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Rushing a Relationship
Posted by nikkistarno, you are so right - I mean it can work, but most often it doesn't ... it takes time to really get to know each other and to be able to weather the storms ...
I keep reading all these comments, typically younger women than me, but they will be "Oh I am engaged, and this weekend we will be celebrating 3-6 month anniversary!"
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?
Time can be nothing sometimes really
Depends on the generation I believe. People in their 60's now. Didn't date long before being married I doubt even lived together and their relationships lasted/last year's. Younger generations although I agree may rush into it can't be arsed to put the work and effort into relationships to make them last. However I feel if you know... you know. Go for it. But be prepared to keep working for it.
I wait to even be intimate with someone. So moving in is a big step. Marriage is much more profound, it is a lifetime commitment, at least for me. I only ever plan to get married once.
Some people can do the quick stuff, it really depends on those involved.
People love who they love, whether short, fast, long lived. Least they are happy... Right? Lol
Some people can do the quick stuff, it really depends on those involved.
People love who they love, whether short, fast, long lived. Least they are happy... Right? Lol
I'm one of those rare queer women who don't do the whole "U-haul" thing after 2 weeks of dating.
I love my personal space, and I'd like to learn more about the person I am dating before I decide to give up my personal space and share it with that person.
I love my personal space, and I'd like to learn more about the person I am dating before I decide to give up my personal space and share it with that person.
Posted by nikkistarWatch Judge Judy for a week; that's all you'll hear about and the plaintiff and defendant get chastised by Judge Judy for living together less than three months. So sad 😢 but then again I'm at the end watching my DVR while sitting on my leather couch, shrugging my shoulders, and saying out loud, "You KNEW what you were getting yourself into!"
I keep reading all these comments, typically younger women than me, but they will be "Oh I am engaged, and this weekend we will be celebrating 3-6 month anniversary!"
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?
My ex (Saggy) was already talking about moving in with me after two months of being together! 😱 (not!).
Yeah, a year is a blessing in my eyes to live together; let the lease run its course for the year; then move in together. I own my own home, been at my job for almost 35 years, and VERY independent.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Ex husband and I didn't marry until after 10 years... it ended in chaos.
Let people live and let's stop judging. Sometimes you just know, there's great chemistry, and are a really great match with someone.
Whether you wait long or don't wait at all it can end in chaos... there is no "perfect" number of years or months for any particular couple.
If people jump into a marriage and it doesn't work, that's their problem. BUT I also know couples who did get married/moved in together pretty soon and they are doing great.
The main issue is ignoring obvious red signs that you two are not good for each other and still get married. A lesson I have learned for sure.
Let people live and let's stop judging. Sometimes you just know, there's great chemistry, and are a really great match with someone.
Whether you wait long or don't wait at all it can end in chaos... there is no "perfect" number of years or months for any particular couple.
If people jump into a marriage and it doesn't work, that's their problem. BUT I also know couples who did get married/moved in together pretty soon and they are doing great.
The main issue is ignoring obvious red signs that you two are not good for each other and still get married. A lesson I have learned for sure.
Posted by jane84Uh, Jane, IF I would have given David (Ex bf; Saggy) the green light to move in with me; that would have been DISASTROUS as he was a "gold digger"....I am NO man's "Sugar Momma". 😡
Ex husband and I didn't marry until after 10 years... it ended in chaos.
Let people live and let's stop judging. Sometimes you just know, there's great chemistry, and are a really great match with someone.
Whether you wait long or don't wait at all it can end in chaos... there is no "perfect" number of years or months for any particular couple.
If people jump into a marriage and it doesn't work, that's their problem. BUT I also know couples who did get married/moved in together pretty soon and they are doing great.
The main issue is ignoring obvious red signs that you two are not good for each other and still get married. A lesson I have learned for sure.
THANK YOU VENUS RETROGRADE (I posted it about 17 minutes ago).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I'm 33 and Virgo, my fiancé is 35 and Libra. We have both been in long term/committed relationships before. We have been together for 6 months, got engaged 4 months ago and moved in together 2 months ago. Neither age, nor our previous relationship experiences have made us jaded or cynical about love, luckily. We knew we were twin flames almost right from the start. Time is relative. What's crucial is the quality of the time you spend together and how much of that time together is spent doing things you BOTH love doing together. In my case we are lucky to be on the same page as far as hobbies, but also as far as morals. We also just love being together, even if doing nothing at all. No pressure , just pure dedication day after day, that's what builds lasting love.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidHehe, you can come to the wedding party/reception, the proper ceremony will be just the two of us at some island far far away in the Pacific 😄Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomAre we getting invites for the wedding? 😛
I'm 33 and Virgo, my fiancé is 35 and Libra. We have both been in long term/committed relationships before. We have been together for 6 months, got engaged 4 months ago and moved in together 2 months ago. Neither age, nor our previous relationship experiences have made us jaded or cynical about love, luckily. We knew we were twin flames almost right from the start. Time is relative. What's crucial is the quality of the time you spend together and how much of that time together is spent doing things you BOTH love doing together. In my case we are lucky to be on the same page as far as hobbies, but also as far as morals. We also just love being together, even if doing nothing at all. No pressure , just pure dedication day after day, that's what builds lasting love.click to expand
Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.click to expand
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
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Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
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Posted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
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😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
Posted by ChrisIsKodakI will just sick the cancer man on you. I think he is around your height. I just gotta wait for him to get his hip done. LOLPosted by nikkistarBahahahahaPosted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
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Posted by nikkistarI just had a weird visual of a beefcake giant with his giant hand on the head of a tiny Asian woman as she flails her arms and legs in an effort to punch/kick him.Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
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OK I'm done here.
