Stardeath
@Stardeath
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Cancer bf left me.. Please help
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You still haven't said why he left in the first place.
Posted by OneKnight$ 5.90
How much you guys pay for strawberries in your area? I pay 5.99
for 250 grams
Highway-fuckin-robbery
He said I am toxic, manipulative, possessive, guilt tripper, and double-standarder. He said it is too much for him. Because we had frequent arguments lately before the breakup. The toxic part, I've mentioned it to him that I have the capacity to be toxic once I let someone in my system and be my partner. He was saying there that I was never toxic and that I am just needy.
at first he said he'll give a chance for us, but he took it down. and said he will just break up with me, because according to him I won't ever change and nothing will change.
A week before him breaking up, i asked for some space so I can fix myself, because I wanna be better for him. Then he posted about something like the people who are going away instead of staying to fight are the ones that will leave you easily. so i didn't continue with what I was planning, plus he is saying that I am leaving him, where in fact not, i just want some space to be better and understand him better, since he has ADHD. He was saying then that I am breaking up and such. So i stopped my plan, and just pamper him.
Our relationship was roughly 3 months, including the 1 month of exclusively dating. It was a LDR.
at first he said he'll give a chance for us, but he took it down. and said he will just break up with me, because according to him I won't ever change and nothing will change.
A week before him breaking up, i asked for some space so I can fix myself, because I wanna be better for him. Then he posted about something like the people who are going away instead of staying to fight are the ones that will leave you easily. so i didn't continue with what I was planning, plus he is saying that I am leaving him, where in fact not, i just want some space to be better and understand him better, since he has ADHD. He was saying then that I am breaking up and such. So i stopped my plan, and just pamper him.
Our relationship was roughly 3 months, including the 1 month of exclusively dating. It was a LDR.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI replied in the thread.
You still haven't said why he left in the first place.
Have you met in person? Ever
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
Posted by LadyNeptuneNope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year.
Have you met in person? Ever
Posted by LostinmyMind11We are in a vidcall whenever any one of us will sleep. Since we have different timezones. I am hrs ahead of him.
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
Posted by StardeathI gotcha...so you watch each other sleep?Posted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
We are in a vidcall whenever any one of us will sleep. Since we have different timezones. I am hrs ahead of him. click to expandclick to expand
If you want more info about the breakup: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/advice-pls-cancer-man-broke-up-with-me-10803870/?checkpg=1
Posted by LostinmyMind11Yes, like that. And according to him I make it easy for him to fall asleep because he finds it calming, whenever we vidcall and he is about to sleep.Posted by StardeathPosted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
We are in a vidcall whenever any one of us will sleep. Since we have different timezones. I am hrs ahead of him. click to expand
I gotcha...so you watch each other sleep? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by StardeathOk so never met, together ld for 1 month. Why are you so invested in someone who discarded you and doesnāt even respect you enough to not flirt in front of your face with someone else (ie your chat group or whatevs).Posted by LadyNeptune
Have you met in person? Ever
Nope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year. click to expandclick to expand
Someone like this is just a blip on the radar. 30 days isnāt long enough for him to be all in and then leave you. Js
I have to believe your just trolling for the āmy cancer man left meā thread.
Posted by StardeathSo you had phone sex with him. Cringe.
And now I feel like, jealous? Because he is calling with one of our mutual friend, on a daily basis, and they sleep together in a call. I guess. Just like we used to do.
And he keeps on telling in a groupchat were we are both members how she (mutual friend) is being cute in the call
How many nudes did you send?
And itās common knowledge within the group that heās phone fucking her too? Double cringe.
This is prolly his m.o. Gets naive gullible women to think they have something āspecialā and then stockpile the hard drive with those nudes and home vids. Super skeevy vibes all over this guy.
