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Posted by Hemispheres
Depends. I was totally uncomfortable doing so but I ended giving my ex’s daughter a quick pop on the leg a few times. Had her permission from the get go but never did it until I got fed up with the toddler tantrums.
Why would you slap someone else's little one if you felt uncomfortable?
I think its important to know the kind of person you're raising. Is the child bold and resilient or gentle and inquisitive? I feel children of the former type can definitely take a firm hand or two or three and grow up absolutely fine but kids of the latter kind don't take it very well.
When a sensitive child is hit and does not leave from it understanding why then the pain will likely be internalized and the child begins to feel he/she is defective with repeated punishment—maturing into mental illnesses such as social anxiety and depression if things remain the same over time.
I'm still having trouble understanding why a father would beat and berate a child who is already injured and bleeding profusely from a fall.
I like to believe I'm passed the point self loathing because I made the promise to be more kind to myself but I don't think I can ever really let go of the resentment I have for my father. I try to reason with myself and it'll work for a time—he hasn't beaten me or my siblings in years—but then he'll be this huge emotional dick and hurl obscenities at any of us, even extended family, friends, and strangers aren't exempt, and then I'll just hate the man so much again. It's really shameful and embarrassing.
I know it's absolutely not healthy and I distance myself from him as much as I can. But we're family and we have to take care of him. I'm an uncle now and I need to be ready in the event I find my father reaching for a weapon to hit my nephew with. I will not hesitate to rip it from his hands and "discipline" him instead. He's already hit one of our dogs pretty hard when she wouldn't stop barking and I threatened him.
On the subject of taking or denying belongings and privileges as a form of punishment, it wasn't really effective on me as a teenager from experience. I didn't have much to take from as a child. And I believed I was a good teenage boy and felt I didn't deserve to have things that I enjoyed or was attached to taken from me. I don't know how taking and hiding the power supply cord to the computer just because I wouldn't go to sleep at 10 PM helped me become a better person. What did I need to reflect on? I'm easily prone to stress and being a model student and getting those good grades took it's toll on me mentally. I needed to unwind and kill some son-of-a-bitches on Counter-Strike 1.6 THEN I'd go to bed at 12 AM. So I just never told her we had a second cord and shut down and hid it whenever she got home.
Only served to turn me into a crafty, sneaky boy.
When a sensitive child is hit and does not leave from it understanding why then the pain will likely be internalized and the child begins to feel he/she is defective with repeated punishment—maturing into mental illnesses such as social anxiety and depression if things remain the same over time.
I'm still having trouble understanding why a father would beat and berate a child who is already injured and bleeding profusely from a fall.
I like to believe I'm passed the point self loathing because I made the promise to be more kind to myself but I don't think I can ever really let go of the resentment I have for my father. I try to reason with myself and it'll work for a time—he hasn't beaten me or my siblings in years—but then he'll be this huge emotional dick and hurl obscenities at any of us, even extended family, friends, and strangers aren't exempt, and then I'll just hate the man so much again. It's really shameful and embarrassing.
I know it's absolutely not healthy and I distance myself from him as much as I can. But we're family and we have to take care of him. I'm an uncle now and I need to be ready in the event I find my father reaching for a weapon to hit my nephew with. I will not hesitate to rip it from his hands and "discipline" him instead. He's already hit one of our dogs pretty hard when she wouldn't stop barking and I threatened him.
On the subject of taking or denying belongings and privileges as a form of punishment, it wasn't really effective on me as a teenager from experience. I didn't have much to take from as a child. And I believed I was a good teenage boy and felt I didn't deserve to have things that I enjoyed or was attached to taken from me. I don't know how taking and hiding the power supply cord to the computer just because I wouldn't go to sleep at 10 PM helped me become a better person. What did I need to reflect on? I'm easily prone to stress and being a model student and getting those good grades took it's toll on me mentally. I needed to unwind and kill some son-of-a-bitches on Counter-Strike 1.6 THEN I'd go to bed at 12 AM. So I just never told her we had a second cord and shut down and hid it whenever she got home.
Only served to turn me into a crafty, sneaky boy.
If a parent *has* to resort to disciplinary hitting, that means he/she failed in setting boundaries that the child understood.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Hemispheres
Depends. I was totally uncomfortable doing so but I ended giving my ex’s daughter a quick pop on the leg a few times. Had her permission from the get go but never did it until I got fed up with the toddler tantrums.
