Spouse wants you to be submissive (Page 2)

Posted by MagicMona
we all have to bend to each other sometimes, especially if we want the relationship to work. but to expect a master/slave kind of union is unrealistic and egotistical. only a real piece of work would expect a person to give up their life, hopes, dreams, and wants in order to be with them.

some people need to get the fuck over themselves.

I agree with you, but now looking back on it... I think what he meant was more in reference to your first comment about everyone having to bend a little to submit to each other in a relationship. I think he wanted to say he wants this intense trusting kind of love where he can freely express his desires without judgement. Even if his desires were.... hey I'm not sure I want you hanging with that friend... not because I want you to stay home with me tonight, but I don't think that friend has good intentions for you. But his demeanor is so aggressive I perceived it as a cave man type approach and I laughed and told him good luck with finding a woman. Until @Ellygant explained it to me.... I now get it. In hindsight I look back at the girl he was dating and he said she wasn't submissive enough... he probably said that because she was always starting butter, arguing, wanted to party all the time although she knew he already planned this amazing date for them.... I just think he needs a better way to express what he wants in a woman other than saying she needs to be submissive. But his communication skills has always sucked major booty.

Posted by CopperDove
1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

No



2. If not, why not?

I don't like strict limits like that -- it would only allow me to express a small part of myself, which would be stifling. For me it lacks creativity, it's unbalanced, and it's boring at the very least, and at the worst it's inhuman.

Scorpio sun, Gem moon, Scorpio Venus, Libra Mars.

?@CopperDove your placements make me feel all warm inside.

Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by CopperDove
1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

No



2. If not, why not?

I don't like strict limits like that -- it would only allow me to express a small part of myself, which would be stifling. For me it lacks creativity, it's unbalanced, and it's boring at the very least, and at the worst it's inhuman.

Scorpio sun, Gem moon, Scorpio Venus, Libra Mars.

?@CopperDove your placements make me feel all warm inside.

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That's really nice! I'm glad! :-)

Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

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i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

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Is she a Scorp?

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

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yes 🙂

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Posted by MagicMona
we all have to bend to each other sometimes, especially if we want the relationship to work. but to expect a master/slave kind of union is unrealistic and egotistical. only a real piece of work would expect a person to give up their life, hopes, dreams, and wants in order to be with them.

some people need to get the fuck over themselves.

I agree with, but now looking back on it... I think what he meant was more in reference to your first comment about everyone having to bend a little to submit to each other in a relationship. I think he wanted to say he wants this intense trusting kind of love where he can freely express his desires without judgement. Even if his desires were.... hey I'm not sure I want you hanging with that friend... not because I want you to stay home with me tonight, but I don't think that friend has good intentions for you. But his demeanor is so aggressive I took as a cave man type approach and I laughed and told him good luck with finding a woman. Until ellygant explained it to me.... I now get it. In hindsight I look back st the girl he was dating and he said she wasn't submissive enough... he probably said that because she was always starting butter, arguing, wanted to party all the time although she knew he already planned this amazing date for them.... I just think he needs a better way to express what he wants in a woman other saying she needs to be submissive. But his communication skills has sneaks sucked major booty.

Scorp dudes aren't exactly articulate and verbose. Lol. That's why they fare well with water signs that can intuit or earth signs that can analyze. And both coddle their s/o a bit too.

Water isn't that great at direct communication either. We can write you monologue, songs and poems like breathing. But being able to nail down our thoughts quickly and concisely is something that comes with practice. Harder for the guys I think too since they battle the anti emotional stigma most men have from society.

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Man I can analyze these types of things all day... I wonder if it's because of all of my Cap planets?

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

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Awwww how did I guess that?! I bet you guys are super cute. What's both of your placements? How long have you been together?

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Is he an earth sign?

Is who an earth sign

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

are you submissive to her? a relationship isn't only about one person.

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i'm not.a submissive person, i like to be the dominant one.

but i didn't force her to become submissive. it's just her nature i guess. that's why i said i'm lucky.

and if we just equal is alright for me.

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Posted by FknNerd
Is he an earth sign?

Is who an earth sign

Your coworker

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Oh no, he's a Scorp Sun, but he is a Cap Moon and Gem Mars.... I forgot his Venus...

Posted by FknNerd
I think this guy btw is just saying he'd put his partner before everyone else including himself and that he just wants the same in return.

