Islandgal24
@Islandgal24
9 Years
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Guy I let go years ago came back into my life
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It was him. That asked me for drinks. He also wanted to take my to dinner. But that never happened
These guy play the three day rule
Wym the three day rule?
No contact for 3 days?
After we slept together I told him I want to know him better and he agreed. I could tell him when his birthday was but he didn’t know mine. Then he said well we will get to know each other over dinner. Didn’t happen because he was tired. We came back to my place and took a nap. I also told him about my STD that I have and he said it isn’t serious. That’s not an issue he’s just worried about contracting it. But it’s been dormant for years.
Posted by ImperfectStorm
Well today is Tuesday, you were with him on Sunday.. he’s saying he’s tired today which could be a possibility, especially if he’s introverted. I know I personally need frequent breaks from people lol
Did he send the text about going out for drinks after the sex? If he sent it after sex I wouldn’t worry about it I would try to relax. It’s only been 2 days and he has a point.. that you guys aren’t together he isn’t obligated to see you. It sounds harsh but just looking at it objectively
what he’s doing and he said about to go to sleep, and so I responded with wish we were cuddling he just opened the snap and didn’t reply. Idk man, I like this guy a lot. And he doesn’t get that. He brought up that I have 900 unread messages in my phones from dudes and I said yeah but why are you worried you’re not jealous, right? He responded with LOL!
Posted by Islandgal24
After we slept together I told him I want to know him better and he agreed. I could tell him when his birthday was but he didn’t know mine. Then he said well we will get to know each other over dinner. Didn’t happen because he was tired. We came back to my place and took a nap. I also told him about my STD that I have and he said it isn’t serious. That’s not an issue he’s just worried about contracting it. But it’s been dormant for years.Posted by ImperfectStorm
Well today is Tuesday, you were with him on Sunday.. he’s saying he’s tired today which could be a possibility, especially if he’s introverted. I know I personally need frequent breaks from people lol
Did he send the text about going out for drinks after the sex? If he sent it after sex I wouldn’t worry about it I would try to relax. It’s only been 2 days and he has a point.. that you guys aren’t together he isn’t obligated to see you. It sounds harsh but just looking at it objectivelyclick to expand
Honestly I tried to get closure with him but he told me “ I like you enough to take the time to respond to you. More than everyone else lol” I asked him wym? He said “ I mean I like you more than I like majority of people” whatever that means. 🤷🏽♀️
Posted by ImperfectStorm
All this conversation was via text? And was it him that asked you if you’ll go out for drinks with him? Or you said that?
Honestly I don’t know I feel like he’s playing with my heart, although he told me he’s not. I just have trust issues.
yeah. this is not going to end well.
ied to get closure but he wouldn’t let me ......Posted by Islandgal24
Why do you say that?Posted by jeane
yeah. this is not going to end well.click to expand
Posted by Islandgal24
Why do you say that?Posted by jeane
yeah. this is not going to end well.click to expand
because if you are like this after having sex once, it's going to be too much for any libra to hang around long term.
ouldn’t he let me get closure then? I just don’t him. And the he brought up the fact that I have 900 unread text messages from all these other guys which he’s assuming. They aren’t all guys. Most of them are spam text messages. But when I said you’re not jealous right he said LOL.Posted by jeanePosted by Islandgal24
Why do you say that?Posted by jeane
yeah. this is not going to end well.
because if you are like this after having sex once, it's going to be too much for any libra to hang around long term.click to expand
s LOl mean?
Posted by Islandgal24
Why wouldn’t he let me get closure then? I just don’t him. And the he brought up the fact that I have 900 unread text messages from all these other guys which he’s assuming. They aren’t all guys. Most of them are spam text messages. But when I said you’re not jealous right he said LOL.Posted by jeanePosted by Islandgal24
Why do you say that?Posted by jeane
yeah. this is not going to end well.
because if you are like this after having sex once, it's going to be too much for any libra to hang around long term.click to expand
Posted by Islandgal24
Why wouldn’t he let me get closure then? I just don’t him. And the he brought up the fact that I have 900 unread text messages from all these other guys which he’s assuming. They aren’t all guys. Most of them are spam text messages. But when I said you’re not jealous right he said LOL.Posted by jeanePosted by Islandgal24
Why do you say that?Posted by jeane
yeah. this is not going to end well.
because if you are like this after having sex once, it's going to be too much for any libra to hang around long term.click to expand
if i understand what you are saying....the 900 text messages is just chat. you're ascribing far too much to one night of sex after not really speaking for a few years and to a guy who, in your words, you don't really know.