Why would you slap someone else's little one if you felt uncomfortable?click to expand
This was after numerous tantrums and permission from her mother. My biggest fear was that her kid would hate my guts, but all she really did was momentarily throw an even bigger fit until she passed out. Her mom wasn’t always around to dicipline her at that exact moment so a light pop is what it took because she wouldn’t listen to verbal commands.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If a parent *has* to ressort to disciplinary hitting, that means he/she failed in setting boundaries that the child understood.
Or the child is spoiled. Biggest issue I’ve seen is relatives spoiling the child teaching them they can have whatever they want leaving the parents with the aftermath. A lil ass whoopin every now and then is healthy.
Posted by HemispheresPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Hemispheres
Depends. I was totally uncomfortable doing so but I ended giving my ex’s daughter a quick pop on the leg a few times. Had her permission from the get go but never did it until I got fed up with the toddler tantrums.
Why would you slap someone else's little one if you felt uncomfortable?
This was after numerous tantrums and permission from her mother. My biggest fear was that her kid would hate my guts, but all she really did was momentarily throw an even bigger fit until she passed out. Her mom wasn’t always around to dicipline her at that exact moment so a light pop is what it took because she wouldn’t listen to verbal commands.click to expand
Okay thanks
What if the "light pop" hadn't worked?
Posted by HemispheresPosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If a parent *has* to ressort to disciplinary hitting, that means he/she failed in setting boundaries that the child understood.
Or the child is spoiled. Biggest issue I’ve seen is relatives spoiling the child teaching them they can have whatever they want leaving the parents with the aftermath. A lil ass whoopin every now and then is healthy.click to expand
Not spoiling also has to do with setting boundaries
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If a parent *has* to ressort to disciplinary hitting, that means he/she failed in setting boundaries that the child understood.
Yes it does
It's a quick fix of shutting the child up. Often it's done anger😡 too....the parent resorts back to being a child themselves and lashes out
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by HemispheresPosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If a parent *has* to ressort to disciplinary hitting, that means he/she failed in setting boundaries that the child understood.
Or the child is spoiled. Biggest issue I’ve seen is relatives spoiling the child teaching them they can have whatever they want leaving the parents with the aftermath. A lil ass whoopin every now and then is healthy.
Not spoiling also has to do with setting boundariesclick to expand
You will be a good dad❤️
My ex Virgo didn't come anywhere close to striking our lad, even though he had a bully for a father himself. Thankfully he broke the pattern of behaviour. They have a very close friendship now
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HemispheresPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Hemispheres
Depends. I was totally uncomfortable doing so but I ended giving my ex’s daughter a quick pop on the leg a few times. Had her permission from the get go but never did it until I got fed up with the toddler tantrums.
Why would you slap someone else's little one if you felt uncomfortable?
This was after numerous tantrums and permission from her mother. My biggest fear was that her kid would hate my guts, but all she really did was momentarily throw an even bigger fit until she passed out. Her mom wasn’t always around to dicipline her at that exact moment so a light pop is what it took because she wouldn’t listen to verbal commands.
Okay thanks
What if the "light pop" hadn't worked?
click to expand
Then I popped aspirin and prepped for the arrival of the wahhhbulance.
Posted by HemispheresPosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If a parent *has* to ressort to disciplinary hitting, that means he/she failed in setting boundaries that the child understood.
Or the child is spoiled. Biggest issue I’ve seen is relatives spoiling the child teaching them they can have whatever they want leaving the parents with the aftermath. A lil ass whoopin every now and then is healthy.click to expand
Not necessary to hit
Just learn a very firm NO....kids always push boundaries so it's up to the adult to put them in place, firmly...
A toddler whom is experiencing the terrible twos doesn’t give two shits about what you have to say, they’re going to do want no matter how many times you say no.
Posted by Hemispheres
A toddler whom is experiencing the terrible twos doesn’t give two shits about what you have to say, they’re going to do want no matter how many times you say no.
That is how they learn not to, by a mature adult teaching them....it takes maturity and patience.....it's repetition...they need that firm boundary line
@MyStarsShine
Not always. In this case you had the mother being undermined by the grandmother whom she lived with and fed her daughter candy all day. Father was present but was extreme with discipline. Almost had the police called on him for folding the child’s arms and pinning her down causing her to have a hard time breathing.
