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Try the bar. I used to flirt with lots of women there during my prime stages. They got nice looking mature single men there too. And you dont even have to drink any alcohol. You can go there just to flirt and have some soda pops if beer ain't your thing.
Of course I would be drinking now, having posting this.
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’d say the grocery store, but the last time a guy tried to pick me up in a grocery store turns out he was a drug addict and only wanted sex. So you meet all kinds of not so great people not only online. 🤷♀️I know but I’m just kinda over the whole online thing 😬
click to expandOh I know. Same here. I give up on looking altogether. It’s disappointing and frustrating.
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How’s it going with Leo?
Posted by Saturn_Returns
Try a street corner. 🤣
You first 🙆♀️😂
Posted by __ixi__
To be really real I find people wherever I am i just make myself accesible...and then look for women who are as well.Process is typically subtle but top-tier...it starts with me not necessarily looking for anything. But if I catch her eyes, or some other body language or suggestion...I hone onto that and go exploring chat her up see where a short conversation goes.
If things go smoothly (aka she isn't extremely standoffish) and I like her vibe, look, etc...I'll ask for contact either SM or #. If her persona doesn't change in the post-event conversations we have (assuming she is responsive to messaging) I'll typically ask her out for Chill out, date, whatever.
Best advice of the whole thread!
Always count on Virgo to be super helpful 🙏
Men hit on women in gyms
Just had some dude watch me and wait til I was done with cardio to inform me that I was technically single because I wasn’t wearing a ring after I told him I was in a relationship. What a pos, who wants to date a man who doesn’t respect boundaries or relationships in general
I guess the gym will always be a place for it because of the elevated testosterone levels
Posted by MyStarsShine
Prison😂
Llllllolllll
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’d say the grocery store, but the last time a guy tried to pick me up in a grocery store turns out he was a drug addict and only wanted sex. So you meet all kinds of not so great people not only online. 🤷♀️I know but I’m just kinda over the whole online thing 😬
click to expandOh I know. Same here. I give up on looking altogether. It’s disappointing and frustrating.
How’s it going with Leo?
Things are going ok. I mean he’s been down at his beach house over the weekend and last week he was busy moving so we haven’t seen each other in over a week. He’s been in touch daily though and told me he misses me. Though I’m still a bit cautious as I noticed he’s still on the dating app we met on and has been on there recently. So if he’s still looking and not sure about us then what am I doing this for? Am I just supposed to wait around and give him time to decide if he wants to proceed with me or if he wants to continue to date other people? I was only focusing on him. It just feels like we are on two different pages. Maybe I need to continue dating other people. It’s just hard for me to focus on more than one person at a time. I put my all or nothing into someone.
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Didn’t he say he only wanted to date you and yet he’s been on the dating app?
So confusing. I guess you’ll have to bite the bullet and ask him what he wants?
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’d say the grocery store, but the last time a guy tried to pick me up in a grocery store turns out he was a drug addict and only wanted sex. So you meet all kinds of not so great people not only online. 🤷♀️I know but I’m just kinda over the whole online thing 😬
click to expandOh I know. Same here. I give up on looking altogether. It’s disappointing and frustrating.
How’s it going with Leo?
Things are going ok. I mean he’s been down at his beach house over the weekend and last week he was busy moving so we haven’t seen each other in over a week. He’s been in touch daily though and told me he misses me. Though I’m still a bit cautious as I noticed he’s still on the dating app we met on and has been on there recently. So if he’s still looking and not sure about us then what am I doing this for? Am I just supposed to wait around and give him time to decide if he wants to proceed with me or if he wants to continue to date other people? I was only focusing on him. It just feels like we are on two different pages. Maybe I need to continue dating other people. It’s just hard for me to focus on more than one person at a time. I put my all or nothing into someone.
Didn’t he say he only wanted to date you and yet he’s been on the dating app?
So confusing. I guess you’ll have to bite the bullet and ask him what he wants?
Yes, that’s what he told me so I’m confused as to why he feels the need to be on the dating app still? There is only one reason to be on there and that is if you’re still shopping around.😔
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Better to nip it in the bud now. Don’t sell yourself short, you deserve more
The last guy I was with, i said to him from the start that I didn’t share. We saw each other for almost 5 yrs and stayed faithful. I wouldn’t have it any other way. You either want to be with me or not.
