Pisces_67
@Pisces_67
7 Years
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Married and hurt
Of course he's mad! You busted his old ass!
Aquas don't like it š
Aquas don't like it š
No it is not a troll post Fortuna.
Update for you all. I open up our computer to do so work from home and he had his facebook messanger open.
I witnessed a live chat with one of women he has been getting carried away with "flirting" way more. He had sent her money and made plans to go to see her in March.
Carrying on like it is is lost love. They have sent videos via email but I only know about those from the conversation.
I was an emotional disaster and lost my temper. Thank god no one saw that part happen. I smashed our crystal wedding photo in the process.
Our son came in the house and freaked out saw what had happened and going on. He was ready to lose it. He then calls his sister. One big drama fest! They helpped me pack and leave.
I am exhausted. Can't sleep, can't eat. Barely focused.
We have reasonably talked. He finally admitted to "talking"with her. No details just said it was more of just a fantasy.
But then asked if I want himā?FUCK
So then the things are lies to her? I said I get the fantasy thing but why not just talked to me. explain whats going on. He said can't have no trust. I agree but also need honesty. Leaves less room for miss comunication and problems.
I admitted I was jealous. I can't compete with her she is 15years younger.
My point was if its missing from us and you feel it to look to fill the void did he not understand I might link to wake to good morning beautiful as he does for these women?
I don't think he does love me. I went over everything and it wasn't untill I asked why and old friend who is a single female and 6boys is sending him nude photos and gif's? Jokes or not I am being lied to about who they are from. Don't tell me she's a dyke. She still like dick. I know of course i have my own insecurities and jealousy and those are mine but don't make it worse!
This was taking away from us. He would stay up late. We spent less time together cause he was on his phone progressively more.
Telling friends its been a long time coming and I'm emotionally unstable.
He has depression but meds don't seem to be working. Yes cause for these last few years I have dealt with this.
Now
Then sends me a text to have a good sleep good night.
When I reply this morning with thank you that was nice.
I got - Huh. It wasnt me u were with last night. Think u texted the wrong person.
WTF! That is the furthest thing on my mind.
I'm tiered of the games and ego. Tired of fighting for him to understand.
Just plain exhausted from hurt and stress of it all.
Update for you all. I open up our computer to do so work from home and he had his facebook messanger open.
I witnessed a live chat with one of women he has been getting carried away with "flirting" way more. He had sent her money and made plans to go to see her in March.
Carrying on like it is is lost love. They have sent videos via email but I only know about those from the conversation.
I was an emotional disaster and lost my temper. Thank god no one saw that part happen. I smashed our crystal wedding photo in the process.
Our son came in the house and freaked out saw what had happened and going on. He was ready to lose it. He then calls his sister. One big drama fest! They helpped me pack and leave.
I am exhausted. Can't sleep, can't eat. Barely focused.
We have reasonably talked. He finally admitted to "talking"with her. No details just said it was more of just a fantasy.
But then asked if I want himā?FUCK
So then the things are lies to her? I said I get the fantasy thing but why not just talked to me. explain whats going on. He said can't have no trust. I agree but also need honesty. Leaves less room for miss comunication and problems.
I admitted I was jealous. I can't compete with her she is 15years younger.
My point was if its missing from us and you feel it to look to fill the void did he not understand I might link to wake to good morning beautiful as he does for these women?
I don't think he does love me. I went over everything and it wasn't untill I asked why and old friend who is a single female and 6boys is sending him nude photos and gif's? Jokes or not I am being lied to about who they are from. Don't tell me she's a dyke. She still like dick. I know of course i have my own insecurities and jealousy and those are mine but don't make it worse!
This was taking away from us. He would stay up late. We spent less time together cause he was on his phone progressively more.
Telling friends its been a long time coming and I'm emotionally unstable.
He has depression but meds don't seem to be working. Yes cause for these last few years I have dealt with this.
Now
Then sends me a text to have a good sleep good night.
When I reply this morning with thank you that was nice.
I got - Huh. It wasnt me u were with last night. Think u texted the wrong person.
WTF! That is the furthest thing on my mind.
I'm tiered of the games and ego. Tired of fighting for him to understand.
Just plain exhausted from hurt and stress of it all.
Fafa no he said he was helping a women to stop drinking. Said geez I've known her for 30 yrs.
She is a troll and yes feel bad for her but that is why there are professionals.
She is a troll and yes feel bad for her but that is why there are professionals.
It was not "just a fantasy". He's lying his ass off. At this point he'll say anything to soften the blow. Black and white: He would have fucked her, he will fuck her. If not her, there will be others. And you're buying into his bs because you prefer living in denial.
