Anjo
@Anjo
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Crazy Attraction
Posted by -Flo-I agree and I have been ignoring him. It's just hard to believe that sex has put this big rift in our friendship. I really regret doing it.
Ignore him,
Never succumb to a man who wouldn't care about you the same in return. He likes to have his cake and eat it too. Keeps you close for sex, pushes you away when he's done with the attention you give. The cycle starts all over again.
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
Posted by -Flo-Thanks you. I really appreciate your advice. It's just hard because I didnt forsee this happening. I just thought we could go back to how it used to be before the sex.Posted by AnjoFwbs rarely work out, one person catches feelings and left heart broken or it turns into a relationship, which usually doesn't happen.Posted by -Flo-I agree and I have been ignoring him. It's just hard to believe that sex has put this big rift in our friendship. I really regret doing it.
Ignore him,
Never succumb to a man who wouldn't care about you the same in return. He likes to have his cake and eat it too. Keeps you close for sex, pushes you away when he's done with the attention you give. The cycle starts all over again.
I would stay away, don't even try to work on the friendship because you still have feelings and that's obviously not what he wants plus he has a gf.click to expand
I have a long-term friendship with my Cancer guy. I love him. I've realized that his friendship is more important than my sexual attraction to him. I won't cross that line... simply because if it didn't work... it would ruin the closeness that I already have with him.
Posted by WalkergrlWow that's great. I felt the same way about this guy. We've developed a closeness over the years, what I considered a true friendship. We were both single and the sexual relationship just happened. It will never happen again, but now I feel that all he does is focus on the attraction and the sexual chemistry and all I want is the friendship back without all the extra. Hindsight is 20-20.
I have a long-term friendship with my Cancer guy. I love him. I've realized that his friendship is more important than my sexual attraction to him. I won't cross that line... simply because if it didn't work... it would ruin the closeness that I already have with him.
What's crazy is one day he flirts with me and then comes to work the next day and tells me that we need ground rules and boundaries. The thing is I didn't even flirt back and I was confused. Because of this, I became very upset with him and didn't speak to him for a week.
Posted by AnjoWe don't flirt. A couple of years ago I kissed him, he kissed me back and I could feel the attraction. A couple of nights later he followed up after stuffing $ 2000 in cash into my pocket (because he knew I was having a tough time) telling me that we "are not together".Posted by WalkergrlWow that's great. I felt the same way about this guy. We've developed a closeness over the years, what I considered a true friendship. We were both single and the sexual relationship just happened. It will never happen again, but now I feel that all he does is focus on the attraction and the sexual chemistry and all I want is the friendship back without all the extra. Hindsight is 20-20.
I have a long-term friendship with my Cancer guy. I love him. I've realized that his friendship is more important than my sexual attraction to him. I won't cross that line... simply because if it didn't work... it would ruin the closeness that I already have with him.
What's crazy is one day he flirts with me and then comes to work the next day and tells me that we need ground rules and boundaries. Tge thing is I didn't even flirt back and I was confused. Because of this, I became very upset with him and didn't speak to him for a week.
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I know without a doubt that he cares. I always give him a strong hug when I see him. I'm always there for him if needed, like picking him up from the airport 2 hours away. Helping him with his dad. I tell him, "luv ya" when he leaves. He lives in Korea but comes home 4-5 times a year.
I've been part of that family for 9 years now... I cherish the relationship we have and will do whatever I need to do not to mess it up. We're both single, btw...
Posted by WalkergrlThat's shows that men and women can be friends☺Posted by AnjoWe don't flirt. A couple of years ago I kissed him, he kissed me back and I could feel the attraction. A couple of nights later he followed up after stuffing $ 2000 in cash into my pocket (because he knew I was having a tough time) telling me that we "are not together".Posted by WalkergrlWow that's great. I felt the same way about this guy. We've developed a closeness over the years, what I considered a true friendship. We were both single and the sexual relationship just happened. It will never happen again, but now I feel that all he does is focus on the attraction and the sexual chemistry and all I want is the friendship back without all the extra. Hindsight is 20-20.
I have a long-term friendship with my Cancer guy. I love him. I've realized that his friendship is more important than my sexual attraction to him. I won't cross that line... simply because if it didn't work... it would ruin the closeness that I already have with him.
What's crazy is one day he flirts with me and then comes to work the next day and tells me that we need ground rules and boundaries. Tge thing is I didn't even flirt back and I was confused. Because of this, I became very upset with him and didn't speak to him for a week.
