WaterAndEarth1023
@waterandearth1023
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“vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.”
“vulnerability is not winning or losing ; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
vulnerability is not weakness ; it’s our greatest measure of courage.”
“if you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth & be yourself & see who sticks around.”
“vulnerability is not winning or losing ; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
vulnerability is not weakness ; it’s our greatest measure of courage.”
“if you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth & be yourself & see who sticks around.”
Strong and independent will be an aphrodisiac to the right one. Never feel like you need to change yourself to appeal to the masses.
The right person for you will be patient and give you the security to want to be vulnerable.
The right person for you will be patient and give you the security to want to be vulnerable.
Posted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
idk be more feminim cuz strong independant vibe kind of turn off for insecure dweebs
Fixed it for ya 😘
Posted by MareInfame
Pisces and Cancers are amazing at helping us out with that…
Listen to Pisces more… they do vulnerable extremely well.
Vulnerability needs to be reciprocated though. I can't stress this enough.
Posted by LadyNeptune
The right person for you will be patient and give you the security to want to be vulnerable.
This. This should be written in caps.
Scorpios don’t deserve to be loved. Nice try. 😏
Posted by FuManchu
A controlling person, is a more comfortable person.
Absolutely not. Nonsense. Just stop.
“In some cases, a person may adopt controlling behaviors out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control“
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/controlling-people
Several underlying causes of being controlling:
Anxiety
Personality disorders (BPD,NPD)
The ass kissing is cringe. A controlling person, comfortable. Only a naive person would see that to be true.
Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzulPosted by black773Posted by FuManchu
A controlling person, is a more comfortable person.
Absolutely not. Nonsense. Just stop.
“In some cases, a person may adopt controlling behaviors out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control“
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/controlling-people
Several underlying causes of being controlling:
Anxiety
Personality disorders (BPD,NPD)
The ass kissing is cringe. A controlling person, comfortable. Only a naive person would see that to be true.
"Stop trying to stay so comfortable"
So you don't think that being controlling is an effort to combat those underlying feelings of insecurity or whatever? Surely they're more comfortable than how they feel when they surrender control right, that's why they do it
Also a person's "comfort zone" is a term for what a person has become habitually accustomed to doing/being, doesn't necessarily mean they're at ease or happyclick to expand
The controlling person is NOT comfortable. End of discussion.
Posted by FuManchuPosted by black773Posted by FuManchu
A controlling person, is a more comfortable person.
Absolutely not. Nonsense. Just stop.
“In some cases, a person may adopt controlling behaviors out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control“
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/controlling-people
Several underlying causes of being controlling:
Anxiety
Personality disorders (BPD,NPD)
The ass kissing is cringe. A controlling person, comfortable. Only a naive person would see that to be true.
It's so they can feel more comfortable.. to appease the anxiety.click to expand
Lmao they aren’t comfortable you were just kissing ass to OP. Now you say so they can feel more comfortable. Just stfu you wrote nonsense and I pointed it out. And idgaf what your opinion of me is, I’m not changing what I said.
Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzulPosted by black773Posted by PezRojoPescadoAzulPosted by black773Posted by FuManchu
A controlling person, is a more comfortable person.
Absolutely not. Nonsense. Just stop.
“In some cases, a person may adopt controlling behaviors out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control“
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/controlling-people
Several underlying causes of being controlling:
Anxiety
Personality disorders (BPD,NPD)
The ass kissing is cringe. A controlling person, comfortable. Only a naive person would see that to be true.
"Stop trying to stay so comfortable"
So you don't think that being controlling is an effort to combat those underlying feelings of insecurity or whatever? Surely they're more comfortable than how they feel when they surrender control right, that's why they do it
Also a person's "comfort zone" is a term for what a person has become habitually accustomed to doing/being, doesn't necessarily mean they're at ease or happy
The controlling person is NOT comfortable. End of discussion.
Right....hence their need to exert control over their environment in an effort to do so...like I said. Are you trying to control when this discussion ends 🤭click to expand
They still aren’t comfortable.
Posted by FuManchuPosted by black773Posted by FuManchu
A controlling person, is a more comfortable person.
Absolutely not. Nonsense. Just stop.
“In some cases, a person may adopt controlling behaviors out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control“
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/controlling-people
Several underlying causes of being controlling:
Anxiety
Personality disorders (BPD,NPD)
The ass kissing is cringe. A controlling person, comfortable. Only a naive person would see that to be true.
It's so they can feel more comfortable.. to appease the anxiety.click to expand
Show me the science. Link an article. Your subjective outlook holds no weight. Show me proof that a person is comfortable.😎
Letting love in is easier when you trust a person.
If you are controlling from the start of dating, it’s more like a developed habit, maybe from previous let downs, that you may not realize you’re doing until it’s too late.
What happens when you can’t control the situation?
You need someone with patience to understand it. Not many like to be controlled, you would be getting a man with low self worth or low self esteem if he did. And would you even want someone weak like that?
Can you keep things to yourself and not act on them right away, to slow the controlling process?
I’ve been dating a Scorpio for the past 6 months and can’t stand being controlled, so hopefully not all Scorpios are like this.
