Newnat2
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Friends and sex talk
No, If there’s no interest in the other person, why would you discuss it??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’t
Posted by Bumboklaat
Mostly no. Depends if they're attractive. If I were talking about it for more than few seconds I'd be like let's just try it. Hands on is always better for learning than theory
🤣🤣
I know a man and a woman, who are siblings and they talk about sex. People are always shocked that they do.
Posted by sweethearts
No, If there’s no interest in the other person, why would you discuss it??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
This is kind of my feelings on the matter, why would you need to know what someone liked unless you would want to try it with them
Yes im open about it. Not sure why talking about sex is so taboo when its one of the most natural things on earth.
Posted by GobbiePosted by sweethearts
No, If there’s no interest in the other person, why would you discuss it??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
Exactly!
Last year, a dxper tried this on me, though PMs, and I eventually made it very clear that I wasn't interested in any sex talk or sexual innuendos. I interpreted it as them making a move, but they then had the audacity to completely deny it and attempt to gaslight me. I'm sorry but you don't do that with someone you (supposedly) consider to be an acquaintance or friend - that's crossing a clear, universal line. Besides, anyone who gaslights others, especially over their own mistake or misjudgement, isn't worth knowing at all.click to expand
Be very careful if you want to go gown this road.
Of course I would be happy to provide anyone here on DXP the message exchanges relating to this conversation I had with Gobby. . As well as all the others.
Not unless i was intending have sex with him...
The OP refers to talking about sex and what you like doing....that’s the kind of chat you have with someone you’re interested in getting it on with...
If Im not interested and I can tell she isnt interested then yes I can speak openly and freely about sex and got expect it to go down. Now, if we are into each other hell naw lol that's just stirring a boiling pot. But if its lopsided or just not there then yes. Ive done it before(kinda). I also have a 3rd house Uranus and merc. Conj. Pluto so anything uncomfortable I excel ay
Posted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’tclick to expand
This is not your friend, he does not want to be your friend, he wants to be inside of you, he's pretending to be your friend, so he can be inside of you.
Posted by Leeeb
I think it’s interesting hearing stuff people aren’t ‘supposed’ to talk about. I can talk about murder doesn’t mean we gonna do it. I get some people are sensitive though maybe a bit religious or something. I would just not have those conversations with those kinda sweet people. Like I wouldn’t talk about it with a kid or a priest or whatever.
Maybe it is an air sign thing lol like I’m not masturbating during sex Ed class
If talking about murder creates a physical chemical response in your body, shooting dopamine to your pleasure centers, it's probably best for everyone if you don't talk about murder, and seek help.
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by GobbiePosted by sweethearts
No, If there’s no interest in the other person, why would you discuss it??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
Exactly!
Last year, a dxper tried this on me, though PMs, and I eventually made it very clear that I wasn't interested in any sex talk or sexual innuendos. I interpreted it as them making a move, but they then had the audacity to completely deny it and attempt to gaslight me. I'm sorry but you don't do that with someone you (supposedly) consider to be an acquaintance or friend - that's crossing a clear, universal line. Besides, anyone who gaslights others, especially over their own mistake or misjudgement, isn't worth knowing at all.
Be very careful if you want to go gown this road.
Of course I would be happy to provide anyone here on DXP the message exchanges relating to this conversation I had with Gobby. . As well as all the others.click to expand
👀👀
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by AstrobynPosted by Leeeb
I think it’s interesting hearing stuff people aren’t ‘supposed’ to talk about. I can talk about murder doesn’t mean we gonna do it. I get some people are sensitive though maybe a bit religious or something. I would just not have those conversations with those kinda sweet people. Like I wouldn’t talk about it with a kid or a priest or whatever.
Maybe it is an air sign thing lol like I’m not masturbating during sex Ed class
If talking about murder creates a physical chemical response in your body, shooting dopamine to your pleasure centers, it's probably best for everyone if you don't talk about murder, and seek help.
That's true for everyone, isn't it? We all fantasise about murdering all the time. That rush of adrenalin as you imagine burying the axe in someone's shoulder blades... that's just natural. Playful imaginationclick to expand
Depends on the topic. Like we can joke about sex or be like "yeah, i fucked that person" or something but if he's implying that those are things he'd do to me or something then no. If we aren't having sex and I don't want to have sex with you then I don't want to talk to you about sex on a regular basis or go into much detail.