"I said I get the fantasy thing but why not just talked to me. explain whats going on." Like wtf does that even mean? What difference would talking about it make. "Honey I want to fuck these other girls, look."
You'll be doing him and yourself a favor by cutting him loose. He may realize what he has to lose once you stand your ground, he may even want to work on things. But rest assured, once the dust settles and everything is back to normal, he will start getting restless again. Just face it, you're not the people you once were, he isn't at least. Your marriage is over. Unless you do the Pisces thing and stay for the joy of being tortured.
"I said I get the fantasy thing but why not just talked to me. explain whats going on." Like wtf does that even mean? What difference would talking about it make. "Honey I want to fuck these other girls, look."
You'll be doing him and yourself a favor by cutting him loose. He may realize what he has to lose once you stand your ground, he may even want to work on things. But rest assured, once the dust settles and everything is back to normal, he will start getting restless again. Just face it, you're not the people you once were, he isn't at least. Your marriage is over. Unless you do the Pisces thing and stay for the joy of being tortured.
Posted by Pisces_67Jealousy isn't synonymous with being insecure, it's a perfectly reasonable feeling. Only idiots and cucks don't get jealous.
I know of course i have my own insecurities and jealousy and those are mine but don't make it worse!
Posted by enfant_terribleI totally agree. Stop with the drama bull shit of believing anything he says at this point and start thinking about how to get out of this with the children and survive well enough. Screw him and all his denial and blame on others and whatever. He's a cheater and there ain't no bones about it. Find someone who knows the definition of being true to oneself.
It was not "just a fantasy". He's lying his ass off. At this point he'll say anything to soften the blow. Black and white: He would have fucked her, he will fuck her. If not her, there will be others. And you're buying into his bs because you prefer living in denial.
"I said I get the fantasy thing but why not just talked to me. explain whats going on." Like wtf does that even mean? What difference would talking about it make. "Honey I want to fuck these other girls, look."
You'll be doing him and yourself a favor by cutting him loose. He may realize what he has to lose once you stand your ground, he may even want to work on things. But rest assured, once the dust settles and everything is back to normal, he will start getting restless again. Just face it, you're not the people you once were, he isn't at least. Your marriage is over. Unless you do the Pisces thing and stay for the joy of being tortured.
Posted by tctaoAgree with all of this.Posted by enfant_terribleI totally agree. Stop with the drama bull shit of believing anything he says at this point and start thinking about how to get out of this with the children and survive well enough. Screw him and all his denial and blame on others and whatever. He's a cheater and there ain't no bones about it. Find someone who knows the definition of being true to oneself.
It was not "just a fantasy". He's lying his ass off. At this point he'll say anything to soften the blow. Black and white: He would have fucked her, he will fuck her. If not her, there will be others. And you're buying into his bs because you prefer living in denial.
"I said I get the fantasy thing but why not just talked to me. explain whats going on." Like wtf does that even mean? What difference would talking about it make. "Honey I want to fuck these other girls, look."
You'll be doing him and yourself a favor by cutting him loose. He may realize what he has to lose once you stand your ground, he may even want to work on things. But rest assured, once the dust settles and everything is back to normal, he will start getting restless again. Just face it, you're not the people you once were, he isn't at least. Your marriage is over. Unless you do the Pisces thing and stay for the joy of being tortured.click to expand
Better to start again and have another chance for happiness.
He is not going to give you that
@Pisces_67
What was your sex life like?
Are you an active woman?
What do you want? You canāt un-know what you know...what do you want after all?
Do you love him? Like a man or 24 y/old possession?
Iāve been married for 24 years myself.
And all youāve written is an opposite in my family. I am the one who was driven into cheating by my husband ignoring sexual part of the marriage...
Just trying to see if you are as my husband. And you maybe drove your man into cheating?
What was your sex life like?
Are you an active woman?
What do you want? You canāt un-know what you know...what do you want after all?
Do you love him? Like a man or 24 y/old possession?
Iāve been married for 24 years myself.
And all youāve written is an opposite in my family. I am the one who was driven into cheating by my husband ignoring sexual part of the marriage...
Just trying to see if you are as my husband. And you maybe drove your man into cheating?
Posted by Impulsvyes, totally
WHATevER u do dont leave ur home
Kick him out
N get an attorney
You should leave. He is downplaying everything, don't fall for it. If the kids are out of the house i see no reason you should stay because he will most likely continue what he is doing but it will become more hidden and if and when you find out about it again the downplaying will be even more toxic (there's a hint of what's to come in telling your friends you're becoming emotionally unstable)
You'll go insane in there, srs....