Posted by ChrisIsKodakNot even a meme lol.Posted by Ram416You've used that meme over three times woman! It's no longer a spicy memePosted by nikkistarI just had a weird visual of a beefcake giant with his giant hand on the head of a tiny Asian woman as she flails her arms and legs in an effort to punch/kick him.Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
OK I'm done here.click to expand
You'll always be the original beefcake to me.
😈
Posted by ChrisIsKodakI hate you. lolPosted by nikkistarHold up I'll grab his walker for him. LmaoPosted by ChrisIsKodakI will just sick the cancer man on you. I think he is around your height. I just gotta wait for him to get his hip done. LOLPosted by nikkistarBahahahahaPosted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
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Posted by EvatheDivalol Well then good for you, trusting your intuition and knowing something wasn't right! Don't ignore those red flags.Posted by jane84Uh, Jane, IF I would have given David (Ex bf; Saggy) the green light to move in with me; that would have been DISASTROUS as he was a "gold digger"....I am NO man's "Sugar Momma". 😡
Ex husband and I didn't marry until after 10 years... it ended in chaos.
Let people live and let's stop judging. Sometimes you just know, there's great chemistry, and are a really great match with someone.
Whether you wait long or don't wait at all it can end in chaos... there is no "perfect" number of years or months for any particular couple.
If people jump into a marriage and it doesn't work, that's their problem. BUT I also know couples who did get married/moved in together pretty soon and they are doing great.
The main issue is ignoring obvious red signs that you two are not good for each other and still get married. A lesson I have learned for sure.
THANK YOU VENUS RETROGRADE (I posted it about 17 minutes ago).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Posted by ChrisIsKodakHey, at least he doesn't think using "knock off brand" slogans are a thing.Posted by nikkistarLol hot wheels....Posted by ChrisIsKodakI hate you. lolPosted by nikkistarHold up I'll grab his walker for him. LmaoPosted by ChrisIsKodakI will just sick the cancer man on you. I think he is around your height. I just gotta wait for him to get his hip done. LOLPosted by nikkistarBahahahahaPosted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
LOL ok I'm done.click to expand
I don't think time is a determinant in how long a relationship can or will last. People are never ready for long-term commitments, be it marriage or live-in relationship, unless they really set their mind to it. Key component to a long lasting and good relationship is co-dependency or some sort of reliance on your partner which is what makes them indispensable. The sooner a person has found these facets, the sooner they are in a durable relationship. You can discover this about a person in just 6 months, given that you're paying attention. So what makes one indispensable:
A) A complementary partner (he/she has qualities that you lack in but desire to have), this leads to co-dependency which is ideally what you should have in order to have a good lasting relationship;
B) Assets (they bring in their own financial assets to help out in your time of need and or so they aren't a financial burden on you. There's a peace of mind if you know there's someone you can rely on financially in your time of need. This again leads to co-dependency, which is the component you need for a long lasting relationship);
C) Hard working, realistic and patient (nobody likes a wish washy, lazy and impulsive ass. Anyone that seeks these two particular traits in a partner is practical and mature enough for a relationship. Life is brutal and will try to break you down and anyone who has these qualities will be practical enough to survive the difficulties and have perseverance required in a relationship.
A) A complementary partner (he/she has qualities that you lack in but desire to have), this leads to co-dependency which is ideally what you should have in order to have a good lasting relationship;
B) Assets (they bring in their own financial assets to help out in your time of need and or so they aren't a financial burden on you. There's a peace of mind if you know there's someone you can rely on financially in your time of need. This again leads to co-dependency, which is the component you need for a long lasting relationship);
C) Hard working, realistic and patient (nobody likes a wish washy, lazy and impulsive ass. Anyone that seeks these two particular traits in a partner is practical and mature enough for a relationship. Life is brutal and will try to break you down and anyone who has these qualities will be practical enough to survive the difficulties and have perseverance required in a relationship.
