Happy Birthday Hello Saggy!!!!!

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@tctao I don’t even know anymore. Cap has completely desired to change my plans. Now she got me some vip section at some club 30 min away. And she basically throwing me a party I don’t want. Inviting her friends and telling me to invite people... I just want some birthday sex smh. I can already see it not happening. Grrrrrr. Mercury retrograde is kicking my ass! All my plans have been blowing up the last two weeks
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@tctao I don’t even know anymore. Cap has completely desired to change my plans. Now she got me some vip section at some club 30 min away. And she basically throwing me a party I don’t want. Inviting her friends and telling me to invite people... I just want some birthday sex smh. I can already see it not happening. Grrrrrr. Mercury retrograde is kicking my ass! All my plans have been blowing up the last two weeks
tell her what you want and see what happens - tell her you want it to be an early night so you two can have some "alone time"
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I’m not even going to bother... smh. Might as well have a party as I’ve had a stressful last few years. But since we aren’t going until 10 trying to call it an early night isn’t going to happen. I think she did this party to avoid giving it up tonight. I guarantee her making out and being close. No booty. If I actually get it I’ll be shocked. I’m not even really going to drink much because of the drive.
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I’m not even going to bother... smh. Might as well have a party as I’ve had a stressful last few years. But since we aren’t going until 10 trying to call it an early night isn’t going to happen. I think she did this party to avoid giving it up tonight. I guarantee her making out and being close. No booty. If I actually get it I’ll be shocked. I’m not even really going to drink much because of the drive.


make it a good one !
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Happy Birthday!!! 🎂🎉🎈 Hope it goes better than you’re thinking!! Where’s the Sag optimism??
My optimism went out the window when she changed my plans last night 🙈

I’m like... it’s supposed to be my birthday!

Hmmm go with the flow & see what happens! Maybe you’ll be surprised. Does suck to not control your birthday plans though. I agree with you there.


you do have a point there

she should not have done this like.....on your bday!!

i dont understand why she would plan a suprise when you guys arent even together

i gotta say....that is a bit weird...

i do alot for sag but.thats a bit crossing the line.

i would however go and discuss this afterwards.

and then actually pop the question on her: " why she goes out of her way for you like that?!"

i mean i like partys hahahahah you could wake me up for them

but ...i would never ever throw this for someone who is not my bf phahahahaha or we are that close you know as friends



and yeah what if you had other plans........

so i have to admit.......i would not be so amused if a guy i hardly know decides this

sag could but uhhh my friends are his relatives mhuhahaha

i would say go..........get your groove on but yeah you really should talk to her

this is kinda a bold chance she took her


I’m starting to think it’s a control thing! She’s the cardinal sign and she’s not just doing as he says 😆

I think this actually intrigues him 😂

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I told him the SAME THING!!!!! lol Now he understands my frustrations with my Aqua friend! lol
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Happy Birthday!!! 🎂🎉🎈 Hope it goes better than you’re thinking!! Where’s the Sag optimism??
My optimism went out the window when she changed my plans last night 🙈

I’m like... it’s supposed to be my birthday!

Hmmm go with the flow & see what happens! Maybe you’ll be surprised. Does suck to not control your birthday plans though. I agree with you there.


you do have a point there

she should not have done this like.....on your bday!!

i dont understand why she would plan a suprise when you guys arent even together

i gotta say....that is a bit weird...

i do alot for sag but.thats a bit crossing the line.

i would however go and discuss this afterwards.

and then actually pop the question on her: " why she goes out of her way for you like that?!"

i mean i like partys hahahahah you could wake me up for them

but ...i would never ever throw this for someone who is not my bf phahahahaha or we are that close you know as friends



and yeah what if you had other plans........

so i have to admit.......i would not be so amused if a guy i hardly know decides this

sag could but uhhh my friends are his relatives mhuhahaha

i would say go..........get your groove on but yeah you really should talk to her

this is kinda a bold chance she took her


I’m starting to think it’s a control thing! She’s the cardinal sign and she’s not just doing as he says 😆