The part that i find the most repulsive is the fact he is making you think you need to compete with younger women. I'm guessin that must be a shitty af feeling to live with. My condolences. Get out.
You'll go insane in there, srs....
The part that i find the most repulsive is the fact he is making you think you need to compete with younger women. I'm guessin that must be a shitty af feeling to live with. My condolences. Get out.
I canāt wait to hear the story of how was she always having headaches and refusing him sex based on being tired...
Posted by vixen14I think mostly itās the not a lot of men are really able after a while and women become bored and unsatisfied so they shit down.Posted by GemitatiYeah, i always wonder why women feel the need to starve a man then wonder why men get their fill elsewhere.
I canāt wait to hear the story of how was she always having headaches and refusing him sex based on being tired...
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And when men finding someone new - they bounce back and it possess wifes off!
Like āwhat do you mean he has a younger woman? Itās not like he is any good...ā
kind of piss...lol
Gosh. Am I the only one who has an Aquarius father who was faithful to his marriage?
Posted by LadyNeptuneyou might just have the very rare one there - my father is Aqua - married 3 times
Gosh. Am I the only one who has an Aquarius father who was faithful to his marriage?
Posted by Leo188881There are many many things that keeping people together. If they donāt hate each other and aināt violent and managing - you donāt leave your roommate who pays half of rent out do you? And you donāt even have kids with them...so why to do it to a spouse?Posted by Gemitati
@Pisces_67
What was your sex life like?
Are you an active woman?
What do you want? You canāt un-know what you know...what do you want after all?
Do you love him? Like a man or 24 y/old possession?
Iāve been married for 24 years myself.
And all youāve written is an opposite in my family. I am the one who was driven into cheating by my husband ignoring sexual part of the marriage...
Just trying to see if you are as my husband. And you maybe drove your man into cheating?
If your needs aren't met and you are unsatisfied in your relationship, what do you stay and not just leave instead?
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Gosh. Am I the only one who has an Aquarius father who was faithful to his marriage?
I think my aqua dad was faithful, but he traveled a lot for work so who knows? After my parents got divorced he dated a lot of different women but never remarried...
Posted by Leo188881Hon. Imagine being an 60 y/old man who used be catered to him and kept cozy and comfy. So when he lost sex desire - he didnāt really suffered from it because his wife hadnāt complained. She was too busy working and catering to his needs.Posted by GemitatiI don't have a roommate because I like my space so I can't relate to that. I'd rather be alone than unhappy with someone.Posted by Leo188881There are many many things that keeping people together. If they donāt hate each other and aināt violent and managing - you donāt leave your roommate who pays half of rent out do you? And you donāt even have kids with them...so why to do it to a spouse?Posted by Gemitati
@Pisces_67
What was your sex life like?
Are you an active woman?
What do you want? You canāt un-know what you know...what do you want after all?
Do you love him? Like a man or 24 y/old possession?
Iāve been married for 24 years myself.
And all youāve written is an opposite in my family. I am the one who was driven into cheating by my husband ignoring sexual part of the marriage...
Just trying to see if you are as my husband. And you maybe drove your man into cheating?
If your needs aren't met and you are unsatisfied in your relationship, what do you stay and not just leave instead?
I have no idea how i would handle being cheated on and i hope i never have to find out. But I couldn't ever stay with someone and betray them just because it's convenient for myself. It's too selfish for me.
I would rather leave them and set them free so they can find someone who can love them the way they deserve instead of allowing them to waste their life living in a lie.
What you do is your choice, i just didn't understand why you don't leave him.
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So all this continuing for 10 years out of 24. Do you think he wants to hear āI am filing for dicorceā Just because she wants to set him free?
HE DIESNT WANT TO BE FUKKING FREE!!! Itās not like anybody keeping young able man believing in her fidelity while she is having sex respectfully keeping it a secret from him.
Posted by JadeAlexanderPosted by vixen14Because the kids... people will sacrifice what they need because they believe a stable home is better for this kids.Posted by GemitatiAt that point, why even be with someone who doesn't sexually fulfill you? Unless, sex is not a priority, I just don't understand why stay? If it's something both are willing to workout that makes sense, but cutting off sex to me is like taking my breath away. No way I'd be happy with the lack of intimacy in my relationship.Posted by vixen14I think mostly itās the not a lot of men are really able after a while and women become bored and unsatisfied so they shit down.Posted by GemitatiYeah, i always wonder why women feel the need to starve a man then wonder why men get their fill elsewhere.
I canāt wait to hear the story of how was she always having headaches and refusing him sex based on being tired...
