AriesJo
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Would you pay to take a girl on vacation expecting not to have sex?
She told you she doesn’t want a boyfriend yet she wants to go on an expensive vacation with you that you pay for. She gets what she wants, but you don’t seem to get anything at all from this deal. She’s using you. She’s not acting like a girlfriend or friend. You’re just hoping it turns into something more.
First of all never give up any money or gifts if she never gave up any goods.
You saw her naked, you snuggled with her naked but you didn't even get a handy?
Are you being used? Sure.. but it seems with all the signs you want to be used.
She has a bi friend she accused of cheating and you didn't suggest a threesome?
Opportunities are missed on you.
You saw her naked, you snuggled with her naked but you didn't even get a handy?
Are you being used? Sure.. but it seems with all the signs you want to be used.
She has a bi friend she accused of cheating and you didn't suggest a threesome?
Opportunities are missed on you.
No.
I’ve had threesome before, and they aren’t my thing. My ex was a scorpio and the Aries/scorpio combination is just all about sex and nothing else. We had the sex but no other connection and I felt lost, we both tried to force it into more. She had hot friends and she wanted me to sleep with them. Sex to me is now a little messed up.
Her best friend is Bi but she is definitely not attractive, I would not sleep with her. Her ex is definitely not attractive either.
Like I say, it feels like we are friends who date. It feels like friends but maybe slightly more. She uses the word “our date” a lot. They are dates, you can go with friends for food but not nice restaurants, in my opinion.
I’ve never had a girlfriend pay for any part of a vacation my whole life, im late thirties now. And like I said, she doesn’t have much money. Very rare too that a woman has ever paid for half of dinner. A few girls buy me drinks but that is very rare too, even with my friend girls. Work colleague girls buy loads of drinks though.
The other thing is, how many times does a women say she doesn’t want a boyfriend and end up getting a boyfriend?
I always go for women who say they don’t want a boyfriend, it shows more independence. I meet a lot of other women at my age desperate to have kids, or desperate for a guy to help raise their existing kids. I’m not having it. They are easy for sex, but I don’t want it with them. If I girl says she doesn’t want a boyfriend, then I usually end up going out with them. You guys must have had that before?
Women don’t know what they want, we all know this. Men too, I’ve said I don’t want a girlfriend, I meant it at the start when I told her. And actually 100% honest here, I don’t want her now as a girlfriend either.
They seem big fake words to me now. plus I think people should be free. And I’m not bothered about sex either really, I can get sex easy with random women, which I was doing after my ex. I just haven’t had any connection with anyone. And I have loads of friend girls too, who have tried to sleep with me, but they are like my best friends who I rely on as friends. I’ve asked them and they’ve said they would go away with me, but they are more desperate for a man, or one of them has a boyfriend.. so you see I think the word “boyfriend” is fake in most cases.
But this girl is not a friend like that, and she’s not someone I want as a girlfriend, I don’t want her to have me as her boyfriend. But this makes sense to me. I guess maybe it would just be simpler if we were having sex, like FWB, not a couple, then I could easily pay for the vacation and not feel taken advantage of. But I don’t have that. Hmmz maybe I do just pay for it, I’m getting what I want that way. I’m confused though. I think it’s all about the give and take and it feels off balance, I don’t need sex from her but would like her to give something, I guess I get her company which I really enjoy. But still the balance is off.
Her best friend is Bi but she is definitely not attractive, I would not sleep with her. Her ex is definitely not attractive either.
Like I say, it feels like we are friends who date. It feels like friends but maybe slightly more. She uses the word “our date” a lot. They are dates, you can go with friends for food but not nice restaurants, in my opinion.
I’ve never had a girlfriend pay for any part of a vacation my whole life, im late thirties now. And like I said, she doesn’t have much money. Very rare too that a woman has ever paid for half of dinner. A few girls buy me drinks but that is very rare too, even with my friend girls. Work colleague girls buy loads of drinks though.
The other thing is, how many times does a women say she doesn’t want a boyfriend and end up getting a boyfriend?
I always go for women who say they don’t want a boyfriend, it shows more independence. I meet a lot of other women at my age desperate to have kids, or desperate for a guy to help raise their existing kids. I’m not having it. They are easy for sex, but I don’t want it with them. If I girl says she doesn’t want a boyfriend, then I usually end up going out with them. You guys must have had that before?