I think this actually intrigues him 😂


hahahahaha yeah i sensed that awhile back already when she wasnt putting out phahahaha

and when she turned into the mother mode for her friend lol

however.im starting to think that in the beginning thats pulling sag men towards you but that after awhile they get tired of it and go looking somewhere else...

and to be honest im beginning to understand this

because whats the use in being a good boy all the time..but not getting your reward lol

that is a bit cruel
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This is EXACTLY true!!! It's fun at first but it gets tiring and we will just give up. Too much teasing isn't a good thing. I don't have patience for this crap either. They're supposed to be cardinal signs and go for what they want but move at a snails pace! WTF is that?
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@tctal

Yeah even when I’m sad. I don’t look it lol.

I need earth signs to represent! 😭


@hellosaggy

just saw this - earth sign represents - I feel your pain

maybe that's the problem - lol - she don't know what you want either - you go along with one thing when you want another ... that don't work in the long run

try a different approach to communicating

jfc - ya'll gonna be banging and clanging when you do get together

put on some Marvin Gaye

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Happy Birthday!!! 🎂🎉🎈 Hope it goes better than you’re thinking!! Where’s the Sag optimism??
My optimism went out the window when she changed my plans last night 🙈

I’m like... it’s supposed to be my birthday!

Hmmm go with the flow & see what happens! Maybe you’ll be surprised. Does suck to not control your birthday plans though. I agree with you there.


you do have a point there

she should not have done this like.....on your bday!!

i dont understand why she would plan a suprise when you guys arent even together

i gotta say....that is a bit weird...

i do alot for sag but.thats a bit crossing the line.

i would however go and discuss this afterwards.

and then actually pop the question on her: " why she goes out of her way for you like that?!"

i mean i like partys hahahahah you could wake me up for them

but ...i would never ever throw this for someone who is not my bf phahahahaha or we are that close you know as friends



and yeah what if you had other plans........

so i have to admit.......i would not be so amused if a guy i hardly know decides this

sag could but uhhh my friends are his relatives mhuhahaha

i would say go..........get your groove on but yeah you really should talk to her

this is kinda a bold chance she took her


I’m starting to think it’s a control thing! She’s the cardinal sign and she’s not just doing as he says 😆

I think this actually intrigues him 😂


hahahahaha yeah i sensed that awhile back already when she wasnt putting out phahahaha

and when she turned into the mother mode for her friend lol

however.im starting to think that in the beginning thats pulling sag men towards you but that after awhile they get tired of it and go looking somewhere else...

and to be honest im beginning to understand this

because whats the use in being a good boy all the time..but not getting your reward lol

that is a bit cruel
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Yes! I’ve been understanding every damn time somethings happened or come up. Even when I want to have sex with someone else on side lately mercury retrograde screws it up... I’m getting over frustrated.
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Happy birthday my little brat!

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I’ll be a brat if I can get what I want 😜
And the Cap seems to know your game, didn't she? 😛

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hahahahahaha

lol

you gotta hand it to her.....she is a hand full from what i read.......
Oh trust me. She do knows what she's doing. 😆

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Grrrrrr @senorita_ll

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No! I like strong women that concede to me. Makes me feel special. This chick marching to her own drum and I’m trying to use the force on her. If I’ve tamed fire water and a strong willed Gemini... this cap is pissing me off.

I just met a cute aqua Sunday and I can probably charm her faster than the cap into bed and I’ve been talking to Cap for 2.5 months! Granted we’ve only officially been out on an outing 2 times... it’s just been a long trying road of meshing schedules and linking up.

The aqua found out it was my birthday and wants to take me out tomorrow. She wanted to today but I have Cap plans...which are literally her plans 😤

might need to have her chase me. I just hate playing games when I like someone.
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I’m not normally that forward until I know what the deal is. I’ve very good at feeling out women. She acts so aloof that it confuses the hell out of me.