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’d say the grocery store, but the last time a guy tried to pick me up in a grocery store turns out he was a drug addict and only wanted sex. So you meet all kinds of not so great people not only online. 🤷♀️I know but I’m just kinda over the whole online thing 😬
click to expandOh I know. Same here. I give up on looking altogether. It’s disappointing and frustrating.
How’s it going with Leo?
Things are going ok. I mean he’s been down at his beach house over the weekend and last week he was busy moving so we haven’t seen each other in over a week. He’s been in touch daily though and told me he misses me. Though I’m still a bit cautious as I noticed he’s still on the dating app we met on and has been on there recently. So if he’s still looking and not sure about us then what am I doing this for? Am I just supposed to wait around and give him time to decide if he wants to proceed with me or if he wants to continue to date other people? I was only focusing on him. It just feels like we are on two different pages. Maybe I need to continue dating other people. It’s just hard for me to focus on more than one person at a time. I put my all or nothing into someone.
Didn’t he say he only wanted to date you and yet he’s been on the dating app?
So confusing. I guess you’ll have to bite the bullet and ask him what he wants?
Yes, that’s what he told me so I’m confused as to why he feels the need to be on the dating app still? There is only one reason to be on there and that is if you’re still shopping around.😔
Better to nip it in the bud now. Don’t sell yourself short, you deserve more
The last guy I was with, i said to him from the start that I didn’t share. We saw each other for almost 5 yrs and stayed faithful. I wouldn’t have it any other way. You either want to be with me or not.
I’m with you 100% ! Thing is, we just had a long discussion last weekend when I was at his house about how I was strictly monogamous and did not like to share. I told him I like to put my all into one person and focus only on them. That I can be pretty jealous so dating multiple people doesn’t work for me. He agreed that he felt the same. So I won’t get it? Maybe that talk scared him off or made him unsure. I don’t know, but if that’s the case then I need to rethink this. I guess I’m going to have to have another talk with him. Sigh….he’s probably going to get tired of my talks.
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Yes maybe and perhaps he’s unsure of what he wants? At least you’re being true to yourself … he needs to make up his mind and stand by his word
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’d say the grocery store, but the last time a guy tried to pick me up in a grocery store turns out he was a drug addict and only wanted sex. So you meet all kinds of not so great people not only online. 🤷♀️I know but I’m just kinda over the whole online thing 😬
click to expandOh I know. Same here. I give up on looking altogether. It’s disappointing and frustrating.
How’s it going with Leo?
Things are going ok. I mean he’s been down at his beach house over the weekend and last week he was busy moving so we haven’t seen each other in over a week. He’s been in touch daily though and told me he misses me. Though I’m still a bit cautious as I noticed he’s still on the dating app we met on and has been on there recently. So if he’s still looking and not sure about us then what am I doing this for? Am I just supposed to wait around and give him time to decide if he wants to proceed with me or if he wants to continue to date other people? I was only focusing on him. It just feels like we are on two different pages. Maybe I need to continue dating other people. It’s just hard for me to focus on more than one person at a time. I put my all or nothing into someone.
Didn’t he say he only wanted to date you and yet he’s been on the dating app?
So confusing. I guess you’ll have to bite the bullet and ask him what he wants?
Yes, that’s what he told me so I’m confused as to why he feels the need to be on the dating app still? There is only one reason to be on there and that is if you’re still shopping around.😔
Better to nip it in the bud now. Don’t sell yourself short, you deserve more
The last guy I was with, i said to him from the start that I didn’t share. We saw each other for almost 5 yrs and stayed faithful. I wouldn’t have it any other way. You either want to be with me or not.
I’m with you 100% ! Thing is, we just had a long discussion last weekend when I was at his house about how I was strictly monogamous and did not like to share. I told him I like to put my all into one person and focus only on them. That I can be pretty jealous so dating multiple people doesn’t work for me. He agreed that he felt the same. So I won’t get it? Maybe that talk scared him off or made him unsure. I don’t know, but if that’s the case then I need to rethink this. I guess I’m going to have to have another talk with him. Sigh….he’s probably going to get tired of my talks.