Women don’t know what they want, we all know this. Men too, I’ve said I don’t want a girlfriend, I meant it at the start when I told her. And actually 100% honest here, I don’t want her now as a girlfriend either.
They seem big fake words to me now. plus I think people should be free. And I’m not bothered about sex either really, I can get sex easy with random women, which I was doing after my ex. I just haven’t had any connection with anyone. And I have loads of friend girls too, who have tried to sleep with me, but they are like my best friends who I rely on as friends. I’ve asked them and they’ve said they would go away with me, but they are more desperate for a man, or one of them has a boyfriend.. so you see I think the word “boyfriend” is fake in most cases.
But this girl is not a friend like that, and she’s not someone I want as a girlfriend, I don’t want her to have me as her boyfriend. But this makes sense to me. I guess maybe it would just be simpler if we were having sex, like FWB, not a couple, then I could easily pay for the vacation and not feel taken advantage of. But I don’t have that. Hmmz maybe I do just pay for it, I’m getting what I want that way. I’m confused though. I think it’s all about the give and take and it feels off balance, I don’t need sex from her but would like her to give something, I guess I get her company which I really enjoy. But still the balance is off.
Posted by SlipperySlope
Shit, if you ain't tryna fuck then I'm down for a free vaycay. Guarantee I'll be better company than this gold digging bitch and I'll be a mediocre wing man when you need it, but no promises because I'm pretty hopeless myself. Not gonna run off with some local hunk either like she is. Shit bro we could have so much fun No homo.
Man, to be honest, I know this is true
My plan is to talk to her about it, deal or no deal sort of thing
Dude....point blank period....she is using you!
She sees someone who is gullible asf and is taking advantage of that fact. Wants to go on an expensive vacay with you.....as long as you pay tho...right?! .LOFuckingL. I bet if you suggest she pay half...you'll never hear from her again.
Learn to say NO and stop spending money and wasting your time with these chicks you seem to attract. You would think after your last fucked up relationship...you'd be more cautious but nope.
In that case...I have a bridge to sell you and I'm also a Nigerian Prince!
She sees someone who is gullible asf and is taking advantage of that fact. Wants to go on an expensive vacay with you.....as long as you pay tho...right?! .LOFuckingL. I bet if you suggest she pay half...you'll never hear from her again.
Learn to say NO and stop spending money and wasting your time with these chicks you seem to attract. You would think after your last fucked up relationship...you'd be more cautious but nope.
In that case...I have a bridge to sell you and I'm also a Nigerian Prince!
Thanks guys, so much. I think you are right. I don’t know her well enough to know if I want her as a GF either, I’m just feeling a bit of pressure because of the vacation situation. And I was planning to go away by myself anyway.
You are totally right about jumping from one toxic relationship to another. It’s the story of my life. It’s how I started things with her, and maybe things just moved too quickly now. Thank you so much for your advice.
Posted by Dreamy88Posted by LostinmyMind11
Dude....point blank period....she is using you!
She sees someone who is gullible asf and is taking advantage of that fact. Wants to go on an expensive vacay with you.....as long as you pay tho...right?! .LOFuckingL. I bet if you suggest she pay half...you'll never hear from her again.
Learn to say NO and stop spending money and wasting your time with these chicks you seem to attract. You would think after your last fucked up relationship...you'd be more cautious but nope.
In that case...I have a bridge to sell you and I'm also a Nigerian Prince!
Wait so about this bridge.... I’m listeningclick to expand
You definitely want to act fast...this Bridge will not last. The offers are just flying in. Once you are the proud owner...you can erect tollbooths and you'll make 10x the amount of money that I'm selling it for. It can be yours for the low low price of an exotic vacation that you pay for and take me on plus all the we are just friends...I don't want a boyfriend but I may be a lesbian dinners and drinks plus 1 million dollars...no sex tho 🤷🏼♀️
She sounds exactly like my Pisces/Leo moon girl friend- minus the coke nose.
She will use up all your money and have tons of fun doing it and you will get nowhere because unfortunately you’re just a nice guy.
She will use up all your money and have tons of fun doing it and you will get nowhere because unfortunately you’re just a nice guy.
There is something about you that SCREAMS *sucker*, by any means necessary 🤦
If you DON'T see the pattern, you are headed down a road that REPEATS itself.
