Will My cancer Man come back based on the below

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Me (Leo women) and my man (Cancer) have been friends for 5 years and in a relationship for 2 years. He recently told me that he doesn't see himself having kids not now not ever. We had a mini argument about it and I questioned his spirit which I am deeply regretful for. The next day he turned up at my work place with said its OVER he doesn't need me or my things...… I followed him home pleading for forgiveness and to talk. Although he pretended to listen he was in his phone and singing songs.... he said he could never be with a girl that questions his spirit and that is was the worst thing I could ever do. He said I'm a beautiful women and will find another, he said I should leave with grace as he doesn't want to disrespect me... he said no matter what I say his mind is made up...… I followed him home again pleading.. we got to the door and he walked in slamming the door behind him then locking the door. As I walked away in shock he sent me a message which reads " Sorry it had to come to this.... I can outside but you weren't there...……" Why did he send me that message? Is he being Manipulative? I didn’t reply to the message because I knew it wouldn’t help the situation. The next day I get miss call from a private number at night, I didn’t answer as I was sleeping. Was it him? Its been 5 days and I’ve heard nothing from him. Should I get in touch or wait for him or is it final. I know Cancer men are stubborn but he has compared me to his mother and has told me his deepest and darkest secrets. I believe I am his soul mate….. I am 27 and he is 32.

What do I do next? Wait or get in contact. I have a few things of his at my house along with his passport… he will have to get in contact at some point right?



His Chart:

Sun – Cancer

Moon – Taurus

Mercury -Leo

Venus – Leo

Mars -Capricorn

Jupiter -Pisces

Saturn -Sagittarius

Uranus- Sagittarius

Neptune- Capricorn

Pluto -Scorpio

Lilith-Gemini

Asc node- Aries



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Posted by Endless

cancer are know for those emotional outburst.

but more importantly, is the having kids thing a deal breaker for you, is that important? cuz I'm sorry to tell you, but 90% of relationships with different view on values are set to break apart. so you might need to think about that first

it's very important to me and I know we need to part separate ways in my heart I don't think its over.... I don't know why if he was really over it why text me after slamming the door in my face?
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Basically he’s emotionally manipulative and revelling in the fact that you’re chasing after him and are desperate for his affection. He’s lapping it up and you better fucking bet he enjoys telling you over and over that he’s done and messing with your head. He’s a head fuck and has a malevolent spirit about him. It’s really disgusting and he’s not giving a shit about your feelings at all. It’s a game and he wants some ego boost or gratification through toying with your emotions and seeing a huge emotional pay off.

Thank you for this , what should I do?
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Posted by Endless

cancer are know for those emotional outburst.

but more importantly, is the having kids thing a deal breaker for you, is that important? cuz I'm sorry to tell you, but 90% of relationships with different view on values are set to break apart. so you might need to think about that first

it's very important to me and I know we need to part separate ways in my heart I don't think its over.... I don't know why if he was really over it why text me after slamming the door in my face?
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and that's why we're not supposed to think with the heart.

why do ex come back after years, why can't people leave toxic relationships, why can't we just move on.... is a mystery of the human mind, it never means is gonna work though, is like some form of pain addiction that people develop without realizing.
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Posted by Endless

cancer are know for those emotional outburst.

but more importantly, is the having kids thing a deal breaker for you, is that important? cuz I'm sorry to tell you, but 90% of relationships with different view on values are set to break apart. so you might need to think about that first

it's very important to me and I know we need to part separate ways in my heart I don't think its over.... I don't know why if he was really over it why text me after slamming the door in my face?


Why you holding on to crumbs like a desperate heathen? He’s made it abundantly clear that he doesn’t care for your emotions and will do this for the sake of emotional gratification and an ego boost. You’re just a pawn in his game for making himself feel he’s good and give him a feeling of being on top of the world. You’re not someone he truly loves or gives a shit about. He was singing songs and speaking on his phone as you’re PLEADING. Pick up your dignity from the floor and move on. Do it now. Cut it out. He will lose all respect for you very soon.
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I agree with you but I was only pleading on the day he broke up with me I didn't not reply to his message nor did I answer his call I am really trying my best here. I believe he was doing that out of anger
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Posted by Endless

cancer are know for those emotional outburst.

but more importantly, is the having kids thing a deal breaker for you, is that important? cuz I'm sorry to tell you, but 90% of relationships with different view on values are set to break apart. so you might need to think about that first

it's very important to me and I know we need to part separate ways in my heart I don't think its over.... I don't know why if he was really over it why text me after slamming the door in my face?

and that's why we're not supposed to think with the heart.

why do ex come back after years, why can people leave toxic relationships, why can't we just move on.... is a mystery of the human mind, it never means is gonna work though, is like some form of pain addiction that people develop without realizing.
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You are very right... this is painful to hear
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Basically he’s emotionally manipulative and revelling in the fact that you’re chasing after him and are desperate for his affection. He’s lapping it up and you better fucking bet he enjoys telling you over and over that he’s done and messing with your head. He’s a head fuck and has a malevolent spirit about him. It’s really disgusting and he’s not giving a shit about your feelings at all. It’s a game and he wants some ego boost or gratification through toying with your emotions and seeing a huge emotional pay off.