Posted by LeeebPosted by AstrobynPosted by Leeeb
I think it’s interesting hearing stuff people aren’t ‘supposed’ to talk about. I can talk about murder doesn’t mean we gonna do it. I get some people are sensitive though maybe a bit religious or something. I would just not have those conversations with those kinda sweet people. Like I wouldn’t talk about it with a kid or a priest or whatever.
Maybe it is an air sign thing lol like I’m not masturbating during sex Ed class
If talking about murder creates a physical chemical response in your body, shooting dopamine to your pleasure centers, it's probably best for everyone if you don't talk about murder, and seek help.
Woah 😳 That’s the opposite of what I said?click to expand
I'm just saying I don't think your murder example is a fair comparison.
Yes. My Gemini bestie and I are super close like this. My philosophy is it’s only weird if you make it weird 🤷♀️ We recently talked about it because he’s become frustrated with his wife about her health and sexual appeal. It’s nice to have someone I can talk about these things with. He’s known me for many, many years so there’s not much we don’t know about each other lol we joked bc he said he kind of wants someone to watch them. And I said I kind of want to watch someone lol. To be really honest, there’s no pleasure I’d derive from watching them in particular haha. But yeah it was a funny one lol
Posted by AbbyNormal
Yes. My Gemini bestie and I are super close like this. My philosophy is it’s only weird if you make it weird 🤷♀️ We recently talked about it because he’s become frustrated with his wife about her health and sexual appeal. It’s nice to have someone I can talk about these things with. He’s known me for many, many years so there’s not much we don’t know about each other lol we joked bc he said he kind of wants someone to watch them. And I said I kind of want to watch someone lol. To be really honest, there’s no pleasure I’d derive from watching them in particular haha. But yeah it was a funny one lol
Posted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’tclick to expand
Did it make you uncomfortable?
Do you only see him as a friend or hope for more?
Posted by Newnat2Posted by sweethearts
No, If there’s no interest in the other person, why would you discuss it??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
This is kind of my feelings on the matter, why would you need to know what someone liked unless you would want to try it with themclick to expand
He wants to have sex with you and was trying to see if he was turning you on. I had someone very attractive do that to me which sent my temperature rising.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Newnat2Posted by sweethearts
No, If there’s no interest in the other person, why would you discuss it??
Why would I want anyone knowing what I like unless I had a vested interested and vice versa??
This is kind of my feelings on the matter, why would you need to know what someone liked unless you would want to try it with them
He wants to have sex with you and was trying to see if he was turning you on. I had someone very attractive do that to me which sent my temperature rising.click to expand
Oh really, hmm maybe he does want more. He too is a libra, i have known him for a couple months, we have been speaking daily and then sex came up and I suspected it was not just being friendly as I know librans are easy to befriend
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’t
Did it make you uncomfortable?
Do you only see him as a friend or hope for more?click to expand
It did not make me feel uncomfortable as he is attractive but I have only known him a couple months and did think this type of conversation so soon is beyond friendly. Though I am an air sign and enjoy discussing sex but no one knows or asks what i like doing plus we are both single and not dating anyone
Posted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’t
Did it make you uncomfortable?
Do you only see him as a friend or hope for more?
It did not make me feel uncomfortable as he is attractive but I have only known him a couple months and did think this type of conversation so soon is beyond friendly. Though I am an air sign and enjoy discussing sex but no one knows or asks what i like doing plus we are both single and not dating anyoneclick to expand
Idk that I would call someone like that a friend. An acquaintance of a few months, not a friend.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’t
Did it make you uncomfortable?
Do you only see him as a friend or hope for more?
It did not make me feel uncomfortable as he is attractive but I have only known him a couple months and did think this type of conversation so soon is beyond friendly. Though I am an air sign and enjoy discussing sex but no one knows or asks what i like doing plus we are both single and not dating anyone
Idk that I would call someone like that a friend. An acquaintance of a few months, not a friend.click to expand
This. They’re practically still a stranger lol I’m less comfortable speaking with people I don’t really know about this sort of thing. Though if it’s a guy you’ve been dating/seeing for a couple of months, he’s probably just trying to be flirty. I feel like his intentions should be clear at least lol.