But, let me guess: You thought it was WISE to share with this new user, JUST HOW MUCH the old user USED YOU?.?. 🤦
If you DON'T see the pattern, you are headed down a road that REPEATS itself.
But, let me guess: You thought it was WISE to share with this new user, JUST HOW MUCH the old user USED YOU?.?. 🤦
Posted by 7s
You got friend zoned hard!! The fact that you're oblivious to it is super sad. I'm sorry but this all says more about you than it does her.
I keep thinking "what kind of guy does that?" I know what type of woman she is lol
I mean she got naked when she asked you about the vacay and had you snuggle her naked cause she's manipulating you.
She knows you want it but will never get it because you can't.
Bro did you get wood while laying next to her naked? And you didn't try anything?! I really hope you're trolling cause that's sad.
And I'll bet she's probably not even that attractive.
Yep. He's learning the hard way. So sad.
Jo, what is this girl's sun, moon, mars, venus placements?
Wow ok so I’m totally not feeling what everyone else is saying because how can she be using you when she’s been very clear on what she wants and doesn’t want from you? She’s been very upfront and you still have expectations of her even tho she has told you flat out it’s not what she wants.
There are no shoulds and shouldn’ts. Everyone has different boundaries, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, etc
You have stated yours
“I will gladly pay for everything provided you have sex with me”
She has stated she does not want to have sex with you. Which also I don’t think has anything to do with you. She has an issue with men. Probably some daddy issues or something that she needs to work through. In fact it sounds like she made need a relationship without the sex to know that you care about her for her. Not saying that this is right or wrong, it may not even be true but I’m just guessing. If everyone is throwing themselves out there to her because of her looks, she may think that’s all anyone cares about so she’s cautious.
Neither one of you are wrong in this situation except she has been clear about what she wants and you haven’t 🤷🏻♀️ I’m not trying to be rude friend I just think if you clearly state your conditions, it will save you both a lot of time and confusion so good luck 🙂
There are no shoulds and shouldn’ts. Everyone has different boundaries, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, etc
You have stated yours
“I will gladly pay for everything provided you have sex with me”
She has stated she does not want to have sex with you. Which also I don’t think has anything to do with you. She has an issue with men. Probably some daddy issues or something that she needs to work through. In fact it sounds like she made need a relationship without the sex to know that you care about her for her. Not saying that this is right or wrong, it may not even be true but I’m just guessing. If everyone is throwing themselves out there to her because of her looks, she may think that’s all anyone cares about so she’s cautious.
Neither one of you are wrong in this situation except she has been clear about what she wants and you haven’t 🤷🏻♀️ I’m not trying to be rude friend I just think if you clearly state your conditions, it will save you both a lot of time and confusion so good luck 🙂
Posted by HearttofTopazz
“I always go for women who say they don’t want a boyfriend, it shows more independence.“
Mmkay
Hahaha I know right, that’s problem number 1 right there
TL;DR but isn't it easier to just get yourself another prostitute?
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
Posted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
its throwing him off that she's not acting like the other prostitutes...
Posted by MetatronPosted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
its throwing him off that she's not acting like the other prostitutes...click to expand
Lol
If a friend of mine wanted to take me on a trip and offered to pay for it, I wouldn't say no.... but.... if the friend was a guy who I knew had feelings for me and I felt that it was a way for him to try and get in my pants...I would probably say no...or ask if we were going to have seperate rooms or if the room had 2 beds. I dunno. I'd have to be good friends with him and I'd probably offer to pay for some things like dinner or something.
It wouldn't be a taking advantage thing... for me... but... I do know there are women out there who do take advantage of men like this and it is wrong and sad.
However, some men do put themselves in this position and really like someone else said, it is an equal transaction.
It is all circumstantial. She sounds like a user tho. I would suggest OP stay away from her. Just because she is hot does not make her a good person who you should waste your time on.... but I guess if you are that shallow....then you deserve her.
It wouldn't be a taking advantage thing... for me... but... I do know there are women out there who do take advantage of men like this and it is wrong and sad.
However, some men do put themselves in this position and really like someone else said, it is an equal transaction.
It is all circumstantial. She sounds like a user tho. I would suggest OP stay away from her. Just because she is hot does not make her a good person who you should waste your time on.... but I guess if you are that shallow....then you deserve her.