If you are controlling from the start of dating, it’s more like a developed habit, maybe from previous let downs, that you may not realize you’re doing until it’s too late.
What happens when you can’t control the situation?
You need someone with patience to understand it. Not many like to be controlled, you would be getting a man with low self worth or low self esteem if he did. And would you even want someone weak like that?
Can you keep things to yourself and not act on them right away, to slow the controlling process?
I’ve been dating a Scorpio for the past 6 months and can’t stand being controlled, so hopefully not all Scorpios are like this.
Posted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOOPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
idk be more feminim cuz strong independant vibe kind of turn off for insecure dweebs
Fixed it for ya 😘
die alone.click to expand
We all will. The one universal equalizer.
“Power is control over what other people do; choice is control over your own outcomes.”
“In another set of experiments, when people were deprived of choice, they displayed a thirst for power – for instance, by expressing greater desire to occupy a high-power position.“
Hmmm lol
https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/its-all-about-control.html
Oh and I really liked this piece 👇🏾🙃
“For example, if people lack power, they clamor for choice, and if they have an abundance of choice they don’t strive as much for power.”
“In another set of experiments, when people were deprived of choice, they displayed a thirst for power – for instance, by expressing greater desire to occupy a high-power position.“
Hmmm lol
https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/its-all-about-control.html
Oh and I really liked this piece 👇🏾🙃
“For example, if people lack power, they clamor for choice, and if they have an abundance of choice they don’t strive as much for power.”
https://www.tonyrobbins.com/personal-growth/how-to-stop-being-controlling/
Damn. Reading some of these articles. I’m starting to realize he is a little controlling. I didn’t even notice it. 😅😭😭😩
I took it as him knowing what he was talking about.
Uh-oh 🥴😬
Damn. Reading some of these articles. I’m starting to realize he is a little controlling. I didn’t even notice it. 😅😭😭😩
I took it as him knowing what he was talking about.
Uh-oh 🥴😬
Posted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOOPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOOPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
idk be more feminim cuz strong independant vibe kind of turn off for insecure dweebs
Fixed it for ya 😘
die alone.
We all will. The one universal equalizer.
okclick to expand
👍
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...click to expand
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
I haven't been in a relationship in a really, really long time. This is all new to me, so yes...it is definitely out of my comfort zone. I was in a really intense twin flame relationship with a Taurus for a few years. That feeling is what I've been longing for since him, but I now realize I won't ever have that same feeling again. Not with him (Taurus) and not with anyone else. It's a once in a lifetime love. Taurus was the only one to ever bulldoze my walls down, the only one I let into my heart and soul AND he was my only heartbreak. It still hurts me. This is why being vulnerable and letting someone in terrifies me....but I'm trying! 🙂
The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Starting to rethink everything I thought I knew. I guess I'm just venting here and looking for your opinions and experiences.
To be clear, I am not controlling of people, just certain situations where I might get hurt. My mom is an Aires and she has controlled everything and everyone even to this day.
Maybe someone can read our birth charts? 🙂
The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Starting to rethink everything I thought I knew. I guess I'm just venting here and looking for your opinions and experiences.
To be clear, I am not controlling of people, just certain situations where I might get hurt. My mom is an Aires and she has controlled everything and everyone even to this day.
Maybe someone can read our birth charts? 🙂
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
idk be more feminim cuz strong independant vibe kind of turn off for insecure dweebs
Fixed it for ya 😘click to expand
Yeah, don't change yourself for someone else is good advice but @FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO has a point.
Just look at you, you're always looking like a man-hating, RAGING, RED PENIS shouting and unnecessarily asserting itself at every occasion, always looking to shame and emasculate men and assume the worst of them. And on top of that, you give off the vibe that you're one of those women who don't wear makeup and don't shave/wax their armpits.
I don't even like women and I can tell you repulse straight men from miles away with your vile 5th wave feminism pheromones. I'm not saying you should change who you are, I'm just saying you don't attract, you repel.
My advice to OP: don't listen to @LadyNeptune. Discover yourself, your values and remain true to yourself. Don't listen to anyone telling you to mold yourself into something else or behave a certain way. Be authentic.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!click to expand
Some people can't handle the hurt. Being a fixed water sign, it's very difficult to open up and let people in. I feel things very deeply. It definitely takes time for me to trust anyone. I am trying with this Pisces, trying to change my ways lol.
Posted by Dastard2020Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
idk be more feminim cuz strong independant vibe kind of turn off for insecure dweebs
Fixed it for ya 😘
Yeah, don't change yourself for someone else is good advice but @FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO has a point.
Just look at you, you're always looking like a man-hating, RAGING, RED PENIS shouting and unnecessarily asserting itself at every occasion, always looking to shame and emasculate men and assume the worst of them. And on top of that, you give off the vibe that you're one of those women who don't wear makeup and don't shave/wax their armpits.
I don't even like women and I can tell you repulse straight men from miles away with your vile 5th wave feminism pheromones. I'm not saying you should change who you are, I'm just saying you don't attract, you repel.