I know without a doubt that he cares. I always give him a strong hug when I see him. I'm always there for him if needed, like picking him up from the airport 2 hours away. Helping him with his dad. I tell him, "luv ya" when he leaves. He lives in Korea but comes home 4-5 times a year.
I've been part of that family for 9 years now... I cherish the relationship we have and will do whatever I need to do not to mess it up. We're both single, btw...click to expand
Posted by AnjoSure. Of course. This guy is easy to love but love doesn't mean acting out sexual fantasies. Also, keeping in mind that there are different levels/types of love. Making sure which one you're willing to risk for the sake of the relationship is worth taking a step back and evaluating the big picture and what you're willing to lose with that person. I'm not willing to lose him. So I nurture the love that promotes deep friendship and trust.Posted by WalkergrlThat's shows that men and women can be friends☺Posted by AnjoWe don't flirt. A couple of years ago I kissed him, he kissed me back and I could feel the attraction. A couple of nights later he followed up after stuffing $ 2000 in cash into my pocket (because he knew I was having a tough time) telling me that we "are not together".Posted by WalkergrlWow that's great. I felt the same way about this guy. We've developed a closeness over the years, what I considered a true friendship. We were both single and the sexual relationship just happened. It will never happen again, but now I feel that all he does is focus on the attraction and the sexual chemistry and all I want is the friendship back without all the extra. Hindsight is 20-20.
I have a long-term friendship with my Cancer guy. I love him. I've realized that his friendship is more important than my sexual attraction to him. I won't cross that line... simply because if it didn't work... it would ruin the closeness that I already have with him.
What's crazy is one day he flirts with me and then comes to work the next day and tells me that we need ground rules and boundaries. Tge thing is I didn't even flirt back and I was confused. Because of this, I became very upset with him and didn't speak to him for a week.
I know without a doubt that he cares. I always give him a strong hug when I see him. I'm always there for him if needed, like picking him up from the airport 2 hours away. Helping him with his dad. I tell him, "luv ya" when he leaves. He lives in Korea but comes home 4-5 times a year.
I've been part of that family for 9 years now... I cherish the relationship we have and will do whatever I need to do not to mess it up. We're both single, btw...click to expand
That note did not say External.
It said ETERNAL.
End the friendship, cordially.
Its okay.
He will either move on, or come back for you.
But you don't have to go through this push-pull
anymore if you don't want to.
It said ETERNAL.
End the friendship, cordially.
Its okay.
He will either move on, or come back for you.
But you don't have to go through this push-pull
anymore if you don't want to.
Posted by Fun4Life
You have one of two choice, A.) forget about him completely - ignore him; B.) Put on the full-court press and grab him away from the other girl. Virgo guy should be receptive to the Cancer girl going aggressively after him! B is of course risky, if rejected.
>You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times
Posted by MontgomeryI agree thank you.
That note did not say External.
It said ETERNAL.
End the friendship, cordially.
Its okay.
He will either move on, or come back for you.
But you don't have to go through this push-pull
anymore if you don't want to.
I know but we were such good friends and it's hard but maybe that's the best for now. I don't want to be a distraction to him.
Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
Posted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
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Posted by AnjoPosted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
He has a girlfriend though
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Posted by AnjoIf you've known him for so many years, it's odd he hasn't pursued anything more. I'd ask him if I were youPosted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
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Posted by Fun4LifePosted by AnjoPosted by Fun4Life
You have one of two choice, A.) forget about him completely - ignore him; B.) Put on the full-court press and grab him away from the other girl. Virgo guy should be receptive to the Cancer girl going aggressively after him! B is of course risky, if rejected.
>You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by AnjoIf you've known him for so many years, it's odd he hasn't pursued anything more. I'd ask him if I were youPosted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
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I don't know. He's a virgo and he analyzes everything and he moves slowly, plus the girlfriend situation makes me too cautious to ask him anything in regards to us.
Posted by AnjoPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnjoIf you've known him for so many years, it's odd he hasn't pursued anything more. I'd ask him if I were youPosted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
I don't know. He's a virgo and he analyzes everything and he moves slowly, plus the girlfriend situation makes me too cautious to ask him anything in regards to us.
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He didn't move as slow with his girlfriend. Something tells me there's a good reason why he hasn't wanted to date you. Stop wondering. Just ask.