Posted by ClassyAquariusPosted by Brittnie
Wow ok so I’m totally not feeling what everyone else is saying because how can she be using you when she’s been very clear on what she wants and doesn’t want from you? She’s been very upfront and you still have expectations of her even tho she has told you flat out it’s not what she wants.
There are no shoulds and shouldn’ts. Everyone has different boundaries, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, etc
You have stated yours
“I will gladly pay for everything provided you have sex with me”
She has stated she does not want to have sex with you. Which also I don’t think has anything to do with you. She has an issue with men. Probably some daddy issues or something that she needs to work through. In fact it sounds like she made need a relationship without the sex to know that you care about her for her. Not saying that this is right or wrong, it may not even be true but I’m just guessing. If everyone is throwing themselves out there to her because of her looks, she may think that’s all anyone cares about so she’s cautious.
Neither one of you are wrong in this situation except she has been clear about what she wants and you haven’t 🤷🏻♀️ I’m not trying to be rude friend I just think if you clearly state your conditions, it will save you both a lot of time and confusion so good luck 🙂
I think you missed part where she is friend with him, he is paying for everything, he tried to kiss her and she said no. But at the same time she is having sex and feel cheated by some girl.
No, I didn’t miss that. He also stated he was telling himself he was happy to do all those things because he likes spending time with her but I think he’s trying to talk himself into wanting to because he will also get sex in the end which I don’t think is accurate.
Tell me do you go the same as she, dating guy, he is paying for everything but you are having sex with someone else? I'm sure you don't.
You don’t know for sure if she is sleeping with that woman tho I agree what she said is weird and he needs to have dialog with her about it. Also no, I do not do that. I am actually the opposite. I enjoy paying for others stuff. But that’s where I am coming from. I wouldn’t pay if I didn’t actually enjoy it and my point is that he shouldn’t either.
Don't get me wrong, because I would agree with you if she would say she doesn't want relationship but at the same time wouldn't say that she feels cheated by other person. I'm thinking about how fucked up she must be saing she doesn't want anything but never complained about him paying for everything. It's hipocritical.
He is volunteering to pay for everything and wants sex in return.
In my mind he’s just as guilty as she is
Their whole relationship is a transaction. That’s it.click to expand
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
I remember his last girlfriend who acted like a prostitute, but he kept trying to make her his girlfriend.
It's not even a who's right or wrong thing. It's just kind of nonsensical to me.click to expand
Funny that his last relationship was about sex and this one is lack there of.
So when are you gonna go on vacation and where are you going?
She sounds like a beach kind of girl to me.
Especially with winter here, she would want somewhere fun and tropical with lots of free flowing drinks drinks - at your expense, of course- and other guys so she can have fun and talk to people and get attention., relax, get her tan on, go out at night, and then do it all over again.
She sounds like a beach kind of girl to me.
Especially with winter here, she would want somewhere fun and tropical with lots of free flowing drinks drinks - at your expense, of course- and other guys so she can have fun and talk to people and get attention., relax, get her tan on, go out at night, and then do it all over again.
Stop wasting your time on this woman. Save your money on a "7" that wants to be with you rather than a "12" who just wants a free ride
Posted by SeaLion
If a friend of mine wanted to take me on a trip and offered to pay for it, I wouldn't say no.... but.... if the friend was a guy who I knew had feelings for me and I felt that it was a way for him to try and get in my pants...I would probably say no...or ask if we were going to have seperate rooms or if the room had 2 beds. I dunno. I'd have to be good friends with him and I'd probably offer to pay for some things like dinner or something.
It wouldn't be a taking advantage thing... for me... but... I do know there are women out there who do take advantage of men like this and it is wrong and sad.
However, some men do put themselves in this position and really like someone else said, it is an equal transaction.
It is all circumstantial. She sounds like a user tho. I would suggest OP stay away from her. Just because she is hot does not make her a good person who you should waste your time on.... but I guess if you are that shallow....then you deserve her.
Yea it definitely murky water on this side of DXP 😂
I had a guy friend offer to take me on a trip and I agreed. He ended up not going but you shouldn’t offer if you don’t want to pay and if you have expectations you should vocalize them. I woulda been fucked (not literally) if my guy friend said “ok we’re here, have sex with me now” lmao
I didn’t sign up for that pal. 🚫
Jo! You know it all and you will do what you want.
Just don’t be a fool. Bitch is evil.
Just don’t be a fool. Bitch is evil.