You’re right, so how do I play this? Wait till he contacts me or is there no hope at all for this?
You’re right, so how do I play this? Wait till he contacts me or is there no hope at all for this?
he said go with the flow so go with the flow. the issue is as you're a cancer that is going to be tough.
i don't know. for me personally, cancer is the worst match for libra.
you need to chill out. stop projecting all your past hurt on to him otherwise you are going to snuff out any small pilot light that exists. i honestly dont know if this already done.
i would suggest you take a huge step back. either wait until he contacts you or maybe wait until you run into each other again. do you run in similar circles?
in the meantime, live your life and do your own thing. don't continue to chase him. otherwise you risk becoming "the crazy chick". if he feels that you are already putting him at the centre of your world after one night ie promising to block all other men, you're going to freak him the fuck out.
i don't know. for me personally, cancer is the worst match for libra.
you need to chill out. stop projecting all your past hurt on to him otherwise you are going to snuff out any small pilot light that exists. i honestly dont know if this already done.
i would suggest you take a huge step back. either wait until he contacts you or maybe wait until you run into each other again. do you run in similar circles?
in the meantime, live your life and do your own thing. don't continue to chase him. otherwise you risk becoming "the crazy chick". if he feels that you are already putting him at the centre of your world after one night ie promising to block all other men, you're going to freak him the fuck out.
I only told him I’d block other men to get him to trust me, because apparently his LOL to my text if he was jealous. isn’t really him laughing I think it was more sarcastic. But you’re right cancer and Libra aren’t a good compatible match. I wear my heart on my sleeve where I feel like he hides his emotions. I like him a lot. But like I said I don’t know if the feeling is mutual.
Posted by jeane
he said go with the flow so go with the flow. the issue is as you're a cancer that is going to be tough.
i don't know. for me personally, cancer is the worst match for libra.
you need to chill out. stop projecting all your past hurt on to him otherwise you are going to snuff out any small pilot light that exists. i honestly dont know if this already done.
i would suggest you take a huge step back. either wait until he contacts you or maybe wait until you run into each other again. do you run in similar circles?
in the meantime, live your life and do your own thing. don't continue to chase him. otherwise you risk becoming "the crazy chick". if he feels that you are already putting him at the centre of your world after one night ie promising to block all other men, you're going to freak him the fuck out.
Thank you I appreciate all of the positive feedback!
Posted by bmoon8
Men are not like women. Chill out and relax. Give him space and do not contact him. He will more than likely contact you if you do this. Otherwise, you will chase him away.
Tbh he's not that interested. Sorry but he told you after you asked him if he's looking for something serious that he isn't looking for something in particular just go with the flow lol. And you said he already hurt you once in 2017. If he isn't reaching out to you it means he isn't that interested. If a libra really likes you they will want to talk and spend time with you.
Men will wait for ever for sex.
Forever
Forever
Lemme ask you a question...
Does Tom Brady ever just run out on the field on football Sunday and says “let’s just go with the flow.”
No! He puts a plan together and executes.
All people. All men have a plan.
His plan was to test the waters and get some sex. He planned that and executed it.
He plan was not to start the foundation of a relationship. There woulda been a different execution.
Does Tom Brady ever just run out on the field on football Sunday and says “let’s just go with the flow.”
No! He puts a plan together and executes.
All people. All men have a plan.
His plan was to test the waters and get some sex. He planned that and executed it.
He plan was not to start the foundation of a relationship. There woulda been a different execution.