My advice to OP: don't listen to @LadyNeptune. Discover yourself, your values and remain true to yourself. Don't listen to anyone telling you to mold yourself into something else or behave a certain way. Be authentic.click to expand
Thank you for the kind words and advice. I am not the type to mold myself into someone I'm not. I do feel like Pisces loves me the way I am, even with all my issues LOL
Posted by waterandearth1023
I haven't been in a relationship in a really, really long time. This is all new to me, so yes...it is definitely out of my comfort zone. I was in a really intense twin flame relationship with a Taurus for a few years. That feeling is what I've been longing for since him, but I now realize I won't ever have that same feeling again. Not with him (Taurus) and not with anyone else. It's a once in a lifetime love. Taurus was the only one to ever bulldoze my walls down, the only one I let into my heart and soul AND he was my only heartbreak. It still hurts me. This is why being vulnerable and letting someone in terrifies me....but I'm trying! 🙂
The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Starting to rethink everything I thought I knew. I guess I'm just venting here and looking for your opinions and experiences.
To be clear, I am not controlling of people, just certain situations where I might get hurt. My mom is an Aires and she has controlled everything and everyone even to this day.
Maybe someone can read our birth charts? 🙂
You should definitely stay cautious. But limit your control.
Pisces is known for love bombing and pretending you are the one they want to marry from the beginning of the first meeting.- They are similar to Cancers, but Cancers pull back and do the weird friendship thing and expect you to hang in there.
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
This is their getting to know you process, so stay as level headed as possible and trust your instincts. It's not their fault they do this, its a part of who they are and they believe it too, until reality smacks them in the face with disappointment.
Since you have never been in love again, since the Taurus, you can't really say whether it will happen again. 🙂
I fall in love with people fairly easily because I am always open to the hurt and the joys of love, it's 2 sides to 1 coin, so I'm a psychopath that doesn't mind it. I've been in love with about 3 men so far and it all felt the same, deep when I was involved and painful when it ended.
I'm currently not in love yet, but I'm looking forward to it again.
Some things take time, I think love is one of them. Some fall fast, some fall slowly. Just depends on how you process love. There's nothing wrong with it.
If his actions continue to meet his words, then you may be able to start trusting more.
If you feel like holding back and taking it slower, let him know. You clearly aren't ready for marriage and being tied down with a baby. There's plenty of time to get there.
Marriage can last a long time, there's no rush to run to the alter, if something is making you question doing it. The right one will be willing to wait until you're ready because he is going to be by your side for a "lifetime" anyways.
I know divorce is a big deal to some, but marriage is about continuing to choose one another, continuing to stay and put in the work.
I don't think love has much to do with long term marriage. Look how many people love someone and give up on them. Divorce is like the ending of any style of relationship.
If you can be best friends, and choose each other everyday, even when times get rough, it's a good foundation.
That Taurus pain was/is the worst pain I have ever felt, even more than when someone passed away. I have always gotten through tough times, it's that phoenix rising in us Scorpios, we are so resilient. We bounce back better than ever.
That being said, I guess I have no choice but to be vulnerable, let this Pisces in and if I get hurt, then so be it. I will rise above no matter what. But I'm still scared! LOL 🙂
That being said, I guess I have no choice but to be vulnerable, let this Pisces in and if I get hurt, then so be it. I will rise above no matter what. But I'm still scared! LOL 🙂
Posted by Dastard2020Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
idk be more feminim cuz strong independant vibe kind of turn off for insecure dweebs
Fixed it for ya 😘
Yeah, don't change yourself for someone else is good advice but @FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO has a point.
Just look at you, you're always looking like a man-hating, RAGING, RED PENIS shouting and unnecessarily asserting itself at every occasion, always looking to shame and emasculate men and assume the worst of them. And on top of that, you give off the vibe that you're one of those women who don't wear makeup and don't shave/wax their armpits.
I don't even like women and I can tell you repulse straight men from miles away with your vile 5th wave feminism pheromones. I'm not saying you should change who you are, I'm just saying you don't attract, you repel.
My advice to OP: don't listen to @LadyNeptune. Discover yourself, your values and remain true to yourself. Don't listen to anyone telling you to mold yourself into something else or behave a certain way. Be authentic.click to expand
Mmmm keep wondering about state of my armpits. I love that for you.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!click to expand
Just because you don’t understand, doesn’t mean people don’t protect themselves. And it’s not that simple. Some people use alcohol to deal or not deal, some drugs etc. if you don’t, than don’t worry about it.
Posted by waterandearth1023
How do I stop worrying so much and let love in after all these years of being single, strong and indepedant—?
My mind is racing nonstop. Being vulnerable is so difficult for a Scorpio LOL We need to control everything and know every outcome to every situation. I know it's a defense mechanism. I wish I wasn't like this. It's hard to go with the flow, but I'm trying.
Everything I ever knew about love or wanted in love is changing. I'm trying to find myself and be more open. This Pisces is making me rethink what I want and is actually making me more vulnerable.
What is at stake here?
Do you have a risk management plan?
Posted by MareInfamePosted by waterandearth1023
That Taurus pain was/is the worst pain I have ever felt, even more than when someone passed away. I have always gotten through tough times, it's that phoenix rising in us Scorpios, we are so resilient. We bounce back better than ever.