Non the less when you have a young child with behavioral issues verbal commands don’t mean shit no matter what fairytale upbringing says is appropriate. Here in the good ole us the decline of ass whoopings has been correlated with an increase in entitled brats.
Not always. In this case you had the mother being undermined by the grandmother whom she lived with and fed her daughter candy all day. Father was present but was extreme with discipline. Almost had the police called on him for folding the child’s arms and pinning her down causing her to have a hard time breathing.
Non the less when you have a young child with behavioral issues verbal commands don’t mean shit no matter what fairytale upbringing says is appropriate. Here in the good ole us the decline of ass whoopings has been correlated with an increase in entitled brats.
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No. It’s never okay to hit children. Not even if your excuse is ‘discipline’.
I was watching the nature channel. It was about elephants. The baby elephant went away from the crowd. The lions were about that day. Mother elephant went crazy, looking for her son. She found him and explored him with her trunk to make sure he wasn't hurt. Once she knew he was okay, she smacked him with her trunk, yelling. He learned never to stray again.
So discipline is important, even in the animal kingdom.
Cute story. People aren’t elephants tho
YouTube it. We are all mammals though.
Adult male penguins rape the young.
Chimpanzees sometimes torture and kill their young.
Female sloths will many times eat their young right after birth.
I could go on...
Holding up animal behavior as a measure of morality in humans is gonna get messy fast.
Please let us know how it goes when you defend hitting your kid to CPS with the excuse that elephants do it too. I’m sure it’ll be fine 👍
Reaching a bit aren't you? With all the unnecessary attitude. I'm 53 and I don't have kids. But I do have parents who disciplined me and my siblings. It's not as bad as everyone makes it.
Who is trying to justify anything to who? Point is, it's parental instinct to discipline kids when they get out of line. A tap means hey, you went to dangerous levels and I'm trying to keep you safe. Explain hot to a child when they want to touch the stove. Explain hit by a car if they suddenly dash across the street. If you don't get it, that's on you Chica.
Explain does not = hitting a child.
Zero attitude here. Also never used the word justify. Just pointing out the obvious.
Tap on the ass with explanation works. Some kids don't listen to words alone. One method doesn't work for all kids. A swift tap doesn't equal beating kids.
Yes being spanked is not the same as hitting your child.
My original post said ‘hitting is not okay’. Getting?
I get a lot more than you think. Of course you will deny it. You want to respond, not listen, this creating a back and forth instead of a insightful debate. Good day.
Hun your the one who quoted me and inserted its cool to hit kids cause elephants do. Don't be mad I responded.
You're the one reaching and stretching things no one said. I explained my point but you just want to talk out of your ass. Save it because you had an attitude in the door. Don't twist my words around for the sake of acting like a bitch. Now deny that, hun. You are good. This conversation can end now. Have a good day I said.click to expand
Yes, I'm a bitch.
And elephants still aren't people.
So basically, you're asking who's conservative/traditionalist:
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No. It’s never okay to hit children. Not even if your excuse is ‘discipline’.
I was watching the nature channel. It was about elephants. The baby elephant went away from the crowd. The lions were about that day. Mother elephant went crazy, looking for her son. She found him and explored him with her trunk to make sure he wasn't hurt. Once she knew he was okay, she smacked him with her trunk, yelling. He learned never to stray again.
So discipline is important, even in the animal kingdom.
Cute story. People aren’t elephants tho
YouTube it. We are all mammals though.
Adult male penguins rape the young.
Chimpanzees sometimes torture and kill their young.
Female sloths will many times eat their young right after birth.
I could go on...
Holding up animal behavior as a measure of morality in humans is gonna get messy fast.
Please let us know how it goes when you defend hitting your kid to CPS with the excuse that elephants do it too. I’m sure it’ll be fine 👍
Reaching a bit aren't you? With all the unnecessary attitude. I'm 53 and I don't have kids. But I do have parents who disciplined me and my siblings. It's not as bad as everyone makes it.
Who is trying to justify anything to who? Point is, it's parental instinct to discipline kids when they get out of line. A tap means hey, you went to dangerous levels and I'm trying to keep you safe. Explain hot to a child when they want to touch the stove. Explain hit by a car if they suddenly dash across the street. If you don't get it, that's on you Chica.
Explain does not = hitting a child.
Zero attitude here. Also never used the word justify. Just pointing out the obvious.
Tap on the ass with explanation works. Some kids don't listen to words alone. One method doesn't work for all kids. A swift tap doesn't equal beating kids.
