that other person. Are you friends with the ex on social media?

It's okay if you're stalking. I do it too! 😂

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No, not friends with her. But it pops up.

I looked at the page 1x. Wouldn't call it stalking lol

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Why is that any of your business?

What concerns you is the relationship YOU have with her and if you want a good one , focus on creating that rather than focusing on her relationship with the exs. Even if the mom is being petty or doing it intentionally causing drama will only create more dislike towards you.

The goal is not for her to not talk to his exs...wtf... she's a grown woman and can have relationship with whoever she wants.. your goal should be to improve your relationship with her so you don't feel so insecure about it.

I still love some of my ex's mom and she'll hit me up like "i miss you" but that's because her and I had an amazing relationship. Her son,my ex, is happily in a relationship and it has nothing to do with me and the mom.

There's a lot of issue with the way you're thinking about it... hope I gave you something to think about.

Thank you that sets my mind at ease.

Im 50/50 on wether ots personal or not.

Now i know it isnt.

Just not something ive expierenced because in my mind when two people break up, there should be clear boundries.

But not everyone operates like that. And i guess there isnt anything sinister about it.

I'm sure people around will accuse Virgo moons of being paranoid, but sometimes where there's smoke there's fire. A healthy dose of paranoia is good, especially when it comes to people with a history of shady behavior. It's our self-preservation instinct kicking in.

Am I wrong, or are you starting to think that the old bag is possibly egging on the ex to get back together with your man?

I should know, because it happened to me. Only it wasn't the mother, it was the big sister. Egging on the thirsty Libra hoe who forced herself on him. I punished her by making her watch a compilation of some of the weirdest scenes from Shameless which she absolutely hates lol. Something like this:



She apologized for it, but when you cross a certain line with Virgo moons, we never fully trust again. And they find themselves constantly in our sights, that unwavering laser focus we're infamous for.

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edit: just read the other responses, trust yourself, if there's no problem then there's no problem, but I lowkey feel like there is and if it gets worst and worst (which I feel like it will because this mom is going to be extremely triggered if you end up going down the aisle), I would approach her like above rofl

Well I'm glad you've gotten your daily jollies, but it's no laughing matter when you feel like people are out to get you out. Especially when your guy is far more family-oriented than you are.

And yes, you bet your bleached white ass I've got more scenes in my back pocket. "Cum for grandma" is a front-runner.



by the time I'm finished with them, they'll be grovelling for mercy.

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I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

True, i have def had good relationships with exes families.

But I cut ties when it ends 100% . I just dont see a reason in continuning?

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They were really good to me.

I even went to his fathers funeral.

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Why is that any of your business?

What concerns you is the relationship YOU have with her and if you want a good one , focus on creating that rather than focusing on her relationship with the exs. Even if the mom is being petty or doing it intentionally causing drama will only create more dislike towards you.

The goal is not for her to not talk to his exs...wtf... she's a grown woman and can have relationship with whoever she wants.. your goal should be to improve your relationship with her so you don't feel so insecure about it.

I still love some of my ex's mom and she'll hit me up like "i miss you" but that's because her and I had an amazing relationship. Her son,my ex, is happily in a relationship and it has nothing to do with me and the mom.

There's a lot of issue with the way you're thinking about it... hope I gave you something to think about.

Thank you that sets my mind at ease.

Im 50/50 on wether ots personal or not.

Now i know it isnt.

Just not something ive expierenced because in my mind when two people break up, there should be clear boundries.

But not everyone operates like that. And i guess there isnt anything sinister about it.

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Of course there should be clear boundaries but between the ex and the partner. It's not fair to create boundaries for grown people and the relationships that have nothing to do with you.

Let's say she was doing it intentionally, do you really think bringing attention to it would make it better? It's good to look at it from a root cause issue.... If she's doing it intentionally the root cause is that she doesn't like you. So in order to make that better you have two helpful options: 1) ignore it. sometimes you just have to release & let go of toxic people 2) build a better relationship with her. Bringing it up will only makes things worse.

Now if she's not doing it intentionally, and you're worried about it, then it means that the issue is with you because she can talk to whoever she wants. The root cause would be that you're insecure about your relationship with the mom which in this case you have two healthy options: 1) work on your insecurity and do inner work to find how you can learn from this insecurity; come into your power, 2) build a better relationship with her.