Well I cut him off and he already sees me as a crazy chick. Not that I care because what girl isn’t a little crazy. But the fact that he said I’m not Jewish so we can’t be together for ever really got to me. Religion has nothing to do with this. At all. He’s just not interested. Oh and then he said things like I wanna be a real friend for you to meet someone good. I want you to be happy. All this treetrunk BS. I’m done with him I got the closure I needed. Now I hope he stays gone forever.
h. I think orthodox but why does that matter? It’s a cop out obviously my aunt was the same thing and she married my uncle from the Bahamas who wasn’t Jewish orthodox. And they’ve been together for 40 years plus. He told me he was interested in trying for real. This time so I don’t get how religion plays any part in thisPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
Well I cut him off and he already sees me as a crazy chick. Not that I care because what girl isn’t a little crazy. But the fact that he said I’m not Jewish so we can’t be together for ever really got to me. Religion has nothing to do with this. At all. He’s just not interested. Oh and then he said things like I wanna be a real friend for you to meet someone good. I want you to be happy. All this treetrunk BS. I’m done with him I got the closure I needed. Now I hope he stays gone forever.
Is he Jewish? Orthodox? If so, religion is important.click to expand
Posted by Islandgal24
I know I need a man, someone who’s deserving of me, than just a boy. But I also feel terrible because I feel like this is a repeated cycle. Any advice would help, please no negative comments though!
Whenever someone adds the word "but" it really does cancel out whatever you've written right before it...If you know you need a boy, yet repeating a cycle then the solution reside within you and WHY you are repeating this with this guy (or any other dude for that matter).
Start there^. Lose the guy. Closure is overrated. It doesn't change the past and has nothing to do with the choices you make in the future. But it sounds nice I guess.
Don’t sleep with people you want a relationship with.
Posted by Islandgal24
I already tried to get closure but he wouldn’t let me ......
So why didn't you just move on? No one owes you closure. You try to resolve it--if you feel you must--but don't wait for anyone to give it to you. If the man is playing around---which he is, keep it moving. Lick your wounds and tend to your broken heart in peace alone and when you're ready, find someone else. Yes easier said than done, but it can be done.
Time is a precious commodity that you can never replace. Someone can only waste your time if you let them. You let this man waste 2 days of your life, and from what I am seeing a few more given the time you spent on this thread. And still, no closure.
Posted by Islandgal24
You’re right, so how do I play this? Wait till he contacts me or is there no hope at all for this?
Like I stated above, whenever someone writes the word "but", it cancels whatever you've written before and this^^ just confirms that.
I believe you feel terrible. I also believe you are hurting. However, you are clearly not hurting enough to move beyond this one night or find someone that is "deserving of you"--whatever that means, because quite frankly you don't seem to even know. He may very well make you wait another 4 years.
You are giving up way too much of yourself on someone that you have known for several years and is still not showing you he is interested in anything more than a catch up. So you slept together.. that doesn’t make a relationship. Love your life and take it one day at a time and stop stressing over someone giving you 20% of their time compared to your 120%
Posted by DMV
Lemme ask you a question...
Does Tom Brady ever just run out on the field on football Sunday and says “let’s just go with the flow.”
No! He puts a plan together and executes.
All people. All men have a plan.
His plan was to test the waters and get some sex. He planned that and executed it.
He plan was not to start the foundation of a relationship. There woulda been a different execution.
*like*
Jesus. This.
I know this and I don’t know why I did it. “Fool me once shame on you fool me twice can’t get fooled again”, right?
Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Don’t sleep with people you want a relationship with.
w I should’ve just left him on read but I felt that I really needed the closure. I’m a cancer I feel everything very deeply aside from zodiac. I’ve always felt the need for closure. With anyone friend or someone I’m romantically interested in. This guy really had the nerve to ask me for $ 100 to pay his bills. What a loser. I’m done dealing with guys like him.Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Islandgal24
I know I need a man, someone who’s deserving of me, than just a boy. But I also feel terrible because I feel like this is a repeated cycle. Any advice would help, please no negative comments though!
Whenever someone adds the word "but" it really does cancel out whatever you've written right before it...If you know you need a boy, yet repeating a cycle then the solution reside within you and WHY you are repeating this with this guy (or any other dude for that matter).