And when men finding someone new - they bounce back and it possess wifes off!
Like āwhat do you mean he has a younger woman? Itās not like he is any good...ā
kind of piss...lol
Then they find a person on the side to fulfill the needs.click to expand
People stay for many reasons, mot just money and kids. When you've been with someone like for that amount of time starting over is scary. All you know is that person and that life and starting over again is not an easy feat.
Been there done that, left my cheating ex after 13 years of crap. Tried everything but he couldn't keep his pecker in his pants and wouldn't touch me.
Horribly sorry to hear this story... as scary as it is life is so much better not dealing with that bull crap. Cheers to you and an amazing future.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
Posted by Leo188881See that so often these days. With that kind of logic, you can get away with murder. "Well, I'm not a bad person. He/she made me do it." šPosted by PINK_ROSESPerpetrators blame the victim
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! šclick to expand
Every adult is responsible for their actions, unless they are mentally unsound or incapacitated.
Posted by Leo188881Pretty good analogy, I'd say. āŗļøPosted by PINK_ROSESPosted by Leo188881See that so often these days. With that kind of logic, you can get away with murder. "Well, I'm not a bad person. He/she made me do it." šPosted by PINK_ROSESPerpetrators blame the victim
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
Every adult is responsible for their actions, unless they are mentally unsound or incapacitated.
True that. Even if someone is shit at sex, disloyalty is a disproportionate response. It's like someone breaking your favourite tea cup so you stab them in the eye with a fork.
I don't know if that made sense but i felt like discussing tea cups for some reason š¤click to expand
Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
Posted by CAPSLOCK2018Donāt you have stalking to do?Posted by GemitatiYou should be the last person to comment.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!click to expand
No takers? Bitter fuck...
Posted by DonumDeiEgo as in trying to win him over despite that he's gone?Posted by enfant_terribleYou might be surprised to know this has very little to do with the masochistic side but more so the ego part (besides the obvious and more tangible financial ties, kinds, legalities etc etc)
Unless you do the Pisces thing and stay for the joy of being tortured.click to expand
Posted by vixen14The second part of your post - - I can't comment on that with certainty.Posted by PINK_ROSESNo one is jumping - other than Gemitati - it's a discussion that could possibly tie in with the OP. But she has yet to respond on why the marriage dismantled.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
Marriage is a two way street and both are at fault. One might have fault more than the other though.click to expand
I would like to believe that in the event of the failure of a marriage, both the partners must be held responsible, but there are cases where you cannot hold the other party at fault at all.
Posted by CAPSLOCK2018Posted by GemitatiNo wonder why you're still single. Fix that attitude and your milk shake might bring all the boys to your yardPosted by CAPSLOCK2018Donāt you have stalking to do?Posted by GemitatiYou should be the last person to comment.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
No takers? Bitter fuck...
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lol
but she has three men ...the capricorn, who is disabled, and the unavailable scorpio and the possible cancer man.
Posted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!click to expand
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
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Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
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I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
Posted by Leo188881Donāt fuck your woman and you will find yourself fucked! Blame her...itās really her fault...right? LmaoPosted by GemitatiPosted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
In your situation we don't blame the man for cheating. We blame you. In this situation the man is to blame for his actions, not her.
Whatever your reason for doing it, it is your choice to cheat. Your partner didn't come along and push you onto someone elses dick and force you to cheat. You did that yourself.
Accept responsibility for your actions. If you want to cheat, go ahead. Just don't blame someone else for your disloyalty, deception and lies. That's 100% on you. If that's who you are, own it. You chose to do it so it'snot his fault.
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Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
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She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
Posted by PINK_ROSESWifeās are getting feeling āentitledā and donāt deliver! Huge blow...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
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Posted by Leo188881Ok darling. Imagine me being totally sexually satisfied and happy!Posted by GemitatiYou blamed the pisces woman for him cheating and you blame your husband for you cheating. It's not about gender it's about a cheater and the person who gets cheated on. You're being bias in your judgement because you can't admit that what you're doing is wrong. You're justifying actions that aren't justifiable.Posted by Leo188881Donāt fuck your woman and you will find yourself fucked! Blame her...itās really her fault...right? LmaoPosted by GemitatiPosted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
In your situation we don't blame the man for cheating. We blame you. In this situation the man is to blame for his actions, not her.
Whatever your reason for doing it, it is your choice to cheat. Your partner didn't come along and push you onto someone elses dick and force you to cheat. You did that yourself.
Accept responsibility for your actions. If you want to cheat, go ahead. Just don't blame someone else for your disloyalty, deception and lies. That's 100% on you. If that's who you are, own it. You chose to do it so it'snot his fault.