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It's none of your business. Maybe the mom and ex had a good relationship. I know some of my sisters exs still called my mom "mom" for years after they broke up because they really liked my mom. My dad apparently still talks about my ex boyfriend from 20 years ago and how much he liked him even tho he tore my heart out. They dont speak tho.

If anything I'd probably ask my bf causually "do you think it's weird your mom still talks to your ex?"

Btw, how do you know she comments on her pics? Are you stalking the ex?

Yup totally stalking. Becasue social media isnt at all transparent? and random people dony pop up when there are several mutual friends involved.

I can literally see her comments all over my timeline. To the most random people

I never see people's comments on other people's pages unless I am friends with that other person. Are you friends with the ex on social media?

It's okay if you're stalking. I do it too! 😂

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"I never see people's comments on other people's pages unless I am friends with that other person."

you can see the public posts of others and the comments, just the "shared with friends" option posts are "private". You can choose with every post, if you want to make it public, shared with friend, seen only by me (on Facebook, I dont know about IG or other social media)

I stalk too 🙂

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I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

True, i have def had good relationships with exes families.

But I cut ties when it ends 100% . I just dont see a reason in continuning?

They were really good to me.

I even went to his fathers funeral.

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🤷‍♀️ to each their own.

It’s a non issue as long as she doesn’t interfere with your relationship.

Oh and I’ll add, block her from your feed (in your settings) so you don’t have to see her posts if it’s really getting you heated.

Although if she’s posting on his ex’s pics does this mean you are clicking her profile and reading through her post history? Or are you friends with the ex and it pops up. Either way do yourself a favor and don’t go looking for this ish. Pointless really.

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I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

True, i have def had good relationships with exes families.

But I cut ties when it ends 100% . I just dont see a reason in continuning?

They were really good to me.

I even went to his fathers funeral.

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That is some trademark Venus in Cap stuff there...

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edit: just read the other responses, trust yourself, if there's no problem then there's no problem, but I lowkey feel like there is and if it gets worst and worst (which I feel like it will because this mom is going to be extremely triggered if you end up going down the aisle), I would approach her like above rofl

Well I'm glad you've gotten your daily jollies, but it's no laughing matter when you feel like people are out to get you out. Especially when your guy is far more family-oriented than you are.

And yes, you bet your bleached white ass I've got more scenes in my back pocket. "Cum for grandma" is a front-runner.

by the time I'm finished with them, they'll be grovelling for mercy.

rofl my instincts don't lie!!!! and other people shouldn't ignore theirs imo! just watch when OP posts a thread in a month or two about the situation getting worst! i guaranteeeee it. there is abs0lutelyyyyyy no00ooo wai that the mother of your boyfran/bae would treat you the way OP has been treated based on past threads if someone genuinely likes you and wants to make you feel comfortable & accepted cos you're with their son

nooo00oooo way, n0t in this universe bb

there are people who are /hard to understand or aloof or withdrawn or whatever but these /tactics I've read the op post about & may not be picking up on are /classic signs of a bigggggger problem

*everyone is @ the table discussing moving and the momma knows your moving with her son and she is intentionally excluding you in /shadywomanwais*

pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

p.s - not trying to scare you OP, but I wouldn't keep calling yourself delusional or "thank gosh I have nothing to worry about," trust your intuition, people are not as innocent as they like to portray themselves to be. If something doesn't make sense, if something doesn't add up, if there's sooo00oo much smoke that it's obvs someone is hiding a flame in their panties, bb, the pyros are prolly there okai

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What the fuck did he say??

Ok first of all I had to read that 3-4 times, talk properly so I can understand what the shit you're saying. Better yet, lay off the Redbull while DXPing.

And more power to your instincts, but I was telling her to watch her back because I lived through shit like that, and the worst case scenario came to pass. Just when everything seemed peachy keen on both sides.

Family members play favorites, that's what they do. And if you were late to the dinner table, then it sucks to be you.

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I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

True, i have def had good relationships with exes families.

But I cut ties when it ends 100% . I just dont see a reason in continuning?

They were really good to me.

I even went to his fathers funeral.

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Its all.about choosing your battles.

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Posted by Boots1313

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I am still friends with my ex parents. Even tho their son was a jerk, they were decent good people.