Start there^. Lose the guy. Closure is overrated. It doesn't change the past and has nothing to do with the choices you make in the future. But it sounds nice I guess.click to expand
another 4 years for what? To play with my heart again, nah I’m good. I’m hurting yes, because I feel like I gave him a piece of me I’ll never get back. I obviously felt something for a narcissist and what does that say about me? I’m weak. Maybe I’m a narcissist too. I hope I’m wrong but birds of a feather. Right?Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Islandgal24
You’re right, so how do I play this? Wait till he contacts me or is there no hope at all for this?
Like I stated above, whenever someone writes the word "but", it cancels whatever you've written before and this^^ just confirms that.
I believe you feel terrible. I also believe you are hurting. However, you are clearly not hurting enough to move beyond this one night or find someone that is "deserving of you"--whatever that means, because quite frankly you don't seem to even know. He may very well make you wait another 4 years.click to expand
Posted by Islandgal24
Make me wait another 4 years for what? To play with my heart again, nah I’m good. I’m hurting yes, because I feel like I gave him a piece of me I’ll never get back. I obviously felt something for a narcissist and what does that say about me? I’m weak. Maybe I’m a narcissist too. I hope I’m wrong but birds of a feather. Right?
I don't think it makes you weak, merely human. You need to figure out why you seem to be so quick to "jump" in response to men giving the slightest bit of interest and taking that to mean far more than it does. And the interest is shallow at best. I happened to see your thread on the Sag board a few months ago and it read quite similar to this one. Minus the 4 year history and the switch out the Leeb for the Sag and you get easily roped into some nice words, basic level attention and you're still left waiting wondering what next? Yeah we can say these men are trash if deflection will make you feel better, at the end of the day you're the common denominator.
A man that is truly interested, mature and worth your energy is not going to keep you wondering or guessing about his intentions or interest in pursuing something. It really is that simple.
Sounds like you have a big heart. That doesn't mean you lack the smarts to make wiser choices, and the two can be balanced if you put in the work to figure it out. Get it sorted.
your honesty and positive reflection on the situation, however it’s going to take some time for me to heal from this. Like I said I feel everything deeply and I feel dumb for falling for his false promises/words. I don’t think there’s anything anyone can say to make me feel different. ATM. 😭
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Islandgal24
Make me wait another 4 years for what? To play with my heart again, nah I’m good. I’m hurting yes, because I feel like I gave him a piece of me I’ll never get back. I obviously felt something for a narcissist and what does that say about me? I’m weak. Maybe I’m a narcissist too. I hope I’m wrong but birds of a feather. Right?
I don't think it makes you weak, merely human. You need to figure out why you seem to be so quick to "jump" in response to men giving the slightest bit of interest and taking that to mean far more than it does. And the interest is shallow at best. I happened to see your thread on the Sag board a few months ago and it read quite similar to this one. Minus the 4 year history and the switch out the Leeb for the Sag and you get easily roped into some nice words, basic level attention and you're still left waiting wondering what next? Yeah we can say these men are trash if deflection will make you feel better, at the end of the day you're the common denominator.
A man that is truly interested, mature and worth your energy is not going to keep you wondering or guessing about his intentions or interest in pursuing something. It really is that simple.
Sounds like you have a big heart. That doesn't mean you lack the smarts to make wiser choices, and the two can be balanced if you put in the work to figure it out. Get it sorted.click to expand
mean did I get what I want?!
Posted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
I know this and I don’t know why I did it. “Fool me once shame on you fool me twice can’t get fooled again”, right?Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Don’t sleep with people you want a relationship with.
He got what he wanted, but did you? That’s the bottom line.click to expand
Posted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
He’s Jewish. I think orthodox but why does that matter? It’s a cop out obviously my aunt was the same thing and she married my uncle from the Bahamas who wasn’t Jewish orthodox. And they’ve been together for 40 years plus. He told me he was interested in trying for real. This time so I don’t get how religion plays any part in thisPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
Well I cut him off and he already sees me as a crazy chick. Not that I care because what girl isn’t a little crazy. But the fact that he said I’m not Jewish so we can’t be together for ever really got to me. Religion has nothing to do with this. At all. He’s just not interested. Oh and then he said things like I wanna be a real friend for you to meet someone good. I want you to be happy. All this treetrunk BS. I’m done with him I got the closure I needed. Now I hope he stays gone forever.
Is he Jewish? Orthodox? If so, religion is important.