Posted by pinkbird03He's been dealing with her for about 4 years but decided to start a relationship with her just recently, but when we were messing around they were on a break. He told me he was single. I think he's just sexually attracted to me only.Posted by AnjoPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnjoIf you've known him for so many years, it's odd he hasn't pursued anything more. I'd ask him if I were youPosted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
I don't know. He's a virgo and he analyzes everything and he moves slowly, plus the girlfriend situation makes me too cautious to ask him anything in regards to us.
He didn't move as slow with his girlfriend. Something tells me there's a good reason why he hasn't wanted to date you. Stop wondering. Just ask.
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Posted by AnjoI think for your own sanity you should be the one to try to let him go, as hard as that sounds.
Hello Everyone. I need some advice.
I've been friends with a Virgo man for nearly 9 years. I'm a cancer.
We've had a brief sexual relationship...6 months.
He has a girlfriend now and because of it our friendship is very complicated. He constantly pushes me away and put up these walls and then he flirts and tells me that he has an eternal attraction to me and it's hard because he's constantly distracted.
I haven't flirted with him for a very long time and have respected his relationship. The situation is really hard for me because I just want my friend back and because he feels this way, it seems as it will never happen.
The kicker is we work together and we were really cool. I'm still very attracted to him as well, but I've suppressed my feelings because of this.
What should I do? I'm not trying to break up his relationship. Should I just end the friendship?
In my opinion I feel like we Virgos sometimes tend to have the mentally where we want the cake and to eat it too.
Seems like part of him is attached to you and he wants you around but on his terms but it's not fair to you considering the feelings you have for him and it kinda seems like in the long run things will get messier than they are now.
Posted by youandmebothPosted by AnjoI think for your own sanity you should be the one to try to let him go, as hard as that sounds.
Hello Everyone. I need some advice.
I've been friends with a Virgo man for nearly 9 years. I'm a cancer.
We've had a brief sexual relationship...6 months.
He has a girlfriend now and because of it our friendship is very complicated. He constantly pushes me away and put up these walls and then he flirts and tells me that he has an eternal attraction to me and it's hard because he's constantly distracted.
I haven't flirted with him for a very long time and have respected his relationship. The situation is really hard for me because I just want my friend back and because he feels this way, it seems as it will never happen.
The kicker is we work together and we were really cool. I'm still very attracted to him as well, but I've suppressed my feelings because of this.
What should I do? I'm not trying to break up his relationship. Should I just end the friendship?
In my opinion I feel like we Virgos sometimes tend to have the mentally where we want the cake and to eat it too.
Seems like part of him is attached to you and he wants you around but on his terms but it's not fair to you considering the feelings you have for him and it kinda seems like in the long run things will get messier than they are now.
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I agree that's why I'm just going to keep my distance. It's just too much of a struggle to keep a friendship with him
Posted by AnjoAwe that's sad. I'm sorry!Posted by pinkbird03He's been dealing with her for about 4 years but decided to start a relationship with her just recently, but when we were messing around they were on a break. He told me he was single. I think he's just sexually attracted to me only.Posted by AnjoPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnjoIf you've known him for so many years, it's odd he hasn't pursued anything more. I'd ask him if I were youPosted by pinkbird03I don't know what he wants. I don't understand what he's trying to say. I'm confused.Posted by AnjoHe doesn't want a relationship with you though??
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
I don't know. He's a virgo and he analyzes everything and he moves slowly, plus the girlfriend situation makes me too cautious to ask him anything in regards to us.
He didn't move as slow with his girlfriend. Something tells me there's a good reason why he hasn't wanted to date you. Stop wondering. Just ask.
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Posted by palehoovesYou are right that's why I'm not going there any more
do not listen to the person giving you advice to try to take it further with him while he has a girlfriend. don't compromise yourself for some dick.
Posted by aquarius_beautyI like this!Posted by AnjoAn Aqua friend once told me, if a guy can only say to you that he had an attraction or he compliments your body rather than your personality, then he is only lusting after you.
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
A man won't commit to a woman he lusts after. It's only when you have his heart that will do it.click to expand
Posted by youandmebothPosted by AnjoI think for your own sanity you should be the one to try to let him go, as hard as that sounds.
Hello Everyone. I need some advice.
I've been friends with a Virgo man for nearly 9 years. I'm a cancer.
We've had a brief sexual relationship...6 months.