Yes maybe and perhaps he’s unsure of what he wants? At least you’re being true to yourself … he needs to make up his mind and stand by his word
Exactly! And I totally get that he’s fresh out of a 17 year marriage and probably unsure if he wants to jump back into a serious long term relationship right away. That’s fair and I can’t blame him. But if he just wants to date casually for now he needs to be upfront about that instead of telling me he’s looking to find his forever person. Clearly, I’m not his forever person of he’s still unsure and looking. 🤷♀️
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Gemini Moon 🥴
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’d say the grocery store, but the last time a guy tried to pick me up in a grocery store turns out he was a drug addict and only wanted sex. So you meet all kinds of not so great people not only online. 🤷♀️I know but I’m just kinda over the whole online thing 😬
click to expandOh I know. Same here. I give up on looking altogether. It’s disappointing and frustrating.
How’s it going with Leo?
Things are going ok. I mean he’s been down at his beach house over the weekend and last week he was busy moving so we haven’t seen each other in over a week. He’s been in touch daily though and told me he misses me. Though I’m still a bit cautious as I noticed he’s still on the dating app we met on and has been on there recently. So if he’s still looking and not sure about us then what am I doing this for? Am I just supposed to wait around and give him time to decide if he wants to proceed with me or if he wants to continue to date other people? I was only focusing on him. It just feels like we are on two different pages. Maybe I need to continue dating other people. It’s just hard for me to focus on more than one person at a time. I put my all or nothing into someone.
Didn’t he say he only wanted to date you and yet he’s been on the dating app?
So confusing. I guess you’ll have to bite the bullet and ask him what he wants?
Yes, that’s what he told me so I’m confused as to why he feels the need to be on the dating app still? There is only one reason to be on there and that is if you’re still shopping around.😔
Better to nip it in the bud now. Don’t sell yourself short, you deserve more
The last guy I was with, i said to him from the start that I didn’t share. We saw each other for almost 5 yrs and stayed faithful. I wouldn’t have it any other way. You either want to be with me or not.
I’m with you 100% ! Thing is, we just had a long discussion last weekend when I was at his house about how I was strictly monogamous and did not like to share. I told him I like to put my all into one person and focus only on them. That I can be pretty jealous so dating multiple people doesn’t work for me. He agreed that he felt the same. So I won’t get it? Maybe that talk scared him off or made him unsure. I don’t know, but if that’s the case then I need to rethink this. I guess I’m going to have to have another talk with him. Sigh….he’s probably going to get tired of my talks.
Yes maybe and perhaps he’s unsure of what he wants? At least you’re being true to yourself … he needs to make up his mind and stand by his word
Exactly! And I totally get that he’s fresh out of a 17 year marriage and probably unsure if he wants to jump back into a serious long term relationship right away. That’s fair and I can’t blame him. But if he just wants to date casually for now he needs to be upfront about that instead of telling me he’s looking to find his forever person. Clearly, I’m not his forever person of he’s still unsure and looking. 🤷♀️
Gemini Moon 🥴
click to expandPrecisely why I’m not fond of Gemini Moon men. I mean I try to give everyone a chance and not be biased, but some things just never change.😔
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Emotionally changeable
Take an interesting class or community course.
Volunteer for some community event, club.
Join a community theater group/improve group.
Volunteer at a hospital.
Volunteer? You can tell service is my love language, lol.
Another country. 😂
i changed my status to single on fb and somehow got entangled with this guy when we shared our baby pics with each other.
and now we have a 2-month old baby 😆😆
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.
The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
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People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
I agree it’s a good idea to look good when you go out. You never know who you can run into.
Do you think chances are better to meet someone in a bigger city or smaller city?
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
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Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
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Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
Posted by aquarius09
I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going)Pics please 😆
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And who are you?
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
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You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
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Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
Posted by borednbeautiful
I agree it’s a good idea to look good when you go out. You never know who you can run into.Do you think chances are better to meet someone in a bigger city or smaller city?
You can meet someone anywhere! Bigger, smaller city provided that you have a cheerful disposition. Nobody likes a grumpy diva/divo. Not to mention, a cheerful demeanor enhances your physical attributes or even there lack of.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
I have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
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Really? If you’re air dominant then I can see why we are similar. Just tell me what your sun and moon, merc, Venus and mars are. I’m dying to know. Lol
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by aquarius09
I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going)My aquarius sister always have been like this too 😅
As a kid i thought was annoying
Anywhere we had to go she needed 30 min to dress up
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We gotta meet our soul mate somewhere. Can’t be looking like a hobo. 🤣
When I say look good and polished, I don’t mean three layers of foundation kinda make up that takes hourssssssss. I mean natural makeup and little bit makes a difference. Like covering dark circles and lipgloss, and brushing hair so it looks groomed.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.