Posted by ChrisIsKodak#excuses #nothardlikethetacosyoulikePosted by nikkistarI just woke up. I was still warming up....Posted by ChrisIsKodakHey, at least he doesn't think using "knock off brand" slogans are a thing.Posted by nikkistarLol hot wheels....Posted by ChrisIsKodakI hate you. lolPosted by nikkistarHold up I'll grab his walker for him. LmaoPosted by ChrisIsKodakI will just sick the cancer man on you. I think he is around your height. I just gotta wait for him to get his hip done. LOLPosted by nikkistarBahahahahaPosted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
LOL ok I'm done.click to expand
Posted by HareYou really should eat less salt. Just sayn'Posted by ChrisIsKodakI've taken a couple of head shots today.Posted by HareYou're like a fucking sniper just in the waiting for a clean shot LMFAOPosted by ChrisIsKodakCialis might help that problem...Posted by nikkistarI just woke up. I was still warming up....Posted by ChrisIsKodakHey, at least he doesn't think using "knock off brand" slogans are a thing.Posted by nikkistarLol hot wheels....Posted by ChrisIsKodakI hate you. lolPosted by nikkistarHold up I'll grab his walker for him. LmaoPosted by ChrisIsKodakI will just sick the cancer man on you. I think he is around your height. I just gotta wait for him to get his hip done. LOLPosted by nikkistarBahahahahaPosted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
LOL ok I'm done.
Feeling extra shady.
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Posted by jane84Nope! 😉Posted by EvatheDivalol Well then good for you, trusting your intuition and knowing something wasn't right! Don't ignore those red flags.Posted by jane84Uh, Jane, IF I would have given David (Ex bf; Saggy) the green light to move in with me; that would have been DISASTROUS as he was a "gold digger"....I am NO man's "Sugar Momma". 😡
Ex husband and I didn't marry until after 10 years... it ended in chaos.
Let people live and let's stop judging. Sometimes you just know, there's great chemistry, and are a really great match with someone.
Whether you wait long or don't wait at all it can end in chaos... there is no "perfect" number of years or months for any particular couple.
If people jump into a marriage and it doesn't work, that's their problem. BUT I also know couples who did get married/moved in together pretty soon and they are doing great.
The main issue is ignoring obvious red signs that you two are not good for each other and still get married. A lesson I have learned for sure.
THANK YOU VENUS RETROGRADE (I posted it about 17 minutes ago).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by HarePosted by nikkistarSeriously it was the Boston Cream donuts.Posted by HareYou really should eat less salt. Just sayn'Posted by ChrisIsKodakI've taken a couple of head shots today.Posted by HareYou're like a fucking sniper just in the waiting for a clean shot LMFAOPosted by ChrisIsKodakCialis might help that problem...Posted by nikkistarI just woke up. I was still warming up....Posted by ChrisIsKodakHey, at least he doesn't think using "knock off brand" slogans are a thing.Posted by nikkistarLol hot wheels....Posted by ChrisIsKodakI hate you. lolPosted by nikkistarHold up I'll grab his walker for him. LmaoPosted by ChrisIsKodakI will just sick the cancer man on you. I think he is around your height. I just gotta wait for him to get his hip done. LOLPosted by nikkistarBahahahahaPosted by ChrisIsKodakPosted by nikkistarOh? I'll make sure to bring a step stool for ya then. *smirk*Posted by ChrisIsKodakI swear, if I ever actually meet you down in Socal, I am going to kick you. lolPosted by nikkistarDawg.Posted by ChrisIsKodakSomeone's gotta knock your ego down from time to time. lolPosted by nikkistarOff brand nike*Posted by ChrisIsKodakIt's Just Do It.Posted by tizianiThank you Nike
There's never a right time to live with someone, nor is there ever a right time to get married. So, go for it.
Stick to memes, bro. lol
Wtf you gonna ruin my momentum I'm just getting warmed up I woke up the sun is in my eyes! Jezses
😢 It's not my fault you are the personification of the jolly green giant.
LOL ok I'm done.
Feeling extra shady.
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Posted by nikkistarBeing a single mom, I would never consider moving in with someone and I have no desire to be married again. I don't feel that marriage constitutes a committed relationship.
I keep reading all these comments, typically younger women than me, but they will be "Oh I am engaged, and this weekend we will be celebrating 3-6 month anniversary!"
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?
Posted by WalkergrlTrue. I don't necessarily think I need to be married again myself. IPosted by nikkistarBeing a single mom, I would never consider moving in with someone and I have no desire to be married again. I don't feel that marriage constitutes a committed relationship.
I keep reading all these comments, typically younger women than me, but they will be "Oh I am engaged, and this weekend we will be celebrating 3-6 month anniversary!"
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?click to expand
I just don't see how people can know if you are truly compatible for a sustaining relationship with only a few months under their belt.
