Taurus mind games, interested or just a cheat?

Please help!!! I'm seeing this Taurus ex (guy) I'm Capricorn female. So he's my coworker and we have had a pretty good relationship...I'm holding back he was amazing to begin with, very loving, shy, confident always knew what he wanted and nobody loves sex more than a taur. So things got out of hand when another coworker found out we were together. Word got out but I didn't want him or myself losing our jobs so I broke it off. I explained to him why but pretended I had moved on and so did he. So a year went by and we broke off communication. We would see eachother and not have any conversations whatsoever although deep down I loved him so much still but he's so good at hiding his emotions I had no clue he still felt the same way until after coming back from vacation he finally talked to me and expressed his feelings for me soo deeply I could see it in his eyes. Prior to that he totally replaced me as friend with with another. I told him how I felt before he backed off a bit and then he came back and acted as if all was well with the world. We tried to stay away from eachother but the more we stayed away the more the intense the passion grew and we ended up having sex multiple times. Now he's being distant again, I've texted him, called him and even find silly excuses to see him because I thought I might have hurt him in some way or was I too strong— Especially when he's the one who asked me to say how I truly feel about him. He contacts me when he feels like and communicates with everyone but me. I'm so confused. Somedays when I'm around him he keeps staring at me other times he pretends to be soo busy and like he doesn't want me around him. Then tells me I'm playing mind games....how am I? — When I've tried to keep in touch with you? Could it be that he's with that other friend, not interested or fighting his feelings? Because I'm getting ready to walk away for good this time. I can't be the one always intimating contact. Or should I go radio silent and see what he does before completely leaving due to me not knowing exactly what he wants?

He’s keeping a chill profile at work cause that’s why you freaked out and called it quits the first time. What is it you want aside from drama?

If I was you..change your ringtone to Sisqo - Thong Song..I'm a Taurus and I endorse this message.

Waste no more time with this.

So do you want to date him or not?

doesn't sound like mind games as much as miscommunication....you should just be as direct as possible, put it all out there - everything you are saying here....that way, if you choose to walk away, you can do it without regret....

"doesn't sound like mind games as much as miscommunication....you should just be as direct as possible, put it all out there - everything you are saying here....that way, if you choose to walk away, you can do it without regret...."



It sure was, however I don't think we will have our happy ending. Too much to risk but I do love him so much that my heart feels as if its coming out of my chest the minute I see him walking close by.

Posted by earlorg16
So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

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He’s keeping a chill profile at work cause that’s why you freaked out and called it quits the first time. What is it you want aside from drama?

I understand but it hurts to have been so close and intimate with someone just to watch them live as if the past had never happened. I have real feelings for this man.

Posted by Impulsv
YOU are playing games

He told you he had feeling n you said.......

I have told him how I felt about him. I have told him that I love him. I admit I did play like I didn't care he avoided me but that's only because I was hurt that he could really careless about me.

classic Capricorn, always more concerned with keeping It cool, never just fall into what they want.

your too confusing you make It hard for him to trust the situation he is in with you.

it make him uncomfortable there for he probably is just realizing its not going to work....

my best friend is a cap.

I am with a Taurus sun and moon

you might have blown your chance.

yes, i would agree. it sounds like you've shown him he can't trust you with his feelings.

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Posted by earlorg16
So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

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It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy.

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

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As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him.

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

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What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

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See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

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Did you ask him if he's dating that other girl?

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Posted by earlorg16
So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

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you deal with it by accepting the reality of the situation; he likes you for sex only. either you can continue on that path or you don't.

he has made his choice and now it is time to make yours.

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

you deal with it by accepting the reality of the situation; he likes you for sex only. either you can continue on that path or you don't.

he has made his choice and now it is time to make yours.

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Time for me to drop him. For good! It hurts like shit though. Part of me wants revenge but I Know he'll come back.

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Posted by earlorg16
So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

Did you ask him if he's dating that other girl?

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I have once he denied it. Even if I did again he'd deny it again.

Regardlass of who did what.

Exes are exes for a reason.

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Posted by earlorg16
So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

Did you ask him if he's dating that other girl?

