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J-hay
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Is it normal to be slightly heart broken after dating for 3 months and being cut off? I was always honest with this woman we talked everyday all day. We'd go on nice dates vibe together never had no argument. We'd also talk about planning a vacation together, something that can lead to a relationship. The past few weeks she seemed off and my intuition told me something was up. I'm a cancer, my old self would probably just gone into my rogue into my shell and not addressed the issue but I've matured through the years and hung in there. I asked if I had done something wrong or had anythhing changed between us but she acted like everything was good. Since day one til the present I've been my honest sweet self and come yesterday she tells me she wasn't looking for anything serious just casual and like that everything ended. She said she really liked me and would still like to be friends but I told her I couldn't. Was kinda blindsided she never indicated or told me anything about casual. I don't think I could be friends with her again.
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sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.
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Posted by serenidad
sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.


Totally agree, I definitely cut her off and it's time for me to move on. She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks
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Like I tell the women who come on dxp, people can change their minds.

It doesn’t matter how much sex you’ve had, conversations, trips, how much laundry you’ve done, Starbucks you’ve brought, family dinners you’ve attended…

People can change their minds.

I heard something profound the other day. All relationships end one way or another. Some tragically, some amicably. But they ALL end
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Like I tell the women who come on dxp, people can change their minds.



It doesn’t matter how much sex you’ve had, conversations, trips, how much laundry you’ve done, Starbucks you’ve brought, family dinners you’ve attended…



People can change their minds.



I heard something profound the other day. All relationships end one way or another. Some tragically, some amicably. But they ALL end


Very true!

Even if it’s soulmate mythical type love someone’s gotta die first.
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Grieve the fantasy of what could’ve been. Grieve the potential you saw. But it was only 3 months. She did you a favor by being honest early on instead of wasting more of your time.

People live to disappoint. The last thing you should do is internalize her choices as your fault. That’s not your responsibility.

Let it be a short funeral than onto the next.
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Like I tell the women who come on dxp, people can change their minds.



It doesn’t matter how much sex you’ve had, conversations, trips, how much laundry you’ve done, Starbucks you’ve brought, family dinners you’ve attended…



People can change their minds.



I heard something profound the other day. All relationships end one way or another. Some tragically, some amicably. But they ALL end
Very true!



Even if it’s soulmate mythical type love someone’s gotta die first.
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The couple from the Notebook died together though.
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That’s fiction 😂
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Yes, it's normal if you like someone. Well you know, perhaps that conversation needed to happen earlier? The way I look at it though is 3 months is pretty much a time period where you're seeing if something has legs towards a relationship or not. For you, it seems yes. For her, no. Maybe it's no with anyone, or maybe she just wasn't feeling it on that level. Who knows.

Pick yourself up, feel your feelings and then move on to the next possibility. It just wasn't meant to be this one.
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Yes, it happened to me once too....and that was the reason I landed on dxpnet 10 years ago!

Don't be too hard on yourself. If it ends up so early, it's because the relationship lacked something they needed, or brought up something they didn't want to deal with.

Would you have changed your looks or behaviour to suit her, if you knew exactly how? Nah, it doesn't work like that irl. You'll eventually find someone who wants to be with you and loves you for who you are!
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Posted by serenidad
sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.

Totally agree, I definitely cut her off and it's time for me to move on. She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks
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"She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks"

Sop that!

She obviously likes you enough to realize this would get serious so she backed out because she isn't ready. That is a very very hard thing for someone to do. She didn't discard you, use you, or disrespect you.

She thought of your feelings and let you go.

That's consideration and compassion.

Thank her for showing the same honesty as you did.

That is so fucking rare nowadays.

Respect it and be grateful to her for thinking of your feelings and being honest.
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Posted by J-hay
Posted by serenidad
sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.
Totally agree, I definitely cut her off and it's time for me to move on. She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks
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"She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks"

Sop that!

She obviously likes you enough to realize this would get serious so she backed out because she isn't ready. That is a very very hard thing for someone to do. She didn't discard you, use you, or disrespect you.

She thought of your feelings and let you go.

That's consideration and compassion.

Thank her for showing the same honesty as you did.

