lonely and single.... forever

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I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
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I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
You're gonna 40 in three years. Better hurry up and put a baby in that oven before all your lady parts go bad and then it'll be too late.

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I have a child, I'm not looking for somebody to get pregnant with necessarily. More than likely I won't have anymore because I don't want to take off from my career.

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I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
You're gonna 40 in three years. Better hurry up and put a baby in that oven before all your lady parts go bad and then it'll be too late.


I have a child, I'm not looking for somebody to get pregnant with necessarily. More than likely I won't have anymore because I don't want to take off from my career.


No matter what I say, I just can't seem to ever piss off a Libra. This is a hell of a gift to have. I didn't mean not one word of what was written in my op, by the way. What do you do for a "career"? You don't look no older than 19 years old. But you could very well be around my age demographic.

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That's because we're diplomatic. Yes, I thought your message was sarcastic but I'm not that sensitive and I don't care to fight. I'm an electrician, 23.
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Posted by libragirl37
I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
That's a contradiction there...^^^
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I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
That's a contradiction there...^^^
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Yea, I guess it is. Yes, I have guys hitting me up but they're not what I want. I know what I want and when I find it I go ffor it and it hasn't panned out. I could just settle on the first guy but I'd be wasting both of our time.
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You've been single for 9 months and you act like it's been 10 years...

Jesus Christ girl.
I like sex, I like sharing my life with someone, I like watching stupid shows after a long day of work and responsibilities at home before bed. So what? Yes it feels like it's been forever since I've been crazy about someone and then feel the same. I love relationship. No shame ?
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I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
That's a contradiction there...^^^


Yea, I guess it is. Yes, I have guys hitting me up but they're not what I want. I know what I want and when I find it I go ffor it and it hasn't panned out. I could just settle on the first guy but I'd be wasting both of our time.

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Focus on that. Don't compromise because of impatience.

Like you said, your looking for the man you'll spend the rest of your life with. Forever is a long time, better be sure he's 'the one'.



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You've been single for 9 months and you act like it's been 10 years...

Jesus Christ girl.
I like sex, I like sharing my life with someone, I like watching stupid shows after a long day of work and responsibilities at home before bed. So what? Yes it feels like it's been forever since I've been crazy about someone and then feel the same. I love relationship. No shame ?

I just hope you like relationships for the right reasons and not just to avoid being alone.
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I live alone, I do everything on my own. I'm used to this life and could SETTLE if I wanted but I'm waiting for the right one.
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The dating game is hard, but i found it to be harder due to my expectations.

I'm in my mid 20s but I have grown a lot, i have a stable career, i workout and i'm organised (control freak?). It's hard to find someone who i would look up to and feel challenged with. When i do, i tend to soften up and like them but i don't know how to act to not come across clingy. Problem is if these guys are more successful than i am their life is usually full on and they barely have time for dating. As i don't feel the love i stop giving love and the butterflies go elsewhere.

This i think is my main problem as yes there are guys who are all over me, text me all the time and have little going for them but then i feel like i'm the independent ballsy one who has less time to spend with them and i don't feel like wasting energy when someone's already upset with me for not texting back straight away or not being available.

I've been single nearly all my life, my proper adult relationship was last year that lasted 6 months, which started with chemistry but went downhill when he got another job and wouldn't even take me out on a date in 3 weeks.

Maybe review your expectations or just wait for the right guy? If you are not looking to settle consider just going on dates and having a couple of boys in the running so you go on dates and enjoy life.
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Also saying you're lonely and single forever is not the attitude to look for anything with. If you believe you are alone and lonely that's what you will be. Know that you are loved and appreciated and always have people to rely on.
Or perhaps I was beingd dramatic. The "....forever". Was me being silly. I am lonely. So what? I'm not going to pretend I'm not and I don't go around crying about it.
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The dating game is hard, but i found it to be harder due to my expectations.

I'm in my mid 20s but I have grown a lot, i have a stable career, i workout and i'm organised (control freak?). It's hard to find someone who i would look up to and feel challenged with. When i do, i tend to soften up and like them but i don't know how to act to not come across clingy. Problem is if these guys are more successful than i am their life is usually full on and they barely have time for dating. As i don't feel the love i stop giving love and the butterflies go elsewhere.

This i think is my main problem as yes there are guys who are all over me, text me all the time and have little going for them but then i feel like i'm the independent ballsy one who has less time to spend with them and i don't feel like wasting energy when someone's already upset with me for not texting back straight away or not being available.

I've been single nearly all my life, my proper adult relationship was last year that lasted 6 months, which started with chemistry but went downhill when he got another job and wouldn't even take me out on a date in 3 weeks.

