Am I Handling This The Right Way? (Page 2)

This is why our good men become assholes.

These fucking cunts ruin them. They just play with their heads to the point that men believe that this how to treat a female.

it's fucking disgusting that these types of females exist.

Posted by LDM90

Posted by LadyNeptune
The above being said... fwb is very rarely successful, imo, unless the two people involved were platonic friends prior.

It's inevitable that one person in the equation becomes more emotionally envolved. If that person isn't you, then the humane thing is to walk away.

Very true. Thank you. I just didn't think he had any feelings, but I'll explicitly tell him what it is that I want if he does indeed have feelings.

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I've caught up on this thread and if he's taking you on a romantic date, walking you to your car etc these are not the actions of a man who just wants sex but those of a man who is wooing you.

You ALREADY slept with him. He doesn't have to put any extra effort in to get the pussy. And yet he is. This tells me he is looking at you as gf material.

I get that you are young and haven't been in this situation before but act in a way that you can live with. Treat him how you would want to be treated in his shoes.

Why do you only want a fwb situation from him? I'm curious...

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by LDM90

Posted by LadyNeptune
The above being said... fwb is very rarely successful, imo, unless the two people involved were platonic friends prior.

It's inevitable that one person in the equation becomes more emotionally envolved. If that person isn't you, then the humane thing is to walk away.

Very true. Thank you. I just didn't think he had any feelings, but I'll explicitly tell him what it is that I want if he does indeed have feelings.

I've caught up on this thread and if he's taking you on a romantic date, walking you to your car etc these are not the actions of a man who just wants sex but those of a man who is wooing you.

You ALREADY slept with him. He doesn't have to put any extra effort in to get the pussy. And yet he is. This tells me he is looking at you as gf material.

I get that you are young and haven't been in this situation before but act in a way that you can live with. Treat him how you would want to be treated in his shoes.

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I just figured that after we slept together he was just trying to be nice lol. As far as the date I did find it odd that he was trying put in effort with the date for a girl he knew wanted to have sex, so I guess you're right.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do you only want a fwb situation from him? I'm curious...

I just got out of a 6 year long relationship not too long ago and I'm just not ready for anything serious.

Posted by LDM90

Posted by LadyNeptune
Why do you only want a fwb situation from him? I'm curious...

I just got out of a 6 year long relationship not too long ago and I'm just not ready for anything serious.

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Which is perfectly reasonable. Now communicate that 👆👆👆 to him.

@P-Angel

"Just because YOU cannot handle how I communicate is not my problem, and I'm not going to change, because you don't like it.
i can handle it, just said you could be nicer, nothing more

"You try insult me, Flo tries to insult me ... when all along, it's YOU who cannot handle butter and needs to realize it."
How exactly did I try to insult you? By saying you could be nicer?
the funniest thing is i agreed with your opinion about OP, but nwm

my dear lady, you are old enough to be my mother, so i respect you and am nice to you, that is what my parents have taught me
so now i will retreat and will not argue with you anymore...you say i'm ignorant, i say i am sorry you are such an angry person
wish you all the best

Posted by hera

i can handle it, just said you could be nicer, nothing more

well good, I'm glad you can handle it, just saying that you could use more common sense, you don't have to if you don't want to, but, you look foolish, so you could use a little more common sense.

Posted by hera

How exactly did I try to insult you? By saying you could be nicer?

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that's correct. that is what you tried to do. you became the very person you are protesting against. which makes you a hypocrite. You telling me I could be nicer is backwards insult to imply that I'm not satisfactory according to your standards.

you failed at insulting me, I might add .. because you proved to be rather dumb

I am as nice as I want to be. Are you as aware as you want to be? from where I observe you look ignorant.

Again .... it's not my problem that you cannot handle that people aren't measuring up to your level on the nice scale. and I dont' really give a fuck.

If you truly want help, then you'll look at the message being brought to .... and stop your emotionally reacting to the finger who's pointing you there.

Seriously ... how stupid does a person really want to be?

@P-Angel
why do you have the need to insult others?

Posted by LadyNeptune
As long as you verbally set your expectations and boundaries from the beginning and make your intentions known your in the clear. If he catches feeling, wants a relationship, etc, that is on him.

He can't claim you led him on if you were upfront from the start.

I just gotta say, after catching up on this thread I really adore your approach and posting style- it's lovely and a pleasure to read...

@hera, why are you so condenscending?

You apparently have a need to be condenscending, why do you have this need?

Posted by wagtail

Posted by LadyNeptune
As long as you verbally set your expectations and boundaries from the beginning and make your intentions known your in the clear. If he catches feeling, wants a relationship, etc, that is on him.

He can't claim you led him on if you were upfront from the start.

I just gotta say, after catching up on this thread I really adore your approach and posting style- it's lovely and a pleasure to read...