Yes he is like that. When he was in a relationship he'd drop everything for her which is sweet I guess... I don't think she gave him that in return so he dropped her.

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

Awwww how did I guess that?! I bet you guys are super cute. What's both of your placements? How long have you been together?

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lol TY we love each other. we've been together for total seven years so it's not new.

she is a heavy scorp. my pisces bit helps a lot lol.

i got a positive synastry review on astro sites also Blue_Froggie 🙂

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

Awwww how did I guess that?! I bet you guys are super cute. What's both of your placements? How long have you been together?

lol TY we love each other. we've been together for total seven years so it's not new.

she is a heavy scorp. my pisces bit helps a lot lol.

i got a positive synastry review on astro sites also Blue_Froggie 🙂

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I'm so glad to hear it for all the DXP users who say Aquas and Scorp can't date. I think anything is possible. Gem&Cap... Virgo&Libra... Pisces&Aries... it depends on the dhole chart however.

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

are you submissive to her? a relationship isn't only about one person.

i'm not.a submissive person, i like to be the dominant one.

but i didn't force her to become submissive. it's just her nature i guess. that's why i said i'm lucky.

and if we just equal is alright for me.

i didn't ask what you like to be. i asked do you submit to her? or do you feel doing so is beneath you?

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i'm not sure mona could be both or the later one.

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I think this guy btw is just saying he'd put his partner before everyone else including himself and that he just wants the same in return.

Yes he is like that. When he was in a relationship he'd drop everything for her which is sweet I guess... I don't think she gave him that in return so he dropped her.

Does he look like he has an attractive rising? Is he good looking?

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He's very attractive. I don't know his rising. The only reason I know that much is because it's a group of us at my job who goes to happy hour (like 2 Scorp male, 1 Virgo male, myself who's Aqua, and Scorp/ Libra Cusp) and we talk about things like this and he mentioned his planets. I think him being extremely attractive, but having communication issues and extremely high expectations is it's preventing him from finding his soul mate. I think a lot of women are intimidated by his looks or his personality.

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

are you submissive to her? a relationship isn't only about one person.

i'm not.a submissive person, i like to be the dominant one.

but i didn't force her to become submissive. it's just her nature i guess. that's why i said i'm lucky.

and if we just equal is alright for me.

i didn't ask what you like to be. i asked do you submit to her? or do you feel doing so is beneath you?

i'm not sure mona could be both or the later one.

you can never tell with fish. her problem, not mine.

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nope. we don't have any problem.

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

are you submissive to her? a relationship isn't only about one person.

i'm not.a submissive person, i like to be the dominant one.

but i didn't force her to become submissive. it's just her nature i guess. that's why i said i'm lucky.

and if we just equal is alright for me.

i didn't ask what you like to be. i asked do you submit to her? or do you feel doing so is beneath you?

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That takes courage for a man, to submit I mean, lots are scared to do that

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Posted by Wineaux15

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Posted by AerialView
nothing wrong with wanting a submissive partner. i like submissive women lol.

Alright @Arielview... if you truly feel that way I respect it, but don't just be saying things for the sake of starting butter with the peanut gallery?.

i always saying the truth. wasn't me who creates the drama lol.

back to the topic, i'm lucky my partner is submissive enough for me 🙂

Is she a Scorp?

yes 🙂

are you submissive to her? a relationship isn't only about one person.

i'm not.a submissive person, i like to be the dominant one.

but i didn't force her to become submissive. it's just her nature i guess. that's why i said i'm lucky.

and if we just equal is alright for me.

i didn't ask what you like to be. i asked do you submit to her? or do you feel doing so is beneath you?

i'm not sure mona could be both or the later one.

you can never tell with fish. her problem, not mine.

nope. we don't have any problem.

you are her problem, or will be eventually. but no, let me not say that shit, because everyone is different at the end of the day. i take that back and wish blessings instead.

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thank you for your concern and blessing.

she is in good hands 🙂

Posted by starwars
I see his point. wanting someone "as submissive" means to be with someone who isn't trying to control you since you're not trying to control them.

I don't see relationships as dominant vs submissive, ego issues and controlling tendcies should be out of the equation.

and since im that way, I wont revolve my life around someone and I dont expect them to do the same. won't think of ways to change them or their mindist ? I'm turned off by any controlling tendencies, mind games..etc.

This is also a good perspective to have.