Posted by The_Mad_H8RI was thinking she knew of some new way to have phone sex. I'm like damn.. why don't I know about this and how do I jump on board?! LolPosted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
I was like damn! I want whatever phone she has... the picture must be amazing... click to expandclick to expand
Posted by The_Mad_H8RFyi...Avi 10/10 must keep!Posted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
I was like damn! I want whatever phone she has... the picture must be amazing... click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneWe were like in non-official relationship for like 2 months, before we decided to make it official and exclusive. I was not trolling nor anything, I just want some insights or anything. I am sorry if you thought it the way like that.Posted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptune
Have you met in person? Ever
Nope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year. click to expand
Ok so never met, together ld for 1 month. Why are you so invested in someone who discarded you and doesnāt even respect you enough to not flirt in front of your face with someone else (ie your chat group or whatevs).
Someone like this is just a blip on the radar. 30 days isnāt long enough for him to be all in and then leave you. Js
I have to believe your just trolling for the āmy cancer man left meā thread. click to expandclick to expand
We basically call everyday, and his family knows me, I know, it was all fast in span of 3 months. I met his mom and siblings thru video call and they are kind to me.
And he admitted that I did a lot of firsts for him that he never experienced with his previous LDR girls. Our mutual friends, who are likely know him longer also admits this, that I was the girl that is nice to him and the best gf he ever had so far.
Posted by StardeathHmmmm...you don't find that creepy at all?Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by StardeathPosted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
We are in a vidcall whenever any one of us will sleep. Since we have different timezones. I am hrs ahead of him. click to expand
I gotcha...so you watch each other sleep? click to expand
Yes, like that. And according to him I make it easy for him to fall asleep because he finds it calming, whenever we vidcall and he is about to sleep. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by StardeathSo all of his relationships have been ldr? You don't find that odd at all?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptune
Have you met in person? Ever
Nope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year. click to expand
Ok so never met, together ld for 1 month. Why are you so invested in someone who discarded you and doesnāt even respect you enough to not flirt in front of your face with someone else (ie your chat group or whatevs).
Someone like this is just a blip on the radar. 30 days isnāt long enough for him to be all in and then leave you. Js
I have to believe your just trolling for the āmy cancer man left meā thread. click to expand
We were like in non-official relationship for like 2 months, before we decided to make it official and exclusive. I was not trolling nor anything, I just want some insights or anything. I am sorry if you thought it the way like that.
We basically call everyday, and his family knows me, I know, it was all fast in span of 3 months. I met his mom and siblings thru video call and they are kind to me.
And he admitted that I did a lot of firsts for him that he never experienced with his previous LDR girls. Our mutual friends, who are likely know him longer also admits this, that I was the girl that is nice to him and the best gf he ever had so far. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LostinmyMind11He had some IRL too before, in which he said he was abused.Posted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptune
Have you met in person? Ever
Nope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year. click to expand
Ok so never met, together ld for 1 month. Why are you so invested in someone who discarded you and doesnāt even respect you enough to not flirt in front of your face with someone else (ie your chat group or whatevs).
Someone like this is just a blip on the radar. 30 days isnāt long enough for him to be all in and then leave you. Js
I have to believe your just trolling for the āmy cancer man left meā thread. click to expand
We were like in non-official relationship for like 2 months, before we decided to make it official and exclusive. I was not trolling nor anything, I just want some insights or anything. I am sorry if you thought it the way like that.
We basically call everyday, and his family knows me, I know, it was all fast in span of 3 months. I met his mom and siblings thru video call and they are kind to me.
And he admitted that I did a lot of firsts for him that he never experienced with his previous LDR girls. Our mutual friends, who are likely know him longer also admits this, that I was the girl that is nice to him and the best gf he ever had so far. click to expand
So all of his relationships have been ldr? You don't find that odd at all? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by The_Mad_H8RPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by The_Mad_H8RPosted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
I was like damn! I want whatever phone she has... the picture must be amazing... click to expand
I was thinking she knew of some new way to have phone sex. I'm like damn.. why don't I know about this and how do I jump on board?! Lol
click to expand
I was thinking that new iPhone must be the bomb
I'm on limited data... and I'm cheap... probably couldn't get past foreplay. click to expandclick to expand
LOLOL
I am not against people meeting online.