The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
click to expandI have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
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Are you “finding balance “ (previous user name)?
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by aquarius09
I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going)My aquarius sister always have been like this too 😅
As a kid i thought was annoying
Anywhere we had to go she needed 30 min to dress up
We gotta meet our soul mate somewhere. Can’t be looking like a hobo. 🤣
When I say look good and polished, I don’t mean three layers of foundation kinda make up that takes hourssssssss. I mean natural makeup and little bit makes a difference. Like covering dark circles and lipgloss, and brushing hair so it looks groomed.
This gave me some thought, i should ask if any dxper ever meet a past so or hook up wearing flip flops 😅
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I would hate to bump into an ex especially if we parted on bad terms looking like shit. 😤 I want them to know they aged terribly and that I was always too good for them🤣😆 I’m just joking.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
I have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
Really? If you’re air dominant then I can see why we are similar. Just tell me what your sun and moon, merc, Venus and mars are. I’m dying to know. Lol
LOL. I was gonna troll you and say ophiuchus, but I won't. Pisces Sun, Virgo Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Aquarius Venus, and Libra Mars.
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Ooohhhh!! I like your placements! Just one Virgo! That’s the only time I like a chart. 🤣You must be wise beyond your years!
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.
The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
click to expandI have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
click to expandAre you “finding balance “ (previous user name)?
click to expandNo, I'm not sure who finding balance is. I've had so many usernames I'm not even sure of the last one I used. It was some variant of PV.
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Peanut butter & jelly? Or something like that?
I think I remember you 🙂
Didn’t you go to grad school for a social work or something?
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.
The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
I have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
Really? If you’re air dominant then I can see why we are similar. Just tell me what your sun and moon, merc, Venus and mars are. I’m dying to know. Lol
LOL. I was gonna troll you and say ophiuchus, but I won't. Pisces Sun, Virgo Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Aquarius Venus, and Libra Mars.
click to expandOoohhhh!! I like your placements! Just one Virgo! That’s the only time I like a chart. 🤣You must be wise beyond your years!
LOL. Thanks! I wish that were the case, but no.
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I can’t imagine a moron resulting from those placements. Your chart is off then or you’re just being a self-effacing Virgo moon.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.
The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
click to expandI have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
click to expandAre you “finding balance “ (previous user name)?
click to expandNo, I'm not sure who finding balance is. I've had so many usernames I'm not even sure of the last one I used. It was some variant of PV.
Peanut butter & jelly? Or something like that?
I think I remember you 🙂
Didn’t you go to grad school for a social work or something?
Yes thats me! I am 6 months away and it feels like an eternity.
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Have you met a guy in grad school maybe? 😅
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.
The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.I also find that with online dating apps people only message who they find physically attractive, but then when you start talking and you realize you don't have anything in common. Where as when you meet someone in person, you can get a true sense of peoples personalities and find out if you mesh.
People are liars. It amazes me how many people are not comfortable in their skin and so they fabricate things about themselves to look more appealing. For example, lying about piddly little things like age, smoking, drinking, level of religiosity, education. As if none of it is going to be apparent in your in-person interaction.
Dating app is a reflection of an average human being that you fail to gauge in real life because you aren’t looking at them with a romantic lens. Dating apps just bring that to the surface.
If I understand what you are saying, you mean when you meet people sometimes they aren't forth coming about their vices and values. I have found this to be true even when I meet people in person first, rather than online. People tend to hide what they think will be least desirable because they want others to like them and perceive them as good.
I find people on dating apps are far more rude. I have tried once or twice when I was actively looking to date due to prodding from friends. But I have never made a substantitive connection.
Yes, correct because it’s futile since it’s bound to come out sooner or later. For example, I don’t want to have kids and I wrote it very clearly on my profile for transparency. I had my male friends tell me to not say that or write that from the get-go. That’s the manipulative garbage advice you get from liars. People perceive children as flaws nowadays too when they hide that they have kids from a previous relationship from a woman who doesn’t have kids. Why are they hiding it? Because they feel entitled to a woman who doesn’t have kids and feel like women who do have kids (more in their league) is beneath them for double standard reasons.