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Today I'm playing good cop to pangel's bad cop
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Posted by P-Angel

You apparently have a need to be condenscending, why do you have this need?

i am sorry i upset you... this is not the place for conversations like this...
have a nice day 🙂

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by hera
@P-Angel
why do you have the need to insult others?

Ummm you're no angel.

You sound pretty arrogant and belittling.

You can't control the way ppl communicate.

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I am far from an angel, but i NEVER insulted anyone here... read the posts, i only said she could say things in a nice way nothing else...

but this isnt not about me, so lets just stick to the original post

Posted by hera

but i NEVER insulted anyone here...

from who's perspective?

oh, that's right ..... your small mind can only acknowledge your own.

Posted by Arielle83
You assumed he just wanted to fuck cuz he waited a week after the first time? Some guys wait so they don't seem so eager when they like a chick.

He took you out and respected you, but you think he just wants your pussy?

You still assume he just wants sex. Your friends tell you otherwise, people here tell you otherwise.

Instead of admitting he wants more than what you want, you get defensive.

When I met a guy and all I wanted was fwb, I stated it upfront and bluntly because I don't believe in wasting ppls time.

You let him take you out, for the boyfriend experience, and you still are degrading him to a fwb status.

Either you're in denial or you want assurance he wants a gf before you announce you just want his dick.

And yes, he might lose respect for you if he thought more of you. This is why you've got to be honest in the beginning.

You wouldn't want a guy you were mad crushing on to treat you like a simple hole, would you?

Not sure if you saw that I said this or not but I figured he just wanted sex after he took a week to reach out, which to me means I just want sex. Also, if he is interested why not just say so?

Posted by P-Angel

This is why our good men become assholes.

These fucking cunts ruin them. They just play with their heads to the point that men believe that this how to treat a female.

it's fucking disgusting that these types of females exist.

JFC. Every post I see from you is littered with foul language, cursing, and just plain malice. I really don't care how old you are, so part your viewing audience you put on a show for is speaking. You sound ignorant with your language, you come across as something that crawled out of the backwoods pile, I could never take your advice seriously, no matter how wise, because your method of communication is poisonous.

You could literally have shrunk your commentary to "You went on a romantic date, had sex, and didn't talk about fwb. Don't assume anything on his part and take personal responsibility for your relationships with others by spelling out what you want by being upfront".

It was completely unnecessary to include all your extraneous shit. You don't do it for your "viewing audience". You do it for you, because for some reason being an internet bully and dressing it up as "being frank" or "being real" to get away with it, makes you feel important. God only knows what it's like for your home life, I can just imagine the particularly private hell it is to be married to you. So don't sit up in here with your affronted attitude about how you are just telling it like it is. You practically have an orgasm everytime you get to type something useful, in the most negative, bitchy, hurtful, cunty way possible.

Posted by LDM90

Also, if he is interested why not just say so?

What a fucking hypocrite ... here you are moaning and pissed because he isn't communicating with you ...

Yet, you won't "just say so" .... what a moron.

You're really this fucking stupid? .... in where you'd attempt to demand, by virtue of attacking his character, that he do what you refuse to do?

You deserve all of this fucking shit you're going through ... the worse probably hasn't even come yet.

You're the type of female who ruins good men ...... I feel sorry for him that he ever met you. You're treating him like dog shit.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by LDM90

Also, if he is interested why not just say so?

What a fucking hypocrite ... here you are moaning and pissed because he isn't communicating with you ...

Yet, you won't "just say so" .... what a moron.

You're really this fucking stupid? .... in where you'd attempt to demand, by virtue of attacking his character, that he do what you refuse to do?

You deserve all of this fucking shit you're going through ... the worse probably hasn't even come yet.

You're the type of female who ruins good men ...... I feel sorry for him that he ever met you. You're treating him like dog shit.

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and here you go again....
incredibly rude.
it's really time for you to go.
how do you report someone on this site?

Posted by LDM90

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by LDM90

Also, if he is interested why not just say so?

What a fucking hypocrite ... here you are moaning and pissed because he isn't communicating with you ...

Yet, you won't "just say so" .... what a moron.

You're really this fucking stupid? .... in where you'd attempt to demand, by virtue of attacking his character, that he do what you refuse to do?

You deserve all of this fucking shit you're going through ... the worse probably hasn't even come yet.

You're the type of female who ruins good men ...... I feel sorry for him that he ever met you. You're treating him like dog shit.

and here you go again....
incredibly rude.
it's really time for you to go.
how do you report someone on this site?

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Reporting is the chicken way out, and would give her a rub and tug to see that she got under your skin. She's just a sad person, and ultimately, not important.

^^ in a nutshell. You can avoid shit like that by being responsible to communicate what you want in every relationship or interaction you have. Saves on drama and dealing with bullshit.