However, you sounds VERY young and naive. It will pass, and you wont care after awhile. And for your sake, I would find new gaming friends to associate with. You being around that and him doing that, is unhealthy. Last, i promise you'll be fine.
However, you sounds VERY young and naive. It will pass, and you wont care after awhile. And for your sake, I would find new gaming friends to associate with. You being around that and him doing that, is unhealthy. Last, i promise you'll be fine.
I am sorry about the sleeping part thing and the phone.
But, I am not in a healthy emotional state to take your jokes. I am sorry.
But, I am not in a healthy emotional state to take your jokes. I am sorry.
Posted by The_Mad_H8RNow you're starting to sound like a Virgo. Guess that test was correct šPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by The_Mad_H8RPosted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
I was like damn! I want whatever phone she has... the picture must be amazing... click to expand
I was thinking she knew of some new way to have phone sex. I'm like damn.. why don't I know about this and how do I jump on board?! Lol
click to expand
I was thinking that new iPhone must be the bomb
I'm on limited data... and I'm cheap... probably couldn't get past foreplay. click to expandclick to expand
Honestly it made me think of the movie... Demolition Man. I thought maybe she was from the future...I'm disappointed!
Posted by Stardeath
He said I am toxic, manipulative, possessive, guilt tripper, and double-standarder. He said it is too much for him. Because we had frequent arguments lately before the breakup. The toxic part, I've mentioned it to him that I have the capacity to be toxic once I let someone in my system and be my partner. He was saying there that I was never toxic and that I am just needy.
at first he said he'll give a chance for us, but he took it down. and said he will just break up with me, because according to him I won't ever change and nothing will change.
A week before him breaking up, i asked for some space so I can fix myself, because I wanna be better for him. Then he posted about something like the people who are going away instead of staying to fight are the ones that will leave you easily. so i didn't continue with what I was planning, plus he is saying that I am leaving him, where in fact not, i just want some space to be better and understand him better, since he has ADHD. He was saying then that I am breaking up and such. So i stopped my plan, and just pamper him.
Our relationship was roughly 3 months, including the 1 month of exclusively dating. It was a LDR.
well that went from 0 to 100 real quick, didn't it?? Oh boy, sorry, I'm giggly this morning.
Sounds like he just finds you to be too much too soon. That's why I've never understood how people think relationships that start off as ldr will go anywhere. How can you be in a relationship with someone you've never met in person, let alone making longterm plans with them? Same thing I said to the Witty Gem earlier, get to know the other person close-up for about a year before getting really serious.
Posted by nikkistarThank you.
I am not against people meeting online.
However, you sounds VERY young and naive. It will pass, and you wont care after awhile. And for your sake, I would find new gaming friends to associate with. You being around that and him doing that, is unhealthy. Last, i promise you'll be fine.
Oh wait, most of his past relationships have been ldr??
Sounds like a predator to me or at least a creep with a photo/vid fetish or simply an overgrown manchild who can't handle behaving like a proper adult.
In any scenario, you're better off without him.
Sounds like a predator to me or at least a creep with a photo/vid fetish or simply an overgrown manchild who can't handle behaving like a proper adult.
In any scenario, you're better off without him.
Posted by Diannawe were never in a groupcall, but there were 2 groupchats we are both member in, hosted by this mutual friend who is he calling to like everyday now.
Oh Lord! There is so much to comment on. Everyone summed it up already.
LDR
Never met
Sleep call? That one gives me the heebie jeebies
Group call? Have you met the other people on the call?
Has he asked for money? Has he mentioned why he doesn't have real life relationships?
I can't imagine a fellow scorpio even going for this kind of setup.
Don't give him a second thought. Find a man without so many emotional problems.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowafaik, the last 4 including me were LDRs.
Oh wait, most of his past relationships have been ldr??
Sounds like a predator to me or at least a creep with a photo/vid fetish or simply an overgrown manchild who can't handle behaving like a proper adult.
In any scenario, you're better off without him.
How old are you OP?