Maybe review your expectations or just wait for the right guy? If you are not looking to settle consider just going on dates and having a couple of boys in the running so you go on dates and enjoy life.


My god. We are the same person! I definitely feel like I'm a catch so I'm not just going to settle.
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Fucking Libras, always whining about how it's the end of the world if they aren't paired off.

STOP. LOOKING. Seriously, that's when it usually happens- when you least expect it. You guys chase and chase and build up all these hopes and dreams after one date and then are terribly depressed when you don't get the results you imagined.

Calm the hell down.

No, it's not you. Dating seriously sucks and it's exhausting wasting all this time on a bunch of people who think adulting is behaving like perpetual children.

Not much good comes from chasing after imagined connections and usually the best results come from when you least expect it that DOESN'T involve chasing.

Focus on your job and your kid and worry about the rest later.
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You've been single for 9 months and you act like it's been 10 years...

Jesus Christ girl.
That is 10 years in libra years
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Seriously. This chick sounds like my Libra friend. Always "woe is me" when it comes to dating. But the reality is that she's totally delusional, chases after losers, uses flawed logic in why she thinks they'd be an ideal person do date, and has ridiculous expectations. Nevermind the "omg singledom is terrible and I will surely shrivel up and die if I don't find prince charming in the next 30 seconds!"

But woe is her. *facepalm*

I don't know how people like this function, tbh. I'd be depressed as shit if I was that dependent on someone else for my personal happiness. What a sad fuck existence.
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Why are people always talking about being single?

The thought of it just makes me so depressed.

This is why I've never been single since I was 15.

My Venusian chart will kill me or drive me mad.

I'm too romantic to not be in a relationship.

Even when I break up with someone, I immediately jump to another ship.

Plus I like flirting and chasing women... like A LOT.




^All that? Unhealthy as fuck.
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I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
That's a contradiction there...^^^


Yea, I guess it is. Yes, I have guys hitting me up but they're not what I want. I know what I want and when I find it I go ffor it and it hasn't panned out. I could just settle on the first guy but I'd be wasting both of our time.

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You are NOT allowed to bitch about your dating woes when you're this much of a picky bitch. Suck it up or change how fucking picky you are. There are standards and then there's just being a fucking princess nobody wants to deal with. I have a feeling you may have poor taste in men as well considering the ones you chase don't pan out or want to commit. You need to change your outlook pronto.
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Also saying you're lonely and single forever is not the attitude to look for anything with. If you believe you are alone and lonely that's what you will be. Know that you are loved and appreciated and always have people to rely on.
Or perhaps I was beingd dramatic. The "....forever". Was me being silly. I am lonely. So what? I'm not going to pretend I'm not and I don't go around crying about it.
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So from what i read you don't cry because you are lonely, you cry because you keep searching for a pretty image of a man who you made up in your mind who is a bit hard to find 🙂

It became much easier for me to be single when i understood that it's not because no one loves me it's because i choose to stay picky and wait for something more than the world has offered me to date and i think a lot of that has to do with how i feel about myself and what i think i deserve. I need to love me and be happy and fulfilled without anyone else first.
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Posted by libragirl37
I've been single for around 9 months. I've had some hot leads but nothing has panned out. Dating is not easy at all!! It doesn't seem like anyone really wants commitment anymore or maybe it's just me... I'm really starting to think it's me. I have met guys that would be willing to commit but I just couldn't see myself with them. Settling is the last thing I want to do. When I find a guy I really like I tend to be pretty upfront about it and I'm pretty sure that might be the problem. I don't over text/call but I definitely will reach out first if we haven't talked in a day or so. I send sweet messages so maybe I'm just to forward with being super sweet but I don't really think I should have to tone myself down until the man is committed because this is who I am. Am I right?? Just venting because it's starting to get depressing how hard it is to find a guy I'm genuinely interested in that's also relationship oriented it.
I don't want to sound rude, but stop complaining and do some activities to clear your mind.

You can live without a man. Relationships are a bonus in life and not a necessity.

Be independent, focus on your son and career first. The rest is a bonus.

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You've been single for 9 months and you act like it's been 10 years...

Jesus Christ girl.
I've been single for most of my life :-/
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Seeing these two user names on top of each other makes me laugh, is there a urologist in the house— 🙂



Sorry @libragirl37, carry on.
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Pretty imagine I made up? — you don't even know what I'm looking for and you're going to judge? I need a career driven man that has good energy. Responsible but likes going out too. Good with kids and damn good in bed. Nice but not a pushover. I don't believe that's impossible standards to have.