Posted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Posted by tiziani
I'm about to get engaged end of this month. Just wanted to sort out the living situation first. Having said that ours is not a typical marriage arrangement, which I don't think either of us would have been entirely satisfied with anyway to begin with. So as for the "institution" itself, I've no idea.
Posted by tiziani
I'm about to get engaged end of this month. Just wanted to sort out the living situation first. Having said that ours is not a typical marriage arrangement, which I don't think either of us would have been entirely satisfied with anyway to begin with. So as for the "institution" itself, I've no idea.
Posted by nikkistar
Been married once, really don't need to be married to the Cancer. However, HE wants to be married, and he likes the ring, so I will abide by what he wants. That piece of paper isn't the end all be all for me. I can be with him for life, without it. Marriage doesn't equate to longevity of a relationship.
And to be honest, I really don't see a need for an extravagant wedding. The wasting of money, to essentially entertain a bunch of folks, seems economically stupid. I'd be fine going to Vegas, putting on a nice little eggshell dress, and then just having fun the remaining time like a vacation. Hell, I wouldn't mind a justice of the peace doing it, and then spending money on a honeymoon instead.
I just don't see a purpose in NEEDING to be married.
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Can you elaborate on this. Why do you think you struggled to emotionally commit yourself? Did you both want different things? Marriage is supposed to be about more than love. After the infatuation and honeymoon phase it's down to the daily grind of life without that extra cloud 9 fluff - I feel like this is where people give up. It's like all they crave is the initial highs and rush and don't want to face the reality that it is a short duration component of every relationship.click to expand
Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by nikkistar
Been married once, really don't need to be married to the Cancer. However, HE wants to be married, and he likes the ring, so I will abide by what he wants. That piece of paper isn't the end all be all for me. I can be with him for life, without it. Marriage doesn't equate to longevity of a relationship.
And to be honest, I really don't see a need for an extravagant wedding. The wasting of money, to essentially entertain a bunch of folks, seems economically stupid. I'd be fine going to Vegas, putting on a nice little eggshell dress, and then just having fun the remaining time like a vacation. Hell, I wouldn't mind a justice of the peace doing it, and then spending money on a honeymoon instead.
I just don't see a purpose in NEEDING to be married.
What is the biggest thing from your first marriage that you don't feel concerned over for this next life partner of yours?click to expand
Posted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Posted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional wayclick to expand
Posted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....click to expand
Posted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?click to expand
Posted by ChuckPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
Having children is the second biggest mistake after marriage.click to expand
Posted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....click to expand
Posted by ChuckPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by ChuckPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
Having children is the second biggest mistake after marriage.
Having kids is THE most joyous! My little luv nuts.
You must be a single mother.click to expand
Posted by ChuckPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by ChuckPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by ChuckPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
Having children is the second biggest mistake after marriage.
Having kids is THE most joyous! My little luv nuts.
You must be a single mother.
Nope... married/divorce/married same man... 20+ years. I've been both.
And how many years of your life you lost to this drama?click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
I'm an Aries mum. Imagine me. I was bad! But, not stupid. And, Gemini dominant. I lecture and teach every aspect of life from worksheets and reading during the summer; how, when where to fight; to proper bathing and skin care techniques.
My Taurus son's last two weeks of highschool, I went to every single day to make sure he didn't skip school and completed all assignments. I sat right next to his ass.click to expand
Posted by MetatronPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
I'm an Aries mum. Imagine me. I was bad! But, not stupid. And, Gemini dominant. I lecture and teach every aspect of life from worksheets and reading during the summer; how, when where to fight; to proper bathing and skin care techniques.
My Taurus son's last two weeks of highschool, I went to every single day to make sure he didn't skip school and completed all assignments. I sat right next to his ass.