That being said, I guess I have no choice but to be vulnerable, let this Pisces in and if I get hurt, then so be it. I will rise above no matter what. But I'm still scared! LOL 🙂
You ARE being vulnerable here… so don’t be too hard on yourself. This place is a great place to practice and open up 😊.
Tell me… what happened to that other Taurus you were starting to date? I remember there was potentially another Taurus that had entered your life or was about to… I forget the details, but recall there was another that entered the picture.click to expand
I love reading everyone's opinions and experiences here, even the asshole comments LOL It is definitely a good place to open up and get some insight 🙂
The Taurus didn't want anything serious and I'm not looking to just hook up or date. I did really like him, oh well!
Posted by MareInfamePosted by waterandearth1023
I haven't been in a relationship in a really, really long time. This is all new to me, so yes...it is definitely out of my comfort zone. I was in a really intense twin flame relationship with a Taurus for a few years. That feeling is what I've been longing for since him, but I now realize I won't ever have that same feeling again. Not with him (Taurus) and not with anyone else. It's a once in a lifetime love. Taurus was the only one to ever bulldoze my walls down, the only one I let into my heart and soul AND he was my only heartbreak. It still hurts me. This is why being vulnerable and letting someone in terrifies me....but I'm trying! 🙂
The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Starting to rethink everything I thought I knew. I guess I'm just venting here and looking for your opinions and experiences.
To be clear, I am not controlling of people, just certain situations where I might get hurt. My mom is an Aires and she has controlled everything and everyone even to this day.
Maybe someone can read our birth charts? 🙂
I believe there are different types of love / dynamic. It isn’t all the same.
If you are looking for depth and intensity - it will most likely be found with another Scorpio or a Taurus.
But with Pisces you will feel depth, healing, some chaos, a lot of growth… accepting that nothing is fixed - change is inevitable. They have a much more softer approach than Scorpio or Taurus, so you have to be open to experience something different if you really want to appreciate them.
Being with a Pisces could feel very healing - they have patience for our hard bits and they know how to soften that up… undo our tight knots.
But, maybe it’s time for you to move forward. Everything we do in life requires movement, taking chances if we want our environment and circumstance to change… we must change with it.
That Taurus that gave you the worst pain of your life and best love of your life - he was a gift. That experience was there to show you that those extremes can be lived and are not just imagined. But to every high there is a low. It’s just boring if you always play it safe… because if you do, you will realize your life is a flatline… and could feel quite numb . You survived him, you can handle it. Trust yourself and your ability to learn from your past - not always by saying “I will never do this again” but by saying “if it happens again, I trust that I will handle it better than the first time”. It’s just a healthier inner voice than the fearful fist version.
Maybe you can find a middle ground where love feels like it challenges you a bit, but also feels safe and comfortable. Maybe you can do that with Pisces.
What do you feel for Pisces besides feeling pushed and fear?click to expand
Wow, well said. Thank you! Your words hit me, I really needed that ❤️
I do care for him a lot. He treats me well, he's caring, we joke and laugh a lot, he's affectionate and available emotionally. He accepts my daughter, who is 18 but still lives with me. We do this thing where we text each other at the same time or say the same thing when we are talking on the phone, it's nice. He says we are connected mentally; I do feel that.
My fear is it not working out and having another divorce and another broken home. My daughter's dad and I split up when she was 1. I don't want that to happen again, and I don't want to stay with someone just for the kids.
I guess I've always wanted that perfect love, but nothing is perfect. We have to work and grow in our relationships. Also, I always thought love was instant, but I think it can also be slow and steady. You can love someone more and more over time.
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That being said, I guess I have no choice but to be vulnerable, let this Pisces in and if I get hurt, then so be it. I will rise above no matter what. But I'm still scared! LOL 🙂
Pisces men don’t hurt, break hearts, etc. we don’t do none of that stuff that these bitter people be lying about. We have a huge part of we care about you. We have legendary loyalty, Passionate feelings and intense love ( if you give us that chance)click to expand
I hope this is true, I do see the loyalty and love in him.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...click to expand
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!
Just because you don’t understand, doesn’t mean people don’t protect themselves. And it’s not that simple. Some people use alcohol to deal or not deal, some drugs etc. if you don’t, than don’t worry about it.
Are you able to answer this?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnerable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings—..WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?click to expand
Some people might do that. But that absolutely was not my case. Also it’s not always black & white … but variations of how vulnerable, how shut down are you? Why is it necessary to change? Everyone is different.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by waterandearth1023Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!
Some people can't handle the hurt. Being a fixed water sign, it's very difficult to open up and let people in. I feel things very deeply. It definitely takes time for me to trust anyone. I am trying with this Pisces, trying to change my ways lol.
I appreciate your position BUT there is NO such thing as people CANT handle the hurt! Its a bullshit! I am crass and bitchy and I do not have understanding for 'not being able' to do anything. It is new age shit! People losing their health, children, loved ones, dying in wars...going trough most horrible things in life and SURVIVE!
