Would you date a religious person? (Page 2)

Posted by SquirrelFromTheNuthouse
Is the non-Christian a known non-Christian in that church?

I don't get the question. Why should what the church knows matter? Only thing that matters is the bond between partner and how they express it. It is no one's concern whether this person in attendance is a Christian or not.

Posted by Damnata

It's the silent expections people have where they never verbalize them that are both unfair and forceful. And it doesn't seem like it was forceful for Sugarfoot's dad. I mean even if verbalized as a make or break commitment to it, the wife didn't hold her hope of him getting back into being religious against him. She hoped, but didn't push it past that.

It doesnt' matter of it's verbalized or not.

The expectation is present in the other to concede, what you say it or not.

And further, you don't know whether she would have pushed it/forced it past that because he yielded.

Posted by MagicMona

just as long as they did not try to force their faith on me.

But, they do try and force it.

You can't believe that you are unconditional to their beliefs and then say the above ... because then it's just pretending that it's not a consideration.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Damnata

It's the silent expections people have where they never verbalize them that are both unfair and forceful. And it doesn't seem like it was forceful for Sugarfoot's dad. I mean even if verbalized as a make or break commitment to it, the wife didn't hold her hope of him getting back into being religious against him. She hoped, but didn't push it past that.

It doesnt' matter of it's verbalized or not.

The expectation is present in the other to concede, what you say it or not.

And further, you don't know whether she would have pushed it/forced it past that because he yielded.

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Indeed, there are different scenarios had he not yielded of how it would impacted the dynamics.

I barely know practising Christians. In my generation the majority of us were baptized in Christianity but only know one person who is actively pursuing their faith.

Posted by Nevermore
I have my own spiritual believes and my ex sag is religious. Not diehard (it was, but lately they didn't went to the church).

Although it was childish of his twin brother (since he noticed that I'm not joining to pray at the dinner since I don't believe in that, but kept respectfully quiet since it's for them to pray) to pointed me out that I didn't do it. Especially his mother telling me to stop cursing on FB..

It didn't worked out through the communications as he was being paranoid all the time, plus we have very different in believes that we never talked about our religious. Also it wasn't match for me with him in personally anyway..

Just like that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^


It may be that the non-religious person can be considerate of the religious person .... but, that consideration isn't returned.

I'm not religious at all but my boyfriend is a believer.
His family is pretty religious and I feel like he wants to be
as religious as them, but he's just not.

I'm totally fine with the level of religion that he accepts. But more often then I want to, I have to make it very clear that I don't
share his views. He doesn't actively try to convert me, but it irks me when he tries to bestow
God and religion on me and my views knowing full well i aint like that. For example, during
a discussion about something metaphysical/religious he'll casually say "God is in me, and you and all of us."
As if my atheism is irrelevant to the discussion. And I have to tell him "God is not in me, he's in you. Ur the believer, not me."

So there's that...

I won't call myself religious because I pick and choose what I wanna follow out of religion. Having said that, I'll call myself spiritual. I have dated someone who wasn't spiritual/religious and it was difficult because he tried to impose his beliefs on me. The issue I suppose wasn't of religion or my religious beliefs, it was of lifestyle. His lifestyle was very different from mine and that's why we didn't get along.

I would definitely date someone who isn't as spiritual as me as long as they don't force their beliefs on me and I won't on them. I personally don't impose my beliefs on anyone because I live by "live and let live" philosophy, but I find that my non-religious partners try to infringe on my beliefs. I personally think that a religious person's lifestyle (not so much the beliefs) tend to clash with a non religious person's and that becomes the issue.

Posted by Huldra
I was married to one. Fuck that.

i bet.

And the same would be for politics, also .... there's no way I could handle being with a person who wasn't politically like-minded.

Posted by elllesque
this is a hard question.

my answer....yes, of course, why wouldn't I?

however, they would not be able to date *me*.

I am not one who will change their beliefs for a partner, family, friends, etc....... I will respect theirs but I will not change mine. I expect the respect to be shared both ways.

......and I'm going to remind them every three days where the moon is....that my neptune is in the 1st house and that is why this movie is making me cry.....and I was pissy yesterday because venus in the 12th is feeling moody today......the table settings match the seasons because of my venus in libra and my mars in scorpio needs the bondage play from time to time......

I want to do all of that ^^^^^ without being made fun of or condemned to hell.

Yes, all of this.

As long as we fuck
Why not

Posted by SquirrelFromTheNuthouse

Posted by justagirl
@SquirrelFromTheNuthouse

No they didn't clash. I'm the not so religious one, maybe that is why. i am pretty accepting of others and their views/faith. I do believe in something greater than myself, a high power, god/god's, whatever label people want to place on it.

I was raised methodist/baptist: mom followed one, father the other. We were raised to follow what felt right to us, went to church every Sunday but once old enough we got to decide it we wanted to continue attending.

So you already have a Christian background and the culture isn't so different to your own to start with. Right?

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I don't get what you are tryin to get at tbh....

no they didn't clash was a pretty straight forward answer.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by Gobshite
In the short-term, yes, but for a long-term relationship, no.

The more serious the relationship becomes, the more the differences in faith becomes an issue.

With that said, I'd prefer to be with someone who isn't religious.

You're always hitting on me. Don't make me get a restraining order, Gobby!

Once I'm finished with Charlie Sheen, we can talk this through...

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LOL

Since starting community theatre 6 years ago I've met a lot of my towns Christians because they do theatre, I love the majority of them even though they are snooty and take pity on me even though I'm going to hell.

Till one of them wrote on Facebook "why should we change our marriage system to suit gay people when they choose to be gay? Why should we change the sanctity of marriage so a minority can have our religious ceremony"...at first I was cute about it and was gonna let it slide "the post was huge and incredibly offensive and I thought he was my friend even knowing I was gay, let me tell you I was gonna let it slide till something inside me said "not this time" and I let him have it.

They are horrible rotten people and I want to exclude them from my life but it's such a shame

We were at an after party for a show we did in the theatre and my friend was drunk and making out with the band conductor who is married, I'm looking everywhere for her and I find her in the room surrounded by religious women and they are praying for her and making her feel like shit and she's drunk as fuck and crying while the conductor is outside with everyone laughing, so I picked her up and left the party and let him have it while I left, was quite spectacular, we get the best gossip in theatre