That is really awesome. I wish I had a mother like you; that is probably the only kind of parenting that could've kept me doing my schoolwork....And also really cool how engaged you are generally. I try to be as much as I can; I do a lot with her, teach her a lot, give her reading assignments, and I also get into her hobbies w/her. If you ever make a parenting thread to share more in depth some of the things that worked for your family, I'll definitely be in that.click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by MetatronPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
I'm an Aries mum. Imagine me. I was bad! But, not stupid. And, Gemini dominant. I lecture and teach every aspect of life from worksheets and reading during the summer; how, when where to fight; to proper bathing and skin care techniques.
My Taurus son's last two weeks of highschool, I went to every single day to make sure he didn't skip school and completed all assignments. I sat right next to his ass.
That is really awesome. I wish I had a mother like you; that is probably the only kind of parenting that could've kept me doing my schoolwork....And also really cool how engaged you are generally. I try to be as much as I can; I do a lot with her, teach her a lot, give her reading assignments, and I also get into her hobbies w/her. If you ever make a parenting thread to share more in depth some of the things that worked for your family, I'll definitely be in that.
Awww thanks. Most of it comes from being the eldest of five. I got to practice on real people... LOL! I was a young matriarch.
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Posted by MetatronPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by MetatronPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
I'm an Aries mum. Imagine me. I was bad! But, not stupid. And, Gemini dominant. I lecture and teach every aspect of life from worksheets and reading during the summer; how, when where to fight; to proper bathing and skin care techniques.
My Taurus son's last two weeks of highschool, I went to every single day to make sure he didn't skip school and completed all assignments. I sat right next to his ass.
That is really awesome. I wish I had a mother like you; that is probably the only kind of parenting that could've kept me doing my schoolwork....And also really cool how engaged you are generally. I try to be as much as I can; I do a lot with her, teach her a lot, give her reading assignments, and I also get into her hobbies w/her. If you ever make a parenting thread to share more in depth some of the things that worked for your family, I'll definitely be in that.
Awww thanks. Most of it comes from being the eldest of five. I got to practice on real people... LOL! I was a young matriarch.
interesting that you've always sort of had that role....and I can definitely see it....I've learned a good deal from you here actually....click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by ChuckPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by ChuckPosted by VenusAquariusPosted by ChuckPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
Having children is the second biggest mistake after marriage.
Having kids is THE most joyous! My little luv nuts.
You must be a single mother.
Nope... married/divorce/married same man... 20+ years. I've been both.
And how many years of your life you lost to this drama?
I actually gained.
-got to be single again and partee
-proof my hubby only loves me as he dated too and still wanted only me
-had some really lovely romances
-pursued my fantasy singer/performer life.
-hubby has hillarious dating stories. Him dated a hoity toity doctor and a 20 yo who tried to scratch up his car!!!! LOL!
GOOD TIMES
We have no regrets.
Family legacy and tales for generations...click to expand
Posted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by MetatronPosted by PhishFoodPosted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....click to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
Having children is the second biggest mistake after marriage.click to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
Boy I did it for second reason
It’s not enough to sustain a life time
I mean I guess you can do it but it felt I had sold my soul to the devilclick to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
Just having to pop out a person and then watch them grow sounds scary af
Not sure I'd be able to cope lol
Bless you for being a dad !click to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
Just having to pop out a person and then watch them grow sounds scary af
Not sure I'd be able to cope lol
Bless you for being a dad !
the whole thing is just beautifully absurd....assuming you stick with them, this little creature that grew inside your body is a blend of you and your partner's traits....Seeing both your self and your partner in your child is so strange. In one sense its therapeutic and I think it teaches you to love your self more if that makes sense. You have sympathy for them, struggling with some of the same stuff you did, having some of the same gifts/talents that you can cultivate where you might feel your own were neglected. Conversely, you see them succeed on their own in areas where you may not have, or fail to have the same challenges, and that feels healing also, bc most likely you have anxieties around those issues for them as a parent. I think you always hurt your child to some extent though and that's difficult - its made me more aware of the deeply engrained behavior issues and even abusive tendencies that are passing through generations of my familiy, and there's definitely an impetus to be more self-reflective and corrective for that reason, but also a deep sense of purpose in that you become aware of the fact that you're steering the course of an entire lineage to some degree. Its a very real world application for the popular new age concept of the "ripple effect" when you look at it from that perspective...