There is NO FUCKING THING like not being able to handle hurt! Nobody want to be hurt BUT guess what...UNIVERSE doesnt give a shit and I grow up with an idea that God doesnt give us more than we can handle!
SO WE CAN! We dont wish for it but hey! Life isnt catering to us.click to expand
I call that bullshit! People drink & do drugs to make their shit go away and just make things worse.. people close off because they are overwhelmed. Lots of whiny guys at this age about wah wah what my ex-wife did to me & women who are sick & tired of bullshit & never want to have a man in their lives again.
I say take it or leave it attitude
Posted by waterandearth1023
How do I stop worrying so much and let love in after all these years of being single, strong and indepedant—?
My mind is racing nonstop. Being vulnerable is so difficult for a Scorpio LOL We need to control everything and know every outcome to every situation. I know it's a defense mechanism. I wish I wasn't like this. It's hard to go with the flow, but I'm trying.
Everything I ever knew about love or wanted in love is changing. I'm trying to find myself and be more open. This Pisces is making me rethink what I want and is actually making me more vulnerable.
There is a risk with anything worth having.
Highest highs means the opposite is possible too lowest lows.
That's the beauty of the whole experience and the risk and reward of vulnerability.
You have to accept both.
A element of trust is needed and willingness to see things though when things get rough.
Honestly I don't see why it's a issue. From what you imply about yourself you self-reliant in many ways.
Which is another key thing to remember about vulnerability and letting people in. You will be ok no matter what happens.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!
Just because you don’t understand, doesn’t mean people don’t protect themselves. And it’s not that simple. Some people use alcohol to deal or not deal, some drugs etc. if you don’t, than don’t worry about it.
Are you able to answer this?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnerable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings—..WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
Some people might do that. But that absolutely was not my case. Also it’s not always black & white … but variations of how vulnerable, how shut down are you? Why is it necessary to change? Everyone is different.
I am feeling like you are not understanding what I am saying. And it is could be due to our differences in brain function.
I refuse to see vulnerability as openness to hurt feelings. NO! I do not go into being open to relationships as open to being hurt. I dive in head first. I do not think i MIGHT get hurt. But I choose wisely. Relying on my intuition. Never hold back.
I am not showing vulnerability. I am being myself. Like it - good. Don't like it - NEXT! But IF I ever been hurt - I would TOTALLY do it again. Because I dont sit and cry and blame every OTHER person for the past hurts. It could be my fault that I got hurt. Avoided red flags, fooling myself into believing what I CHOSEN to believe that wasnt even close the reality but I was acting on the wish vs the clear picture I had seen...click to expand
Ok. That’s great if that’s the case. Not everyone is like that, some people feel the need to protect themselves, some people take longer to open up. Some never do whether they are hurt, have trauma or just don’t trust people for whatever reason.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by PuzzlePieces
Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!
Just because you don’t understand, doesn’t mean people don’t protect themselves. And it’s not that simple. Some people use alcohol to deal or not deal, some drugs etc. if you don’t, than don’t worry about it.
Are you able to answer this?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnerable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings—..WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
Some people might do that. But that absolutely was not my case. Also it’s not always black & white … but variations of how vulnerable, how shut down are you? Why is it necessary to change? Everyone is different.
I am feeling like you are not understanding what I am saying. And it is could be due to our differences in brain function.
I refuse to see vulnerability as openness to hurt feelings. NO! I do not go into being open to relationships as open to being hurt. I dive in head first. I do not think i MIGHT get hurt. But I choose wisely. Relying on my intuition. Never hold back.
I am not showing vulnerability. I am being myself. Like it - good. Don't like it - NEXT! But IF I ever been hurt - I would TOTALLY do it again. Because I dont sit and cry and blame every OTHER person for the past hurts. It could be my fault that I got hurt. Avoided red flags, fooling myself into believing what I CHOSEN to believe that wasnt even close the reality but I was acting on the wish vs the clear picture I had seen...
Ok. That’s great if that’s the case. Not everyone is like that, some people feel the need to protect themselves, some people take longer to open up. Some never do whether they are hurt, have trauma or just don’t trust people for whatever reason.
I am feeling like telling you this story. (I have nothing better to do yes lol)
A few months ago here male member is saying he wants to go to the bar and female from the same city suggesting the place for him to go. He is happily agreeing...
Next day I had asked how was the bar last night?
His reply was that he didnt go BECAUSE he was AFRAID that the bar might not going to MEET HIS EXPECTATIONS and he will be DISSAPOINTED so he stayed home instead...
How FUCKED UP IS THAT—
Me and Aries had a good night laugh! What a weak shit!!!
SO, my frustration with this the fact that people are so full of shit - how is this society going to survive—
Arent you worry about your future grandchildren? Will they afraid to leave house because who knows what is out there?
I AM...afraid if my future grandchildren are like that - I will hate them...🤣🤣🤣...unless they are extremely cute. 😂😎click to expand
These younger generations do seem to have a lot of social anxiety. Damn internet is responsible I think. Lmao Well seems a lot of people are thinking more & more like that. What do you expect from children? They observe a lot so it comes from watching the adults.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by LoyalPosted by saggurl88Posted by waterandearth1023The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Pisces is known for love bombing and pretending you are the one they want to marry from the beginning of the first meeting.- They are similar to Cancers, but Cancers pull back and do the weird friendship thing and expect you to hang in there.