I have once he denied it. Even if I did again he'd deny it again.

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It seems like at this point, he knows that he can get sex from you and is still affected by your past actions so he's not really investing in it fully. Best to just move on.

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

you deal with it by accepting the reality of the situation; he likes you for sex only. either you can continue on that path or you don't.

he has made his choice and now it is time to make yours.

Time for me to drop him. For good! It hurts like shit though. Part of me wants revenge but I Know he'll come back.

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maybe this will help. being with a man who truly loves you and wants to be with you is amazing. you can see it in his eyes. it's the smile that creeps across his face when he looks at you or in the way he hugs you tightly almost like his life depends upon it and you know there is not a single woman on this earth who can top you in his eyes. he'll do anything to make you smile; whether that is shower you with gifts, make you laugh when you feel sad or create amazing memories for you to both share.

don't short change yourself. expect better. don't settle for anything less than the best that life has for you.

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So do you want to date him or not?

Yes I do but....its complicated.

It's really not that complicated. If you like him, you pursue it. Just talk to the guy. click to expand

As an update i did talk to him and sadly ended up having sex with him now he pretends to not know me until the day is almost out. Its intentional because he would literally talk to everyone but me and he has this super special tight bond with another coworker of mine (female), I think he likes her a lot i could be wrong but i'm capri. Thinking this is too much stress for me and its time for me to distance myself completely from him. click to expand

What did he say to you and why did you sleep with him?

See this man is playing with my heart. I have given him my time, I have told and showed him that I loved him but he will pretend I don't exist plus I feel like i'm the only one trying to connect with him. In addition, i think he's sleeping with another girl i'm not sure but they're soo close, they eat together, stay back together and the first person he calls when he gets to work is her. They spend hours laughing together and he shows so much concern for her. Yet on another breath he's telling me he has feelings for me then moves on to say well maybe we could be good friends no matter where in life I would choose to go to he can come visit. I feel like I can't trust him with my heart and really he's playing games with me. I gave him his time to think about what he wanted and let him have his space with work but emotionally he's never here for me like he once was and he only seems to know me when he wants sex. After our last discussion and me missing him soo much for soo long i thought the way he expressed his feelings towards me was real and i fell in the moment and we made love. Real sensual burning deep love and during that he asked me if I loved him....my response "You know that".

Right after that he has totally avoided me and so I started avoiding him. When he realized this he decided to have a conversation and said i know i haven't been there for you while you've been there for me then thanks me......why does he want to thank me now — because he sees i'm about to give up on him?? I'm not cut out for the games and manipulations. Its hard to tell if his words are real because his actions seem different. So I'm planning on going to China for a week, clear my mind off this guy, keep my phone off and let him and his games be. My feelings are real and i have expressed it to him many times. But problem is when i get back he'll still be there...how do i deal with that? It's tearing me apart.

Did you ask him if he's dating that other girl?

I have once he denied it. Even if I did again he'd deny it again.

It seems like at this point, he knows that he can get sex from you and is still affected by your past actions so he's not really investing in it fully. Best to just move on.

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I agree with this.

A Taurus can teach a Cap a lesson or two about how we come across.

I dealt with this with a Taurus, and they will keep coming back around because a connection really is there, but once they've lost trust then it's hard to gain it back no matter what you do. You really might as well move on.

He's playing games to hurt you, and also to see how you really feel since he cant trust your words or actions.

He will come back around, but trust that it will never be how it initially was and deep down he will most likely never forgive you. Really, save yourself and move on.

Should I block him off my social medias? I'm really confused as to how I should move on from here. At this point I'm dying to move on with my life and forget about him. Damn it! never get in an office affair with a co-worker. Advise—

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Should I block him off my social medias? I'm really confused as to how I should move on from here. At this point I'm dying to move on with my life and forget about him. Damn it! never get in an office affair with a co-worker. Advise—

Don't take impulsive actions just because.

Blocking him won't make the feelings go away.

I don't think there's any quick way to do it, besides put in your mind it won't work.

Then deal and move forward one step at a time from there.