Yes being spanked is not the same as hitting your child.
My original post said ‘hitting is not okay’. Getting?
I get a lot more than you think. Of course you will deny it. You want to respond, not listen, this creating a back and forth instead of a insightful debate. Good day.
Hun your the one who quoted me and inserted its cool to hit kids cause elephants do. Don't be mad I responded.
You're the one reaching and stretching things no one said. I explained my point but you just want to talk out of your ass. Save it because you had an attitude in the door. Don't twist my words around for the sake of acting like a bitch. Now deny that, hun. You are good. This conversation can end now. Have a good day I said.
Yes, I'm a bitch.
And elephants still aren't people.
Lol show where it was said they are. Please bold that sentence. I'll wait. That's the dumb conclusion your mind came up with, toots. Twisting words, failing to grasp the point doesn't make you witty.
You can start the next day being ignorant and petty by yourself. As usual.click to expand
"Were all mammals tho"
"The conversation can end now"
Can it? Cause you keep quoting me so it doesn't look like you want it to end...
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No. It’s never okay to hit children. Not even if your excuse is ‘discipline’.
I was watching the nature channel. It was about elephants. The baby elephant went away from the crowd. The lions were about that day. Mother elephant went crazy, looking for her son. She found him and explored him with her trunk to make sure he wasn't hurt. Once she knew he was okay, she smacked him with her trunk, yelling. He learned never to stray again.
So discipline is important, even in the animal kingdom.
Cute story. People aren’t elephants tho
YouTube it. We are all mammals though.
Adult male penguins rape the young.
Chimpanzees sometimes torture and kill their young.
Female sloths will many times eat their young right after birth.
I could go on...
Holding up animal behavior as a measure of morality in humans is gonna get messy fast.
Please let us know how it goes when you defend hitting your kid to CPS with the excuse that elephants do it too. I’m sure it’ll be fine 👍
Reaching a bit aren't you? With all the unnecessary attitude. I'm 53 and I don't have kids. But I do have parents who disciplined me and my siblings. It's not as bad as everyone makes it.
Who is trying to justify anything to who? Point is, it's parental instinct to discipline kids when they get out of line. A tap means hey, you went to dangerous levels and I'm trying to keep you safe. Explain hot to a child when they want to touch the stove. Explain hit by a car if they suddenly dash across the street. If you don't get it, that's on you Chica.
Explain does not = hitting a child.
Zero attitude here. Also never used the word justify. Just pointing out the obvious.
Tap on the ass with explanation works. Some kids don't listen to words alone. One method doesn't work for all kids. A swift tap doesn't equal beating kids.
Yes being spanked is not the same as hitting your child.
My original post said ‘hitting is not okay’. Getting?
I get a lot more than you think. Of course you will deny it. You want to respond, not listen, this creating a back and forth instead of a insightful debate. Good day.
Hun your the one who quoted me and inserted its cool to hit kids cause elephants do. Don't be mad I responded.
You're the one reaching and stretching things no one said. I explained my point but you just want to talk out of your ass. Save it because you had an attitude in the door. Don't twist my words around for the sake of acting like a bitch. Now deny that, hun. You are good. This conversation can end now. Have a good day I said.
Yes, I'm a bitch.
And elephants still aren't people.
Lol show where it was said they are. Please bold that sentence. I'll wait. That's the dumb conclusion your mind came up with, toots. Twisting words, failing to grasp the point doesn't make you witty.
You can start the next day being ignorant and petty by yourself. As usual.
"Were all mammals tho"
"The conversation can end now"
Can it? Cause you keep quoting me so it doesn't look like you want it to end...
Takes 2, doesn't it? I woke up to you quoting me today. I let the thing go last night before I slept. Notifications don't lie. You just quoted me 2 hours ago. You're not going to talk to me any kind of way and expect me to let you.
My good day should have been it. But no, you had to be haughty and keep going. You chose to extend it to the next day. So please. Hypocrite.click to expand
I never said I wanted the conversation to end, now did I. That was all you boo.
Posted by nakedgirlavalanche
no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does fck with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious
Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"
Posted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanche
no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does fck with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious
Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"
mostly my father, my mom has always been greatclick to expand
Thank God for good mums. What did he do to you?
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No. It’s never okay to hit children. Not even if your excuse is ‘discipline’.
