Why is this scorpio so afraid of love? (Page 2)

Posted by juliette
Anyway, my opinion on him is irrelevant, you want him still, so idk, do something extraordinary for him. Write him a sad love poem using your blood and tears. That will calm him for a certain period of time. I'm not joking.

I think I screwed that up when I had my impulsive meltdown earlier this week. I already mentionned it here. But I was mad and hurt Tuesday and before I knew it I had messaged his friend about everything I'd done for him and how he still kept questionning me. I know that's a big no no for scorpios. Even if his friend gives insight, it s still a bad thing to do in their mind. So, not sure what a poem will do.

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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
He's not afraid of love. He's afraid of not being in control.

This.

Just this.

So manipulative.

Also smdh

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This

Scorpio control......ugh. I feel the men can be worse

Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

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Posted by EveryOunce
Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

While everything about this is sensible and common sense, even, what does it mean for Scorpios? I mean, a lot of them seem to be like this. Do they not deserve to be loved because they're so scared? Should they be working this shit out on their own before they date? I don't know the answer. I just keep seeing this issue come up.

Edit: I obviously believe that they do, in fact, deserve love. How it happens is a conundrum.

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Relationships are give and take...healthy ones. The first mistake is getting into a relationship with someone who has emotional issues and thinking you can change their outlook on life. You can't change anyone but yourself regardless of sign.

Posted by EveryOunce
Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

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Posted by EveryOunce
Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

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This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

I HURT PEOPLE WHILE I'M HURTING.

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

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Posted by vesper
I HURT PEOPLE WHILE I'M HURTING.

You? Or are you talking about him? He is hurting. But why push people away who don't hurt you? I know about testing, I used to test people too till I got older. Do they really not see? Or they do see it, but don't believe it?

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

I love your posts

Are you a bloke?

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Thanks. No I am a female.

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

I love your posts

Are you a bloke?

Thanks. No I am a female.

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Aaaaahh right...i was thinking *what a wise man*

What is your chart like? 🙂

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Posted by scorpYo
hes fucked up girl grab your things and go, I assure you he will never ever change he will be panaroid to the last day of his life so why on earth would you waste more time and feelings than you already did with someone that does not TRUST you?

Because he trusts me with everything else. His kids, staying in house when he's at work, his debetcard,... There are only questions when I'm not with him.

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the questions mean that he does not trust your love. and apparently will never do. even if he trusted you to watch out his kids or with his debt card. once my friend had a paranoid boyfriend and she confronted him told him that she can't do it anymore and she's done with his trust issues. he cried out of the idea of losing her and stopped the questions and the insecurities once he felt like losing her for good. now it has been a year and they're so happy together. try to warn him that he'll lose you if he continues to ask these questions and be strict about it

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Posted by scorpYo
hes fucked up girl grab your things and go, I assure you he will never ever change he will be panaroid to the last day of his life so why on earth would you waste more time and feelings than you already did with someone that does not TRUST you?

Because he trusts me with everything else. His kids, staying in house when he's at work, his debetcard,... There are only questions when I'm not with him.

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the questions mean that he does not trust your love. and apparently will never do. even if he trusted you to watch out his kids or with his debt card. once my friend had a paranoid boyfriend and she confronted him told him that she can't do it anymore and she's done with his trust issues. he cried out of the idea of losing her and stopped the questions and the insecurities once he felt like losing her for good. now it has been a year and they're so happy together. try to warn him that he'll lose you if he continues to ask these questions and be strict about it

I am scared of love. I am scared to trust another human. Because with time, I become obsessed with them. I want to give them everything I have. But people take advantage of that kind of love. I can only tell you that Scorpios do not fall in love easily. We have trust issues and when we do fall in love , we want our partner to prove our devotion to us. I have let my partners have all the freedom they wanted. But in the end I felt cheated on, because both of them have left me for other women...

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

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You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?

Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life

Reading this take it from a scorp , there is always gonna be a darker then dark side with us but all depends how we overcome and grow from it or mature. Maybe he does have a true mother/son complex which sounds like something a Psychiatrist should see...but still gives no one a free pass to be unfair in any relationship. 50/50 between two people is the best way.

He's not "the one" if he makes you feel like you are constantly in battles with him..

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?

Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life

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He drove himself off

He has huge issues which he isn't addressing

Run away, there's negative growth in that relationship. The inability to deal with any little insecurity is just horrible regardless of previous history. There is no healthy way to progress without serious professional help.

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?

Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life

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Even after coming to your realization you're still making him the vain of your existance. So what he left? Good it wasn't a healthy situation. You just miss having someone to coddle. You have got to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It is not you it is him. He will always leave and hurt people because he is a damaged man. Count your lucky stars and work on you for a while before dating again.

Posted by feby
I had something similar with a man and I'm still recovering from it. He was my whole life like my happiness revolved around him and he had complete power over me.

You may go back to him because I did so many times but one day your life may have to change.

As soon as you are ready please talk to a counselor.

I hope she doesn't Feby (go back to him)

Is this the man you are still with now ^^^ ?

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I had something similar with a man and I'm still recovering from it. He was my whole life like my happiness revolved around him and he had complete power over me.

You may go back to him because I did so many times but one day your life may have to change.

As soon as you are ready please talk to a counselor.

I hope she doesn't Feby (go back to him)

Is this the man you are still with now ^^^ ?

no this was someone I was with for 15 years. Also, a scorp moon though.

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😱 them Scorp moons! I was with a few......learned my lessons 🙂

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I had something similar with a man and I'm still recovering from it. He was my whole life like my happiness revolved around him and he had complete power over me.

You may go back to him because I did so many times but one day your life may have to change.

As soon as you are ready please talk to a counselor.

I hope she doesn't Feby (go back to him)

Is this the man you are still with now ^^^ ?

no this was someone I was with for 15 years. Also, a scorp moon though.

😱 them Scorp moons! I was with a few......learned my lessons 🙂

I seem to have them all around me. Not sure why. Some kind of luck or draw or luck of the draw I'm not sure lol

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Do you have any Scorp or 8th house stuff in your chart, love?

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?

Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life

Even after coming to your realization you're still making him the vain of your existance. So what he left? Good it easn't a healthy situation. You just miss having someone to coddle. You have got to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It is not you it is him.Count your lucky stars and work on you for a while before dating again.

"He will always leave and hurt people because he is a damaged man."

Experienced this off and on for 6 months. Messes with your head. In recovery now. SMH

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I had something similar with a man and I'm still recovering from it. He was my whole life like my happiness revolved around him and he had complete power over me.

You may go back to him because I did so many times but one day your life may have to change.

As soon as you are ready please talk to a counselor.

I hope she doesn't Feby (go back to him)

Is this the man you are still with now ^^^ ?

no this was someone I was with for 15 years. Also, a scorp moon though.

😱 them Scorp moons! I was with a few......learned my lessons 🙂

I seem to have them all around me. Not sure why. Some kind of luck or draw or luck of the draw I'm not sure lol

Do you have any Scorp or 8th house stuff in your chart, love?

I'm an 8th house sun and mars. oh and 5th house Uranus scorp I think that's it. Plus a whole bunch of 4th house stuff and cancer rising, pisces merc.

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It must be all your water they like swimming in

🙂

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?

Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life

Even after coming to your realization you're still making him the vain of your existance. So what he left? Good it easn't a healthy situation. You just miss having someone to coddle. You have got to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It is not you it is him.Count your lucky stars and work on you for a while before dating again.

"He will always leave and hurt people because he is a damaged man."

Experienced this off and on for 6 months. Messes with your head. In recovery now. SMH







Glad you walked away. Toxic people in your life are are an emtional terminal illness. They drain you of everything until you have nothing left.

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I had something similar with a man and I'm still recovering from it. He was my whole life like my happiness revolved around him and he had complete power over me.

You may go back to him because I did so many times but one day your life may have to change.

As soon as you are ready please talk to a counselor.

I hope she doesn't Feby (go back to him)

Is this the man you are still with now ^^^ ?

no this was someone I was with for 15 years. Also, a scorp moon though.

😱 them Scorp moons! I was with a few......learned my lessons 🙂

I seem to have them all around me. Not sure why. Some kind of luck or draw or luck of the draw I'm not sure lol

Do you have any Scorp or 8th house stuff in your chart, love?

I'm an 8th house sun and mars. oh and 5th house Uranus scorp I think that's it. Plus a whole bunch of 4th house stuff and cancer rising, pisces merc.

It must be all your water they like swimming in

🙂

blah lol I like my water clean and private 😛

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Wear a notice around your neck *back off weirdos* lol

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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.

He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.

He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again

This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.

You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?

Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life

Even after coming to your realization you're still making him the vain of your existance. So what he left? Good it easn't a healthy situation. You just miss having someone to coddle. You have got to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It is not you it is him.Count your lucky stars and work on you for a while before dating again.