Posted by StardeathSo far doesnāt mean much seeing as how it only lasted 30 days.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptune
Have you met in person? Ever
Nope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year. click to expand
Ok so never met, together ld for 1 month. Why are you so invested in someone who discarded you and doesnāt even respect you enough to not flirt in front of your face with someone else (ie your chat group or whatevs).
Someone like this is just a blip on the radar. 30 days isnāt long enough for him to be all in and then leave you. Js
I have to believe your just trolling for the āmy cancer man left meā thread. click to expand
We were like in non-official relationship for like 2 months, before we decided to make it official and exclusive. I was not trolling nor anything, I just want some insights or anything. I am sorry if you thought it the way like that.
We basically call everyday, and his family knows me, I know, it was all fast in span of 3 months. I met his mom and siblings thru video call and they are kind to me.
And he admitted that I did a lot of firsts for him that he never experienced with his previous LDR girls. Our mutual friends, who are likely know him longer also admits this, that I was the girl that is nice to him and the best gf he ever had so far. click to expandclick to expand
No such thing as a non-official relationship. The dating/talking phase is the dating/talking phase. You canāt add it on to make yourself feel better about the length.
Whatever his friends said or how nice his family is doesnāt really matter when heās the one pushing you away and being disrespectful af and dismissive of you by flirting and actively pursuing someone in front of you.
Glad you got an ego rush hearing from his friends that your the best ld gf heās ever had. But heās not holding up his end. Not winning the best bf crown anytime soon.
Posted by LadyNeptuneThank you for your insights, I was just pretty hurt because it is my first LDR, and no exes I had before said some degrading words to me. during or after breakupPosted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by StardeathPosted by LadyNeptune
Have you met in person? Ever
Nope. But we had a plan that he will visit me this November. or in the early quarter of the year next year. click to expand
Ok so never met, together ld for 1 month. Why are you so invested in someone who discarded you and doesnāt even respect you enough to not flirt in front of your face with someone else (ie your chat group or whatevs).
Someone like this is just a blip on the radar. 30 days isnāt long enough for him to be all in and then leave you. Js
I have to believe your just trolling for the āmy cancer man left meā thread. click to expand
We were like in non-official relationship for like 2 months, before we decided to make it official and exclusive. I was not trolling nor anything, I just want some insights or anything. I am sorry if you thought it the way like that.
We basically call everyday, and his family knows me, I know, it was all fast in span of 3 months. I met his mom and siblings thru video call and they are kind to me.
And he admitted that I did a lot of firsts for him that he never experienced with his previous LDR girls. Our mutual friends, who are likely know him longer also admits this, that I was the girl that is nice to him and the best gf he ever had so far. click to expand
So far doesnāt mean much seeing as how it only lasted 30 days.
No such thing as a non-official relationship. The dating/talking phase is the dating/talking phase. You canāt add it on to make yourself feel better about the length.
Whatever his friends said or how nice his family is doesnāt really matter when heās the one pushing you away and being disrespectful af and dismissive of you by flirting and actively pursuing someone in front of you.
Glad you got an ego rush hearing from his friends that your the best ld gf heās ever had. But heās not holding up his end. Not winning the best bf crown anytime soon. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by nikkistar23, he is turning 19 this june.
How old are you OP?
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever.
Posted by StardeathThis may come off rude.Posted by nikkistar
How old are you OP?
23, he is turning 19 this june.
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever. click to expandclick to expand
But are you socially awkward? Is this what you feel is your first relationship? I ask this because my normal response usually lacks empathy and is harsh. However based on your responses, and because I have friends in the gaming world, I recognize that people that are less socially adept, tend to play games as the anonymity of it allows those that dont have amazing interpersonal relationships in real life, an Avenue to be "free".
I get the vibe off you.
Posted by nikkistarI can be. But I am a homebased worker, so most of the times I am just at home and not going out, and just posting on an online community about some art things.Posted by StardeathPosted by nikkistar
How old are you OP?
23, he is turning 19 this june.
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever. click to expand
This may come off rude.