Religion is important to him then.click to expand
It may very well be, however he knew that his religion was important to him when they hooked up. He knew that it was important for him the day before they hooked up, and the week before he "reappeared" in her life again. It's a bullsh*t excuse, not because it isn't true for him. It's bullsh*t because it lacks integrity. He should have just said "you were no more than a f*ck. Did ya at least have a good time?" and call it a day vs using religion as a reason for not be able to be with her. D*mn the man wanted her to pay the bill...
It's a coward's move. A cheap coward at that.
tfo my post with stage 5 clinger. It’s not my fault he’s so freaking jaded and hurt and try’s to put ALL OF HIS PAST HURTS ONTO women like me. I was upfront with me feelings instead of just suppressing them and I should feel bad for it— Yeah I Don’t think so. So please no more negative comments from you. Thank you. Also as I said before you called me a stage 5 clinger the loser asked me for $ 100 to help pay his bills. He’s a loser. Never will be anything but a play boy who goes from girl to girl and never finds happiness.
Posted by bmoon8Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
He’s Jewish. I think orthodox but why does that matter? It’s a cop out obviously my aunt was the same thing and she married my uncle from the Bahamas who wasn’t Jewish orthodox. And they’ve been together for 40 years plus. He told me he was interested in trying for real. This time so I don’t get how religion plays any part in thisPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
Well I cut him off and he already sees me as a crazy chick. Not that I care because what girl isn’t a little crazy. But the fact that he said I’m not Jewish so we can’t be together for ever really got to me. Religion has nothing to do with this. At all. He’s just not interested. Oh and then he said things like I wanna be a real friend for you to meet someone good. I want you to be happy. All this treetrunk BS. I’m done with him I got the closure I needed. Now I hope he stays gone forever.
Is he Jewish? Orthodox? If so, religion is important.
Religion is important to him then.
It may very well be, however he knew that his religion was important to him when they hooked up. He knew that it was important for him the day before they hooked up, and the week before he "reappeared" in her life again. It's a bulls*it excuse, not because it isn't true for him. It's bullsh*t because it lacks integrity. He should have just said "you were no more than a f*ck. Did ya at least have a good time?" and call it a day vs using religion as a reason for not be able to be with her. D*mn the man wanted her to pay the bill...
It's a coward's move. A cheap coward at that.
Agree with you, but her revealing feelings too fast and too soon didn’t help matters. Stage 5 clinger alert. Revealing too much too soon definitely hurts the chances of ongoing courtship.click to expand
tfo my post with stage 5 clinger. It’s not my fault he’s so freaking jaded and hurt and try’s to put ALL OF HIS PAST HURTS ONTO women like me. I was upfront with me feelings instead of just suppressing them and I should feel bad for it— Yeah I Don’t think so. So please no more negative comments from you. Thank you. Also as I said before you called me a stage 5 clinger the loser asked me for $ 100 to help pay his bills. He’s a loser. Never will be anything but a play boy who goes from girl to girl and never finds happiness.
Posted by bmoon8Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
He’s Jewish. I think orthodox but why does that matter? It’s a cop out obviously my aunt was the same thing and she married my uncle from the Bahamas who wasn’t Jewish orthodox. And they’ve been together for 40 years plus. He told me he was interested in trying for real. This time so I don’t get how religion plays any part in thisPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
Well I cut him off and he already sees me as a crazy chick. Not that I care because what girl isn’t a little crazy. But the fact that he said I’m not Jewish so we can’t be together for ever really got to me. Religion has nothing to do with this. At all. He’s just not interested. Oh and then he said things like I wanna be a real friend for you to meet someone good. I want you to be happy. All this treetrunk BS. I’m done with him I got the closure I needed. Now I hope he stays gone forever.
Is he Jewish? Orthodox? If so, religion is important.
Religion is important to him then.
It may very well be, however he knew that his religion was important to him when they hooked up. He knew that it was important for him the day before they hooked up, and the week before he "reappeared" in her life again. It's a bulls*it excuse, not because it isn't true for him. It's bullsh*t because it lacks integrity. He should have just said "you were no more than a f*ck. Did ya at least have a good time?" and call it a day vs using religion as a reason for not be able to be with her. D*mn the man wanted her to pay the bill...