Posted by 7sPosted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
you've clearly been the girl in this scenarioclick to expand
Which parts exactly? All of it? Tell me my story lol
Posted by 7sPosted by Brittnie
Wow ok so I’m totally not feeling what everyone else is saying because how can she be using you when she’s been very clear on what she wants and doesn’t want from you? She’s been very upfront and you still have expectations of her even tho she has told you flat out it’s not what she wants.
There are no shoulds and shouldn’ts. Everyone has different boundaries, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, etc
You have stated yours
“I will gladly pay for everything provided you have sex with me”
She has stated she does not want to have sex with you. Which also I don’t think has anything to do with you. She has an issue with men. Probably some daddy issues or something that she needs to work through. In fact it sounds like she made need a relationship without the sex to know that you care about her for her. Not saying that this is right or wrong, it may not even be true but I’m just guessing. If everyone is throwing themselves out there to her because of her looks, she may think that’s all anyone cares about so she’s cautious.
Neither one of you are wrong in this situation except she has been clear about what she wants and you haven’t 🤷🏻♀️ I’m not trying to be rude friend I just think if you clearly state your conditions, it will save you both a lot of time and confusion so good luck 🙂
There's clearly a malfunction on both sides but she is definitely manipulating him! Stringing him along just to make him think there's hope.
"Our date." And getting naked only to have him snuggle her naked LMAO. dude that's just diabolical and mean.
She only did that for false and she comes back to say there will be no sex on the trip. Like wtf?!click to expand
They are manipulating each other. A lot of us agree their relationship is messed up.
Posted by AriesJo
Hi, I’m stuck.
Hi Stuck, I'm Dazed.
Quick question OP..
Are you opposed to having sex with a man? Asking for a friend of course.
Are you opposed to having sex with a man? Asking for a friend of course.
Posted by 7sPosted by sweetpea2977Posted by 7s
You got friend zoned hard!! The fact that you're oblivious to it is super sad. I'm sorry but this all says more about you than it does her.
I keep thinking "what kind of guy does that?" I know what type of woman she is lol
I mean she got naked when she asked you about the vacay and had you snuggle her naked cause she's manipulating you.
She knows you want it but will never get it because you can't.
Bro did you get wood while laying next to her naked? And you didn't try anything?! I really hope you're trolling cause that's sad.
And I'll bet she's probably not even that attractive.
Yep. He's learning the hard way. So sad.
I'm hoping it's a troll. It is, right?click to expand
Hoping along w you.
Posted by Deedee75
Stop wasting your time on this woman. Save your money on a "7" that wants to be with you rather than a "12" who just wants a free ride
Right! Everything that glitters Isn't gold. She sounds like brass 🤷
Posted by 7sPosted by BrittniePosted by 7sPosted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
you've clearly been the girl in this scenario
Which parts exactly? All of it? Tell me my story lol
if I were to put a face to the woman op is describing it would be the one in your profile. Mommy or daddy issues. Broken goods. Comes off as a free spirit. No clear sense of direction. Down for anything. Man, woman or both. Definitely not a 12. No clear sense of boundaries. Thin line between ethics and moral etc etcclick to expand
I would agree I’m not a 12 but you probably aren’t either so it’s ok.
Mommy and daddy issues, we all have them, next
No clear sense of boundaries. A lot of what you mentioned could be said for OP. Probably why they were a match to each other. He could have left at any point and he chose not to.
I wouldn’t lay next to a man naked tho lol that was weird and I don’t get it.
Definitely triggered you so you must have been similar to OP in the past I assume? I won’t accuse you of being him because I will not stoop as low as you and the truth is that I don’t know you and you don’t know me.
Eh I won’t give in anymore while you try to personally attack me because I triggered you but I wish you the best 🙂
Posted by AriesJo
Thanks guys, so much. I think you are right. I don’t know her well enough to know if I want her as a GF either, I’m just feeling a bit of pressure because of the vacation situation. And I was planning to go away by myself anyway.
You are totally right about jumping from one toxic relationship to another. It’s the story of my life. It’s how I started things with her, and maybe things just moved too quickly now. Thank you so much for your advice.
If you want her company and don't mind paying for it with no sex, then it's all good. You will still have fun. But if it's the actual no sex that you are worried about, then I agree, you'd be better off going alone and getting a random hook up.