But are you socially awkward? Is this what you feel is your first relationship? I ask this because my normal response usually lacks empathy and is harsh. However based on your responses, and because I have friends in the gaming world, I recognize that people that are less socially adept, tend to play games as the anonymity of it allows those that dont have amazing interpersonal relationships in real life, an Avenue to be "free".
I get the vibe off you. click to expandclick to expand
It is my first long-distance relationship, not really my first relationship. I've had relationships in real life before him.
Posted by The_Mad_H8RHahaha...great minds šPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by The_Mad_H8RPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by The_Mad_H8RPosted by LostinmyMind11
How do you sleep together in a call? Asking for a friend...
I was like damn! I want whatever phone she has... the picture must be amazing... click to expand
I was thinking she knew of some new way to have phone sex. I'm like damn.. why don't I know about this and how do I jump on board?! Lol
click to expand
I was thinking that new iPhone must be the bomb
I'm on limited data... and I'm cheap... probably couldn't get past foreplay. click to expand
Now you're starting to sound like a Virgo. Guess that test was correct š
Honestly it made me think of the movie... Demolition Man. I thought maybe she was from the future...I'm disappointed! click to expand
I think you might be right about that test.. I actually thought of that same movie. Lol..
Sidenote: am I the only one who wants to see a demonstration of how the 3 seashells actually work? I have my theories..
Sorry OP. Just be glad you got over Cancer. And Im pretty sure "double-standarder" is not a word. So, you probably dodged a bullet. click to expandclick to expand
Nope...def not the only one re the 3 seashells. I want a demonstration as well. Lol
Posted by StardeathSo you aren't what people term as a social butterfly normally, correct?Posted by nikkistarPosted by StardeathPosted by nikkistar
How old are you OP?
23, he is turning 19 this june.
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever. click to expand
This may come off rude.
But are you socially awkward? Is this what you feel is your first relationship? I ask this because my normal response usually lacks empathy and is harsh. However based on your responses, and because I have friends in the gaming world, I recognize that people that are less socially adept, tend to play games as the anonymity of it allows those that dont have amazing interpersonal relationships in real life, an Avenue to be "free".
I get the vibe off you. click to expand
I can be. But I am a homebased worker, so most of the times I am just at home and not going out, and just posting on an online community about some art things.
It is my first long-distance relationship, not really my first relationship. I've had relationships in real life before him. click to expandclick to expand
I am just trying to gauge you as a person. Because dxp will each you alive if you allow it to. And sometimes, I wish more people could read the emotions behind the words, not just the words.
Posted by nikkistarI have actually a group of friends that I meet weekly. Just that, because of my work, I have less social interactions. I am just working at home.Posted by StardeathPosted by nikkistarPosted by StardeathPosted by nikkistar
How old are you OP?
23, he is turning 19 this june.
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever. click to expand
This may come off rude.
But are you socially awkward? Is this what you feel is your first relationship? I ask this because my normal response usually lacks empathy and is harsh. However based on your responses, and because I have friends in the gaming world, I recognize that people that are less socially adept, tend to play games as the anonymity of it allows those that dont have amazing interpersonal relationships in real life, an Avenue to be "free".
I get the vibe off you. click to expand
I can be. But I am a homebased worker, so most of the times I am just at home and not going out, and just posting on an online community about some art things.
It is my first long-distance relationship, not really my first relationship. I've had relationships in real life before him. click to expand
So you aren't what people term as a social butterfly normally, correct?
I am just trying to gauge you as a person. Because dxp will each you alive if you allow it to. And sometimes, I wish more people could read the emotions behind the words, not just the words. click to expandclick to expand
However, he, he just stays at home, playing his computer games. Sometimes his bestfriend comes over since they are neighbors. So more likely he is the one who is just confined in the house.
Let's be real here...yes cancer guys will attack you with their claws but it's usually for a reason. Were you being the things he was accusing you of OP?