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
This is their getting to know you process, so stay as level headed as possible and trust your instincts. It's not their fault they do this, its a part of who they are and they believe it too, until reality smacks them in the face with disappointment.
@saggurl88
You said
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
HOW SHITTY is that—
I was always wondering IF there is some mtfking sign that does that...because so many people here are complaining about being ok at the beginning and left/ghosted/dumped after some time...
I understand people's rights to fall out of love but having THIS written in stars as description of someone's personality - that SUCKS!!!click to expand
I don't think it's shitty. It's nice knowing some of these common characteristics.
It can keep the other party keen and slightly more aware. Same as Gemini being labeled "flaky" and Sagittarius being "superficial and/or noncommital" It's just something to be mindful about and keep in the back of your head as you get to know a person.
I think as long as a person sees action from their partner, the words have valid meaning. As long as you don't blindly fall for empty words, the other person should be fine.
All water signs have this love bombing style in one way or another. Scorpios seem to do the same sort of thing. Say they aren't up for love, but their actions are solid and they are consistent with them and don't back away or run from a person. They just seem to be cautious but not closed off, like they think.
Posted by LoyalPosted by saggurl88Posted by waterandearth1023The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Pisces is known for love bombing and pretending you are the one they want to marry from the beginning of the first meeting.- They are similar to Cancers, but Cancers pull back and do the weird friendship thing and expect you to hang in there.
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
This is their getting to know you process, so stay as level headed as possible and trust your instincts. It's not their fault they do this, its a part of who they are and they believe it too, until reality smacks them in the face with disappointment.
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A Scorpio can handle a fishy! 😉
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Vulnerable is good. Controlling people and things causes a lot of problems. Let go, let go, let go. Going with the flow is difficult especially when you’ve been controlling every situation.
Thing is if you have a Pisces helping you do that it’s a good thing even if it feels uncomfortable. Maybe it’s a growing & learning experience? When I was in a similar situation with a Pisces moon, I ended up going to therapy to help release where my blocks were. It was very helpful. I’m a far more open person now. I did learn vulnerability along the way 🙂
Whats 'vulnerable'? I am not sure if I am or I am not. I dont GET the concept...
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt. So the reason it’s talked about a lot is that many people have unhealthy behaviors that make relationships tough or unhealthy. People tend to close down, be controlling to get their way or relieve their anxiety, or be aggressive, attack. It’s all an effort to protect yourself so you are not hurt. But harmful to a relationship. So, working on being more vulnerable is allowing others choices, and not having to be in control always, guide the way but see what happens & you make your choices instead of demanding someone do what you need. It of course works better when you each care about what the other needs and not try to force things. People do it to have healthier relationships when they are protecting themselves.
I think they are talking about Scorpio because Scorpio’s tend to protects themselves. But also aqua moon ( me) & cap moon ( my ex Aries) in my life.. in your life the Aries certainly did a lot of protecting himself due to previous hurts..I’m not sure about the Cap but you probably did protection things in that marriage to survive it. and so you get the idea?
Vulnerability is the act of being open and risking being hurt?
As supposed to WHAT?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnarable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings— I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!! WTF is with 'hurt feelings'? WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
SO you will have feelings hurt! Big deal! WHY is this a 'thing'? Are we living in perfect world or in the shelter or we ever been guarantee love with no hurt? I am totally dont get it...dont I have feelings? I do. But I do not run around protecting them by refusing LIVING!
Just because you don’t understand, doesn’t mean people don’t protect themselves. And it’s not that simple. Some people use alcohol to deal or not deal, some drugs etc. if you don’t, than don’t worry about it.
Are you able to answer this?
I would like to hear an opposite. Like...I refuse to be vulnerable and get hurt SO I am choosing loneliness and safety of my feelings—..WHEN hurt feelings become THE reason for not dating or loving or anything?
Some people might do that. But that absolutely was not my case. Also it’s not always black & white … but variations of how vulnerable, how shut down are you? Why is it necessary to change? Everyone is different.
I am feeling like you are not understanding what I am saying. And it is could be due to our differences in brain function.
I refuse to see vulnerability as openness to hurt feelings. NO! I do not go into being open to relationships as open to being hurt. I dive in head first. I do not think i MIGHT get hurt. But I choose wisely. Relying on my intuition. Never hold back.
I am not showing vulnerability. I am being myself. Like it - good. Don't like it - NEXT! But IF I ever been hurt - I would TOTALLY do it again. Because I dont sit and cry and blame every OTHER person for the past hurts. It could be my fault that I got hurt. Avoided red flags, fooling myself into believing what I CHOSEN to believe that wasnt even close the reality but I was acting on the wish vs the clear picture I had seen...
Ok. That’s great if that’s the case. Not everyone is like that, some people feel the need to protect themselves, some people take longer to open up. Some never do whether they are hurt, have trauma or just don’t trust people for whatever reason.