True, i have def had good relationships with exes families.

But I cut ties when it ends 100% . I just dont see a reason in continuning?

They were really good to me.

I even went to his fathers funeral.

That is some trademark Venus in Cap stuff there...

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Hey hey hey 😀😀😀

Ill be cautious and sleep with one eye open, but im internalizing this condlict and considering what everyone said, and i dont feel too panicked about it.

First off i trust my bf and our relationship. I know wholeheartedly how he feels about his exes (mothers involvement of not) and i have nothing to worry about there.

Its true her and i haven't had the best relationship but we have been working on it. And i think its gotten better. I mentioned the last situation tpy boyfriend and he defended me and told her what was up with oir future livining situation and now im include, when that conversation arises.

I will take ladyneptunes advice and put on social media blockers so i dont have to see it.

Btw the ex didnt respond to the comments. So there is some peace of mind.

She also writes nice comments on my photos and posts. So she isnt being bitchy to me or discluding me.

The mother is unstable, but ive delt with unstable people also luckily my bf is stable.

Think about it like this....

When good people come into your life, you're gonna want to hold onto them. Especially if they were influential. That person was about of someone's life journey and vice versa.

Why should that spiritual connection end because of a breakup? Or insecurities of others?

Consider your approach to the situation. Stalk the mother and asses where you 2 can be friends and form an even closer relationship.

This is high vibrational and will get you further than seeing it as a threat.

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I dont know if this is something i should bring up to my bf or not. I want to give the benefit of the doubt that its all innocent, but i noticed his mom (whom is very friendly eh, fake friendly) comments on his ex's facebook and instagrams. Things as small as "you look beautiful ", but then things that kind of bother me like "I MISS YOU". Maybe im thinking too much into it, but that seems almost undermining. Unfair to me, unfair to the exes and unfair to my bf.

Again, i feel as though she doesnt accept me in her sons life yet.

maybe she is just being friendly and she isnt good with Boundries ?

Should i mention it to my bf and i feel its disrespectful all around? or just let her do what she does and it has no baring on his and I's relationship?

She hates you. Deal with it. 🤦‍♀️

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Think about it like this....

When good people come into your life, you're gonna want to hold onto them. Especially if they were influential. That person was about of someone's life journey and vice versa.

Why should that spiritual connection end because of a breakup? Or insecurities of others?

Consider your approach to the situation. Stalk the mother and asses where you 2 can be friends and form an even closer relationship.

This is high vibrational and will get you further than seeing it as a threat.

There's a case to be made for carrying unnecessary bagage from the past for new experiences/people in your life. It's nice to travel as light as possible.

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edit: just read the other responses, trust yourself, if there's no problem then there's no problem, but I lowkey feel like there is and if it gets worst and worst (which I feel like it will because this mom is going to be extremely triggered if you end up going down the aisle), I would approach her like above rofl

Well I'm glad you've gotten your daily jollies, but it's no laughing matter when you feel like people are out to get you out. Especially when your guy is far more family-oriented than you are.

And yes, you bet your bleached white ass I've got more scenes in my back pocket. "Cum for grandma" is a front-runner.

by the time I'm finished with them, they'll be grovelling for mercy.

rofl my instincts don't lie!!!! and other people shouldn't ignore theirs imo! just watch when OP posts a thread in a month or two about the situation getting worst! i guaranteeeee it. there is abs0lutelyyyyyy no00ooo wai that the mother of your boyfran/bae would treat you the way OP has been treated based on past threads if someone genuinely likes you and wants to make you feel comfortable & accepted cos you're with their son

nooo00oooo way, n0t in this universe bb

there are people who are /hard to understand or aloof or withdrawn or whatever but these /tactics I've read the op post about & may not be picking up on are /classic signs of a bigggggger problem

*everyone is @ the table discussing moving and the momma knows your moving with her son and she is intentionally excluding you in /shadywomanwais*

pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

p.s - not trying to scare you OP, but I wouldn't keep calling yourself delusional or "thank gosh I have nothing to worry about," trust your intuition, people are not as innocent as they like to portray themselves to be. If something doesn't make sense, if something doesn't add up, if there's sooo00oo much smoke that it's obvs someone is hiding a flame in their panties, bb, the pyros are prolly there okai

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In complete agreement! I've been through this. The mother KNOWS her ass is disrespectful.