Posted by StardeathThen you aren't a social butterfly. I'm not calling you a recluse. Nor am I stating it is your preference. But life at this moment, isnt conducive to a very active social life. Most people your age are not at home. Choice or not, gaming is often times the only way some people get the social interaction on a daily basis.Posted by nikkistarPosted by StardeathPosted by nikkistarPosted by StardeathPosted by nikkistar
How old are you OP?
23, he is turning 19 this june.
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever. click to expand
This may come off rude.
But are you socially awkward? Is this what you feel is your first relationship? I ask this because my normal response usually lacks empathy and is harsh. However based on your responses, and because I have friends in the gaming world, I recognize that people that are less socially adept, tend to play games as the anonymity of it allows those that dont have amazing interpersonal relationships in real life, an Avenue to be "free".
I get the vibe off you. click to expand
I can be. But I am a homebased worker, so most of the times I am just at home and not going out, and just posting on an online community about some art things.
It is my first long-distance relationship, not really my first relationship. I've had relationships in real life before him. click to expand
So you aren't what people term as a social butterfly normally, correct?
I am just trying to gauge you as a person. Because dxp will each you alive if you allow it to. And sometimes, I wish more people could read the emotions behind the words, not just the words. click to expand
I have actually a group of friends that I meet weekly. Just that, because of my work, I have less social interactions. I am just working at home.
However, he, he just stays at home, playing his computer games. Sometimes his bestfriend comes over since they are neighbors. So more likely he is the one who is just confined in the house. click to expandclick to expand
And quite honestly, he is still 18. All he cares about is his friend, gaming, and if he has internet connection works. And you feel emotional intensity probably because you've been around him all day for hours on discord ir another voice chat software, so it feels "more".
Posted by nikkistarI understand.Posted by StardeathPosted by nikkistarPosted by StardeathPosted by nikkistarPosted by StardeathPosted by nikkistar
How old are you OP?
23, he is turning 19 this june.
It was my first LDR so, Idk how to deal or whatever. click to expand
This may come off rude.
But are you socially awkward? Is this what you feel is your first relationship? I ask this because my normal response usually lacks empathy and is harsh. However based on your responses, and because I have friends in the gaming world, I recognize that people that are less socially adept, tend to play games as the anonymity of it allows those that dont have amazing interpersonal relationships in real life, an Avenue to be "free".
I get the vibe off you. click to expand
I can be. But I am a homebased worker, so most of the times I am just at home and not going out, and just posting on an online community about some art things.
It is my first long-distance relationship, not really my first relationship. I've had relationships in real life before him. click to expand
So you aren't what people term as a social butterfly normally, correct?
I am just trying to gauge you as a person. Because dxp will each you alive if you allow it to. And sometimes, I wish more people could read the emotions behind the words, not just the words. click to expand
I have actually a group of friends that I meet weekly. Just that, because of my work, I have less social interactions. I am just working at home.
However, he, he just stays at home, playing his computer games. Sometimes his bestfriend comes over since they are neighbors. So more likely he is the one who is just confined in the house. click to expand
Then you aren't a social butterfly. I'm not calling you a recluse. Nor am I stating it is your preference. But life at this moment, isnt conducive to a very active social life. Most people your age are not at home. Choice or not, gaming is often times the only way some people get the social interaction on a daily basis.
And quite honestly, he is still 18. All he cares about is his friend, gaming, and if he has internet connection works. And you feel emotional intensity probably because you've been around him all day for hours on discord ir another voice chat software, so it feels "more". click to expandclick to expand
I actually opened that with him, because before we had arguments about some things. And his reason is he is easily distracted, with his games and other things, which is according to him, the distractions are part of his ADHD. he even said I am not understanding him.
Posted by NelsonSacramentoi was actually felt bad then because I am having these thoughts about them. but then he confirms, based on what he says on the groupchat we have that they are indeed calling. and frequently. I felt bad that I am judging their closeness. But it just felt off for me, because we just broke up. and they call frequently? And to think that this girl also knows that I am pretty hurt by the breakup.Posted by StardeathHe doesn't respect you or even cared much for you while he being an atention just like me, put that in your mind and move forward. click to expand
And now I feel like, jealous? Because he is calling with one of our mutual friend, on a daily basis, and they sleep together in a call. I guess. Just like we used to do.
