So..... how is dating supposed to work? Is asking to date exclusively too much to ask? Does a man not wanting to be exclusive indicate his feelings for you? No exclusivity= he's just not that into you?
Dating and exclusivity....are single women doomed?!
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsThat's what I think too smh. What I don't understand is where does this leave women? Are we to hold out for exclusivity? Deal with the guy that's honest ("I'm dating other people")? Assume that if the guy says he's not dating other people, he still is becasue that's how dating works now?!
If a man doesn’t want to be exclusive he probably thinks he has other options.
I’m monogamous for life. I don’t share.
I am super monogamous too, I can't share so I am having a really hard time 😢
It's all about being a good match IMO. But what do I know? I'm single asf.
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You always got to go for what you want and trust that you’ll find someone who is looking for the same thing.
Also I don’t think women are doomed. We set most of the rules in courtship.
Also I don’t think women are doomed. We set most of the rules in courtship.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by beebeeNPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
If a man doesn’t want to be exclusive he probably thinks he has other options.
I’m monogamous for life. I don’t share.
That's what I think too smh. What I don't understand is where does this leave women? Are we to hold out for exclusivity? Deal with the guy that's honest ("I'm dating other people")? Assume that if the guy says he's not dating other people, he still is becasue that's how dating works now?!
I am super monogamous too, I can't share so I am having a really hard time click to expand
Yeah, just have to discuss it and say what your expectations are upfront. Don’t get too down about it though, not all men keep their opinions open. Also don’t get physical until you get the commitment you want. click to expandclick to expand
It's hard to not get down about it 😢 But I have to learn from my mistakes, be upfront about what I want and don't get physical.
Yeah I don't get that either. I never date multiple people at once and it also stings me that someone I like might be seeing others as well and might be even sleeping with them—? 0_0
If he wants to date others he can do so, but without me. I'm gonna back off and watch. This isn't a competition, but again asking for exclusivity sounds too much for most of guys.
If he wants to date others he can do so, but without me. I'm gonna back off and watch. This isn't a competition, but again asking for exclusivity sounds too much for most of guys.
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
Posted by pisceanlovesThis is exaclty how I feel! I never date multiple people and once I like someone I can't handle them dating someone else. I told my friend and she told me that I need to get a grip, that's why I'm like damn, are my expectations too high? I definitely feel like it's a competition and it's not something I'm willing to be a part of
Yeah I don't get that either. I never date multiple people at once and it also stings me that someone I like might be seeing others as well and might be even sleeping with them—? 0_0
If he wants to date others he can do so, but without me. I'm gonna back off and watch. This isn't a competition, but again asking for exclusivity sounds too much for most of guys.
Posted by AerialViewI understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this—
Posted by Sagittaire_Hmmm how has this worked for you? Especially if you really like the person
It is not too much actually.. depending who you date lol
But I usually mirror.. if i sense or know you date others or still exploring your options then i will do the same too..
if i sense or know you're serious with me, then I will focus on you.
Posted by beebeeNPersonally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.Posted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expandclick to expand
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it.
Posted by AerialViewLmao OFCOURSE you believe this lol why don't you believe in monogamy—Posted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by Sagittaire_This definitely is true!Posted by beebeeNPosted by Sagittaire_
It is not too much actually.. depending who you date lol
But I usually mirror.. if i sense or know you date others or still exploring your options then i will do the same too..
if i sense or know you're serious with me, then I will focus on you.
Hmmm how has this worked for you? Especially if you really like the person click to expand
Does the person you really like also date others?
Then it is alright for you to do the same. To me, it works like some sort of protection.. so that I dont get my hopes up.. and I dont focus only on him.. so if everything burns then.. on to the next
But if things suddenly change in the future and he wants exclusivity... then focus on him.
plus I dont make someone a priority when all I am to him, is an option 😘 click to expandclick to expand
Posted by beebeeNDating is not about what the man wants. It’s about what YOU want.
So..... how is dating supposed to work? Is asking to date exclusively too much to ask? Does a man not wanting to be exclusive indicate his feelings for you? No exclusivity= he's just not that into you?
Once you change your mentality you’ll notice a difference in the caliber of men you attract.
Posted by AerialViewDoes your wife share your beliefs?Posted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by beebeeNIt's almost impossible to do it correctly.Posted by AerialViewPosted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expand
Lmao OFCOURSE you believe this lol why don't you believe in monogamy— click to expandclick to expand
Posted by AerialViewWhy?Posted by beebeeNPosted by AerialViewPosted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expand
Lmao OFCOURSE you believe this lol why don't you believe in monogamy— click to expand
It's almost impossible to do it correctly. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneGirrrrrl yesssssssssss get me together!!!! Lol this is SO true.Posted by beebeeN
So..... how is dating supposed to work? Is asking to date exclusively too much to ask? Does a man not wanting to be exclusive indicate his feelings for you? No exclusivity= he's just not that into you?
Dating is not about what the man wants. It’s about what YOU want.