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WHY would I cheat?
Think and reply...
Canāt wait...lol
Some men use sex as a form of comfort
Women go to their women friends to talk to talk and work through their issues
Men go to women for sex, hence the "it didn't mean anything" line we hear over and over again. It just serves a need....
Women go to their women friends to talk to talk and work through their issues
Men go to women for sex, hence the "it didn't mean anything" line we hear over and over again. It just serves a need....
Posted by MyStarsShineeww
Some men use sex as a form of comfort
Women go to their women friends to talk to talk and work through their issues
Men go to women for sex, hence the "it didn't mean anything" line we hear over and over again. It just serves a need....
i'd rather a MONK, a man who can control libido. and have no sex for decades.
almost Asexual.
Posted by lisabethur8You can't cheat with a MONK.Posted by MyStarsShineeww
Some men use sex as a form of comfort
Women go to their women friends to talk to talk and work through their issues
Men go to women for sex, hence the "it didn't mean anything" line we hear over and over again. It just serves a need....
i'd rather a MONK, a man who can control libido. and have no sex for decades.
almost Asexual.
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Posted by AerialViewšPosted by lisabethur8You can't cheat with a MONK.Posted by MyStarsShineeww
Some men use sex as a form of comfort
Women go to their women friends to talk to talk and work through their issues
Men go to women for sex, hence the "it didn't mean anything" line we hear over and over again. It just serves a need....
i'd rather a MONK, a man who can control libido. and have no sex for decades.
almost Asexual.
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there's no challenge. his love is for the spiritual.
"Unless you do the Pisces thing and stay for the joy of being tortured".
Uh, I beg to differ! Don't fucking utilize the zodiac sign of Piscean to be a door mat! š”
š¤ cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Uh, I beg to differ! Don't fucking utilize the zodiac sign of Piscean to be a door mat! š”
š¤ cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lolclick to expand
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
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When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!
Posted by GemitatiOf course not. You can't expect things to remain the same. That is what you should understand as well.Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!click to expand
There is nothing wrong with your husband, I'm sure. It's just being in this relationship that has made him complacent. Instead of taking over all responsibilities and pretending to be okay with the status quo, you should have given him a challenge? Just my thoughts...
Posted by PINK_ROSESOk. You saying that nothing is wrong with man whoās only interests in life are drinks and TV?Posted by GemitatiOf course not. You can't expect things to remain the same. That is what you should understand as well.Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!
There is nothing wrong with your husband, I'm sure. It's just being in this relationship that has made him complacent. Instead of taking over all responsibilities and pretending to be okay with the status quo, you should have given him a challenge? Just my thoughts...click to expand
Honey, thanks for trying! You are waaaaay wrong!
Posted by GemitatiHe has become complacent. Your situation is quite similar to that of my friend's. Her husband has refused to work since 2010 and she is the sole provider. His logic is that they have enough to last their lifetime, so why work?Posted by PINK_ROSESOk. You saying that nothing is wrong with man whoās only interests in life are drinks and TV?Posted by GemitatiOf course not. You can't expect things to remain the same. That is what you should understand as well.Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!
There is nothing wrong with your husband, I'm sure. It's just being in this relationship that has made him complacent. Instead of taking over all responsibilities and pretending to be okay with the status quo, you should have given him a challenge? Just my thoughts...
Honey, thanks for trying! You are waaaaay wrong!click to expand
Their relationship is almost over since they don't have a physical or emotional connection anymore. And they are just in their 30s. Anyway, despite being under stress for so many years, there has been no cheating in their marriage. My friend has decided to walk out if he does not improve by this year's end.
I asked her why she chose to stay for so long. She told me she was just one of those people who remain in their comfort zone. Being with him was comfortable although she is not happy.
She is a Capricorn and he is a Taurus.
Posted by PINK_ROSESI appreciate you trying to save my marriage and defend my husband...šPosted by GemitatiHe has become complacent. Your situation is quite similar to that of my friend's. Her husband has refused to work since 2010 and she is the sole provider. His logic is that they have enough to last their lifetime, so why work?Posted by PINK_ROSESOk. You saying that nothing is wrong with man whoās only interests in life are drinks and TV?Posted by GemitatiOf course not. You can't expect things to remain the same. That is what you should understand as well.Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!
There is nothing wrong with your husband, I'm sure. It's just being in this relationship that has made him complacent. Instead of taking over all responsibilities and pretending to be okay with the status quo, you should have given him a challenge? Just my thoughts...
Honey, thanks for trying! You are waaaaay wrong!