I am feeling like telling you this story. (I have nothing better to do yes lol)
A few months ago here male member is saying he wants to go to the bar and female from the same city suggesting the place for him to go. He is happily agreeing...
Next day I had asked how was the bar last night?
His reply was that he didnt go BECAUSE he was AFRAID that the bar might not going to MEET HIS EXPECTATIONS and he will be DISSAPOINTED so he stayed home instead...
How FUCKED UP IS THAT—
Me and Aries had a good night laugh! What a weak shit!!!
SO, my frustration with this the fact that people are so full of shit - how is this society going to survive—
Arent you worry about your future grandchildren? Will they afraid to leave house because who knows what is out there?
I AM...afraid if my future grandchildren are like that - I will hate them...🤣🤣🤣...unless they are extremely cute. 😂😎
These younger generations do seem to have a lot of social anxiety. Damn internet is responsible I think. Lmao Well seems a lot of people are thinking more & more like that. What do you expect from children? They observe a lot so it comes from watching the adults.
I am not sure 23 y/old male living in a largest megapolis of the Earth developed anxiety to the bar scene watching his parents. Maybe dxp is more responsible for his fuck up?🤣🤣🤣🤣click to expand
Lol why not? It depends on what he observed growing up. Certainly on the internet watching all the adults have major anxiety about every little thing does not help. It’s probably not just the bar scene btw.
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by saggurl88Posted by Saturn_Returns
Since you're a Libra mooner, you're a lost cause.
lol tut, tut!
I really don't give a shit, MIss I-Can't-Help-Being-Optimistic-Because-I'm-A-Fucking-Sag. 😎
I've rarely come across Libra energy, in personal placements, as 'stable' - almost always bi-polar, toxic, unhinged, controlling, abusive and passive-aggressive. My natal chart now has zero tolerance for that shite. Enough is enough.
But the dxp community can continue spouting hallow, cringe-inducing platitudes until the cows come home, because I know the harsh reality is often very different.click to expand
I was just teasing you grumpy pants! I don't think Cardinals are very stable unless they have lots of fixed signs in their chart. They are meant to be the spark that gets thing started.
Just like the water moon shooting you in your ass to climb that mountain!
I agree Libras are bossy but all of you Cardinals are. Maybe that's why you guys don't work together as a couple.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by saggurl88Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by LoyalPosted by saggurl88Posted by waterandearth1023The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Pisces is known for love bombing and pretending you are the one they want to marry from the beginning of the first meeting.- They are similar to Cancers, but Cancers pull back and do the weird friendship thing and expect you to hang in there.
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
This is their getting to know you process, so stay as level headed as possible and trust your instincts. It's not their fault they do this, its a part of who they are and they believe it too, until reality smacks them in the face with disappointment.
@saggurl88
You said
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
HOW SHITTY is that—
I was always wondering IF there is some mtfking sign that does that...because so many people here are complaining about being ok at the beginning and left/ghosted/dumped after some time...
I understand people's rights to fall out of love but having THIS written in stars as description of someone's personality - that SUCKS!!!
I don't think it's shitty. It's nice knowing some of these common characteristics.
It can keep the other party keen and slightly more aware. Same as Gemini being labeled "flaky" and Sagittarius being "superficial and/or noncommital" It's just something to be mindful about and keep in the back of your head as you get to know a person.
I think as long as a person sees action from their partner, the words have valid meaning. As long as you don't blindly fall for empty words, the other person should be fine.
All water signs have this love bombing style in one way or another. Scorpios seem to do the same sort of thing. Say they aren't up for love, but their actions are solid and they are consistent with them and don't back away or run from a person. They just seem to be cautious but not closed off, like they think.
You forgetting my darling that people like us who knows more than what their sun sign are far few and between.
So loving someone until they acting to your liking - IS SHITTY! I do not mean it in a way you might think. I DO respect people rights to fall out of love. People do all the time but they doing it randomly because of social life is going on (saw better looking or they didnt think partner farts or partner ate last candy...) but having it as a part of your birth chart is kind of...bad. Almost like if you dating Pisces - you walking on eggshells.click to expand
Well I think this is in the beginning stages of dating, Pisces are mutable, they don't string people along like that long term. That's why they are known for swimming away. They are just too nice to say they aren't that interested and would prefer to slowly swim away, IMO. I think they have better values and boundaries in relationships, or they should, at least.
I said what I said but she never mentioned how long they have been dating, just that he is ready for marriage and kids.
All signs have some shitty qualities in their charts. Sag have similar qualities with being known not to commit. Imagine if we couldn't get any dates at all cause people didn't want to risk it.
No risk, No reward!!!
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by saggurl88Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by saggurl88Posted by Saturn_Returns
Since you're a Libra mooner, you're a lost cause.
lol tut, tut!
I really don't give a shit, MIss I-Can't-Help-Being-Optimistic-Because-I'm-A-Fucking-Sag. 😎
I've rarely come across Libra energy, in personal placements, as 'stable' - almost always bi-polar, toxic, unhinged, controlling, abusive and passive-aggressive. My natal chart now has zero tolerance for that shite. Enough is enough.
But the dxp community can continue spouting hallow, cringe-inducing platitudes until the cows come home, because I know the harsh reality is often very different.
