WarEternal
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What Should I do?
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Posted by mysticmedusa
Hi, I've been here before and have responded in the same way. It's good that you had a chance to clear your head emotionally and see things for what they are and not what you want them to be. Allow some time and space for both sides to cool off and then Yes, reach out to him because as you said you cherish the friendship. This happens, let him know that you value the friendship and would like to start over but I would set clear boundaries about just how close. More for your benefit, neither of you can't blur the lines here. When you are both single again if you mutually share romantic feelings explore the potential for more. I hope this helps.
It really does! I feel so alone and nobody to talk to about this. THANK YOU SO MUCH!
Posted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.click to expand
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
Posted by WarAngel
If you love him on any level, leave him alone. Otherwise, it becomes selfish on your part to always be tugging on a heart string.
You won't be friends for quite a while, I know because I'm there right now.
But he didn’t want me to leave either.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢click to expand
I know. I feel like an fool dropping him and he didn’t want me to go. I really want make things better.
Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
I know. I feel like an fool dropping him and he didn’t want me to go. I really want make things better.click to expand
Well then reach out. It takes two to start back up again and you were the one who left and needed the space.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
I know. I feel like an fool dropping him and he didn’t want me to go. I really want make things better.
Well then reach out. It takes two to start back up again and you were the one who left and needed the space.click to expand
I agree
Make contact to say you’re there if he wants to stay in touch
I think he will be back
Good luck
💚
Why would you want to put yourself through that torture?
Cherish or are you bored?
Looking toward the past for happiness?
Just looking to apologize?
If you do reach out, make sure YOUR emotions are in check and you don’t become some basket case friend/stalker who keeps dropping him and picking him back up.
These are all serious questions.
Cherish or are you bored?
Looking toward the past for happiness?
Just looking to apologize?
If you do reach out, make sure YOUR emotions are in check and you don’t become some basket case friend/stalker who keeps dropping him and picking him back up.
These are all serious questions.
Posted by DMV
Why would you want to put yourself through that torture?
Cherish or are you bored?
Looking toward the past for happiness?
Just looking to apologize?
If you do reach out, make sure YOUR emotions are in check and you don’t become some basket case friend/stalker who keeps dropping him and picking him back up.
These are all serious questions.
Not bored at all. It would bring peace for my soul. It hurts knowing that he likes somebody else, but I have to respect it.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
I know. I feel like an fool dropping him and he didn’t want me to go. I really want make things better.
Well then reach out. It takes two to start back up again and you were the one who left and needed the space.click to expand
I just did. He didn’t pick up the phone so I texted. I really hope he still wants this to work.
Posted by WarAngelPosted by WarEternalPosted by WarAngel
If you love him on any level, leave him alone. Otherwise, it becomes selfish on your part to always be tugging on a heart string.
You won't be friends for quite a while, I know because I'm there right now.
But he didn’t want me to leave either.
Probably not. The thing is however, neither one of you can or will give with the other person wants for whatever reason. That means you each have to find your own happiness.
For me, I wanted a family with my woman but we both made too many mistakes and now, I don't think that's possible. So I'm going to find somebody else to have what I really wanted with her instead. My heart is entirely large enough to love the woman in question and somebody else.
It's rough, but sometimes we make decisions that pull us apart instead of bringing us together and it's not until many years later that you realize: I've done fucked up! 😅click to expand
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. It really helped.
Posted by WarAngelPosted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
I know. I feel like an fool dropping him and he didn’t want me to go. I really want make things better.
Well then reach out. It takes two to start back up again and you were the one who left and needed the space.
I just did. He didn’t pick up the phone so I texted. I really hope he still wants this to work.
My heart goes out to you. If he doesn't respond in a timely manner, that's an answer too.click to expand
Exactly! My heart is ready for the outcome. Thank you for the support.
Posted by WarAngelPosted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
I know. I feel like an fool dropping him and he didn’t want me to go. I really want make things better.
Well then reach out. It takes two to start back up again and you were the one who left and needed the space.
I just did. He didn’t pick up the phone so I texted. I really hope he still wants this to work.
My heart goes out to you. If he doesn't respond in a timely manner, that's an answer too.click to expand
Update: Nothing. Didn’t call back or check his social messages. Still on sent.
Should I be concerned? He replied saying, “its no worries, we’re still friends. No need to talk about it” the rest of the message doesn’t matter, but I’m confused how we get can better if he doesn’t want to talk about it?
Posted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢click to expand
He texted me 😭
“ No worries. I still want to be friends with you. It's understandable all the the things you were feeling. There's no need to talk about it. Just stay calm and chill about everything. I'm not annoyed or anything. I just needed the day for myself. that's why I replied just now. Just be safe and take good care of yourself”
Posted by Sabotage
Oh my god two adults communicating. Get this nonsense the hell off dxp that’s not what this place is about.