Once you change your mentality you’ll notice a difference in the caliber of men you attract. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by beebeeNWhy what? I already answered to it.Posted by AerialViewPosted by beebeeNPosted by AerialViewPosted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expand
Lmao OFCOURSE you believe this lol why don't you believe in monogamy— click to expand
It's almost impossible to do it correctly. click to expand
Why? click to expandclick to expand
You should date different people too until both of you agree in being together. If he doesn’t agree you don’t have anything to lose.
Posted by beebeeNBecause he is married ?Posted by AerialViewPosted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expand
Lmao OFCOURSE you believe this lol why don't you believe in monogamy— click to expandclick to expand
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Posted by LadyNeptuneYes ma'am....''tis up to the womanPosted by beebeeN
So..... how is dating supposed to work? Is asking to date exclusively too much to ask? Does a man not wanting to be exclusive indicate his feelings for you? No exclusivity= he's just not that into you?
Dating is not about what the man wants. It’s about what YOU want.
Once you change your mentality you’ll notice a difference in the caliber of men you attract. click to expandclick to expand
State what you want ladies .....
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Posted by AerialViewSo many men out there, think about it as woman.
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
Posted by HaruukaDon't complain then 😜Posted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by HaruukaWe get to do the choosingPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expandclick to expand
Such as it is...
Lol
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Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
We get to do the choosing
Such as it is...
Lol
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Lol I remember when I made thread about me choosing between the sag and the gemini and they get very angry, I was just being honest with myself 🤷🏻♀️
Posted by AerialViewHave you ever seen me complaining? About this?Posted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
Don't complain then 😜 click to expandclick to expand
I always wanna be single 😅🤷🏻♀️
Posted by HaruukaNot you but women see it as deal breaker way more than men.Posted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
Don't complain then 😜 click to expand
Have you ever seen me complaining? About this?
I always wanna be single 😅🤷🏻♀️ click to expandclick to expand
Being single isn't healthy for your heart just saying 😜
Posted by AerialViewNo, it’s very healthy actually, I have been with my cancer ex husband for about 8 years, I marry very youngPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
Don't complain then 😜 click to expand
Have you ever seen me complaining? About this?
I always wanna be single 😅🤷🏻♀️ click to expand
Not you but women see it as deal breaker way more than men.
Being single isn't healthy for your heart just saying 😜 click to expandclick to expand
I really really wanna be single, and use the gemini for my need, as revenge for what he did
Loooool kidding 😭😂😂
Posted by HaruukaThat's not "single".Posted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
Don't complain then 😜 click to expand
Have you ever seen me complaining? About this?
I always wanna be single 😅🤷🏻♀️ click to expand
Not you but women see it as deal breaker way more than men.
Being single isn't healthy for your heart just saying 😜 click to expand
No, it’s very healthy actually, I have been with my cancer ex husband for about 8 years, I marry very young
I really really wanna be single, and use the gemini for my need, as revenge for what he did
Loooool kidding 😭😂😂
click to expandclick to expand
Posted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
Don't complain then 😜 click to expand
Have you ever seen me complaining? About this?
I always wanna be single 😅🤷🏻♀️ click to expand
Not you but women see it as deal breaker way more than men.
Being single isn't healthy for your heart just saying 😜 click to expand
No, it’s very healthy actually, I have been with my cancer ex husband for about 8 years, I marry very young
I really really wanna be single, and use the gemini for my need, as revenge for what he did
Loooool kidding 😭😂😂
click to expand
That's not "single". click to expandclick to expand
Nope.. women aren't doomed.
But IMO some women are delusional to believe that a man is going to be exclusive with them just because they're intimate. It's okay to not want to share but most women don't realize that 9 out of ten men are already talking to other women at the time he asked for your number.. so in reality you're the new b!!tch..
Therefore why give away your power (pumpum) before yall became exclusive?
Nothing worth having comes easy that goes for males and females..
But IMO some women are delusional to believe that a man is going to be exclusive with them just because they're intimate. It's okay to not want to share but most women don't realize that 9 out of ten men are already talking to other women at the time he asked for your number.. so in reality you're the new b!!tch..
Therefore why give away your power (pumpum) before yall became exclusive?
Nothing worth having comes easy that goes for males and females..
Posted by OCJackAerial view is married already.Posted by AerialView
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Because you aren't looking at it from a love perspective. You're just trying to get laid. You are following your testosterone impulse to mate, but are blind to the fact that you also have emotions just as much as any woman. No matter how strong the facade you put up to pretend like you aren't biologically wired to find a /set/ mate. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by OCJackAwful lot of assumptions your making there. That’s kinda your thing isn’t it 😏Posted by LadyNeptune
Aerial view is married already.
So he's a swinger/polygamous. Point is, he doesn't love his "wife". click to expandclick to expand
Posted by OCJackAssumption #1 doesn’t love his wifePosted by LadyNeptune
Awful lot of assumptions your making there. That’s kinda your thing isn’t it 😏
How? How is that even 1 assumption?