He has a girlfriend now and because of it our friendship is very complicated. He constantly pushes me away and put up these walls and then he flirts and tells me that he has an eternal attraction to me and it's hard because he's constantly distracted.
I haven't flirted with him for a very long time and have respected his relationship. The situation is really hard for me because I just want my friend back and because he feels this way, it seems as it will never happen.
The kicker is we work together and we were really cool. I'm still very attracted to him as well, but I've suppressed my feelings because of this.
What should I do? I'm not trying to break up his relationship. Should I just end the friendship?
In my opinion I feel like we Virgos sometimes tend to have the mentally where we want the cake and to eat it too.
Seems like part of him is attached to you and he wants you around but on his terms but it's not fair to you considering the feelings you have for him and it kinda seems like in the long run things will get messier than they are now.
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I totally agree. All I want is my friend back and he puts me through all of these changes for no reason.
I don't understand why we just can't be friends without it being a big awkward situation.
I cherish our friendship. We were platonic friends for 8 years. I don't want to lose the friendship.
Posted by aquarius_beautyTrue but I'm not asking him to commit to me. I just want our friendship back. As a cancer woman, I cherish all of my friendships. Unfortunately we made a big mistake of allowing our chemistry and attraction to get the best of us at one time, but now it's over. Why can't we just be friends again.Posted by AnjoAn Aqua friend once told me, if a guy can only say to you that he had an attraction or he compliments your body rather than your personality, then he is only lusting after you.
This is the email he sent me:
You are a very sweet woman. I know you're a good person and friend. I'm just being cautious with you because of my eternal attraction to you.
You don't have to do anything. You haven't done anything wrong. You just have an effect on me and I need to watch myself. That means I have to watch how much I communicate as well because I get weak at times.
I hope you really understand that it's a struggle for me sometimes
A man won't commit to a woman he lusts after. It's only when you have his heart that will do it.click to expand
Posted by -Flo-I am good. I have not flirted with him or done anything to put myself in an awkward situation.Posted by AdmiraIShe has feelings for him but he obviously doesn't feel the same which means a fwb will only make the situation worse for her, it's not going to work out.Posted by -Flo-Fwbs work but people who are in fwbs don't work right. You can be attracted to a person enough to have sex with him but not a relationship. Not all people have that sort of control over themselves.Posted by AnjoFwbs rarely work out, one person catches feelings and left heart broken or it turns into a relationship, which usually doesn't happen.Posted by -Flo-I agree and I have been ignoring him. It's just hard to believe that sex has put this big rift in our friendship. I really regret doing it.
Ignore him,
Never succumb to a man who wouldn't care about you the same in return. He likes to have his cake and eat it too. Keeps you close for sex, pushes you away when he's done with the attention you give. The cycle starts all over again.
I would stay away, don't even try to work on the friendship because you still have feelings and that's obviously not what he wants plus he has a gf.
We need to be honest with OP. She's going to get her heartbroken going down this route.
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The problem is he acts weird around me. When I'm myself and we are on good terms he gets comfortable and starts flirting. I'm constantly putting him in his place because he has a girlfriend.
I am not going to lie, I'm attracted to him but right now I'm not going there. I just want a platonic friendship. I want to joke around and have fun like we use to without him telling me how much he's turned on and can't act himself around me.
Posted by palehoovesHonestly I think he tries to fight the temptation and at times he pushes me away. It bothers me and hurts my feelings cause we were friends first. I can't understand why he can't put the attraction to rest. His girlfriend should be the one he should be wanting to be sexual with not me. I can't understand his logic.
he's still in the midst of his attraction to you. it shouldn't be an issue because he has a girlfriend. but he's scandalous. he wouldn't be talking to you the way he is if he was trustworthy.
eventually if you keep talking to him he'll try to get you to cheat with him.
friends can be attracted to each other but he's crossing all kinds of lines.
Posted by aquarius_beautyI'm not in love with him but I do care for him. We've been friends for a long time. We've had a lot of great times. I just want to be platonic. He's the one who keeps giving me mixed signals.Posted by palehoovesI don't think you understand the context of this. You can't stay friends with an ex if there are still feelings involved. If you and your exes are ok with being friends then chances are you guys are no longer in love with each other. You may love them...but it's simply platonic.
this isn't true. i have plenty of good friends that i used to have something with. and no one is still in love with anyone else. and to say because you still value someone as a person and want them in your life even if it didn't work out does not mean that you never loved them in that way when it was still a think.