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
Just having to pop out a person and then watch them grow sounds scary af
Not sure I'd be able to cope lol
Bless you for being a dad !
the whole thing is just beautifully absurd....assuming you stick with them, this little creature that grew inside your body is a blend of you and your partner's traits....Seeing both your self and your partner in your child is so strange. In one sense its therapeutic and I think it teaches you to love your self more if that makes sense. You have sympathy for them, struggling with some of the same stuff you did, having some of the same gifts/talents that you can cultivate where you might feel your own were neglected. Conversely, you see them succeed on their own in areas where you may not have, or fail to have the same challenges, and that feels healing also, bc most likely you have anxieties around those issues for them as a parent. I think you always hurt your child to some extent though and that's difficult - its made me more aware of the deeply engrained behavior issues and even abusive tendencies that are passing through generations of my familiy, and there's definitely an impetus to be more self-reflective and corrective for that reason, but also a deep sense of purpose in that you become aware of the fact that you're steering the course of an entire lineage to some degree. Its a very real world application for the popular new age concept of the "ripple effect" when you look at it from that perspective...
Did having a child with your partner made you love the partner a bit more? I mean like you say, the kid has traits from both parents so seeing the partner in a kid must have felt cuter ? Or annoying? Lol
My brain is far too analytical and it's really annoying to know that everything is such a fecking chore of rationalisation and justification
Fmlclick to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
Just having to pop out a person and then watch them grow sounds scary af
Not sure I'd be able to cope lol
Bless you for being a dad !
the whole thing is just beautifully absurd....assuming you stick with them, this little creature that grew inside your body is a blend of you and your partner's traits....Seeing both your self and your partner in your child is so strange. In one sense its therapeutic and I think it teaches you to love your self more if that makes sense. You have sympathy for them, struggling with some of the same stuff you did, having some of the same gifts/talents that you can cultivate where you might feel your own were neglected. Conversely, you see them succeed on their own in areas where you may not have, or fail to have the same challenges, and that feels healing also, bc most likely you have anxieties around those issues for them as a parent. I think you always hurt your child to some extent though and that's difficult - its made me more aware of the deeply engrained behavior issues and even abusive tendencies that are passing through generations of my familiy, and there's definitely an impetus to be more self-reflective and corrective for that reason, but also a deep sense of purpose in that you become aware of the fact that you're steering the course of an entire lineage to some degree. Its a very real world application for the popular new age concept of the "ripple effect" when you look at it from that perspective...
Did having a child with your partner made you love the partner a bit more? I mean like you say, the kid has traits from both parents so seeing the partner in a kid must have felt cuter ? Or annoying? Lol
My brain is far too analytical and it's really annoying to know that everything is such a fecking chore of rationalisation and justification
Fml
I overthink a lot too...having a kid, I believe, helps you to actually live more in the moment though if you're an engaged parent....I mean I can't say I loved my partner more individually, but I loved and valued our family as a collective more, yes....for the good traits, whether genetic or behavioral, that she got from her mom, I'm just grateful....a lot of those counterbalance my own flaws...click to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
Just having to pop out a person and then watch them grow sounds scary af
Not sure I'd be able to cope lol
Bless you for being a dad !
the whole thing is just beautifully absurd....assuming you stick with them, this little creature that grew inside your body is a blend of you and your partner's traits....Seeing both your self and your partner in your child is so strange. In one sense its therapeutic and I think it teaches you to love your self more if that makes sense. You have sympathy for them, struggling with some of the same stuff you did, having some of the same gifts/talents that you can cultivate where you might feel your own were neglected. Conversely, you see them succeed on their own in areas where you may not have, or fail to have the same challenges, and that feels healing also, bc most likely you have anxieties around those issues for them as a parent. I think you always hurt your child to some extent though and that's difficult - its made me more aware of the deeply engrained behavior issues and even abusive tendencies that are passing through generations of my familiy, and there's definitely an impetus to be more self-reflective and corrective for that reason, but also a deep sense of purpose in that you become aware of the fact that you're steering the course of an entire lineage to some degree. Its a very real world application for the popular new age concept of the "ripple effect" when you look at it from that perspective...