People online are more likely to be rude because of the comfort of being behind a screen.
Prodding from friends? There’s nothing wrong with being online whether you were prodded or not. I pick on that statement of yours because I see this statement on people’s dating profile + people using it as a preface when they tell me they are on dating app. For some reason people associate sitting on dating app as you’re some flawed individual. “My friends told me to join this app…” “I’m on this dating app because…” These types of statements provide insight into a person‘s self esteem and lack of confidence. Nobody is asking for an explanation. It’s all in your head. First of all, nobody should be judging someone for being on dating apps when they themselves are on it. LOL.
That statement didn't provide any insight about me, other than the fact my friends encourage me to look at dating apps as an option because they know how easy it is for me to turn into a hermit. I also hear statements like "you need to get out more" and "you aren't going to meet anyone in the house". And its mostly from well meaning people who are worried about me dying alone. But thanks for being another person judging me.
Everyone judges and there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s all about negative and positive judgement/assessment. I wasn’t negatively judging you but you sound like you took it negatively. No offense intended. Of course I make my assessments of people from how they speak, what they write, how they preface things. You must do that if you want to understand a person.
I say that to my friends as well because they want to get married and have kids and they are reaching 40 but make zero effort, which is directly contradictory to their desires.
I get comfortable. I don't want kids because it would upset the balance of my life right now. That could always change, but generally its not a goal for me to have children. I am not opposed to a life partner, but I kind of go with the flow, which can be good or bad based on how you look at it. I enjoy spending time with and being with others but I also have loner tendencies. I am conflicted in what I want.
You sound like me. What are your personal planets?
I'm Uranus dominant, I have an 11th house sun, and I have 2 aquarius placements. So basically I'm an aquarius. 🤣
Heyyy!!!!! I knew it!! I’m an Aqua stellium. 🙌🏻
I have more Libra planets than Aqua, but I guess the Aqua just kind of shines through the brightest lol.
Really? If you’re air dominant then I can see why we are similar. Just tell me what your sun and moon, merc, Venus and mars are. I’m dying to know. Lol
LOL. I was gonna troll you and say ophiuchus, but I won't. Pisces Sun, Virgo Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Aquarius Venus, and Libra Mars.
click to expandOoohhhh!! I like your placements! Just one Virgo! That’s the only time I like a chart. 🤣You must be wise beyond your years!
LOL. Thanks! I wish that were the case, but no.
I can’t imagine a moron resulting from those placements. Your chart is off then or you’re just being a self-effacing Virgo moon.
Probably the last part lol. Virgo moon is a tough task master. It makes everything you do feel not good enough. 😆
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Exactly! This is why I’m not a fan of more than 1 Virgo in a person’s chart. It does a number on a person’s psyche. Nothing is good enough😞
A good Sag friend of mine is Virgo moon and everything, even something as simple as a text message, is triple to quadruple verified until it’s overkilled before it’s sent.
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
How sapiosexual are you? Some postgrad like masters was a minimum for me 😅
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
How sapiosexual are you? Some postgrad like masters was a minimum for me 😅
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I don’t need my guy to be Einstein. Just have a good head on his shoulder sensible with foresight, which is unbelievably rare!!!! However, that’s not sufficient. The guy can’t be self-absorbed egomaniac and talk about himself only and must be conscientious. There is a personality component to it as well, not just intellectual. School degrees defining one’s intellectual capacity means absolutely nothing to me. A sensible person’s intellect is not based on their capability of schooling.
Posted by GoodBunny
@aquarius09 Your friend sounds like me. I hate when I send a text and find a typo afterwards. It annoys me so bad lol. I such a Virgo moon that I went to grad school during the pandemic because I had nothing else to do. 🤣
🥰 Always bettering themselves!!