And he keeps on telling in a groupchat were we are both members how she (mutual friend) is being cute in the call, that he admires her (posting on public posts of her), and the " I love you so much".
Is it possible there is something going on with them? considering we just broke up for less than 2 weeks, and according to him, when we were still together, this mutual friend of ours is his "little sister".
I am a scorpio, btw.click to expand
Posted by Diannathanks. what made you say so?Posted by StardeathYou're too good for his nonsense. click to expandPosted by Dianna
Oh Lord! There is so much to comment on. Everyone summed it up already.
LDR
Never met
Sleep call? That one gives me the heebie jeebies
Group call? Have you met the other people on the call?
Has he asked for money? Has he mentioned why he doesn't have real life relationships?
I can't imagine a fellow scorpio even going for this kind of setup.
Don't give him a second thought. Find a man without so many emotional problems.
we were never in a groupcall, but there were 2 groupchats we are both member in, hosted by this mutual friend who is he calling to like everyday now. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by DiannaWhen we were still together, he is actively looking for work.Posted by StardeathYou and he just broke up but he is in the group chat, that you are a part of, talking about phone sleeping with another girl. This shows his immaturity. There is a reason why his relationships are all over chat. At 18, he may be not be ready to have a real life connection. I guess it depends on how he was raised. Some 18 year olds are fighting wars or working 40 hours a week while others are still making mommy clean their rooms and cut their steak.Posted by DiannaPosted by StardeathPosted by Dianna
Oh Lord! There is so much to comment on. Everyone summed it up already.
LDR
Never met
Sleep call? That one gives me the heebie jeebies
Group call? Have you met the other people on the call?
Has he asked for money? Has he mentioned why he doesn't have real life relationships?
I can't imagine a fellow scorpio even going for this kind of setup.
Don't give him a second thought. Find a man without so many emotional problems.
we were never in a groupcall, but there were 2 groupchats we are both member in, hosted by this mutual friend who is he calling to like everyday now. click to expand
You're too good for his nonsense. click to expand
thanks. what made you say so? click to expand
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And I remembered I told him that I even let us call even if it is my work hours and I am in duty ( I am a homebased worker), and he said that I make it a big deal and sound like calling while working is a burden.
When I just wanna show him my adjustments on my end.
TBH, you need to take care of yourself and as hard as it might be to do, you need to remove yourself from that chat, at least until you aren't in a vulnerable state. its not healthy for you right now. You both are young and once you get older and look back on this, you will see it's just a drop in the bucket. i know it doesn't feel like that right now and you think that the hurt wont stop, but it will.
Ask yourself this, if the things he said is true, and you even mentioned that you agreed and took a break to work on them to be better, take this time to do that. I do think perhaps you are allowing yourself to be painted to match his words and that isn't necessarily the truth, but it's easier to think all those bad things about yourself right now. The group chat thing with the other girl and broadcasting it imo is a dick move. But you can't control what he does or doesn't do, but you can build some boundaries and take care of you.
I myself was in the gamer world and know allll about the LDR folks can get enmeshed in and you do feel like you really get to know other people, but in realty until you are face to face, you really don't. Last thing i suggest, really take a honest look at everyone's behavior, is it the best you that you can be? if the answer is no, then you need to surround yourself with people that help you be the best you that you are, not bring out those bad parts.
Ask yourself this, if the things he said is true, and you even mentioned that you agreed and took a break to work on them to be better, take this time to do that. I do think perhaps you are allowing yourself to be painted to match his words and that isn't necessarily the truth, but it's easier to think all those bad things about yourself right now. The group chat thing with the other girl and broadcasting it imo is a dick move. But you can't control what he does or doesn't do, but you can build some boundaries and take care of you.
I myself was in the gamer world and know allll about the LDR folks can get enmeshed in and you do feel like you really get to know other people, but in realty until you are face to face, you really don't. Last thing i suggest, really take a honest look at everyone's behavior, is it the best you that you can be? if the answer is no, then you need to surround yourself with people that help you be the best you that you are, not bring out those bad parts.