That is so fucking rare nowadays.

Respect it and be grateful to her for thinking of your feelings and being honest.
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Posted by serenidad
sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.


Totally agree, I definitely cut her off and it's time for me to move on. She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks
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"She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks"

Sop that!

She obviously likes you enough to realize this would get serious so she backed out because she isn't ready. That is a very very hard thing for someone to do. She didn't discard you, use you, or disrespect you.

She thought of your feelings and let you go.

That's consideration and compassion.

Thank her for showing the same honesty as you did.

That is so fucking rare nowadays.

Respect it and be grateful to her for thinking of your feelings and being honest.
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Lol I'm serious. People drag things out or do dumb shit that hurts worse to cause a break up... out of fear of confrontation and being honest.

🤷 I suppose people just don't appreciate this until they have experienced the shitty ways, ghosting being the most common nowadays.which is confusing as hell and slow torture when you are into someone.

He will process his feelings and get past it.

Lol if he is lucky, Realize this himself or learn to appreciate after experiencing the other ways.

Mad respect for her honesty and doing things the right way.

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Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by J-hay
Posted by serenidad
sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.
Totally agree, I definitely cut her off and it's time for me to move on. She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks
click to expand

"She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks"

Sop that!

She obviously likes you enough to realize this would get serious so she backed out because she isn't ready. That is a very very hard thing for someone to do. She didn't discard you, use you, or disrespect you.

She thought of your feelings and let you go.

That's consideration and compassion.

Thank her for showing the same honesty as you did.

That is so fucking rare nowadays.

Respect it and be grateful to her for thinking of your feelings and being honest.
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She wasn't honest enough to tell me that in the beginning🤷‍♂️. It is what it is.
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Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by J-hay
Posted by serenidad
sorry this happened to you.

as much as it hurts you, just be glad that you didn’t invest years of your life in someone who wasn’t on the same page as you. also, if you’re the type of guy who’s only looking for something serious, i see no reason for you to keep her around. life goes by faster than we think. you don’t have time to be entertaining lukewarm, half ass shit if you know you’re meant for something more.




Totally agree, I definitely cut her off and it's time for me to move on. She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks
click to expand

"She doesn't deserve me, her loss. Thanks"

Sop that!

She obviously likes you enough to realize this would get serious so she backed out because she isn't ready. That is a very very hard thing for someone to do. She didn't discard you, use you, or disrespect you.

She thought of your feelings and let you go.

That's consideration and compassion.

Thank her for showing the same honesty as you did.

That is so fucking rare nowadays.

Respect it and be grateful to her for thinking of your feelings and being honest.
click to expand





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Lol I'm serious. People drag things out or do dumb shit that hurts worse to cause a break up... out of fear of confrontation and being honest.



🤷 I suppose people just don't appreciate this until they have experienced the shitty ways, ghosting being the most common nowadays.which is confusing as hell and slow torture when you are into someone.



He will process his feelings and get past it.

Lol if he is lucky, Realize this himself or learn to appreciate after experiencing the other ways.



Mad respect for her honesty and doing things the right way.



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3 months feels like 3 weeks to me, but I get it. No need to drag out a friendship if you like the person either. It gives false hope. A smooth break is what helps.

Doing things the right way is good and way better then being strung along, true dat!
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Posted by J-hay
Is it normal to be slightly heart broken after dating for 3 months and being cut off? I was always honest with this woman we talked everyday all day. We'd go on nice dates vibe together never had no argument. We'd also talk about planning a vacation together, something that can lead to a relationship. The past few weeks she seemed off and my intuition told me something was up. I'm a cancer, my old self would probably just gone into my rogue into my shell and not addressed the issue but I've matured through the years and hung in there. I asked if I had done something wrong or had anythhing changed between us but she acted like everything was good. Since day one til the present I've been my honest sweet self and come yesterday she tells me she wasn't looking for anything serious just casual and like that everything ended. She said she really liked me and would still like to be friends but I told her I couldn't. Was kinda blindsided she never indicated or told me anything about casual. I don't think I could be friends with her again.


u poor dear,cheer up all hop is not lost. 🙂