Posted by aquarius09
Online dating is essentially Instagram for single people where everyone posts pictures of themselves hoping someone will DM them. The only difference is that it’s strictly for single people so you know the person you’re liking is available to be scooped. When I view dating apps like this, it isn’t so bad. It only becomes bad when you’re expecting good prospects or results from it.The best way to meet people has been and will always be to meet them in person. Look your best, have a cheerful demeanor, and go out. You can meet people anywhere. I always look my best (doesn’t matter where I’m going) because you never know where you’ll meet the right guy. I like meeting new people so I’ve met amazing people as Uber drivers, dentists/doc office, when people come to buy stuff from me on FB marketplace. As much as I dislike going to social events, I made myself go to after work hangouts and people’s house social events. Met great people and if I wasn’t a sapiosexual, I would’ve met someone by now.
How sapiosexual are you? Some postgrad like masters was a minimum for me 😅
I don’t need my guy to be Einstein. Just have a good head on his shoulder sensible with foresight, which is unbelievably rare!!!! However, that’s not sufficient. The guy can’t be self-absorbed egomaniac and talk about himself only and must be conscientious. There is a personality component to it as well, not just intellectual. School degrees defining one’s intellectual capacity means absolutely nothing to me. A sensible person’s intellect is not based on their capability of schooling.
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I totally agree with you. Many postgrad people I’ve met can be egoistic and lack self-awareness. Since I was working towards getting into postgrad I ended up gravitating towards others who were doing the same or finished. Idk most people in general can be difficult in one way or another. I kind of see it as picking your poison (finding someone you can tolerate enough because no one’s near perfect) or just accepting you’ll be fine living alone.
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂
What are they looking for? A fantasy relationship? 😅😎
I have never ever had a Tinder account.
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂There is a conspirary wich half of tinder accounts are bots lol
Or something about when you have a new account your matches are mainly bots thus never reply
click to expandI got banned from tinder posing as gemitati 🤣
😅 imagine she getting matches even mimicking her writing
That didnt-aged-well gemini writing
click to expandThere were some chads that matched her but I was banned quick and they asked for a verification picture 🤣
I wasn’t even able to impersonate her for 5 mins
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That’s hilarious
😆
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂There is a conspirary wich half of tinder accounts are bots lol
Or something about when you have a new account your matches are mainly bots thus never reply
click to expandI got banned from tinder posing as gemitati 🤣
😅 imagine she getting matches even mimicking her writing
That didnt-aged-well gemini writing
click to expandThere were some chads that matched her but I was banned quick and they asked for a verification picture 🤣
I wasn’t even able to impersonate her for 5 mins
That’s hilarious
😆
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Which photo did you use? 😂
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂There is a conspirary wich half of tinder accounts are bots lol
Or something about when you have a new account your matches are mainly bots thus never reply
click to expandI got banned from tinder posing as gemitati 🤣
😅 imagine she getting matches even mimicking her writing
That didnt-aged-well gemini writing
click to expandThere were some chads that matched her but I was banned quick and they asked for a verification picture 🤣
I wasn’t even able to impersonate her for 5 minsThat’s hilarious
😆
click to expandWhich photo did you use? 😂
I think it was the one with a poncho 🤣 but I can’t be super sure
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Poncho 🤣
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂What are they looking for? A fantasy relationship? 😅😎
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LOL. No clue but obviously they don’t want to meet because nobody looks like an artificial created pic in real life.
Posted by _StardustRevolution_
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂There is a conspirary wich half of tinder accounts are bots lol
Or something about when you have a new account your matches are mainly bots thus never reply
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What a transparent attempt then. 😆 In all seriousness though, they aren’t because I’ve spoken to some of them and asked them why are they using AI generated pics.
Posted by mygirlfriendsareinprison
Posted by aquarius09
@borednbeautiful I noticed a trend of late on dating app that further strengthens my belief that some single people use dating apps as Instagram and intend to never meet you in real life. Recently I’m noticing men (I’m sure women do their share of nonsense too) post AI generated pics of themselves on dating apps. 🤣 🥹 Moreover, if there’s any other pic aside from that, then it’s heavily filtered or an age old pic of them. Hilarious 😂What are they looking for? A fantasy relationship? 😅😎
click to expandLOL. No clue but obviously they don’t want to meet because nobody looks like an artificial created pic in real life.
I think they want to meet
They’re hoping they will look close enough to the AI pics in real life coz like you said no one looks like AI IRL
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But…but…but what if they don’t? Should I cry catfish?
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Posted by Teena
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That’s hot! But hardly realistic.
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