It's a coward's move. A cheap coward at that.
Agree with you, but her revealing feelings too fast and too soon didn’t help matters. Stage 5 clinger alert. Revealing too much too soon definitely hurts the chances of ongoing courtship.click to expand
you there’s someone out there that will treat me better than him, and accept and honor my feelings no matter how soon they may be. Not all men are the same, just like all women at the same! You should know that if you didn’t already
Posted by bmoon8Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
He’s Jewish. I think orthodox but why does that matter? It’s a cop out obviously my aunt was the same thing and she married my uncle from the Bahamas who wasn’t Jewish orthodox. And they’ve been together for 40 years plus. He told me he was interested in trying for real. This time so I don’t get how religion plays any part in thisPosted by bmoon8Posted by Islandgal24
Well I cut him off and he already sees me as a crazy chick. Not that I care because what girl isn’t a little crazy. But the fact that he said I’m not Jewish so we can’t be together for ever really got to me. Religion has nothing to do with this. At all. He’s just not interested. Oh and then he said things like I wanna be a real friend for you to meet someone good. I want you to be happy. All this treetrunk BS. I’m done with him I got the closure I needed. Now I hope he stays gone forever.
Is he Jewish? Orthodox? If so, religion is important.
Religion is important to him then.
It may very well be, however he knew that his religion was important to him when they hooked up. He knew that it was important for him the day before they hooked up, and the week before he "reappeared" in her life again. It's a bulls*it excuse, not because it isn't true for him. It's bullsh*t because it lacks integrity. He should have just said "you were no more than a f*ck. Did ya at least have a good time?" and call it a day vs using religion as a reason for not be able to be with her. D*mn the man wanted her to pay the bill...
It's a coward's move. A cheap coward at that.
Agree with you, but her revealing feelings too fast and too soon didn’t help matters. Stage 5 clinger alert. Revealing too much too soon definitely hurts the chances of ongoing courtship.click to expand
They’re just confusing af. And like one poster said I don’t think cancer sun and libra sun are a good match together. But It goes deeper than just sun signs. Like my moon is Aries and my rising is Scorpio which is probably why I feel everything so deeply. I apologize if I was rude at all. But I’m not a stage 5 clinger at all. I simply expressed my emotions which I haven’t done to him in 4 years and it’s still the same with him. He is so self centered and only cares about himself.
Ok I get what you mean but when I’d tell him I liked him, he would be so damn insecure and tell me no you don’t that’s why you have over 900 text messages of guys in your phone trying to be with you. So again I’m telling you it has nothing to do with me expressing my feelings to him. He’s an immature bum. Who obviously can’t pay his bills but lives with his parents. He must think I’m stupid if I’d ever send him $ 100. I asked for half of the hotel room back and alcohol we drank back on Venmo. Should’ve never sent that to him. He’s just a terrible person. I don’t need him in my life.
Posted by leolovestau
a man getting overwhelmed by being told how you feel about him too early on in the relationship isn’t exclusive to libra men or losers . It’s universal.
much of these comments I’ve read in response to your original post are just trying to tell you the same thing to avoid repeating the cycle in the future . Pace yourself.
It might seem bold and the bad ass thing to do to be so confident in yourself and your feelings and not being afraid of rejection but men never see it that way. They think “desperate” “clingy” and they bail.
But sure of course you’ll meet one in a million man who won’t act like the other fuckers and who finds it amazing that a woman is bold with her feelings but it’s like a needle in a haystack situation and you’d have gone through much avoidable pain by simply guarding your feelings to begin with and not being so transparent until he’s made his feelings known and is dying to know how you feel.
To summarise, I’d say keep your feelings about him on a need to know basis.
Update he blocked me on Snapchat and said through text message Marissa. Honest to God. If I never hear from you again I will live a happy life. Who even says that to a person. I’m battling depression and he knows that. He doesn’t care because he’s a self centered narcissist
I said this "right you don't care about anyone but yourself. You have no idea what I'm going through, nor do you care. (again I'm repeating myself. But I honestly thought you were different. This Time around. however, I guess some people never change. So have a great life, I pray you meet your jewish/Russian girl with great kitty cat. cause that seems like that's all you care about. I'm out please don't respond back to this and just stay then f**** out of my life for real this time. I feel like I've poured too much energy into someone who isnt snd never will be worth it. I shouldve sent him the video you told me to send though
Posted by bmoon8
Just send him this song and be on your way. And yuck, no offense to you but I see some similarities with my Cancer ex and you.
much, I am really appreciative of all the help and advice you’ve given to me!