I was just teasing you grumpy pants! I don't think Cardinals are very stable unless they have lots of fixed signs in their chart. They are meant to be the spark that gets thing started.
Just like the water moon shooting you in your ass to climb that mountain!
I agree Libras are bossy but all of you Cardinals are. Maybe that's why you guys don't work together as a couple.
Sags don't like being put in their place, that's why they spend most of their lives cutting people off. It's not a cardinal thing, it's just the way Sags are.
*shrugs*
Going back to Libra moons, just look at the celebrities with this moon. Many either have anger/attitude issues and/or are real hot messes.click to expand
I definitely agree with the Libra Moons comment. Hopefully there are some good ones out there that aren't so unhinged.
A sag can be put in their place if it's something truthful, we don't get put in our place by a person that is trying to one up us. There has to be some knowledge or a reason behind it. Fire signs have way too much ego for that type of behavior, to bow down and submit just cause someone wants to try and knock some chip off their shoulder.
But I will cut people off who are soul sucking energy lovers. I don't think of Cardinals like this.
Regarding my Libra moon, I don't think I'm unhinged or have anger issues. I'm pretty calm and collective. Of course, I have my moments (mostly when I'm driving LOL) but people always say I'm so calm and good to be around.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by LoyalPosted by saggurl88Posted by waterandearth1023The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Pisces is known for love bombing and pretending you are the one they want to marry from the beginning of the first meeting.- They are similar to Cancers, but Cancers pull back and do the weird friendship thing and expect you to hang in there.
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
This is their getting to know you process, so stay as level headed as possible and trust your instincts. It's not their fault they do this, its a part of who they are and they believe it too, until reality smacks them in the face with disappointment.
A Scorpio can handle a fishy! 😉
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I think so too 🙂
Posted by MareInfamePosted by waterandearth1023Posted by MareInfamePosted by waterandearth1023
That Taurus pain was/is the worst pain I have ever felt, even more than when someone passed away. I have always gotten through tough times, it's that phoenix rising in us Scorpios, we are so resilient. We bounce back better than ever.
That being said, I guess I have no choice but to be vulnerable, let this Pisces in and if I get hurt, then so be it. I will rise above no matter what. But I'm still scared! LOL 🙂
You ARE being vulnerable here… so don’t be too hard on yourself. This place is a great place to practice and open up 😊.
Tell me… what happened to that other Taurus you were starting to date? I remember there was potentially another Taurus that had entered your life or was about to… I forget the details, but recall there was another that entered the picture.
I love reading everyone's opinions and experiences here, even the asshole comments LOL It is definitely a good place to open up and get some insight 🙂
The Taurus didn't want anything serious and I'm not looking to just hook up or date. I did really like him, oh well!
Oh well. At least he didn’t string you along. Glad he didn’t waste your time and energy.click to expand
yes, I agree!
Posted by LoyalPosted by saggurl88Posted by LoyalPosted by saggurl88Posted by waterandearth1023The Pisces makes me feel secure emotionally and treats me well...this is probably the number one thing I crave. He is a Pisces Sun, Moon and Mercury, Venus in Taurus. Things are moving fast and I guess I'm just scared. I don't want another divorce; he is aware of this. He wants to get married and have a baby ASAP. My dad is a Pisces and there is a lot of trauma there. Pisces suggested I go talk to someone about it or we can go together.
I guess the issue with Pisces is that the connection is not intense enough. Does this mean he's not the one? Is my definition of love wrong? When you meet the right person, are they supposed to make you feel calm? I have always thought when I feel that intense connection, then that means it's something real. Everyone says when you meet the right person, you will just know....but is this true?? I know that sounds dumb, but that's how I feel.
Pisces is known for love bombing and pretending you are the one they want to marry from the beginning of the first meeting.- They are similar to Cancers, but Cancers pull back and do the weird friendship thing and expect you to hang in there.
Pisces will continue treating you sweet as long as you meet their expectations. If you don't that's when the fantasy they created about you in their mind becomes reality and they figure out that they don't like you as much as they originally thought, but they may not necessarily let you know.
This is their getting to know you process, so stay as level headed as possible and trust your instincts. It's not their fault they do this, its a part of who they are and they believe it too, until reality smacks them in the face with disappointment.
A Scorpio can handle a fishy! 😉
Ain’t NO SCORPIO WOMAN could ever handle me. Scorpio lowkey act like Capricorn, trying to direct traffic. Pisces don’t go for it. Pisces/Scorpio only compatible if the Pisces wants to deal with that water bug.
Sagittarius women gotta relax, y’all be on know it all like Aquarius 😆🤣😂😅click to expand
Scorpios don't know how bossy Pisces are.
You're sweet, delusional and deranged personality ain't fooling anyone. We all know it's your way or the highway! 😆 You guys do not get along with signs that don't do what you want to do, when you want to do it.
Scorpios are also way softer then they appear, so I don't think bossiness is much of an issue with them.
And I'm just giving my opinion on all the signs, it's not the bible, of course I can be wrong. This is just stuff I've notice in my dealings with people I've come across.
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