Posted by nikkistarTHANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! OMG my gem asks me to move in together lots. We've only been together just over 3 months. I have a gut feeling about this one....HOWEVER why rush a good thing?!!! I told him I don't work like that. 1. you meet and fall inlove 2. move in together. Screw that. There's time and trust and the romance, like it's more beautiful and smart to take your time anyways. You learn a lot too without feeling trapped.
I keep reading all these comments, typically younger women than me, but they will be "Oh I am engaged, and this weekend we will be celebrating 3-6 month anniversary!"
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?
Minimum before I start thinking of marriage: more than 2-3 years
People getting engaged/married in 2-3 months is crazy to me. I won't judge you but I certainly can't see the logic in it. Shoot, I'm still trying to develop comfort and trust for you on the 2nd/3rd month lol.
My parents actually got together and married in less than a year, perhaps months. Mother is a virgo and father is a leo.. so you can imagine the war in that alone LOL. However, they've been together 31-32 years and somehow still together.
Nowadays it's harder for me to see that succeeding with so much temptation out there. High divorce rate in NJ & NY
People getting engaged/married in 2-3 months is crazy to me. I won't judge you but I certainly can't see the logic in it. Shoot, I'm still trying to develop comfort and trust for you on the 2nd/3rd month lol.
My parents actually got together and married in less than a year, perhaps months. Mother is a virgo and father is a leo.. so you can imagine the war in that alone LOL. However, they've been together 31-32 years and somehow still together.
Nowadays it's harder for me to see that succeeding with so much temptation out there. High divorce rate in NJ & NY
Posted by nikkistarI witnessed this first hand with a friend of mine. I honestly don't think he knows why he jumped the gun so fast.
I keep reading all these comments, typically younger women than me, but they will be "Oh I am engaged, and this weekend we will be celebrating 3-6 month anniversary!"
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesLOL
Depends on the generation I believe. People in their 60's now. Didn't date long before being married I doubt even lived together and their relationships lasted/last year's. Younger generations although I agree may rush into it can't be arsed to put the work and effort into relationships to make them last. However I feel if you know... you know. Go for it. But be prepared to keep working for it.
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...wondering why!
I had heard many times lately when your partner is sick you prefer not being near.
I am shocked because why are you even together if they are sick you move back to parents or out anywhere?
Is it new generation crap?
I know he is sick - I would undress
In this instance?
6 years ago I was hit head on by a vehicle when walking across the street. I had broken arms, legs and it took me a year and a half to recover from it.
The only thing that didn't heal was an internal injury. When I tried drinking
...as we now call it Vageenka!
Does not matter if woman has Brazilian wax I'd man has facial hair?
Or...she can have a jungle down there because he has a Forrest up there?
after this we can post a topic on why do women cheat?
why are there men who have beautiful women like Halle Berry and Shania Twain,
they still went off with other women cheating??
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_3J8qKm2ao&gl=FR
be honest with yourself,
do you feel you are insecure in relationships??
http://geniustypes.com/signs_of_insecurity/#.WKhjkekU9Yd
Signs of Insecurity
One of the greatest challenges we face in our lifetimes is becoming comfortable
What is not with these stupid women who hear about bj and he whew?
Just wondering...
I mean, you have been seeing each other for about 2 months, going on dates, spending a couple days/week together, etc., but both of you are not ready to make it a bf/gf thing (e.g. you come from very different backgrounds/circles and you are still trying
...on Valentine's Day, and they are both introverts (INFJ, INFP), this is what it can look like:
They choose to not celebrate on the actual day because of traffic and the fact that many people are all doing it (they have a need to NOT go with what eve
I love a lot of close girlfriends like at least 10 of them. I've also loved a lot during my life. But i have never been whoa this is the one ever. I think there is so many beautiful and amazing women in the world that I can call the one (hundred :D)!
Seriously. Is it low self esteem? Daddy issues? What the hell is wrong with me?
It's been an entire year since we even kissed. Now I am happy with the few crumbs that are thrown at me here and there. I use the excuse that he is sick.....blah blah blah. I
Isn't scheduled yet—
So no member in member and nothing like common peope lets get naked—
I repulsed by you!
I am not coming...
Well...there is no where to come anyway! Shame on you dxpnetters!
I'm trying to create a beautiful night at home for my man and need ideas..
What is something that you guys would really enjoy?
I cannot understand this, and it doesn't even have to be marriage. I have a friend that just moved in with his gf, and they have been together for 3 months. Why are so many people not thinking about it more, before making these huge decisions?
I feel like people rushing these types of relationships, are bound to be chaos. I am not saying all, but a good majority don't end well.
What is everyone's take on doing this in a relationship? Would you jump in and live with someone fast, or marry them fast? Am I weird to think that people should just slow down and get to know someone truly before making these decisions?