Did having a child with your partner made you love the partner a bit more? I mean like you say, the kid has traits from both parents so seeing the partner in a kid must have felt cuter ? Or annoying? Lol
My brain is far too analytical and it's really annoying to know that everything is such a fecking chore of rationalisation and justification
Fml
I overthink a lot too...having a kid, I believe, helps you to actually live more in the moment though if you're an engaged parent....I mean I can't say I loved my partner more individually, but I loved and valued our family as a collective more, yes....for the good traits, whether genetic or behavioral, that she got from her mom, I'm just grateful....a lot of those counterbalance my own flaws...
Do you read a lot ? Psychology type stuff?
How much Leo you've got in your chart?click to expand
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been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....
Are love and marriage synonymous?
I'm genuinely curious because I can't decide if i should marry for love OR should I marry because it's a institution I feel provides a stable family and secured future to a child in the most traditional way
they aren't synonymous for everyone, but ideally if you do it, I think yes obviously its better to have both, and there's a lot you can do to sustain the chemistry IMO....the commitment may even make it more likely that you do so....agree on the stability for family aspect too....just for my own personal situation, though its often looked down upon, I really don't even have a problem with being someone who is addicted to the infatuation phase at my age, and just having multiple short terms with different people; there's a huge value in that as well IMO...I think its the best part of love, where the magic happens, etc....
What sunsign are you? Air on chart?
I see where you coming from and the thing with me is I don't want kids. I like them but I don't think I'll let them out of my sight ever lol. So it will be really bad for all involved.
It's strange isn't it?
taurus sun...venus in gemini probably explains the hoe-ishness though....I didn't want a child either honestly - for the exact reason you mention...I'm over-protective...having a child is like having an external heart, only much more sensitive....anything goes wrong with them, you feel it almost more than they do, and definitely more than I feel my own pains....its very difficult for me...she's going into middle school and I know all sorts of drama awaits....she's very sensitive on top of that w/her Virgo Moon....the good far outweighs the bad, but yeah, it'll change you, open you up, and make you feel like no other experience if that's what you're looking for....
Just having to pop out a person and then watch them grow sounds scary af
Not sure I'd be able to cope lol
Bless you for being a dad !
the whole thing is just beautifully absurd....assuming you stick with them, this little creature that grew inside your body is a blend of you and your partner's traits....Seeing both your self and your partner in your child is so strange. In one sense its therapeutic and I think it teaches you to love your self more if that makes sense. You have sympathy for them, struggling with some of the same stuff you did, having some of the same gifts/talents that you can cultivate where you might feel your own were neglected. Conversely, you see them succeed on their own in areas where you may not have, or fail to have the same challenges, and that feels healing also, bc most likely you have anxieties around those issues for them as a parent. I think you always hurt your child to some extent though and that's difficult - its made me more aware of the deeply engrained behavior issues and even abusive tendencies that are passing through generations of my familiy, and there's definitely an impetus to be more self-reflective and corrective for that reason, but also a deep sense of purpose in that you become aware of the fact that you're steering the course of an entire lineage to some degree. Its a very real world application for the popular new age concept of the "ripple effect" when you look at it from that perspective...