Aqua I just met Sunday already said things to me about if I’m good at massages and how she wants me to work out with her and train her body to do amazing things 😉.... I’ve gotten more flirting in 4 days than 1.5 months with Cap! I’m not even trying with the aqua!

I get no sex vibe from cap unless she’s tipsy 😑

Well we are supposed to go to dinner at 7:30 and club at 10...
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Ok... had a fun time with Aqua tonight very open and different from Cap... hit up a sex store on way from dinner. maybe it was the martinis but she was pretty open about sex. she brought a vibrator... but made it clear she would send me a video of her using it. its fine. had a good time.

back to my birthday night.

I pick Cap up. she's deck out and looking good in a sweater dress and thigh high suede boots for the party at the club. We do a birthday dinner alone. laugh joke kiss some touching. its going great. had pretty nice expectations.

we get to the club, a bunch of her modeling girlfriends are there. no dudes. Her cousin owns the club so we have bottles comped and a section in VIPs. (she promised him eye candy for men in club) so we are doing shots and drinking. guys are coming up trying to talk to girls and trying to get me to give them an introduction. not your wing man brah

so anyway her Scorp girlfriend shows up with her boyfriend and they start immediately taking advantage of alcohol. I'm like yo take it easy which one of yall driving. She said oh we took an uber from his place and was complaining about how expensive it was., but she wanted to party with me for my birthday. didn't think nothing of it.

Me and Cap having a good time. good dancing kissing. I'm sobering up, she's partying with me and taking shots with scorp gf and hitting the hookah. getting ready for last call. scorp girl comes up and goes "hey you mind dropping me and my bf off at his place before you and cap go and bang the rest of the night." I ask where he lives. its like about 10 min from my house so I said cool.

Cap came and scorp said. hey he said he'd drop us off before ya'll have sex tonight.

cap shoots back. we aren't planning on having sex tonight. so scorp looks at me and says why aren't you fking her tonight. I shrug and said its the first I heard of it.

then cap tells her, we haven't had sex yet. scorp went off on her in VIP. omg you are such a prude. how you all over him and talk about him last two months and not f him on his birthday.

I go back to the hookah, thanking the fact that its coming from her Gf and not her.

fast forward the four of us are in the car and cap is being all affectionate rubbing my arm, kissing me and all this. so i'm thinking im going to get some tonight finally.

drop the scorp and her boyfriend off. scorp is smoking cigarette outside my car and tells cap to join her. I crack the window slightly lol

cap tells scorp she doesn't want to escalate our friendship and hurt my feelings because she's not sure what she wants to be in state much longer much less start a relationship

scorp tells her its just sex and she aint had none in 6 months and it might get her head together. she told her "i just have to be sure, its only been about 2 months and it hasn't been on her mind."

scorp tells her. "If you don't f him someone else will and you will be hurt that he's gone...and it would be her fault because she is shocked I've stayed around this long without it, because she wouldn't"

they hug and she gets back in car. I can tell she's thinking so I just cut the silence and say look I'll just take you home no worries.

Cap turns and says you know I like you a lot right. We kiss and dance together, you've met all my friends and my sister, I just need to be sure before I get deeply involved with someone.

I laugh and say I like you and would like to have sex with you, I haven't acted or treated you different over the last 2 months, but its frustrating.

then cap says "PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE" lmfao....it brought me back to you dxp people.

I had a mini internal melt down and regained my composure...and said believe me I have been patient. I don't talk to someone for 2 months like this.

she goes. 2 months isn't a long time. you know me I like to plan everything. I'm working two jobs trying to figure things out. I really like you. I'm just not sure if i'm staying here much less trying to waste your time in a relationship

so... yeah I drop her off she kisses me for a good 30 seconds and asked me to come up to her job tonight, wished me happy birthday again and said bye.

yeah back burner on this one... I'm glad her girlfriend said something to start it because I've been holding my tongue.