Thank you for this , what should I do?


Walk away baby girl. Walk away. Know your worth. Know how God damn special you are. View yourself as the prize and the most wickedly special woman on earth and own it. See how men flock at you. Real men who want a serious and loving relationship.

Leave this cunt behind where he belongs. Cancerian men are the devils minions.
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Thank you so much for this xxxxx
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If he did come back, but he doesn't want kids and you do, then you are going to waste your years on someone who will deprive you of what you want and you'll regret it one day so don't even consider compromise or settling for less than what you want when it comes to something that big. If you want a family, find someone who wants one too. It might hurt to let go in the short term, but it will hurt you more in the long-term if you hold on to something you know deep down has no future with you.
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he told you a year ago he didnt want kids and you had a massive argument

now you tried to force your wants on him again..

maybe he doesnt want kids because he already has two - his parents, so he knows the responsibility of taking care of people and doesnt want it with you

comparing you to his mother is not flattering

maybe he thinks you dont love him enough? cancers behave like this when they dont feel loved enough
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Posted by Pandora101

he told you a year ago he didnt want kids and you had a massive argument

now you tried to force your wants on him again..

maybe he doesnt want kids because he already has two - his parents, so he knows the responsibility of taking care of people and doesnt want it with you

comparing you to his mother is not flattering

maybe he thinks you dont love him enough? cancers behave like this when they dont feel loved enough

Hey hun he has 6 siblings and parents, yes you're right. I know its odd but Cancer men are mummy's boys so it was a compliment. I love him so much and have given him my all in this relationship. He relies on me for everything and I support him with everything that he does. Love is not a factor here its our future. Kids are a massive thing. When we spoke about it a year ago he said he would do his best to come to terms with it. From then on he sends me picture of babies and says lovely things about how are kids would be and look like. Then other times says things like he never wants to talk to his kids or have a close relationship with them. I will say its more negative comments then positive. I should have brought it up again rather than waste another year only to find out his mind never changed (which is okay) I am ready and want to be a mother one day
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If he did come back, but he doesn't want kids and you do, then you are going to waste your years on someone who will deprive you of what you want and you'll regret it one day so don't even consider compromise or settling for less than what you want when it comes to something that big. If you want a family, find someone who wants one too. It might hurt to let go in the short term, but it will hurt you more in the long-term if you hold on to something you know deep down has no future with you.

Thank you honey, you are right, this is great advice. I have been coping okay its been 5 days now and no contact
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Is his birthday July 2? He has my exes exact placements.

OMG yes hun he is what does this mean? and when did you break up with your ex


A long time ago. He’s married now with kids.

He will probably come back even if it takes 6 months but you should be with someone who wants kids if that’s what you want.
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How do you know he will come back babe, is this from experience? xxx
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How are you going to say, on your other thread, that he’s killed 5 babies?

The woman is also in charge of birth control.

You’ve vilified him to us.

Why do you want him?




Yep! I am no longer feeling sorry for her. She sounds unhinged.

If the power of this relationship rest with him (meaning the idea of ending a relationship over children was not an option for her), I don't know why she kept badgering him. Beggars can't be choosers.
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Posted by Arielle83

How are you going to say, on your other thread, that he’s killed 5 babies?

The woman is also in charge of birth control.

You’ve vilified him to us.

Why do you want him? Those women wanted children with him regardless of him saying no but he should have been more responsible. I thought that if he wanted to get married then kids would follow


Yep! I am no longer feeling sorry for her. She sounds unhinged.

If the power of this relationship rest with him (meaning the idea of ending a relationship over children was not an option for her), I don't know why she kept badgering him. Beggars can't be choosers.
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Posted by Ariqua

Is his birthday July 2? He has my exes exact placements.

OMG yes hun he is what does this mean? and when did you break up with your ex


A long time ago. He’s married now with kids.

He will probably come back even if it takes 6 months but you should be with someone who wants kids if that’s what you want.

How do you know he will come back babe, is this from experience? xxx


Because you had a long term relationship and friendship and it ended abruptly. Most people will let the dust settle and check back in.

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He messaged me today as if nothing ever happened and asked whether we are still going to a show we booked for this weekend. What does this mean ?