Did having a child with your partner made you love the partner a bit more? I mean like you say, the kid has traits from both parents so seeing the partner in a kid must have felt cuter ? Or annoying? Lol
My brain is far too analytical and it's really annoying to know that everything is such a fecking chore of rationalisation and justification
Fml
I overthink a lot too...having a kid, I believe, helps you to actually live more in the moment though if you're an engaged parent....I mean I can't say I loved my partner more individually, but I loved and valued our family as a collective more, yes....for the good traits, whether genetic or behavioral, that she got from her mom, I'm just grateful....a lot of those counterbalance my own flaws...
Do you read a lot ? Psychology type stuff?
How much Leo you've got in your chart?
I read every night...its my favorite thing to do....several books always in rotation, yes I read a lot of psych stuff...my ex did her Masters in psych/social work and gave me her entire library, text books and all....Leo Stellium in the 7th House - Moon, Mars, Saturn...click to expand
Posted by mudra
I loved being married. I loved having a husband with all the comfort and annoyances. I am a relationship person. I'm a believer in death and rebirth with each other until you're in the final years feeding each other pudding with both your dentures out.
There just aren't many people who are willing to stay through the death and rebirth anymore. Its absolutely terrifying to me.
If I were ever in a long term relationship again and he proposed... let's make that a 5 year engagement, ok? Lol
Posted by LostinmyMind11
I've never been big on the whole marriage deal. I'm not completely opposed to it...just doesn't seem necessary imo. I was engaged for 9yrs...and probably would still be just engaged if the circumstances were different lol.
If I ever do get married though...I'm going to the court house and then have a party afterwards. Screw spending all that money for one day.
Posted by saggurl88
I have no interest in being married again. I will sport a fat diamond ring, just because though 😄
Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88
I have no interest in being married again. I will sport a fat diamond ring, just because though 😄
Yo! You were married babe? What was his sign?click to expand
Posted by tizianiPosted by saggurl88Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88
I have no interest in being married again. I will sport a fat diamond ring, just because though 😄
Yo! You were married babe? What was his sign?
Yeah I was 😄 He is a Gemini. He was nothing like people say about Geminis. He was super loyal and never cheated and was never flaky. Must have been his Virgo moon, I guess. He just never really grew up and liked pretending he was 21 all the time. Too much partying for me.
I can't hold on to Aquas, as easy as everyone says they are 😢
All he wants me to do is chase him and I'm not about that track and field life! 😆
"you guys always want people to run you over with love" - great quote from you
and damn, opposites attract for your marriage, you don't like things the easy way after all lolclick to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88
I have no interest in being married again. I will sport a fat diamond ring, just because though 😄
Yo! You were married babe? What was his sign?
Yeah I was 😄 He is a Gemini. He was nothing like people say about Geminis. He was super loyal and never cheated and was never flaky. Must have been his Virgo moon, I guess. He just never really grew up and liked pretending he was 21 all the time. Too much partying for me.
I can't hold on to Aquas, as easy as everyone says they are 😢
All he wants me to do is chase him and I'm not about that track and field life! 😆click to expand
Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88
I have no interest in being married again. I will sport a fat diamond ring, just because though 😄
Yo! You were married babe? What was his sign?
Yeah I was 😄 He is a Gemini. He was nothing like people say about Geminis. He was super loyal and never cheated and was never flaky. Must have been his Virgo moon, I guess. He just never really grew up and liked pretending he was 21 all the time. Too much partying for me.
I can't hold on to Aquas, as easy as everyone says they are 😢
All he wants me to do is chase him and I'm not about that track and field life! 😆
Did not know you married him. Wow!
Gems have always been good to me, but I witness their shadiness with people who never suspect them. So I figure they’re being phony with me. I don’t trust them at all. I figure what makes me so special that they’d never try those things with me, so I am constantly waiting for the inevitable. You know? There are certain character flaws that I can’t take. They’re the craftiest people I’ve ever observed. The arrogance is the biggest turn off for me, even when they are bragging about me. *cringe* Then they never see themselves. After a while I just wind up leaving. I just avoid them at all cost these days.
Also, the men use women for money a lot. So many women that I’ve talked to about their Gem guy, says that they foot their bills. I know you’ve mentioned him spending your money too or borrowing from you, even after you’ve been broken up. That’s just not manly at all to me.