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’t
Did it make you uncomfortable?
Do you only see him as a friend or hope for more?
It did not make me feel uncomfortable as he is attractive but I have only known him a couple months and did think this type of conversation so soon is beyond friendly. Though I am an air sign and enjoy discussing sex but no one knows or asks what i like doing plus we are both single and not dating anyone
Idk that I would call someone like that a friend. An acquaintance of a few months, not a friend.
This. They’re practically still a stranger lol I’m less comfortable speaking with people I don’t really know about this sort of thing. Though if it’s a guy you’ve been dating/seeing for a couple of months, he’s probably just trying to be flirty. I feel like his intentions should be clear at least lol.click to expand
Lol i realised i actually should have said that since talking to a friend you have known for a long time is different to someone you have really only just met
Posted by GammaArietis
I have a lot of 8th house stuff going on so no topic is off limits for me but I have to be careful to not give off the wrong impression
This is me as well🤦
To be far I have a good amount of interesting in following though with my ideas but I would want the other side to be as interested, otherwise it's just talk.
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Newnat2Posted by LadyNeptune
What kinda sex talk? Specifically. Context matters.
Humble bragging about getting your sugar walls blown out hits differently then telling your “friend” the exact way to turn you on and get you off.
So he was telling me what exactly would turn him on while then asking me things like if I like a man to be in control for example basically to the point where if we were to have sex we would know what to do but we were also discussing what we have done previously and what we liked and didn’t
Did it make you uncomfortable?
Do you only see him as a friend or hope for more?
It did not make me feel uncomfortable as he is attractive but I have only known him a couple months and did think this type of conversation so soon is beyond friendly. Though I am an air sign and enjoy discussing sex but no one knows or asks what i like doing plus we are both single and not dating anyone
Idk that I would call someone like that a friend. An acquaintance of a few months, not a friend.
This. They’re practically still a stranger lol I’m less comfortable speaking with people I don’t really know about this sort of thing. Though if it’s a guy you’ve been dating/seeing for a couple of months, he’s probably just trying to be flirty. I feel like his intentions should be clear at least lol.click to expand
Maybe he’s like op and just an over-sharer? Or is grooming her for a fwb by pushing the boundaries.
Most men have to pay for phone sex so I hope op is getting something more than just a cheap thrill in return.
I’m guessing the unsolicited d ick pics will be on their way shortly 😆
I don't do it unless I've actually had sex with them before or are planning on it. It's wasted breath to get a guy all revved up for nothing. It's boring and unnecessary.
I also don't want someone in the friendzone to think that there's a chance that they will be moved out of it.
I can play around for a bit if it seems innocent enough, but once the guy tries to keep on doing it, I will shut it down pretty quickly. Some guys really start applying pressure when it comes to sex and it's annoying.
I'm sure women can be pushy as well, but I don't have experience with them, so I'm just talking about the men I've come across.
I prefer men who don't talk about sex when we are friends, It makes it a more enjoyable, wholesome friendship.
I also don't want someone in the friendzone to think that there's a chance that they will be moved out of it.
I can play around for a bit if it seems innocent enough, but once the guy tries to keep on doing it, I will shut it down pretty quickly. Some guys really start applying pressure when it comes to sex and it's annoying.
I'm sure women can be pushy as well, but I don't have experience with them, so I'm just talking about the men I've come across.
I prefer men who don't talk about sex when we are friends, It makes it a more enjoyable, wholesome friendship.
i only ever talk about sex with friends, gynecologists, taurus men and reddit. one can talk to strangers with ease. anyone i don't really see ever being with.
but never with family whose opinions matter the most to me and rarely with someone i actually have them with coz why. except that one time with a pisces sun/aqua moon but that was just my mercury brain.
i'm the kind that will call a stranger over the phone 11x asking about paperclips yet barely make contact over technology with people i love. i know these people's hearts.
but never with family whose opinions matter the most to me and rarely with someone i actually have them with coz why. except that one time with a pisces sun/aqua moon but that was just my mercury brain.
i'm the kind that will call a stranger over the phone 11x asking about paperclips yet barely make contact over technology with people i love. i know these people's hearts.
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