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edit: just read the other responses, trust yourself, if there's no problem then there's no problem, but I lowkey feel like there is and if it gets worst and worst (which I feel like it will because this mom is going to be extremely triggered if you end up going down the aisle), I would approach her like above rofl

Well I'm glad you've gotten your daily jollies, but it's no laughing matter when you feel like people are out to get you out. Especially when your guy is far more family-oriented than you are.

And yes, you bet your bleached white ass I've got more scenes in my back pocket. "Cum for grandma" is a front-runner.

by the time I'm finished with them, they'll be grovelling for mercy.

rofl my instincts don't lie!!!! and other people shouldn't ignore theirs imo! just watch when OP posts a thread in a month or two about the situation getting worst! i guaranteeeee it. there is abs0lutelyyyyyy no00ooo wai that the mother of your boyfran/bae would treat you the way OP has been treated based on past threads if someone genuinely likes you and wants to make you feel comfortable & accepted cos you're with their son

nooo00oooo way, n0t in this universe bb

there are people who are /hard to understand or aloof or withdrawn or whatever but these /tactics I've read the op post about & may not be picking up on are /classic signs of a bigggggger problem

*everyone is @ the table discussing moving and the momma knows your moving with her son and she is intentionally excluding you in /shadywomanwais*

pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

p.s - not trying to scare you OP, but I wouldn't keep calling yourself delusional or "thank gosh I have nothing to worry about," trust your intuition, people are not as innocent as they like to portray themselves to be. If something doesn't make sense, if something doesn't add up, if there's sooo00oo much smoke that it's obvs someone is hiding a flame in their panties, bb, the pyros are prolly there okai

In complete agreement! I've been through this. The mother KNOWS her ass is disrespectful.

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So then what do you suggest?

@Boots1313

Yeah I have something similar going on but roles are reversed. It's his ex's mother who's very friendly to my boyfriend and I'm bothered a lot. I don't think I can tolerate that bs much longer.

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@Boots1313

Yeah I have something similar going on but roles are reversed. It's his ex's mother who's very friendly to my boyfriend and I'm bothered a lot. I don't think I can tolerate that bs much longer.

How long have you guys been together? Have you. Brought it up to him? What does he say about it?

@mystarsshine



I would love to hear your take on this. Especially since you know of the history between this woman and I.

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Think about it like this....

When good people come into your life, you're gonna want to hold onto them. Especially if they were influential. That person was about of someone's life journey and vice versa.

Why should that spiritual connection end because of a breakup? Or insecurities of others?

Consider your approach to the situation. Stalk the mother and asses where you 2 can be friends and form an even closer relationship.

This is high vibrational and will get you further than seeing it as a threat.

There's a case to be made for carrying unnecessary bagage from the past for new experiences/people in your life. It's nice to travel as light as possible.

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I can 100% agree with that

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@Boots1313

Yeah I have something similar going on but roles are reversed. It's his ex's mother who's very friendly to my boyfriend and I'm bothered a lot. I don't think I can tolerate that bs much longer.

How long have you guys been together? Have you. Brought it up to him? What does he say about it?

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We have been official for a month now. And yes I have brought up his ex and family already and that they need to be gone, especially I have a huge problem with the mother because I feel threatened by her. I believe his done with his ex but for the sake of respect and years he spent with this family he keeps that woman on social media. I disapprove and feel enraged whenever she comments on our photos and speaking to HIM not US but I decided to wait a bit, I don't want to talk about that too often or make huge deal out of it even tho it is. I don't know what I'm gonna do next but if he won't get rid of her I'll just give up on him. I want clean sheet in my hand so we can write our own history and make memories, I don't want anything or anybody dragging from the past, that's the way it has to be for god's sake.

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I dont know if this is something i should bring up to my bf or not. I want to give the benefit of the doubt that its all innocent, but i noticed his mom (whom is very friendly eh, fake friendly) comments on his ex's facebook and instagrams. Things as small as "you look beautiful ", but then things that kind of bother me like "I MISS YOU". Maybe im thinking too much into it, but that seems almost undermining. Unfair to me, unfair to the exes and unfair to my bf.