I have an older Scorp friend. She has been with her Gem for 20 yrs. She’s so far in debt because of him. He has 3 cars and she pays the pymts and insurance for all of them. Around the 10th yr of their relationship he cheated on her and got another Gem pregnant. Of course, she had no clue he was cheating and he had been for 4 yrs. She struggles to help him pay his child support. Actually, her sisters (Aqua and Libra) “lends” her money to pay this stuff. They were so upset when they found out the money was for him. She’s unable to pay them back. She had to file bankruptcy twice that I know of. After all these yrs of her sticking by his side, she’s in a love triangle with him now. He told the Scorp. the only reason he is with the other woman and have moved in her house is because she pays the bills. I asked the Scorp, what makes her ok with this and how could she not lose respect for a moocher. I understand at all…..
I have plenty of stories about Gems, but I try to keep it at a limit on dxp. People can share their bad experiences with Aquas, but Aquas are forbidden to share our bad experiences.
If your Aqua proposes, will you marry him? 😛
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Posted by saggurl88Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88Posted by STILLPosted by saggurl88
I have no interest in being married again. I will sport a fat diamond ring, just because though 😄
Yo! You were married babe? What was his sign?
Yeah I was 😄 He is a Gemini. He was nothing like people say about Geminis. He was super loyal and never cheated and was never flaky. Must have been his Virgo moon, I guess. He just never really grew up and liked pretending he was 21 all the time. Too much partying for me.
I can't hold on to Aquas, as easy as everyone says they are 😢
All he wants me to do is chase him and I'm not about that track and field life! 😆
Did not know you married him. Wow!
Gems have always been good to me, but I witness their shadiness with people who never suspect them. So I figure they’re being phony with me. I don’t trust them at all. I figure what makes me so special that they’d never try those things with me, so I am constantly waiting for the inevitable. You know? There are certain character flaws that I can’t take. They’re the craftiest people I’ve ever observed. The arrogance is the biggest turn off for me, even when they are bragging about me. *cringe* Then they never see themselves. After a while I just wind up leaving. I just avoid them at all cost these days.
Also, the men use women for money a lot. So many women that I’ve talked to about their Gem guy, says that they foot their bills. I know you’ve mentioned him spending your money too or borrowing from you, even after you’ve been broken up. That’s just not manly at all to me.
I have an older Scorp friend. She has been with her Gem for 20 yrs. She’s so far in debt because of him. He has 3 cars and she pays the pymts and insurance for all of them. Around the 10th yr of their relationship he cheated on her and got another Gem pregnant. Of course, she had no clue he was cheating and he had been for 4 yrs. She struggles to help him pay his child support. Actually, her sisters (Aqua and Libra) “lends” her money to pay this stuff. They were so upset when they found out the money was for him. She’s unable to pay them back. She had to file bankruptcy twice that I know of. After all these yrs of her sticking by his side, she’s in a love triangle with him now. He told the Scorp. the only reason he is with the other woman and have moved in her house is because she pays the bills. I asked the Scorp, what makes her ok with this and how could she not lose respect for a moocher. I understand at all…..
I have plenty of stories about Gems, but I try to keep it at a limit on dxp. People can share their bad experiences with Aquas, but Aquas are forbidden to share our bad experiences.
If your Aqua proposes, will you marry him? 😛
Yes, some Gemini men use people for money. I can't stand when men play broke.
I can't even get my Aqua to call me lol Even talking about him has my hand itching to call his number and tell him that I miss him. Just so he can hang up in my face and get me to try harder lol (He probably just wouldn't answer, I'm being dramatic lol) I miss him a lot and hate that he has this much power over me lol I'm just glad he doesn't know it. I'm sure his ego would love it! 😆
He has been married too. We would have to be in a relationship for a long time and then get married on our deathbed! 😆 See! I can compromise! 😛click to expand
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