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Scorp didn’t drunkly say anything in front of a bunch of people. There was an alcove they were in.

I’m fine with cap being cautious. For the record I won her over months ago. She just at a confusing point in her life. Not mad at all. I’ve already come to conclusion she’s going to want to run things with little compromise and that’s not me. Everything seems to need to be her way.

A) I’m older and more experienced

B) I’m more accomplished

And

C) we enjoy each other’s Company

Fact is... you don’t know everything and just bc it’s your perception doesn’t make it right.

She’s too stubborn and without qualifications to be so.

In terms of sex or whatever y’all want to call it “intimacy” I don’t find sex at it’s basis to be anything more than a physical act that if you like the person makes it better.

Truth of the matter is. You can’t pressure someone to have sex, just like you can’t pressure the other person to abstain from sex. So either you compromise or keep it friendly.

She said she didn’t want to waste my time. But she wants my attention which is wasting my time.

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@mariah18

I think scorps point was more engrained in the fact that Cap always talks about how much she likes me, then isn’t actually doing anything about it.

Star Wars reference “do it do not there is no try”

I don’t know how Cap saying kissing and dancing is a show of her really liking me. I was tickled at that. Random drunk people do that.

I am moving end of next year anyway to California from east coast so I’m not looking for anything serious anyway. Just good friends or one friend that I can pass time with. If something develops it does, but it’s not on my wish list at moment.
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No mercury retrograde is kicking my arse! I haven’t had sex in two weeks but I got women all around me and on top of that no birthday sex. Grrrrr.

Aqua in sex shop last night trying vibrators over her clothes at midnight like she’s trying to get off. After she brought it(I chipped in a little as I wasn’t thinking clearly at that point) I told her make sure she comes once for me. She said she’d send me something for proof. She had asked me to come over but I relented to show I’m classy 😎.

I probably should have because I paid for dinner and that was supposed to be her taking me out for my birthday. Smh. We ended up going to Costco for gas, then Victoria secret, yard house for dinner, and then the sex toy shop.

I figured really it’s a first date 🤷🏾‍♂️ I’ll put soft press on her later on for neglecting my birthday.

Smh. I still ain’t got video. I texted her as I just woke up and she ain’t hit me back yet. Show me the tape!
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Lmao December is being quite tough on you! Cap’s are stubborn btw. Very! I found that me just turning around and leaving worked the best. I wasn’t putting up with the trying to make your mind up stuff. I tend to be more let’s see if it evolves type & if it’s heading somewhere than alright then. Funny I was planning on a move too.. but then the Cap happened. It took me a long time to decide to cancel the move - almost a year. But it was my decision & a break up too. See he fell for me, but couldn’t handle my planning to move & thought of i’d just leave him.

Don’t think the Cap would be a good one to be hanging out in the meantime before your move unless your open to possible change.
This was supposed to be a great month for me astrologically! In all areas!

It’s not! Last month sucked too!
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I'd say just move on.

I'm a Cap and waisted years of a guys time being just like this Cap here. I didn't understand a guy saying "I want to have sex with you" instead of "I want to have a relationship." Even if it was said , the "right" way, honestly speaking many of us DO want things our way, and whether we are qualified to be so controlling or make such demands does not matter...it doesn't even cross our minds.

Not to say she isn't a good girl. Just saying the red flags you may see now as why it will not work will always be there. We are people that rarely ever change, and we are easily spoiled by attention.

I don't like the Scorpio friend either. That was wrong, HOWEVER, in every situation where a guy has been interested in me and a friend or associate was around, the same thing has happened...as in the friend/associate has subliminally warned the guy or let him know to move on. I think that's what the Scorpio was doing here.

Happy belated birthday though. Although no sex, still seems that you had a decent time.