I was watching the nature channel. It was about elephants. The baby elephant went away from the crowd. The lions were about that day. Mother elephant went crazy, looking for her son. She found him and explored him with her trunk to make sure he wasn't hurt. Once she knew he was okay, she smacked him with her trunk, yelling. He learned never to stray again.
So discipline is important, even in the animal kingdom.
Cute story. People aren’t elephants tho
YouTube it. We are all mammals though.
Adult male penguins rape the young.
Chimpanzees sometimes torture and kill their young.
Female sloths will many times eat their young right after birth.
I could go on...
Holding up animal behavior as a measure of morality in humans is gonna get messy fast.
Please let us know how it goes when you defend hitting your kid to CPS with the excuse that elephants do it too. I’m sure it’ll be fine 👍
Reaching a bit aren't you? With all the unnecessary attitude. I'm 53 and I don't have kids. But I do have parents who disciplined me and my siblings. It's not as bad as everyone makes it.
Who is trying to justify anything to who? Point is, it's parental instinct to discipline kids when they get out of line. A tap means hey, you went to dangerous levels and I'm trying to keep you safe. Explain hot to a child when they want to touch the stove. Explain hit by a car if they suddenly dash across the street. If you don't get it, that's on you Chica.
Explain does not = hitting a child.
Zero attitude here. Also never used the word justify. Just pointing out the obvious.
Tap on the ass with explanation works. Some kids don't listen to words alone. One method doesn't work for all kids. A swift tap doesn't equal beating kids.
Yes being spanked is not the same as hitting your child.
My original post said ‘hitting is not okay’. Getting?
I get a lot more than you think. Of course you will deny it. You want to respond, not listen, this creating a back and forth instead of a insightful debate. Good day.
Hun your the one who quoted me and inserted its cool to hit kids cause elephants do. Don't be mad I responded.
You're the one reaching and stretching things no one said. I explained my point but you just want to talk out of your ass. Save it because you had an attitude in the door. Don't twist my words around for the sake of acting like a bitch. Now deny that, hun. You are good. This conversation can end now. Have a good day I said.
Yes, I'm a bitch.
And elephants still aren't people.
Lol show where it was said they are. Please bold that sentence. I'll wait. That's the dumb conclusion your mind came up with, toots. Twisting words, failing to grasp the point doesn't make you witty.
You can start the next day being ignorant and petty by yourself. As usual.
"Were all mammals tho"
"The conversation can end now"
Can it? Cause you keep quoting me so it doesn't look like you want it to end...
Takes 2, doesn't it? I woke up to you quoting me today. I let the thing go last night before I slept. Notifications don't lie. You just quoted me 2 hours ago. You're not going to talk to me any kind of way and expect me to let you.
My good day should have been it. But no, you had to be haughty and keep going. You chose to extend it to the next day. So please. Hypocrite.
I never said I wanted the conversation to end, now did I. That was all you boo.
I'm not your boo, child. If that's so, why are you complaining about being quoted? Knowing good damn well you quote me back. Are you done yet or you still want to back and forth? I got a hot 5 minutes before I start my day with better things.click to expand
You can't stay away ya hypocrite. Thats ok, I forgive you. I know I have this irresistible pull...don't deny me.
Posted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanche
no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does fck with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious
Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"
mostly my father, my mom has always been great
Thank God for good mums. What did he do to you?
growing up my dad was always working + a drunk so he'd hit all of us for no reason mostly based on assumption and because he deemed us to be misbehaving it was a mixture between belt or kneeling on gravel but kneeling was my favorite because if we counted to 100 punishment would be over
I think he hit us for control tbh he seemed to enjoy it and told us not to cry after or else we'd get hit again
he's not a drunk anymore he's a catholic so basically in his eyes and those who didn't know him at his worst he is a pure saintclick to expand
Drunk Catholic cruel hypocrite...😐. Great "Christian" hey? 😡
So sorry for what you went through....do you still talk to him?