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Posted by Fun4LifeBut I don't want him as a lover if he has a girlfriend. I don't want to be the other woman. If I can fight temptation without being in a relationship, it shouldn't be hard for him to fight it being in a relationship.Posted by AnjoPosted by youandmebothPosted by AnjoI think for your own sanity you should be the one to try to let him go, as hard as that sounds.
Hello Everyone. I need some advice.
I've been friends with a Virgo man for nearly 9 years. I'm a cancer.
We've had a brief sexual relationship...6 months.
He has a girlfriend now and because of it our friendship is very complicated. He constantly pushes me away and put up these walls and then he flirts and tells me that he has an eternal attraction to me and it's hard because he's constantly distracted.
I haven't flirted with him for a very long time and have respected his relationship. The situation is really hard for me because I just want my friend back and because he feels this way, it seems as it will never happen.
The kicker is we work together and we were really cool. I'm still very attracted to him as well, but I've suppressed my feelings because of this.
What should I do? I'm not trying to break up his relationship. Should I just end the friendship?
In my opinion I feel like we Virgos sometimes tend to have the mentally where we want the cake and to eat it too.
Seems like part of him is attached to you and he wants you around but on his terms but it's not fair to you considering the feelings you have for him and it kinda seems like in the long run things will get messier than they are now.
I totally agree. All I want is my friend back and he puts me through all of these changes for no reason.
I don't understand why we just can't be friends without it being a big awkward situation.
I cherish our friendship. We were platonic friends for 8 years. I don't want to lose the friendship.
He did NOT do it for no reason...he did it because he couldn't control his temptation to view you as something more than a friend. Meaning he's "torn between two lovers". Hey somebody wrote a song with that title at one point....but I digress. Chances are you have a greater probability to get him as a lover, than you ever would of seeing him as a friend again.
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Posted by palehoovesI know and it sucks
he's still in the midst of his attraction to you. it shouldn't be an issue because he has a girlfriend. but he's scandalous. he wouldn't be talking to you the way he is if he was trustworthy.
eventually if you keep talking to him he'll try to get you to cheat with him.
friends can be attracted to each other but he's crossing all kinds of lines.
Posted by aquarius_beautyThe problem is he gives me mixed signals and I do ignored it. Then he starts acting real funky towards me and stand-offish. That's not how friends act. That's not cool. It's like he wants attention and gets mad at me when I don't give in. It just bothers me.Posted by AnjoThe fact that you're depending on him sending you mixed signals means you do have feelings. Don't lie to yourself. I have a friend who I've known for 15 years. He sends me mixed signals all the time, but I could careless whether or not he does because I have no emotional attachment other than platonic feelings towards him. So I could careless if he does or doesn't. I'm still friends with him.Posted by aquarius_beautyI'm not in love with him but I do care for him. We've been friends for a long time. We've had a lot of great times. I just want to be platonic. He's the one who keeps giving me mixed signals.Posted by palehoovesI don't think you understand the context of this. You can't stay friends with an ex if there are still feelings involved. If you and your exes are ok with being friends then chances are you guys are no longer in love with each other. You may love them...but it's simply platonic.
this isn't true. i have plenty of good friends that i used to have something with. and no one is still in love with anyone else. and to say because you still value someone as a person and want them in your life even if it didn't work out does not mean that you never loved them in that way when it was still a think.
most closed minded shit i've ever seen.
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If he wasn't in a relationship it would be different but he is so I'm not going there with him.
You are too good for him. You are keeping it respectful and he is emotionally cheating on his now girlfriend. If he wanted you that much he would have swooped you up already.
I would ignore him and tell him that you want to keep things at a distance out of respect for the relationship and not be a distraction.
I would ignore him and tell him that you want to keep things at a distance out of respect for the relationship and not be a distraction.
I bet you he cheats on her with someone else. Just wait.
For your own sake break it off with him because things won't improve.
For your own sake break it off with him because things won't improve.
Posted by GuardianAnuThanks you for your reply. I really appreciate it. That's probably the only resolution at this point cause we keep going in circles.
You are too good for him. You are keeping it respectful and he is emotionally cheating on his now girlfriend. If he wanted you that much he would have swooped you up already.
I would ignore him and tell him that you want to keep things at a distance out of respect for the relationship and not be a distraction.
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