Loool no
Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
He texted me 😭
“ No worries. I still want to be friends with you. It's understandable all the the things you were feeling. There's no need to talk about it. Just stay calm and chill about everything. I'm not annoyed or anything. I just needed the day for myself. that's why I replied just now. Just be safe and take good care of yourself”click to expand
Polite way of saying “ok..bye”
Posted by WarEternal
Should I be concerned? He replied saying, “its no worries, we’re still friends. No need to talk about it” the rest of the message doesn’t matter, but I’m confused how we get can better if he doesn’t want to talk about it?
Why are you holding on to this situation?
Maybe you’re creating drama where there is none.
You’re not in a relationship with this guy.
There will be a limit to “getting better.”
He’s not going to whisk you away to Hawaii.
Posted by WarEternal
Should I be concerned? He replied saying, “its no worries, we’re still friends. No need to talk about it” the rest of the message doesn’t matter, but I’m confused how we get can better if he doesn’t want to talk about it?
What is there to talk about?
You guys were friends before and he’s saying you guys are still friends and it’s cool.
He seems like he’s trying to keep it friendly with no blurred lines.
Which basically means you were the only one to catch feelings and he isn’t up for talking about it.
You have to figure out if you can do a friendship now that you are having these feelings.
It may end up hurting you more.
I feel for you, it’s a tough spot to be in. I’ve been there myself.
Let Go and Let God...
💚
💚
Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
He texted me 😭
“ No worries. I still want to be friends with you. It's understandable all the the things you were feeling. There's no need to talk about it. Just stay calm and chill about everything. I'm not annoyed or anything. I just needed the day for myself. that's why I replied just now. Just be safe and take good care of yourself”click to expand
he is trying to be polite and let you down gracefully.
why would you want to pop back into his life, if there is somebody else he is seeing anyhow?
Posted by DMVPosted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
He texted me 😭
“ No worries. I still want to be friends with you. It's understandable all the the things you were feeling. There's no need to talk about it. Just stay calm and chill about everything. I'm not annoyed or anything. I just needed the day for myself. that's why I replied just now. Just be safe and take good care of yourself”
Polite way of saying “ok..bye”click to expand
yep.
Posted by WarEternal
I got into a thing with my friend. Long story short. I dropped him as a friend for my betterment to get over him because I have feelings and he is seeing someone. I didn’t like how things ended. Should I try to reach out? Or when? Partly some of this is my fault. I don’t want him out of my life because I still cherish him as a friend.
He says he respected my decision to leave so it’s not like the bridge is entirely burned
No, why would you? He's seeing someone else and you have feelings for him. That will put you in a position to get hurt. Protect your heart and stay as far away from him as possible. Go no contact.
Posted by WarEternal
Should I be concerned? He replied saying, “its no worries, we’re still friends. No need to talk about it” the rest of the message doesn’t matter, but I’m confused how we get can better if he doesn’t want to talk about it?
It means he's not interested to discuss it because nothing is going to change. He's brushing you off.
Posted by Tetka_Iz_DalekaPosted by DMVPosted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
He texted me 😭
“ No worries. I still want to be friends with you. It's understandable all the the things you were feeling. There's no need to talk about it. Just stay calm and chill about everything. I'm not annoyed or anything. I just needed the day for myself. that's why I replied just now. Just be safe and take good care of yourself”
Polite way of saying “ok..bye”
yep.click to expand
Smart man.
All the love triangle murders going down and he ain’t wit it
Posted by DMVPosted by Tetka_Iz_DalekaPosted by DMVPosted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88Posted by WarEternalPosted by saggurl88
All you can do is reach out and see if he is open to a friendship again.
So you both were single for a long time, ended up sleeping with each other and now he’s dating someone?
Pretty much :/ it hurts but I have to get over it. I have to acknowledge to respect that decision. Not having him as friend really hurts than having none of him at all.
That's crazy how it worked out. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can be his friend again, feelings really do mess things up 😢
He texted me 😭
“ No worries. I still want to be friends with you. It's understandable all the the things you were feeling. There's no need to talk about it. Just stay calm and chill about everything. I'm not annoyed or anything. I just needed the day for myself. that's why I replied just now. Just be safe and take good care of yourself”
Polite way of saying “ok..bye”
yep.
Smart man.
All the love triangle murders going down and he ain’t wit itclick to expand
yes ...one cannot be too careful.
i rarely see these kind of friendships flourish ....
Posted by WarEternal
I got into a thing with my friend. Long story short. I dropped him as a friend for my betterment to get over him because I have feelings and he is seeing someone. I didn’t like how things ended. Should I try to reach out? Or when? Partly some of this is my fault. I don’t want him out of my life because I still cherish him as a friend.
He says he respected my decision to leave so it’s not like the bridge is entirely burned
I guess you can, however what has changed in this dynamic? You clearly ended the friendship because you couldn't deal, and he is still in a relationship (I'm guessing) and you still have feelings for him...so...?
If you're in a better place and can be a true friend then sure reach out. If not, keep working on your sh*t and revisit once you do.
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