Posted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanche
no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does fck with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious
Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"
mostly my father, my mom has always been great
Thank God for good mums. What did he do to you?
growing up my dad was always working + a drunk so he'd hit all of us for no reason mostly based on assumption and because he deemed us to be misbehaving it was a mixture between belt or kneeling on gravel but kneeling was my favorite because if we counted to 100 punishment would be over
I think he hit us for control tbh he seemed to enjoy it and told us not to cry after or else we'd get hit again
he's not a drunk anymore he's a catholic so basically in his eyes and those who didn't know him at his worst he is a pure saint
Drunk Catholic cruel hypocrite...😐. Great "Christian" hey? 😡
So sorry for what you went through....do you still talk to him?
yeah, he's my father after all plus he is sober has been for a while I mean you can forgive but never forget i've gone thru my own rough upbringing but family is always family it has been ingrained since day 1click to expand
I don't agree that we have to be in the company of anyone who is violent and abuses us. Being a father means other things to me
He is very lucky to have you in his life, I hope he realises that
(((Hugs)))
Ok I'm gonna be crucified for saying this, but it's what I think.
I notice that spanking is far more common in the USA, and much less in other developed countries.
And notice how much more of an issue violent crime in general is in the USA.
I really think violent parenting contributes to that.
I notice that spanking is far more common in the USA, and much less in other developed countries.
And notice how much more of an issue violent crime in general is in the USA.
I really think violent parenting contributes to that.
Posted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanchePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by nakedgirlavalanche
no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does fck with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious
Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"
mostly my father, my mom has always been great
Thank God for good mums. What did he do to you?
growing up my dad was always working + a drunk so he'd hit all of us for no reason mostly based on assumption and because he deemed us to be misbehaving it was a mixture between belt or kneeling on gravel but kneeling was my favorite because if we counted to 100 punishment would be over
I think he hit us for control tbh he seemed to enjoy it and told us not to cry after or else we'd get hit again
he's not a drunk anymore he's a catholic so basically in his eyes and those who didn't know him at his worst he is a pure saint
Drunk Catholic cruel hypocrite...😐. Great "Christian" hey? 😡
So sorry for what you went through....do you still talk to him?
yeah, he's my father after all plus he is sober has been for a while I mean you can forgive but never forget i've gone thru my own rough upbringing but family is always family it has been ingrained since day 1
I don't agree that we have to be in the company of anyone who is violent and abuses us. Being a father means other things to me
He is very lucky to have you in his life, I hope he realises that
(((Hugs)))
he doesn't the other day I was having a small mood swing a temper passed down by him might I add and he said he doesn't know how my man or any man can put up with meclick to expand
Tell him to look in the mirror
😡
Posted by Timon
No people who use violence don't know how to use words to communicate.
Would you hit an adult? Why is it OK to hit a child that's so much smaller then.
Well Timon, picture if you will a child who is told no many times. Starting with a firm “No” building up to a loud assertive “No!” yet still goes and defies your orders. At that point no amount of holding hands singing kumbaya is going to get you anywhere.
Posted by dadjokes
Ok I'm gonna be crucified for saying this, but it's what I think.
I notice that spanking is far more common in the USA, and much less in other developed countries.
And notice how much more of an issue violent crime in general is in the USA.
I really think violent parenting contributes to that.
There are no states in the US where it's illegal to hit your child....i had noticed this too
Posted by Timon
No people who use violence don't know how to use words to communicate.
Would you hit an adult? Why is it OK to hit a child that's so much smaller then.
It isn't okay.
Lol the European superiority is so real lol
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Posted by HemispheresPosted by Timon
No people who use violence don't know how to use words to communicate.
Would you hit an adult? Why is it OK to hit a child that's so much smaller then.
Well Timon, picture if you will a child who is told no many times. Starting with a firm “No” building up to a loud assertive “No!” yet still goes and defies your orders. At that point no amount of holding hands singing kumbaya is going to get you anywhere.click to expand
Did you try putting her on timeout?
Or bring her into the car or a washroom and sit inside it with her and let her scream it out (have earplugs for yourself ready) until she figures out that you'll both sit there doing absolutely nothing until she stops.
I've done both of this with my nephew when watching him during his terrible twos (for weeks on end) with success, but he didn't stop right that second. He had to go through his episode a few times, but he no longer started tantrums since he knew he'd be in a world of unapologetic boredom (and not get what he wanted) if he did.
Expecting a toddler to immediately follow your "orders" is entirely unrealistic lol. They're toddlers. Not soldiers in the military.
When my husband and I have kids of our own, I will also introduce them to meditation at a young age, as it increases emotional self-control and mindfulness.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by pisceswoman123
In here is illegal.
i like that law.click to expand
Me too 😊
Damn this thread went places lol
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Hun your the one who quoted me and inserted its cool to hit kids cause elephants do. Don't be mad I responded.