"He will always leave and hurt people because he is a damaged man."

Experienced this off and on for 6 months. Messes with your head. In recovery now. SMH







You are all right. And yes now comes a period of loving myself first. He was a wake up call and I heard the phone ring, big time. So despite the pain and confusion I am grateful for this experience. I noticed today how my body actually stutterd when I had to say "no" and I spoke my true inner feelings.

The only thing that sucks is I still have the christmas gifts for him and his kids staring me in the face. A friend will pick them up later.

I will not go back to him, I can say that with certainty. He is damaged and he almost took me down with him.

So on the last Friday I talked to him I was the love of his life and that I always will be. 4 days later apparently new relationship — he doesn't have BPD. He is a motherfucking narcissist!!! And yes I left out huge parts of my story!!!!

I suck, I lose, I'm the bad guy.

😢

Jesus. This thread has been.....eye-opening.

I can see a lot of myself in this guy you're talking about OP. I'm seriously sorry you've gone through this. Don't take his last action with the new girl personally, it's probably yet another way he's irrationally keeping himself from being hurt by the "love of his life". She's very likely someone he doesn't care much for, and somehow, can't hurt him.

Again, I'm sorry you've gone through this. I hope it (and we) get better.

Posted by Sc0rpi0sity
Jesus. This thread has been.....eye-opening.

I can see a lot of myself in this guy you're talking about OP. I'm seriously sorry you've gone through this. Don't take his last action with the new girl personally, it's probably yet another way he's irrationally keeping himself from being hurt by the "love of his life". She's very likely someone he doesn't care much for, and somehow, can't hurt him.

Again, I'm sorry you've gone through this. I hope it (and we) get better.

Thank you. And if this helps you become better I'm glad it helps. But I doubt you're the same, I left out so much of my story bc I was desperatly still hanging on. I could write it all down ofcourse, but that would only mean I will get scorned by some who will call me a fool for staying. I am well aware of that already and I am just utterly ashamed to talk to friends or family about what I went through.

The cognitive dissonance was strong. So was my heart that thought he was the one. But as my eyes open more and more each day and I go over everything, manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, stonewalling, silent treatments and even verbal abuse which I all didnt see, I am torn to the core and shocked there are people like this. Hollywood couldn't write it if they wanted to ?

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Posted by Sc0rpi0sity
Jesus. This thread has been.....eye-opening.

I can see a lot of myself in this guy you're talking about OP. I'm seriously sorry you've gone through this. Don't take his last action with the new girl personally, it's probably yet another way he's irrationally keeping himself from being hurt by the "love of his life". She's very likely someone he doesn't care much for, and somehow, can't hurt him.

Again, I'm sorry you've gone through this. I hope it (and we) get better.

Thank you. And if this helps you become better I'm glad it helps. But I doubt you're the same, I left out so much of my story bc I was desperatly still hanging on. I could write it all down ofcourse, but that would only mean I will get scorned by some who will call me a fool for staying. I am well aware of that already and I am just utterly ashamed to talk to friends or family about what I went through.

The cognitive dissonance was strong. So was my heart that thought he was the one. But as my eyes open more and more each day and I go over everything, manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, stonewalling, silent treatments and even verbal abuse which I all didnt see, I am torn to the core and shocked there are people like this. Hollywood couldn't write it if they wanted to ?

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Don't shoulder all the responsibility for this. That wouldn't be fair to you. Some of these men can be very charismatic and draw you in, sink their hooks in, and then the games begin.

I get it. I've been in that similar situation and I've gone over so many moments that sat kinda weird with me and even those moments that I thought were sweet are now seen in a different light. It all comes down to constant manipulation.

Even though I know he's a manipulative asshat that won't give me a straight answer about anything... I still get caught in the hypnotic trance of who he is, when he comes around (and he always does) and lose all will power. HATE MYSELF FOR THIS. The struggle is real.

Doesn't help that we live in the same area, hang out in the same circles. His sister lives 2 blocks over from me. Hangs out on OkCupid, clearly meeting/hooking up with others, but, he'll still view my profile as if to, rub it in my face, I suppose.

I deleted my account.

I believe he is the absolute worst of his Scorpio nature. I don't believe that all Scorpios behave this way. There's good and bad, just as there are in every sign. We're all human right? Some of us choose to be assholes, some of us don't.

It's all about choices.

@Sc0rpi0sity - If you were anything like what we've described and found it "eye-opening", then kudos to you. I appreciate your honesty in admitting to it.