Their relationship is almost over since they don't have a physical or emotional connection anymore. And they are just in their 30s. Anyway, despite being under stress for so many years, there has been no cheating in their marriage. My friend has decided to walk out if he does not improve by this year's end.
I asked her why she chose to stay for so long. She told me she was just one of those people who remain in their comfort zone. Being with him was comfortable although she is not happy.
She is a Capricorn and he is a Taurus.click to expand
Your friends are 30. Even if they married at 19 they will be married twice less than Iāve been.
He says they have enough and she is working? He has a logic of the trust fund child...if I was her - he would be a history since 2011...
And there was no cheating by me for 17 years emotionally and 21!!! Physically!
And I am staying because we own a house for 23 years and we need to pay it off and weāve raised a child. College and all...I havenāt stayed out of comfort.
I didnāt know IT CAN BE DIFFERENT!!!
As soon as I find out Iāve changed and actually VERY HAPPY!!!
So nothing in that example resonates.
š thanks
Posted by GemitatiThe guy was a banker with Merrill Lynch. After having lost that job, he refused to work for anything less.Posted by PINK_ROSESI appreciate you trying to save my marriage and defend my husband...šPosted by GemitatiHe has become complacent. Your situation is quite similar to that of my friend's. Her husband has refused to work since 2010 and she is the sole provider. His logic is that they have enough to last their lifetime, so why work?Posted by PINK_ROSESOk. You saying that nothing is wrong with man whoās only interests in life are drinks and TV?Posted by GemitatiOf course not. You can't expect things to remain the same. That is what you should understand as well.Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!
There is nothing wrong with your husband, I'm sure. It's just being in this relationship that has made him complacent. Instead of taking over all responsibilities and pretending to be okay with the status quo, you should have given him a challenge? Just my thoughts...
Honey, thanks for trying! You are waaaaay wrong!
Their relationship is almost over since they don't have a physical or emotional connection anymore. And they are just in their 30s. Anyway, despite being under stress for so many years, there has been no cheating in their marriage. My friend has decided to walk out if he does not improve by this year's end.
I asked her why she chose to stay for so long. She told me she was just one of those people who remain in their comfort zone. Being with him was comfortable although she is not happy.
She is a Capricorn and he is a Taurus.
Your friends are 30. Even if they married at 19 they will be married twice less than Iāve been.
He says they have enough and she is working? He has a logic of the trust fund child...if I was her - he would be a history since 2011...
And there was no cheating by me for 17 years emotionally and 21!!! Physically!
And I am staying because we own a house for 23 years and we need to pay it off and weāve raised a child. College and all...I havenāt stayed out of comfort.
I didnāt know IT CAN BE DIFFERENT!!!
As soon as I find out Iāve changed and actually VERY HAPPY!!!
So nothing in that example resonates.
š thanksclick to expand
Anyway, I just can't win with you. š I'm not trying to change you though, just trying to understand what drove you to cheat. You don't see a lot of people willing to discuss their relationship with such frankness -- the good and the bad of it.
Posted by PINK_ROSESI was told once as a joke that God made few of like me and then decided to destroy them and I got away...lolPosted by GemitatiThe guy was a banker with Merrill Lynch. After having lost that job, he refused to work for anything less.Posted by PINK_ROSESI appreciate you trying to save my marriage and defend my husband...šPosted by GemitatiHe has become complacent. Your situation is quite similar to that of my friend's. Her husband has refused to work since 2010 and she is the sole provider. His logic is that they have enough to last their lifetime, so why work?Posted by PINK_ROSESOk. You saying that nothing is wrong with man whoās only interests in life are drinks and TV?Posted by GemitatiOf course not. You can't expect things to remain the same. That is what you should understand as well.Posted by PINK_ROSESYouāll never understand what marriage turning into when you feel and see how your spouse ādoing you a favorā or ātrying to cum quickly so itās overā because he is just lazy!Posted by Gemitati"..men are looking when they arenāt getting..."Posted by PINK_ROSESNormally...not that I know for sure...men are looking when they arenāt getting...Posted by GemitatiBut Gemitati, if what he desires is cyber sex with younger women, how is she supposed to provide that? Maybe he's got a taste for novelty?Posted by PINK_ROSESPosted by GemitatiTalking about risk... It's possible he doesn't see it that way. Being married for a certain period, and having had 3 children, must have given him the confidence that his wife will not leave him, but instead put up with everything he dishes out at her.Posted by PINK_ROSESIt was simply a speculation because it happens too often.
Why are we jumping to the conclusion that the OP was not giving her husband sex? š¤ Or giving him bad sex!! š
I donāt see why father of 3 grown up kids with wife who gives him good sex would risk all this convenience and all would jeopardize ALL THAT!