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Posted by MagicMona
we all have to bend to each other sometimes, especially if we want the relationship to work. but to expect a master/slave kind of union is unrealistic and egotistical. only a real piece of work would expect a person to give up their life, hopes, dreams, and wants in order to be with them.

some people need to get the fuck over themselves.

I agree with, but now looking back on it... I think what he meant was more in reference to your first comment about everyone having to bend a little to submit to each other in a relationship. I think he wanted to say he wants this intense trusting kind of love where he can freely express his desires without judgement. Even if his desires were.... hey I'm not sure I want you hanging with that friend... not because I want you to stay home with me tonight, but I don't think that friend has good intentions for you. But his demeanor is so aggressive I took as a cave man type approach and I laughed and told him good luck with finding a woman. Until ellygant explained it to me.... I now get it. In hindsight I look back st the girl he was dating and he said she wasn't submissive enough... he probably said that because she was always starting butter, arguing, wanted to party all the time although she knew he already planned this amazing date for them.... I just think he needs a better way to express what he wants in a woman other saying she needs to be submissive. But his communication skills has sneaks sucked major booty.

Scorp dudes aren't exactly articulate and verbose. Lol. That's why they fare well with water signs that can intuit or earth signs that can analyze. And both coddle their s/o a bit too.

Water isn't that great at direct communication either. We can write you monologue, songs and poems like breathing. But being able to nail down our thoughts quickly and concisely is something that comes with practice. Harder for the guys I think too since they battle the anti emotional stigma most men have from society.

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so true. that's one main reason i don't think LDR works for them. scorp is not talkative and i once told him it was kinda creepy that he called just to have me listen to him breathing lol i was such an ass at times when i was busy and stressed. i don't do that anymore ?

We female shud be in touch with our feminine side when connecting to men. They r masculine. They need to lead. We r females r so used to being dominant these days and it's not attractive and won't work for the long haul.... doesn't mean we r doormats. It means be a female... be soft... be vulnerable.... etc.... submissive is being vulnerable and being in tune with our hearts.. the right masculine man will find that super sexy and they will wanna protect n care for those females.... the relationship will b balanced and last longer.... when the masculine and feminine energy crash that's when trouble starts

Posted by Wineaux15
How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough. I thought, "surely in 2017 this man can't be serious." But he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive. I think this could be sexy in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom I'm too dominant for this arrangement. My questions are:

1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?

This basically is me and my bae. We serve each other even though he's obviously the dominant one, it's palpable in the air. Yet he still cares for me as I do for him.

1. In 1 currently.

2. I love serving. Simple.

3. No question of who runs things, who's boss, or dominant, but we still serve one another.

4. Me: Virgo sun, Pisces moon, Scorpio Venus, cancer mars

Him: Scorpio sun, Libra moon, Virgo Venus, scorpio mars

Divorce.

Posted by Wineaux15
How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough. I thought, "surely in 2017 this man can't be serious." But he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive. I think this could be sexy in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom I'm too dominant for this arrangement. My questions are:

1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

4. What's you/ & spouse Sun, Moon, Venus, & Mars signs?

I actually enjoy being submissive, but the man has to strike a balance in that he needs to choose his battles, so to speak. So, I want to obey him, but I don't want to feel like I'm being controlled, otherwise my spirit will suffer. If I feel strongly about something, in order for me to consistently listen, I need for him to bend.

Also, if I want to be sassy, it's important to me that I'm allowed to be sassy, and he can counter that with a playful (yet dominant) reasponse such as slapping my ass. Unless I'm being straight-up disrespectful, then he can put me in my place.

Posted by Wineaux15
How would you react if your spouse wanted you to be submissive in the bedroom AND out of the bedroom? They want you to do whatever they say with no arguments? I had a conversation with a few coworkers and one guy said he was attracted to a lady, but wouldn't take her seriously because she's not submissive enough.... he was very serious and went on to explain that he'd be just as submissive to his mate; pleasing her in any way that she wants, BUT she MUST be just as submissive.

This makes no sense.

If they are both responsive to each other's needs, that isn't "submission". It's a healthy relationship. He is either confused by the meaning, or...confused by the meaning.

Posted by Wineaux15
1. Would you, are you, or have you ever been in this type of relationship?

I don't even understand this "type" of relationship as it's been explained. However, I seek balance in my relationships. I shine or fall back based on the need at the time.

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2. If you would... why? If not, why not?

see above

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3. If you are or have been how does this work for you?

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n/a