Seems like you're the type that just wants some eye candy on your arm, for everyone to see, and she's the type to give it to you.
There's nothing wrong with that. Your money will be well spent.
You can sleep with her naked each night and then jack off in the shower each morning.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AriesJo
Thanks guys, so much. I think you are right. I don’t know her well enough to know if I want her as a GF either, I’m just feeling a bit of pressure because of the vacation situation. And I was planning to go away by myself anyway.
You are totally right about jumping from one toxic relationship to another. It’s the story of my life. It’s how I started things with her, and maybe things just moved too quickly now. Thank you so much for your advice.
If you want her company and don't mind paying for it with no sex, then it's all good. You will still have fun. But if it's the actual no sex that you are worried about, then I agree, you'd be better off going alone and getting a random hook up.
Seems like you're the type that just wants some eye candy on your arm, for everyone to see, and she's the type to give it to you.
There's nothing wrong with that. Your money will be well spent.
You can sleep with her naked each night and then jack off in the shower each morning.click to expand
Or jerk off in the bed while you cuddle her naked body.
Posted by _DazedPosted by saggurl88Posted by AriesJo
Thanks guys, so much. I think you are right. I don’t know her well enough to know if I want her as a GF either, I’m just feeling a bit of pressure because of the vacation situation. And I was planning to go away by myself anyway.
You are totally right about jumping from one toxic relationship to another. It’s the story of my life. It’s how I started things with her, and maybe things just moved too quickly now. Thank you so much for your advice.
If you want her company and don't mind paying for it with no sex, then it's all good. You will still have fun. But if it's the actual no sex that you are worried about, then I agree, you'd be better off going alone and getting a random hook up.
Seems like you're the type that just wants some eye candy on your arm, for everyone to see, and she's the type to give it to you.
There's nothing wrong with that. Your money will be well spent.
You can sleep with her naked each night and then jack off in the shower each morning.
Or jerk off in the bed while you cuddle her naked body.click to expand
She probably would be disgusted by it lol That's why I didn't mention it.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AriesJo
Thanks guys, so much. I think you are right. I don’t know her well enough to know if I want her as a GF either, I’m just feeling a bit of pressure because of the vacation situation. And I was planning to go away by myself anyway.
You are totally right about jumping from one toxic relationship to another. It’s the story of my life. It’s how I started things with her, and maybe things just moved too quickly now. Thank you so much for your advice.
If you want her company and don't mind paying for it with no sex, then it's all good. You will still have fun. But if it's the actual no sex that you are worried about, then I agree, you'd be better off going alone and getting a random hook up.
Seems like you're the type that just wants some eye candy on your arm, for everyone to see, and she's the type to give it to you.
There's nothing wrong with that. Your money will be well spent.
You can sleep with her naked each night and then jack off in the shower each morning.click to expand
Exactly
Lmfao I just read the part about jacking off in the shower the next morning.
Too funny
*slaps knee*
Posted by BrittniePosted by saggurl88Posted by AriesJo
Thanks guys, so much. I think you are right. I don’t know her well enough to know if I want her as a GF either, I’m just feeling a bit of pressure because of the vacation situation. And I was planning to go away by myself anyway.
You are totally right about jumping from one toxic relationship to another. It’s the story of my life. It’s how I started things with her, and maybe things just moved too quickly now. Thank you so much for your advice.
If you want her company and don't mind paying for it with no sex, then it's all good. You will still have fun. But if it's the actual no sex that you are worried about, then I agree, you'd be better off going alone and getting a random hook up.
Seems like you're the type that just wants some eye candy on your arm, for everyone to see, and she's the type to give it to you.
There's nothing wrong with that. Your money will be well spent.
You can sleep with her naked each night and then jack off in the shower each morning.
Exactly
Lmfao I just read the part about jacking off in the shower the next morning.
Too funny
*slaps knee*click to expand
Well shit!! Now I want to go on vacation! Can we get a bidding war started??!! 😆
the good thing about drug addict hookers....if they don't put out, you can always motivate em with a line of coke, or escalate to their manager....
Posted by Black-Mamba
I just don't see anything wrong with what she's doing! At all. If a guy wants to take me on vacation I'll go. If i don't want sex, he best not touch me.