OP also stated that he has done this before. And that he's on medication for depression.
Not everything is related to sex or the quality and frequency of it. You have to take all factors into account.
Good observation but how come she just catches it now? What happened before?
He was cheating in his awesomely sex giving wife and she hadnāt felt shit?
I donāt believe this!
She gave him best sex in her opinion but he might been craving something she wasnāt giving to him?
So for her it was amazing and for him it was...not!
So he as a man went to find his things that she lacked...
Everyone blaming men and I am sick of this notions!
Years of the same shit wears them out because men have fantasies!
You donāt fill their fantasies - you face him go looking:
No one ready to die with 2 positions woman gives you!
Men want 10! Oops...not this and not that makes them LOOK!
Elsewhere...
I'm not vilifying anyone here. I just think that OP's case is not about what you are assuming it to be.
She said they had awesome sexā
Thatās what my husband thinks.:.
laughing my ass off!!!
Keep thinking...have you got me cum?
Lol
It's all about choices. We're living in an age where finding a partner that suits your needs is not difficult at all, provided you are being realistic about where you stand. So after having so many options, when you choose to marry someone, it's because they stood apart from the rest? They were willing to provide you something that others were not. After all that, you cannot devalue them by saying they were bad at sex and so you had to look elsewhere. Maybe the fact that you chose to focus on people other than your partner, made the sex bad?
You always have the option of working together and understanding your partner's erotic nature or taking your attention away from them and start looking for someone new, because that is more exciting anyway.
In your case, I don't think the cheating was about sex at all. By your own admission, the Scorpio wasn't good at it either.
When he turned into complete ābroā and roommate - I was still ok with that.
And sex with a Scorpio was not bad!
It was out of the work, canāt believe it, what had just happened? š
It was MORE than sex! But I canāt explain.
You seriously thinking if you chose someone decades ago - that will always be as on a day first? Think again. No!
There is nothing wrong with your husband, I'm sure. It's just being in this relationship that has made him complacent. Instead of taking over all responsibilities and pretending to be okay with the status quo, you should have given him a challenge? Just my thoughts...
Honey, thanks for trying! You are waaaaay wrong!
Their relationship is almost over since they don't have a physical or emotional connection anymore. And they are just in their 30s. Anyway, despite being under stress for so many years, there has been no cheating in their marriage. My friend has decided to walk out if he does not improve by this year's end.
I asked her why she chose to stay for so long. She told me she was just one of those people who remain in their comfort zone. Being with him was comfortable although she is not happy.
She is a Capricorn and he is a Taurus.
Your friends are 30. Even if they married at 19 they will be married twice less than Iāve been.
He says they have enough and she is working? He has a logic of the trust fund child...if I was her - he would be a history since 2011...
And there was no cheating by me for 17 years emotionally and 21!!! Physically!
And I am staying because we own a house for 23 years and we need to pay it off and weāve raised a child. College and all...I havenāt stayed out of comfort.
I didnāt know IT CAN BE DIFFERENT!!!
As soon as I find out Iāve changed and actually VERY HAPPY!!!
So nothing in that example resonates.
š thanks
Anyway, I just can't win with you. š I'm not trying to change you though, just trying to understand what drove you to cheat. You don't see a lot of people willing to discuss their relationship with such frankness -- the good and the bad of it.click to expand
So maybe thatās an explanation...šš
What I am driven by is by the fact that everyone seems to jumping on people who are cheating without even trying to understand that cheating isnāt fun.
Itās a desperate action of one who was driven into cheating by many many factors. And I am NOT talking about serial cheaters who does it for fun and thrill of it.
I am talking about people who hit the wall at some point and found themselves into this cituation and went WOW! Is it me?
How had that happened?
I TOLD my husband about me being unhappy! Iāve got him Cialis! I showed him first message from the Scorpio! I told him I am taken by this man mentally.
I think I had done everything in my power to make him AWARE!
Reaction? Whatās for dinner?
So Iāve got extremely pissed off and decided I am going to take care of my needs myself and I had a man who looked at me like I was the most desirable thing ever created!
Well...whatever it is - if itās not my husbands fault 99% - itās at least 50% .
We used to raise our kids asking: before that kid did it to you - what have YOU done to them? Same principal here.
I think...š
Posted by GemitatiWhat are the Scorpio's intentions? Why keep your relationship in limbo for so long?
I was told once as a joke that God made few of like me and then decided to destroy them and I got away...lol
So maybe thatās an explanation...šš
What I am driven by is by the fact that everyone seems to jumping on people who are cheating without even trying to understand that cheating isnāt fun.