Again, i feel as though she doesnt accept me in her sons life yet.

maybe she is just being friendly and she isnt good with Boundries ?

Should i mention it to my bf and i feel its disrespectful all around? or just let her do what she does and it has no baring on his and I's relationship?

I do understand the concern, the mother of your bf is a pretty important person and her seeming to "prefer" your bf's ex, by keeping in touch and being all friendly can bring some insecurity.

At this point though, i wouldn't mention the mother keeping close with his ex. But of the situation/conversation comes up I would be honest with him and want to know where he stands re: his ex. If your bf is clearly not into his ex, then you got nothing to worry about. And I believe you already mentioned that he told his ex he is happy in his relationship.

cheers 😄

My ex-mom in law still calls me and tells me she loves me. Calls me beautiful on IG and FB as well. Considers me family still as well. Wishes me luck with my new guy.

But I am the mother of her only grandson.

That sounds really annoying to deal with. I'm glad my bf's parents live far away. I don't really care to know them and haven't had to yet. I hear the questions she asks about me and he tells me to follow her on IG ( I won't )

Family/friend relationships shouldn't define a relationships. Family dies off eventually and friends change.

If your boyfriend loves you and you love him that's all that matters. You are the ones who are in it for the long haul.



I wish I had advice on the grin and bare for the moment but I don't.

You deserve good things though.

Posted by LethalFantasia

Your boyfriends mom is extremely petty and the lady knows exactly what she is doing

clearly your boyfriend is tew pussy to put his foot down/

I've read some of your threads regarding this situation over the last few weeks/months and this woman is relentless & annoying asf regardless of how nice you try to be rofl

@ this point I would just pay little to no attention to her and when I'd notice her being angry I'd purposely be all happy to piss her off even more x

Gemini women always see through the bullshit man I gotta tell ya lol *Air fives*

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Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow

I'm sure people around will accuse Virgo moons of being paranoid, but sometimes where there's smoke there's fire. A healthy dose of paranoia is good, especially when it comes to people with a history of shady behavior. It's our self-preservation instinct kicking in.

Am I wrong, or are you starting to think that the old bag is possibly egging on the ex to get back together with your man?

I should know, because it happened to me. Only it wasn't the mother, it was the big sister. Egging on the thirsty Libra hoe who forced herself on him. I punished her by making her watch a compilation of some of the weirdest scenes from Shameless which she absolutely hates lol. Something like this:



She apologized for it, but when you cross a certain line with Virgo moons, we never fully trust again. And they find themselves constantly in our sights, that unwavering laser focus we're infamous for.

Thats terrible. I hope something shitty happened to the sister

After 8 hours of work.

Reading all the posts.

Having people rip me a new one.

And talking to my bf (general tall not about the situation at all)

Ive come to the conclusion this is no big deal.

And no need to being anything up.

Posted by Sarapis

Posted by Boots1313

After 8 hours of work.

Reading all the posts.

Having people rip me a new one.

And talking to my bf (general tall not about the situation at all)

Ive come to the conclusion this is no big deal.

And no need to being anything up.

Tell him about it, and how you feel about it. Just realize he cant control his mom's actions, but he can put your mind at ease about the 2 of you. IMO that's the only real thing that should matter.

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Honestly.

I think it was just my insecurities speaking.

Im working on them and a few things in my life.

I feel fine about it now, ive been reassured and also like you said what am i afraid of? I thought maybe there was undermining, but honestly i dont think that now being rational about it.

Now isn't the time to discuss it. Pick my battles.

Posted by Silverado

Posted by Boots1313

After 8 hours of work.

Reading all the posts.

Having people rip me a new one.

And talking to my bf (general tall not about the situation at all)

Ive come to the conclusion this is no big deal.

And no need to being anything up.

On the contrary, you opened up a line of thought that needs to be discussed. It may not happen today, tomorrow, or even next year but it will happen. You asked for opinions on what should be done now you know how you should probably proceed when the time comes. You had to have this discussion with us instead of causing trouble within your own relationship. Nothing beats multiple viewpoints.

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Exactly my reasons for posting here.

Helps me rationalize and also sets me straight.

I tend to over think. Sometimes im right other times its just nonsense and insecurity.

But yes, better to talk it out with strangers then cause a potential rift in my relationship.