What happened to fun friendships where a man takes you out - I used to get free entrances everywhere - free dinners - I'll take a free beach trip too
Men act like those dollars in their pockets aren't burning up
Well can he get a courtesy dick suck at least? 😆
Posted by Metatron
the good thing about drug addict hookers....if they don't put out, you can always motivate em with a line of coke, or escalate to their manager....
Well she's a hooker who doesn't put out for money, so cocaine would be the obvious choice to get sex 😆
I think we figured out the problem!!!
Now the next issue would be where to get drugs while on vacation, so he can get that sex that he's not interested in.
off-topic but its a little sad that one day soon all of the great relationship advice we give to folks like this will be obsolete, and dxp will probably just be a tech support/trouble-shooting forum for malfunctioning sex robots...
Posted by Metatron
off-topic but its a little sad that one day soon all of the great relationship advice we give to folks like this will be obsolete, and dxp will probably just be a tech support/trouble-shooting forum for malfunctioning sex robots...
At least the sex robots will put out! lol
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-Mamba
I just don't see anything wrong with what she's doing! At all. If a guy wants to take me on vacation I'll go. If i don't want sex, he best not touch me.
What happened to fun friendships where a man takes you out - I used to get free entrances everywhere - free dinners - I'll take a free beach trip too
Men act like those dollars in their pockets aren't burning up
Well can he get a courtesy dick suck at least? 😆
No he fucking cant'.
Look if i had money and i had a guy whose personality i liked, but didn't want to fuck him, I'd take him along on a vacation too
people make life way too complicatedclick to expand
Exactly, I spoil people all the time. If I had the money, I would take you ALL on vacation and not have sex with any of you lmao. Society can’t tell people what they should think/want/need/do. All of those things are our business and no one else’s.
Posted by BrittniePosted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-Mamba
I just don't see anything wrong with what she's doing! At all. If a guy wants to take me on vacation I'll go. If i don't want sex, he best not touch me.
What happened to fun friendships where a man takes you out - I used to get free entrances everywhere - free dinners - I'll take a free beach trip too
Men act like those dollars in their pockets aren't burning up
Well can he get a courtesy dick suck at least? 😆
No he fucking cant'.
Look if i had money and i had a guy whose personality i liked, but didn't want to fuck him, I'd take him along on a vacation too
people make life way too complicated
Exactly, I spoil people all the time. If I had the money, I would take you ALL on vacation and not have sex with any of you lmao. Society can’t tell people what they should think/want/need/do. All of those things are our business and no one else’s.click to expand
I'm not paying for anyone unless they put out!
Posted by 7sPosted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
you've clearly been the girl in this scenarioclick to expand
How you gonna ask me if I was ignoring you yesterday and then you turn around and ignore me when I answered your question that I didn't even see. lol
Posted by TimonPosted by saggurl88Posted by BrittniePosted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-Mamba
I just don't see anything wrong with what she's doing! At all. If a guy wants to take me on vacation I'll go. If i don't want sex, he best not touch me.
What happened to fun friendships where a man takes you out - I used to get free entrances everywhere - free dinners - I'll take a free beach trip too
Men act like those dollars in their pockets aren't burning up
Well can he get a courtesy dick suck at least? 😆
No he fucking cant'.
Look if i had money and i had a guy whose personality i liked, but didn't want to fuck him, I'd take him along on a vacation too
people make life way too complicated
Exactly, I spoil people all the time. If I had the money, I would take you ALL on vacation and not have sex with any of you lmao. Society can’t tell people what they should think/want/need/do. All of those things are our business and no one else’s.
I'm not paying for anyone unless they put out!
😂🤣 LOL you're too funny.click to expand
I don't have time to flirt when it's not going anywhere, I save that for online! 😆
Posted by 7sPosted by saggurl88Posted by 7sPosted by Brittnie
I find it interesting that it’s ok he expects sex from her if they go on vacation and y’all dont see it as “using” but getting so worked up by the fact that he pays for everything.
They are both basically doing the same thing to each other but only one getting backlash 🤔
This whole “relationship” sounds like a transaction. No bueno
you've clearly been the girl in this scenario
How you gonna ask me if I was ignoring you yesterday and then you turn around and ignore me when I answered your question that I didn't even see. lol
lol my apologies. I thought I did reply to it tho. I guess cause I didn't really have much of an answer.
I haven't been home in like 3 months so I haven't given much thought to Halloween. I'm playing it by ear. You're chilling with friends?click to expand
No I'll be working all day today. My life is a bore 🙂
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