He doesn't believe in monogamy, which is impossible if he is monogamous. Because it'd be like believing the earth is flat while you're looking at it from outer space. Meanwhile, you can't love someone without monogamy, not romantically anyways. You can't say a person is special to you if you literally treat them exactly the same as you treat everybody else. It literally contradicts the definition of Special. click to expandclick to expand
Assumption #2 is cheating on his wife
Assumption #3 wife does believe in monogamy
Assumption #4 is a swinger or polyamorous
Posted by ufo+1Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
If a man doesn’t want to be exclusive he probably thinks he has other options.
I’m monogamous for life. I don’t share.
I pray you find a virgo she deserves the treatment click to expandclick to expand
Posted by OCJackYou gave it your allPosted by LadyNeptune
Assumption #1 doesn’t love his wife
No that's a fact. Polyamory is incompatible with Love.
Assumption #2 is cheating on his wife
No, even if it's consensual he still doesn't love his wife. In fact even more so if she would prefer monogamy but he has convinced her to let him sleep around. If she isn't monogamous either, then she doesn't love him either. It doesn't magically invert so that they both love each other cause they both are polyamorous.
Assumption #3 wife does believe in monogamy.
Again, if she doesn't, that just means they both don't love each other and are only together out of convenience or because of an unnecessary lie they both tell themselves and each other.
Assumption #4 is a swinger or polyamorous
Again, not possible. He doesn't believe in monogamy. Either he's polyamorous, or he's lying about what he believes. click to expandclick to expand
I think the reason us women get so anxious and worried and etc is that we wait to be picked/chosen by men and while all this deliberation happens on his end, tactics emerge which make it all artificial.
The way that worked for me and by work I mean minimum hassle and peace of mind..I get to pick men and not the other way around. They are on board or they are not end of.
The way that worked for me and by work I mean minimum hassle and peace of mind..I get to pick men and not the other way around. They are on board or they are not end of.
Yip.... No commitment = he's just not that into you... 😒
Posted by OCJackI HATE online dating and I don’t do it lol I met this person through a friendPosted by beebeeN
So..... how is dating supposed to work? Is asking to date exclusively too much to ask? Does a man not wanting to be exclusive indicate his feelings for you? No exclusivity= he's just not that into you?
Because, people who monogamously date don't date the same way casual daters do? If you're hooking up with people through an app, you are essentially casual dating already. Because you are casually picking someone, pretty much anyone, out. You don't know these people that well, you're supposed to have developed a friendship and some sort of connection before you ask someone out. That's "traditional dating" and the kind of dating the monogamists usually employ. If you use dating apps, you are subjecting yourself to masses of casual daters. That's just how things tend to be, these days. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by beebeeNMulti-dating has always been around since geez, I don't know how long. I think it was the 17th century (for wealthy young women), a group of guys would all gather to out do each other until a woman decided on one.
So..... how is dating supposed to work? Is asking to date exclusively too much to ask? Does a man not wanting to be exclusive indicate his feelings for you? No exclusivity= he's just not that into you?
In the 50/60's, it was more appropriate to multi-date and seriously inappropriate to "go steady" because it would ultimately lead to sex.
The 70's... well, we all know... free love.
In the 80's, multi-dating was seen as promiscuous... this is partly due to the "teen pregnancy crisis" and HIV.
I was brought up as a multi dater. And, continued to be one as I became an independent adult... no matter the social trend. It suits my personality and, as I stated, that's how I was brought up.
I want to get to know someone before deciding to be exclusive. I am fearful of confrontation required for a relationship break up so I prolong exclusivity as long as possible or until I am asked.
I certainly think it's extreme to say single women are doomed. Perhaps those desiring immediate exclusivity are... if age 20 - 35.
Hmmz don’t know if it’s already been said but kinda sounds like you are clingy? At what point do you usually want to be exclusive? Because it does matter what you say, it’s always more about how you say it.
I think the most important thing is to be whomever you want to be, regardless of current trends, societal beliefs, or what anyone says on here (including me) lol, unless it resonates with you. The moment you look outside yourself for the answers to what makes YOU tick, you're doing yourself a disservice. If it means being solo and not settling, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Other people don't make you whole. Believe me, you start owning your stuff and like-minded people will find you.
Posted by AerialViewPosted by beebeeNPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
I understand that, but there's soooo many men out here as well.
My question to you is where does that leave women?? And are we supposed to get in line with this— click to expand
Personally I don't believe in monogamy. It's an old product.
Yeah you should get in line and play the game 😜 deal with it. click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand
See, the problem with this is that a lot of men want to have their cake and eat it too. But when it comes to their women they don't hold the same belief. As long as you give your wife the same liberty as you expect from her it's cool...
I have no clue, that's why I don't date. Dating nowadays just seems to be a fake word for hook ups. I'd rather not, thanks
Posted by AerialViewNeither is being married.......lolPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialViewPosted by HaruukaPosted by AerialView
So many women out there. Think about that as a man.
So many men out there, think about it as woman. click to expand
Don't complain then 😜 click to expand
Have you ever seen me complaining? About this?
I always wanna be single 😅🤷🏻♀️ click to expand
Not you but women see it as deal breaker way more than men.
Being single isn't healthy for your heart just saying 😜 click to expandclick to expand
Single women = 😁
Single men = 😢
Awwwwww.....poor men
Single men = 😢
Awwwwww.....poor men
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