Posted by leolovestauPosted by Islandgal24
Ok I get what you mean but when I’d tell him I liked him, he would be so damn insecure and tell me no you don’t that’s why you have over 900 text messages of guys in your phone trying to be with you. So again I’m telling you it has nothing to do with me expressing my feelings to him. He’s an immature bum. Who obviously can’t pay his bills but lives with his parents. He must think I’m stupid if I’d ever send him $ 100. I asked for half of the hotel room back and alcohol we drank back on Venmo. Should’ve never sent that to him. He’s just a terrible person. I don’t need him in my life.Posted by leolovestau
a man getting overwhelmed by being told how you feel about him too early on in the relationship isn’t exclusive to libra men or losers . It’s universal.
much of these comments I’ve read in response to your original post are just trying to tell you the same thing to avoid repeating the cycle in the future . Pace yourself.
It might seem bold and the bad ass thing to do to be so confident in yourself and your feelings and not being afraid of rejection but men never see it that way. They think “desperate” “clingy” and they bail.
But sure of course you’ll meet one in a million man who won’t act like the other fuckers and who finds it amazing that a woman is bold with her feelings but it’s like a needle in a haystack situation and you’d have gone through much avoidable pain by simply guarding your feelings to begin with and not being so transparent until he’s made his feelings known and is dying to know how you feel.
To summarise, I’d say keep your feelings about him on a need to know basis.
he does 100% sound like a loser and I’d say good riddance but that comment wasn’t just for him it’s something to keep at the back of your mind going forward 💜
Btw when someone is so damn insecure it doesn’t matter how much you give and how many times a day you reassure them it’s never gna be enough it’s like pouring water down a river it makes no difference . You could physically cut out your heart and hand it to him he still wouldn’t know what to do with it .
If anything this makes him more resentful because he doesn’t know wtf you see in him and if he can’t see what you see in him and doesn’t feel like he deserves you , he’s gna think you’re an idiot for wanting him and that there’s got to be something wrong with you so he’ll treat you like shit.
Because he’s insecure he’s gna try to make you feel insecure too to level the playing field and make you put up w shit you never would normally consider putting up with because he’s brought you to his level of thinking.
Secure men don’t play games with your heart. When you give it to them they know what to do with it. There’s no need to toy with your feelings because they’re secure in themselves and expect you to respect their time and effort so they see your feelings as a reward for time they’ve invested in you so they appreciate it and value it rather than toy with it.
It’s simple really.
Know your worth and don’t try to convince anyone to know theirs or yours. when you fall for someone fast and you’ve given all your feelings without proper treatment and actions from them they don’t (can’t) respect it.
No one can appreciate the value of something they never saw value in . Seems you dodged a bullet here.click to expand
Also, im sure he’ll be back they always come back. But I’m done with I’m and his B’s I’m not taking Him back. I gotta leave him at the back of my mind now
you more than my brain can even articulate..Posted by leolovestauPosted by Islandgal24
Also, im sure he’ll be back they always come back. But I’m done with I’m and his B’s I’m not taking Him back. I gotta leave him at the back of my mind now
yep they alwayyyys do. bolt your door shut.
Ps
People rarely change or change their treatment of you , so if he comes back don’t expect him to fall in line and treat you better yeah he might for a short time but it won’t last because people usually start as they mean to go along and he’s already shown you what he’s about so hit him with the “Thank you, next” and start a clean slate and give all that energy to someone worth it 💜💜click to expand
Posted by Islandgal24
Also, im sure he’ll be back they always come back. But I’m done with I’m and his B’s I’m not taking Him back. I gotta leave him at the back of my mind now
He can only come back if you allow it. Now is your chance to block him from ever contacting you again. That will show him that you aren't weak for him and strong enough to move on with your life. Do it!
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