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TBH, you need to take care of yourself and as hard as it might be to do, you need to remove yourself from that chat, at least until you aren't in a vulnerable state. its not healthy for you right now. You both are young and once you get older and look back on this, you will see it's just a drop in the bucket. i know it doesn't feel like that right now and you think that the hurt wont stop, but it will.
Ask yourself this, if the things he said is true, and you even mentioned that you agreed and took a break to work on them to be better, take this time to do that. I do think perhaps you are allowing yourself to be painted to match his words and that isn't necessarily the truth, but it's easier to think all those bad things about yourself right now. The group chat thing with the other girl and broadcasting it imo is a dick move. But you can't control what he does or doesn't do, but you can build some boundaries and take care of you.
I myself was in the gamer world and know allll about the LDR folks can get enmeshed in and you do feel like you really get to know other people, but in realty until you are face to face, you really don't. Last thing i suggest, really take a honest look at everyone's behavior, is it the best you that you can be? if the answer is no, then you need to surround yourself with people that help you be the best you that you are, not bring out those bad parts.
he doesn't actually liked the part where i asked for a space then, and he said i am leaving him so i didn't continue it.
and tbh, the girl knows how much i am in pain. i actually felt bad because I feel like , I am judging their closeness. i know, she is like a sister too him, but, doesn't it seem off to call frequent? and after the breakup?
he doesn't even interact with me in the chat, he talks to me as if he doesn't know me
Posted by LadyNeptuneThe guy is probably a catfish.Posted by Stardeath
And now I feel like, jealous? Because he is calling with one of our mutual friend, on a daily basis, and they sleep together in a call. I guess. Just like we used to do.
And he keeps on telling in a groupchat were we are both members how she (mutual friend) is being cute in the call
So you had phone sex with him. Cringe.
How many nudes did you send?
And itās common knowledge within the group that heās phone fucking her too? Double cringe.
This is prolly his m.o. Gets naive gullible women to think they have something āspecialā and then stockpile the hard drive with those nudes and home vids. Super skeevy vibes all over this guy. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by Ram416I don't know. But I think he isn't? He said he had an emotional meltdown and was depressed because of the breakup. Then days later he is in call with her frequently now.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Stardeath
And now I feel like, jealous? Because he is calling with one of our mutual friend, on a daily basis, and they sleep together in a call. I guess. Just like we used to do.
And he keeps on telling in a groupchat were we are both members how she (mutual friend) is being cute in the call
So you had phone sex with him. Cringe.
How many nudes did you send?
And itās common knowledge within the group that heās phone treetrunking her too? Double cringe.
This is prolly his m.o. Gets naive gullible women to think they have something āspecialā and then stockpile the hard drive with those nudes and home vids. Super skeevy vibes all over this guy. click to expand
The guy is probably a catfish. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by StardeathAnd that didn't set off alarm bells in your head? Yikes.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
Oh wait, most of his past relationships have been ldr??
Sounds like a predator to me or at least a creep with a photo/vid fetish or simply an overgrown manchild who can't handle behaving like a proper adult.
In any scenario, you're better off without him.
afaik, the last 4 including me were LDRs.click to expand
Oh you said he's 19. Same age as my boyfriend when we got together. I was 32 then. Can't really use him as an example, he's far more mature than your guy.
Your guy is more or less still a kid in pretty much every way. He probably thought you were coming on too strong, and you cramped his style . He obviously wants to keep things breezy and is not into commitment.
He's just too young.
Posted by OneKnightThanks for this.
Don't feel bad. There is no difference if you meet Online or in Real World. If you're social, or homebody. Award or not. If 2 people like each other EQUALLY, no barrier will stand in the way.
When you meet someone that matches you perfectly you will just know it. There won't be no reason to come on DXP and ask questions. It will just naturally happen.
Every time you leave someone or someone leaves you it was for better, even though it does not feel like that now.
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