Itās a desperate action of one who was driven into cheating by many many factors. And I am NOT talking about serial cheaters who does it for fun and thrill of it.
I am talking about people who hit the wall at some point and found themselves into this cituation and went WOW! Is it me?
How had that happened?
I TOLD my husband about me being unhappy! Iāve got him Cialis! I showed him first message from the Scorpio! I told him I am taken by this man mentally.
I think I had done everything in my power to make him AWARE!
Reaction? Whatās for dinner?
So Iāve got extremely pissed off and decided I am going to take care of my needs myself and I had a man who looked at me like I was the most desirable thing ever created!
Well...whatever it is - if itās not my husbands fault 99% - itās at least 50% .
We used to raise our kids asking: before that kid did it to you - what have YOU done to them? Same principal here.
I think...š
"I had a man who looked at me like I was the most desirable thing ever created!"
In my earlier post I wanted to state that that must have been what took your focus away from your husband. I hear this a lot, mostly from women who feel neglected in their relationships. But it is one thing to look at someone with a desire in your eyes, another thing to truly value you.
I'm not sure why your husband has become so passive. Maybe it's his age? If both of you are unwilling to work on your relationship, then a new start with other people is indeed the best option.
In OPs case, I don't think it's right for us to say that because he cheated, she must have neglected his needs. People have such unrealistic expectations these days. We are living in age of information and it's so easy to get carried away. You could be a homebody, but you log into social media and see your friends dining out every weekend or traveling the globe with their partners...you start analysing your own relationship and finding faults, which is very easy since no relationship is perfect. We make others' needs our own. Remaining true to oneself is very important.
Does OPs husband really need the attention of strange women online or maintain relationships with them? Is that a need or an addiction?
When we start saying that it's right for a person to seek connections outside of an established relationship, because their partner is lacking in certain areas, then we're encouraging an Ć la carte approach to relationships, which is fine really if that is what both the parties have agreed for.
However, it is not a concept that is easy to digest for a majority of the population, because at the end of the day, our predominant need is that of security.
Posted by PINK_ROSESWell...unfortunately this āproblemā is so common...it is been going on since the world turns and if he has a statistic that is real...I am sure everyone would be horrified!Posted by GemitatiWhat are the Scorpio's intentions? Why keep your relationship in limbo for so long?
I was told once as a joke that God made few of like me and then decided to destroy them and I got away...lol
So maybe thatās an explanation...šš
What I am driven by is by the fact that everyone seems to jumping on people who are cheating without even trying to understand that cheating isnāt fun.
Itās a desperate action of one who was driven into cheating by many many factors. And I am NOT talking about serial cheaters who does it for fun and thrill of it.
I am talking about people who hit the wall at some point and found themselves into this cituation and went WOW! Is it me?
How had that happened?
I TOLD my husband about me being unhappy! Iāve got him Cialis! I showed him first message from the Scorpio! I told him I am taken by this man mentally.
I think I had done everything in my power to make him AWARE!
Reaction? Whatās for dinner?
So Iāve got extremely pissed off and decided I am going to take care of my needs myself and I had a man who looked at me like I was the most desirable thing ever created!
Well...whatever it is - if itās not my husbands fault 99% - itās at least 50% .
We used to raise our kids asking: before that kid did it to you - what have YOU done to them? Same principal here.
I think...š
"I had a man who looked at me like I was the most desirable thing ever created!"
In my earlier post I wanted to state that that must have been what took your focus away from your husband. I hear this a lot, mostly from women who feel neglected in their relationships. But it is one thing to look at someone with a desire in your eyes, another thing to truly value you.
I'm not sure why your husband has become so passive. Maybe it's his age? If both of you are unwilling to work on your relationship, then a new start with other people is indeed the best option.
In OPs case, I don't think it's right for us to say that because he cheated, she must have neglected his needs. People have such unrealistic expectations these days. We are living in age of information and it's so easy to get carried away. You could be a homebody, but you log into social media and see your friends dining out every weekend or traveling the globe with their partners...you start analysing your own relationship and finding faults, which is very easy since no relationship is perfect. We make others' needs our own. Remaining true to oneself is very important.
Does OPs husband really need the attention of strange women online or maintain relationships with them? Is that a need or an addiction?
When we start saying that it's right for a person to seek connections outside of an established relationship, because their partner is lacking in certain areas, then we're encouraging an Ć la carte approach to relationships, which is fine really if that is what both the parties have agreed for.
However, it is not a concept that is easy to digest for a majority of the population, because at the end of the day, our predominant need is that of security.click to expand
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